#Can I make dua for someone I want to marry

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i was just minding my business like scrolling to find new fics to read since i was so so bored and while i was finding some delicious fics (ahem ahem: yandere big brother bakugou x little sister reader) ur post suddenly idk the word (lumitaw (its a filo word)) and i was screaming and immediately dropped what i was supposed to read to read yours 😭😭😭

i got the worst memory ever to exist because i keep forgetting their names but i think i'll grasp them once the next chapter is out (hopefully) but yeaaah!!! baris reminds me of abbas in a way but ig he's a bit more.. brute yk what im talking about????? ig he's ok..

OH! and i have a theory about the painting, y/n's face getting smudged maybe because baldwin or SALAUDDIN decided to smudged it to forget how they look due to heartbroken (prob not baldwin,, but i feel like salauddin would do that ??) i guess im getting married again 😔😔 i feel like im betraying my pookie salauddin 💔💔💔🙏🙏 BUT ANYWAYS THANK YOU FOR THE UPDATE SNOW!!!! AMAZING AS ALWAYS!! can't wait for the next one already!! 😭😭😭 i think i'll send more of my thoughts if something crosses over my mind (prob when im in the shower)

ooohh i like your theory(portrait pictures at the end). i like it a lot. expanding on it:

Baldwin would probably cause the painting to be smudged because he's kissing it, kissing your lips, drunk off his mind, tears streaming down his cheek as he spends hours sitting in front of it, talking to the painting as if u still exist, begging u to come back from heaven, even apologising for all he's done, just please- come back, angel...

Meanwhile Salauddin would probably be staring at your portrait angrily. He understands why you had to leave but.... you couldnt have told him where you were goinh? Do you not think he couldve protected you? He wouldve used his whole army, gathered Muslims from all around the world to protect you. Did you... did you not have the least bit faith in him? deep down, he knows u did this to prevent a war between him and baldwin but.... Salauddin wouldve gone to war for you. Happily. This wasnt your decision to make alone. Now, he stands in front of your portrait, he has it in his palace now, and he doesnt say voice it out like baldwin, but he has complaints. HE keeps them inside, mentally talking to you, telling you just how stupid you were for sacrificing yourself, for jumping off that stupid cliff. How u shouldve just- just asked him for help ONCE, and he wouldve fought until his last breath if it meant keeping u safe. In his mind, u sacrificed yourself to protect Baldwin from murdering innocent muslims or anyone else u wouldve seeked help from.

And now? All Salauddin can do is pray for you. He wakes up late into the night and sits on the prayer mat, making dua for you for hours, reading Quran for you, has animals slaughtered on eid on your behalf, even doing charity and hajj (pilgrimage) on your behalf, just so that you can have more good deeds in your name. He still has the chess board u gifted him, but he's stopped playing chess. He never played the game again, it was only a painful reminder of you. The one person who he could never beat.

As for your painting, why it was smudged? Salauddin didnt want anyone to see your beauty, thats why he kept the portrait hidden in his room, but then he feared that one day when he's not around anymore, someone will see you. So, he used a rag soaked in turpentine to smudge your face, but couldnt do more than just the bottom half of your face. He thought that was fine, after all, thats how u did often appear when you were around, wearing a niqaab, a veil that covered your face.

Now that he looks at your eyes, he realises his mistake. He heard the wise tell him-

"Eyes are the windows to the soul."

He now knows it to be true.

This is what I think the portraits look like:

Notice that this is the earrings Salauddin gifted Y/n when she was in the market with him:

How Baldwin's been:

[heavyhitterheaux]

First Lady of Private Garden Masterlist (Jack Harlow)

First Lady of Private Garden Fics

First Lady of Private Garden

Missin My Baby

My Baby is Having a Baby

How Could You?

How Could You Part 2

How Could You Part 3

Sex Lies (NSFW 18+)

Let Them Know What's Mine

Love the Way You Love Me

Don't Tell Her

She Gets the Last Word

She Gets the Last Word Part 2

She Gets the Last Word Part 3

And the Award Goes To...

I’d Rather Be Sleeping

I’m Doing This For Us

His Favorite Pillow

Down in the Valley

You Can't Fly Unless You Let Yourself Fall

Forever and Always Part 1

Forever and Always Part 2

My Wife Stays

Best Friends Forever

Muwop (NSFW 18+)

I Love You

Nights in Miami (NSFW 18+)

I Thought I Was Never Going to See You Again

Cramps and Cuddles

She Tryna Do More With Her Than Do a Feature

I GIve Husband

Wifey's Lullaby

Keep My Wife’s Name Out Your Mouth (NSFW 18+)

Don't Do it Again

Like a Virgin (NSFW 18+)

Unpretty

Cold Water

Cold Water Part 2

Cold Water Part 3

Luv is Dro (NSFW 18+)

Say it Back

Who is in My House?

You Put it There

Off Limits

Dirty Little Secret Part 1

Dirty Little Secret Part 2

Fright Night

Grammy Nominated Harlows

What Are We Thankful For? 

She Only Has Eyes For You

Play (NSFW 18+, Jack x FL x Urban)

Lose You to Love Me

Lose You to Love Me Part 2

All I Want For Christmas Is..... a Telfar Bag

My Perfect Gift

Always Going to Take Care of You

I'll Always Be Proud Of You

First Lady Please

Will You Be My Valentine?

So Into You

Sisters No More Part 1

Pop A Plan B Before I Let Him Trap a Bitch (NSFW 18+)

First Lady of Private Garden Instagram AU:

AN: You have to read these in order for them to make sense

First Lady of Private Garden

Dua Lipa

Dua Lipa Part 2

Two Halves of a Whole Idiot

Married Since When?

Proud of My Wife

Meet Your Children

Side Piece (NSFW 18+)

Did We Learn Our Lesson?

Someone Very Important

Asking For It

That's Just My Baby Daddy

It’s Givin

You Made It

Still Amazed

My Superstar

My Baby and My Husband

Please Kiss and Make Up

Trouble In Paradise 

Back To The Way They Were

Birthday Queen

FTCU

Where's Your Wife?

Wrong Harlow

Two Can Play That Game

Best Friend Shit

Five Years in and a Lifetime To Go

Not Today Satan

Another Nasty Song

Subtle Hints

Nothing Like Sister Love

Put a Bounce House In You

Harlowchella

Harlowchella Part 2

Trophy Wife/Trophy Husband

Blurbs:

I Need A Pencil

Do You Still Love Me?

Where My Kisses At?

Would You Love Me If...

[raya-rhaenyra-ahsoka]

My Thoughts on Ep.06 - We Take a Zebra to Vegas, A rant (SPOILERS AHEAD!)

Actual Iris-messaging on screen! Good way to start the episode.

Yes, toss the drachma, SEAWEED BRAIN!

If you want the gods’ attention, you have to pay for it. Eh, not surprised since it’s kinda how children have to do to get their parents’ attention these days.

Wtf is Luke Castellan doing in Chiron’s office?

We know who stole the bolt. (Book-readers, we know who stole the bolt!)

*Calm expression* How do you know? and not *gasp* Really? Who is it? Very sus. 🤔

I do have a love-hate relationship with Clarisse La Rue as a character, but accusing her as the lightning thief? OH, HELL NO!

This convo:

Luke: Guys, what is this?

Percy and Annabeth: What?

Luke: When did you turn into an old married couple?

Percy and Annabeth:

Everyone in the fandom:

Luke channeling his big brother energy by teasing Annabeth, his little sister, to a boy her age. Annabeth’s going through that older-sibling-embarrassing-you-in-front-of-your-crush stage. It’s just typical sibling stuff.

Annabeth, externally: *pokerface*; Annabeth, internally: STOP EMBARRASSING ME!

Confirmed: Luke ships Percabeth. 🥰

Percy changing the subject because he’s also embarrassed.

Annabeth cuts off the connection before Percy can mention Hermes and tells him Luke and his dad aren’t on good terms.

Grover just figured out that the truck is driven by animal traffickers and insists that they free the animals is absolute peak characterization.

They’re like artists. Proceeds to release the animals in the middle of traffic.

How that convo basically went:

Percy: Idk about this, man.

Grover: Oh, they’ll be fine. I gave them the satyr’s blessing so they’ll be able to reach the wilderness safely.

Percy: Dude, I meant for these people.

Grover: Oh, uh, it’s fine. These people destroyed nature so idgaf about them. But the animals are fine, so let’s go!

Percy: So, which hotel is the Lotus Casino? It could be any building-

Annabeth: Duh! Obviously, it’s the one with the giant lotus blossom on it.

Percy: Seriously?

3 minors walking into a Casino hotel. Totally normal and not suspicious at all.

Dua Lipa’s Levitating instead of Lady Gaga’s Pokerface. I ain’t even mad.

WISE GIRL! WISE GIRL! WISE GIRL! HE CALLED HER WISE GIRL! 😍🥰

Of course, Annabeth insists Percy goes with her. Percabeth! 😍

Annabeth tells Percy about May Castellan, Luke’s Mom. It’s kinda early to know about this, but I’m not complaining. It just justifies Luke’s resentment of Hermes in the show.

Grover: *finds Augustus, a fellow Satyr* *Forgets everything*

Please tell me someone else heard some kid calling out BIANCA in the background. It's not just me, right? Please tell me it's the di Angelo siblings in the Lotus Casino. UNCLE RICK, WE NEED ANSWERS!

Percy explaining his nightmares and asks if they are real.

How that convo went:

Annabeth: Hmm, idk

Percy: How do you not know?

Annabeth: I may be smart but there are things I don’t know.

Percy: Wtf does that make me then?

Hermes/Alexander Hamilton not throwing away his shot. How does a bastard, son of a god and a Pleiad. Grow up to be a master trickster, according to Homer’s Illiad…

In Vegas you can be a new man...apparently, not.

Hermes: I’m not doing this again. You’re on your own, kids. Bye!

Annabeth: We’re friends of Luke’s.

Hermes: *surprise pikachu face* Damn it, let’s talk.

Hermes being an epitome of another crappy absent godly parent. Not surprised.

Annabeth doing what probably Luke taught her to do:

Annabeth: So I stole Hermes’ keys.

Percy: You what?

Annabeth: I turned invisible and picked his pocket.

Percy: You stole from the god of thieves?

Annabeth: Yes, I’m multi-talented. Lol

Percy: *lowkey falls in love*

The lotus fruit being pumped into the air is something new.

Percy: Grover got really old. 🤣

Percy and Annabeth chases Augustus around while Grover’s playing VR games.

Grover forgetting things because he was alone, while Percy and Annabeth remember because they have each other. PERCABETH!

Grover acting all carefree like a dentist just sedated him with nitrous oxide, while Percy and Annabeth are frantically looking for Hermes’ car will never be not funny.

TO THE DUMB KIDS. Yep, that note is for you.

Percy: So, who’s driving?

Percy and Annabeth turning to Grover because he’s the adult.

Grover: *still high* Idk man. Idk what we're even doing here.

Percy: Ok, I’ll do it. How hard can it be. If I killed the Minotaur, I can drive a cab.

Percy: How hard could this be? Proceeds to hit the car on several columns.

Percy getting angry because another car didn’t slow down and nearly hit them, then slamming the horn. Bruh, you’re inner New Yorker is showing and I’m here for it.

This scene: 😍😍😍

Me, watching this scene:

Percy and Annabeth smiling at each other then realizing the car’s scraping the wall. This shit cracked me up.

The truck nearly hitting them gave me a mini-heart attack. Good thing they’re in Hermes’ cab.

Percy half-nervous and half-excited to finally meet his Dad only to find a Nereid instead, giving him 4 teleportation pearls as a gift.

The title implying they took a Zebra to Vegas but we see no zebra? Come on! Anyway, that was a good episode. Can't wait for the Percy vs Ares showdown next week.

[jiniwae]

According to LoreMaster (the person on the Just dance team who answers the lore of some dances) Chitsuki (Kill Bill) possessed Michiya (Zenit) to purify his soul. Night Swan probably learned from Chitsuki how to have coaches

I really like the lore in general, so when I saw the story of 24 I was very happy, but at the same time with a feeling of trepidation And honestly, I hope the ending is a season, I don't want to wait a whole year to see how it ends -

WE ALL KNOW THAT DISCOBALL IS THE MONITOR NANNY THAT TRAVELLER MADE TO MONITOR WANDERLUST, AND AT THE END OF CANNED HEAT NIGHT SWAN TAKES CONTROL OF DISCOBALL AND STARTED MONITORING THE OTHER JUST DANCERS

I think that in Just Dance 2025, Jack Rose will somehow try to contact Wanderlust's father (since Traveler can travel through the Danceverse) to warn him of what happened to his son and they will both go after the mother of Wanderlust and a few other Just dancers.

I still think that if wanderlust's parents stay together for too long their power could collapse the danceverse they are in (which didn't even almost happen in save your tears)

I literally couldn't sleep with this hook that Ubisoft made in JD2024. I imagine that in JD2025, Jack Rose will actually be able to find someone to help him save everyone. But here come two of my theories: Either the story ends in JD2025, or Ubisoft makes another cliffhanger in JD2025, continuing the end of the story only in JD2026. That's what I say

I had understood from the director's interview with Dina that she tore up the poster at the beginning because only she and Nightswan have the ability to use flow, but Nightswan decided to use this for evil, which disappointed Mihaly, implying For me too, in the past they were united in some way

I think that Night Swan was actually famous in the Danceverse, and that's why Jack rose there has this desire to be famous, because his mother inspired him by being

famous

I have to say the betas Sweet Dreams and Lose Yourself that were removed would have gone well with the lore

PARALLELS BETWEEN SWAN LAKE AND JUST DANCE 2024

-Usually, Odette (white swan) and Odille (black swan) are played by the same dancer. Sara and Night Swan are played by the same dancer

-The wizard Rothbart bewitched Odette to become a swan. In you should see me in a crown, Night Swan bewitched Sara to become evil

-It might just be a coincidence, but Sara has four letters and starts with "S" (swan)

-Sara in Hebrew means "lady, princess, noble woman". Odette is a princess

-Odille pretended to be Odette to deceive Prince Siegfried and get his hand in marriage. In Canned Heat, Night Swan pretended to be Sara to trick Wanderlust (who also has the title of prince) and steal the Discoball.

DEPENDING ON THE VERSION, SWAN LAKE HAS DIFFERENT ENDINGS (from the saddest to the happiest):

Ending 1-Siegfried dies trying to defeat Rothbart and Odette remains with the swan curse forever

Ending 2-Odette and Siegfried drown together, their souls are freed from the curse and they can finally be together in the afterlife

Ending 3-Siegfried defeats Rothbart, Odette has her curse broken and they get married

Which ending do you think you will choose for Just Dance 2025?

I would choose 3, the happiest ending. Night Swan defeated once and for all, the Danceverses at peace, and Wanderlust abdicating his responsibilities as the

"Chosen" to live happily on Earth with Sara.

So, I think a song that would go super well with some music for 25's lore would be 'Swan Song' by Dua Lipa, it would be awesome

Yesssss! This song is an anthem, one that Ubisoft could use. I imagine it as being a new solo map for Siha Nova, sad and horrified by what happened with Wanderlust but little by little finding the courage to face her own son and break Night Swan's spell over him.

I still can't believe that the rock your body coach brutalized the levitation coach and left

Went to get a cigarette and disappeared lol

Next year the story should start with lose yourself and after this song he tries to recruit more people in eternyx even maybe

 think that in jd25 the first two songs will show that jack rose became a drug dealer lol with lose yourself and the next one (or even before lose yourself) is sweet dreams showing the past of night swan and the next ones I don't know

which is also part of the story, but this song is the beginning of the future, so I don't know if it will be in the continuation of the next game or if it is part of this one, because there are also 2 more songs from the lore

I saw a theory that says that in Just Dance 2025, Jack Rose will save the other coaches with the help of The Traveler (Rock Your Body) and Si'Ha Nova (Levitating). Or maybe with a new coach maybe Jack's father

speaking of which, another theory is that Jack Rose's father is Crimson (Sail).

-They both have red hair

-They have similar dance moves (Jack may have learned from his father)

-Probably he and Night Swan had a very troubled relationship and they separated....

I have a theory that's a little heavy but it's valid, at the beginning of sail Crimson wakes up tied to the ground and following this theory maybe the night swan trapped him in the boat and also towards the end of Sail the boat starts to pick up and he wasn't the one who put it since he was dancing so maybe the night swan wanted to kill her own

what happened to Night Swan trying to kill her own husband?

I think it's because Crimson and Night Swan had different dreams and goals and he didn't agree with her plans to dominate the

Danceverses and create a perfect universe

What I think could happen: Jack Rose finds three more powerful coaches to defeat Night Swan

I've seen two theories:

-The Traveler (Rock Your Body) and Si'Ha Nova (Levitating) will help Jack

-Jack will have the help of his father (probably Crimson de Sail, but it has not been confirmed until now who his father is)

I think Wonderley's father will come back The way Ubi likes to recycle, they will probably come back

[soul-of-sereniity]

Final few days left of Ramadan, I thought I provide some tips when making Du'a. I watched a lecture by Mufti Menk & he stated, when making a dua be precise as u can & ask , knowing he will give. He used the example of asking for a spouse and he said, you ask Allah swt..to get married to someone and he grants u that dua but then u are married u realise it wasn't right decision, u can't then ask Allah ( swt ) why he did that to you. Becoz u asked and he answered.

He said Allah can give uh what u want but if u aren't precise in your dua's, u could be the asking for the wrong thing. So he advised, when making Du'a, ask Allah to give u, what he thinks good for you and if something isn't, but you still want it.. ask him to make good for you.

When making Du'a think about it every detail. if you're asking spouse describe to Allah what it is u want, how u want them as a parent, the type of marriage u want ect. This method applied any kind of dua you make. Allah is all knowing, he know what your heart want before u ask. For it so take your time with your dua's.

I can honestly say, since focusing on my dua's, not only helped me grow closer to Allah swt , but it also allow me to understand my answered and understand Du'as 💗🌸

[airbrushfather]

50 and 76 ❕

asks from this post!! thank you c!!

50. what made you laugh the hardest you ever have?

oh boy i've been waiting for an opportunity to publicise this story because it's so insane. me and my friend go for breakfast every friday and one week i had no plans afterwards so we were just hanging out in town for a bit, and we passed the market which was at that time only two stalls: one selling flowers, and one selling fish. now, we live in a very small town next to several other very small towns, so if you frequent this market you know the people who run each stall. usually, it's two men who run the fish stall, but on this day, it was two women. my friend (t) very loudly and very happily says "oh!! fish women!". the women smile. i comment about how this seems like a strange word for mermaid and t politely informs me (in the making-up-bullshit way you do to your friends) that the fish women is actually a group of activists. naturally, i prod her on this. what are they campaining for? i don't know, says t, we are just women for fish. oh, not fish for women? no. women for fish. has someone... hurt the fish? yes, says t, the government. oh? i say, tell me more. we get to the bus stop. t sits on the curb with me and tells me about the women for fish movement, which as it turns out, is something they're doing because the british government is putting bleach in the water in the seaside town she is from (this is not true, but sometimes when you're friends with people like i'm friends with, you begin method acting. i think it's good training for my hopeful upcoming scare acting gig.) i'm prodding about this town and it turns out that everyone who lives there is either a woman, or married to a woman. i think this is a little unfair on gay men or single people or widowers. t shrugs and says, feminism. as it transpires, as we get on the bus and later go to t's house, none of the women can read or write and the seaside town (whose name changed every time someone said it, but was always somewhere close to fishton-upon-ribblesley) has no internet, no cars, and no healthcare. i (naturally) assume the character of the first tourist this town has had for years and am curious to know more. my name is jemima puddleduck, and i've come here to find my long lost family. as it turns out, fishley-by-the-sea is a microstate of england, and its own independent enclave, not even governed by british parliment. their system of government, instead, is based on fifteen increasingly ridiculous rules (which included, from memory, all of the rules from the song 'new rules' by dua lipa, and the fact that you have to train to be a blacksmith) and the first rule is that anyone who wants to be an elected official must be sent out to sea and return safely. you'd think, for a seaside town, that everyone would be at least somewhat skilled in seafaring, but no -- every single elected official they have sent out to sea has not returned, so they've not elected any new officials in years. the only one to ever come back is a man whose government name is grandad puddleduck. first name grandad. last name puddleduck.

hold on, i say, my last name is puddleduck. is he my grandad? it turns out yes, and i have to go and meet him because i was not raised in fisherdale-upon-hammersmith and have never known my family. it turns out i have a sister here too, whose name i can't remember, but she has a husband named gavin and two alive children, many, many dead ones. gavin is a bird. my poor old grandad is sick to bastard death of being elected official, especially since i imagine his business in town is mostly just sending people to die at sea. i tell him, i will become the new elected official so you can live out your old age by the sea peacefully, and maybe then i'll make some changes to this godforsaken place. like teaching the women to read. okay, says grandad, who is played by t, but you'll have to follow all the rules. the first rule is that all elected officials must be sent out to sea and come back whole, as you know. i decide to befriend the local fishermen and see if one of them will take me out in his boat. (is that against the rules? grandad says there's nothing in the book about it, so it's probably okay.) the first man i meet is named michael spearman (which i, the real me, danny, not jemima) genuinely just pulled out of my brain and did not know who it was attached to. i knew he was someone, but i couldn't really remember who at this time. i had a lot on my brain, such as the other fourteen fucking rules i would have to follow in order to become elected. it's appropriate, though, because he spears the fish. we affectionately name him fishermichael. fishermichael agrees to take me out in his boat, and it's a lovely little trip out into the ocean. however, as i learn the hard way, fishermike has a terrible condition wherein he will collapse if he hears a profanity. what fishermichael deems to be a profanity varies wildly based on how t (who is also playing fishermichael) is feeling. several times, i swear and fishermike is knocked out cold, and i have to go and do a side quest in order to kill time before he wakes up. eventually, we go out to sea, and for the first time, a prospective elected official begins rule 2.

what is rule 2, you ask? i can't fucking remember. this shit was taking hours. however, somewhere along the way i do indeed learn to be a blacksmith, and it turns out the blacksmith family thinks i am horrible. this will not fare me well in the election.

i also meet a character called archaeological dave. he runs the archaeology society, which he runs out of a shack which he built around a large statue he unearthed of a bald man holding a huge pickaxe, engraved with the phrase 'me when i go digging'. i will attach a picture for reference of what this statue may have looked like. an approximate recreation made by the greatest minds of our archaeological generation. archaeological dave drinks lots of coffee, which i soon come to learn is laced with cocaine. tons of cocaine.

he helps me complete some more of the tasks i need to do. i honestly don't remember most of them. once all fifteen rules have been completed, the town holds a very big celebration on the beach, including a maypole dance, a wreath making contest, afternoon tea, and a choir led by my brother in law the bird. as it turns out, poor old fishermike has another unfortunate condition where hearing music makes him turn into a table. this proves very frustrating when i have to ask him if he would vote for me and he can only speak in table wobbles.

my final task as elected official to be is to go around and 'hold the election', which involves asking every character i have met if they would like to elect me. almost everyone says yes, except for the blacksmith, who is just a wanker for some reason. i think grandad puddleduck once accidentally broke into his workshop and smithed something and he wasn't a big fan of that. but, cmon, blacksmith, i'm two generations removed from that and i'm new in town. give me a break. his wife and children say yes anyway, so i'm not that bothered.

after my flurry of yesses (and t forgetting how to do most of the voices), i am finally there. ready to become elected official of fishwick-upon-fishwick and bring literacy to it's women and install a proper healthcare system. but there's one problem.

remember when i said all women in fishborough-southwest-of-lumbago are married?

jemima is not married.

i have to frantically run around and find an unmarried man (who isn't also a child or my relative) but it's proving very difficult. hope is fading. i will have to abandon this small, small, small country and leave it's poor female populus without the joy of ever reading 'this is just to say' by william carol williams, or writing 'woz ere' on a toilet door. how will i ever live with myself?

but then. oh, then.

out of the darkness comes my shining light. his wife is dead. she's buried in the garden. he's on so much fucking cocaine.

archaeological dave.

(by this point, it's like 3pm. me and t left breakfast at about 10. this has been going on for fucking hours. and, to answer the question, we've been laughing our asses off the whole time)

i propose to archaeological dave and we become engaged. that's kind of the end, it fizzles out around here, because t and i are just in hysterics. what the fuck have we just done for the last approximately five hours? we've been in her garden, playing a roleplaying game like children. my phone is full of people asking where the fuck i've gone. t's mum is inside and has heard the whole thing through the open kitchen window.

my stomach muscles hurt for the next three days.

so, probably that.

76. what’s your favorite potato food (i.e. tater tots, baked potatoes, fries, chips, etc.)?

anyway. it's mash tater.

[lindszeppelin]

Do you have any predictions for the next generation of nepo babies? This generation (late millennial/Gen Z) hasn't done great things imo, with a few exceptions. A previous anon talked about the people like Austin, Callum, Dua Lipa and others who came from ordinary backgrounds and had to work hard to get where they are. How do you think the kids of 'first-generation' (i.e. non-nepo) celebrities will turn out, assuming the celebrities themselves choose either self-made or non-famous partners? Do you think the self-made late millennials and Gen Zs will do anything differently in raising their own children?

Just throwing this out there because I'm interested in the nepo baby phenomenon in general. I feel like a lot of the current nepo babies were raised by parents who wanted to distance themselves from their middle-class or working-class beginnings, and viewed being extravagant with their children as a status symbol. I think this is what's led to a lot of the issues with kids of famous parents not acknowledging their own privilege and not doing much or anything to make the world a better place. I personally hope that the next generation would be more mindful, compassionate and proud of their roots, although you never know. Do you have any thoughts?

Thank you for writing in! This is a very thought provoking question so I took my time on what I was going to say. You worded everything beautifully, and it helped me to piece my thoughts together.

So, I can understand maybe why some celebs from yesteryear who grew up middle class, didn't come from wealth, when they got famous they basked in that. So when those celebs had children, they wanted to raise them the Hollywood way, which arguably would be way more privileged than their upbringing. The problem with that though is that they are so blinded by the fame they have that they get used to the weird behaviors, and the grey area boundaries, and things that normal people shouldn't have to deal with (paps for example, basically selling yourself/your image to magazines etc). But they are so deep in the sauce that they don't see it as a problem.

Hollywood made them famous. All their wildest dreams came true. Their families back home would be proud they made it out of the boondocks. But it comes with a price. They might enjoy the life, but they force their kids into it. So someone like Johnny Depp who grew up middle class is deeply engrossed in his fame (even if he is shy and might reject it...still though), and then Lily-Rose has no other choice but to live in that Hollywood system. And the problem goes DEEPER. Johnny Depp doesn't know what it's like to be born and raised in that kind of Hollywood lifestyle as a child. He got into it when he was a young guy who chose Hollywood. His children didn't. But yet, the late millennials and Gen Zs that enjoy their nepo-baby privilege are jaded by what they experienced growing up. Therefore they don't see any issues, and their parents don't see it either. And the toxic cycle gets repeated and trauma happens and the family cycle is forever ruined, basically.

Now, i can see a couple of young actors today that are making names for themselves like Zendaya and Austin and Callum, etc. They are the light at the end of the tunnel that doesn't perpetuate the harmful environment Hollywood produces, especially if born into it. If one of them gets married to a non celebrity, like you suggested, then I think there is some hope that instilling good morals will be a parenting tool for them. Reminding their kids where their parents came from, etc. And with luck I think we can see a brighter future for Hollywood. Because it needs to be reconstructed. It's foundation is too out of touch and not keeping up with the changing times. Celebs are expected to bend to the will of Hollywood or they risk not having careers. But that's not true. Hollywood should bend to them.

While im sure there will be children of "first generation non nepo celebs" that will inadvertently be thrown headfirst into the Hollywood life and live by that privilege (it's unavoidable, not everyone can be better for their kids or themselves sadly), i think there will be a lot of them that will be raised on the value of a dollar, the roots of their self made celeb parent and non celeb parent will be instilled, and they will grow up having the best of both worlds...true privacy and enough privilege that they don't have to worry as much about things like college tuition etc. If these celebs want to protect their future kids when/if they have them, they have to be better. And celebs like Zendaya, Callum, Austin, I can see that if they choose to have kids that they will be beautiful little angels.

I hope that answered your question! <3

[scenetocause]

Idk about you but I would sure like Norris / Fewtrell / Kodric to be given the emptyhalf words.

ok i guess

"You're unbelievable," Lando's laughing but he's like - it's the thing he does when he's actually kind of serious but he's playing it down, not his real laugh and it unnerves Max a lot.

"What do you mean?" He honestly doesn't know what he's done. Something, clearly; it's not bad enough that Lando isn't curled right up against him in Max's bed, Max's fingers threading through his hair and Lando's stupid palm tree necklace digging into Max's breastbone.

"You were flirting with Martin so much, oh my god."

Oh.

Well, guilty as charged.

"If my boyfriend didn't leave me at home all the time then maybe I wouldn't have to look at hot, uhm. Hunks." He's got past the word 'boyfriend' in his list of mental blocks but it's very hard for Max to sort of think of himself as gay beyond Lando. He's not really sure he is but then, Martin is pretty hot and so tall, too. Like Jake, who's also pretty hot and ok maybe he just... has some sort of very specific type. He should try checking out Marcus next time they're in the gym to see if it's all drivers or just specifically the idiot ones.

Lando pouts, curling more round Max. "If you'd actually ask instead of, like - you know I always want you there. Anyway, I guess Martin's kinda hot."

Oh. Oh, Lando isn't complaining, he's fantasising.

Except Max's self-esteem isn't as secure as Lando's, clearly and so what he says is. "Hotter than me?" And his voice sounds pathetically small.

"No." It's not possible to actually hear someone rolling their eyes but Max thinks he can. "You're - and mine. But y'know, for someone else he kind of is."

Lando presses an unusually tender kiss under Max's ear. "You're still my big boy."

"Jesus-" Max ineffectively swats at Lando, who's already successfully limpeted onto him and just holds Max tighter, peppering him with kisses. "Fuck off. God."

Max mumbles "I love you, Bob" into the bumps of Lando's spine when they've rearranged to big and little spoon, a few minutes later.

-

Nothing happens because why would anything happen. Martin's straight and if Max and Lando sometimes work it into their dirty talk, the idea of one of them getting fucked by Martin while the other one's watching then, well. Look. They've said that about, like - Lando has a weird crush on Niall from One Direction and sometimes it comes up, it's just a fantasy, it's fine.

Until Tom opens his stupid mouth and Max is gonna edit him for Insta again, he swears to god.

"Who'd you have in a threesome, if you could have anyone?"

"Martin," Lando says, without even looking up from his phone while he's posting some jpgs.

It's at the same time as Connor says "Dua Lipa" and Jenny hits him with a cushion but someone definitely heard because several people follow it up with what?

Lando glances round the table, unfazed. "It's be Martin, we've talked about it."

Max can feel himself turning blotchy crimson. "Mate, you can't just say things like-"

"Really?" It's only fair that Martin, himself, asks.

"Yeah," Lando is totally unbothered, tucking himself back against Max's shoulder and taking a sip of his drink, the only tell that he knows what he's doing the way he's suddenly glowing with that weird, malicious energy he gives off sometimes. "It'd be hot. Y'know, you could fuck Max or-"

Collective shouting around the table manages to preserve Max's honour and stop him having to find a way to murder the man he loves the most of anyone in the world. And that's kind of the end of it because they get into fuck, marry, kill with the characters from Friends but none of them can remember what half of them are called and shots dissolve the rest of the conversation.

Until Max is wobbling to the bathroom, a little while later and wondering where Lando's gone. He probably might have noticed Martin was gone, too, except that he's been studiously trying not to make any kind of eye contact with the bloke for several hours, so it's easier not to think.

Except that Martin is suddenly right up in his space and Max nearly trips over his own feet. "Uh - hello, what Lando said, like, just, ignore him it's-"

He's shocked by Martin shushing him. Realises Martin's shirt is unbuttoned all the way down, tries not to fixate on the trail of hair down from his belly button but looking up from that means he's staring into Martin's eyes.

"I didn't mind," Martin's accent makes it soft, voice deliberately gentle. "It's kind of cute."

Max doesn't have time to squirm, before Martin's hand is on his jaw and his sweaty palms are on Martin's chest to steady himself and the main thing he registers, when Martin kisses him, is Lando's shrieky laugh of glee much too close by.

"I knew it," there's the sound of a shutter closing, a photo that better not make it to the internet. "It is really hot."

[naramdil]

Salam hafsah 💕

I hope you’re well. I wanted to reach out to you bc i always have admired your perspectives and thoughts on matters of the heart, seeing you have a naram dil. This is a lot so i understand if you don’t feel comfortable answering but would appreciate your insight.

I’m currently in a relationship with someone and recently i discovered something painful. I found out that he was in love with someone when we first started talking. We began as something online and weren’t in a committed relationship. I never approached him for the purpose of marriage (which i usually do) so we were definitely undefined. i did end up asking him to speak with the purpose of marriage and so we did. But during that period when i asked, he was already trying to pursue someone he loved and when she refused, he had decided to move on and pursue me.

Finding out now, i feel like i was left in the dark. He told me he didn’t tell me because at that time we weren’t committed and it would only hurt me. But he still needed to see if anything could happen with her before giving me his full attention. She was in a relationship and had just broken up and he took that opportunity to drive to her state and ask. It was a grand gesture, but she refused.

So then he and i began. But now that i’m thinking about it, i feel like he was still in love with her while talking to me. I asked him what she meant to him. He told me that this girl was an instant connection for him. You know how our souls have met other souls in a different realm before we meet physically in this dunya? She was one of those people for him. He knew immediately that he wanted to marry her without even fully knowing her. It was that kind of love. it hurt to hear about it. It hurt that i didn’t know. It hurt that that person wasn’t me.

We broke up a few months into the relationship for reasons which had nothing to do with his feelings for her. We reconnected a month ago. For some reason, i started talking to him again and we only recently started truly making the intention to talk for marriage and not just because we like each other. But he actually told me that last month, she reached out to him and he was put in a similar position as when we first started talking. Again we were in a situationship this time again and not fully committed because i didnt feel like i was ready to do this again. He told me she reached out to me before i reached out again (the second time i reached out after we first broke up) and she finally sent him a message saying it wouldnt work with them. So this has happened two times.

I don’t know if it’s bad timing with two girls reaching out to him around the same time but now I’m thinking if he’s still in love with her. That kind of love he had for her doesnt just disappear like that. He told me it’s rare to find that kind of love. He told me two weeks ago was when she texted him that it wouldnt work out. They havent talked since then.

I just don’t know what to do now because i still like him. Despite it all. Despite the anxiety i feel. Despite the hurt and my tendency to compare his love for her for the love he can have for me. He said that although it wasnt an instant connection when it came to me, he is still willing to build it with me. Build the love since most people grow i to love and choose each other every day and that’s how bonds are made. What he experienced is rare. But it just all hurts. It hurts to feel like he is just settling and getting married because he has faced rejection and the woman he loves doesnt want him. I feel like a second choice. I feel like i’m the logical decision, which is to find a person to marry and have kids. I didnt give him that cosmic, spiritual, instant connection like she did.

I dont know if this is something i can repair. He told me that he isn’t in love with her but he still has love for her and will always make dua for her. he wants to build a connection and grow into love with me. But i feel myself comparing and hurting. It was only two weeks ago that she sent him the rejection message so it’s not like she’s part of his past and it’s been years. It’s recent

But I’m still here. I almost broke up with him again because i felt like i couldnt handle this. But i’m still here. How do people love like that, get rejected and then marry? Wouldnt it feel like they settled if they chose you? I’m so sorry! I just have no one that would possibly understand what predicament i’m in. I appreciate it all anyway 💕

hey honey, I think that you should let him go. genuine love will not make you question anything. sure you could "grow into love" but ultimately he is telling you that he didn't feel that connection with you and that this other girl will always be on his mind (if he is gonna continue to pray for her....) he seems like a flake and you deserve someone who is sure about you and chooses you for you and not because you are conveniently there. it seems like you have made yourself too available to him and he doesn't view you as something he could "lose" but rather a fallback. you should never marry someone in that circumstance.

if you have so many struggles and heightened emotional lows now, before you are married? it's only going to continue. and if how you are feeling now is not how you want to continue feeling then you are going to have to let go and move on with your life. you seem religious so I will say that you should pray on it and ask that if he is meant to be in your life, to clear the path and make it easy. and if he is not meant to be in your life, to remove the emotions and make you feel nothing so that it is easier to move forward. inshAllah things get better for you, please look out for yourself. you are allowed to seek the kind of connection that you described, that cosmic connection that you just feel is right and that is easy to come together and build a life. if you broke up once it was for a reason, remember that.

[islamicspecialistforloveback]

Powerful Dua To Convince In-Laws For Love Marriage

Aslam Walikum My dear brothers and sisters, today we will give you Dua to convince in-laws to love marriage. If your in-laws do not agree for you to marry their child, then you have come to the right place. Many Indian/ Pakistani and conservative cultures do not agree with love marriages, and it gets very hard to try and convince them. Times have and always will change, but unfortunately, some…

[rueyam]

Salam girls<3

Yes, I have definitely learned from this, and as rueyam said, I am also closer to myself, alhamdulillah.

Bless him though, he tried very hard. He is a good guy, and I hope he finds someone who can give him what he is looking for. I appreciated what he has done, and I told him that. Not gonna lie, from the outside, we looked good together lol. Like a random uncle who would send his blessing when we were walking, and another uncle from the last meeting gave us free drinks and blessed us. I could feel the people around us.

Anyways, unfortunately, I just couldn't vibe with him. I never felt a true attraction towards him. Thinking about our future as a married couple was hard for me to imagine: like living in the same house, our conversations still lacking a vibe, things feeling very formal, and even simple intimate gestures like a hug would put me off. I know myself, I can be talkative and laugh easily if I feel like I'm on the same wavelength as another guy, and everything comes naturally. I'm not saying a guy needs to be perfect, I'm definitely not perfect either and have my own personal problems. Everything happens for a reason. Alhamdulillah.

No, thank you both<3<3 Thank you for giving me this space to write with you here and for encouraging and supporting me. It makes me so happy. May Allah bless you both. BarakAllahu feek for both of yours beautiful duas, and a BIG ameen to them. May Allah ease all your hardships and make your affairs clear for you. May He grant both of you happiness and success in this world and the hereafter, with your loved ones. Ameen.

If we still use Tumblr in the future and I get married, inshaAllah I will let you know haha and maybe reveal myself too lol. But for now, I'm gonna focus on myself and pray, pray, and pray and let's see what Allah has planned for me. Khair inshaAllah.

Salam <3

aw inshAllah that’s really cute of you haha, khayr!! @sseol the way she started to mention us both 🥹💗

imagine marrying someone you don’t vibe with, who will you laugh with till your stomach hurts? who will understand you in all ways? who will look at you and know how to act right? who will know your love language? ofc nobody is perfect, we all have our flaws but we have to find someone to complement these flaws with. everything happens for a reason and behind every obstacle there lies a deep wisdom we will find out later, if Allah wills!

i would love to hear from you and find out who is hidden behind the wonderfully worded texts, but only if you want to. big big ameen to your duas and thank you my dear! i also pray for the kind-hearted man you talked about, i hope he will find a spouse who brings him happiness. take care 💕

[whats-wild-to-you]

Hi, can I request for a scenario of Break My Heart by Dua Lipa in Jay’s POV? Happy and fluffy ending, thank you 😊

I hope it’s happy and fluffy enough 🥺🫶 I did my best ____________________________________________

“Hyung, do you have plans for the weekend?”

“No. Why?”

“My sister’s getting married. Maybe you wanna come to the wedding.”

“… and serenade the couple?”

“No, no. We already have someone!” The younger male said sheepishly.

“I’ll think about it.”

But really, what else was there to do? All my friends were married with kids. The weekends were reserved for their families. I could always spend the day at work or at the gym but that option sounded more and more pathetic. A couple younger friends I sometimes hung out with would be partying all weekend long but every time I went with them, I felt stupid. Out of place.

“Are you going somewhere darling?” Mum asked when I walked out into the living room Saturday morning, carrying a weekender bag over my shoulder.

“Busan. A friend’s sister is getting married.”

“You’ve been to a lot of weddings recently.” Mum remarked innocently.

I knew exactly what her next words would be, so I looked at her sternly, my eyes pleading with her to not say it.

“Fine. I’m not saying anything.” She chuckled, raising her arms defensively.

“But you’re thinking it. I’ve already told you, 3 years. Maximum.”

“You’re not getting any younger. And neither am I. Have fun, okay!” She kissed me, pushing me out the door.

Four hours later I arrived in Busan. The wedding invitation had the location on it, so I guided Hyeonsoo, who was kind enough to come along, directly there.

I had booked a hotel room in advance and when I entered it I laid out my clothes. I chose my dark blue suit and paired it with a simple white fitted t-shirt. Nothing too fancy as I didn’t want to stick out.

Two hours later I met my friend who was visibly stressed out about the wedding. He walked with me to my seat and disappeared again, making sure everything went according to plan.

I greeted the others at the table, and my eyes landed on a beautiful woman sitting across the table from me. She was deep in conversation but as soon as she focused her attention back to the table, I made eye contact with her.

“Hi, I’m Jaebeom.”

She smiled at me, literally taking my breath away.

“Hello, I’m Soo-bin, nice to meet you.”

From that moment on I was unable to tear my gaze off her. She didn’t interact with the others at the table, just sat there silently, looking on, admiring the flowers and decorations.

As soon as the groom walked in, the older man sitting next to me got up off his seat and walked over to Soo-bin. He said something to her and Soo-bin nodded, got up and walked over to sit in the empty seat next to me. She nodded sheepishly, and I focused my gaze on the older man who was now cheering on the bride as she walked in, snapping pictures with his phone.

The ceremony started and I felt Soo-bin stirring in her seat next to me.

“I just love weddings!” She whispered under her breath, her voice sounding strained. I quickly glanced over. Sure enough, she was tearing up and I instinctively reached for the tissues in my pocket. She accepted them, mouthing a silent thank you.

I didn’t dare looking at her, knowing exactly how I wouldn’t be able to get her out of my mind if I did. When the bride and groom kissed, she stood up applauding and cheering loudly. I chuckled at the sight, a warm feeling spreading inside me. Quickly I cleared my throat, regaining my composure.

You can’t fall in love now! It’s too soon!, I kept telling myself but stole occasional glances at Soo-bin anyway.

Suddenly I felt my phone vibrate in my pocket and pulled it out. When I lifted up my head again, Soo-bin was gone. Panicked, I looked around, scanning the room but she was nowhere to be found.

I walked into my friend at the entrance, congratulating him for the nice wedding. He didn’t appear busy so I stuck by his side a while longer.

“Do you know the people who were sitting with me at the table?”

“Of course.”

“A woman named Soo-bin too?”

“She’s my sister’s friend. They’ve known each other since kindergarten.”

“Do you happen to have her phone number?” I asked meekly and felt the younger man’s eyes staring holes into me.

“Why? Do you like her?” He teased me but I looked straight ahead, my eyes glued on the entrance. “I don’t have her number, but I’d be glad to ask my sister for it!” He chuckled and I said my goodbyes, leaving the venue.

At the parking lot I saw Hyeonsoo waiting for me in the distance but something else caught my eye too.

Soo-bin was just about to get in her car and drive off. I sprinted over to her, completely ignoring Hyeonsoo who waved at me, probably thinking I didn’t see him.

“Soo-bin, wait!”

“Oh, hey!” She exclaimed in surprise.

“I want to see you again!” I blurted out, watching as her cheeks slowly turned red. She looked down smiling shyly but then took a piece of paper and a pen out of her purse and scribbled her number on it.

“Don’t lose this!” She beamed at me.

I thanked her and hugged her briefly, waving at her as she drove off.

“Who is she?” Hyeonsoo appeared by my side, scaring me.

“I just met her!”

“Oh, oh. That’s dangerous.”

“I know. I’m in trouble now.” I replied with a smile, already making plans for our first date.

[recitedua]

How to Perform Dua to Marry Someone You Love

Love is one of the most powerful emotions we experience in life, and finding the right partner is a dream for many. For those who want to marry someone they love, turning to prayer and supplication can offer hope and guidance. If you want to get married to the person you want, read this article about the dua to marry someone you love. 

In Islam, making dua (supplication) to Allah is a powerful way to seek His assistance in achieving your heart’s desires, including marrying the person you love. In this blog, we will explore how to perform a dua to marry someone you love and the steps to make your prayers effective.

Understanding the Power of Dua in Marriage

Dua is a means of directly communicating with Allah, asking for His guidance, blessings, and help in our affairs. When it comes to matters of the heart, making a dua to marry someone you love is a heartfelt plea to Allah to bring the person you love into your life as your spouse. It is important to remember that while making dua, you should have sincere intentions, complete trust in Allah’s wisdom, and patience to accept His decree.

Steps to Perform Dua to Marry Someone You Love

1. Start with Sincere Intentions:

Before beginning the dua, make sure your intentions are pure and genuine. Your intention should be to seek Allah’s pleasure and guidance in marrying the person you love, rather than pursuing the relationship for selfish reasons. A pure heart is more likely to be heard by Allah.

2. Perform Wudu (Ablution):

It is recommended to be in a state of purity before making dua. Perform Wudu, a ritual purification, to cleanse yourself physically and spiritually. This act symbolizes your readiness to stand before Allah with a clean heart and mind.

3. Choose the Right Time:

There are specific times when making dua is more likely to be accepted. These include the last third of the night, between the adhan and iqamah of the obligatory prayers, after obligatory prayers, and on Fridays. Utilize these blessed times to make your dua more effective.

4. Face the Qibla:

Facing the direction of the Kaaba in Mecca while making dua is a Sunnah (tradition) of the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him). It shows respect and aligns your heart towards the House of Allah, which adds to the sincerity of your prayer.

5. Raise Your Hands and Begin with Praise:

Start your dua by raising your hands and praising Allah. Recite His beautiful names and attributes, acknowledge His greatness, and thank Him for His countless blessings. This not only glorifies Allah but also sets a humble tone for your prayer.

6. Send Blessings on the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH):

It is recommended to send peace and blessings upon the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) before making any personal requests in your dua. Recite the Salawat (blessings) as a means of gaining Allah’s favor.

7. Recite Specific Duas:

Now, recite specific duas that are known to be effective in seeking marriage with someone you love. You can say the following dua with complete sincerity:

“Rabbana Hablana min azwajina wa zurriyyatina qurrata a'yunin waj 'alna lil muttaqina imama.” (Quran 25:74) Translation: “Our Lord, grant us from among our wives and offspring comfort to our eyes and make us an example for the righteous.”

Additionally, the dua mentioned in the article can be recited:

“Rabbi inni lima anzalta ilayya min khairin faqeer.”Translation: “My Lord, I am in need of whatever good You send down to me.” (Quran 28:24)

8. Make Your Personal Request:

After reciting these duas, make your personal request to Allah. Speak from your heart and clearly express your desire to marry the person you love. Mention their name and ask Allah to bring you together in a halal (permissible) relationship that is filled with love, mercy, and blessings.

9. Have Trust and Patience:

After making your dua, place your trust in Allah. Believe that He knows what is best for you and will grant your wish if it is beneficial. Sometimes, answers to prayers may be delayed or may come in unexpected ways. Be patient and continue to make dua regularly.

10. End with Gratitude and Peace:

Conclude your dua by expressing gratitude to Allah for listening to your prayer. Again, send blessings upon the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) and seek forgiveness for any shortcomings.

Additional Powerful Prayers and Wazifa to Marry Someone You Love

For those seeking to marry someone they love, some other duas and wazifas can be recited. Incorporating these prayers into your daily routine can enhance your chances of a successful outcome:

Dua to Get Married Soon to Someone You Love: Regularly recite this dua with a sincere heart and a hopeful mind. It can help expedite the process of getting married to the person you love.

Dua to Marry Someone of Your Choice: This prayer is specifically for seeking Allah’s help to marry the person you have chosen, ensuring that the relationship is blessed and accepted by Allah.

Wazifa to Get Married to Someone You Love: A wazifa is a specific set of recitations or actions done for a particular purpose. Perform this wazifa with dedication and trust in Allah to facilitate your marriage to the person you love.

For more detailed guidance, refer to the dua to marry someone you love for additional support.

Conclusion

Making a dua to marry someone you love is a beautiful way to involve Allah in your personal life and seek His blessings for a successful marriage. Remember, the key is to make your dua with sincerity, trust in Allah’s wisdom, and patience. 

Follow the steps outlined above to make your dua more effective and never lose hope. Even if things do not go as planned, believe that Allah has a better plan for you, and He knows what is best for His believers. Keep your faith strong, and may Allah grant you a happy and blessed marriage with the person you love.

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Soul and Mate

tujuh belas juni dua ribu dua puluh empat. tujuh empat puluh sembilan.

Hello, everyone! It's been a long time it's been a long no writing to this blog. As for today, I want to share my journey to finally find the "one". What an interesting topic for 90's generation who's already on their 30's and still single. I'm ready to spill some tea with you guys!

I bumped into @coachanez's page and find one of her reels relatable and I hope this post will somehow inspire and encourage you guys on finding your mate.

Coach Anez in one of her reels said to find your soul first before find your mate. I just watch it today and without realizing I'm on that process already. It's Allah's way to grant me such idea to find myself first, what exactly I want in life in order to find what I want from a partner.

Step to a few years back, I overthink on my prospect on finding partner if I'm not wiling to meet real person in real life while I have limited access on women-men interaction. Then I start to be more open on social gathering especially in matchmacking purpose. And I came to a conclucion I should put myself out, not sit still on my bubble. It's hard, I know. It's hard to be vulnarable, show my intention, but it's something I need to do since it's widder the chance of me getting women-men interaction.

Everytime I attend the matchmaking gathering (some people here called it anjangsana) in my 28's until my age now, my intention is shifted. I change my intention to encouraging those girls on the event. I started making friends everytime I came to those gatherings. Listen to their stories and shared the good vibe energy with them. I can't remember their names but we remember faces hahahahaha! but that's fun! on the last gathering I attend I met a girl who I always bump to on every gathering I attend and she said she's pregnant already that indicate she's been married! I'm happy for her ofc! that's how the energy I want to give to others, like "hang on girls, your time will come" finally with Allah's blessing my intention, my energy is well shared. I love listening to their concern and I hope with my presence there they find it as an encouraging message. warm hugs for those girls.

As I meet a lot of people, I came to the idea on finding myself first. And I start to wrote on this platform, privately (I make it open just now hehe), what I want from a partner. And that really help me on deciding whether the man who come is worthy of my time.

And finally I can say that I finally met that person! (OMG! the tea is spilled hahaha) One of my cousin introduced me to this man and voila! in no time I become someone's wife. It's exciting yet thrilling! But to be wise, I need to calm down and enjoy the rest of the month as a 30's single before those obligations and mandatories come along with the new chapter. And preparing a wedding is tiring AF yet exciting to be honest. Haaaaaaah ... inhaling and exhaling everytime I think about it. And I sit here at 4 am continue wrtiting to you guys before I dive into the chaotic wedding spreedsheet that I make LOL.

Beside all the flowers and butterflies things happening, there's a tiny part on my brain that overly think, like, is this real? (this one with capital letters! OMG IS THIS EVEN REAL?!) am I not rushing things? am I not trapped in the idea of him? am I deserved to be with someone as fine as him? ... but I try not to. Everytime those intrusive thoughts come, I pray to Allah to keep those away and make me focus on what I should do next. This process also teach me how "go with the flow" (with Allah's guidance of course) is as exciting as "everything planned".

The one thing people want to know is how do you know is she/he is the one? Idk about him but for me ... he's everything I could ask for a partner. On my whisper pray before bed, on my sleepless night, on my despair ... those whisper prays ... those tiny tiny voice inside my head ... Allah is there, listen. No one will check all the list you write as your ideal partner but when the person come, you finally know which qualities from your list that you needed the most. I can guarantee that. All the stage of life that you've been through ... I can say it's necessary to happen, to help you find your soul and finally, find your mate.

I'm not saying all my problems solved at this rate. It's actually a new chapter, a new problem ofc. But the idea of getting to know someone and have a partner going through the hard road is great. I know, none of this writing is make sense for my fellow 90's friends and 30's girls. This is not relateable, I know. But when your time come, and you read this, I hope all of this will make sense to you. And when it come, I hope you're already make peace with yourself.

See you on my next writing.

Bye!

[roses-and-elixir]

I hope you have the biggest smile on your face this morning, I wanted to ask for a small favour - in tahajjud or whenever you pray to remember me, I was in talks of getting married to someone I really love, his family got involved and so did my parents suddenly overnight after I told few people finally life changed and my parents woke up saying they want me to finish my degree (I’m 26 doing med) and don’t finish till I’m 30, I don’t want to be speaking to him till I’m 30, I want to make this halal. and ky parents were like that’s our decision and it really is hurting me since life changed overnight for no reason and they’ve only met him couple of times none of the times to speak about how he feels about me but more to do with how he is as a person, if they knew how much he loved me they would give me away in a. Second as he is genuinely the best man alhumdulillah , I would be so grateful since me and him are both really going through it to remember us, who knows who our lord will listen to💓

May Allah make it easy for both you and him inshaAllah, will keep you in my prayers.

Can his parents not try to reason with yours and assure your parents you will still finish your degree. Or can you maybe get a nikkah done then have the walima at a later date when you move in with him? That way it will still be halal and you don’t have to stop talking to him.

There’s a duaa that if you read when you wake up in the middle of the night your prayer will likely get accepted. Here’s the link: https://duas.com/dua/144/dua-when-waking-up-at-night-1