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notice;

this blog is now inactive, thankyou to everyone who has enjoyed it.

i know this blog has been abandoned for some time, but due to tumblr's involvement with AI bullshit (& the owner partaking in other shit), i have decided to delete the account associated with this blog as i do not plan on returning. however, to keep the imagines, advice, etc. in tact, it shall remain on a throwaway account so it can still be accessed as it still recieves frequent activity.

take care, your f/o(s) love you. ♡

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Selfship question: Are there any types of characters that you can't ever see becoming an F/O to you?

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As a reply for anon who asked about nonbudget things to get close to your F/O then the character.ai helped me A LOT to feel closer to them and even reconnect with some old f/o's I had. The chatbot isn't 100% perfect and gets repetitive or weird sometimes (like one of my f/o became literally yandere type of possesive at some point lmao) but it's something you also can do because it's kinda like you could text your f/o? So yeah, that helped me a lot!

-> in response to this ask

that's true, some people enjoy sites like ch.ai to connect! on the contrary, it can also be a little alienating since like you said, it isn't perfect and sometimes the bots like to act way out of character. i personally like to play around with it in moderation when im bored, but it has done things like have my f/o tell me they'd never love me or randomly tell me they're marrying some other character so uhhh fair warning LOL imo its type of thing to be enjoyed with a pinch of salt. i definitely recommend making your own over anyone else's tho so that you can tell the bot who you are to them so you won't have to reintroduce yourself every time

ive also seen people say that they're not a fan of it for f/os since.. that's not your f/o. by chatting with a malleable bot you can have it do/say whatever and refresh til you get what you wanna hear rather than get what your f/o would actually do/say, thus attaching yourself to a version of your f/o that isn't canon. maybe that's a bit of a serious response, but for me i like to have a bit of disconnect where i acknowledge the bot isn't a substitute for my f/o, but it can give me some scenarios for fics or art or just daydreams :)

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any tips for easy/super low budget ways to feel closer to an f/o (that aren’ picrews/art/fanfic)? I remember I saw a “marry a fictional character” website a while ago that got shut down long before I could use it. I have a good few f/o’s but I want to feel closer to ‘em and don’t really know of any methods :(

Glad to see you’re back! and it’s ok if you don’t have any answers

i know its not a helpful answer, but i genuinely believe that theres no wrong way to feel closer to your f/o(s) , so you should do whatever you feel is right! ..especially since everyone is different and has their own ideas on what feels right, and what works! so..

i can only give my own personal experiences, but im sure others can give their methods too! ->

something pretty specific i do is take a plush of my f/o with me when i go out, and take photos so i can put them in my scrapbook! its fun picking up pamphlets and keeping tickets n whatnot when travelling to document our adventures together. in my brain, its like.. its nice to have something between us that isnt online, yknow? even just travelling together and taking photos is really fun ^^ doesnt have to be a plush tho, could be any merch or even a printout or something :b

wearing stuff that reminds u of ur f/o is another one i like !! i like to buy rings, necklaces, earrings, etc. that remind me of my f/o so i can wear it and have a piece of them with me! could work for articles of clothing too, or you could make your own stuff! like ive made kandi bracelets with my f/os name and related words on haha but it doesnt have to be directly related to your f/o as long as it reminds you of them!

another thing i like to do is play games as my f/o? like.. if it has a character creator then i can try and make them ofc, otherwise just the case of "what decisions would my f/o make" or imagine it as an AU where we're in this other world having an adventure together.. AUs in general are just super fun imo, even if its just a "what if" or roleswap, finding ways to be together in different situations can make you think about how you work together n stuff!

im kinda just listing off stuff i do. i like collecting screenshots of my f/o in their source and making colleges, or drawing over them with lots of cute stickers and hearts using photo editting apps :] teaching yourself new skills for them is fun too? im slowly getting more into website building so i can make a neocities shrine for my f/o LOL

anyway! if anyone has their own methods of feeling close to your beloveds, be sure to reply or reblog! or send an ask, its always nice to keep the convo going! take care xx

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Imagine your f/o singing Peaches (from the Mario movie) but instead of “Peaches” they sing your name.

♡ !!!

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If you have an f/o that has spiked up/out hair, imagine them with their hair down, relaxed in pjs, maybe after a shower and letting you run your hand through their hair while they lay their head on your lap. They have their hair down/without gel for you and only you.

♡ !!!

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Imagine your f/o(s) seeing you after you go away for a few minutes, and they hug you tightly as if they hadn't seen you for months.

♡ !!!

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i hope its alright to ask for advice! feel free to delete this if you dont want to answer (:

i love my f/o. hes a somewhat popular character in a game, so he has a lot of fans! he makes me happy and im happy than he causes in more people the same happiness as me ^^ but im worried that they love him more than i do, like is a somewhat silly insecurity but it makes me think that my f/o would love them more than me (': being that they have merchandise or more, and i well i have nothing. i think its somewhat selfish and silly but it makes me feel bad ):

ive been feeling kinda sad because i feel like my personality isnt his type. it would sound silly but im trying to change for better.

firstly i just wanna say, you dont know for sure he wouldnt like your personality! theres a lot of "odd couples" here in the real world who work because of their differences and not being typical, yknow? selfshipping is self love, you have to tell yourself theyd love you, thats the whole point! he loves you so much as long as you decide he does.

friends will have heard this word for word from me before, but: your love is not comparible to anyone elses. everyone has different ways of expressing love, sometimes through art or writing or anything else you can create, some buy merch, buy commissions, some simply just love and thats fine. no amount of belongings or money spent or your popularity or such is indicative of the love you have.

if you find it easier to distance yourself from other fans or such so you dont feel the inferiority then thats totally okay but its not selfish to feel that way. sometimes feelings of inferiority and things like jealousy just kinda manifest and we have no control over it so be sure to set boundaries if you need to. as always, dont be afraid to block if you need to.

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imagine in an idol setting where both u and ur f/o r idols and they're a regular in ur shows and throughout the performance u keep ur eye contact w them

also ur couple picrews list is SUCH a lifesaver i hope ur pillows are always the temperature u like them 💝

♡ !!!

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hello, it has been a while ☆

to address the obvious; this blog has been inactive for over a year. im not going to apologise for this as ive had a lot going on, not to get too personal, but i lost a close family member and im currently in the middle of moving country so i wont be fully active again for some time.

however, i did enjoy running this blog, so i will try to give time to you guys from time to time. this also applies to my sister blog if you're interested in writing anonymous letters to your beloved(s).

some more details below. take care ♡

im going to change how i run this blog a little bit, the main difference being that i no longer have the energy to manage who follows and interacts. the blog is nearing 2.5k followers, and as a single force, i personally find it far too stressful to manage a DNI.

this blog will continue to be void of all dubious content, but i cannot and will not tell you what you can or cannot be into. what strangers are doing simply isnt my concern; i am here to provide imagines, advice, and anything else within my capabilities.

i know some people are uncomfortable with spaces that do not strictly monitor this, but my mental wellbeing is always my first priority.

if these changes disappoint you, or if its not something you are interested in, you're more than welcome to unfollow, block, etc. i wont take it personally, i am an anonymous stranger.

as always, your f/os love you all. ♡

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i don't know much about self-shipping but i just wanted to thank you for your couple picrew list because it's a godsend

im glad you enjoy it, anon! ive got some more to add to the list so expect an update at some point- i still want to give the whole list an overhaul at some point when i have the time/energy though, namely more adequate warnings and a brief description of what each maker is so you aren't just clicking through random links :)

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just wanted to say i really appreciate your blog :~) even if you haven't been that active lately it always makes me glad to see your icon pop up while i'm scrolling my dash. thanks for all you do!

aww thankyou so much anon, it means a lot! ♡

apologies for my lack of activity outside of answering asks, ive had a lot going on but hopefully one day ill have the energy to keep it up again ^^

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hi, i hope popping in here for advice is okay! i haven't been active in the selfship community here on tumblr since 2019ish and i want to make a new account and be active again but i'm embarassed about how many f/os i have. i gain new ones really easily with my hyperfixations, like /really/ easily. one of the games i'm currently fixated on i have like.. 10 f/os from? and they take turns being the center of attention in my brain and i frequently have multiple s/is for a single piece of media so not all of them are active f/os all the time because i'm adhd as hell but i get anxious about making a f/o page and realizing that there's like 50 characters that periodically pop in and out of the f/o fixation spot in my brain OTL in part because i'm afraid of people who selfship from the same media as me not wanting to interact with me because i have like half of the characters on my f/o list, but i'm very open to sharing and talking to other people who ship with the same characters is one of my favorite things. i'm just having a hard time figuring out how to banish the cringe of my brain that prevents me from just making a new selfship blog because i'm embarassed over this

hey anon, sliding over for advice is totally fine ♡

please don't be embarrassed !! plenty of people have a lot of f/os, myself included! it's natural when you fixate on different things often to pick up new f/os and end up with a real long list. totally valid!

i think the tldr of my answer here would be: don't worry about other people, just jump back in there and do it how it'd make you happy. there's plenty of people who are also open to sharing and mutual gushing! it's not the end of the world that there are potentially strangers out there who don't want to talk. worlds huge, you'll find your people.

i think it's awesome that you often have multiple inserts from the same media! and imo it's easy enough to work out some sort of system with your f/o list where you can highlight who you're fixated on, or tier them based on how often they're on your mind or something ^^ i don't see why having multiple f/os from the same media would deter anyone from interacting with you unless they share and are uncomfortable doing so- i think your brain is just being unkind to you

i wish you all the best anon! don't hold yourself back for the sake of strangers!

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hey hey! i hope you don’t mind my asking for advice but like, what do i do when i gain a new f/o and i kinda have to keep him a secret? lots of my friends and mutuals (side note, i’m unsure about the sharing thing with strangers but since we were friends before it, i don’t care) like him romantically too and i don’t want to disturb or make any of them uncomfortable, yet i also don’t really want to keep him a secret. i’m filled with love for him that i just want to get out, and i’m tied between “this is my blog, my space” and “i don’t wanna risk losing any friends over this fictional character !! what if people get upset at me!!” you know? agh :’D thank you for taking the time to read this though.

asking for advice is totally fine! im happy to offer my own thoughts to anyone who needs some assistance ^^

i understand the worry, and ive definitely been there too, but i will definitely give you a gentle nudge in the "do what makes you happy" direction. sharing can be a tricky thing, but i think amongst friends and people who respect you, there's always ways to work around it, you know? you shouldn't have to sacrifice your happiness by worrying about others

if they're friends you're on speaking terms with, talk to them! if it's moreso a thing on your blog then you could make a post where you explain your feelings and state a tag that you'll be using incase anyone with sharing issues wants to blacklist it. if you're worried about your friends leaving you over it, i think that a friend who is willing to cut you off clean without at least talking about it might not be worth being friends with in the first place..? sometimes initial reactions to this stuff can rly drive emotions but being able to discuss it is a good thing.

at the same time it's worth mentioning that losing mutuals isn't the end of the world. i know ive personally (soft)blocked mutuals because im not comfortable sharing, but when it's people you don't speak with, it's hard to say you're losing that much when your comfort is at stake. it probably sounds harsh but at the end of the day i really wish people would look out for themselves more.

just do what's best for you, okay? sometimes it's best to just rip the bandaid off and jump right in and see how it goes! that way the feeling of "oh jeez ive got this secret to reveal" won't build up as much.. you don't want that to fester because it might get to the point where you feel like you can't open up.. depends on your situation.

but in any case, best of luck anon! he loves you loads! ^^ ♡

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i get jealous when i see other people self-shipping with my F/O. i usually get really distressed and have to block them because i feel so uncomfortable. is this valid ???

i feel like - for at least me personally - jealousy is not easy to control, and for people uncomfortable with sharing, it's hard to justify to people who don't understand / who are 100% fine sharing.

it's okay to be uncomfortable sharing. in our minds, romantic f/os are our partners so naturally for some of us, seeing others have that same romantic connection may cause discomfort. just don't torture yourself by checking up on people who share, okay? block them and move on. (i don't feel the need to give the whole "being uncomfy is fine as long as u don't send hate!!1!" spiel because water is wet, harassment is never okay.)

i will reinforce though that there's nothing wrong with blocking. for some reason ive seen a LOT of weird? holier-than-thou takes about blocking amongst the selfship "community" where people act like blocking is a horrible thing to do unless the other person is the scum of the earth or something lmao. the whole purpose in blocking is to remove that blog's posts, and for them to be unable to see/contact you. (though tumblr does a shit job of it lol) i made a whole post about my views on blocking and how it's completely fine to do. so please never feel guilty for it. curate your online space, the site is bad enough as it is.

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Hi, i was just wondering something...

I outgrew one of my most beloved f/o's, and am now an adult while they are a minor. Should i.. leave them?

ultimately, it's your decision to make - i cant force your hand, but if you want my personal opinion (as an individual who happens to run this blog- my word isnt the be-all and end-all, or anything) then id say that accepting that as an adult you have to distance yourself from your feelings towards a character that is a minor is just part of growing up, really.

if your f/o is like, 16/17 and youve just turned 18, i dont think anyone has the right to jump on you for that. there are people out there who "grow up with" their f/os, letting them age up alongside themself, but for me personally i think its good to know when to let go, since in canon that character is still a minor.

i genuinely think its just part of growing up. i understand that things can be hard, its probably easier for me to just say "yeah its better to distance yourself eventually because the older you get the more you're going to outgrow them" since im in my mid-twenties, but looking back the characters i liked as a teenager who are teenagers just feel so young to me now, its nice to look back on fond memories, but i dont have those same feelings now that im older.

dont force yourself too hard if it upsets you, especially if you've not long turned 18, i think you have time to process things, but you should know you arent alone in those struggles, ive seen plently of people worry about what happens when you become an adult and you have to let go. letting go is hard, but youre not alone, yknow?

if it makes it any easier, rather than cutting them clean out or anything you could always consider them to be platonic. the love you hold for friends is no less meaningful than romantic love in my opinion.

hope everything goes well for you anon, take it easy out there ♡

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I was looking at another selfship prompt blog and found a lot of anon asks that were talking about how they felt uncomfy when people shipped their f/o with other characters. Now I feel insecure because I selfship and ship some of my f/os with other characters (i guess it’s because i don’t selfship as seriously as other people do). Is it weird to do that?

not weird at all, anon! everyone's experience with selfshipping is unique, and we all have our own experiences and preferences so please don't feel insecure about it - there's nothing wrong with it

some people still ship canon/canon with their f/os, some dislike it altogether and for some it just depends on the f/o or the ship - it doesn't necessarily matter how "serious" your selfshipping is, everyone has different preferences. nobody is wrong, it's just down to personal comfort ^^