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looking for therapists that take ur insurance and have availability and have actually relevant expertise and DON'T FUCKING PUSH MINDFULNESS/CBT when that shit is USELESS for me is so exhausting and i'm just frankly sick of therapists being either kind of shitty people (internalized bigotry that manifests in their sessions like sanism, ableism, transphobia, exorsexism, ageism especially adultism which was more relevant when i was a teenager trying to talk about active ongoing abuse from an older sibling and how my one of my parents enabled it) or fully unqualified to treat me given the breadth and diversity of my issues. like i went to my university's counseling center and very specifically asked for someone trained in DBT (the literal only evidence-based type of therapy that's widely used other than CBT, which is contraindicated for some PTSD and trauma cases and mine is among them) and they basically told me they could not help me. In other words literally none of their therapists are fucking qualified.

Looking for trauma-informed therapists and queer-friendly therapists and chronic illness aware therapists just gives you more CBT, more mindfulness bullshit. Looking for autism-aware therapists gives you ABA "therapists" (I want an actual therapist who doesn't try to force me to do things incompatible with my capabilities and skills as an autistic person, who puts in real effort to understand my communication style, rather than trying to use operand conditioning to train out my autistic traits. Autism is not why I need therapy.) I don't want to argue about what parts of my childhood constituted abuse. I don't want to have to sit there and justify why I think I need therapy, or why I make the choices I do regarding what I prioritize.

I don't want another situation like the therapist I tried in high school, who I told I would not graduate because I was too physically ill to do anything school related, and who spent two sessions refusing to talk to me about anything else when I explained pretty clearly how it was a dead end until my health improved and that it was not actually possible for me to move out of my mom's house at the time. Two different therapists I went to fixated on my need to move out of my mom's house when I was still stuck in a poverty cycle that was making it impossible to do that and I made that pretty clear early on, and what I needed help with was emotionally navigating that. I am so sick of therapists who try to fix my issues that are pretty definitively unfixable precisely because I am powerless in them when those are not what I want therapy for.

I have moved out of my mom's house now. My health has improved (still dogshit, but the best it's been since I was 14) and I now have a good degree of control over almost every aspect of my life that a person can control. I have graduated high school, moved across the country, and am working towards a degree in a field I love. I feel fulfilled in my academics and have better finances despite being below the poverty line, and I've got enough going for me to pull shit together and make ends meet. I am still emotionally unstable and I still need therapy. And I'm afraid that trying to see a therapist now would just be a waste of time because the 'actionable' parts of therapy are things that I learned how to do on my own, and they don't fix the fucking source of the problems or help me emotionally regulate. The further I get in my education, and the more I learn about what mental health professionals do, the more obvious it becomes to me that they're straight up not equipped to handle literally anyone who has any degree of self awareness or who is both autistic and traumatized. All the obvious treatment methods are things I know about and they do not work on me. If it worked, I wouldn't need therapy. The breathing technique shit especially pisses me off because my breathing is so impaired due to asthma that I literally cannot do biofeedback for dysautonomia; wtf makes you think breathing exercises would somehow help with mental illness when it is actively painful to control my breathing in that manner??? I physically cannot do it to regulate my autonomic nervous system because it's so painful and makes me feel so short of breath. Of course that's not gonna help with fucking anxiety or depression.

Combined with the insurance nonsense of trying to find a covered provider, the hassle of looking just feels like it won't be worth it when the chances of finding a decent therapist are so astronomically low.

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when your stomach is really mad at you and you're not sure which one of your fourteen unhealthy lifestyle choices is causing it

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Fun fact you can change your name even if you havent changed your gender

Fun fact you first chosen name doesnt have to be your name forever, if you figure out a new one you can use that instead

Be yourself, you deserve it

I love you

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Karol Nawrocki, a right-wing historian involved in Poland’s recent efforts to revise Holocaust history to minimize the role of local collaborators, has been elected president of Poland.

Law and Justice promoted historical narratives about Polish victimhood and resistance to the Nazis, while delegitimizing research on Polish antisemitism or Poles who killed Jews. In 2018, the country passed a law that outlawed accusing Poland or the Polish people of complicity in Nazi crimes. Although the infraction was downgraded from a crime punishable with three years in prison to a civil offense, critics say it had a chilling effect on historical research.

Nawrocki heads the Institute of National Remembrance, which gained a reputation for advancing nationalist narratives about the Holocaust under the Law and Justice government. He centered that version of history in his campaign. As Nawrocki rose in the polls and forced a runoff, he curried the support of backers of the fourth-place finisher in the general election, Grzegorz Braun, who ran an antisemitic campaign. Nawrocki told Braun that he would fight “all the disgusting attacks” on Poland by Holocaust scholars. He previously promised to end the tradition of lighting Hanukkah candles in the presidential palace, which Braun shocked the Polish parliament in 2023 by disrupting.

This is highly concerning and worrying.

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Actor Johnathan Joss was just murdered for being gay. On the first day of pride 2025. He was best known for playing John Redcorn on King of the Hill.

I had no idea he was gay but he was married to a man named Tristan Kern de Gonzales (on valentines day 2025!)

They lived in San Antonio Texas where his family is from and he grew up. He was 59.

In Janurary 2025 his home was burned down which made news. It killed some of his beloved dogs. He didnt elaborate beyond he believed it was arson (gofundme is still up and i suggest donating to help his funeral costs and his husband

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Now we know he and his husband had been threatened by several neighbors for being queer. They told pigs, pigs being pigs did nothing before or after it happened.

Yesterday Joss and his husband went to check their mailbox wherein they found one of their dogs skulls (statement from his husband

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As they weeped and mourned in shock, a neighbor, Sigfredo Alvarez Ceja, came out and aimed at de Gonzales…but Hoss jumped in front of the bullet and was instantly killed.

Ceja, homophobia murdering coward, tried to take off but de Gonzales had called pigs who vaguely tried to do something. He was arrested and his bail set for $200k. Or as my sister said who the fuck sets bail for a murderer?

San Antonio.

De Gonzales is clearly mourning, posting pics on Hoss’ fb page. This one really struck me

This is why we need pride people, and not rainbow capitalism. Please donate to the gofundme and let san antonio cops knows what you think. De Gonzales said multiple neighbors had threatened them…id like to see those people investigated for arson.

Go into pride with rage and knowing. Have joy, kiss puppies, dont bow to homophobes. And maybe enjoy a little king of the hill.

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what a legend

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Early bumblebee/ängshumla, and Buff-tailed bumblebee/mörk jordhumla. Värmland, Sweden (June 3, 2022).

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httyd version of "none of those words are in the bible"

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asthma is such a bitch

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I've finally figured out an argument that convinces coding tech-bros that AI art is bad.

Got into a discussion today (actually a discussion, we were both very reasonable and calm even through I felt like committing violence) with a tech-bro-coded lady who claimed that people use AI in coding all the time so she didn't see why it mattered if people used AI in art.

Obviously I repressed the surge of violence because that would accomplish nothing. Plus, this lady is very articulate, the type who makes claims and you sit there thinking no that's wrong it must be but she said it so well you're kind of just waffling going but, no, wait-- so I knew I had to get this right if I was gonna come out of this unscathed.

The usual arguments about it being about the soul of it and creation fell flat, in fact she was adamant that anyone who believed that was in fact looking down at coding as an art form as she insisted it is. Which, sure, you can totally express yourself through coding. There's a lot more nuance as to the differences but clearly I was not going to win this one.

The other people I was with (literally 8 people anti-ai against her, but you can't change the mind of someone who doesn't want to listen and she just kept accusing us of devaluing coding as an art) took over for I kid you not 15 minutes while I tried desperately to come up with a clear and articulate way to explain the difference to her. They tried so many reasonable arguments, coding being for a function ("what, art doesn't serve a function?") coding being many discrete building blocks that you put together differently, and the AI simply provides the blocks and you put it together yourself ("isn't that what prompt building is") that it's bad for the environment ("but not if it's used for capitalism, hm?" "Yeah literally that's how capitalism works it doesn't care about the environment" she didn't like that response)

But I finally got it.

And the answer is: It's not about what you do, it's about what you claim to be.

Imagine that someone asks an AI to write a code and, by some miracle, it works perfectly without them having to tweak it---which is great because they couldn't tell you what a single solitary thing in that code means.

Now imagine this person, with their code that they don't know how it works, goes and applies to be a coder somewhere, presenting this AI code as proof that they're qualified.

Should they be hired?

She was horrified, of course. Of course they shouldn't be. They're not qualified. They can't actually code, and even if by some miracle they did have an AI successfully write a flawless code for every issue they came across that wouldn't be their code, you could hire any shmuck on the street to do that, no reason to pay someone like they're creating something.

When actual engineers use AI what they do is get some kind of base, which they then go though and check for problems and then if they find any they fix them, and add on to the base code with their own knowledge instead of just trying different prompt after prompt until they randomly come across one that works.

People who generate code like this don't usually call themselves engineers. They're people who needed a bit of code and didn't have the knowledge to generate it, and so used a resource.

And there you go. There are people who have none of the skills of artists, they don't practice, they don't create for themselves. When they feed the prompt to the AI they then don't just use the resulting image as a reference point for their own personal masterpiece, and if they don't like it they don't have the skills to change it---they simply try another prompt, and do that until they get something they like.

These people are calling themselves artists.

Not only that, these people are bringing the AI generated thing to interviews, and they are getting hired, leaving people who slave over their craft out of the job.

And that is the difference, for the tech bros who think AI art isn't a big deal.

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"If you use em dash in your works, it makes them look AI generated. No real human uses em dash."

Imaging thinking actual human writers are Not Real because they use... professional writing in their works.

Imagine thinking millions of people who have been using em dash way before AI becomes a thing are all robots.

REBLOG IF YOU'RE A HUMAN AND YOU USE EM DASH

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If you could instantly be granted fluency in 5 languages—not taking away your existing language proficiency in any way, solely a gain—what 5 would you choose?

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Not enough people talking about tzatziki

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Purple-spotted Swallowtail (Graphium weiskei), family Papilionidae, West Papua, New Guinea

photograph by John Lenagan

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Anaxa's PV really reminds me of this meme