#I dont even have emetophobia but I will do my very best to make it accurate

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here to ask the chat, if I wrote a Reddie fic where Richie comforts Eddie through like an emetophobia episode would anyone be interested in that

(also if anyone that sees this has emetophobia and would we willing to be interviewed about it that would be sososo appreciated)

[velaralilas]

dead by daylight's issues

i just watched SpookyLoopz's most recent video about how he feels currently with the shift of content in DBD, and he made some very valid points. i reccomend watching it before reading on.

tl;dr- he says that the two newest killers, The Knight and The Skull Merchant, are boring to play against and play as and that DBD is becoming stale.

i very much agree with this. i, myself, am a content creator (i stream on twitch- and am currently planning my revival after a two month long hiatus) and DBD is one of the main games i play. now, i didn't fully get into DBD until May/June 2022, roughly when The Dredge came out and the game was celebrating its 6th anniversary. I am still a baby at 300ish hours of playtime. even within the limited time i have interacted with the community, as well as playing the game and learning the ropes, there has been a serious shift in the culture surrounding the game. from metas to the camping/tunneling problem, these problems seem to have no end.

The community is going to be the thing that kills Dead by Daylight within the next year or so- i feel. im going to outline the main things that i see when playing myself.

playing survivor

while playing as a survivor (my main game mode), the tunneling and camping is horrendous- especially for persons like me who have TTV or YT in their username. there have been countless times where i was pushed out of a game because i am a streamer, or because other creators are in a lobby with me, they assume i am a part of a swf (survive with friends). ive also had killers that hold myself and my friends hostage since they assume we're streaming- not becuase we're creators, but becuase they think we are actively streaming in that moment.

another thing i see often is fellow survivors disconnecting seemingly randomly. now, i, myself, am guilty of disconnecting from a match- everyone has their moments- but the type im talking about is when they see a killer they dont like (im excluding The Plague and The Clown from this becuase emetophobia and colourophbia is real), if the killer brings a mori, or if they feel like they're losing after getting downed. i have played with someone who is toxic like this and it is insufferable because this puts you at such a disadvantage later in the game. stop abandoning teammates just because The Legion brought a mori. Killing yourself on hook to get out a game is still bad- dont get me wrong- but at least its more tolerable than straight up leaving.

the survivor meta is purely influenced by whatever the current killer meta is. dont ask me what is considered 'the meta' i dont know and dont care. i think you should run perks that suit your playstyle, not to be one with the crowd. if you wanna sneak around, be a gen jockey, get chased all game, make builds that will help you! coordinate with the friends that youre playing with! this makes the game so much more fun that using a build you saw a big time content creator use.

playing killer

oh boy, here we go.

to start off, i am a Sadako (The Onryo) and a Freddy (The Nightmare) main. Sadako is my number one best girl.

playing the killer is so stale and unbearable. from bully squads to toxic survivors its so much worse than it used to be. the highest rank i got to when i was playing everyday for 6-8 hours a day was Gold 2 (? i just remember being in gold) and it was amazing back then. nowadays people are bringing gen rushing builds and want to get in and out of games as soon as possible. dont even get me started on the end game shit talking people will do if you do bad as a prestige 12 killer.

the current killer meta, from my understanding (again i dont care about the meta), is generator regression and aura reading. i see a lot of pain res/dead mans switch (pain res blows up a generator and forces you off of it, when someone is hooked on the scourge hook, and dead mans blocks it for a short time- for those who are unfamiliar), call of brine/overcharge/pop goes the weasel/eruption being used interchangibly. its all about regressing gens from getting done. wheres the spice? how about tracking perks or chase perks? on Sadako i use a lot of aura reading because its useful with her power, same with Freddy. i never see killers using perks that work well with the killers power.

speaking of powers, lets talk about the two latest killers, The Knight and The Skull Merchant. they suck ass! the knight allows you to camp hooks without needing to be there, and the merchant can track you on the map with drones. these are doing very little to solve the tunneling/camping issue the game has. they are also really boring. their powers are meh, their chase music is meh, and the skull merchant doesnt even have a new map, just a refurbished shelter woods, tell me how thats fair.

final remarks

we as a community need to do better. need to be better. stop with the toxicity, the cheating, everything. i understand that this really isnt possible, people will still find exploits and play competitively, but there is a way to go about it that doesnt make you a piece of shit.

we cannot expect the devs to give us anything good if we buy up bullshit like the latest DLC. the only way to truly fix the tunneling, camping, and toxic players is to change as a community, to make the game fun again. the group that takes everything seriously and competitively is going to keep destroying the culture around this game until is so unberable that people who just want to have the slightest bit of fun go somewhere else.

i love Dead by Daylight. i really do. i've made some amazing friends and made a start to streaming with it. however i feel that if we dont change as a whole, its going to continue to grow staler and staler until its cold and barren.

[trans-axolotl]

(Arfid anon) awesome! Ok so from what I understand, in short it's an eating disorder where certain foods are just impossible to eat, with very few safe foods that can be reliably eaten. Would that be correct?

I experience that, but every resource says that they are foods that a person does not like, which is my my main confusion. I've for years been completely unable to eat certain foods. Things with mixed textures or bready/spongey textures make me incredibly nauseous very quickly. Hard/crunchy foods are safe. But there are some foods I like the taste of, for example a sandwich, that I just Physically Cannot Eat because the texture. Would that still like.. count? I like the taste but I just cant eat it due to texture.

Also what prevents someone with arfid from being able to eat certain foods? Like how does it make you feel that repels you from that food? Every source I can find says that a person cant eat certain foods, but never explains what is being experienced that prevents someone from eating it. I experience very extreme nausea whenever I eat Bad foods. Is that accurate?

Sorry if anything is too personal or anything, I just learned about arfid yesterday, and I've been struggling with food for my whole life and I'm desperate to get a name to my struggle. If you dont wanna answer anything I asked, that's perfectly fine too! Thanks

hey anon! I'll try my best to answer, but I do just want to give the disclaimer that I'm only one person with ARFID and my experiences are not totally universal.

First question, yes you are basically correct! ARFID is about having a very restricted amount of foods you can eat, and the reason that some foods are safe and other foods are impossible is due to mainly sensory issues. It's sort of a combination of many things-taste, texture, for some people even color can be an issue. What you're describing in terms of how you feel about sandwiches defintely would count as an ARFID thing. Hating mixed textures is a really common ARFID thing, and in general texture is a super difficult thing for people with ARFID. Taste is only one part of it. For example, I like orange flavored candy or orange flavored things but I can't eat oranges.

(emetophobia tw)

Honestly, people don't quite yet understand why exactly it is people with ARFID can't eat certain foods. But the biggest thing for me is something called food neophobia, which is a symptom of ARFID. Basically, it's a phobia of trying new foods, to the point where I cannot try new foods without either vomiting, uncontrollably gagging, or having a panic attack. Even the sight of some foods does this to me, or if my foods touch on a plate. I don't really know why it is that it happens, but I just cannot try new foods without an immense amount of distress and usually vomiting. It makes me so incredibly upset and distressed to try new foods that I really just can't do it in most scenarios because I can't even keep the food down. The thought of trying to eat even a tiny bit of banana makes me nauseous just thinking about it. The other thing that makes me not able to eat certain foods is that even if I can get it in my mouth, the texture makes it so disgusting that I usually throw up and panic.

basically, ARFID is a complex eating disorder that isn't about body image, and also isn't just the same thing as picky eating! a lot of people describe it just as around food preferences, but it's definitely a lot more than that. When I say that I don't like a food, usually what I mean is that I have never eaten the food because I can't eat it without a ton of distress. Another common thing for a lot of people with ARFID is just a geinunue lack of interest in eating food--many of us don't experience hunger or fullness cues, and we just generally don't have the signals in our brain that tell us to eat, or enjoy eating. Also, ARFID is a spectrum of behaviors--people vary in intensity of behaviors, stuff like nausea, amount of safe foods, and even if you think it's more mild it can still count as ARFID.

let me know if you have any other questions, and i wish you the best of luck anon!

[kuroosweakness]

hello!! this is kind of an emergency request? i guess? so tw vomit first of all i have emetophobia meaning im scared of vomit and throwing up and right now i feel very nauseous which makes me extremely anxious so could you write about kuroos, osamus and sakusas s/o (separately ofc) feeling nauseous? if you want to you can add the whole emetophobia part but you dont have to!!!! have a pleasant night

kuroo, osamu, and sakusa when their s/o who has emetophobia is feeling nauseous 

a/n: u just picked my comfort characters :’) i’ve heard of how hard it can be to have emetophobia :(( 

kuroo: 

- kuroo has been aware of your phobia but has never really thought much about it...because it’s not every day where someone throws up. until you start feeling nauseous...

- “kitten, try to relax. the fear is one of the factors that’s making you feel sick. pretend you don’t even know what emetophobia is. pretend you’re not scared at all, it’ll help ease your stomach a bit” 

- phobias are serious, kuroo understands that. since he can’t magically make it go away, he’ll constantly reassure you with words of affirmation 

- “is there anything i can do to help, y/n?” it hurts him to see you so anxious and not be able to do much about it 

- he’s a very, very attentive boyfriend who won’t leave your side until he’s sure you’re feeling better. and even after you start feeling better, he still won’t leave your side, of course

osamu: 

- he honestly doesn’t understand the concept of emetophobia...it’s just digested food and stomach acid? but he tries his best to be understanding of you! never underestimate a phobia

- “samu, i’m feeling really nauseous” you say while tightly clutch your stomach 

- ._. well, this isn’t good. osamu’s response will be grabbing a bucket (just in case) and then letting you sit on his lap so he can massage your stomach, “still feeling nauseous?” he’ll ask while pulling your head back to rest on his chest 

- “i know you’re scared and there’s not much you can do about it, but it’ll be okay, i promise” osamu will give you a small smile while rubbing his finger over your cheek 

- he’s one of those, “i don’t fully understand but i’ll listen to you without judging” type of person 

( when osamu’s cooking, he makes sure he avoids food that may make you uncomfortable! )

sakusa: 

- i wonder if sakusa has emetophobia too... 

- when he hears that you’re feeling nauseous, he’s like oh no no no and walks out the room? but then he’ll come back after a few seconds later because no matter how much he hates unsanitary-stuff, his heart won’t let him leave you all by yourself. plus, you’re even more terrified than he is, it wouldn’t be fair for him to leave you alone

- “come give me a hug” is the best he can say at a time like this. sakusa’s not the best with words....or affection...or comforting people...but he’ll try his best to make sure you know he’s there for you 

[cicidraws]

Emetophobia warning under cut. but explaination for you all/update?

      So as I’m sure you all know, and caught on, that I struggle heavily with Emetophobia on top of all my other mental and physical illness. This phobia has effected my life greatly since December 2016 when my entire family got the stomach virus, but I never threw up, although shown other symptoms that kept me up. I’ve always been afraid of vomiting, i used to not be able to say puke, and talking about it still makes me queasy, but I dont really care anymore about that. Saying throw up or watching a movie with vomiting in it doesnt bother me either, all depends on how much stress im going through that day. Now me vomiting? Any chance of me catching the stomach virus or food poisoning and me doing so? yeah, thats my problem. My only problem out of all, and I’ve developed extreme OCD with this phobia. 

      Anyways, before I ramble further on it. I want to tell you that I’m sorry I’m very slow on here, and that I’m very on and off or rambly and my moods are all over the place. Living is very stressful. Isnt just feeling scared or sad. This phobia has impacted my life to where i dont go in public places anymore(have not gone into a public place since november 2017), and anyone coming into the house scares me to where i panic all day through the night(etcetcetc. too many details). Now I want you all to know that I am trying, and actively looking at all the resources I possibly can as of now to help my emetophobia improve. I’m currently waiting for a therapy appointment but its taking a long.. loooooong time. My town is small so it’s very difficult to get any help, even though I qualify and am enrolled in something that will keep tabs on me as much as possible for mental and physical health. They’re looking for therapists and such for me still. Meanwhile, I’ll be trying my best to help myself as much as possible.

      I want to have that spark again, for art, for any creations I do, for just quality of life even if its mediocre. Just to breathe in the outside air again, and to see people in person and feel real and part of the world. To have motivation and to do things I need to and want to, to be myself whatever that used to be. I’m trying my absolute hardest. Thank you for your patience through everything, and all the support. It means the world to me. One day I’ll be better, I promise. I dont want to feel like this anymore, where I want to just die instead of living my life, when even vomiting is temporary. I say that and its still scary to say, but it still is. It comes and goes. I feel sometimes I’d rather die than have it come at all. And it’s ruining me. but I want to be better. I’m trying to process all that i can. I really do care for you all as you do for me too. Thank you for that. <3