#adam phillips

[explore-blog]

How you wait is who you are, and everything depends on your sense of an ending.

Adam Phillips on the psychology of waiting, the art of withstanding absence, and how to get better at missing loved ones

[milksockets]

attention seeking - adam phillips

[dk-thrive]

So we may need to think of ourselves as always living a double life, the one that we wish for and the one that we practice; the one that never happens and the one that keeps happening.

— Adam Phillips, Missing Out: In Praise of the Unlived Life (Picador, December 31, 2013) (via Whiskey River)

[yorgunherakles]

yalnızlık diğer insanların fiziksel yokluğu değil, hiç kimseyle önemli bir şey paylaşmadığınız hissidir.

johann hari - kaybolan bağlar

[edebiyat-hayat]

“ insanları tanımak,

onların yokluğunda yaptığımız bir şeydi “

[publicatiosui]

According to Michel Serres, the only modern question is: what is it you don’t want to know about yourself?

-- Adam Phillips

[maliferous-me]

Dead or Alive - The Paris Review

[odettecarotte]

The cure can begin only after the treatment has ended.

Adam Phillips

[milksockets]

attention seeking - adam phillips

[yorgunherakles]

stres sıkı çalışmaktan kaynaklanmaz. stres esasen kontrol sahibi olabileceğin bir şey hakkında harekete geçmemekten kaynaklanır. stres gözardı etmemen gereken şeyleri görmezden gelerek oluşur.

walter ısaacson - steve jobs

[loneberry]

“We need to wonder what giving up would look like, would sound like, if suicide was not the paradigm, or the only paradigm, of giving up, and if it was not taken for granted in some quasi-religious sense that life is essentially worth living. We are torturing people when we force people whose life is torture to go on living.” --Adam Phillips, On Giving Up

That's the hard truth, the harsh, unsentimental truth I have been resisting all these years: it cannot be regarded as axiomatic that life is always worth living. Giving up is a choice among choices, neither feckless nor heroic.

[shakespearenews]

Hal seeks a substitute father in the form of Falstaff, whose roguery is so open that when he speaks of himself as an innocent misled by bad company there is no hypocrisy—the joke is too obvious. But Hal’s tavern life, though it may look like a second chance, a fresh start, is nothing of the kind. He uses it to manipulate his own image, to increase the public impact of his apparent reformation when he becomes king, a reformation he intended all along.

[jacobwren]

"Adam Phillips credits reading Winnicott’s book Playing and Reality with inspiring him to become a child psychoanalyst. And it was from Winnicott that he developed the central importance of dependence and relationships. “In Freud’s view man is divided and driven, by the contradictions of his desire, into frustrating involvement with others,” Phillips writes in his first book. “In Winnicott man can only find himself in relation with others, and in the independence gained through acknowledgement of dependence. For Freud, in short, man was the ambivalent animal; for Winnicott he would be the dependent animal . . .” It might be more accurate to say that, for Winnicott (and for Phillips), man is the animal who is ambivalent about his dependence. We need other people, and we resent that about them because it means they can frustrate our desires—and they do. Our dependence, then, is often something we would like to “give up,” or at least disavow, but it is also, definitionally, the condition of not being able to. Worse still: to deny our helplessness is to forego the possibility of being satisfied." - Sam Adler-Bell, Good Enough: Psychoanalysis learns to love letting go

[huzursuzlugun-blogu]

Adam Phillips, Wilde'ı yorumlarken şöyle bir cümle kurar.. ".. ama büyümek için mutlaka unutmanız gereken şeyler vardır.." (Yasak Olmayan Hazlar)

[buralardangidiyorsunn]

Bir şeyi cezalandırılma korkusuyla yapmamakla, yanlış olduğuna inandığımız için yapmamak arasında büyük bir fark vardır. Yani suçluluk duygusu illaki insanın değer verdiği şeylere dair bir ipucu sunmaz. Sadece insanın neden ve kimden korktuğuna dair iyi bir ipucu sunar.

[milksockets]

Our gods are never resourceless…The perfectionist is always an ever-failing god, never merely a struggling animal. Given that omnipotence is an all-or-nothing affair–you can no more be a bit omnipotent than you can be a bit pregnant–there is going to be no one more enraged than a failing god. And the theme of the failed god–whether it is Milton’s Satan, or Goethe’s Mephistopheles–is insufficiency; either its denial or its presence felt through envy and retaliation. Helplessness is an experience that is available only to those who were once omnipotent; lack is an experience that is available only to those who were once, if only in fantasy, complete. From a psychoanalytic point of view, it is the wound of need that constitutes the human subject.

On Balance - Adam Phillips