#afrosexology

[leeharrington]

In unrelated news since life is not all challenges, here are some self-portraits from last night. I love showing myself my beauty and creating art in doing so. I installed twinkle lights around my home and a lamp in each room that can, at voice command, change colors and brightness. Everything is hooked to google home, so I can also voice command Spotify playlists that include things like my own curated music, playlists from Afrosexology and Metedith Muse, and more. Having a sensual space matters to me. I deserve excellence in my solo time, not just with others. I am my most sensual and intense lovers. I love creating space for others as well, but much of this is for me, by me. Candles, incense, and anointed oils. Sex toy collections I have gathered for over 20 years. Soft comforters and pillows to lay across. Art on the wall that calls forth magic and desire. Ink on my skin that is a doorway to possibility. You deserve excellence too. Make your space yours and your skin yours - your way. This is just one path. https://www.instagram.com/p/CpglsLXuh2Z/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[rapeculturerealities]

When Dalychia Saah and Rafaella Fiallo were in graduate school in 2014 at the predominantly white Washington University, they were keenly aware of how few spaces there were for black people to meet and share their experiences and ideas with each other.

So, as so many others who have found themselves in similar situations have been forced to do, they took advantage of whatever opportunities they encountered to encourage conversation and camaraderie ― often via turns-ups and twerk sessions with friends that, with a little liquid courage, frequently turned into late-night, remarkably honest and vulnerable talks about love, sex and other intimate topics.

Noting that these discussions were happening much too rarely among black people, Saah and Fiallo created Afrosexology, a now prolific traveling seminar that, in its third year, aims to advance dialogue about black pleasure, desire and sexual liberation.

Saah and Fiallo recently talked to HuffPost about Afrosexology, sex positivity and redefining what it means for black people to be kinky.

read the interview here

[jatouna]

Dark Skin Appreciation Post 🍫 🌞 #problack #carefreeblackgirl #womanist #proudtobeblack #blackwoman #proudwoman #blacklove #blacklivesmatter #blackisbeautiful #blackdontcrack #afrosexology #blackart #tumblr #goddess #beauty #queen #melaninonfleek #melaninqueen #melanina #melaninaire #melaninmagic #blackbeauty #flower #melanin #melaninpoppin🍫 #blacklivesmatter

[sankofasextherapy]

Sexual. Not sexualized. Shout out to @afrosexology_ for this bomb sweatshirt. 📷: @goldenchild_314 . . . . #YourFavoriteSexTherapist #BlackSocialWorkers #BlackSexTherapist #Afrosexology #WoCSHN (at The Pageant) https://www.instagram.com/p/B3qUszKB8Z_/?igshid=1j7tvfplxv1ez

[loversplayground]

Monday Mood! Need we say more? Beautiful artwork by @afrosexology

[jack68bass83v]

When? #afrosexology https://www.instagram.com/p/BtBjEoZndZE/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=f3pcvp8nsufq

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Ocho mejores vibradores de conejo 2020

Los vibradores de conejo le deben mucho a Sex and the City. En 1998, el conejo apareció en un episodio del programa, llevando el juguete relativamente desconocido a la esfera pública y a muchas habitaciones privadas. El original era fundamentalmente un consolador con un bonito conejito vibrante pegado a un lado, cuyas orejas estaban destinadas a aletear contra el clítoris cuando la parte más grande del juguete se introducía en la vagina. A pesar de su popularidad, el primer vibrador de conejo tenía algunos inconvenientes. "No tenían la manera conveniente para la estimulación del punto G", dice Gigi Engle, adiestradora sexual certificada y autora de All the F * cking Mistakes: A Guide to Sex, Love, and Life. La manera recta cara arriba y cara abajo no se ajustaba a la forma natural de la vagina de una mujer. Además, dice, los conejos de los años noventa y principios de los dos mil estaban hechos con materiales de baja calidad que eran difíciles de mantener limpios y cobijaban bacterias. Hoy, los vibradores de conejo son una categoría completa, que describe cualquier cosa diseñada para alentar tanto interna como externamente al mismo tiempo. Los mejores son polivalentes y ajustables para amoldarse a una variedad de diferentes géneros de cuerpos y están hechos de materiales no porosos de alta calidad. Y como muchos de los otros vibradores sobre los que hemos escrito, la mayoría de ellos ahora son impermeables, recargables y ofrecen múltiples velocidades y patrones de vibración para asistirlo a hallar las sensaciones que mejor marchan para usted. Para determinar los mejores vibradores para conejos en el mercado ahora, preguntamos a terapeutas sexuales, dueños de tiendas de juguetes eróticos y expertos en juguetes sexuales sobre los conejos que ellos mismos recomiendan y emplean.

Mejor vibrador de conejo en general

Engle, Megan Fleming, terapeuta sexual, y Sid Azmi, dueño de la tienda de placer Please en Brooklyn, nombraron al We-Vibe Nova como su vibrador de conejo preferido. "Se puede emplear con una aplicación de control remoto, y la parte externa destinada a estimular su clítoris se flexiona con a medida que se mueve", afirma Fleming. Esta es una mejora real teniendo presente que los vibradores de conejo solían ser muy recios y no se ajustaban a muchos cuerpos de personas. Engle llama Nova al que vive y muere por el hecho de que no se parece en nada a un pene y está a la perfección encorvado para lograr el punto G. "Por mucho que odio que esto siga siendo una cosa", afirma Engle, "puede ser espantoso para una pareja ver un juguete erótico superfálico de la nada. El Nova es elegante y no amenazante, además de que dura mucho entre cargas y es tan poderoso ". El Nova es resistente al agua, está hecho de silicona de grado médico seguro para el cuerpo y ofrece 10 modos de vibración, once incluido el que puede crear mismo con la aplicación.

El mejor vibrador de conejo (menos costoso)

Si recién está comenzando con los juguetes sexuales y no está entusiasmado con la perspectiva de gastar más de cien dólares estadounidenses en algo que no está seguro de que disfrutará, Zoe Ligon, dueña de Spectrum Boutique en la ciudad de Detroit, aconseja Wonderlust Harmony . Ella lo llama sin duda el mejor vibrador de conejo económico pues está hecho de silicona, ofrece 20 configuraciones de vibración diferentes y es recargable.

El vibrador de conejo más potente

Azmi dice que Tonto Soraya tiene la mayor potencia e intensidad de todos los juguetes de estimulación dual, lo que hace que merezca la pena el alto costo. El brazo externo de Soraya es flexible, lo que le deja aplicar tanta o poca presión como desee. "No se siente como una concha en mi vulva", afirma, "y viene con un asa". Ese mango, que realmente es un pequeño agujero en forma de rosquilla integrado en la parte inferior del juguete, es clave. Especialmente si eres propenso a sufrir calambres. Como explica Azmi, "En ocasiones, cuando te acercas al orgasmo, tus músculos se tensan, y aquellos de que tardamos más en corrernos, tus brazos pueden cansarse o bien tener algo de dolor". Pero el mango evita eso al asistir a colocar su brazo y muñeca apropiadamente para un soporte ergonómico mientras que empuja. Engle, que también es fan de Soraya, aprecia sus materiales de alta calidad y su brazo flexible. De la misma manera que el Nova, está fabricado con silicona flexible y segura para el cuerpo, es impermeable y recargable. También ofrece 13 patrones de vibración diferentes y tiene botones de encendido y pulso adecuadamente ubicados.

El vibrador de conejo más innovador

Muchos de nuestros especialistas son fanáticos de la marca alemana Fun Factory debido a su silicona de alta calidad (los estándares para el silicio en Alemania son mucho más altos que los de Estados Unidos) y (no extraña) mecanismos internos bien diseñados. Mas es más que eso. La compañía también crea formas nuevas y apasionantes de brindar placer. Engle y Azmi recomiendan Amorino pues, además de alentar el punto G y el clítoris, proporciona vibraciones ajustables a los labios y al perineo. El Amorino viene con una banda de silicona que puedes colocar en torno a los brazos internos y externos de 2 formas diferentes. Cuando enciendes el juguete, esa banda transporta vibraciones a tus labios creando una sensación más completa y que lo engloba todo. "Cuando charlamos de placer femenino, nos enfocamos principalmente en el placer del clítoris y el placer interno", afirma Azmi. "Pero no charlamos mucho de placer labial o bien perineal. Es esencial diversificar las partes de la anatomía en las que nos enfocamos. ¿Por qué razón detenerse en 2 cuando puede tenerlo todo? El Amorino es recargable, flexible e impermeable, y ofrece doce configuraciones de vibración en total.

Vibrador de conejo más atractivo

Para muchas personas, el aspecto de un vibrador puede ser tan importante como la cantidad de configuraciones de vibración. Dalychia Saah y Rafaella Fiallo, creadores de Afrosexology, un recurso de educación sexual en línea para mujeres y hombres negros, llaman al Lavani "uno de los vibradores más hermosos que hemos visto". Dicen que el diseño muy elegante y sensual "te hace sentir como un dios o bien una diosa con solo usarlo". Igual de esencial, también funciona bien. El Lavani tiene un brazo interno contorneado y un brazo externo flexible con su propio motor dedicado para una intensa estimulación del clítoris. Está hecho de silicona segura para el cuerpo, es recargable y viene con una garantía de dos años.

El mejor vibrador de conejo de empuje

Para las personas que gozan de la estimulación del empuje aparte de la vibración, Ligon recomienda el Orange County Cutie de Calexotics. Es genial si quieres darle un reposo a tu brazo, porque a diferencia de otros vibradores para conejos, empuja solo. "Su forma y fuerza son idóneas para pegar mis puntos dulces más profundos (como el fondo de saco precedente) como mi clítoris", afirma .

El mejor vibrador de conejo con vibración opcional

No todo el planeta está de acuerdo en que más poder equivale a más placer. Fleming nos presentó este vibrador de conejo, que le chifla pues puedes usarlo con o bien sin vibración. "Como alguien que está en el lado sensible, me agrada que Ina Wave te da la opción de quitar la vibra y simplemente usar el movimiento interno de venir aquí por sí solo", afirma ella. El Ina Wave es recargable, resistente al agua y está hecho de silicona segura para el cuerpo. También tiene un brazo flexible, lo que evita la sensación de tener algo que aprieta tu clítoris.

El mejor vibrador de conejo para juegos anales

El Vicky, que le agrada a Azmi por su versatilidad, es un juguete de silicona reversible, lo que lo hace ideal para juegos de parejas y personas con cuerpos variables. Está desarrollado para un empleo seguro como juguete anal y, en dependencia de cómo lo inserte, puede utilizarse como un tapón anal con un brazo externo que estimula el perineo o bien un juguete vaginal que asimismo estimula el clítoris.

El mejor lubricante para combinar con tu vibrador de conejo

Conforme Engle, siempre y cuando uses un vibrador asimismo debes utilizar lubrificante. "Tu vulva y tu clítoris son ciertas partes más sensibles de todo tu cuerpo, por lo que el uso de lubrificante da una barrera protectora entre el juguete y la vagina, lo cual es verdaderamente importante", afirma . Hemos escrito sobre lubricantes en el pasado, mas vale la pena mencionar que si está empleando juguetes eróticos y vibradores hechos con silicona, no debería emplear lubrificante a base de silicona. El lubricante de silicona degradará los juguetes de silicona con bastante velocidad, con lo que emplea un lubricante a base de agua. El lubricante a base de agua de Engle, Pjur, no contiene parabenos, ni petroquímicos y, según ella, jamás se vuelve pegajoso, un inconveniente común con otros lubricantes a base de agua.

[flixiblog]

Flixi.co may be open, but if you must shop today, we encourage you to support Black-Owned Businesses instead. #BlackOutDay is an economic protest against racial inequality where everyone is asked to not spend any money for a full day in solidarity, with the hope of raising awareness and bringing attention to systemic racism in our country. 🖤🖤🖤 . Please follow and support: @feelmoreadult - online + in-person sex shop @honeypotco - plant based feminine care⁣ @privatepacks - hot + cold therapy pads @getthebutters - handmade lubes, massage oils, + body care⁣ @talk.tabu - sex ed platform offering online on-demand classes @kolbybrianne - custom sized leatherwear⁣ @plzbecareful - eco-centric gender fluid clothing line offering “hand-made slutgear and armor”⁣ @bcondoms - condom company fighting sexual health disparities @afrosexology - sexual exploration & education website @bedtanicals - CBD sexual health + wellness company @speakingofautumn - intimacy education . Please tag more in comments!👇🏼 . #blackoutday2020 #blackouttuesday #blackowned #blackbusiness #blackownedbusiness #business #shop #sexpositive #sexualwellness #sexed #blacklivesmatter https://www.instagram.com/p/CCWjv3iBWQD/?igshid=fs2swpp7tkeu

[jatouna]

Dropping this Melanin Appreciation puzzle 🍫 . . #problack #carefreeblackgirl #womanist #proudtobeblack #blackwoman #proudwoman #blacklove #blacklivesmatter #blackisbeautiful #blackdontcrack #afrosexology #blackart #tumblr #goddess #beauty #queen #melaninonfleek #melaninqueen #melanina #melaninaire #melaninmagic #blackbeauty #flower #melanin #melaninpoppin🍫 #blacklivesmatter

[sankofasextherapy]

Radical Twerk: Reclaiming the Black Body was the workshop I needed this afternoon! So good to see my boos from @afrosexology_ and my fellow WOCSHN Leadership Collective members! . . . #YourFavoriteSexTherapist #Afrosexology #WOCSHN #SucculentSexologist #BlackSocialWorkers #RadicalTwerk #SexDownSouth2019 #SDS2019 #SexDownSouth (at Sheraton Atlanta - Grand Ballroom) https://www.instagram.com/p/B2C4gqvh0CD/?igshid=732g8jvxzfn

[shevibe]

Meet Afrosexology! An educational website which creates spaces online for Black people to openly discuss sexual exploration and liberation. @afrosexology_⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ #AmplifyMelantedVoices #ShopSignUpSupport https://instagr.am/p/CBTrSpAliqh/

[polyrolemodels]

Dalychia Saah of Afrosexology

PolyRoleModels: Alright, so thank you for contributing to PolyRoleModels.

Dalychia: Yeah.

PolyRoleModels: Can I ask who you are?

Dalychia: I'm Dalychia. I'm a sex educator and co-founder of Afrosexology.

PolyRoleModels: Nice. Alright. Well let's get right into it. How long have you been polyamorous, or been practicing polyamory?

Dalychia: So officially practicing for three years, but always say that I remember being 14 or 15 or in a relationship with a guy. It was pretty serious. As serious as it could be at 14. And I met this other guy and I went back to my partner and I was like, I really just want to kiss this guy. Like I don't want a relationship with him, I don't want anything else. I just really want to kiss him. I remember in my mind thinking that there's nothing wrong with that. And my partner being like super heartbroken and felt like I was leaving him and cheating on him. But I also knew that I wasn't cheating. I would talk to him about it and I was like, if you're not okay with it, I won't do it. And if you are, I will. So I would say, I guess I just been poly, but officially practicing for three years.

PolyRoleModels: Okay. So what does your relationship dynamic look like?

Dalychia: So yeah, my relationship changes pretty frequently. So right now, no. When I first started, my partner and I were poly, no hierarchy, so I had other partners, he had other partners. Then we went to practicing monogamy and now we're practicing being open. And so allowing sexual encounters with other people, but not necessarily romantic emotional relationships.

PolyRoleModels: Okay. Makes sense.

Dalychia: Yeah. So I think for us it just is about fluidity and being open to moving, to forming a relationship to what we both need at the time. Things happen and you look up and there's a hierarchy in place and you try to figure that out, what that means with the hierarchy. And we look up again and we want to try something else. So just being really open to exploring and trusting that we are being honest and open with each other and that we can find the thing that fits right for us at the time that we need it.

PolyRoleModels: Awesome. Awesome. Well what aspects of polyamory do you excel at?

Dalychia: I think I excel really well at the communication aspect. I think I'm someone who doesn't assume stuff. I'm someone who's a bit, not at as good ... well I don't like to say trust my body language reading a situation, so I'm constantly asking questions, probing, trying to figure out what it is that everyone's feeling about situations. And I want to talk about it all. And I know it can sometimes be draining. But also the external processor, it's really helpful. So yeah, I think the communication piece is what I'm good at.

PolyRoleModels: Awesome. What aspect of polyamory do you struggle with?

Dalychia: Time management, right? So there's not a limit necessarily to love and these other limitless things. So like the positive feelings that I get from partners. But there is a limit to my time. And especially as someone who works a full time job and has my own business with Afrosexology, having multiple relationships and feeling like I'm able to give everyone everything they need to feel loved, affirmed, validated, valued, taken care of. It's hard. It's hard to do that and to find time for myself. I'm also an introvert, so I really value my alone time to recharge. And so yeah, time management is my biggest, my weak point.

PolyRoleModels: Okay. How do you address that struggle? How do you address or overcome that struggle?

Dalychia: Honestly, I take it really seriously. So I'm the kind of person like I'm not going to bring someone into my life, into a relationship if I'm not able to give them those things. And so my last partner and I having a very serious conversation about like this is really hectic right now and I'm not able to be a good partner, so I need to not be a partner. And that's being able to understand like this is just not working right now. So for me, the way I handle it is not, it's setting up expectations with people from the beginning, but also not bringing people in if I don't feel I can give them what they would require. What I feel I should be giving a partner.

PolyRoleModels: Okay, that makes sense. Alright. In terms of risk aware or safer sex, what do you and your partners do to protect one another?

Dalychia: Yeah, testing, which we could always do more of. My life partner and I, we use like a fluid bond, and everyone else, we use condoms.

PolyRoleModels: Okay. And what is the worst mistake you ever made in your polyamorous history, and how did you rebound from that?

Dalychia: The rebound. I don't know about the rebound part. But I think the worst mistake I ever made was when I was non-hierarchical, trying to make sure that everything felt equal so I felt like I wasn't placing it in a hierarchy. So not listening to partners and basing the relationship off of what they wanted or what they needed. Like for instance having a partner who said I don't really need to talk that often, we don't need to hang out that often, we don't need to have sex that often, and not just listening to that, accepting that, and allowing that to be what it is. That I really focused on, no it has to be equal. It has to be equal to my other partners. We have to see each other more.

PolyRoleModels: Yeah.

Dalychia: We have to like do the things that couples do so that I know there's not a hierarchy and I know that you don't feel like you're a secondary, which is also not easy for someone who struggles with time management. So I feel like I should have just listened to him and what he wanted and what he said he wanted. Yeah, but not really allowing each relationship to take its natural form and trying to force it to be something that made, I guess that made me feel like everyone was good. And so just accepting that when people said they were good, they were good.

How did I rebound from that? I think now, I really do try to listen and I try to be really clear with what I am able to give someone. And when they say this is what they want or need, taking it at face value and understanding that every relationship is going to be different. Every friendship I ever had is different. My relationships with my sisters are both different. And that any relationships I have with anyone sexually, romantically, can be different and it doesn't make it any less official.

PolyRoleModels: Yeah.

Dalychia: Yeah.

PolyRoleModels: Yeah, definitely. I understand that. This one's an optional one, but I feel like you're going to answer it. What self identities are important to you and how do you feel being polyamorous intersects with or affects those identities?

Dalychia: Mm-hmm (affirmative)- so being black, and being a women. My primary identity is that usually through work around advocating for, I actually don't even think of poly as being that much of an identify for me. So when I met you, the space I met you, was the first time that I felt a sense of community and a poly community. And I think it was because there was a lot of black people there. I could be like, alright, cool. I don't have to like assert my blackness in this predominantly white space. I could put my blackness, like be okay with it and not like let that flag down and find comfort in my poly community.

I think for me ... so growing up, living in a capitalistic society, a consumerist society, an oppressive society, there are these ideas that there's a limitation to things that there is no limit to, right? So there's a lot of times I feel like white people feel that black people, or Muslim people, or immigrants, or whoever get, are also free that that means there's less freedom for them where there's no such thing as a limit to freedom. That like if, well if black people get justice than there's less justice for us or something like that. So for me, that concept is very much in our society where people are hoarding things that do not need to be hoarded, where people are fighting to have more of something and this idea that someone else needs to have less for them to have enough.

And I think similarly as I try to say, with poly there's not a limit to love. And so this concept that there is enough love to go around, there's enough freedom for all of us, there's enough justice for all of us. We don't need to hoard these things and act like loving someone else means that I have less love for someone else. Means that the love I have for someone else is a threat to someone else. And I think as a black person in America and as a woman in America, that I see that mindset of scarcity and I think control and power limitation applied to other aspects of my life. Like I said with freedom and all those things. And so wanting to get to a place where we understand there is enough of all of that stuff for all of us to be okay. So I mean, that's how it translates.

PolyRoleModels: Nice. And I don't like to do a whole lot of talking myself on these things, but I did want to say I absolutely agree with what you were saying about the amount of community that we found at that event last weekend.

Dalychia: Mm-hmm (affirmative)-

PolyRoleModels: And you weren't the first person to say that to me. I've been to a bunch of events and this is the first time where I've felt like, wow. I am surrounded by people of color. I am surrounded by black people. I can't just take a glance around the room and tell you how many black people are in the room. Which is something I-

Dalychia: Right.

PolyRoleModels: Yeah. I'm used to being able to walk into the room and saying alright, four including me. You know? And I couldn't do that this past weekend and that was sort of an amazing thing. I don't know if I'm even keeping this in the video. I might cut it out, but that level of community was really inspiring.

Dalychia: Yeah.

PolyRoleModels: It's making me want to do more work including videos like this.

Dalychia: Yeah. Yeah. Yes. Do it.

PolyRoleModels: And last but not least, do you have any groups, projects, websites, blogs, etc, that you are involved with that you would like to promote?

Dalychia: Yeah, so I am the co-founder of Afrosexology. We do pleasure-based sex education centered around the narratives of liberation of black people, in particular. We are helping black people to reclaim agency over their bodies. A lot of time in society we don't have agency over what happens to our body, how our bodies are handled. So having us reclaim that over our individual bodies so that we gain agency over political, economic, social, aspects of our lives as well. So yeah, check us out, we do a lot of fun work. It's sex-positive, it's pleasure-based, so helping people to envision what living your most pleasurable life looks like and your most healthiest and pleasurable relationship looks like. So afrosexology.com, we're on Facebook, we're on Twitter, we're on Instagram, I think we're on Tumblr. Everywhere.

PolyRoleModels: As Afrosexology on all of them?

Dalychia: Yes. So A-F-R-O-S-E-X-O-L-O-G-Y.

PolyRoleModels: Awesome. Awesome. And thank you so much for taking the time and yeah, thank you. I really appreciate it and I know a lot of people are going to get a lot out of it.

Dalychia: Oh good. Thank you so much for including me on this project, Kevin.

PolyRoleModels: Yeah, no doubt.

[johnnyzuri]

BLACK SEX, ESCORTS DE LUJO EN BARCELONA Y LA PESADILLA AMERICANA nosolosex.es

BLACK SEX, ESCORTS DE LUJO EN BARCELONA Y LA PESADILLA AMERICANA – Afrosexology cambia lo que se cuenta sobre el sexo en la comunidad negra

Si eres una mujer, particularmente una mujer negra, la …

[trevannefoxton-blog]

TIPS BY AFROSEXOLOGY

No one is responsible for your orgasms but you.

Capitalism wants us to do. Pleasure wants us to feel.

Closed mouths don’t get head.

Don’t pressure yourself to feel pleasure.

Pleasure is my right. Pleasure is my responsibility. Pleasure is my resistance.

I can tap into my erotic power.

We’re reclaiming sexual liberation for ALL Black people.

Stop faking orgasms!

Love…

[dingydiamond]

How Afrosexology Teaches Black Women To Overcome Sexual Oppression

How Afrosexology Teaches Black Women To Overcome Sexual Oppression

Amidst all of the commotion that surrounds Black women’s sexuality, one important component seems to be absent from the conversation: How to live a pleasurable life