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I made this blog as a 14 yr old who used aggressive positivity as a way to cope with the fact that he hated being aro. But I've since realised that's just another form of denial - it worked, but not in the long term. Real aro acceptance is in realising you're never going to live a life that's acceptable in society. You're just going to have to keep living anyway because that's all you can do

There's something comforting about that I think

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Omegaverse (A/B/O Dynamics) Survey

Hello! My name is Emma Shober, and I am an undergraduate student at DePauw University doing research for my senior thesis in my honors program. 

My chosen topic is the omegaverse (aka A/B/O dynamics). Because of this I am collecting anonymous survey responses about one’s beliefs about the omegaverse. If you follow the link below, it will take you to a Google Forms survey. The beginning of the survey has information about anonymity, who will see your data, how to opt out, and risks (of which there are none).

The survey asks questions about how you believe the omegaverse works—what are the a/b/o rules, essentially. In order to participate in this research you must assert that you are 18 years of age or older and you must have read or written fanfiction. The survey will take 10–20 minutes to complete. You will have the unique opportunity to contribute to the academic understanding of gender and power dynamics in Omegaverse fanfiction. Your data will help me and future researchers understand what the broader community consensus is about the role of certain genders (i.e. alpha, beta, or omega) in Omegaverse fanfiction and why they have come to take on these specific meanings and connotations.

Additionally, if at the end of this you find that you enjoyed partaking in my research and you know others who might as well, please feel free to circulate this post to them! The more the merrier! 

For any questions about this survey regarding anonymity, the data collection process, who will see your data, or anything else, please contact me by sending me an email or a direct message on Tumblr. 

Emma Shober

Email: emmashober_2026@depauw.edu

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hot take that shouldn’t be hot:

asexual/aromantic/aspec people who are also cis and straight should be welcomed and accepted in the queer community

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For me I keep the label because if I were to ever break up with my bf I wouldn’t just be able to get in another relationship. I’d have to wait until I developed another strong emotional bond with someone and even then that’s not a guarantee I’ll develop romantic or sexual feelings for that person. Some people are just friends.

What makes you keep your demiromantic identity while in a relationship?

i don't suddenly just become alloromantic once I experience long-term romantic attraction

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exactly how I felt when I got a crush on my now boyfriend.

cant even enjoy having a crush when youre arospec where other people are giggling and twirling their hair youre sitting ruminating over this feeling akin to a fatal infection while trying to work like this

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No, you misunderstood. When I said I can’t feel romantic or sexual attraction I wasn’t complaining, I was bragging.

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I have a much higher libido than my boyfriend and am constantly horny for no good reason other than that he looks good. And I’m demisexual.

Diversity win! The horniest person you know is on the asexual spectrum

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Probably ace somehow and probably aro somehow are valid ace and aro spectrum labels.

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oh btw this is your unfriendly and very aggressive reminder;

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reblog if you think aros and aces (or anyone on the aroace spectrum) are queer

trying to prove something to my mother ^^

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"aros can still date!!": boring. tired. overused. frequently used to make aros look more palatable and acceptable to amatonormative society.

"alloros can still stay single!!": fresh. new. exciting. hearing it could change many people's lives for the better regardless of romantic orientation

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Labels are part of your identity, and human identity is complex and subjective. If you're using labels, don't worry about getting them exactly perfect. What matters is that any labels you use are useful and work for you.

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“I never see your face at the club” well i never see your work under archive of our own m/m slow burn enemies to lovers section either

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Happy aro week everyone! I'm working on some little designs for aromantic stuff this week, so have these! I want to do the aroflux, cupioromantic, demiromantic, frayromantic, and grayromantic flags next

they're free to use, just don't sell them or whatever

flags in order: aromantic flag, aroallo flag, arospec flag, aroace flag!

more flags here!!

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Sometimes asexuality is about experiencing sexuality differently than allosexual people do.

Sometimes aromanticism is about experiencing romance differently than alloromantic people do.

While it's common that allo people may experience something an a-spec person may not, it doesn't mean a-spec people can't still be sexual/romantic in their own way. A-spec people can still embrace romantic/sexual parts of their identity if they want to.

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