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As thankful as I am for the privileges I have as a trans person, I feel that privilege is a strange word to describe them.

It’s a “privilege” that my family will cut off extended family and friends for me.

It’s a “privilege” that my partner and his family are willing to have conversations with their extended families to make sure it’s safe for me to be around them.

It’s a “privilege” that I have safe places to go in case I need to leave home.

It’s a “privilege” that I have supportive friends and family.

Knowing that these things are commonly considered (at least to my knowledge) privileges within the trans community, I feel I should not be upset by them, or have any complaints about it.

But I do.

My heart is heavy knowing the sacrifices made in my name by my loved ones. The severing of relationships that had existed far before I was even born. Religions left, major life changes considered.

I am not responsible for any of these things, of course. These were choices made willingly, and may have even been made if I hadn’t been trans. But I know that me being trans influenced every single one of them.

I do not wish to be cis. I just wish it wasn’t such an issue for the majority of the world than I am trans.

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Anyone else ever cut their hair really short (like pixie cut) and get the “compliment” that you were so brave?

My autistic ass really thought people meant it when they said that to me

But apparently that’s like… not a compliment. That’s people’s way to be nice without actually being nice

But the thing is, I’m autistic and trans, so whether it’s intended to be or not, I think it’s a compliment. Getting a haircut is brave, especially a drastic one, cuz you don’t know if you’ll like it, and you can’t really undo it if you don’t like it, and it can have massive effects on your confidence or sense of self

So yeah. Weird that it’s actually not a compliment

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GIVE ME MY EXTRA HOUR BACK

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please think about male pregnancy outside of a meme context at least sometimes. idc if you say "I'm gonna get him pregnant" or things like that but male pregnancy is going to become an increasingly serious issue for us trans men/mascs

just. acknowledge that there are men irl who can get pregnant, not always by choice, and how that effects us. because we're going to need it. we already need it

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For YEARS I’ve felt like everyone else in the world experienced attraction completely differently from me, which was kinda lonely sometimes, but I had a pretty easy time embracing it. I’ve identified as on the aro/ace spectrum for years now, and have never really been able to explain the attraction that I do feel towards people.

I find people pretty/handsome/etc., but don’t feel any desire to be sexual with someone unless we’ve established a trusting relationship, but even then, my desire to engage in sexual activities with someone else feels more related to my own hormones or imagination, and not their appearance or personality.

Romance-wise, I enjoy being in romantic relationships (and am in one now), but I’ve never really sought them out, cuz I’m shy but also because I’m perfectly happy being single.

All that being said, I love my boyfriend very much and am extremely happy in our relationship. We’re both queer, so that’s probably why it feels queer, but I think it’s also cuz our relationship isn’t centered on any gender roles or expectations. We just like EACH OTHER as individuals, and that’s just really freeing tbh.

Helloooo lovely queer people <3

There are many discussions about queer love and attraction, and how many situations can clearly be seen as queer. Obviously, queer love and attraction are far too broad to be captured in a simple definition, so I want to ask: how does love and attraction manifest in your life? How does it feel queer to you?

Feel free to gush about your crushes and partners, romanticize on past experiences, and share your yearning! I find that sharing and hearing about these experiences really gives me hope. No restrictions on participation, either - if it feels queer in the broadest sense of the word, it fits <3

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The camera focus on my phone can be funky sometimes, but I think this ended up looking cool

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You still have a lot of time to make yourself be what you want.

S.E. Hinton / The Outsiders

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This is an interesting thing. Looks like testimonies of people who left the MAGA movement- how they got into it and why.

Leaving a cult is really hard, so I really respect the people who are speaking from this place.

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i don't know if people know this but the idea that AGAB is useful in medical contexts is actually actively dangerous

one of my friends has CAIS. they were assigned female and have a prostate. they have been denied prostate exams multiple times on the basis of "being assigned female" despite insisting that they had valid concerns about symptoms that aligned with prostate cancer. guess what happened when they finally got an exam? they ended up having prostate cancer

it fortunately is now in complete remission, which is why they're comfortable with me talking about it, but you see the issue here? biology is never as simple as assigned sex, by judging the care someone needs by their proximity to maleness or femaleness any mixed or otherwise "abnormal" sex characteristics they have are completely ignored

it doesn't just affect intersex people either, you're throwing trans people under the bus as well. transitioning does change your sex characteristics, trans people should have access to medical care that is catered to their body and not to their assigned sex

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Dehumanizing bigots is bad, not because I want to be nice to them, but because they are human beings and they serve as a reminder that anyone is capable of evil ideation and action. Violent bigots are not fundamentally different beings from you. They are human beings, who have developed a reactionary and destructive belief system due to their circumstances combined with their biases. In a different timeline, that could've been you. Anyone can be radicalized. Nobody is immune to propaganda, not even the person reading this.

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In ~these times~ it is important for queer people to be reminded of what "coming out" originally meant. "Coming out" did not mean telling all of your co-workers something super stigmatized and vulnerable about you, wearing your queer status on your sleeve in public, informing the police or government institutions about your sexuality, or even telling your parents. "Coming out" meant venturing out into the queer community; being among other queers as a queer yourself.

Coming out isn't about telling the entire world when doing so is not safe for you, it's not about arming your enemies with information they could use against you. No, coming out is about making a fulfilling queer life possible for yourself through participation in the queer community. It is about escaping the restrictions and dangers of the cisgender heterosexual world by rooting oneself more deeply into the queer one.

And you can always do that. No matter how oppressed we are. No matter how much the culture shifts and policies are enacted to terrorize us. We are always able to be ourselves when we are amongst each other. And living our queerness has always been a collective social project, not just a matter of personal exposure.

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really heavily reject this idea that just by virtue of being oppressed you understand everything about all types of oppression, and that reading theory is unnecessary or is something that unoppressed people do to make themselves feel good. do not fall for this trap. you need to be reading . you need to be learning. your own ideas are good but they can only carry you so far. learn from others.

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there's this well-meaning but I think quite misguided Thing where someone transmasuline whose transition has left them looking, for lack a better term, very conventionally masc - bearded, muscular, liable to be assumed cisgender - will be held up in an argument that essentially goes "lmao you dumbass terfs really want THIS GUY to use the women's bathroom???" as if it's inherently absurd that someone who looks that way would use the women's bathroom. and these tend to get passed around quite a lot to cackle at the stupid terfs who want huge hairy men in women's bathrooms.

and like, let's get one thing straight: no, of course they don't want that guy to use the women's bathroom. they want him to die or detransition; that's their actual goal. they want him to not exist as a trans person. let's just be clear on that.

but the thing that actually bothers me is that this rather steamrolls over the fact that for every transmasuline person who looks like that, there are also transfeminine, nonbinary, and intersex people who look like that and want access to women's bathrooms, and setting up their presence as some kind of absurdity really isn't doing them any favors. nor is it helping the less "passing" trans people who want to use men's bathrooms! this is in fact reinforcing the idea that public bathrooms are a space to be policed based on appearance, that you only gain access to if you can look a certain way.

which is absurd for many reasons, including that it's a fucking bathroom. people are there to piss. ideally anybody should be able to piss next to anybody and we could stop bothering with gender separated bathrooms at all, but in the meantime let's at least not take part in actively encouraging people to decide at a glance who's allowed to piss where.

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sick post i just found online. sorry i couldnt find the source

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Literally sobbing. A judge, a US judge defended us. A judge brought up intersex people, using the term intersex, to *defend* us by not allowing our erasure. I'm having a lot of feelings right now

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Republicans deliberately use coded language to trick people to vote for them and radicalize their group. Many don't even realize they're radicalized or what they're saying is even racist. This is why they think the Left is "over reacting" because the either know they're using coded language and don't care, or they don't know anything at all.