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If Janet from The Good Place can wear dresses and have long hair and use she/her pronouns and not be a girl, so can you!

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Nonbinary student corrects teacher who refuses to use correct pronouns in the most brilliant way

Over at tiktok a nonbinary student, Shade,  told their professor why her refusal to use their correct pronouns was completely unacceptable. In an email they wrote:

I’m sorry, I think there was a misunderstanding here.  You seem to think I’m making some kind of request? I was just informing you of my correct name and pronouns so you know how to refer to me.

Intentionally misgendering a student is actively creating a hostile environment and discriminating on the basis of gender identity. That goes against the school’s nondiscrimination statement. I know you wouldn’t want to do that.

I’m sure you understand that I expect to be treated with at least basic levels of respect and human decency in the classroom. I look forward to meeting you in class next week and working with you through the semester. Regards, Shade (they/them)

Shade told local NBC affiliate KPVI-6 that the response to their videos has been “crazy.”

LGBTQ Nation reports that  Shade says that they are fighting so that other non-binary and trans students won’t have to go through the same thing:

“I’m less concerned with what happens between this individual teacher and myself and more concerned with what happens school-wide, because personally, I have support. I’m not somebody who is going to be super broken up about it, but I know that’s not the case for a lot of trans students. In fact, for a lot of trans students, it might be that school is the only place where they could possibly get gendered correctly.”

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hi!! I got my first binder today and I just really wanted to share because I'm just so excited!! my gender euphoria has been through the roof today hgjfklkd;

That's awesome! I'm so happy for you :)

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Hi, uhhhhh how long is it reasonable to have to wait for insurance to ok top surgery?

this is usually dependent on things like your personal insurance company and the surgeon you are looking at, so i dont know. if you are worried or want to check i would recommend calling your insurance company

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Could I get a pronoun validation? My name is Oliver, but I also go by Aura. My pronouns are he/him, it/its, and fae/faer. I'd like to also try out ey/em and maybe xe/xhr?

Oliver is a cool person. It likes to hang out with faer friends, even though ey can’t right now. Aura is hoping to get to see xhr friends soon, so xe can try out these new pronouns

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You can be nonbinary and grow old. 

You can be elderly and come out as nonbinary. 

There is no special age limit on the lives of nonbinary people. 

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so who wants some binders?? i have four of various sizes and i also have some transtape if someone wants that youd have to give me an address to ship it to obviously dm me which one u want pics below! the medium one and the large half one are pretty worn out but theyre def usable and the large tan one and the xl black one were worn like once so ! first come first served ! 

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@letters-to-lgbt-kids has 22 questions for Enby’s to answer, feel free to answer on your own.

22 Questions for Nonbinary November! (Mod Jordan answering)

1.Which labels do you use?

I just use nonbinary, but sometimes i say im transmasc or that im a nonbinary trans man. nonbinary is the most accurate label for me, aside from neutrois

2.What are your pronouns?

they/them (primary), and xie/xem and ae/aer

3.How old were you when you came out to yourself as nonbinary?

14

4.What’s one thing you’d like to tell your younger self?

you can take youre time transitioning

5.Is there a myth about nonbinary people that annoys you the most?

that we are all children lmao. the infantilization of nonbinary ppl is super frustrating

6.Is there a nonbinary celebrity you look up to?

Gerard Way and Jonathan Van Ness

7.If you’re out, how did you come out?

so ummm i was forced out to my family which is a whole thing but i just casually tell my friends n ppl around me

8.Is there a gender-related pun you like?

since im also bisexual i like that i can say im non(bi)nary

9.Do you have friends who identify as nonbinary, too?

yep! my partner and some of our long term friends, and one of my roommates

10.Do you have a favorite lgbt+ character?

wolf from kipo and the age of wonderbeasts, and Seem from Jak 3

11. Lgbt, lgbt+, lgbtqa+… which one do you usually use?

LGBT

12. How do you explain the term “nonbinary” to people who have no idea what it means?

i say “im not a boy or a girl” and then extrapolate on that if needed

13.Tell us a fun fact about yourself (gender-related or random!)

im also intersex so sometimes ppl assume im already on hormones or they think im a cis guy n its all rlly fun

14.How did you find your name?

tbh i dont totally remember? i think i just looked up names that started with J

15.If you’re in a relationship, how did your partner react to your coming-out?

I was out before dating them so they knew going into it. theyre also bi so we are a super sexy nonb bi couple

16.Do you prefer partner, datemate, significant other or something else?

i actually rlly like datemate, though me n my partner tend to say partner now more often. I am also cool w the term boyfriend sometimes

17.A piece of advice for questioning kids?

it’s okay to change labels, pronouns, names, and presentations as often as you need! don’t let people hold you back from discovering yourself

18.Which flag(s) do you use?

nonbinary and trans flags

19.Any tips for bad days?

i usually turn to clothes. piecing together new outfits, looking for style inspo, and possibly even buying smth new on ebay. Presentation is rlly important to me so i find a lot of comfort in curating my wardrobe

20.Do you have a favorite nonbinary blog on tumblr?

i personally don’t follow many nonbinary specific blogs

21.Feminine, masculine, androgynous - or none of those things?

androgynous with maybe some masc leaning?

22. What are your three favorite things about yourself?

i can cook really well and i love to make food for people! i am pretty confident in my appearance and the way i present myself. i am super crafty and can knit, crochet, sew, weave, and any number of things i try to teach myself!

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fun fact :•)

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I'm sorry but do you know of any Polish neopronouns? I'm from there and have never heard of any but I thought that you might know something

unfortunately i do not know anything about the Polish language. I think you will have more luck looking this up yourself than I would

-Mod Jordan

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Hi, I was wondering if you could recommend any places to meet other enbies? I've been feeling really isolated and I don't know where to find other trans/enby people.

Sorry for so late of an answer, I didn’t see this ask!

I recommend seeking out trans support groups in your area. You can start a search online (Facebook is, oddly enough, a great place to find groups like this) and see if any groups meet in person. Of course, I won’t recommend meeting in person until it is safe to do so, but you can see if people in these online groups are willing to have one on one conversations or participate in online events. If you cant find people online, you can consider starting a group yourself.

Other places to meet trans people are lgbt bars (obviously this provides an age restriction and it can be difficult to have conversations), lgbt resource offices at a nearby university (also can be age restricted at times), and trans-centered events in your area (which are usually politically fueled). I would recommend looking into all these options if you are willing and able, but you may have the most luck with finding trans groups online

-Mod Jordan

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hey 👋🏼 i want to let other transmasc people know about this great company called thinx! it’s basically an underwear brand that destroyed my dysphoria around shark week AND they’re washable so they last a long time. you can wear them up to 9-ish hours with no leaks and no smell. i recommend the boyshorts because they’re the boxer style 👍🏼

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Laurence Philomène is challenging the lack of non-binary representation by photographing her friends as their ideal selves, set against her vivid fantasy backdrops.

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Hey I’m kinda nervous writing this, but I don’t really know where else to go to ask I guess?? I use and am comfortable with he/she/them pronouns, and I guess I don’t necessarily feel a connection with gender but at the same time I do. Is there any articles or other tumblr accounts that talk about this?? I don’t understand anything about it and it’s really stressful

i am unsure of anything to link you too, but i will say that its okay to feel lost right now. you may just have to do a lot of googling to try and find something similar to what you are describing. Many people use multiple pronouns, regardless of their actual gender.

As far as feeling both connected and disconnected from gender, that is also not as uncommon as you might think. I personally feel no connection to the gender binary but vaguely feel tied to manhood. There are many, many nuances to gender, even with how we describe it in western culture. Its okay that youre confused and unsure of how to talk about it. -Mod Jordan

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Hi! Can you do a pronoun validation thingy for me? I'd like to be called Sterling, and I'd like to try out they/them and he/him pronouns (I'm nonbinary and my current defaults are she/her, although sometimes I don't feel fully comfortable with that so I'm doing some experimenting).

Sterling wants to try out new pronouns to see what they’re comfortable with. He has an eevee for his icon on tumblr, and they probably like eeveelutions. You might assume that eevee is their favorite pokemon. I hope Sterling finds pronouns that work for them, and I wish him luck in figuring it out!