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As an INTJ girl I agree.

Hi :) could you do what the types would do if they saw someone being bullied?

I’ve taken this quite seriously,and I want to stress that this is a general guideline of what I think that typeis most likely to do. I have taken the stance that all the types see bullyingas deeply and fundamentally wrong, and I’m not going to label any type as“probably the bully”. Any type can be bullied, any type can be a bully, anytype can help the victim, any type can walk right on by.

MBTI Types: Responses to Bullying

ENFJ Guy: Will see the bullying happen, walk over to the bulliesand tell them to grow up and stop being immature. Will cause a distraction longenough for the victim to get away; he sees it as his responsibility to look outfor those weaker than himself. He has an emotional reaction to the bullying butoften doesn’t know what to do to help other than directly attack the bulliesand hope the victim quietly slips away.

ENFJ Girl: Sees the bullying occur, identifies strongly with thevictim and sees it as her duty to “do something” about it. Has an emotionalreaction, translates that emotion into force and does whatever it takes to scareaway the bullies. She’s very responsible and often takes the emotionalwell-being of others upon herself; more focused on the victim than the bullies.

ENFP Guy: Quick to pick up on the fact that bullying is occurringand the victim is distressed; may be a bit slower to act upon that realization.Very good at being tactful for the victim’s sake if he does decide tointerfere; can quickly turn on the bullies and make them feel stupid. Maysimply start talking to the victim, leaving no room for the bullies so theyhave to walk away.

ENFP Girl: Probably notices the bullying occur first; veryintuitive and quickly picks up on the victim’s distress. Because she’s so goodat reading people, she may preemptively head off the bullying before it becomesa large issue by calling the victim’s name or doing something to disrupt thebullies’ “piranha pack”. Generally quite tactful in resolving the situation.Follows up with the victim to make sure they’re okay without making themuncomfortable.

ENTP Guy: Sees the bullying occur and decides to give the bulliesthe fight they are looking for. Very confrontational, unafraid to get physical,confident that he will win. He’s good with words and has excellent,well-thought-out insults to get the bullies to back off; will goad them into afight. Doesn’t pay much attention to the victim, completely focused on theinappropriate behavior of the bullies.

ENTP Girl: Sees the bullying occur and gets really mad. Sheinstantly thinks of a bulletproof, bullet-point argument for why the bulliesare being immature, hurtful and causing unnecessary drama. If she decides tointerfere, she may try to engage the bullies in a logical debate. If thebullies don’t reciprocate with logic the ENTP will start putting them down,insulting them, and calling them out for everything they’ve ever done that wasremotely questionable. The ENTP doesn’t pay attention to the victim at all; thevictim will take this as an opportunity to vacate the area.

ENTJ Guy: He’s like a bull in the bully’s face. Unafraid to walkright up to the bullies and tell them to back off. If the bullies won’t backoff, the main bully is going to be hurt…badly. Even if the ENTJ is smaller orweaker, this will not faze them; they make up for it with boundless aggressionand righteous anger. After they have scared/fought the bully off, the ENTJ guywill turn to the victim (assuming the victim hasn’t taken off by now) and askbrusquely, “You ok?” He can’t deal with crying or emotion well, but he willmake sure the victim is “ok” before he leaves.

ENTJ Girl: I’m not gonna lie: I have a hero complex. I will tell thebully to back off. If the bully doesn’t, I have no problem getting in thebully’s face, causing a scene, humiliating him, calling him names, cussing himout, and utilizing the other people around me to get the bully to go away. Inshort, I bully the bully. I don’t plan to get in a physical fight, but I amready for it—I always carry weapons to make up for my size. After the bully isgone, I will stay with the victim for the rest of the day. If it’s at myschool, the victim is my new project and I will literally become the victim’sbodyguard. I actually really care about the victim’s emotional well-being, butI’m unequipped to handle it other than blaming the bully to make the victimfeel better. I am not scared by much. For example, when I was about seven yearsold I saw a man bullying and harassing a woman; I started screaming at him andphysically moving towards him to get him to back off. This drew the attentionof adults in the area, who called the police; my mom grabbed me before I couldget myself killed. At no time do I recall being afraid. Afterwards, I was proudof myself and pleased that the woman was able to escape her abuser and rive off.This fearlessness is typical of the ENTJ.

ESFJ Guy: Sees the bullying occur, and may take the time to stopand tell the bullies to back off. This usually works because the ESFJ isgenerally quite popular. He’s very kind and nurturing at heart, and this maycome out in surprising empathy towards the victim.

ESFJ Girl: This girl is the popular girl. She may not even noticebullies; she may pass kids getting bullied each day and be so wrapped up in herown world that she doesn’t see the distress of others. If she does see a kidgetting bullied and decides to act, she will just walk over and tell thebullies to “Stop it.” Usually her popularity, beauty, and annoyed attitude willbe enough to get the bullies to back down immediately. She is likely backed upby a crowd of others and her boyfriend; the bullies will slink away. After thatshe may or may not pat the victim on the shoulder and make sure they’re “ok”.She usually does not think of the confrontation afterwards, other than to beannoyed at the bullies; however the ESFJ girl can be surprising empathetic andmay feel badly if they do not follow up with the victim to ensure theiremotional well-being.

ESFP Guy: He sees the bullying occur, and tries to get the bulliesto shut up. He is quick to realize that the victim is not happy, and does hisbest to alleviate that; he will generally do anything, from chatting with thevictim to chatting with the bullies, to smooth the waters. Not necessarilyconfrontational, but he can be. He can also just watch, and feel horrible yetdo nothing.

ESFP Girl: She’s a peacemaker. She sees the bullying occur, and ifshe decides to act she places herself in the middle, trying to get both sidesto come to a happy resolution. The ESFP is very empathetic and intuitive to thefeelings of others. Because she’s good at improvising, she may walk up to thebullies without an “attack plan” and not do so well. She’s more focused on thevictim than the bullies, and tries to place their needs above her own.

ESTJ Guy: He has a very strong moral code, and he expects others toabide by it. When someone does something that falls into an area that he hasdefined as “Wrong”—for example, bullying—the ESTJ has no problem whatsoevertaking matters into his own hands and standing up for what he believes isright. The ESTJ is the typical “defender of the helpless” and is not someoneyou want to mess with. He’s very confident and quite willing to tell the bulliesoff. He likes things to run smoothly, and is more focused on “fixing theproblem” than helping the victim.

ESTJ Girl: She has a very strong moral code and is willing and ableto stand up for what she believes is right. The ESTJ is the typical “defender ofthe helpless” and is not someone you want to mess with. She is quite calm whileconfronting the bullies, and equally calm after when she is making sure thevictim is alright. Does her best to make the victim feel safe and secure, andto ensure that her environment is running smoothly.

ESTP Guy: He may disregard rules and social structure, but the ESTPhas his own moral compass that he will stick to no matter what. He’s very bold,probably already gets into fights unrelated to bullying and is very good atfighting. This means that when the ESTP sees someone getting bullied(particularly if the victim is female), his immediate action is to make thebullies back off, stand down, leave the area. If that doesn’t work they’regoing to have a fight on their hands. The ESTP doesn’t spend a lot of timethinking, they just go, and their energy and force can often make the bulliesback down.

ESTP Girl: She sees the bullying occur and doesn’t think for verylong before moving straight to the problem and turning the situation around.She will tell the bullies to get lost, physically remove the victim from thesituation and remain quite calm and furious while doing so.

INFJ Guy: If he sees bullying occur, he will become very emotionalabout it. But he hides that for the most part. He generally will not act,especially if he doesn’t know the victim. He may track down the victimafterwards to gauge if the victim is alright; he may never think about itagain. He will take the bullying as a sign that life is horrible.

INFJ Girl: Will watch the bullying with a heavy heart, thinkingdeeply about what it means for life in general, wondering how we progressed soquickly to this animal state of attacking others. She’s been bullied before andwas very, very scared of those bullies, so she empathizes strongly with thevictim. If she decides to act, it will be in the form of seeking out the victimafter the fact and crying alongside the victim because no one understands andthe world is very unfair.

INFP Guy: There’s a good chance he wouldn’t notice. If he does, hewill generally not act; the longer he watches the sicker to his stomach hebecomes until he has to remove himself from the situation. He’s probably beenbullied before and he has an emotional connection with the victim, but notenough guts to do anything. Afterwards he will hate himself, blame himself, andcall himself a coward.

INFP Girl: Literally does not even notice, she’s so wrapped up inher own head. If she does actually realize what’s going on, she may startcrying right then because she’s very sensitive. Other times she may get to thebathroom or her car before she bursts into tears. The INFP girl just wantseveryone to stop being so mean to each other and get along, and she gets veryupset when the cruel world crashes through her happy fantasy.

INTJ Guy: He sees the bullying occur and gets really annoyed at thebullies. If the victim is clearly in distress he will have no problem goingover, confronting the bullies, insulting them, and getting them out of thevictim’s face. After the problem has been “dealt with”, he will walk with thevictim to their car, friends, next class, or other secure place. Not because hecares, or anything. Oh, no. Nothing like that.

INTJ Girl: She sees the bullying occur and gets a sense ofrighteous indignation. She’s annoyed, she’s pissed, and she’s really fed upwith the stupidity, arrogance and meanness of the bullies. She will likelyconfront the bullies and hit them with a barrage of intelligent insults; afterdestroying the bullies’ egos she will take the victim by the hand and lead themaway, making sure that they are “safe” and “ok” before she leaves.

INTP Guy: If he notices, he will watch with a detached sense ofhorror. Likely will not do anything; he will merely absorb the information andmove along. He may want to act, but he suffers from a great fear of failure; hefears he will do more harm than good. He second-guesses himself andrationalizes his way out of it. He also doesn’t really understand the emotionaltrauma the victim may be suffering.

INTP Girl: The INTP female has likely been bullied, but she doesnot empathize with the victim; although she certainly has emotions, she may notunderstand them or trust them. All her life she’s been the “weird” girl, unequippedto meet the emotional needs of others, never meeting expectations. This cantranslate into an individual who is unfailingly logical, but detached andrather cold. She is likely to pass by.

ISFJ Guy: The ISFJ guy is extremely protective of others. If hiscircle is big enough to include the victim, he will do anything to protect thevictim—even get beat up so the victim doesn’t have to be hurt. He will confrontthe bullies and stand his ground, doing whatever it takes to shelter the victimand get them out of harm’s way. However, if he doesn’t include the victim as someonehe cares about, the ISFJ may just move on and not interfere with the bullies.

ISFJ Girl: Has probably been bullied at some point in her life, andfeels a great empathetic reaction to the victim; however, she doesn’t feel likeshe is equipped to deal with the situation and she moves on. This changes ifthe victim is someone she knows and cares about personally; if this criteria ismet, the ISFJ is not standoffish. She transforms into a lioness, plunging intobattle with a roar and tearing the bullies apart.

ISFP Guy: He’s probably been bullied himself, and feels for theplight of the victim; but he doesn’t really visualize himself going into thesituation and coming out on top. He may feel utterly inadequate to help, butstill feels terrible for not doing anything.

ISFP Girl: She’s very sensitive, has probably been bullied before,and identifies with the victim. However she does her best to avoid conflict andwill likely do nothing. She will probably cry about it later because not onlydid it bring up bad memories, she feels horrible for not helping the victim.She’ll be alternately sad and angry for some time. She’s passive-aggressive andunsure how to handle the harsh realities of bullying.

ISTJ Guy: He has strong morals and feels responsible for thosearound him, so this might make him willing to step up and say “this isn’tright.” The ISTJ tries to make his world safe and stable for those around him.He doesn’t feel connected to the victim if it’s not someone he really knows; ifhe acts, it’s out of a sense of duty than anything else. But too often the ISTJmay just walk right by.

ISTJ Girl: She has a very strong sense of her duty, and this oftenincludes sticking up for those she perceives as weaker than herself. But shecan also be slightly cold or judgmental, making it hard to identify with thevictim as she doesn’t really understand why anyone would take crap. She willinterfere if the bullying escalates to a level beyond what she deems as “justteasing”. But she will certainly hesitate to “make a scene”.

ISTP Guy: He’s the guy off to the side or in the corner who willobserve for a little while until the bullying reaches a certain point. At whichpoint, the ISTP quietly snaps. He walks up to the bullies, calmly and quietlytells them to knock it off and leave. He will stare at them like a mass ofpotential energy until they get uneasy and dissipate. Does not react if theytry to start bullying him instead. If they don’t leave, he will size up hisopponents and then use the element of surprise and a mean punch or two to takethem out. Then he will escort the victim away and return to his corner. If thevictim is a girl, he is 10x more likely to act sooner. If the victim is a guy,he may remain in his corner if the bullying doesn’t get “too bad”.

ISTP Girl: She will hang back, getting quietly angrier, until thebullying reaches a certain point predetermined in her mind. At this point shewill walk over and clearly tell the bullies to go away and leave the victimalone. Her quiet intensity will faze a lot of bullies and they may go awayafter that. If they don’t, she will seriously consider using her pepper sprayor mace. If they try to bully her instead, she will not react; just stare themdown. If the bullies will not leave, the ISTP’s strategy is to distract themlong enough for the victim to walk away. She’s also trying to get the bulliesto permanently transfer their attention to her instead of the victim; herreasoning is “I can ‘take it’ better than the victim can.” And the ISTPgenerally will succeed. She’s more likely to confront the bullies if the victimis younger than her, a fellow girl, or visibly distressed. Less likely tointerfere if the victim is older than her, a guy, or hiding their distress.

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