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friendly reminder that:

- it’s okay to replace toxic friends with ones that make you happy and to leave the toxic ones behind

- mental illness is not an excuse to be a toxic friend and to hurt you! if someone excuses their behavior with their mental illness they are manipulating you

- it doesn’t make you a hypocrite if you ignored someone’s abusive and toxic behavior for the sake of your friendship and now want out

- it’s okay if you need someone else to realize that a friend is toxic and that what they do is hurting you

- it’s not your fault that they act the way they do, don’t let them make you believe that’s the case

- friends should never make you feel unworthy of their friendship, guilty or like you don’t do enough for them

- friends should never expect you to bend yourself backwards and hurt yourself just to so they feel better

- friends should never mock you, belittle you or make you feel like you are dumb or worthless

- if a friend makes you feel like you have to hide things or to pretend you are someone you’re not just so they won’t judge you, they are not a good friend

kill the notion that you have to destroy yourself just because you love someone and care for them. no one who truly cares for you will ask you to do that. toxic friends make us feel guilty for our own emotions and manipulate us into giving ourselves up for them, real friends would never do that.

it’s okay to replace someone who hurts you! it’s not making you a bad friend or a horrible person for leaving someone who hurts you.

your happiness is more important that other people’s and you don’t owe toxic friends a way to lure you back in with guilt and manipulation after you left them. cut all ties, for your own good.

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“If all a person does is put me down they have no place in my life.”

— Affirmation of the day.

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people treat u like shit for years yet act “shocked” and “hurt” when u decide to cut them out of your life lol

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“When I’m hurt it’s fine, when you’re hurt I’m supposed to care..wtf”

— AMobbinn🔥

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Don’t stick with a friend that treats you like shit. I’ve done it and 10/10 would not recommend

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“Stop keeping people in your life based on your history with them. If they’re toxic, draining or even make you question your morals don’t feel guilty for removing them.”

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I’m Only Just Getting Started ~Nashimoto-P ft. Hatsune Miku

Gif made by me ✌🏼

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i hate that feeling where you’re not necessarily sad but you just feel really empty 

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I’m just not talking to anyone right now. Sorry if that offends anyone but I just need space.

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fuck you, fuck you so much. instead of trying to understand my POV, you twist your bullshit arguments into everything and make it seem like I’m the guilty, ungrateful one who should be kneeling down to you. just leave me alone

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do not guilt trip me do not guilt trip me do not guilt trip me do not guilt trip me

do not guilt trip me

do not guilt trip me

do not guilt trip me

do not guilt trip me

do not guilt trip me

do not guilt trip me

…okay?

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What is guilt tripping?

an extract from a post Guilt Tripping by Sloth

Guilt tripping is, as the name suggests, the act of purposefully causing feelings of guilt in another person with the goal of manipulating them, usually either to control their behaviour or to get something from them.

While in some cases it can be more obvious, it’s often quite subtle, making it hard to recognize when it’s a case of actual guilt tripping or just someone pointing out that you actually did something wrong.

Some guilt tripping tactics include:

pushing the blame. For example, person A is responsible for doing something bad, but convinces B that it’s actually B’s fault, even when factually incorrect.

faux admission of guilt. Person A admits to have been at fault for something, but insists that it was B’s fault if they did that, even when illogical.

acting like a martyr. Person A claims to “always have done so much” for B, and generally acts like B is ungrateful and selfish. Often A’s claims are largely exaggerated.

doing favours selfishly. Similar to the above but more specific, A does a favour to B (often unrequested), then later holds it against B claiming that B is now in debt with them. Often used to coerce the other person into doing something specific that they really don’t want to.

making obligations look like favours. Person A does something for B that’s either required of them to do or a normal social expectation, but acts like they did B an huge incredibly generous favour that B should be thankful for.

“you made me hurt you”. Person A intentionally does something bad to B, but claims it’s actually B’s fault (for example for “provoking” it).

“you made me hurt myself”. Similar to the above, except in this case A will do something bad to themselves, then claim or imply that it’s B’s fault.

feels over facts. Person A does something bad to person B, but when called out on it acts like it’s an attack or even claims that because they feel so bad for being called out now B is the bad guy.

unfair accusations. Person A tries to coerce B into something, claiming that if B really cared about A they would do it.

faux praise. Person A tells person B things to the effect of ‘oh, you’re such a kind person, surely you wouldn’t mind doing this for me right?“, or “I’m sure you don’t have a problem with doing this for me, you’re not that kind of terrible person”.

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The Zodiac Signs When Being Guilt-Tripped

Falls for it: Cancer, Leo, Libra, Pisces 

Feels guilty but is irritated and doesn’t change their mind: Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn

Doesn’t fall for it: Aries, Taurus, Gemini, Sagittarius, Aquarius

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what NOT to say when you’re feeling insecure: i think ive been annoying you lately so im just gonna go…

what TO say when you’re feeling insecure: have i been annoying/upsetting you lately? i don’t want to do that, so please be honest.

the first option forces the other person to take the blame for your sadness and prevents them from voicing their actual feelings. this is an accusation and an assumption, therefore preventing open conversation. the first option is GUILT TRIPPING.

the second option opens up the opportunity for actual communication and honest, non-accusatory conversation. you express that you feel insecure without blaming it on the other person and it lets them TELL you if you’ve been upsetting them or not. it also provides the chance to FIX THE PROBLEM if it turns out something you’ve been doing has been upsetting.

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Do NOT bring up my past to attack me. I may have done some bad things but that is why they are in the past so we can forget them. I am like 99% done with you if you decide to do that.