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Translation:  I can't come up with a reasonable argument against OP's point so I am just going to say something as pointless as "fuck boy mentality."

Pathetic.

Unpopular Opinion #5

I believe men should be able to get a “financial abortion” and have the choice not to be legally or financially responsible of a child.  I also believe there should be a time limit on when a man can make this decision.

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This is why I get incredibly frustrated when some feminists call out "Not all Feminists are like that!" 

The loud obnoxious toxic feminists who give Feminism a bad name...ARE actually having an impression on people and creating an unhealthy environment.  Just claiming that "Not all Feminists are like that!" is ignoring the problem.

A self-centered woman who mocks suicide victims and fights against freedom of speech and fights against safe places for male victims is being idolized by others.  THIS IS A PROBLEM.

OMG you're that awesome lady who protested against the MRAs in Toronto?? I absolutely adore you!!!! Keep doing what you're doing lots of love <3 <3 it's very exciting to be able to contact you!!!

Squeeeee!!!! <3

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If I were a guy, I’d get angrier over how society is teaching me to treat women, not get angry at women for ‘hating all men’.

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What do feminists and Robin Thicke have in common?

They both hate blurred lines.

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...and if a trans person says it?  Or do you speak for all of us?

People who get offended by the word "normal" and automatically associate the word as being negative...need to literally take a deep breath and calm down.

cis people who say being cis is “normal” need to fuck off literally go bathe in some acid or something :-/

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#child support is not ex wife support

Reminder that honest men go to jail for failing to make child support when its so high and they earn so little especially when you get fired or don’t have enough to eat and pay bills.

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Bisexual transman cutting in to say you're a cunt.  There.  Now you can say two horrible transmen have "oppressed" you too.

To followers:  Yeah.  I try to be civil whenever I post to this Tumblr, but I just had to say it.  Sitting here reading this...it is so very tiring to see people like fillinthe------- so desperate to remain the victim.

The problem with promoting “humanism” as opposed to feminism is that

increasing everyones rights doesnt bridge the gap between the difference in rights

increasing the wage for everyone by 3 bucks is great

but it doesnt address the fact that I am STILL paid 22% less than a man

and thats not fucking right

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Basic Formalities

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Joekenneth Museau, Coney Island

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Someone on the ftm tag said they wish they were cis and normal.

No. Just no. I love who i am. I’m a hardcore christian so I do believe God made me who I am and this is no mistake. I am so proud that i am transgender. I think cismen should have to prove they really are men. Like show their fucking dedication. I love my binder. I love my packer. I love my hot pink boxer briefs. Shiiiit. Normal is boring.

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Speaking of coping mechanisms

"I am male even though my body is not typicaly male"

As a statement for trans men, it was originally a coping mechanism to deal with dysphoria. “My body is just untypical" we tell ourselves, “I am a guy with some assembly required" etc. All coping mechanisms we use to manage dysphoria and go on by our days. 

This coping mechanism used by pre-transition transsexuals has now been appropriated as a political statement in ‘queer theory’.

It’s now being used as an excuse to cross out the relevance of biological sex (but it is our sexed bodies that is our problem) and has been used as an excuse for the “you are as long as you identify" spiel. When transsexuals say these things, they did not mean biological sex isn’t real. It was a personal coping mechanism for our dysphoria, something we tell ourselves to deal with our situations. Not something that should have been turned into a political movement.

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What Tumblr Has “Taught" Me About Life

everything is literally rape except for men being raped, abused or assaulted by women; that’s just the patriarchy backfiring or something

people will defend to the death your right to believe that you are a reincarnated demon-lord with fifty-five personalities

whiny delusional shut-ins are just as oppressed as gay people

the world consists solely of America and nameless brown-people  countries that America has invaded at some point

telling people to kill themselves is perfectly fine if they disagree with you

you can pull genders out of your ass if you want

reblogging posts is harassment

people will believe literally anything

if you repeat something fifty times and tack on a passive-aggressive Japanese emote, you’re automatically right

people who spent 8 hours a day blogging are better informed on medical issues than people who went to medical school

words don’t have definitions

everything is oppression

skepticism is evil

science and modern medicine are the Illuminati

nobody’s beliefs should be challenged by anything ever

if somebody tells you they have a tumblr, there’s a 50/50 chance they’re batshit insane

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That feeling when you see people who supposedly fight for equality make statements about "Cis People Logic" when there are many trans people who agree with said "Cis People Logic."

Bisexuals can and do date trans people.  As a bisexual I like "dick and pussy."

As a trans person, I am thankful for any medical advancements in regards to treatments available for my abnormal medical condition that I really wouldn't wish on anyone.  

I am also thankful for any knowledge from scientific studies about brain development and the brain-body map that relates to trans issues.

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OP's logic, "Abnormal is a bad word because some people use it as a bad word and I am offended by it."  Ridiculous.

Abnormal is a descriptor and can be used to describe things such as, 

Complete Heterochromia is an abnormal condition in humans.

Though often harmless,  Heart Arrhythmias are abnormal heart beats.

Dermatosis is the word to describe abnormal conditions of the skin.  This includes a skin manifestation of rheumatoid arthritis.

Down Syndrome is the result of a chromosome abnormality.

Transsexualism is an abnormal medical condition.

The use of abnormal above doesn't make those people inherently bad or terrible people.  Anyone who believes it does, well, that is their issue to deal with.

cis people logic:

‘normal’ is a value neutral word with no negative connotations (if you fall on the other end) and if you hear any it’s YOUR fault. ‘normal’ just means ‘common’. any instance of othering/oppression based on the normal/abnormal set up is coincidental or doesn’t matter.

‘cis’ is a slur

(ahahhahaha fucking cis people)

- Leon

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Nothing aggravates me more than when these people shove in the word "cis" everywhere in a pathetic attempt to say, "We don't means trans men!"  

I bet if I met them in person and accidentally looked at them in the wrong way, they would rush to Tumblr to talk about how some terrible cis white male was objectifying them or something.

Some to think about with all this "hate all men"/"misandry for lyfe" stuff...

When someone points out a marginalized group or category of men (race, sexuality, class, nationality, ethnicity or anyone the speaker is privileged over)… They might say: “Well I don’t mean them." Why don’t you mean them? They don’t count as men to you? That seems to be part of the problem, doesn’t it?

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If I could apologize on science's behalf for it hurting/contradicting your feelings...well, I probably still wouldn't because I do believe you are being irrational.  Science shows us how transsexualism is a medical condition.  There is nothing wrong with it being a medical condition.  That's why we have a variety of treatments available to trans people and why we should continue to work on it to help trans people.  To better and improve on those medical treatments.

But if you want to ignore what science tells us, then there isn't a point for us continuing on that part of the discussion.  

To better understand (though, I don't believe you want to understand.) what I mean that we are all responsible for our own feelings...here is an example.

If a person comes up to me and calls me a variety of gay or trans slurs, I could respond a variety of different ways.  I could get angry.  I could get really angry.  I could also get offended, depressed, or even suicidal for whatever reason.  That's all the result of stories I make inside my head when being called a slur.  "I'm a bad person, I shouldn't live, I am worthless, ect."  When you have a healthy level of self-esteem with the understanding that SELF esteem comes from within, being called a trans slur doesn't do much.

It is why all the name calling you are throwing at me doesn't bother me.  It is why I haven't called you any names except to say you're being irrational.

To come full circle, the word "abnormal," isn't a slur.  It is a descriptor that, yes, some assholes try to use as an insult.  Really, those assholes are being silly because using "abnormal" as a insult is like using "ginger" as an insult.

If you are trans and seeing a therapist, maybe you should speak to him or her about your self-esteem issues you appear to have.

ETA; I didn't suggest that abuse is only physical.  If you have an abusive boyfriend or girlfriend who verbally abuses you, then feeling like shit is because of that boyfriend or girlfriend but YOU have to do the work to repair that damage.

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Transsexualism is a rare medical condition.  (So is intersex!)  It is not of the norm.  It is abnormal.  It's basic language.  If some asshole comes along and tries to use that against a trans person to make that trans person feel bad, then yeah.  They are being an asshole, but what is important to recognize is that having a rare medical condition doesn't make you a bad person.

As I stated originally.

Just because you want to interpret it as "bad," doesn't mean that it is.  Just because you find it offensive, doesn't mean every use of the word abnormal is inherently offensive.  You're allowed to feel like shit or find it offensive, but that is not of my responsibility.  

1.  Transsexualism is an abnormal medical condition.

2.  EVERYONE is responsible for their OWN feelings.  I don't "make" you angry.  You just get angry.  The only time another person makes you feel something is when they are actually abusing you.  

It doesn't matter if some trans people don't see transsexualism as a medical issue.  It doesn't change the fact that it is.  Science goes off of observable facts and not someone's uncontrollable feelings.

Dear Cis People:

Please stop describing yourself as having “accepted" your assigned gender. You just happen by CHANCE to match it, and saying you accept it implies that trans people are all just being fussy. And STOP putting cis in those contemptuous commas! (i.e. “cis") It’s rude. It implies that you’d rather say “normal" and you’re not normal, there is no normal and to imply that there is is the single most othering thing.

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And what about a trans person who brings up science?  Because, ya know, some of us actually have an understanding of biology and think it is silly to be offended by science.

protip: anytime a cis person brings up “science" as a vague source to a trans* person in an argument about gender, they’re automatically wrong