#DIYwives

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I’M IN MY DIWIVES ERA ( well until my next exams anyway 😅)

Early 2000s rom-com poster:

Grease but make it gay (Mark is leading a song-and-dance ensemble somewhere idk):

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randomly popping in :)

Moot @abiiii-ineffable started posting about it, and it seemed to be my kinda thing, so I looked them up and here we are :)

The Unrelenting Aubergine, ditch had taken over my brain for good

The Off-Season

Around 4 years

Miraculous

Uhh all of them? Idk I love OLM, she's iconic, then theres Angelina from Off season, Cindy Campbell, Noblin from the latest lf

Vienna is very Titch-coded, so is Good Luck Babe for DIYwives

@theblackberryhimself @psychicbluebirdmiracle @sosbanfach64 @anonymousintheshadows and open tags

I thought it would be fun to try and get to know people in this fandom with a tag game! So reblog this and tell me:

What got you watching SFTH

The first longform you watched

Your current favorite longform

How long you've been using tumblr

What your favorite fandoms other than SFTH are

Your favorite SFTH character and/or ship

A song that you associate with a SFTH character/ship/longform in some way

Mine are:

The Irish Mermaids Change Game came up on my youtube algorithm; I've always liked improv so I wanted to see more from this group and the rest is history

The Off Season

Probably a tie between The Milkman, Moist & Magical, and Ballet on the Battlefield....but Creak in the Attic is getting close as well

Since 2016, so 9 years now!

My AO3 suggests Sanders Sides, but I haven't been deep in that for years...probably either Leverage, Skyrim, or Star Trek TNG

Character is probably either Jemima or Alexa, ship is either Egbert/Samantha or John Jacob/Angelina

I was listening to Aurora while writing my Creak in the Attic fic and I especially like the vibes of Little Boy in the Grass for Jim/El and Junior's friendship

No-pressure tagging some people to start us off, but anyone who sees this and wants to play can! I can't wait to read everyone's answer! @moonsanoverthinker @heliona @mangomaestro @ethernitty @rainy-weather-supremacy @not-an-idiot @ilikeasstrology @i-may-be-an-emu @bbatcat-09 @8pandacakes @theblackberryhimself

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Mark from SFTH's Clarissa's DIY Wedding is Aro/Ace and should be in a QPR with Clarissa x Amanda. In this essay, I will—

[Okay, it's not really an essay (wow it became much longer than I thought it would) but this is the first time I've actually written out a headcanon I've had. I wasn't expecting to go into detail, but I posted this idea casually in the SFTH discord, and then some people actually started to vibe with it and add on to it (thanks so much btw <3!!), so now I want to write out all the ideas in case I (or someone else) want to write fic for it lmao.]

Main Idea: Mark from Clarissa's DIY Wedding is Aromantic and/or Asexual but because of his mommy/daddy/religious issues thinks he needs to have a heterosexual romance to be fulfilled because he couldn't see that in his own parents/family life and was pressured to do so. And while Clarissa and Amanda (who are now in a romantic relationship) help him discover his identity, they form a queerplatonic poly relationship of aro/ace!Mark x sapphic!DIYWives

Read ahead for my surprisingly long headcanon for this sad AF fictional man from an improv *comedy* bit whom I've now adopted. (disclaimer: I'm aroace spec but unfortunately I'm not really a good writer and thus, not very good at explaining things)

Headcanon:

Mark could be a closeted aroace person who unfortunately has been in several shortlived "stereotypically het" romances: lost his virginity at a young age, has had one-night stands, and frequent girlfriends

Much like Clarissa x Amanda is a "Good Luck, Babe" dynamic, Mark not knowing he's aro and/or ace can have his own Good Luck, Babe (which honestly he deserves it because angst is delicious). As Clarissa wakes up next to him in the middle of the night with her head in her hands, thinking about Amanda, Mark is lying facing away from his wife wondering why he doesn't feel the satisfaction society has told him he will have after marriage. Unlike Clarissa however, he doesn't know what that missing piece is.

He's obviously never gotten familial love from his dad and his mom died when he was young (and idk if he has any other family) so his yearning for what should be unconditional familial love transferred over to a want for unconditional romantic love because that's what society has placed on a pedestal. But because he has no proper example of what a healthy couple relationship should look like and because he doesn't have that romantic attraction, he's just willing to take what he can get.

AND THE CHURCH!!! OMG THE CHURCH. The church also doesn't help, just promoting het marriage as the end all be all which is unfortunate since the church seems to be the only place he goes to for help in his life and even then, all he's given in answer is unwarranted guilt.

As suggested in the discord, Amanda somehow convinces Clarissa to convince Mark to go to therapy instead of the Church. For Amanda, it's at first a way to separate Mark and Clarissa because they'll realize they aren't actually compatible. After several therapy sessions (including couple's therapy for both of them), Mark and Clarissa realize that their current relationship is unhealthy. Clarissa realizes she's bisexual or pansexual and that those friendly feelings for Amanda weren't strictly friendly at all. Mark realizes that while he does love Clarissa, it's not the romantic love that is typical for a married couple but he's been treating the marriage more of a bandaid over his abandonment trauma and guilt. They get a divorce and Clarissa gets together with Amanda and Mark tries to find himself somehow (spoiler alert, he has no idea how to do so by himself).

Much to Amanda's dismay, Clarissa and Mark still miss each other and want to hang out on friendly terms (Amanda also has to go through her own issues of abandonment and thinking that Clarissa will leave her for a man). However, the more they hang out all together, Amanda starts to actually like Mark as a friend and she knows now that the way Mark and Clarissa love each other is not the same love as Clarissa and hers is, but it is still very strong in itself.

For example: Mark and Clarissa have cuddle sessions because they're used to that already. Amanda gets jealous because her insecurities are convinced that Mark and Clarissa will get back together romantically and leave her as the third wheel again. But as it continues, she realizes that the intimacy is soooo not romantic or sexual in nature and entirely just for comfort

At this point, it may be the start of a QPR but they don't know it yet shhh...

Since hanging out more with Clarissa and Amanda, Mark is very much introduced to the LGBTQIA+ community. Mark learns that he may not be straight after all.

*cue montage music*

• Mark gets invited to gay bars with DIYWives to experiment. He's introduced to Amanda's sapphic friends as Clarissa's ex-husband, but he's cool and part of the "girlies".

• Mark gets hit on by several gay men. He at first declines, but looking at Clarissa and Amanda dancing with each other and having fun in the middle of the club, he wants what they have. Clarissa found out she likes women, maybe he likes men too, and ends up hooking up with some of them. He learns that the way he feels about men is the same way he feels about women which he thinks makes him bisexual but that doesn't seem that correct to him.

• Finally, he meets other aro/ace people and something just *clicks*. While he very much loved (and tbh still does love) Clarissa and feels extreme fondness for her, he never actually felt romantic/sexual attraction towards her.

• Mark comes out to Clarissa and Amanda who obviously support him very much. Now, when they go to bars since Mark still gets hit on by all genders, he begins to wear shirts with several aro/ace puns on them (lmao). It isn't very long after that—maybe Amanda does the research actually—DIYWives end up having a queerplatonic relationship with Mark.

As a friendly joke, Clarissa or Amanda introduces Mark like this:

Clarissa/Amanda: "Yeah that's Mark, my/her ex-husband. She/I hated him, but we're all good and in a relationship now."

Mark's like, "Hi! 👋😎"

...

It is now 1:30am and I can't think of anything else right now lol, sooooo thanks for coming to my TED Talk! *drops microphone and walks off stage*

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SFTH Clarissa x Amanda x Mark at Halloween Horror Nights (I FINALLY DREW IT)

(From my AU of a QPR between Aro/Ace Mark x Bi Clarissa x Lesbian Amanda)

Clarissa/Amanda/Mark date where they go to Halloween Horror Nights because Clarissa is a horror nerd and Markanda want to make her happy despite them very much not being a fan of horror movies.

So imagine the three of them in a line as they're walking through the haunted houses:

• Clarissa leading the group laughing and having fun

• Amanda is clutching Clarissa's shoulders and furiously screaming that she's gonna fight everything even if no one is actively jumpscaring her

• Mark is just bear-hugging Amanda from behind and hiding his face because Amanda is taller than him.