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// if i was to, say bring this blog back with a small selection of muses that I love and miss, would that be a terrible idea? Asking for a friend.. 

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so jason blossom is alive and out their murdering, great, just what cheryl needs ! because that’s not gonna destroy her, nope nope nope... smh. i mean jason alive i am living for, the murdering not so much ! 

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                         ❝  If you LOVE someone, you tell them. ❞

               penned by Lor                                      est. june ‘16 | reboot april ‘19

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out of chaos; sooo i did a thing and logged back into my old mark sloan account, and ya girl is reviving that shit up over on @mcxsteamy​ so if any of y’all have grey’s anatomy / medical muses and or verses HMU over there !! obviously he’s pretty canon divergent on account of him being canonically dead, but fuck sh*nda my man in alive and thriving ! 

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Out of chaos; man i miss writing so much, part of me is like do i come back?  or am i better just staying tf off the dash? i have a long weekend off work for easter so i am considering trying to get back into writing, since all i have written recently is journaling kinda stuff offline. BUT after last night episode i am hype again. 

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well that was a plot twist i did not see coming. ugh. my heart, i cannot with cheryl talking about jason. nope nope nope. what kind of creepy voodoo shit is the farm doing. well... guess them flying babies in betty’s hallucinations weren’t so hallucination after all! 

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;; I don’t usually post things like this, it’s personal, it’s not rp related, but it’s relevant, i have BPD (borderline personality disorder) and I’ve been going through a period where it’s been bad, where it’s been absolutely crippling some days. and it’s hard to explain without sounding like a broken record of that I’m making excuses. I know I’m difficult, I know I can be hard to handle, I know my emotions aren’t appropriate, and believe me when I say it, I hate it, and it infuriates me far more than it infuriates anyone else.

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A few tips if you know and love someone with BPD:

1) People with BPD are incredibly perceptive and can read most emotions, but one emotion they consistently misinterpret is anger. They tend to interpret neutrality as anger, so often they may assume you are angry when you are simply content or bored or some other neutral expression. If your borderline loved one asks if you are angry, try to be patient and remember they are hypersensitive to tone, body language, everything. When an emotion of yours can’t be pinpointed, they tend to assume it’s anger. “Are you mad at me?” may be something you hear incredibly often. Just answer the question and be patient. They don’t mean to sound like a broken record; they really do believe you’re mad at them!

2) When providing reassurance for a borderline loved one, be sure to use concrete examples. When they’re having an episode, saying, “You’re a good person” will feel like empty words to them. They may even assume you’re following a script. Even more likely, they will default to being afraid they’ve somehow manipulated you into saying nice things to them, so be sure to have examples to back up what you’re saying. Instead of “You’re a good person,” add on why you feel that way about them. “You were having a bad day last week, and you still dropped everything to support your friend when they needed you.” Instead of stopping at, “I really care about you and think you’re great,” be sure to add, “You’re an incredibly passionate person, and I find that inspiring. Yesterday, when you were working, you become really involved in the task and cared a lot about the end results, and the way you poured your passion into the task was really incredible.”

3) Express yourself often, and in a constructive way. If you aren’t upfront with your feelings, your borderline loved one may assume you hate them. Open communication is incredibly important. If you are upset with something they’ve done or said, be sure to bring it up in a constructive manner which helps both parties and encourages communication on both ends. (Actually, you should be doing this with non-borderline people too.) Compassion > hostility. It’s okay to be upset, but it’s no reason to lash out. Bring up your concerns as soon as possible and help build an environment where you can both talk about these things openly. A relationship where you feel you can’t talk about concerns isn’t a healthy one. That goes for all relationships, mental illness or no.

4) Also applies to all relationships, if your loved one is clearly distressed, sometimes it’s best to walk away and wait until everyone has calmed down. However, with a borderline loved one, it’s important to express what you are doing and why. Don’t just leave the room. Make it clear, “We’re both too emotional right now to deal with this. I suggest we take a break and come back to this in half an hour when we’re feeling calmer. Is that okay with you?”

5) Do not try “tough love.” It is grossly unhelpful and can actually trigger more severe symptoms and make them worse. “Tough love” is a surefire way to keep your loved one from recovering. 

6) Because of how emotional they are, people with BPD can come across as self-centered. This usually isn’t true, and is in fact more often the opposite. People with BPD are constantly thinking of the needs of others, and often their emotional responses are because of anxiety they have about how they affect the people around them. 

7) Do not invalidate the feelings of your borderline loved one. Recognize that even if these feelings are not fact, they are still valid and are hurting your loved one and are incredibly real to them. Do not tell them they are “crazy” or “delusional.” This will make them feel like they can’t open up to you. Instead, assure them their feelings are valid, and then work through those feelings. Instead of, “There’s no need for you to feel guilty,” try “I understand why you feel guilty, but remember you are not at fault for what happened.” Or let’s say your borderline loved one has accused you of being angry even though you are not, and they are upset. Instead of “You’re upset for no reason” try “You are rightfully upset, however I’m really not angry with you, so let’s try to help you feel better.”

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🎶 call your girlfriend it’s time you had the talk give your reasons say it’s not her fault but you just met somebody new 🎶

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asking for a friend, but is there any GOOD TROUBLE or THE FOSTERS rpers out there? tumblr search would seem like a no go, but man i want to write Gael, Callie or Malika SO bad... like c’mon guys, there’s gotta be some of you out there... 

p.s the friend is me. i am the friend. 

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OUT OF CHAOS; A small reminder to the riverdale fandom for anyone who needs to hear this, I hope to god the rpc knows better than this, but clearly the fandom at large don’t; HAVE SOME FUCKING TACT.

To anyone trying to use Luke’s death to get noticed by the cast, to anyone who’s tagging his daughter, his child who has just lost her fucking father, shame on you. It’s disgusting, it’s despicable, how would YOU FEEL if you just lost your father and the world was @ing you, have some fucking tact people.

Yes, we are all sad, we are all devestated by this beautiful souls death, but that doesn’t give ANYONE the right to behave in such disgusting ways.

Leave his family alone. Leave the cast alone. Let them grieve in peace.

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“I’m lucky: I always wanted to be an actor. But I never felt the need to be in with the crowd. I didn’t mind being on the outside. I was always looking forward or upwards, not in.”

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Luke Perry: 1966-2019.  Rest easy. 

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sorry, not sorry, but if y’all think it’s empowering for girls to beat up boys then you need to have a fucking word with yourself .

👏 fuck 👏 your 👏 double👏standards👏 beating people up is NEVER justified. no matter how much you think you’re vindicated to do so. two sixteen year old boys made shitty sarky comments, at group of 6(ish) girls ACTUALLY looking for trouble, while the boys were out having fucking milkshakes not looking for trouble, yeah, that’s absolutely NOT OKAY ! 

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Can people stop Fucking hurting my boys please, thanks.

sweet pea, you better catch our man

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Nothing kick starts my muse more than seeing my baby boy get his heart broken but stand up for himself!! .... ya girl might be logging back into sweet pea real soon. my son deserves all the love 💕

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Oh god why is tumblr so ugly looking how do I fix it? My eyes my eyes aaaaah!

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okay but, the serpents going ‘clean’ -- fam do you even know what a gang is. jughead boi you gotta get alexa to google ‘how a gang works’ pls. i mean, sis what ya gonna do, start washing cars. serpents topless car washing facilitated by archie andrews & co... and don’t even get me started on fp’s fancy dress costume as sheriff, sure jan, you can dispose of TWO dead bodies and run a criminal gang and then just casually be appointed sheriff in river.dale apparently. this shit is whack, i’m living to see what happens next. but the real question is RAS fam what are you smoking and can i have some? this is a wild ride my friends, a wild ride. i kinda love it, and hate it all at once. 

and sorry but when samcro tried to go clean jax ended up fucking topping himself bc he knew that shit was impossible in a GANG. jughead pls google ‘what is a gang’ thanks sis, love u, kisses.