#[ because that's how it be sometimes when you follow a neurodivergent mun ]

[unladielike]

I honestly get the sense that if a muse claims to be in love with her but can’t exactly tell her the reason why they’re in love with her, Vivian would have trouble believing them; in fact, she would probably think they’re in love with the idea of her rather than actually be in love with her for real.

This, frankly, is became Vivian is demiromantic, meaning she can’t really relate to people who would fall in love at first sight or catch feelings over a very short span of time, especially if they happen to be an adult. Like, she can understand people easily developing crushes on other people when they’re kids or teenagers (because she herself has gone through that), but if they are in their twenties, it becomes less plausible to her.

I mean, maybe it’s because it would personally take months or even years for her to end up liking someone that way, but either way, Vivian doesn’t fall in love with someone very easily... and on the off chance she does catch feelings, it takes a while for her to differentiate whether it’s platonic love or romantic love she is experiencing; regardless, it’s actually more common for her to lack the desire to be romantically involved with people she’s sexually attracted to, unless she somehow develops a strong, emotional connection towards them somewhere along the way... and even then, being in a relationship won’t necessarily make her happy, as I explained in this post here, because the more older she gets, the more disillusioned by romantic love she becomes..

Like, yes, she might agree to date your muse if they’re not a minor and someone she at least gets along with, but whether she would actually stay content in that relationship is another matter entirely. For example... as terrible as it sounds, Vivian might end up feeling frustrated in a relationship with another woman due to the fact she happens to like men more and might eventually feel trapped, because she isn’t allowed to play around with her sexuality or have male partners... or if she’s in a relationship with a man, she might end up getting the sense she has to focus less on fictional characters and more on him, so as to keep their relationship afloat, which would ultimately cause her undue stress.

Either way, I can see her possibly developing a deep-seated resentment towards a partner for trapping her in a relationship she feels she can’t escape from, so while she’s capable of being in a monogamous relationship, it’s really dependent on how much freedom she’s allowed to have and how much she has to compromise while in that relationship.

[crudevillain-a]

♡ independent. private. highly selective.♡

♡ Deadman Wonderland canon roleplay blog, based in the BNHA / MHA fandom and DMWL canon

♡ AUs & crossovers available ( upon request ). ♡

♡ carrd  ♡

♡ affiliated with: TBA ♡

♡ muse(s): Minatsuki Tamaki, Toto Sakigami, & Yosuga Mitsuzaki 

hello, I'm Wrennly. I'm 25 years old, American, & taken. I go by she/they or she/her pronouns as well. I am pagan, practice witchcraft, & own 2 lizards ( Fiona and Hildagarrd ) & a cat ( Addison ).

♡ mobile rules below cut ♡

♡ there will be no comparisons to deities, whether that's ic or ooc.

♡ I will wait up to a week or two for a message back whether that's IC or OOC if I've followed you recently. I will unfollow after not hearing anything. if I'm the one who continuously reaches out, with no reciprocation, I will remove you. I understand being busy, but if I reach out and don't get a reply after a while, I will end our relationship.

♡ relationship depreciation does not apply here, & let me explain. "whether I talk to you in a day, or in a year. I'll see you when I see you; until then, take care". this means that if you disappear, and stop replying, I will not be angry. however, I will remove you from discord or tumblr because I like to keep my circle to those who actively enjoys writing with me / speaking to me.

♡ I am neurodivergent; I have PTSD, Borderline Personality Disorder, Anxiety, & Depression. I work part-time as well as have a life outside of tumblr. I'm in a committed relationship, & that takes up a lot of my time as well as another blog ( @qvartzdied ).

♡ I frequently engage in cannabis usage, and are pro-cannabis as medicine. as such, sometimes ( usually later in the evening ), I will be intoxicated. if this makes you uncomfortable, do not follow me. I will not curb my personality for the comfort of yours.

♡ I also follow a lot of people, so I may forget your alias/pronouns/muses! I always try to reread everything before contacting people, but sometimes I am a forgetful bean! please offer me grace!

♡ I am closing my circle down to select people and friends. this means that I am private and highly selective. I will not follow if a muse page, rules, and age of mun ( you must be 21+ ) aren't readily available on the blog. 

♡ muses are written at an age-range. meaning, some may be underage in one thread scenario, but of age in another. always look at tags for extra information. most times, consider adult ages as default.

♡ NSFW and other content will appear on the blog, which includes but are not limited to NSFW: smut, mentions of rape, explorations of human psyche, religious mentions, drug usage, sex work, abuse, pregnancy issues, abortion / miscarriage, sexuality, cannibalism, blood, gore and so many more. do not follow if under 21+.

♡ also, please reblog from source. I will post frequent in character musings, aesthetics, fanart, and so on for my muses. it helps me maintain muse

♡ blog is drama-free, will never post roleplay drama or politics drama. life updates will be periodically given based on how often I'm promising to be online, but cannot for any reason.

TOXICITY CLAUSE. I used to be a shitty rp partner & friend! I never committed bigoted acts like racism or sexism, but I'd have the tendency to collect ships or participate in drama etc. my past aliases include Sam, Sammi, Stormi, Peaches, & now Wrennly. all problems have been fixed.

[hyliasblade]

OOC/Rules

mun is kris. 24. they/them, anxious bastard lol

updated 7/3/23: the wrath month edition

the roulxs:

18+ only

minors and personals will be soft blocked. upon following again: hard block.

if you are a personal with an rp sideblog please make it clear on your blog or just tell me because otherwise you might get blocked.

minor MUSES are fine though

i read rules pages for every blog i follow that has one but i have a shit memory so if i accidentally breach one of your rules please let me know. or block me if it’s that egregious but please for the love of god do not publicly @ me who the fuck does that. do not make a callout post for me being forgetful like a fucking weirdo. if i breach a rule that is not on your rules page then i’m sorry, i’m not a mind reader.

on the “q slur:” i’ll do my best to tag is as “#q //” that’s q, two slashes. keep in mind i identify with that word, strongly. if it angers you that i would dare use a “"slur”“ to label myself or whatever, remember “gay” has seen just as much use as a slur. i grew up in the american south, i’ve heard both words used for the same harmful reasons. sorry if this comes off as angry or petty, but if you were continually told that “gay” is a slur and you shouldn’t use it for yourself, you’d be tired and angry too, wouldn’t you? i’ll do my best to tag for it, but i will die on this hill.

please tag spiders/scorpions/arachnids, hanging/nooses, and also maybe trypo/holes thanks

semi-selective i will roleplay with most fandoms, ocs, and muses also not moots exclusive.

please don’t like. involve me in drama or callouts or shit. i’m just here trying to play fucking online dolls

with the above said i do reserve the right to block/cease interacting with ppl who make me uncomfortable, just like you reserve the right to block/cease interacting with me if i make u uncomfortable. i prefer to try to come to some kind of understanding first, but sometimes it doesn’t work out that way

please note that i, the mun, am mentally ill and neurodivergent. in a lot of cases, my muses will share some of my own personal struggles to sort of like. explore these things myself and shit. link in particular shares a lot of my neurodivergencies and chronic pain. shit gets frustrating and sometimes roleplaying a tiny elf twink going thru the same shit helps a bit. u know how it is.

though link may act a bit naive and sometimes even childish, he is still very much an adult. not a “rule” exactly just something to keep in mind.

sorry if some of these seem overly detailed or serious. i’ve been around the block when it comes to rp tumblr i’m just trying to cover all my bases in at least a semi concise manner.

also sorry if any of this comes off as passive aggressive or rude. i can’t parse or regulate tone for shit like in an actual verbal conversation, trying to convey it thru text is damn near impossible for me lmao

i’m really just a tired nerd who is trying to have fun on this hellsite.

um that’s all i can think of for now may add or change more later thanks for reading have a great time

[vattasref]

Putting all my RP blog OOC stuff into posts now for mobile accessibility

this post is linked on my RP blogs now for ease of access, if you got here from one of those, hi!

please don't be on my RP blogs if you're not 18+!!

you should already know I'm Vatta. I'm in my 30s. I've been on the Tumblr RP scene for somewhere just over 10 years as of 2024 (I've been roleplaying on different platforms for alot longer), I've had ALOT of blogs, mostly Homestuck, a couple OCs, all of my blogs had my name in the bio

currently active blogs:

@catboii - fandomless OC, humanoid shapeshifter, cult vibes, violence/murder/cannibalism/abuse tws, well established (7 years old?) but my pages are a bit of a mess, is currently MIA, is overall friendly if you're nice to it!

Homestuck:

@davepetea - post-game Davepetasprite^2, heavy bird and cat pun usage and some eyestrain, is VERY friendly and loves everyone

@solxrated (sideblog to Catboii) - (not very active) Sollux, Davepeta's moirail, same timeline, mostly just ironically rates computer setups

@hemopseudo - (not very active) Speciesswap (Troll Dave Strider) Devino Stryyd living on Beforus, some mild hemoism but it's more political than murdery so I'll avoid it unless it comes up in conversation, which'll be tagged as "hemoism", pretty mid in the friendliness department but will riff off your muse's energy

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I'm GMT+0 so my timezone doesn't link up to most of your guys' and I'll be getting online while you guys get into bed, or I'll be getting offline as you guys start getting on. I work Sun-Wed, and am usually quite tired when I get home, so won't be on much on those days

GMT +0

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(testing the clock widget)

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NONE of my OOC info is a mandatory read, unless there is something specific you want to know! I will try and keep everything simple, the TL;DR is in bold, the rest is just expanding on each point

first and foremost!! I'm very active OOC, which means I'm constantly adding OOC notes to my muse's posts #((,#in brackets like this,#)), if this breaks your immersion and you don't like it, fair enough! I'm not to your taste. I'm on the autistic spectrum and then some so I REALLY like to make everything clear and make sure my muses don't get misinterpreted because of me

I'm neurodivergent so please be patient with me, but if you wanna clarify anything or chat about anything, please know you can drop into IMs ANYTIME (with the ((brackets)) if you're on an RP blog to let me know it’s OOC, otherwise I will assime it’s IC, even if you're unquirked...)

I have no major triggers but want anything relating to pedophilia kept FAR away from me, if your muse is a victim and mentions their trauma that's fine, as long as it's not glorified/positive. this doesn't extend to like ddlg kinks etc but it does squick me out a bit so I have some related terms blacklisted

online interaction unless otherwise discussed! some tips on how you can start interactions with any of my muses is over here

will interact with pretty much any fandom/OC, not picky, even if I don't know the fandom (it's like 10x funnier if I have NO idea who the character is)

PLEASE no personal blog (direct interactions, follows and rbs of non-original posts are ok if you're a mun following from your personal) or RL person RP blogs (characters they play are fine)

no kink/smut/purely nsfw blogs please

(doesn’t include more adult themed muses that aren’t *completely* porn and smut, so if I follow you first/back then we good, I may follow and interact on the sideblog just to keep it off main, Davepeta fucks I just don’t want porn to be the only thing on my dash lol)

not mutual exclusive! please feel free to chat with muse anytime! all posts are open to replies even if someone specific is @-ed if your muse has a comment they wanna make!

I'm mobile sometimes but I've worked out how to get Xkit Rewritten to work on mobile, so I can cut posts, but I prefer using the app sometimes bc of the minimalism of it (I'll scroll and write posts in the app, save to draft, then cut in the browser, I'll make my own little tut eventually), but I can't be bothered to queue from mobile app so sometimes I might spam post a little. if it gets to like 4-5 posts in a minute I'll just switch over to browser though

I'm here for fun and fun only! I do love a bit of angst but if you wanna go down that route we'll need to do some OOC communication first bc if I'm in the wrong headspace it can bring me down and no one wants that unsolicited (unless that's what your muse is about, then I'll be expecting it you're all good)

IC =/= OOC... most of my muses are not human and sometimes are immortal. the base media (eg Homestuck) is also problematic in ways that I can't avoid. I like to explore the thought processes of things like being on a planet you didn't grow up on, or being immortal when you previously weren't. this is completely fictional, although I do actively try to avoid anything that could be problematic, unless it's realistic, which I will tag OOC

[dogsgone]

ooc/rules/cw

mun is kris. 24. they/them, anxious bastard lol

updated 7/3/23: the wrath month edition

the roulxs:

18+ only

minors and personals will be soft blocked. upon following again: hard block.

if you are a personal with an rp sideblog please make it clear on your blog or just tell me because otherwise you might get blocked.

minor MUSES are fine though

i read rules pages for every blog i follow that has one but i have a shit memory so if i accidentally breach one of your rules please let me know. or block me if it’s that egregious but please for the love of god do not publicly @ me who the fuck does that. do not make a callout post for me being forgetful like a fucking weirdo. if i breach a rule that is not on your rules page then i’m sorry, i’m not a mind reader.

on the “q slur:” i’ll do my best to tag is as “#q //” that’s q, two slashes. keep in mind i identify with that word, strongly. if it angers you that i would dare use a “"slur”“ to label myself or whatever, remember “gay” has seen just as much use as a slur. i grew up in the american south, i’ve heard both words used for the same harmful reasons. sorry if this comes off as angry or petty, but if you were continually told that “gay” is a slur and you shouldn’t use it for yourself, you’d be tired and angry too, wouldn’t you? i’ll do my best to tag for it, but i will die on this hill.

please tag spiders/scorpions/arachnids, hanging/nooses, and also maybe trypo/holes thanks

semi-selective i will roleplay with most fandoms, ocs, and muses also not moots exclusive.

please don’t like. involve me in drama or callouts or shit. i’m just here trying to play fucking online dolls

with the above said i do reserve the right to block/cease interacting with ppl who make me uncomfortable, just like you reserve the right to block/cease interacting with me if i make u uncomfortable. i prefer to try to come to some kind of understanding first, but sometimes it doesn’t work out that way

please note that i, the mun, am mentally ill and neurodivergent. in a lot of cases, my muses will share some of my own personal struggles to sort of like. explore these things myself and shit. link in particular shares a lot of my neurodivergencies and chronic pain. shit gets frustrating and sometimes roleplaying a tiny elf twink going thru the same shit helps a bit. u know how it is.

though link may act a bit naive and sometimes even childish, he is still very much an adult. not a “rule” exactly just something to keep in mind.

sorry if some of these seem overly detailed or serious. i’ve been around the block when it comes to rp tumblr i’m just trying to cover all my bases in at least a semi concise manner.

also sorry if any of this comes off as passive aggressive or rude. i can’t parse or regulate tone for shit like in an actual verbal conversation, trying to convey it thru text is damn near impossible for me lmao

i’m really just a tired nerd who is trying to have fun on this hellsite.

um that’s all i can think of for now may add or change more later thanks for reading have a great time

content warnings:

Content warnings for this blog include, but may not be limited to:

- Religious trauma

- Violence, death, etc.

- The inherent psychological torment that comes with being cursed to reincarnate forever and ever, only to be brought into the world when evil once again threatens to destroy everything, and having only a single use and purpose in life to the goddess one serves, that being the wielder of her sacred blade to seal away the evil once more, until it inevitably rears its ugly head again. I guess this goes under religious trauma.

- Mental illness and trauma in general.

- Lycanthropy.

That’s all I can think of for now; if more comes up, I’ll add to this list, and as always, if I’m unsure of anything, I will tag it with #ask to tag, so feel free to blacklist that tag if you need to.

[thesaltminesrph]

PSA: Be Upfront

Communication is important in RP.

Now, to preface, I am not going to use the really awful phrase "it's a hobby not a jobby" because this is a really sketch take on what is important to people. You can have a hobby mean a lot to you, be you a collector, a gardener, someone that builds model airplanes, a writer, an artist, etc. Those are all hobbies, and the fruits of your labor are NOT only valuable to you and others if you are paid for them. This saying implies that should you never be a published author, never have a painting sell, never do something that can be sold or have a time clock punched, it doesn’t at all matter. It’s a really discouraging thing to be telling people, quite honestly. I have multiple hobbies outside of RP. Kind of really sucks to see constantly they don’t matter because nobody pays me for what I do. I know I’m not the only one who has said this, but the majority aren’t willing to say it amongst the clamoring of ‘rp isn’t a job’ because then you get people jumping down your throat. Hear me out though! I’m not done.

“BUT I HAVE REAL LIFE!”

Yes! So do we all! We all have problems, and things to take care of. The RPC is littered with people with mental illness, neurodivergence, chronic physical illness (I hit all three categories multiple times, LUCKY ME!). Do not, I repeat, do not ever feel like you need to put RP before: bills, marriage/children/other relationships, your health. Literally, do not have your takeaway from this post be these are secondary to your hobby. They are not. Do not get evicted because you were too busy doing RP at your desk at work, that’s just plain dumb af.

You owe people decency means:

-if you can only do aesthetic posts this week because you are low on writing spoons, that’s fine

-if you had work/health/mother-in-law take over you life this week and you literally didn’t have time to log-in even though you wanted to, that’s fine

-if you are sick in bed and can’t bother to write, that’s fine

What it also means:

-dropping what was supposedly a years long ooc friendship because the other mun isn’t dropping their current muse for you and following you into a different fandom ‘because they’re now boring’ and telling them as much in a message...is shitty behavior.

-daily reblogging multiple memes that people are sending in to you, your wire, your discord, ignoring both those and messages to plot, then whining on the dash that no one wants to write with you (also known as trying to guilt trip interaction, obviously you only wanted it from one specific person not the people actively engaging you)...is shitty behavior.

-claiming you’re open for plots and memes, then only replying to the one or two people consistently for 6 months...is shitty behavior.

Again, in case it wasn’t clear- it’s your blog, it’s your life, it’s your health. That’s not in question.

HOWEVER- be upfront and give people some honesty! What do I mean by that?

If it’s feasible, post that you need a writing break, even if it’s going to be indefinite. Take as many fucking breaks as you need to for your physical and mental health to be the best they can be (I’m not going to say great, as I know what it’s like to just have a ‘good’ health day mean ‘it’s less shit than it could be’).

But if the situation is really you only want to write with these one or two people, just say so! It’s your blog, you’re allowed to decide you’re closed for plots, asks, etc. Just don’t lead people on. Don’t say something and mean something else. Don’t keep reblogging your promo and really you don’t want to write,  and you don’t plan on taking on new mutuals, and don’t plan on replying to dms or threads from anyone else.

I’ll repeat it a little differently to be sure it’s clear- you dictate your activity level and number of mutuals, when you answer asks, threads, etc. This should be at a level that is suited for you and your life, health, etc.

BUT when you engage in RP you are involving someone else’s free time with yours, and it is not fair to them to act like they do not matter. You have involved someone else. Until you disengage from them, be courteous.

I’ll give you an example. When you ask for that starter on both your dash, then DMs, and act super hyped, getting the other mun excited for it, and then they put the time and effort into writing it up and posting it for you, expecting a reply? Only for you to go and make new blogs and immediately ditch that muse without a heads-up? That’s not really fair to the other mun. You communicated you wanted to write this, you hyped them up, they spent their time and writing spoons on your starter...and then you told them other people were more exciting and a better use of your time.

“BUT I DIDN’T TELL THEM THAT!”

Okay, so you didn’t message them ‘Hey loser, your starter sucked, your muse is boring, and honestly, a different fandom is better! Bye!’ But your actions sure give that impression, and unless you communicate otherwise, it’s a shitty move.

Now yes, sometimes you genuinely forget a starter was written because you thought it was drafted and it wasn’t, dumblr is an ass and loses your draft and then you forgot it, something came up that day and bumped it from your mind, etc. NONE OF THESE ARE WHAT I AM REFERRING TO. I have ADHD, object permanence is the thing my brain does where often unless it’s directly in front of my face, it doesn’t exist, until I find it again. I’m aware these things happen, as are most muns, and we don’t mind! Hell, we usually have in our rules “hey if it’s been a hot minute and we haven’t replied to this, feel free to give us a little nudge to see if it’s been lost” because we all know between brains and dumblr’s everlasting fuckery...shit gets lost.

I’m talking about those times where you just up and leave someone hanging without communication. I’m also not saying it might even be on purpose. What I’m saying is you should consider how other muns feel when you do this, and if you cannot avoid it, at least communicate with them.

“Hey, I’m just no longer going to be writing this muse. Sorry I had you write that starter. Do you want to try something with this new one? This is where my brain is at right now.” “Hey I really can’t be online this month thanks to fill-in-the-blank but I do still want to write when I am able.” “Hey, I see you sent in that ask. I’m only interested in this one ship, and I won’t be taking on new threads, but you’re welcome to follow and maybe I’ll take on new threads later. I’m just writing with these two people right now.”

Communication is something that is a requirement in a collaborative hobby.

I know it can be scary. I know the mentality ‘well they reblogged that meme but it’s not for me, I know they said they want to plot but they don’t mean me’, but you really have to get past that when you roleplay to be fair to other people.

Spoiler alert: the examples of shitty behavior further above are what help feed this ‘that post/meme isn’t for me’ mentality, when you do those things you’re fostering people’s anxiety and rejection sensitivity...just saying.

If someone gets mad at you for communicating with them, they’re a shitty person and block them. Literally if someone has a problem with you for trying to start something, especially as mutuals, you’re losing nothing by not writing with them. Find nicer people. So don’t  be afraid to communicate you can’t write currently, you need a break, you’re only writing with these certain people. And don’t be afraid to send in the meme. I promise you, the right people appreciate courteous communication. The ones that don’t...

Again, no one is saying put your life on hold for RP, you’re never allowed to narrow your scope, you’re supposed to always have writing spoons, you need to produce five replies a day or you’re wrong, you always need to log-in to communicate you had a family emergency/depressive episode/etc.

What I am saying, is if you are capable of communicating, respect the time and energy of your fellow muns who may also be very low on spoons and free time themselves, and be honest about where you are at when it comes to taking on new threads, new asks, new partners, etc. Treat others how you want to be treated, and consider you probably wouldn’t like being on the receiving end of the behaviors I’ve described. If you need to be on the clock being paid to be a nice person...please re-evaluate.

[publicservicememes]

Hi! As someone with severe visual impairment I appreciate the post representing us, however reblogging jokes towards those blogs being considered 'trash' and being unnecessarily aggressive/gaslight-y towards people who aren't really aware of those problems existing is going to make them probably less likely to listen to us. (it makes us look like we're policing people's fun or trying to force them to conform to us). I'd reconsider choice of wording or how to approach making people more aware.

Okay, there’s a few things I want to unpack in this, so let’s start with a few things about this blog - publicservicememes - itself:

This is a group blog, ran by multiple people, all of whom are neurodivergent and disabled in one form or another.

None of the mods should have to reveal their medical history to find any understanding as to why they might be a bit salty regarding the overall lack of accessibility on tumblr and - as relevant to this blog - the rpc.

The post in question should have been tagged, and is now tagged with our salty psa is salty tag. It is recommended that if those kinds of posts bother you, and you wish to continue to follow this blog, that you blacklist that tag. 

There will, at times, be salty posts on this blog. That’s just who the mods who run this blog are. We’re all roleplayers ourselves, and most of us are older muns as well. We have a right to be frustrated at times, especially when our requests for accommodations are dismissed and ignored.

To quote Anansi from Starz’ American Gods: “Angry is good. Angry... Gets. Shit. Done.” Like it or not, sometimes salt is necessary to get it through to some people. That is why we post and reblog a variety of PSAs regarding similar topics. If you don’t like how one is worded, there are likely others with a different tone of the same topic available.

You are under no obligation to reblog, follow, or even look at this blog. Don’t like how we operate things here? Block us. We don’t mind.

Now, regarding the other side of things, pertaining to accessibility in and of itself:

Not all disabilities are created equal. As someone who is visually impaired, surely you are well aware how even visual impairments are not equal, right? Some people only need corrective lenses. Others require surgery. Others still require screen magnifiers and/or screen readers. The same is true for other disabilities and medical conditions as well.

Not everyone is neurotypical. Being neurodivergent, the mods of this blog often have a different take where accessibility is concerned, because when it comes to accommodations, people - even others who need accommodations - often overlook us at best, or outright deny us at worse.

We didn’t have to include visual impairment at all. To be quite frank, visual impairment is one of the better understood and more well known thing to require accommodations, though most people aren’t aware to what extent those accommodations often require. One of our mods is a web developer with experience in accessible UI layout and design, and their input was applied to our recent psa, which is how some of us ourselves learned about the issues regarding the screen magnifiers blowing up the spaces too. It’s not something all of us had even thought of before.

We do check our activity and read the tags people leave on the reblogs from our blog. 

Do you know which posts seem to get through to people the most the vast majority of the time? The ones that were salty are often tagged with things like “Oh. I didn’t know that”, or “I didn’t realise”. Those posts reached the intended audience and those muns learned something, hopefully making suitable adjustments to their aesthetics to be more accessible.

You know what the polite, kindly worded, educated posts are mostly tagged with? “Please read this!”, “THIS! THIS THIS SO MUCH THIS!”, “THIS IS WHAT I’M TALKING ABOUT!”, “I CAN’T READ YOUR POSTS IF YOU DO WHAT THIS PSA IS TALKING ABOUT!”, and “SOMEONE FINALLY SAID IT!”

Hundreds of people reblog the latter ones, and they go ignored by the very people those posts are desperately trying to reach. Hundreds of people crying out saying “PLEASE DON’T DO THIS!”, and they’re all being ignored.

Is it any surprise those people are angry? Is it any surprise those people are salty? Now, consider the simple fact that each and every one of the mods here on this blog require some form of accommodation, such as not having multiple spaces between words.

Puts things into a new perspective, doesn’t it?

Please don’t make assumptions about people. Especially when none of us here have ever introduced ourselves, and are unlikely to ever do so, considering the nature of this blog. There’s a reason our ask box has been turned off for a very long time, after all.

[conduitandconjurer]

Hi there! I’ve lurked for a little while and just recently followed. You have a really interesting take on Klaus and I’d like to ask: what kind of things do you do to get into character so to speak? Are there any important things about his character you like to keep in mind when you write him? And as someone who has written for many years but is considering rp, any advice for a first-timer? Thanks and hope you have a wonderful day/night!

First of all you should know that I’ve been rping on various platforms for over 15 years at this point, and messages like this still MAKE MY WHOLE WORLD BETTER <33333  Thank you SO much for your gracious and generous kind words.  You took a second to extend a hello and compliment my hard work and it means so so much.

So Klaus and I are NOTHING alike, which is exactly why I choose to write muses like him.  It provides me an outlet of escape from my own life (which has its ups and downs) and it’s a creative and intellectual challenge to understand what makes a person so behaviorally different from myself tick. Most writers like to write characters who are like them.  And I do that too, but for me, I just need some single trait in a character that I resonate with. For Klaus, it’s his innate sweetness and vulnerability (which he tries and fails to conceal) and his need (and failure) to establish boundaries (with family and with ghosts), and finally it’s his fear of being insufficient as a person his family can rely upon (which he copes with by creating artificial emotional distance, and abusing substances, whereas I the mun marinate in guilt and try to overcompensate lmao).  While we’re still not alike, I can BEGIN to understand WHY he behaves the way he does, and I can build my portrayal off of that. 

Put another way, most of my muses are queer nonbinary he/him/they pronoun users, often neurodivergent, who are undergoing a moral struggle, usually somewhere in the antihero category, or even villains. I on the other hand am a queer cis disabled woman with PTSD who is a Lawful Good......and I think that, having a point for relating to but still not being exactly like my muses,  I almost begin to see myself as these characters’ mother or advocate of some kind.  I want to see them GROW and THRIVE.  From that urge, I derive the compassion that every writer needs to have for their character to (try to) portray them authentically.  

And that also means that the character is not going to remain within the bounds of their canonical portrayal. The way I write them will always START and be BASED ON that.  But the character will grow far afield of it.  Take Klaus, for instance. I sense you call my portrayal “interesting” (correct me if I’m wrong) because I choose to write Klaus as almost always post-season 2 AND sober.  He’s more at peace with himself than he was during the first season, he’s begun to properly process his grief for Dave Katz, he’s getting clean and staying clean, he’s becoming more emotionally reliable.  But he still makes mistakes, he still has the most severe, frustrating and painful (for him) case of ADHD I have ever seen, people still don’t “take him seriously” (his own words) and he has to grow a thick skin about their dismissive behavior.  

The fandom, even a number of Klaus rpers, like to keep Klaus in this depressing stasis chamber where he’s constantly nihilistic, selfish, and strung out, and a lot of people see Klaus’s addictions as the brunt of jokes, and while that’s cool for them, and I’d never ask them to censor their portrayal, that makes me uncomfortable. As a person who’s worked with, still works with, at-risk youth at the college level, I just can’t jive with it.  Addiction is an illness and it’s not funny, and there are underlying reasons for Klaus’s addictions.  And what I want to do is excavate those underlying reasons, and watch him get the support he needs. He is still a snarky, sartorial, chaotic, quirkily sweet goofball when he’s sober.  He’s still Klaus.  

Things I do to get in the headspace:

--Listen to playlists that I make for the character or mood. Music is crucial.  --Watch videos of Robert Sheehan talking. Doesn’t have to be as Klaus, but sometimes is.  If you can’t hear the character in the dialogue (not only word choose but little mannerisms and speech patterns), rewrite it. Don’t settle until you can hear the actor’s voice.   --Scream to my friends on Discord about how much I love specific elements of the character, to get psyched up. I’m so sorry, @apocalypsejumped, you are the main person I do this to with Klaus, lmfao.  

--Never EVER look at my follower count, because it’s gonna either depress or intimidate me. 

--Look at pictures of the character. I’m incredibly visual. Just looking at my own screenshots makes me want to dissect him more. 

For advice? Oh lordy!   Uhhhh..... 

Write a lot. Practice a lot. I have a PhD and have written book manuscripts exceeding 600 pages, but you don’t have to go that far, lmao. That drabble in your head at 3 am? Get up and write it down. That passing bit of funny dialogue you think your muse would say? Write it down. I used to carry around a physical journal. Now I use my laptop. 

Write fast and only edit minimally because this is for fun, avocational, and you don’t want to spoil it with too much plotting and refinement.

Drop threads that aren’t working for you. Again, this is not a job, and when it feels like one, scale back.

Resist the urge to over-format.  If your posts cease to be easily legible, the aesthetic will only impede the flow of your prose.   It’s okay to vary your writing voice character by character. My syntax, vocab/word choice, sentence length and structure, vary from one muse to the other, bc the standard rp pov is third person singular, present-tense, meaning your muse is narrating it all from their specific pov.  Klaus and say, a very serious, formal character, would not have the same internal monologue, or even exposition. 

Beware of writing partners who are passive aggressive or possessive, who get jealous of your writing with others, and guilt you for spending your time elsewhere than catering to their needs.  I spent eight years in one of these writing partnerships and only escaped last March, and I am still recovering emotionally. Writing partners can absolutely be abusive, so make sure to enforce healthy boundaries and when they are violated repeatedly, run.

Pick a blog theme that is clearly organized and accessible. 

Don’t pick “main” or heaven forbid “exclusive” writing partners until you have experimented with your chemistry with a number of “versions” of their character (especially canons).  Take your time and see who you gel with. Sometimes you can have a great friendship with someone and your writing together still doesn’t click. It all depends on chemistry.  

Pick a small group of like minded friends and write with them. Do not worry about “exposure” or “popularity,” they are over rated.  Fandoms are genuinely crazy.  Just sit in your sandbox with your trusted buddies. <3 

Anyone else reading this, chime in with some writing advice for nonnie! <3 They’re an experienced writer but new to rp! 

[fullofmemories]

What other RP experience(s) do you have outside the Tumblr RPC?

I think you’re pretty great! I didn’t have a question I just wanted to say that through a meme because well, it’s a shyness meme.

Do you like talking about RP things outside of just doing threads?

Spare time hobbies the mun does to unwind?

How do you get by the shyness and start knowing new people you meet?

Anything you’d like to say to all your shy followers out there?

Hey other shy people. This person is great.

What is something that might completely override feeling shy for you?

Does your brain have you rethink doing things because of shyness?

shy munday meme

What other RP experience(s) do you have outside the Tumblr RPC? My first rp was on the forums of wajas, years ago - a time that I look back on and cringe at - and I've also done some rp on discord with friends!

Do you like talking about RP things outside of just doing threads? Sure! I'm always down to plot or talk about our muses or other rp things!

Spare time hobbies the mun does to unwind? Well, I do a lot of show watching/rewatching hfdskjhfskj - but other than that, I also like to do digital art on my iPad and read! And I can play a few instruments, which I haven't been practicing as much during quarantine as I should, but I still love them! I'm best at violin, but I can also play some ukulele and piano (though not as well, because my brain sometimes has a hard time processing the different movements in each hand at the same time).

How do you get by the shyness and start knowing new people you meet? Uh..... Honestly, I'm not sure. It usually takes me a while to stop feeling shy around people. When I try to remember how I got past that with my friends, I just... can't really remember it? But talking about shared interests is definitely a good icebreaker for me!

Anything you’d like to say to all your shy followers out there? Hello!! You all are awesome and ily!! It might not seem like I'm super enthusiastic at times, because it's very nerve wracking for me to start conversations with people I'm not as familiar with, but I love having all of you guys around and writing with you! And honestly, if you ever want to chat, my dms are open! I'll probably be a bit awkward at first, but I promise I'm not disinterested!

What is something that might completely override feeling shy for you? Honestly, I think the most common thing is when people are talking about something I'm really interested in (aka my neurodivergent urge to talk about my interests overrides my anxiety fhdskjfhskj) - which is a good icebreaker in person, but it's a lot harder to use online because I can't just impulsively jump into a conversation, you know? By the time I've typed up the words and everything, I've usually overthought it and gotten anxious again.

Does your brain have you rethink doing things because of shyness? YES. All the time. 24/7. Literally, if I have ever said anything to you, there is a good chance I have overthought it. And on top of anxiety, since I'm neurodivergent my brain likes to also make me worry about whether or not I was reading all of the social cues and everything correctly (which is also much harder online), and that definitely plays into my overthinking a lot. And having RSD does not help at all.

I think you’re pretty great! I didn’t have a question I just wanted to say that through a meme because well, it’s a shyness meme. / Hey other shy people. This person is great. !!!!! midge you are the sweetest ilysm <3

[vxlkyrieonline]

Brutally honest opinions for satyasreality, please :)

my opinion on:

character in general: Satya Vaswani, as far as I know, is one of the few explicitly neurodivergent characters in mainstream media I am aware of that hasn’t been played like a bad trope. This isn’t saying too much, because I live under a goddamn rock when it comes to pop culture, but, like, really. She’s a capable, powerful, beautiful individual who has her own vision of how she wants the world to be. In her comic, it’s very easy to see that a lot of that  vision is motivated by the depth of her compassion, even if her definitions of how to best approach it might be a little bit skewed by her background and upbringing.

how they play them: Again, as with a lot of the other characters and heroes in this game, it’s really easy to reduce Symmetra to nothing but a caricature of herself, and I’m really glad to say that’s definitely not the case here. It’s easy to overlook the little, subtle things, like hints at her sense of humor and her absolutely vicious verbal barbs, but Ril’s put a lot of thought into who she is as a person and the motivations behind her actions, and it honestly shows - it’s the sort of extensive headcanon-ing that’s woven so well together that you have to take a step back sometimes and go, hold up, you didn’t get that from the official source material??

I’ll admit the baking thing was a little out of left field, but as with the rest of her characterization, it makes a ton of sense.

the mun: If anyone needs a friend who will mercilessly slaughter anyone who so much as breathes on them funny, look no further than Ril. Also, knowing him, he’s gonna make some hilarious comment or awful pun while metaphorically tearing their throat out that’ll have me in stitches before he’s done. I need to play Quiplash with him sometime.

do i:

follow them: Um, yes????

rp with them: Yes! Most of it has been smaller one-off interactions or ask memes or headcanon sessions ooc, but yes!

want to rp with them: YES. We need more baking collaborations, please I am Begging

ship their character with mine: I know you write Satya as basically demi and I write Angie as hetero, so it probably wouldn’t really work out chemistry-wise. Do friendships count as ships? Symmercy BroTP? Coordinated re-organization efforts? Baking partnerships? Weaponized passive-aggressiveness????? :D

what is my:

overall opinion: 11/10. Welcome to Satya Vaswani’s Castle of Microwave Bullshit, enjoy your stay. I know I am. :D