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whoever decided that there are stages of grief and felt the need to define them can lick the bottom of my shoe. grief is not a step-by-step process. it is the ins and outs. the rising and falling of the tide. one day you feel free and the next you are sobbing into your steering wheel. you can experience anger and denial simultaneously and as many times as necessary until you heal. you will heal. don’t allow anyone to make you believe that your emotions should be anything predictable. you are the ocean and that is how it is meant to be.

- Whitney Hanson, Home

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I used to extinguish under the weight of living, but one day, I reached into my chest, dusted off my courage, and asked myself "where's your fire?"

d. antoinette foy

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Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside us while we live.

Norman Cousins

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Those who are heartless, once cared too much.

Davy Jones

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For many years, I thought if I allowed myself to feel the full impact of my mother's early death, the sorrow might never end. And then what? How would I function? Who would piece me back together if I fell apart?

Hope Edelman, The Aftergrief

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“Books were safer than other people anyway.”

- Neil Gaiman, The Ocean at the End of the Lane

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I mused over all the times I had prayed to a God that I do not believe in.

- Lillian Olsen, ache.

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i've been in so many pieces enough times to know how to put myself together again.

- Renaada Williams, becoming.

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its funny how easily the monster in my head can cuddle me softly while laying in my bed.

- Renaada Williams, becoming.

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For a long time I thought my tragedy was my identity, like there was a sign on me that everyone could see.

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From time to time, I do consider that I might be mad. Like any self-respecting lunatic, however, I am always quick to dismiss any doubts about my sanity.

Dean Koontz, Odd Thomas (Book #1)

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Like all of us, I was born for joy. This broken world, however, breaks most of us, grinding relentlessly on its metaled tracks.

Dean Koontz, Odd Interlude: A Special Odd Thomas Adventure

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Melancholy can be seductive when it’s twined with self-pity.

Dean Koontz, Odd Interlude: A Special Odd Thomas Adventure

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I needed someone to tell me it was all right to feel the anger and despair, but I received only kudos for my synthetically mature, responsible behavior.

Hope Edelman, Motherless Daughters

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There was no one to take care of me but me, and I didn't feel up to the job.

Hope Edelman, Motherless Daughters

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You have to become that person who says, 'Don't worry, you're doing fine. You're doing the best you can.'

Hope Edelman, Motherless Daughters

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In conversation, I became as evasive as a defensive politician, making deliberate references to 'my family' rather than 'my parents' and carefully constructing sentences that never referred to my mother in the past tense.

Hope Edelman, Motherless Daughters

The looks of shock and pity were are something I strongly feared.