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Your daily reminder...

You do not need to post about things to care about them. "I see you not reblogging" is guilt-tripping.

You're allowed to curate your own blog. "I don't care if this doesn't fit your blog aesthetic" is guilt-tripping.

You're allowed to skip past posts that distress you. "x amount of people must reblog" is guilt-tripping.

Permission is not needed but for those whom it will make more comfortable; you are allowed to block people who post bullcrap that makes you feel guilty.

This post has no DNI; everyone may reblog regardless of syscourse stance, but reblogs are not required. Spread love.

− Helena, she/her, Emotional Protector from within the Cerberus collective Rylas, he/they, Tulpa and caretaker from within the Cerberus collective

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alternatives for ai to design ocs

hero forge

picrew

the fucking sims 4

your local furry artist

bitmoji

shitty photoshoped collage

DeviantArt bases

zepeto

making edits of your favorite character

searching "dress up game" on the app store

learning how to draw

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Jax costume of shame

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Also consider:

- The one who doesn't eat

- The one who has to try to make food with low blood sugar

What you don't need to worry about if you have a system friend:

Evil murder alter

What you do need to worry about:

The one who stays up too late

The one dealing with that the next morning

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Does anyone else get emotionally attached to characters (and sometimes worlds) from dreams on the regular? Like, we usually have 2~4 very vivid dreams per night (that we can count), and we tend to remember a lot of them. Sometimes there's whole proper narrative with fleshed out characters. Sometimes the dreamer(s) are seeing from the perspective of one or more of these characters. It can be a little difficult to pull from "I am [person] and [person 2] is my best friend."

"I" was Little Fox and "my" best friend and partner (in the hero sense) was Cookie. "I" was this adventurer deer guy and "I" was in denial of having a crush on this adventure kangaroo guy. "I" was apparently young amnesiac Santa Claus and my sleep-deprived co-worker at the movie theater was "my" friend. "I" was [Inferno Wraith] and "I" was [Fresh Snow], enemies to star-crossed lovers.

So, actually, we have a small handful of party members who first showed up in dreams. Gardian Crow literally just woke up here still as himself and just stayed as a party member.

Most of the time, we just kind of collect them in a little box in the brain and maybe fix up the worst of dream nonsense and plot holes and maybe sometimes do a bit of daydreaming about them or even turn them into a proper fully-fledged character. Or we just kinda revisit them sometimes.

These experiences feel significantly meaningful, but most people don't give much merit to dreams. We just don't know what to do about it. What are we supposed to do about it?

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It feel like, for the most part, alterhumanity/nonhumanity has just rounded out to being remarkably mundane. Like, we think about writing about our experiences and all that, but we hardly give it a second thought now that it's no longer a fresh new thing to try to accept and discover about ourselves. It just is. People always seem to discuss and express all of these extreme emotions about it, be it fun or suffering or whatever it may be, but it just kinda feels about on par with basic things like hygiene or something. It just kinda is, and we rarely give it a second thought these days. Sometimes you stink and feel gross and you don't have they time or energy to shower and it sucks, sometimes you have a nice relaxing bath with lavender salt and give yourself that spa treatment, and most of the time it's just a normal shower schedule with normal pros and cons. But, generally speaking, people don't have too much to say about bathing. It just is a part of life.

That's not to say we aren't proud or whatever; we just don't actively think about it most of the time. It's just natural. It's just weird when people get all weird about it. Like, it's not that big of a deal. This is a non-issue. You don't gotta be like that. Maybe being around accepting people, having a cat for a mom, and being isolated contribute to that, but still. It feels like it should be mundane, you know?

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More people should really at least consider otherlinking to be a thing they themselves can do. The community is quiet and the tags tend to be overrun with crossposting, but I think it'd be a lot louder if people actually considered it as a genuine possibility a little more often. 'Linking is usually seen as an afterthought you tack onto the end of a list of alterhuman terms and not usually discussed too much more than that from what we can see. Which is sad because it really can be beneficial and it absolutely has a place in the broader alterhuman community.

You really want to be an animal, or your favourite character, but you know you're not? You can do that--you can just.. become them.

You have a hearttype but it feels kinda weird and it feels like you should have been that thing, but you're not? You could always 'link it if you're dysphoric about not being that thing.

You have something that was--or you thought was--a kintype, but now it's not, and you miss it? Just link it back into yourself.

You think [thing] is really cool and it'd be cool to be one? You can!

You want to incorporate an aesthetic of [thing] into your identity and it'd work best if you just became that thing? That's absolutely a thing you can do.

You think it'd be fun to identify as something other than what your body is? You can make that happen.

Being [thing] would help with something in your life? Go ahead, you can do that.

You can mold your own sense of self an identity however you see fit, and that's really cool. Honestly it comes across as a power move. You get to make your own self, no matter what came before it.

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Some fact checks about plurality

The "Bible of psychiatry" is the DSM. In 1994, the DSM changed the name of Multiple Personality Disorder (MPD) to Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID). This was in response to a moral panic where critics claimed that the condition was fake.

The original and current diagnostic criteria do not require trauma for DID (or MPD) (DSM-III, p. 259; DSM-III-R, p. 272; DSM-5-TR, p. 331).

The international counterpart of the DSM is the ICD-11. Its essential features for DID do not require trauma, either.

Both books say that not all cases of multiple personalities are a disorder or a severe impairment. Psychiatry recognizes that medicalizing them is not always appropriate.

Plurality (or multiplicity) is a community umbrella term for many ways of being more than one person in a body. Psychiatrists who know enough about DID are aware of it. Plurality includes but is not the same as DID.

The community has always included plurals who formed for reasons other than trauma. Dividing the community by excluding non-traumagenic plurals and calling them fake is new. That only started in August 2014 on Tumblr, unheard of elsewhere.

When that started, a trauma-caused DID system created the word "endogenic." This means plurals who formed naturally rather than from trauma. The Lunastus Collective coined it in solidarity with them.

(Similarly, the coiner of another umbrella term, "alterhuman," is a member of a traumagenic OSDD system who supports endogenic plurals. The purpose of that word is for plural systems to unite with other sorts who differ from usual definitions of human individual, valuing what we do and do not have in common, instead of in-fighting about who is more legitimate.)

Community historian LB Lee gives several good reasons why-- as trauma-surviving plurals-- they choose not to call themselves "traumagenic" or divide the community by origins. If I may briefly paraphrase a couple of these: If you see suffering as your whole foundation of who you are, then you have a more difficult time envisioning a better situation. If you want others to respect you, a losing strategy is to put down people who are seen as similar to you.

Neither psychiatry nor the greater community of plurals see trauma history as an important distinction in determining whether someone is plural.

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Yes, your friend will "change" if they come out as a system to you. They seem like they're changing because they're trying to unmask around you and let their alters be themselves and not hide amnesia and other aspects of the disorder as much.

I understand it can be hard to realize your friend isn't exactly how you thought they were, but they're still you're friend. It's likely you've met their other alters, they just didn't say who they were.

Please support you friend, even if it's seemed like they've changed.

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SHOUT OUT TO SYSTEMS WHO CANT OR DONT WANNA MASK!!!

shout out to systems whose alters are too distinct that they are very "obvious" as a system to outsiders

shout out to systems who dont want a singlet sona and want to change their identity with each switch

shout out to alters who want to be their own people and distinct from the "singlet persona" and end up making an entirely new online identity not linked to the host/main account

shout out to alters who are so clearly different and themselves compared to their headmates that to feel alive and real they have to introduce themselves as a system to explain their intense switches!!

this is about us btw dhdjdj <3

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you guys have to recognize where your people pleasing starts hurting others around you

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Something terrifying about the way censorship is just straight up happening right now and they're barely trying to pretend that isn't what it is. The UK rolling out the Online Safety Act which forces anyone accessing 'adult' content (including discord, LGBT+ forums, various resources for drug addicts etc.) to share their face and ID with American third party companies, and refusing to debate a repeal in parliament despite 300,000 signatures on their own website to do so. Something fishy going on with Google docs suddenly deleting/restricting content. Itchio and Steam suddenly deleting 18+ games including both porn games and horror games at the behest of Mastercard.

Like. Truly in the past month the censorship is hitting like a truck and we're all just supposed to be fine with it. Like. It's genuinely making me feel sick.

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people seemingly make out dissociative amnesia out to be like what you'd experience passing out and staying asleep for 9 solid hours but in my experience it's far more like one of those nights where you're really struggling to sleep.

you wake up a few times halfway through the night you wander off to the bathroom before making it back and quickly falling back asleep. you hear some words and you think they're your partner but you might be imagining it. there's a loud banging noise but god knows where it's coming from. someone asks you about classes tomorrow but you don't remember if they really did or if you just imagined it. you go to the bathroom again only to realize once you're there that you never got up out of bed.

you wake up a few hours later and get on with your day. well aware of the time that passed but you're really not sure which bits were dreams or not, and if you don't think about it actively it'll probably fade from your memory before you realize. doesn't mean you don't remember some things or didn't notice the time pass, it's just really really messy

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"I think I'd notice if you were a system, I've never seen you switch or any signs saying you would be one"

Because people don't notice until they look for it. Singlets just assume we're having a weird day. Or we're sick. Or we're tired. Or we got a headache all of a sudden. Even though we're fairly covert from an outsiders perspective IRL, or if we're trying to mask, the people who care can usually tell that something is different.

People who actually know and understand and believe that we're a system will learn. They'll be able to see things change, at least some of the time, even if those signs are so so tiny. If singlets are supportive, they can notice the signs that are there pretty surprisingly quick, down to being able to guess who's fronting for us on occasion.

People who are sceptical from the beginning won't be actually paying attention. People that fakeclaim others tend to be looking for reasons to not believe you. Obviously systems vary in how they present and not every system has to present in a way that's noticeable, which absolutely doesn't make any of them fake. But if you do think your system is noticeable and people are saying you must be faking because they could never tell, then it's very likely they're ignoring the signs in favour of their own agenda. If their mind is closed, their eyes might as well be too. Don't let that break your confidence.

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"[1, 2)" meaning "greater than or equal to 1, and less than 2"

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How it feels to be queer & disabled:

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