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The wings of Enneagram type 7

At Seven, the doubt of Ego-Cowardice (Six) meets the lust for life of Ego-Revenge (Eight). The result is the Seven’s wanting a little taste of everything in life but, because of her fear and doubt, not fully immersing herself in anything. Like Eights, Sevens are stimulated and excited by all the things of the world, but because of their fear, the contact stays primarily mental and thus presumably safe. Eights are sensory oriented, and Sixes doubt their experience, so Sevens end up sampling a lot of things but questioning everything.

7w6

If you are the Enneagram Type 7 with the 6 Wing, you desire to be eye-catching. You see yourself as exciting, relaxed, creative, curious, bright, alive and witty. They tend to be sensitive, ingratiating, committed, dutiful, anxious, insecure, easily hurt, and hesitant. They also appear fidgety and lighthearted.

Type Seven is associated with the Id, the seat of unconscious desires. Type Six is associated with the Superego, which internalizes moral and social structures. The presence of a Six wing tempers the Type Seven, and makes them more considerate of others. Type Seven with a Six Wing, therefore, tends to be more social and tends to avoid conflict wherever possible. They may end up hiding their dislike for someone in order to preserve to peace.

The traits of the Seven and those of a Six-wing are in a certain amount of tension with each other: Sixes are oriented toward people, while Sevens are oriented toward things and experiences, quite capable of fulfilling their own needs themselves. In both types, however, there are dependencies; Sixes depend on finding approval and security from others, while Sevens depend on the environment to make them happy. People of this subtype will attempt to find satisfaction forthemselves, while looking to other people as additional sources of stimulation and happiness.

Healthy Sevens with a 6 wing are responsible, faithful, lovable, nervous and funny.

They are generally more oriented to relationship and want to be accepted by other people.

Can be steady, more willing to stick with commitments; the 6 wing brings a longer sense of time.

Usually funny or enjoy a good laugh - an amazing number of comedians are Sevens with a 6 wing.

More openly vulnerable, have an unguarded, tender sweetness.

Some have trouble expressing anger even when they are justified.

May evade or finesse authority but still aware of it like a 6.

Canny and practical, they look for the deals and the loopholes.

When more entranced, may have surprise episodes of sensitivity and insecurity.

Their feelings can be easily hurt sometimes.

Sensitive especially to comparisons.

May avoid putting themselves to the test.

Grow dependent and addicted to other people, afraid to be alone, suspicious and skittish.

Can feel guilt easily, may project their conscience onto others and then act irresponsibly.

Make themselves shallow, fall in and out of love easily.

Sometimes breezily betray others by running away.

Can be reckless, unstable, and self-destructive.

When Sevens have a counterphobic 6 wing their idealism can motivate a sincere desire for social reform.

May work hard for a cause.

Can be antiauthority, passive/aggressive, flippant, defiant. Some report hating to be told what to do.

Clashes with Ones likely.

May call down trouble on themselves.

Complain about the status quo.

Healthy 7w6s:

Healthy people of this subtype are lovable and endearing. They can be extremely good company because light hearted playfulness, sillness, and wit characterize their sense of humor. While they are essentially aggressive, they also want others to like and accept them. If they have money, they tend to be generous with others, particularly in their socializing, party giving, and traveling. People of this subtype have a soft, sweet side which can be very appealing. They are a kaleidoscope of contrasting traits - ingratiating and sassy, vulnerable and resilient, spontaneous and dependable, adult and childlike.

Balanced 7w6 finds a new kind of centered calmness, as impulsivity and the desire to entertain begin to fall away. Instead of shifting to another mood, there is a willingness to wait and see where this one leads. The slippery, happy-go-lucky quality is replaced by a smooth feeling of attentive watchfulness. There is a kind of directed, joyful intelligence to the healthy 7w6, like a sure presence, with an unlimited attention span.

Extremely integrated 7w6 becomes the master of many talents because of fiveish perceptivity, combined with deep fulfillment and pleasure from the experience of being fully present. 7w6 is profoundly grateful for the continuing opportunity to take part in the unfolding drama of life. What a gorgeous, unpredictably fantastic world! What incredible beauty there is in even the smallest details of this universe! How excitingly alive I feel, and how at-one with the world! Let’s celebrate together the deep abundance of life and love.

Average 7w6s:

Average people of this subtype are defensive and impulsive. They want approval and are afraid of being anxious or alone. They want to be loved and they fall in love easily. But they also fall out of love easily as soon as the romance has worn off. Being in love is a strong sensation, which average people of this subtype enjoy having. They can still be quite funny, but an underlying note of anxiety is closer to the surface. They are gregarious but insecure about what people think of them; impulsive but anxious about their decisions; materialistic yet anxious about money. As their anxieties increase, people of this subtype tend to become increasingly insensitive about others, without being aware of it. They also become self-centered, demanding that others help them through bouts of anxiety. Thus, for better or worse, while the Six-wing softens the Seven’s aggressive nature, it also reinforces its anxiety.

Many average 7w6es are natural comedians. The sevenish desire to entertain others is enhanced by the sixish desire to be liked. Driven by sixish anxiety into wild, sevenish schemes, they can at times become panic-stricken if their impulsive plans lead them into difficulty. Sevenish gaiety is more powerful than sixish mistrust, so they might not choose their friends wisely. Unlike the power-oriented 7w8, 7w6 would rather move away from conflict than into it.

Unhealthy 7w6s: Unhealthy people of this subtype tend to be insecure. They want to have the approval and affection of others and will likely experience acute problems with inferiorty and anxiety, traits which are problems for each of the component subtypes. They will turn to other people, tearfully but obnoxiously demanding that others solvetheir problems for them. If this does not work, people of this subtype become hysterical and helpless, alternately thrashing around and lashing out, driving away others and seeking to bring them back to their sides. This subtype is also highly prone to self-destructive behaviors and dramatic, masochistic episodes, such as suicide attempts.

When 7w6 stresses, the search for ever-increasing levels of excitement and stimulation seems at first like a way out of the apparent trap of boredom and unease, but it brings only temporary relief. Maybe another kind of fun will help me avoid this increasing sense of hopeless ambivalence. Maybe I should start a new company, or have a great big party! Unbalanced 7w6 tries to find the answer in increasingly grand plans for great, exciting events.

But the ever-growing fear and boredom keep coming back, as excessive stimulation approaches dangerous levels. Without increasing awakeness, this course of exciting overload leads to extreme exhaustion, and a kind of despairing depression that totally incapacitates. At the bottom of the scale of health, 7/6 becomes a worn-out husk, utterly debilitated by drugs, sexual excess, and general overstimulation, and totally incapable of self-care. At every opportunity, every means available is used to provide some escape. Without some kind of external help, such a person may ultimately die of excess.

7w8

If you are the Enneagram Type 7 with the 8 Wing, you desire to be a free spirit. You see yourself as free, passionate, loving, adventurous, strong and creative. They tend to be powerful, assertive, impatient, gregarious, hedonistic, boisterous, self-centered, and unfaithful. They usually are more grounded in their feelings and are more in touch with their anger.

Type Eight is an Id type like Seven. The Eight wing adds in a bit of an ego and plenty of assertiveness to Type Seven. Type Seven with an Eight Wing has no problem with pushing at the boundaries of others, and unlike the Seven with a Six Wing, they are more likely to confront people directly. Sevens with an Eight wing tend to be thrill-seekers and are always looking for the best out of life. 7w8s are very vital people.

7w8s may also push other people’s buttons in order to push others away, as the Eight wing is concerned with maintaining personal boundaries. Compare this to 8w7: 8w7 will attack others to maintain boundaries, while 7w8 will roughhouse with others to maintain boundaries. This aggressiveness is more playful than 8w7, although it can still be quite assertive.

The traits of the Seven and those of the Eight-wing produce a personailty combination which is very aggressive, since each component type is aggressive. Persons of this subtype are aggressive in two ways: in the demands they make on the environment and in the strength of their egos to enforce those demands. No one frustrates people of this subtype without hearing about it.

When healthy, Sevens with an 8 wing are often generous, gregarious and expansive.

Tend to be exceptionally loyal to their friends, especially when social subtype.

Leap aggressively to the defense of those they care for. Might seem loud or boisterous although some are urbane and witty.

Enjoy social celebrations, storytelling, jokes, food and travel.

Generally have a strong self-confidence for worldly matters and getting what they want.

Talent for making something out of nothing - entrepreneurial.

Usually share what they have when healthy, want everyone to enjoy their sense of bounty and wide range of interests.

When more entranced, they may be demanding, displaying a selfish impatience and a self-justifying narcissism.

May want what they want right now.

Aggressive, hasty drive to acquire money and material options and recognition.

Can demand that the people in their lives say only what the Seven wants to hear - sugarcoated truth.

Lash out angrily if reality doesn’t meet their expectations; sometimes vengeful.

Often perfectionistic as parents (low side of 1).

Moralize to others and then are themselves irresponsible.

Amnesia for promises made in an expansive moment.

Particular difficulty with sexual fidelity.

Healthy 7w8s:

Healthy people of this subtype are exuberant and enthusiastic, since they are fundamentally Sevens. The Eight-wing adds elements of self-confidence, will power, and self-assertion to help them overcome obstacles and endure whatever hardships might be in their paths. This subtype has a capacity for leadership. Persons of this subtype who are leaders are known for their quick minds and the brilliance of their personal style. They are typically extremely accomplished, since the Eight-wing’s self-confidence enables Sevens to engage in the widest variety of activities, and their strong egos allow them to go after what they want until they succeed at what they have begun.

With balance, 7w8 settles down. Becoming aware of the compulsive nature of the desire for excess and learning how to moderate the constant power-trip, healthy 7w8 finds that other people are much easier to get along with when they are not being pushed or receiving a hard-sell on some wild idea. Love and appreciation for subtlety become important aspects of a life that includes increasing amounts of silent, peaceful contemplation.

Highly integrated 7w8 discovers that by letting the mind’s chatter come to its own end, a new level of perception emerges, with a much greater understanding of how the world fits together. Instead of exploding outward into wildly impulsive activity, 7w8 harnesses enthusiasm for practical uses. Life becomes a joyful, loving celebration. Look how much we have been given! Jump into the beautiful universe with both feet! Find your power and become what you were meant to be! Average 7w8s:

Average people of this subtype are more practical, worldly, and cosmopolitan than Sevens with a Six-wing. They make their desires known, and pursue them with less regard for the needs, desires, or feelings of others, and sometimes without regard for law or morality. The aggressive note added by the Eight-wing makes people of this subtype more forecful and egocentric in everything they do. They are interested in having a lot of money, and because they are willful, they do what they must to obtain it. They do not tryto avoid conflicts; indeed, the reverse is usually the case: they are stimulated by confrontations because of the excitement which conflictsproduce. In general, this is a harder, more willful, and more selfish subtype. These people care principally about themselves, and are much more materialistic and hedonistic than Sevens with a Six-wing.

Average 7w8s are often aggressive and flamboyant. Seven’s talkativeness and charisma combine with eight’s outgoing power to create a personality that may be well-suited for starting big projects, but ill-suited for continuing them. Unlike the gentler 7w6, 7w8s are not afraid to make themselves unpopular. In fact, sometimes they seem to delight in generating shocked antipathy. 7w8 is not as careless of image as the rougher 8w7. 7w8 usually wants to be fun to look at, sometimes to colorful, elaborate extremes. Unhealthy 7w8s:

Unhealthy people of this subtype mix the manic traits of the Seven with the antisocial, violent traits of the Eight. They can be cmopletely ruthless, particularly if someone has what they want, whether it is a person or a thing. Because unhealthy Sevens fly out of control and unhealthy Eights overestimate their power, unhealthy people of this subtype are extremely reckless and dangerous. They may become physically destructive when they act out, with possibly devastating effects for others.

Under stress, 7w8 gets ever-wilder. When others fail to respond with enough enthusiasm to the high-pressure sales tactics, and the high of the latest exciting trip begins to wear off, it’s time for the next wild ride. Maybe just a little bigger dose will do it. New ideas seem to erase old problems, and each one is bigger and better than the last one. If it doesn’t work, forget it and move to the next grand scheme. You’ve got to try this, it’s totally fantastic!

As the highs get higher, the lows scrape lower. But the miserable mornings are soon forgotten, because there’s an even better high coming. What a fabulous idea I’ve got! All I need is a thousand bucks and you’ll get it all back next week! But first, lets have an all-night party to celebrate! Very unbalanced 7w8 heads into ever-deeper entrapments, promising ever-greater rewards to those who will finance (or otherwise support) rapidly exploding levels of excessive indulgence. It all leads inevitably to the great crash, and utter dissipation. Fearfully, psychotic 7w8 withdraws into a shell of total escapist fantasy, depressed and lost in exhaustion. Possibly, the law is hot on the trail by now, and jail is not far away.

Contrast:

Generally, the 7w6 is more grandiose and fantasy prone; the 7w8 is more grounded and earthy. 7w6s tend to have wild, fantastic imaginations while the 7w8s desires and thoughts tend to be more realistic and material in nature. the 7w6 dreams of traveling to far off magical lands while the 7w8s desires run more towards the “sex drugs and rock n roll” side of life. as such, the 7w6 is likely to be criticized as unrealistic or childish while the 7w8 is more likely to be criticized as base or shallow. Compare Peter Pan to Quentin Tarantino.

7w6 struggles more with the avoidant and over thinking aspects of type 7; 7w8 struggles more with the impulsive side of 7. 7w6s don’t generally think or care much about how people feel about them, but their 6 side will have a tendency to look back, think “oh no! did they have a point? did I miss something?” and they are more apt to trap themselves in a “mental hamster wheel” of sorts. the 7w8 on the other hand has a default strategy of “screw it, let’s roll bitches!” and are more likely to jump into less than ideal situations and suffer consequences because they didn’t think things through long enough.

7w8s thrive on conflict and playful aggression. 7w6s can generally hold their own in conflict and even enjoy it sometimes, but the 7w8 thrives on intense conflict whereas, after a point, the 7w6 will say “this isn’t fun anymore” and attempt to leave. (conflict for a 7w6 is generally more of a means to an end, whereas it sometimes is the end for a 7w8 looking for “amusement”).

The 7w8s interaction style tends to be edgier and have more of a “rile people up” style to it than the 7w6, who has a more delicate touch. 7w8s by nature are very intense people, and this can be rattling to those with more delicate sensibilities

7w8s are intensity junkies by nature. They tend to be attracted to things like extreme sports, rough housing/sparring and generally don’t mind a little pain. The 7w6 on the other hand has a much lower pain tolerance, and it is something they tend to avoid whenever possible.

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