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[self-made-sir]

Male privilege examples that don't track to trans men (and frankly are less available to trans men than to cis women):

Being preferred in employment. Trans men are less employable than cis women, and are less likely to have a job, or to have a safe and well-paying job, than cis women. Firing somebody for being trans is legal in many places, and many trans people struggle not just with unemployment but lack of housing too. On top of this, medically (and socially, tbh) transitioning frequently requires access to large amounts of money, setting trans people back further financially than cis people of the same class. This culmination of financial impact can affect all areas of life for some people.

Being seen as more competent. Trans men are in fact seen as dumber, whinier, and more mentally ill and perverted than cis women. Nobody on earth has ever assumed that trans men are smarter or more skilled than cis women, and trans mens' accomplishments are written into history as cis female accomplishments when recognised at all. Being transgender was (still is, in some places) considered a mental illness or criminal offence, and interpersonally is often seen as proof of 'degeneracy'/brainwashing/relative personal incapacity.

Access to sexual autonomy and health. Trans men are routinely denied not just space and permission to be sexually active without judgement/pathologisation/criminalisation, but also all resources used to keep trans men alive, from pap smears to birth resources to safe sex advice built for our bodies. We are more likely to receive sexual and domestic violence than even cis women and have less access to resources and help when it happens to us. This is compounded by higher rates of financial insecurity, homelessness, and institutionalisation. We are sometimes expected to detransition to receive help.

Safety in public or at night. See above wrt sexual abuse, and add that being trans in public is met with more scrutiny and violence than being a cis woman. Recent politicisation of trans people in public spaces such as bathrooms has made it even more dangerous.

Being given more space. Don't make me laugh. In feminism, in trans spaces, in our own daily lives, workplaces, projects, politics, wherever we exist -- trans men are given less space to speak and exist than cis men and cis women. Period.

Feel free to add on.

[self-made-sir]

If you cannot conceptualize the gendered oppression of ALL trans people without trying to force cis-based gender dynamics onto them, you are not an ally to ALL trans people.

You do not have ALL trans people's best interests at heart. You ARE transphobic. You ARE exorsexist.

And yes, you are still those things even if you are trans and/or nonbinary yourself. Lateral bigotry is real and you are contributing to it. Fix your heart and learn to care more about the other members of your own community.

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a historical transman:"despite being born as a woman, i changed my name since my youth, dressed as a man of my time, refered to myself with he/him pronounce and would literally fight anyone who ever dared to question my manhood with violence and all that i did through most of my life which lasted for decades until my very last breath. also please dont inspect my corpse. thanks."

some "feminists": omg what a girlboss!!🫢🤗 she was such an icon for going through all of that just to achieve success in male dominated jobs!!🙌 what a shame she was forced to pretend to be a guy tho🥺🙄 but dont worry queen!!😉 we will make sure to write you in as one of the greatest women in history!!😘 we got you bestie!!! 🎀🫶

[self-made-sir]

The infantilization of trans men leads to them being called women and "confused little girls." Infantilization isn't a direct association to womanhood, but when it comes down to trans men being infantilized, they are almost always seen as "whiny little girls who are lost" and not actual men. So me saying "get, stop doing this because this will happen" is not me attacking womanhood. If you think that, you need to rethink why you think that

Please stop infantilizing trans men and mascs. It reduces us back to our womanhood, which is transphobic. We do not like being infantilized and it is very much a micro aggression when you infantilize us, so please stop.

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It's not me saying womanhood is a reduction. What I'm saying is that we don't want to be seen as women anymore and you saying that we are women is you putting us back into that box that we, trans men, have left.

Please stop infantilizing trans men and mascs. It reduces us back to our womanhood, which is transphobic. We do not like being infantilized and it is very much a micro aggression when you infantilize us, so please stop.

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It's not a reduction. I never said that. And why is it bad that I personally don't want to be perceived as a woman?

Please stop infantilizing trans men and mascs. It reduces us back to our womanhood, which is transphobic. We do not like being infantilized and it is very much a micro aggression when you infantilize us, so please stop.

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No offense but I think if you’ve only read one book on trans theory then maybe you shouldn’t be posting about trans theory.

“Trans men who dont pass are treated like cis women” says the popular cis blogger and everyone just agrees. Don’t look at the stats of how trans men are treated differently than cis women. Just go “lalala non-passing trans men are treated like women”

[self-made-sir]

????? gotta be one of the most bad faith takes on the term transandrophobia i've ever seen and that is SAYING SOMETHING

[self-made-sir]

Not to be that guy, but saying “I hate all men, including trans men because I’m not transphobic.”, doesn’t make you less hateful. Nor does it make you less transphobic.

You’re essentially saying “if you choose to express yourself in the way that makes you most comfortable, I am going to hate you. I hate you for a core part of your being that has very little to do with whether or not you are actually deserving of hate.”

Discouraging trans men from actually being men because they do not wish for you to hate them, is transandrophobia.

Being a man and/or being masculine is not inherently evil, nor is it worthy of hate. Men are not a monolith and treating them like they are is only pushing them into the “well, you hate me so why should I help you?” camp.

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Yeah, we know they affect our real life body. That's legit the whole point

btw you can be nonbinary and on hormones. they don't have to be a lifelong commitment you can just try them for a bit

[self-made-sir]

"trans mascs have to be strong defenders" "trans fems are all helpless damsels" take your toxic gender roles and shove them up your ass

[self-made-sir]

The infantilization of trans men and mascs almost always leads back to us being seen as women. We don't like either part of it, the transphobia or the misogyny part.

Also, infantilizing isn't inherently womanly but more times than not, women, whether you're perceived as one or used to be one, get infantilized. That doesn't make it right.

Please stop infantilizing trans men and mascs. It reduces us back to our womanhood, which is transphobic. We do not like being infantilized and it is very much a micro aggression when you infantilize us, so please stop.

[self-made-sir]

Oh and a special fuck you to people who sexualize trans men but don’t stand up for us in reference to our oppression and not only that, but downplay what we go through.

[self-made-sir]

Please stop infantilizing trans men and mascs. It reduces us back to our womanhood, which is transphobic. We do not like being infantilized and it is very much a micro aggression when you infantilize us, so please stop.

[self-made-sir]

btw you can be nonbinary and on hormones. they don't have to be a lifelong commitment you can just try them for a bit

[self-made-sir]

what a lot of you don't understand about the patriarchy is that it's fundamentally different from other hierarchies of oppression. Almost nobody out there is like "we should kill all women." The people that do think that are a very, VERY small minority. The whole idea of patriarchy is that in order to have power, or feel better about yourself, you have to pick a group to have power over. The root of the issue is not "men are superior and everyone should be men," it's "I'm going to pick this arbitrary trait to lord over other people and convince people with that same trait to do the same." If there aren't any women, patriarchy fails, and they have to pick something else.

THAT is why transmasculinity is so revolutionary. You are actively breaking that border by crossing it. You are standing up to the most fundamental part of the patriarchy - the difference between men and women. You are saying that no, I can be whoever the fuck I want. I can be a man, and so can anyone else. You are scaring the upholders of patriarchy because if we don't have women- we don't have power over a group anymore. Why do you think transmasculinity is so heavily tied to feminist and lesbian movements?

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"oh, everyone is a little bit bi"

No, not everyone is a "little bit bi" Jessica cuz if everyone was a little bit bi, then bisexuals wouldn't get as much hate as they already do and if everyone was a little bit bi, then being with whatever gender you wanted to be with that's outside of your typical straight relationship wouldn't be as big of an issue as it already is.