Hey guys, welcome back to Lavendaire.
So today I want to have a heart-to-heart talk about change.
And I feel like this entire year
things have been changing a lot.
I have been changing
and I'm paying more attention to change.
And when you start to pay more attention
to the little details that are changing,
you really notice that
every day is differentand
you are changing every single day.
And when something happens that changes you,
you're never the exact same person
as you were before.
But you know,
who I am today
with a new scar on my leg from Coco
is not the same girl I was
before I had this kind of scar on my leg.
You know, things like that: the little details.
Change is not bad
And first off,
let's start off with saying that change is not bad.
Change is the only constant in life.
Change is inevitable.
We should be changing.
We are changing,
even if you're trying to resist it.
So I'm here to say: Don't resist change.
Embrace it, because change is beautiful.
I posted a caption on Instagram
that I really like saying,
“Isn't it such a beautiful thought
that life is leading you somewhere
you've never been before?”
There's such a sense of wonder in that
life is leading you somewhere you've never been before.
You are becoming a person that you've never been before.
And it's scary because it's different.
But it's fun because it's new.
To me, it's fun.
Some people
it might be terrifying and they don't want to change,
but you know, you can't fight it.
It's going to happen, so you might as well go with it.
So let's talk about how I've changed recently,
I guess.How Ive changed
So I can tell that I have changed internally
because I see myself changing externally in just simple things,
like the way my nails are always a different color
each time I get them done.
My hair is always a different color.
It's never the same.
My hair is more damaged now than it was last year
because I did this double process thing.
And I've gotten certain things done,
like I got microbladed brows,
so I'm not the same as I was
before I had this tattoo or even this tattoo.
I've gotten laser hair removal.
I am not the same girl as I was before.
You know, my body is different.
You guys might have noticed
I had a scab and some scars here
because I recently got my skin tags removed.
I had tiny skin tags
and it runs on my dad's side of the family that,
when you get older
they become these brown things
that stick out of your neck.
So I really wanted to get rid of them early
while they were small.
So I recently did this a couple of weeks ago
and I'm like, “Wow, I'm a new person now.”
I'm not the same girl
I was before with the skin tags, you know?
And I know it sounds silly,
but it's just saying
that the fact that I'm changing externally,
I'm someone I've never been before
and that must mean that I'm changing internally as well.
And you might not notice it, you know?
These are small things
and that's how change happens.
It happens bit by bit, little by little.
And you don't notice in the day-to-day
and then one year happens and you're like,
“Oh my gosh, I've changed,” you know?
And so what I'm doing is
paying more attention to those little changes day by day.
Love your body
Another way I've changed recently is
I've started to see my body in a different way.
I've started to really learn to love my body even more,
learn to feel comfortable in my skin even more.
I've been very shy and insecure about my body growing up.
You know, I always thought I had thighs that were too big.
I've been gaining a little weight in my belly recently
and I was just insecure about the summertime,
going to Vegas or the beach or all these things.
And I think after a few of those experiences,
I'm just like, “You know what? I don't care.”
My body is as it is right now and I love my body
and I'm going to show it off because I am young for now.
I'm not going to be young forever.
You know, you might as well enjoy what you've got
and it's not perfect, but nobody's perfect.
And I've learned to embrace it even more.
And something that I've learned from Louise Hay
was kind of life changing in a way
that it changed my mindset on my body.
Now you guys might think
that I'm a little weird for talking about this,
but I'm sure most of you will get it
because we're on the same wavelength.
But if you've heard of Louise Hay,
she wrote a book called “You Can Heal Your Life,”
and she talks about
how a lot of physical symptoms have emotional causes.
And I read about the emotional causes of fats in your body.
Basically she says
that the emotional cause of fat
being stored in your body is oversensitivity.
It's our need to protect ourselves.
It's our fear.
So you know, fat is protection.
It cushions your body.
So imagine the fat in your body is
protecting you from something.
It's protecting you from fear or anger
or something that has built up
that you haven't really dealt with.
I'm just going to read this from my laptop
It comes from Louise Hay.
“Fat or weight issues: Oversensitivity.
Often represents fear and shows a need for protection.
Fear may be a cover
for hidden anger and a resistance to forgive.
Running away from feelings,
Insecurity, self rejection, and seeking fulfillment.”
And she also breaks down what it means
when you have fat building up in different areas.
So listen to this: “Arms: Anger at being denied love.
Belly: Anger at being denied nourishment.
Hips: Lumps of stubborn anger at the parent.
Thighs: Packed childhood anger, often rage at the father.”
If you guys know my story,
you listened to my podcast,
or you’re taking the Dream Life course on the healing and forgiveness,
you know that I've had childhood issues with my dad.
And when I read that and I was like,
“Oh my God,
I've always been insecure about my bigger-than-normal thighs.”
And the fact that in this book it says
that thighs are related to“packed childhood anger, often rage at father,”
I was like, “Oh my God, is this a coincidence?
Do I believe this?”
And I don't know about you,
but I am more of an intuitive person.
I don't need science.
I don't need facts.
When I feel something's right, I believe in it
or I just choose to believe in it because it helps me.
So it's kind of helped me see my body in a different way
and see my fat in a different way, you know?
I understand that fat is here because it's for my protection.
It's actually trying to protect me and help me.
And now that I am older, I'm matured,
I'm healing from everything.
I'm releasing things and letting it go.
I've decided I want to release this emotional baggage
that I've been carrying with me my whole life.
And this emotional baggage is also this extra weight,
physical and emotional weight that you've been carrying
because you have resentment that you've held,
or something from the past that you haven't completely healed from.
And to see it in that light really helped me
love my body even more and tell myself, “Okay, fat, I love you.
Thanks for protecting me, but I'm ready to let you go.
I don't need you to protect me anymore.”
I'm a new person.
I'm a new woman.
I can be vulnerable now.
I can be more real, I can be myself,
and thus I don't need this protection around me.
And so that's how I'm working through it.
It's a lot of mental and emotional as well as physical,
as well as eating healthy and working out
and doing everything that you need to do.
So I've been intermittent fasting –
and I'm not an expert at any of this
so I never really want to make videos on this –
but I've just been working on losing weight,
doing the physical stuff.
But mostly it's the mental and the emotional,
releasing that weight and that extra baggage.
Moving on: Another way that I've changed recently is
Be brutally honest
I have learned to be more brutally honest with my close friends
and I have always been someone who is a people pleaser.
I'm very kind.
I'm very, very polite.
I never want to hurt anyone's feelings.
But you know what I've learned is,
sometimes you hurt people when you're trying not to hurt their feelings.
What I mean by that is:
If someone is in the wrong and "someone" is your close friend,
you have the duty, it's your responsibility to tell them the truth,
to tell them that they messed up
or they did something that hurt someone else or whatever.
It's just your job – especially if they're unaware.
And you know, for me – I, many, many times in the past
I've held myself back from being honest or truthful
because I didn't want to hurt my friend.
I didn't want to hurt their ego.
I knew that confronting them would
1) be super uncomfortable and awkward
and
2) would hurt them, would make them feel bad.
And now as I'm more mature, I realized that,
you know, making them feel bad is a temporary thing.
But if you tell them, yeah,
it might make them feel bad temporarily,
but it would give them the knowledge and insight
to help them change for the better.
And thus it's good for them in the long run.
And in this world, most people,
if they're not your close friends,
they don't care as much about you.
They're not gonna take time out of their day.
They're not going to make the effort to tell you the truth.
They're just gonna shut you out and move on with their lives.
That's why we don't deal with haters.
You know, a hater is going to come at you and you're like,
“Okay, I don't have time or energy to heal you, to help you,
so I'm just going to move on with my life.”
But the friend, the close friend of that hater,
has the responsibility to tell them the truth,
to help them in whatever they have to deal with.
You know, someone's got to tell them.
You realize that the world is just going to brush these people off
because they don't care as much about them.
But if you are a close friend and you care about them,
then you gotta be the one to be brutally honest with them.
And I've grown so much guys.
I used to be so shy, so polite, so nice to everyone, every situation.
And I – not that I'm not nice or kind still, but I can be stronger.
I can stand up for myself.
I could stand up for what's right even more now.
That's a huge way that I've changed.
Untouchable things
Another way that I've changed recently is:
I have learned to see my worth in things that are invincible,
things that are untouchable,
things that nothing, nobody can take away from me,
things like my soul, my gifts, my life experience.
You know, those are things that no matter what happens in life,
no matter how bad I fail or fall,
or people take things away from me,
I cannot lose those things.
Your soul is invincible, indestructible, universal, whatever.
And your gifts, you know,
you're always gonna have your talents, I guess.
Obviously there are exceptions.
You know, if you lose your arms,
you can't play piano anymore.
But what I mean is the way that my mind thinks,
my perspective, my world view, my kindness,
my creativity, things like that I don't believe can be taken away.
And my life experience,
because it's in the past,
everything that I've experienced, all those experiences,
traveling, going to school, building a brand or whatever,
I have that experience
and no matter what happens, I still have that.
And it's a beautiful thing to know that you have gained something
that cannot be taken away and that is your experience.
And I've just been learning to focus on cultivating more self-worth.
I mean I did that whole self-worth series.
If you haven't seen it, definitely check it out.
I'm really proud of it.
And I did that series
because it's something that I have been trying to learn,
something that I've struggled with in the past.
You know, how to stop comparing myself to others,
how to truly believe in my self worth and be confident,
not put my worth in physical things,
not put my worth in numbers on social media
or my business or my productivity,
not put my worth in what other people think about me,
not trying to prove myself to other people.
I used to live life trying to prove my parents,
trying to prove that I can be successful.
And I think that's really common for Asian children.
You know, you want to prove that you can get straight A's,
and you want to prove that you can make it in life.
And at the end of the day, after I've done certain things,
I feel like I've finally matured out of that stage
where now, all that matters is what I think of myself.
It doesn't matter what other people think of me.
They can think I'm crazy or stupid or something else.
But all that matters is that I hold myself with high regard.
I don't need to prove my worth to anyone else
because I know I have innate worth.
And I talked about this in the self worth series
where if you look at a baby, a baby is so lovable.
Everyone loves babies.
They're so cute and cuddly
and we love them automatically, and they didn't do anything.
And yet a baby has worth simply because it is alive, it's breathing.
It exists in this world and thus it has worth.
Life is so precious.
Life is priceless.
We cannot recreate it.
We can't put a price on life.
And that's why it has so much worth.
And you, if you are a living being, watching this video,
you have worth because you are alive and that is all you need.
You don't need to prove yourself by doing anything.
You don't need to achieve anything to have worth.
You are worthy simply by being alive.
And that is something that, it's one thing to say,
it's another thing to really believe it.
So that is the journey that I've been on, that I'm still on,
but I feel like I've grown so much in that area
to feel that I have so much innate worth.
All right, now I'd love to hear your comments.
How have you changed in the past year?
Comment down below.
I want to hear about your changes.
And don't say you haven't changed because everyone has changed.
We're all changing every single day.
Your hair is growing, your nails,
your toenails are growing.
You're different.
You don't have the same cells on your body as you had yesterday.
You know, it's all different.
It's always changing.
Doesn't your skin regenerate?
Or it's like new every seven years or something.
But anyway, love you guys so much.
I will see you guys in the next one.
Bye!
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何故、中共は「中国4000年の歴史」とか「中華民族」とか見えすいた嘘を吐くのか?侵略の準備なんだよ!
本当は夏朝、殷、隋、唐、金、遼、元、清など全て騎馬民族など異民族支配で元々の漢民族は殆ど後漢で滅んでる
その王朝でも支配してたのは北京周辺であり今のチベット、内モンゴル、ウイグルなどの地域も異民族に支配されており、北京周辺王朝は貢いでたり、王族などから女を贈って、勘弁して貰ってた
女を贈って置いて「あの地方王朝の王は俺たちの婿様だから、あそこも中華王朝の一部」とか無理な事を言ってる
しかし中共はその論理でチベットを盗り、内モンゴルを裏切り、東トルキスタン(ウイグル)を強奪して、中共から人を沢山送り現地人をレイプ強姦して妊娠させ混血児を増やし、現地人には強制堕胎、強制不妊手術を行い純粋な現地人人口を減らし、言葉を奪い、文化や宗教を禁止して文字通り民族浄化して、根絶やしにしようとしている
「元々は中華の一部」「太古より中華民族(なんだソレ?)が住んでた」と言い張り、侵略している
同じ論理をプーチンがウクライナに言って「元々はロシアの一部」「昔からウクライナにもロシア人が住んでた」と言い張り、ロシア系住民保護と主張して、ウクライナに侵攻した
おんなじパターン
中共は「尖閣は中共の土地」「沖縄は中国(どの支那だよ?)に朝貢してた中国の一部」と主張している
北海道には沢山、移民させてる
次はどうなるかって?
そりゃ中共による尖閣、沖縄、北海道の侵略が始まるんだよ!
だから「中国4000年の歴史」とか「ずっと中国はあった」とか「偉大な中華民族(何ソレ?)」という嘘に加担しては駄目だ!
それは彼らの宣伝
それは彼らのプロパガンダ
なんだよ?
欧米なんか知ってか知らずか
鵜呑みにしてる
日本国民は洗脳されて
鵜呑みにしてる
まずそこを否定して
防衛強化して
教育を強化して行こう!
【関連】
828 :本当にあった怖い名無し :sage :2010/09/27(月) 12:12:24 ID:fsTA3r1B0(4)
支那人にも孔子、老子、孟子を生んだ立派な文明があると誤解している日本人が多いのだと思います。
漢文を通じて中国人を理解することぐらい、絶望的な行為はありません。何故なら漢文はこの二千年間というもの中国語とは全く関係がない。日本人のほとんどは漢文を中国語の古語と思ってきたのです。
つまり日本人が尊敬し 知っている漢民族は紀元二世紀でこの地球上から姿を消し、中国住民はそっくり北方の騎馬民族の子孫に何回も何回も入れ替わってしまったのです。
そして秦や漢時代の中国人は,そのほとんどが大陸から居なくなったということです。
ところが日本は遣隋使や遣唐使たちの使節が派遣され膨大な漢籍を大陸から持ち帰り,それを今日まで途切れることなく勉強してきたのです。
つまり日本人は騎馬民族の子孫である中国でなく2000年以上前のいなく なった漢民族の文化を勉強してきたのです。
日本人なら誰でも知っている儒教の開祖である孔子は,紀元前6~5世紀 中国各地の有力諸侯が覇権を争っていた春秋時代のことです
830 :本当にあった怖い名無し :sage :2010/09/27(月) 12:13:38 ID:fsTA3r1B0(4)
使節団が中国から持ち帰った無数の漢籍を日本人は今日まで約1300年間も読み込んできたのです。
早い話が遣隋使や遣唐使が持ち帰った「論語」や「漢詩」などによって 皮肉なことに中国人でなく日本人の人格が磨かれてきたのです。
中国語と漢文は全く関係がない、つまり漢文の読めない中国人にとって孔子や孟子の教えなど身につくはずもありません。
いわゆるこの二千年間というもの,漢文は中国語とは全く関係がないと いうことを多くの日本人は知らなかったのです。
私はこれらのことを中国史研究の第一人者である岡田英弘先生から教えてもらいました。
私も20年前 漢文を通じて身につけた中国イメージのまま中国に進出してそのギャップの大きさに仰天した記憶があります。
中国進出する前は、信義に厚く,礼を尊ぶ文化人の国であると信じていました。しかし現実にいるのは,油断も隙もならない、詐欺師の野蛮人ばかりでした。
中国人に取って漢文とは外国語同然なのです.中国で話されている言葉とは全く無縁の言語体系なのです。
831 :本当にあった怖い名無し :sage :2010/09/27(月) 12:14:22 ID:fsTA3r1B0(4)
現在の中国人は,彼らが使っている中国語が,実は文体もボキャブラリーも日本語からの借用であるということを隠そうとしています.現代日本文の真似をして前置詞や助動詞を明確に記すことによって、やっと文章が書けるようになったのです。
日清戦争後,日本に大量の清国留学生がやってきて,日本語を学び中国語を誰でもが読める中国語の表記法を改良していったのです.その中にかの有名な魯迅もいたのです。
日本語をマスターした魯迅の頭の中は日本語の文章があり,それを漢字に置き換えて表現することによって原文一致体の「白話文」が生まれました。
そして試行錯誤の結果 現在における中国語は北京語を元にした「普通話」がやっと確立されたのです。
つねに色んな異民族に取って変わられた中国の歴史を眺めたとき,中国政府が宣伝している四千年の歴史は中国人の歴史ではなく中国大陸の歴史だということがわかります。
中国には単一民族としての中国人は一度も存在しなかった.中国語には
北京語,上海語,福建語などの言葉があることを知られていますが、実際はもっと言語は細分化されています。これらは単なる方言というのでなく,ほとんど共通点がありません。
そこで中国政府は各国が持っている「国民国家」というシステムを作るために国民を北京語に統一して教育してきたのです。それもまだ100年足らずのことです。
833 :本当にあった怖い名無し :sage :2010/09/27(月) 12:16:10 ID:fsTA3r1B0(4)
そして言語だけでなく異文化、異言語の人々の寄せ集め集団である中国を統一するために歴史も歪曲せざるをえなかった。
毛沢東は少数民族を含めて全ての中国人を漢族にしてしまうために少数民族の文化を奪い、抵抗するものは容赦なく抹殺してきたのです。
もし少数民族の自治や、言論の自由といったものを実現させれば、中国政府が意図する最強の「国民国家」システムの改造計画が頓挫してしまいます。
この中国共産党の意図が理解できたとき、日本人やアメリカ人が思っている「中国は資本主義開放経済への道を進めば自然に民主国家になっていく」という考えが いかに愚かな事であるかということがわかっていただけたとおもいます。
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