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happy pride, my loves!! 🌈

i won't lie: it's a scary, scary time right now, but i think celebrating and being around folks who can and will support you is incredibly vital. take care of yourselves and each other!! nothing is more important than community.

if you're not in a place to celebrate, know that i'm toasting you and wishing you a happy pride as well. this month is for you just as much as it is for those who are out and able to celebrate openly! happy pride to those who are single. happy pride to those still healing. happy pride to those still figuring things out.

and to my fellow lesbians, in particular!! hooray!! it's our time to lez out and be unapologetically you (as long as it's safe to do so)!! i hope you get all the kisses from the pretty girl of your dreams <3

my inbox is always open if you need a listening ear! i love you and i'm sending the best vibes your way :)

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question for the lasses, lads, and theydies

polling the lesbian and women-loving-women communities really quick: how many of you are allergic to pets? bc a large majority of folks talk about wanting to have a pet with their partner and like babe. i fear 1) we need to focus on keeping ourselves alive and 2) i'm allergic. i will sneeze anytime and always

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so i may have lesbianed a little too close to the sun...like in the sense that. there may or may not be more than one date on the horizon......again.

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life update for the lesbians in my Pockit: i've just gotten an undercut <3

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One time I was explaining to my dad how unfair it is that every big city has at least a couple gay bars but there are only like 20ish lesbian bars left in the country and he responded with "That's cause gay men have a good party culture. Lesbians don't have time to party, they're too busy debating the sociological implications of things and studying for postgrad degrees" and as much as I wanted to tell him he was out of line for that, as a lesbian who spends all her free time on Tumblr debating sociological implications and messaging other lesbians in discord servers where everyone has a PhD or masters for some reason I felt like I might not be the best person to make that argument

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i’m being so serious don’t even ask me what i want to pursue in life if an easily flustered, obsessive, sweet, funny beautiful brown-eyed butch isnt an option

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When I was younger, my mom once walked in on me, pointedly sniffed the air, then walked back out the room. Just remembered that. I'd say it gets better but I'm also going to eviscerate now see ya

ANON. that's. that's absolutely WRETCHED, but thank you for sharing and commiserating with me 💀

i fear many of us go through this, but it really never gets better, does it?

mwah thanks for stopping by <3

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never have i been turned off so fast

oh im going to Eviscerate................im at home and i was just. walked in on🤡

talk about having zero privacy

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oh im going to Eviscerate................im at home and i was just. walked in on🤡

talk about having zero privacy

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having an unprecedented never before seen crash out this week

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Smash. Easy question. 💪

anon anon anon you answered so swiftly!! (but thank you that's very kind of you to pop in an actually say smth) mwah bisous x

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Lesbian Dating 101

notes from a butch4femme lesbian currently in the dating trenches...

i went on a date a week ago and while it was long (7.5 hours - in classic lesbian fashion) i immediately had post-yap regret and post-date clarity. let me explain:

this was our first date, and we'd had class together, so i'd figured we'd have at least something to talk about, yeah? so while conversation flowed, i realized afterwards that i spent most of it keeping the conversation going—and mind you, i don't mind and sometimes the dynamic works better this way, but this was giving dry and platonic.

i get that first date nerves exist!! i understand fully that some folks like listening more than talking, but if i'm walking away from a date asking 1) was that actually a date? or 2) did i learn anything about her? then something isn't quite right.

i look back on the date fondly, but i fear she was so nervous that she fell into some dating pitfalls. let's talk about those!! (i'm going to use the pronouns she/her below since i'm using experience with my date who uses those pronouns)

when on a date, AVOID/DON'T:

call her dude, bro, queen, any typically platonic endearments (unless you're ALSO flirting (something that was NOT happening)) don't accidentally friendzone her on the first date!!

forget to talk about yourself! while it's important to listen, don't forget that the other person wants to know you too! remember that dating is that you're learning a stranger, so make sure you do equal parts talking and listening!

pretend to be someone you're not. be open and your most authentic self — to do anything else is a disservice to yourself and to other people!

when on a date, TRY/DO:

if your date flirts, try to flirt back! it's not easy, but the more you try, the easier it gets (also, try to read the room, notice what she's comfortable with! baby steps, casanova!). remember that not everything has to be suggestive, but banter also counts as flirting! if you can gently tease each other, this is a great sign!

you should match each other's freak at some level! try to match their energy (*but don't be someone you're not - reference above!!)

keep an eye open for red and/or beige flags!! this is ESSENTIAL!! if you already see something that bothers you or doesn't quite jive with you, DON'T brush it off. it'll come back to haunt you.

these are just some i can think of off the top of my head currently, but if ya'll have questions and/or would like to read more, do let me know. i have quite a few thoughts on dating, especially now with dating apps in the mix (BOY do i have a lot to say about those). hopefully these help - have fun and be safe out there, folks <3

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rb to give your mutuals a silly little paper valentine card and a red heart shaped lollipop 💖

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your weekly reminder that I'm hot as fuck:

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You guys want to play a game? REBLOG and put in the tags why you follow this person

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There’s not a single hickey on me, this is a disgrace.