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Xander: “I don’t think it’s working…”

Xander: “Oh-”

Xander: “It’s up and going again! It’s been awhile hasn’t it?” [ Xander and the gang are open for asks ] 

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In regards to what happened...

This blog was originally created by @sp-modblog aka spcrossing to help others in the community who went through tumblr deleting entire accounts when deleting side blogs.

C-a-l-y-p-so is no longer apart of the team for this blog and hasn’t been for the past year since they deleted their house-of-hemmingway blog.

The partnership was made prior to our knowledge of their abusive behavior.

We deeply apologize for anyone who was hurt by them, we do not condone that manipulative behavior. Nobody deserves to go through the torment that they’ve done to others. It’s toxic and horrible.

We don't condone harassment of them or anything similar. As it's no better than what they've done.

We strive to improve this blog and its future a safe space for everyone in the community.

Everyone stay safe!

-Sp

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Community PSA

[ This is only part of the full PSA (including evidence) which you can find here ]

Content Warnings

Grooming, Victim blaming, Harassment, Sexual abuse, Suicide / Self-harm mention, Emotional / Mental abuse mention

Introduction

Some of you may know about the PSA that circulated a few months ago regarding The-House-of-Hemingway’s relationship and unacceptable sexual interactions with someone who was a minor. Hemingway now goes by C-a-l-y-p-s-o. This post will discuss the details of the PSA, as well as this user’s concerning past and present behavior. 

To the best of the ability of those responsible for this document, the username will continually be updated so that this person cannot interact with members of this community again without disclosing who they are, regardless if the interaction is safe-for-work or not.

The following post is intended to bring awareness to someone who is

Confirmed to be a groomer.

Attempting to convince members of the pokeask community that they have “changed” but is clearly trying to win favor with you.

A risk to the community, cannot be safely trusted, and needs to exit community spaces.

Disclaimers 

Harassment of Calypso in any form is unacceptable behavior. The purpose of this post is to inform. This is not a call for hostile action beyond a block on every social media possible. 

Please respect the victim’s boundaries and do not badger them for further details than what has been disclosed. While disagreement and discussion is OK, please keep your comments outside of tumblr and public discord servers. 

If harassment occurs, the names of any individuals who dogpile, send death threats to, or doxx those involved with this situation will also be listed (with concrete evidence only) on this document. 

TL;DR

Tumblr user @C-a-l-y-p-s-o, previously known as the mod behind the pokeask blog “house-of-hemingway,” is a confirmed groomer who has deleted their admission of guilt to save face.

Calypso has violated a boundary that is expected between a victim and an abuser by leveraging themselves into positions of authority (server moderators, event leaders, etc.)

Calypso has broken promises made to their peers over the course of their internet presence, changing names and website profiles/identities in order to escape the responsibility for their actions.

Calypso is attempting to fall back into good graces by sending copy-pasted positivity asks on mundays to sweep their notoriety under the rug. 

This document will contain proof of the above in exhaustive detail under the “readmore”, or if you are viewing this in the public google document form, it will be under the resources.

We are using this as an opportunity to take a firm stance against grooming in the community, and to express our support for survivors. Our goal is to address the circumstances under which it happens with preventive guidelines and trauma-informed resources.

Resources & Education

What does grooming look like? A quick guide written by survivors of abuse within the Pokeask community:

The adult may not approach you with the intention of grooming you. 

The objective of grooming is for an adult to turn their bond with a minor into a transactional relationship; circumstances in which the minor is providing something for them— whether that be emotional support or sexual gratification— and normalizes breaking boundaries to do so.

Though they may not realize they are blurring or overstepping your boundaries, the effect is still the same; they are desensitizing you to unfair and inappropriate treatment.

Many adults deal with mental illness, go through hard times, and struggle with loneliness. If you’re acquaintances or friends, you naturally might want to support them, “fix” their problems, or do them favors because they’ve been nice to you or because they’re not being malicious.

But ultimately, prioritizing their wellbeing compromises your own, well-meaning or not. That is what an imbalanced power dynamic looks like, and it is up to the adult to realize this, acknowledge it, and seek out other outlets, resources, people, and help available to them. 

A responsible adult does not take advantage of your availability when given the opportunity to do so over other appropriate choices, no matter what. 

The adult may expect you to be available at all times.

Guilt-tripping when you do not respond to their messages, spamming your DMs, or demanding that you spend most of your online time with them. 

Making time for them might mean you end up spending less time with your friends and become distant from others in your social circle. 

A red flag to look for is if they call you their “best / closest friend” over other adult relationships in their life.

The adult may put the burden of their mental health or well-being on you. 

This can include constant venting / oversharing, validation seeking, or coming to you when they are in a mental health crisis. This can happen in private dms or in public servers. 

Remember, no one individual is responsible for managing a loved one’s mental health, and it is not OK to expect a teenager to intervene when someone is threatening suicide or self-harm. That is for a trained professional to handle.

The adult may invite you into unmoderated spaces with other adults. 

They might have “lighthearted” conversations with you or in front of you about sexual content, flirt with you, share explicit images / memes where you can see them, ask to role-play erotic scenarios with your ocs, or draw NSFW / suggestive art of your ocs / sona. 

Red flags to look for are adults telling you that you are mature for your age, asking you to keep their interactions with you a secret, or interacting inappropriately with you in voice call so that there is no chat log of what they’ve said.

You do not owe your followers or fans your attention if you feel uncomfortable.

A friendship between two artists or between you and a fan of your work should not involve any pressure to reciprocate gift art, respond to asks, or role-play.

If someone crosses your boundaries based on a perceived parasocial relationship with you, or makes you feel guilty for not interacting with them, you are in your full right to block them.

If you suspect an ask is a covert fetish, such as asking you to draw an overly specific subject or situation, report them to an adult in the community.

Similarly, if someone you are a fan of is crossing your boundaries, take a step back to evaluate whether you would be OK with it if they were not someone you admire. 

Just because someone is popular, skilled at art, widely respected, or well-liked does not give them the right to treat you in the ways listed above. 

Listen to your gut; if you feel uncomfortable or unsafe, but are doubting your feelings because you look up to the person you’re interacting with, take a step back and tell someone you trust. No friendship is worth being treated this way.

If you suspect you were groomed in the past, or are wondering if a relationship you have with an adult is inappropriate, please look through the information linked in this section. Hotlines, counseling and self-help resources for survivors are listed here as well. 

List of Hotlines by Country | 1, 2 

Global Online Image (CSAM) Removal | 1, 2

Education & Resources | UK, CA, AUS, US (eng, esp)

Online Image Removal | UK, CA, AUS

LGBT+ Specific | UK, CA, AUS, US

BIPOC Specific | UK, CA, AUS, US

United Kingdom

Crisis Support & Counseling (Email, Phone, Text, Video Call; Eng & BSL)

Canada

Counseling (Phone, Text; Eng, Fr, Indigenous languages, Other languages, ASL)

Crisis Support (Phone; First Nations responders available)

Australia

Crisis Support & Counseling (Phone, Text, Other; Several languages available; Aboriginal responders available; Auslan)

United States

Crisis Support & Counseling (Phone, Text, Other; Several languages available; Indigenous responders available; ASL)

About the bill to pressure American corporations to remove reported CSAM from their websites

Coming forward about abuse can be re-traumatizing and difficult, but it can also be healing and liberating— It allows for a survivor to be in charge of their narrative and to lead the conversation surrounding their trauma. 

Sometimes, it takes years to recognize trauma or past abuse, let alone to be ready to publicly talk about it. It is validating to finally be able to say, “This happened to me. I survived it. I deserved better.” to the world. 

Trauma follows us for a long time. No matter how much time has passed, a victim has the right to disclose their abuse and hold their abuser accountable. It is our responsibility to listen. https://metoomvmt.org/

Full PSA with evidence continued here…

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Woah, neat! Now I’m all crispy!

NEVER SPEAK OF THIS. …also thank you.

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Kleo @ Dahlia: *starry eyed* W-woah! You look stunning— I mean strong!! You look really strong! …Could you show me some of your strongest moves?

< Having intended to swing at the air, Dahlia failed to notice another Pokemon pass by ... >

Uh -- oh!!! I'm ... going to find a Sitrus Berry. Be right back ...

[ @ask-a-bunch-of-mons ]

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BEHOLD, LUNCH.

WE HAVE FINALLY ARRIVED BACK ON THE SMALL, INFERIOR PLANET THE HUMANS CALL “EARTH”. I WILL SHOW YOU AROUND.

THEY LOVE ME HERE. THEY WILL LOVE YOU TOO, SON.

LUNCH!!!

Vekpa and Lunch have arrived through an Ultra Wormhole. Will you greet them? (askbox open)

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It looks like a Dewott is sitting besides a river.

Would you approach them?

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You spot a strange Pichu in the corner of a room.

Oh! It seems she has noticed you!

Will you approach?

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Koi: Oh I have ever so dreamed of being taken to one of those places with the conveyer belt of ENDLESS sushi! Oh that’s the dream my darling!! Koi: Oh if only I participated in capitalism! Then I could afford it! - - - - - - - - - - - -  [ @mod-type-null ]

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Koi: Oh I have ever so dreamed of being taken to one of those places with the conveyer belt of ENDLESS sushi! Oh that’s the dream my darling!! Koi: Oh if only I participated in capitalism! Then I could afford it! - - - - - - - - - - - -  [ @mod-type-null ]

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Koi: You can refer to me as “Koi”, stranger. Koi: What brings you here? Or do you need something of me? - - - - - - - - -  [ Koi the Mienshao is now open for asks, interactions and art prompts/requests! ] [ This blog is a mix of “PokeAsk” and “PokeDaily” blog! So there may be deeper stuff, may just be silly requests, may just be a dumb doodle sometimes! ]

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Deidra and April have arrived on Tano! 

The Chapter has officially begun! 

Ask Hints have been updated, and character bios have been updated! Stay tuned next week for an ask call! 

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PokeAsk Warning

If you get a anonymous or a message based like: Can you puff up your cheeks? Can you blow really hard? Can you blow a dandelion? Can you huff and puff like a wolf? Can you imitate a puffer fish blowing up? Or anything along these lines It is. A fetish based thing and you should not do it They are either sent anonymous OR through blank untitled blogs. The person/people involved keep deleting and remaking their blog. All these untitled blogs do is follow “puffy cheek” blogs or send out asks and such pertaining to that, with no content of their own on the blog. Please block these people or block the anonymous messages you get. Don’t try to fight anyone or anything just block and move on or at least tell others about it. Stay safe and have a lovely day

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Rachmaninoff moment?

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“…I know you don’t talk much, and you’re content to simply watch us all from above in the night’s sky.

B-But, I still want you to know that we all value you, and we appreciate the light you give us in the dark night. Just silently keeping an eye on all of us from above, making sure we’re all safe. A-and if you ever wanna come visit us, we’d love to make it happen.

…Ok, see you tomorrow!~”

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“ Hey sorry to bother you, but my brother and I are trying to make it to class and we’re kinda lost. Can ya help? ”

You know, cant be late to an all Pokemon school. All Pokemon. Totally a Pokemon–

@askharmoniauniversity

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The puppy continues to roll around in the grass without a care in the world. Jody: ….. I believe I have a idea of what to call her… based on what I’ve seen from her behavior… But…. I want to sleep on it. See if I still enjoy the name. I shant be hasty with this. Jody walks over to the puppy in the grass, gently rubbing their belly. Puppy: WAF <3 Jody: I want to give her a name that she will also enjoy. It may sound silly to anyone else. But this is my first dog. I want to treat her well. Puppy: Waf… Jody: … If only she would go potty instead of rolling around in the grass… Puppy: wafwaf <3 Jody: …… please it is cold… - - - - - - -  [ @vall007 ]