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Sigh. It's YOI Ice Adolescence Mourning Hours. I'm more devastated than I thought I would be, given that I pretty much had the feeling that the cancellation was imminent. I know the collective fandom is mourning, and my chosen coping mechanism is probably going to be fanfic.

So. Anyone have good recs for Yuri on Ice! fanfic that maybe covers some ground on what the movie could have covered? Victor backstory? Or maybe artists who've been doing similar work? Young Victor at the Olympics? Post-canon Victuuri at the Olympics? Please share with your fellow fans and raise up the works of the amazing artists and writers in the community who've been keeping it alive.

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Has anyone ever noticed...that maybe Xie Lian cooks so poorly kinda on purpose?

In the flashback leading up to his second banishment, whenever his mother cooks for them all, the result is apparently disastrous, whereas, at THAT time, at least whatever Xie Lian prepared was described as "edible".

It could be that it's just edible by comparison and her cooking was the absolute worst to ever exist, but if Xie Lian's food in the present timeline could really be considered "edible," it wouldn't have nearly the same level of devastation (pour one out for Pei Jr.).

Maybe it's an unconscious act, but...doesn't it kind of feel like a subtle way of him remembering his mother? Even the way he names the dishes is like her. Usually mothers pass down dishes and cooking skills to their children, and in this case, even though the results were worse, Xie Lian ended up taking it to heart.

Siiigh my heart ACHES for this boy 😭😭😭 Before he developed his relationship with Hua Cheng, his mother is the first person he wanted to talk to after dealing with the aftermath of the fangxin guoshi arc and I'M. JUST. 😭😭😭

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Just finished reading TGCF volume 6 (the official English translation), and I AM INCONSOLABLE. TRULY. DEVASTATED.

It really brought me the absolute highest highs and lowest lows. I'm a mess.

Please send help.

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That TGCF bottled soup ad...

Glad we're continuing the animated gay donghua advertising trend. This one really took the cake for me.

LOOK AT HIS FACE! HE'S SO EXCITED GEGE IS DRINKING HIS SOUP!

LET'S LOVINGLY GAZE INTO EACH OTHER'S EYES AS WE ROMANTICALLY HOLD THE BOTTLED SOUP!!

Incredible. If advertising gave me more content like this, I would have no qualms with it and would buy products blindly.

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So, recently, I received the last book of SVSSS saga, and I instantly jumped to read, once again, Shen Jiu’s story chapter. And, oh boy. I’ve got things to say.

Spoiler’s ahead!!!!

Something I notice about MXTX’s writing is that, in a very subtle manner, their narrator’s way of telling the story changes based on whose character’s pov it is, so we can guess that the book’s narrator isn’t omniscient, but it’s actually a character’s inner voice. which isn’t anything new, as many users have pointed out that Shen Yuan isn’t a very reliable narrator, and some things of the books that are told from his pov don’t match with reality (the easiest example I can say is when sy and lgh reencounter after the eternal abyss. sy interpret’s lbg’s ‘dark gaze’ as his vengeful desire when actually half of the time he’s just being horny lol).

Something else I’ve noticed repeatedly, and kinda made me uncomfortable is sy’s portrayal of female disciples. Based on his belief that og!sqq preyed on his disciples, sy takes the liberty to make very perverted assertions that stay on the fictional side due to his fear of facing a similar ending as the one of the original goods. quoting some real phrases from the book:

“This was because he had designs on Ning Yingying—ah, no, more like the original Shen Qingqiu had designs on Ning Yingying!” (p. 34, first book).

“One can, however, imagine the result of daring to try to get a taste of the male lead’s woman!” (p. 35).

Or his description of the fight between Liu Mignyan and Sha Hualing:

“Every man dreamed of being caught between an angel and a devil. To watch them jealously vile for each other over him one moment, then risk life and limb for his sake in the next — that was the highest, most sacred, perverted fantasy of every male organism” (p. 112).

These aren’t the words of a neutral, omniscient narrator: these are Shen Yuan’s own thoughts. And he is a very perverted guy: it makes sense, as he was an avid reader of PIDW.

Following the conclusion that the narrator varies on the character’s pov, Shen Jiu’s story takes on a new meaning. Because all of the words in Chapter 24 are Shen Jiu’s own.

The Part 1 of the story starts with Shen Jiu on the streets, until Shiwu goes missing, and Yue Qi goes searching for him, with Sj following. The change to Part 2, which starts directly in the Qi mansions, is kinda abrupt. There are many reasons for something like this.

On one side, we can interpret that the story starts with Sj in the Qi mansions, and he was reflecting on his life to gauge how he ended up there. The sudden jump of events, which leaves us with a gap in information, can be due to trauma, or confusion: Sj isn’t entirely sure of what happened. That’s why this chapter is wholly written as a recount of events, from a man who, perhaps, needed to learn how to write and read to be able to put words to his life and story.

Shen Jiu’s reflections are born from his pain. At the end of Part 2, we get an explanation of how he ended in the Qi mansion:

“Shiwu should have been trampled to death, trampled into minced meat for thousands to spit upon. Qi-ge should have never gone back to save him […]

As Shen Jiu suffered through day after day of torment, he turned those sweet yet futile thoughts over and over again in his mind, drawing strength and comfort from them” (p. 90, fourth book).

This phrase is very powerful. I think that, as Shen Jiu suffers, he reflects more on his life until now, on the reasons that guided him there, on the actions of those around him, and on the path they should’ve followed. 

He wasn’t like that in Part 1. Even as a slave, he doesn’t reflect on his pain or suffering because he was pretty much the top game among slave boys, and as Yue Qi says, “the other party would be the one to end up suffering and bawling in terror” (p. 82).

It’s also very meaningful how Part 3 starts:

“Shen Jiu thought a lot about why Yue Qi never returned to look for him” (p. 90).

Yess, right after Sj thinks that Yq should never’ve returned to look for Shiwu. Coincidence? I don’t think so!

Sj says “go back to save him”, but the one who actually saves them both, Shiwu and Yq, is Sj. 

The question here is, does Shen jiu regret saving yue qi? Or is he afraid, as we see at the beginning of Part 3, that yue qi learned his lesson, and won’t come back to save a kid that could betray him at the end? Do you think that, after being imprisoned at the water prison, Shen Jiu considers himself a Shiwu too, betraying Yue Qingyuan and guiding the fall of the Cang Qiong Sect?

How do you think it felt for Sj to never get those answers either?

Before going foward, something very meaningful from Part 2 is Qi Jianluo’s reflections around Shen Jiu.

“As long as the boy remained obedient and honest, there would be no issues” (p. 88).

And “Humans must understand and repay kindness. Our family gave you the chance to play human, so even if it means repaying us with your life, that’s just how it should be.” (p. 89).

Who could you remember was obedient and honest? And wasn’t human?

Isn’t it awfully coincidental that the despicable way in which Qi Jianluo viewed Shen Jiu, is exactly what he tries to destroy in Luo Binghe? His honesty and obedience, his human side?

I’m not saying Sj did it intentionally, he clearly hated the boy, as stated in this chapter. But he made him the opposite of the weak, scorned version of himself.

And this is exactly what he says at the end of the chapter:

“Luo Binghe, everything you have today you owe to taking me as your master, so shouldn’t you thank me? Instead, you’re wholly unable to tell what’s good for yourself. As expected, you’re an ungrateful bastard” (p. 116).

Going forward, Part 3! Right off the bat, we have this beautiful phrase that just makes me go aghh:

“Shen Jiu even imagined walking to the ends of the earth looking for Yue Qi’s remains, and how, after finding them, he would dig him a grave with his own two hands. Perhaps he would even do his best to shed a tear” (p 90).

Let me remind you, that this is the only, single mention of crying in the whole chapter. From everything that Shen QingQiu has gone through, he has only thought of crying in the face of Yue Qi’s potential death.

He doesn’t cry when he receives the remains of Xuan Su, though. Because “This was not Yue Qi but Yue Qingyuan (p. 94).

Then, Shen Jiu puts it into words:

“Some people were rotten from birth. Shen Jiu thought of himself in exactly this way — someone vile and poisonous [ejem, like Shiwu, whose presence brought misfortune to his literal savior] from the start. Because, at that instant, he came to a crystal-clear realization:

That he’d rather have met a Yue Qi who’d died in some unknown corner, his remains unsightly and forgotten, than a Yue Qingyuan who was elegant and powerful, his prospects and future boundless” (p. 95).

This is exactly what I said before when I mention that Sj reflection’s starts from his pain, and his pain is born in the Qi household. Before, as a slave boy, Shen Jiu was actually the happiest. And that’s why he’d rather have a dead Yue Qi than an alive Yue Qingyuan: because he was still Shen Jiu, and he would be Shen Jiu until his death.

It’s right then and there, that Shen Jiu decides there’s something inevitably wrong in him, that he’s poisonous, scornful, and hateful.

And that word marks his future in Cang Qiong:

Part 4: “Shen Jiu hated far too many and far too many things” (p. 95).

But then, we get this phrase:

“I may be a hateful thing for most people, but luckily the Qing Jing Peak Lord doesn’t despise me” (p. 99)

Is Shen QingQiu hateful, or is he hated?

Also, “thing”. He’s a hateful thing. So he’s still not human.

Changing topics, on page 100, we get to see a new side of Shen Jiu: his reflection on the women of the Red Pavilion. I think it’s very interesting to compare it with Sy’s considerations of women. 

“Liking women wasn’t the least shameful, but treating women like saviors, cowering within their embrace and seeking courage from them… even without anyone saying it, Shen Qingqiu knew that was horrendously shameful”

From his wording, I don’t think Sj thinks badly of women: he thinks badly of himself. He considers that a man should be able to protect others, not be protected. The “horrendously shameful” thing is himself, and his pain.

And what’s really meaningful is when he says: “even without anyone saying it”. Because it shows us that many things Shen Jiu knows were taught by others’ words. Because he was a slave boy, with no education of the noble, or even human ways (as slaves aren’t considered people), and everything he gathers of life he is constantly learning from others.

So of course he is hateful, and of course, he doesn’t get along with others: he hasn’t learned how to (and how big of a coincidence is it that Shen Yuan, who’s from a wealthy family, is able to get along with his Martial siblings just fine?).

Shen Qingqiu also knows that the only reason he was able to become a Peak Lord, is thanks to Qiu Jianluo’s teachings:

“In the past, Qiu Jianluo had forced Shen Jiu to learn how to read and write. Shen Jiu had been unwilling to learn, had detested it to the point of madness, yet now it was only through his abilities in reading and studying—through being smarter than his peers—that he’d been able to earn the Qing Jing Peak’s lord’s favor. To make it even more laughable, of the thousands of possible names in this world, the peak lord had just happened to name him Qingqiu” (p. 101).

Doesn’t this remind you of something? I’m going to write this quote once again: 

“Luo Binghe, everything you have today you owe to taking me as your master, so shouldn’t you thank me? Instead, you’re wholly unable to tell what’s good for yourself. As expected, you’re an ungrateful bastard” (p. 116).

Just like Luo Binghe, Sj is where he is thanks to his abusive master. But never once does Sj regret his past:

“But no matter how laughable, no matter how it made him gnash his teeth, Shen Qingqiu still wanted that name, for this name represented that from now onward, a shining new life was his” (p. 116).

Notice the change of preposition, from “that” to “this”? That name is the Qiu name, and this name is the QingQiu name.

He is no Shen QingQiu, and no longer Shen Jiu.

“‘That name irritates me whenever I hear it. I’ve long forgotten it. So please, Zhangmen-shixiong, you should also discard it.’

[…] ‘ Then, the day you responder to it would be the day it no longer irritates you?’

[…] ‘ That would never happen’” (p. 101-102).

Shen Wingqiu wholeheartedly accepts his new name.

No matter what happened, we never see Shen QingQiu regretting his actions, neither cursing his fate. He accepts what life gives him, and he accepts his punishments. 

“What’s happened has happened! I’ve already ‘considered’ it hundreds and thousands of times! There is no ‘if’, no ‘in the beginning’—, there was never any chance of redemption!” (p. 111).

And you know why that is? Because he already considered it a lot after Shiwu’s betrayal.

Shiwu should have been trampled, Yue Qi shouldn’t have gone to save him (should’ve come to save Shen Jiu). But after that experience, Shen Jiu learns that should’ve and could’ve, and would’s aren’t worth anything, because, at the end of the day, his life never goes the way it should.

And he just accepts it: “Only when I see other people unhappy can I be happy myself” (p. 112).

This quote was very strange to me because it didn’t really match Shen Jiu’s actions. We don’t see him going out of his way to make others unhappy. (Except Luo Binghe lol. He openly admits to trying to murder him).

I think the situation was quite the opposite: It was when Shen Qingqiu was happy, that others were unhappy: when he was in the Warm Red Pavillion, others were unhappy. When he was with his female disciples, others were unhappy. When he succeeded as a disciple and became Peak Lord, others were unhappy. And when he was a slave, living alongside Yue Qi in the streets, he now believes Yue Qingyuan was unhappy too.

Shen QingQiu’s happiness came with the price of others’ happiness, and that’s why he comes to accept that he prefers others’ suffering, he accepts other’s hate.

The first time Shen Qingqiu is in the Linxhi Caves alongside Yue Qingyuan, he notices the crude markings on the walls, and asks him about it. What’s relevant of this scene is that it’s the first time Shen QingQiu is the one starting a conversation.

Before that, we always see Yue Qingyuan looking for Shen Qingqiu, talking to him, interrogating him, and a Shen Qingqiu reluctant to talk. In this scene, the opposite happens: Shen Qingqiu asks, and Yue Qingqiu ignores him.

Here we see, that in those fundamental moments that Shen Qingqiu is the one interested in something, others (Yue Qingyuan) are distant.

Last but not least, I’d like to bring some of the last lines of the chapter to light:

“He had singlehandedly created the Luo Binghe of today, but who had singlehandedly wrought this ending of Shen Qingqiu’s?

Yue Qingyuan shouldn’t have met this kind of fate” (p. 117).

THIS

THIS PHRASE

Made me go ughrr oh my god.

First of all, the acceptance: like yeah, I made the devil. It came to bite me in the ass. Okey.

But does he regret that? NO! He regrets being who he is. What he is. He regrets what he became: he regrets being hated, being unhappy, he regrets being mean, not because of what it caused him, but because of the person he became.

Shen Qingqiu never, not even once feels pity for his ending, for being tortured and mutilated. He only regrets being unhappy.

And also, he blames Yue Qingyuan for it. 

Because it isn’t a coincidence that after that question, he mentions Yue Qingyuan’s name. First of all is a literary resource. Second, it’s the clear association of the narrator’s mind as he builds a sequence.

He blames Yue Qingyuan for the person he became, and also blames Yue Qingyuan for not being able to avoid the person he became: he denies his cruel destiny.

Yue Qingyuan shouldn’t have met this kind of fate.

Because Shen Qingqiu only ever wished for the death of Yue Qi.

This chapter’s narrator is a very sharp, and concise one. He goes from scene to scene, from thought to thought, abandoning fluency and just concentrating on a list of events. This is a reflection of Shen Jiu’s mind: a recollection of traumatic events that brutally shaped him into the man he became.

We see very little emotion, very short pieces of a sentimental being that laze themselves as puzzle pieces trying to make the shape of a deeply traumatized man.

I said it before, and I say it again: SVSSS is a masterpiece, is a book that will become a classic and be analyzed by literary critics in universities (or it should become. we can only hope).

And MXTX is one of the best current fiction writers in the world.

Thanks for coming to my ted talk lol

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Oh noooooooooooooo!

But doing THAT would mean admitting my blorbo/sweet little meow meow isn’t 100% upright and morally correct and THAT would mean that the object I’ve been projecting on to represent either myself or my tastes and values is FLAWED and MAYBE IT MEANS I need to reexamine both myself and the way I view humanity as a whole in terms that aren’t purely black and white. 

IT’S SO HAAAAARD.

dear diary

will today be the day that the mdzs fandom collectively recognizes that the novel frames every act of revenge--whether it is perpetrated by xue yang, wei wuxian, jin guangyao, nie mingjue, or nie huaisang--as an indefensible act of violence and violation with far-reaching consequences, even if the acts themselves are narratively consistent with each character's core motivations and values?

is today the day we will collectively stop and acknowledge that one of the novel's core themes is that the cycle of vengeance is both unsustainable and inherently self-destructive, and that there is no 'right way' to carry out a revenge killing?

..yeah I didn't think so either.

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Guys. GUYS. GUSY. GUYYSYSS. IT’S A WORD OF HONOR WAFFLE HOUSE AU. I REPEAT: A WORD OF HONOR WAFFLE HOUSE AU.

Read it here

It’s delightful, hilarious, and absurd in all the ways that both Word of Honor and Waffle House are. I just wanted to let everyone and their mother know that perfection exists.

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Mobei Jun: dear diary, Shang Qinghua is SO dreamy!💕♥️ Today when I beat him he sprang right back up and asked if I needed anything more! I nearly begged him to take me right then and there!🥵 He's so small but so full of spite and malice and it just makes me want to swoon! He's just so sexy! I hope is appreciates the extra punch today!

*meanwhile on An Ding*

Shang Qinghua: Mobei Jun is the worst and hottest boss and I want a fucking raise.

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Man. All these bot followers really get me excited for 2 seconds until I see a profile pic of some sexy lady making a duck face at a mirror. Sigh.

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okay so it’s like. scum villain is an unpolished, tropey danmei novel. scum villain is a funny and incisive parody and genre deconstruction. scum villain is a fix-it fic for a story that doesn’t exist. scum villain is a comedy. scum villain is a tragedy. scum villain is about cycles of abuse, changing your fate, and taking responsibility for the things that happen in your life. it’s a romance where the main character is too dim to figure out he’s in love even when he’s literally married. it’s about guilt and forgiveness. it’s about internet culture, and making fun of bad sex scenes in webnovels, then turning around and writing an even worse sex scene yourself. it’s about toxic relationships and chances for growth. it’s about realising that the people around you are people, with more depth and humanity and complex inner lives than you might have given them credit for. scum villain is about— and i cannot stress this enough— dick jokes.

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MXTX couples rated by whether or not they should have a kid:

Wangxian 11/10 should have not only one kid but several. Look how well they did with Sizhui. They're fabulous parents. They'd be thrilled with more babies.

Hualian -3/10 should never be responsible for children again. Oh my god. One of them was FULLY a disguised god and they didn't even realize because they barely remembered to feed him

Bingqiu 1/10 probably wouldn't be too bad at taking care of biological needs but SQQ has Wine Aunt energy and is bad enough with his disciples. Also Binghe would get jealous of his own child.

Moshang 7/10 would do well with kids! Should... probably wait a bit to figure out the logistics and get into a more stable point in their relationship, but they'd be good parents.

FengQing 4/10 would probably not fuck up immediately or super badly but shouldn't keep a child around for more than like. A week. Good babysitters, still shouldn't have their own

Beefleaf -100000000/10 are you kidding me here

3zun and any internal pairings 6/10 I think they'd think a kid could fix them. Not a good reason to have a kid! They'd still do it, though. The kid would probably only be MILDLY traumatized.

Any Jiang Cheng ship 1/10 Jiang Cheng is fabulous as an uncle. 100/10 should have more niblings. Should not have kids of his own because of his many neuroses

[sailormelanie]

I have had a galaxy brain moment

Okay so like everyone else I have suggested that Shang Qinghua post canon gets wife plotted at times

But of course he doesn't

Mobei Jun gets the wife plots

Look at Moshang's relationship:

- They meet a crossroads when Mobei Jun is on the run from attackers. He then faints and is rescued by a man who pledges his life to him and who then nurses him back to health

- Mobei Jun gets knocked off a cliff and Shang Qinghua without hesitation races after to catch him as he falls in a dramatic save

- saves Mobei Jun from a scheming older relative trying to steal his birthright

Mobei Jun is a goddamn damsel in distress

God imagine things post canon:

Shen Qingqiu gets kidnapped and who is waiting there also captured?

Mobei Jun

And Shen Qingqiu still isn't quite used to it so is agitated and worried about how Binghe is going to be upset as things

Meanwhile, Mobei Jun is just in "waiting for Hero Qinghua" mode and perfectly content

In fact he considers this to be just elaborate foreplay at this point

Shen Qingqiu: this is the worst! This has ruined my day completely! Isn't this just terrible

Mobei Jun: *in the middle of daydreaming about how sexy Shang Qinghua is in hero mood and of getting railed* I'm sorry what?

Meanwhile Shang Qinghua and Luo Binghe are reluctantly allied together to save their spouses but end up a pretty good team much to their mutual annoyance

It gets to a point where Shang Qinghua and Luo Binghe will catch the other alone going in the opposite direction and they both just give a world weary nod of acknowledgement and continue on their separate husband saving endeavours

At one point the half seriously discuss the option of chaining them up in the same place for keepsies but abandon the idea when they realise they probably would still have something happen to them on a weekly basis

(also sqq and mbj would not allow it at all)

Anyway Mobei Jun is the one getting wife plotted

Fight me

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Wanted to draw a piece based on the Chinese story about the emperor who cut the sleeve of his robe instead of rousing his lover who had fallen asleep on it ^^ Def something Hua Cheng would do <3

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man the replies and tags on my last reblog are so wild... people are so adamant that jgy and wwx have NOTHING in common, as if it offends them personally that the protagonist and the antagonist are intentional parallels to make a point about society (and not about their individual morality)

"jgy did it for himself" (nothing wrong with wanting to be respected/ not insulted everywhere he goes)

"jgy killed people for ambition" (no, he killed people for self preservation + everyone in the jianghu kills people for less?)

"jgy married his sister and killed his son" (the in/cest was accidental, he married her to protect her reputation instead of repudiating her, and he ALLEGEDLY killed his son, but this accusation is only raised by notorious gossip sect leader Yao in the novel, so ymmv)

"jgy never helped anyone else (unlike wwx)" This one is just WILD? Even ignoring all of the above, this one just shows you have not been paying attention to him. What about that time he won the war for the Sunshot forces, saved NMJ's life in Nightless city, saved Lan Xichen in hiding, rebuilt the Cloud Recesses, built the Watchtowers that saved thousands of commoners over the years (many more than some random night hunt by the gentry ever had), and single handedly gave a decade of peace and prosperity to the jianghu?

That is not to say he did not commit atrocities to protect himself (again, he was hardly the only one to do so) but... way to absolutely ignore all of the significant, enormous good he did. He saved so, so many more people than anyone else in the story. Tenfold, a hundredfold more. I have to assume not much thought was spared to JGY's motivations to have such an incomplete and two-dimensional view of him... I encourage you to think past the villain bias and go back to the actual story to fact check (and for what it's worth, if you've only seen CQL/The Untamed I assure you you don't have all the facts!)

The salient point is that mxtx makes these parallels between wwx and jgy on purpose, and none of it is about who is "good" or "bad" and what is "deserved". You do the story a disservice by flattening it to good vs bad., and besides it simply does not work if you read it that way: if the story were simply about good people winning and bad people getting their due, how do you explain what happened to XXC, WQ, WN, etc?





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Why are heavenly demons only good at being loserboy babygirls like why is that the only thing they can do successfully

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Outing myself here as a Jiang Cheng apologist. By the end of this post, maybe I’ll even be a stan, who knows!

I was browsing MDZS fan discourse on the relationship between Jiang Cheng and Wei Wuxian and found some fans frustrated with fanfic portrayals of their relationship being more friendly than it is in canon.

I hard disagree on that, but I certainly get it. (spoilers for MDZS obvi, if for whatever reason you haven’t read it/finished reading it)

Or rather, I agree that Wei Wuxian and Jiang Cheng dislike each other (or parts of each other), but I contend that they still very much love each other. The problem is that, at least in canon, neither of them knows how to love the other in the right away. Their upbringing just complicates things a lot :/ Weird family shit. Weird BROTHER shit too, tbh.

All of their conversations, even during their teen years, don’t really feel “loving” (though I would still contend that their combative-ness is a form of love). Their interactions in general feel awkward at times, and words feel constantly loaded, with both of them leaving those interactions feeling relieved that it’s over. But all the actions they take on behalf of the other are surely indicative of some form of love (JC rushing without rest to save WWX from the Xuanwu of Slaughter cave; WWX GIVING HIS GOLDEN CORE TO JC; JC distracting the Wen soldiers from WWX; JC tirelessly searching for WWX when he’s presumed dead at the hands of the Wen; WWX cutting himself off from the Jiangs because while he can’t compromise on his ideals, he’s not willing to drag the sect down with him etc. etc. etc.).  By the end of canon, they may not be friends, but they’re certainly family :P Essentially, when it comes to these 2, the mantra seems to be, “I can’t love you with my words, but my actions should speak for me.”

Which like. Ugh. UGH. ACTIONS ARE ALSO GOOD, BUT PLEASE USE YOUR WORDS.

I don’t mean to speak for “The Community” (I’m an ABC), but this kind of dislike-love relationship feels pretty typical of a Chinese family dynamic.

Anyway, this is why I like reading fics (post-canon, AU or otherwise) in which they learn to communicate and/or they learn how to interpret the actions of the other, because although it’s definitely softer than what we see in canon, I like to hope that even the worst relationships can be remedied so long as love is at the baseline. Maybe I’m projecting a bit, but I think there’s enough textual evidence to at least support the basic idea.

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We will never have equality until we have this.

And...a bunch of other stuff. But especially this. 

Homophobia is alive and real because yuri doesn't have as much fucking and sucking in it as yaoi does.