#┊❛​​​​self promo​❜┊ - if you're promoting anything say something

[fiendmuse]

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[franki-lew-yo]

Two rants, one family

As someone who was scammed just last year by actual bots because the help I hired didn't know what they were doing, and then by actual grifters who told me everything I wanted to hear and took my money for my project promos and gave THAT to bots ---

I'm a little fracking tired of this idea that any online donations or transactions to small-companies MUST be scams because 'it's spammy'. Well then call it a 'spammer' then, not a 'scammer'. That's not the same thing.

It's not that scammer hand-outs don't exist. They do. They suck, but also they also don't last long. BUT- if you are ever in a situation where you've needed money asap and you're NOT an influencer with a huge audience, you have to get on track with dayly reblogging and self-promoting as much as possible. Otherwise, if people are anything like yourself when YOU feel like donating, people forget about you, they overlook your struggles, and they never even know you were having a 'sale' or a 'deal' at all!!

One thing that a lot of *bad* entrepreneur websites try to tell people, especially vulnerable people who can't pay for services that give them online marketing tips cuz that money needs to go to rent or food or pets or not dying, IS to flood people's inboxes from any blog they have (and any blog their friend has) to get the word out. They (crap companies who make all the 'free advice' or marketing garbage) tell a lot of people to do this and it's why a lot of n00b donation holders get dismissed as scams and/or bots -> because we get it, we're annoying and you don't want to be seeing us. Cept, UNLIKE actual scammers and bots, we don't have access to all your private information and we also don't want it. We don't have access to emails we get to fill up with crap. We/I have to do EVERY. SINGLE. THING. MANUALLY.

E V E R Y T H I N G-

Tumblr is the easiest website to use (at the moment) because of my queing system. You have to pay to que thing up on Instagram and Facebook. Yes. You do. Look it up. You do. In order to promo myself, my work, my brand, with little to nothing on me, I HAVE to do things manually. I hate it. I can't get good at it out of no where and with not professional training or, again, paying.

Just this last year I've had people on my TNBC comic blog be all "ugh can you not post this" or "can you just post tnbc". Quick solution to those folks: Use my tags -available to EVERYONE- if you JUST want to see my TNBC submissions. That's my blog as much as this one is and PARDON ME for wanting to promote my original artwork that I hope you'll give some attention to as much as my fanart for. I know it's hard to do/care about people's original work when you don't know/don't want to give money to something you don't know. I shouldn't act entitled to the reaction I want, and I'm not trying to.

But, personally, as an artist - nothing tells me "I don't care about you personally or your health/wellbeing" more than asking 'when's 'x' thing coming out?' again and again and AGAIN . . . And frankly, I've been slacking on reblogging as many people's fundraisers, commission prices and MORE because I was afraid of this kind of behavior. I'm sorry I have a life and maybe need a little help sometimes. I'm sorry my friends who are also writers and artists have lives. In the case of my TNBC blog specifically, I made that blog because I felt at peace and in love with my hyperfixation in Nightmare Before Christmas. Don't make me dread of associate these kinds of feelings with my hyperfixtion. Don't make me a moody-proody Jack Skellington who feels like no one understands me and just wants me to 'keep dancing'. Don't take this passion away from me.

You know that crapphrase that everyone says is Marilyn Monroe when it isn't: "if you can't take me at my worst you don't deserve me at my best" or however it goes? That one. The thing that sucks about that phrase, besides it not being from Marilyn, is that it's used and weaponized by shiddy gaslighter-type when it's not supposed to be about the right to be mean and get away with it. It's SUPPOSED to be a plea of acceptance. It's one of many philosophies that can be used for toxic self-care/self-harm, but in itself is not about forcing people to tolerate your bull. Believe me; I've been screamed at in real life and goaded into letting someone trashtalk me online because I was gaslit to 'sit there and take it' because 'I deserve it' one too many real times. I know what someone who truly does the "take me at my worst = me hurting you;disregarding your feelings" ACTUALLY acts.

If you can't take me at my self-promoty-cringey-social-justice-gawker awkward-autistic self, than you don't deserve me at my creative ~autistic gurl~ aesthetic self.

DM or PM me if you're having a legit problem and think something is wrong or I'm hurting myself/others/making an unwise choice. Other than that: cope. My blogs are my blogs.

[my-castles-crumbling]

what are your feelings on people sending you self-promotion (asking you to read their fics)?

Okay I don't know how else to say this:

PLEASE FLOOD MY INBOX!

I love getting everything from you guys! Requests for advice, ideas for fics, self-promos, chain things, shitposts, ANYTHING!

My only thing with fics is, I do have some hard limits as far as reading, so if I go to the fic and I see that it's something I mentally can't candle (MCD for example) I might nicely say that. Also, like- unless you're clear that you're looking for help/advice on a fic, I'm just going to read it and hype you up. But other than that, yes. Please!

[mysmorgasbordoffantabulosa]

"He hasn't made said anything about member's brand deals or even variety shows. That's the distinction."

This....

He talked about Yoongi's Suchwita they even used him in a promo. Made sense since yoongi didn't release any new song. Tae also didn't but he is in Jinny's kitchen. So I guess not too far fetched if people are expecting him to say something about Tae.

As a taekooker it might not be a big deal people can always stick to perspectives they prefer to satisfy themselves. This actually increases the gap between their solos. I been in many fandoms so I understand truce between solos of couples are quite difficult but why make it big if you are really in a relationship.

All I am saying I don't think Jungkook is obligated to dance on fandom whims. He can very well promote/support whoever he wishes. I am just looking it from the perspective of potential fans and relationship support. People are aware of their outings, they know we are aware so not talking about a partners work openly isn't hiding anything really. I don't think Jungkook will promote/support Taehyung's album to this level. Reason is I have observed a pattern with Jungkook and how he deals his relationship with Tae. When he starts interacting with him more onscreen he deliberately interacts with HWSNBN. Maybe it's his way of balancing things. Its a mere observation and not a matter of right and wrong.

Somebody mentioned they need to hide their relationship so he doesn't talk about Tae exclusively. Well enough but why go extra with HWSNBN. He could have done this with any member. Just because if they have to hide their relationship forever he can't use same person as a distraction. Again I am not claiming motive of live was to exclusively support HIM. It could be a coincidence or pre-planned as you hinted. I am just putting out a point while it's not ok to be insecure any fan heavily biased again Tae may feel cheated, solo or shipper. Again artist is not obligated to entertain shippers but smart manoeuvring can be excercised.

Another anon pointed out Asians are critical to their loved ones in private and may not choose to talk about them in public. Its a very stereotypical statement in a cultural context. I am also an Asian, I can assure you this is not a cultural phenomenon but more of an indivualistic approach. Some Asians tends to be critical of their loved ones in private but some at the same time love to brag about them. I think Jungkook is both. While he like to keep things private he never shies from bragging about Taehyung's handsomeness. So bragging about their work is also not extreme. Also, I would like to add we have seen various BTS moments of Jungkook being critical of Tae's performance and artistry when he knows cameras are rolling and members are present.

The way I look this situation is I feel both of them needs public support about their relationship specifically in the future even if they want to come out of not. While hiding things are okay but would create dissonance between their solo fandoms, particularly when other mentions yoo time and time again. I am a pro Jungkook fan but I admire Tae's quality of mentioning/hiding about Jungkook. It feels like everything is in open yet hidden. Jungkook, I feel, takes extreme measures to either hide or he becomes plane obvious in his admiration. I think he is learning to balance and improved from his past self.

At the end what they have decided between themselves, if they are cool with everything is sorted. From a market's perspective I think they need to come out on a plane where their fans can be mollified and don't hate other artist. It will be beneficial for their hidden relation support.

I think this has become too big, apologies. My intention is to bring forth discussion and not offend anyone.

You know I'll admit I'm a bit of a SIZE queen, but you're right that was TOO BIG...

Some key things you say I think most of us can agree with...

"All I am saying I don't think Jungkook is obligated to dance on fandom whims."

"At the end what they have decided between themselves, if they are cool with everything is sorted."

As for some of the rest...

"When he starts interacting with him (Tae) more onscreen he deliberately interacts with HWSNBN."

I'm not sure this is actually the case. In the last 3 years I've never really seen JK interact with any member online the way he has recently. JK just wasn't very active and rarely posted or commented on anything. Yet since being exclusive on Weverse, he's interacted with RM, Hobi, HWSNBN and Tae.

Also, bear in mind that since going exclusive on Weverse only one member has released music so far. We'll find out if it's an isolated incident when Suga releases D-Day. Will JK go all out for him to? Only time will tell.

[gracefullou]

"Almost as if Sony overlaid Fine Line and Walls promo because they wanted to promote one over the other..."

Yes Fine Line was being promoted at the same time Walls was being promoted because they were released 6 weeks apart. It's not a conspiracy ffs. Fine Line was Sony's biggest-selling album for about 9 months. They were not thinking about Walls when they promoted it. Those two albums were not being mentioned in the same conversations. Get real.

What has Harry playing a show or having dinner or being at a birthday party got to do with Walls, and why do you know and why do you care?? Honestly it's this kind of unhinged stuff from fans that keeps Louis tied to Harry forever.

Zero reading skill whatsoever. Read that ask and answer again. The anon said that they hope LT3's release would be distanced from TS and the weekend for obvious reasons and Hrry's bc it happened before and larries and directioners proved their loyalty belongs to that man only. Those things over lapping don't matter to you bc you're not a larry and obviously a Hrry fan 😬 but these people think those two are married and find it completely acceptable how the promo of the two albums went (only fl was promoted), how Hrry was in another continent the release of walls and so many other things like Sea mentioned. And fyi, Hrry wasn't the big star he is now before fl. He needed larries and directioners at the time (he doesn't anymore). If only they showed a little support towards Louis with the whole Euphoria thing, if only they expressed their anger when the ugly baldie dared to disrespect Jay and call her someone's mom, if only they called him out when that man said very proudly and insensitively how he always knew he wanted to sing the whole thing when he was in the band (he basically sang the whole song minus like 30 secs and even that wasn't enough. Imagine how Louis and Niall felt 😬. And that wouldn't be a problem if he said that with more finesse and consideration since the start of the hiatus instead of the big stink about fans getting tired of us 😂. Everyone knows he was the one who "suggested" the hiatus and man basically confirmed that he did it bc he wanted solo and still got zero backlash. I really believe that the fl promo is the reason his team knows he can get away with anything when it comes to his stupid fans bc if they ignored that, they'll ignore everything else). That whole campaign reeked of desperation, they left no stone unturned. Idk how his "fans" didn't get tired of his shirtless pics and him saying the word sex every two sentences 😭. To answer your question, why do i know? Bc in 2019 Louis was yet to release his album, i was on Twitter a lot waiting for updates and i was pretty indifferent towards Hrry so his name wasn't blocked and it was his album promo time ofc he was all over my tl (his name and many things about him are blocked now and still i get the jumpscare of seeing his face regularly 💔. Also, can y'all stop pretending that you don't get updates about the other memebers when they do something bc i dislike all of them and have their name and many things associated with them blocked and still they show up in my tl 😔). And thank god i know otherwise maybe i would've bought the bs larries say to defend the Euphoria thing and the someone's mom comment (it's funny how you lived through something and you know exactly what happened and then you have someone who probably wasn't even there at the time and try to tell you no you didn't see that you're wrong 🙄). It's not me or us who call out larries' behavior and sometimes that man's actions in relation to Louis and the band who are tying Louis to him. It's the larries who after everything disregard Louis' pride, his ambition, his self respect to ship him with a man who has never ever showed him half the grace, half the kindness. Even in the ask you're referring to, Sea moved on to express her happiness with fitf and how things are different for Louis now, it doesn't really matter how close/ distant his album's release will be from that man's.

[kitpromo1]

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[ageofevermore]

Eighteen | T. Holland

Summary → you’re tired of feeling like the world silences you, but after an interview with sebastian and anthony, you start to wonder if maybe it’s your fault.

Warning(s) → mentions of anxiety, mentions of sexual harassment, mentions of inequality in gender roles, use of the word slut, fluff if you squint 

Word Count → 1.9k

Note → this is a heavier topic, one that might be personal to some. if you don’t think you can handle the subject matter, please don’t force yourself to. this is relatively watered down, but it doesn’t take a genius to see what’s not being said. the ending features boyfriend!tom consoling the reader, so it does end on a fluffy note, but don’t hold out for those few ending paragraphs. 

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It’s getting hotter in the interviews. A thin layer of sweat sparkles on your skin, and even though the air conditioning has been turned down multiple times, there are too many people in the room to feel any drastic differences. It’s unfortunate for you. Hot flashes are a lovely addition to your anxiety disorder, and press always sets your nerves ablaze. It doesn't matter what project you’re promoting, who you're partnered with, or what you're wearing-- you’re always hot. 

Your cheeks are flushed dangerously when the last interview before lunch is called for yourself, Sebastian, and Anthony. This is your first press tour as an adult. You joined the marvel franchise years ago, when being eighteen felt like the equivalent of turning thirty, and you weren’t blind to the changes of tone. People were harsher to you, more forward. If they weren’t shutting you up, they were hinting at something less then appropriate, usually something sexual. 

The next interview started with a short introduction to the media outlet, and your interviewer. He was middle aged, kind smile, salt and pepper hair. He asked for your names, then he told you his, and one by one he shook your hands. His grip on you was criminal, lasting longer than was comfortable. Sebastian and Anthony we’re oblivious to the few extra seconds of contact between you and him, but it made your skin crawl in a familiar discomfort. 

Your fingers curled into fists, heart high in your throat. The questions started out easy. They were mostly directed towards the boys, like always, but this time you couldn’t find yourself to be annoyed. You had dealt with handsy and sexually charged men before, but he set a fire beneath you. It wasn’t behavior you should tolerate, but being a woman in the industry, inappropriate touches and glances we’re easier ignored then dealt with. When you spoke up you caused drama, made headlines, attracted nasty social media comments that called you a whore. It was easier to just internalize. 

“Y/N.” 

You hummed, looking towards the call of your name. He was smiling sweetly at you again, a predatory glint in his eyes that put you on edge. You shifted your weight closer to Anothony unconsciously giving the hungry man your professional attention and a nod. 

He shuffles through his index cards, but his eyes don’t read the scripted questions his employers have supplied him with. It’s not often male interviews do their own research, usually they’re briefed by a colleague and handed a set of questions and topic point by a higher level employee, but this man doesn’t even read the card before he’s staring you down and opening his mouth. 

“You finally got the Stark suit update,” He says, motioning towards the promo poster that shows off your CGI suit in all of its edited glory. Although the actual costume is breathtaking, the computer effects give it an entirely different, more technologically charged, feel. 

“Yeah,” You nod, a forced smile on your lips as you try to ease the uncomfortable tension from your tone. “She’s finally--” 

He cuts you off before you can give him any explanation for the upgrade. He isn’t the first one to address your new wardrobe, but he’s the first one to leave you antsy and uncomfortable. Sebastian frowns when you’re cut off, but he doesn’t think much of it. He lets the man continue, though a professional sharpness pulls his grin into a scowl. 

“Were you able to wear undergarments underneath it? It’s tight, doesn’t leave much to the imagination. Was there ever a moment where you reflected how much your wardrobe has changed through the years?” He asks, a dirty grin on his lips. 

Sebastian and Anthony are shocked at the blunt, inappropriate construction of his question. The public eye knew nothing of your battles with body image, or health concerns that lead to surgery. Your mind was plagued with doubts and self-criticism, and his invasive, pervy question both infuriated you and broke you apart. 

You stutter to find an answer, heat overwhelming you. Your hand grips onto Anthony’s arm, and you can’t decide whether anger is what burns your skin or anxiety. Are you making a big deal of this? You don’t know. You feel like you have every right to feel violated and uncomfortable, but you’re a young woman in the entertainment industry, isn’t this the kind of ignorant commentary you signed up for? You don’t know anymore. You grew up with people always having an opinion on your appearance, sexualizing you as early as twelve. You’ve carried around pepper spray and  self-defense keychains long before you even had an understanding towards predatory men and sexual assault. You’ve been conditioned by the world and the media to carry on with your day, no matter the broken boundaries or disrespect. You’re tired of remaining silent, feeling like your less than your male counterparts. Women and men should hold no differing values in society, and yet you walk to your apartment with keys between your fingers and Tom doesn’t even lock his front door. 

“I don’t think that’s an appropriate question.” You choke out, voice hard and nowhere near the soft and frilly pitch it usually obtains. You’re livid, absolutely pissed to the point of a quivering cupids bow. You’re humiliated, and horrified. Your feelings are everywhere, but you remain as professional as you can. If you yell, try to defend yourself at all, you’ll be painted as a diva in every media outlet for the next week, subliminally inviting backlash and slut-shaming comments into your social media messages. If Sebastian and Anthony come to your defense, they’ll be sung high-praises. 

The double standards men and women are held to, especially in the industry, is infuriating. 

He stumbles out a response, but his time is already up. For the first time today, you’re thankful these interviews are only ten minutes. He leaves the room, shown out by security, and even then he still sends you a wink over his shoulder as if your glimmering eyes meant nothing. 

“Hey,” Sebastian's voice is soft, his hand on the small of your back. You flinch away from his contact, head heavy in memories you’d rather forget. 

“Sorry,” You mumble, voice trembling with tears that you refuse to let fall. You’ve already been humiliated, you don’t need to further paint yourself as some helpless teenage girl. “I’m sorry. I’m going to go find Tom.” 

Anthony and Sebastian nod tightly. They watch as you quiver in your heels, hands clenched into fists at your sides. They’re proud of the way you handled yourself, though still absolutely enraged that any adult would find it appropriate to address you like that, especially in a professional setting. 

You stumble into the dressing rooms, right into your boyfriend's chest. Your mind is racing, but the minute you attach yourself to him, you break down. Shy sobs break Tom’s heart. He holds the back of your head to his chest, other hand on the small of your back and wrapped around your waist as you cry. You’re trying to stay quiet, but the attention is already on you. Chris and Robert are worried, and Zoe’s trying to act like she hasn’t noticed, but they don’t all watch as you try to console yourself with your boyfriend's warmth. 

“What happened?” Tom’s voice is soft, trying to keep this a private moment. He tries to move the both of you back into a corner, but you panic and squeeze around his waist tighter. “Baby,” 

You and Tom have been dating for six months, and although you’ve shared with him stories of your traumatic experiences as a woman living in LA, he’s never seen anything upset you like this. 

“I’m such a slut.” Your words come out so shy and small, you aren’t even sure you can hear yourself. No matter how  many times you tell yourself that your makeup and clothes don’t give men permission to make passes or feel you up, it’s getting harder to believe that your verbal consent is as strong as your clothes. Maybe you are asking for it, and in a wave of nausea, disgusted with yourself, your arms leave Tom’s waist to pull at the bottom of your borrowed dress. 

You’ve been hit on in sweats before. In ball gowns and crop tops. Somebody’s even pushed themselves against you while you wore Tom’s hoodie, but you still convince yourself that it’s your fault. That you we’re asking for it. 

Tom’s jaw sets harshly into place, and he tilts your chin upwards to meet his eye. His brown stare is hard, only adding to your distress. Maybe he agrees. Maybe he’ll blame you for what just happened. He’s probably going to break up with you. Other guys just can’t keep their hands and eyes off of you. He doesn’t want a slut for a girlfriend. 

“What the fuck did you just say, Y/N?” His tone causes you to flinch, words bouncing off of the dressing room walls. Everyone flinches, hearing only his heavy response. You try to divert your attention, but Tom squeezes your jaw, forcing your eyes back on his. “Say it again.” 

“I’m such a slut.” You sniffle, submitting beneath his fiery glare. Tensions are high as you try not to break down again. Apart from Tom, everyone in the room has watched you grow up, never losing that shy and sweet sense of yourself. You’re an exuberant light, a brilliant scene partner, a rising star who has big things in store for the future. You are many things, but a slut, isn’t one of them. 

Tom looks behind you, glaring straight at Anthony and Sebastion who are both stone eyed and still. They’ve not calmed down any since leaving the production room, instead, it seems their anger has only risen. The sight of you so distraught churns their stomachs. 

“Some asshole tried to make a pass.” Sebastion said in short, words angry and delivered as such. 

Tom’s breath hitched, his arms tightening around you and pulling you closer to his chest. His chin digs into your crown, eyes pinches shut as his hot exhale feels heavy. 

“You aren’t a slut, Y/N.” He doesn’t leave any room for argument, but you try anyways. Tom has no patience for it, and so he tilts your head back and plants his lips against yours harshly and eagerly, desperate to show you love and intimacy. “You. Aren’t. A. Slut.”

You nod, ducking your head back down into his chest as you try to believe him-- try to remember that you never asked for hands around your waist, or cupping your boobs. Wolf whistles, or handshakes that turn into forced frontal hugs. You didn’t ask for any of the harassment, no matter the outfits you wore and what they revealed.  

Tom lowers his voice, whispers melting into your hair, “This isn’t your fault, baby. Please believe me. None of this, is your fault. It’s disgusting and inappropriate, and you don’t deserve to deal with any of it.” 

You sniffle. You can’t tell him you believe him, not yet. Not when your heart is so heavy. Maybe one day you’ll believe him, but that’s just not now. 

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[aslitheryprinx]

Hi, guys. So I really didn't want to make this post, but I think we need to have a talk.

Just to preface this, I'm not mad, and I'm not trying to call anyone out. If you figure out who any of the people I'm talking about are, do not harass them or try to say anything on my behalf please 💖

A couple different people have been self-promoing or pestering me to read something under my posts or the posts I reblog from friends. It's not a huge issue, it doesn't make the people doing this bad people, but it's gotten to the point where it's really uncomfortable and awkward for me.

If you are one of the people who've been doing this, I am not mad at you. I know you're just excited and want to share your work with people (or maybe me specifically idk.)

But I only have so much free time. I can't read every fic, and to be frank, I'm much less interested in something if it keeps getting pushed at me. It just makes me feel pressured like I'm going to let the people down if I don't read it.

I rarely read things outside of my set group of creators and tropes; I'd love to give everyone in our community support with every post but that's just not feasible.

Being asked to do things, interact with certain fics or aus or art makes me feel like these people just want me to boost their numbers. To you [redacted number] blogs who do this, even if it isn't your intention, it's not a very nice feeling.

If someone is asking for recommendations or self-promo, then its appropriate. Otherwise, its likely to make the person uncomfortable.

This is a hobby, this is a comfort. This is my space to explore my own content and sometimes others' at my own leisure.

In the future, please don't do this to me or any other creator. It's a very impolite thing to do, bad etiquette. You wouldn't go into a twitch stream and promote your own channel- or at least I hope you wouldn't. Please give me and the other people in this community the same courtesy.

I don't want anyone to feel bad about this or have their feelings hurt, but at some point I have to put my foot down.

I love you all 💖 thank you for reading.

[coricomile]

I don't follow the cast, promo team, and crew of Stranger Things on anything because anything other than Tumblr on the social media front makes me go "no thank you", so I don't have the frame of reference of those places re: queerbaiting. I've heard that there was promotion of Will/Mike through June and retweets of fanart, but I like the show enough to get excited to watch it, not enough to follow the BTS stuff.

Do I think Will's "coming out" speech in the van to Mike via his relationship with El was mishandled? Yes. (Noah did great. It's just sort of a bad handling of the situation.) Did I think the way Jonathan was looking back at him in the rearview mirror and connecting the dots and then later meeting Will (who still isn't comfortable saying "I'm gay" or whatever form he's decided on- HE'S YOUNG. They're teens, still figuring themselves out, including the labels they pick) where he is and saying "You're my brother and no matter what I will have your back and love you" was important for both of them? Absolutely.

Do I think the fandom expectation that Mike and Will would suddenly become boyfriends is realistic? No. Absolutely not. Mike has had a great big crush on El since day one. His friends are important to him, but as you get older you fumble through balancing friendships with romantic relationships, and sometimes your friends fall to the wayside as you go through that very first love.

Mike got some cardboard development in S4, I'll give it that. But at no point did he show the same development of queer feelings the way Will does. He has been obsessed with El from day one, and Will's crush on Mike has been developed over several seasons. A crush on a straight best friend isn't unheard of. Especially for Will, when that straight best friend has literally helped save his life multiple times.

Is it tired? Yes. There could have been something with Will realizing he needed to move on from those feelings for Mike, and maybe even an incredibly uncomfortable "I love you, but not like that" conversation instead of the "El (I) need/s you" one? Yes.

But it's being put into the same category with Steve and Eddie- both who have only ever shown interest in women- and Robin and Nancy. Robin knows who she wants. She is solid in that. (Yeah, we didn't need the boyfriend bit, but Robin was also looking outside of the personal angst she and Steve had been feeling for their relationships and to the bigger picture and becoming a hero for people that might hate her if they knew her real self, much like Eddie.) And Nancy has never once shown interest in women. She's perpetually been the top point of a het love triangle since day one, and will (and should) probably drop all the boys for her journalism career.

Some of it was handled sloppy re: Will. But expecting all the canonically straight characters to go "lol, psych, super gay" is unrealistic and bad writing. Yeah, Will deserved a love interest that loves him back, but he's been in love with Mike for most of his adolescence and that takes time to move on from.

[harry-sussex]

You're lovely, and I enjoy seeing your blog on my dashboard. I'm sorry this has been such a difficult thing to process. It's always really difficult to rework an image of someone you once thought you knew. However I'd like to just put it out there - sometimes (I think the large majority of the time) news is presented in the most sensationalist way, such that nowadays I make a point of de-sensationalizing any news I read in my head. In the case of the whole Harry's memoir thing- I can sympathize with Harry as a person possibly just wanting to take back some control of the narrative for himself. Not just in the most recent events with family (that I tend to think are less horrifying than the fandom/Twitter sussex squad discusses it anyway), but in all aspects of his life. I do not at all think he's going to put his family on blast. I can easily imagine Meghan reigning that dialogue in; she has the tendency to think before she speaks that he seems to lack. And he loves his family. Similar to The Interview promos, I imagine the publishing house knew to increase the interest by implying it to be a tell all memoir. I think he's just done a lot of growing up that he didn't know he had to do over a short period of time, esp re: implicit bias/racism in the setting of media's blatant attack on someone he loves, and is disappointed by the institution's and his family's response to it. I think he's emerged a more introspective and aware human, albeit a disillusioned one. Yes it breaks my heart to think that Meghan won't get a break from the tabloids any time soon. If I were him I'd counsel him to write it & sit on it for a few yrs. But I don't want to give the media the power to destroy Meghan in my mind, and I pray she & Harry won't either. I think she'll be okay. She's a strong one, and I think he's able to draw that same link for himself and be thoughtful about what he does. No one likes being misunderstood/misinterpreted, and I wouldn't be surprised if Harry's especially triggered by that given his history with the press. Maybe this idea emerged from therapy, idk. I can empathize with that, even if I wouldn't do it myself. I hope and pray Meghan gets the support she needs from him and her loved ones in the meantime. I'm honestly not going to read it. I think the less attention I give the BRF the better off they are, unless they're doing something immoral/illegal (see: Woking pizza alibi). And I think at the end of the day, people will unfairly judge other people, especially public figures that have tragic pasts and are publically fighting with the media. A lot of it is going to be noise and I'm not going to give my energy into figuring it out. I like to think I've got a good sense of who they are as people - flawed but ultimately well meaning and earnest. I'm a huge admirer of Meghan and think Harry got really lucky with this one and I'm proud of him for choosing her in more ways than one. I believe Harry and Meghan are lovely people, and I 100% believe their interview. I believe that there are people in the palace with a lot of unchecked power who deliberately uncovered her and Archie from BRF protection for reasons of believed superiority over Meg & Arch. And they're figuring out how to deal with that as a couple and a family. And it's none of my business past that imo. I pray for them and hope it'll eventually end in peace for them all. Just wanted to add another perspective, and hopefully some levity. xx M

Hi, dear. First thing’s first, I really appreciate that this is off anon lol. I love it when people own their opinions, and it says a lot that you did. So thank you for that.

Second of all, I really appreciate the nuance and perspective that is in this message. I agree that the news is sensationalist, and my initial reaction was based off of that. I did watch the promotional clips of the interview and I believe it did sour my expectations going into it when I watched it nearly a week after it aired. I did my best to stay away from Tumblr because I didn’t want that to hinder my view, but it was impossible to separate the promotions that presented the information one way from what it actually was, and thank you for bringing that up with respect to the memoir because I hadn’t considered it. I will say that my knee jerk reaction is pretty on par with the way I still feel about it 24 hours later, especially since I got the news directly, not from Tumblr or Twitter or anywhere else, but you’re right that it could have soured my view from the very start.

I appreciate that he wants to take back some of the narrative but I think that ship has sailed, tbh. He did that with the interview and now I just think it feels like information overload. At some point, people are going to get tired of hearing the wealthy, privileged, powerful Prince complain about his life while more than 4 million people have died due to a global pandemic in less than 2 years. Not to say that he doesn’t struggle - in the words of Roxane Gay, there is no oppression Olympics (and that can be extended to struggle Olympics) - but people view it that way and will get tired of it, if they haven’t already.

I also agree that Harry’s past with the press has tarnished the way he has handled the media and the public post-exit, when he’s finally in a position to strike back without being somewhat obliged to them as part of the circumstances of his birth. I understand and sympathize with him but I just don’t think the public does, and the public matters much, much more than the perspective of one single American fan, to whom he’s never been obliged, and I simply do not think the public will afford him that same understanding, sympathy, and leniency. The public and the media are critical to his humanitarian work - his mother never realized that towards the end of her life, and I truly don’t think she would have been the martyr/saint she is perceived to be now if she had lived, because she did not know how to meet the media in the middle and eventually that started to piss people off. He’s starting to piss people off now and if it doesn’t bother him personally (which it definitely does), I don’t want it to affect his causes. The Invictus Games, Sentebale, Walking with the Wounded, WellChild, Mayhew, Smartworks, Archewell, etc. deserve better than to suffer the wrath of the media and an apathetic public because their patrons simply will not shut up lol.

I guess my point is that they will be unfairly judged (regardless, but especially due to the way they’re handling things), and I think it would suit them better in the long run if they adopted a different strategy. I really sympathize with the fact that he feels frustrated with the narrative that has been manufactured but I really, really think the narrative will only get worse and worse as he continues to go on and on about how badly his life sucks, basically. Again, I don’t deny that he struggles - we all do, some more than others, especially when there are mental health issues - but the public, to me, simply does not care. My own therapist has told me to simply stop caring about the things that I discuss with him. Not to say that they’re not relevant, important, or worthy of discussion - they absolutely are - but his point is that you cannot change people and you are wasting your energy and struggling yourself because you want to change them so, so, so badly that you’re neglecting your own self care in the process. I hate that I do it to myself and I also hate that he appears to be doing it to himself. I’m sure a lot of this conversation has been brought up in his own therapy, and I’m no professional, but I’m doing my best to heed the advice of my own therapist - which is the opposite of what Harry is doing - and it’s done wonders for me, when I actually can do it.

If there’s anything I know from this whole thing, it’s that Harry is absolutely punching above his weight, love him as I may, and that he adores, adores, adores his wife. He has chosen her from the very second she came into his life and I couldn’t want anything more for him or from her. I’m not going to lie, I would have been in this thing for any wife that Harry chose, because I was here long before Meghan specifically came into his life. However, I am glad every day that he chose her, that he loves her, that he wants to protect her, that she loves him back, that he lives the life with her that he’s wanted as long as I (and I’m sure he) can remember. I love her because he loves her, and I would have no matter what, because at the end of the day, it’s his happiness and comfort that matters to me, that has mattered to me since I discovered him and how wonderful he can be more than 7 years ago. What more could I ask of Meghan? What more, as his fan to the end (annoy me as he may), could I want for him? Who could say anything about her in that regard? If there’s anything that has come of this mess, to me, it’s that Harry loves, loves, loves his wife. I will always be happy for him and I will always be proud of him for choosing her, even if I don’t always agree with the way he goes about it.

I’m looking forward to peace, too. I cannot wait for things to just die out, for them to work things out as a couple and as a family, and for everyone to move on. The family will still do their thing and the Sussexes can do theirs, but I cannot deal with this back and forth, tit for tat, petty nonsense anymore. They’re wonderful and flawed, like the rest of them (except Andrew), and I just hope that they can all come to some kind of agreement or terms that lets this die down. It’s exhausting for everyone - themselves included. If I’m this tired, I can only imagine how tired they all are.

Thanks for stopping by, and sorry for the essay (essays, these past 24 hours lol). I really appreciate your kindness in this message, your presence in my notifications (I do see them!), your nuanced perspective and like I said before, I really, really appreciate that you own it!

[kourtwrites]

i'm really not trying to be rude, just honest and you're very welcome to not post this at all but your constant promoing of your rp makes it seem like you're kind of desperate for apps and not happy with your current mems

I’m not going to lie I debated even posting this, but I decided I want to because I want to clarify a few things just incase anyone else feels this way.

First of it’s not my rp? I’m not an admin there, the admins are Becca and Drea. I’m just a member of the group. I do know both admins and have known them for a while, but I’m still just a member. They have never asked me to promo or anything like that. I’ve done this myself because I love the group and feel passionate about it. So to be blunt I’m not desperate for apps or unhappy with current members, because it’s not my group? 

Second off I do want to address the notation that I’m not happy with current members. The members of this groups are some of my best friends and I spent most of my time talking/interacting with them online. I love every single person in that group! Some of them I just met in this group, but other’s I’ve known upwards for 4+ years. Plus I can promise you if I didn’t like the members I wouldn’t be in the group or promo it. 

I do want to point out that I’ve always promoted this way though for every single group I’ve been apart of mod or not. If you’d like you’re welcome to check back I use to promo heavily when I was apart of MIO, BTS, and HG. It’s just who I’ve always been? It doesn’t mean I’m unhappy or desperate for something. When I’m in a group and I love it I want to share that love with other people. Half the rps I’ve joined are off people recommending them to me, that’s why I promo. Because someone else could see the group, join, and end up falling in love. It’s not meant to be a negative thing or that I’m out here scouting? It’s just me wanting to see wanted connections come to life, wanting to see new and interesting characters, and even a little of me wanting to see some of the rps I love playing against. I mostly just like rping! 

Also just to note here I will always promo my friends when I see their groups or I’m apart of them. Hell I will shamelessly self promo at times too and I have when I’ve been an admin of a group.

I know this got longer than I intended, but I guess what I’m trying to say here is; If the group gets new members that’s amazing, but if they don’t it’s okay too because I am happy where I’m at and who I’m with. 

P.S. I’ll be honest I never knew it came off this way or that it was being reblogged that much. I usually just spam the dash for a few hours then roll out like I normally do. In effort to be more cautious of those who follow me I’ll reblog it less, because I’m not trying to be an annoyance here. If you want you’re welcome to block the tag it’s rp promo, but if you want to unfollow me that’s cool too, because at the end of the day I’m still going to reblog the group. 

[fiendmuse]

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[bebecue]

I actually think MX are the nicest Idol group. Like genuinely the nicest because they're honest. Like in the 1theK interview thing the whole joke about how many promotions they do and they were just like smiling while saying other groups were always like ":o you're here again?!" hysterical but tragic; petition to give MX a proper holiday

Wait this is a rambling ask

Oh oh oh I know what I meant I was getting at that I genuinely do think MX are nice and won't lie or exaggerate things just for clout or something

I just love them okay?

Also I think Shownu is basically a Saint. All other members Monstas are fantastic but Shownu is a whole 'nother level of patience and kindness I have never seen him get annoyed about anything ever even Kihyun who I live with my whole heart still gets frustrated. But Shownu?? Literally only gets annoyed about food, my highly strung pissy self could never..

This ask is long and rambly I have no idea what I'm talking about I have been awake 22hours

I love you

oh yeah mx literally never stop, like i keep wondering when theyre gonna take a break bc my wallet needs a break but GIVE MX A VACATION THATS UNFILMED AND NOT PART OF THEIR PROMOS PLEAAAASE

shownu has infinite levels of patience i swear like if only i could get a smidge of that, i'd be so happy, i think we're in the same boat

[fiendmuse]

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