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when headmate come visit get happy. that's it

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Questioning proxy culture is being unsure whether you really have three(+?) other people in your head or if you’re just overthinking

also it’s made worse by the fact the possible co-fronting/blurring is more like my head voice doing this and

“Why won’t they shut up I hate them so much SHUT UP”

“noononono stop it that’s rude stop it!”

“Stop it stop it stop it”

“Come on can we please just get back to reading”

(All of the above are different presences if that makes sense, a bit like they’re like realy intense feelings and whispy but still vaguely distinct)

(Well 1 and 3 are. 2 is someone who I usually can to pull forward to calm the other two down)

(that’s all of the communication I have between potential alters)

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a question- for proxy systems is it a requirement that other people can’t get into front and only the frontstuck host exists there? because every other aspect is very fitting for us but from the other stuff submitted here it sounds like most people can’t really share front

Nope! If the label fits you, it fits! :>

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Very sorry for the inactivity on this blog! I suppose this is a bit of a hiatus, I'll queue up some asks once my school workload dies down ^^;

But just popping in to say, I love you endo and willo and mixed origin systems!!! You are NOT comparable to the harmful rq community, you're just trying to exist!!! Take care ;>

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Proxy system is randomly hearing the voices of random guys and then them disappearing and never coming back and so you all are left like “huh what was that about”

Or them disappearing right after we make a Simply plural for them

- ♟️💙

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proxy plural culture is being annoyed with one alter because he always makes me angry (since i can’t communicate with them all i get is emotions and dysphoria and this fucker is always angry about something (bless his heart i think he’s co con rn ☺️)

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Proxy sys culture is commonly introducing/using the name of the frequently Co-con alter because they’re just like you fr :)

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proxy system culture is your headspace is just a dark room 🧍

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Proxy sys culture is (host) only being able to communicate with one other headmate, so not only am I communicating for the system, but theres another guy i have to talk to to communicate with the system

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Pro tip for what may be a very niche audience of systems with mid level internal communication: if you can only internally communicate when trying to do so and you rarely or never hear surprising, random comments from other headmates that some other systems talk about, that is in fact normal. Internal communication is something that almost always takes time and practice to get better at, so it's not unusual for a system to have difficulty hearing each other and need to actively try to talk to each other to achieve internal communication. Hell, there's a reason that learning internal communication is a part of treatment for systems seeking medical support – because it can be difficult and it's unlikely that you've mastered it right off the bat!

Not hearing your headmates most of the time is okay. Needing to focus on talking to a headmate to internally communicate is okay. If you rarely or never get surprised by someone internally talking to you, that probably just means your internal communication has some barriers, difficulties, or quirks that other systems do not have. That does not mean you're faking; that does not mean you're less of a system. Don't fool yourself otherwise just because you see other systems getting caught off-guard by their headmates talking to them, or overhear each other talking while they're focused on something else, or anything else. They are not you, and your system is going to be different from their system. It's okay if your internal communication is different from other systems.

Tl;dr: Don't trap yourself in self-doubt if your system doesn't have perfect internal communication (including if you have internal communication that's "good enough" for your system but lacks in some areas). Internal communication (and communication skill) varies from system to system, and you don't have to have flawless communication to be a real system.

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Proxy pack host culture is LEMME OUT LEMME OUT LEMME OUT LEMME OUT!!!!

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proxy system culture is wondering if you can even use pluralkit to talk in servers because the others are not technically fronting.

(seriously would it be weird if I did that, it feels like I'd be doing something wrong)

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proxy system host culture is frequently feeling like you're "roleplaying" even though you can't control their beliefs, words, etc because everything they want to do is filtered through you

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questioning proxy system culture is feeling like you’re in a discord call but everyone has a really shitty mic

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Proxy system culture is fakeclaiming yourself because you literally are physically unable to switch most of the time

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Proxy system culture is loving your head mates :)))

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Proxy sys (newly discovered btw! I feel so validated now!) culture is being frontsealed for like two months (it takes some effort for me to connect to the headspace so it's insanely easy to get frontsealed) and then coming back to find out two headmates accidentally blew up the front room so now it's just a grassy hill instead of an actual, like, living room

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