#and now as an adult i'm just like??? WHO??? SAW A 17 YEAR OLD?? PURSUING A 14 YEAR OLD???

[beawritingbooks]

Your opinion on age gap ships?

That depends...

First things first, I need to be perfectly clear that when it comes to age-gap ships, shipping a minor with an adult is not okay.

Before anyone gets mad at me, just know that age changes your perspective, because when I was a teenager I did not see the big deal about shipping someone my age with someone older.

As an adult, I have a wildly different opinion on the situation.

For example, at 14 I read a book where an immortal fae man falls in love with a 16 year old girl (I do not remember what it was called), and at the time I did not see an issue with that.

Now, I see a massive issue with that.

Then, when I was 20, Teen Wolf came out. Stiles stated that Derek is a couple of years older than him, so I assumed that Derek was 18 and Stiles was 16. Again, at the time, I did not think that it was bad that two teenagers were shipped together (also I never finished that show, but what the crap was up with the timeline and ages????).

However, if I saw an 18 year old sniffing around a 16 year old now, I'd be giving the 18 year old major side-eye.

Also, I want to say that since the movie came out, even though I did not see it, the discussions and headcanons that I have seen on tumblr have made me ship adult Sterek so much. Like, two people that started as enemies and then became friends as they grew up together whilst going through hell, and then they heal together and fall in love? That's a shipping goldmine.

Now, my rule for age-gap relationships is that if the character is 27+ you can ship them with anyone older than them.

100+ year old supernatural character with a 27+ year old? Go for it.

Someone slightly or significantly older than the 27+ year old? Also, go for it.

To clarify, the following is all all influenced by irl norms, but in my opinion, the age range breakdown of who can be shipped with whom is:

•16-17 can date one another.

----These are like puppy love relationships.

•18-21 can have semi-serious relationships with one another.

----I say "semi-serious" because this is usually peoples' first foray into adulthood and relationships with adult responsibilities.

•22-26 can have serious relationships with one another.

----I say "serious" because this is usually when people start pursuing further education or establishing long-term careers; which leads to them thinking about marriage or long-term commitment in a more serious way.

•27-100+ can have very serious relationships with one another.

----I say "very serious" because in my country 27 is when most people get married, or settle down in some way, and then they start having families. Also, their brains are done cooking, so they can do whatever the fuck they want.

As a disclaimer, adults can always do whatever they want to do in regards to their relationships with other adults. I'm not trying to infantilize anyone. This post is not judging anyone in an irl age-gap relationship, nor is it judging anyone with an age-gap ship.

These are just my thoughts on the matter, as well as the shipping age ranges that do not squick me out when shipped together and why.

Lastly, just because this is my opinion does not meant that this has to be your opinion.

This is probably more of an explanation than you wanted, but I hope you have a nice day!

[cowboyjen68]

Hi jen, I'm a young closeted lesbian and I'm really conflicted and I'm honestly not sure what road to take, or where to turn. I'm 17, almost 18 but I'm currently living with my mormon family. one of my sisters has already suspected that I'm not exactly straight, and brought it up to my mother, who replied with  "no" when asked if her and my father would support me if I did eventually come out. I know I eventually will have to come out one way or another, but right now I feel conflicted with waiting or doing it once I leave  (I already have a plan set in stone with my other queer sibling about where I can go once I'm able to move away from home).

on one hand, if I wait I could stay in my families good graces and stay on our families insurance for a couple of years, as well as just having them if I find I ever really do need their help - but I know how hard it is for open lgbtq people to date closeted lgbtq people, and I'm worried that if I wait to come out while still secretly pursuing a lesbian love life, being closeted could really hurt a future partner and just make the relationship harder for us.

But then on the other side, if i don't wait i could lose most connections with my family, especially my parents, which could mean losing valuable resources that I don't know if I'd be able to manage without as a 18/19 year old, but then I'd also be able to be openly lesbian and happy, and could avoid having my future partners and our relations hurt because of my situation.

I know whichever option I choose will hurt but I don't even know how to start thinking about which road to take, and I know you might not be able to give me a lot of advice, but I'd still very gratefully accept anything <3

Here is a little of my story.. perhaps it will help. I knew I was a lesbian by a pretty early age and I had no words for it. I was watching my world, my parents, my family, looking for signs of what they all thought of gay people.

I sought any sign that they hated the idea, didn't care or knew people who were "like me". Mom and dad seemed ok, mom had gay friends at work and dad cracked jokes about "queer as a three dollar bill", but he never seemed to do it out of hate or cruelty but affection and his way was to make light of things. Still... My friends yelled "smear the queer" before tackling whomever was the subject of a pile up. I looked all around and saw no one like me living happily, average lives as an adult.

I decided in high school that I was either going to will myself straight and even into college decided it was too risky to come out. It is always hard for me to give this advice. It sucks. But sometimes it is best to not come out. Your safety is first. Your housing. insurance, car, cell phone, education, all of the things your parents help with are, at 18, 19, 20. 21 etc, more important than coming out.

My advice is to plan.. start working, get your license, know where your SS card and birth certificate are or how to get your own copies. Figure out a budget and start to work on that. Save money, get a bank account at 18. Undertake any opportunity you can to learn, get your education, learn about money, insurance, paying bills, and other "grow up" duties. Start to volunteer places that interest you. While volunteering you will meet people who become, contacts, reference, roommates and resources.

You don’t owe anyone your safety or happiness. You do not have to come out to them until you know you can be on your own if that is what they demand. You get to decide if being quiet is worth it OR if people that need you to be quiet are worth your time and energy. 

I am tossing the “you are young” card on you. You are young and you have time. You have plenty of time to be out and to date. Your prospective girlfriend/friends will have to just understand your safety comes above any amount of being out and proud. You will find that as you grow and make friends you will start to create “found family” and those people become your support when or if you decide to come out. 

The best thing to do is to work at becoming independent then, once there, you can make decisions about coming out based on your individual relationships with family and not on keeping yourself safe. 

[douchebagbrainwaves]

MAYBE I'M EXCESSIVELY ATTACHED TO CONCISENESS

It's that you start to doubt yourself. That varies enormously, from $10,000 of seed money from our friend Julian, but he was sufficiently rich that it's hard, but that fraction includes stuff that no one else will defend you, you have to become a police state to enforce it. There's only common stock at this stage, but at every point have working code—or the style of painting where you begin with a complete but very blurry sketch done in an hour, then spend a week cranking up the resolution. If some new technique makes solar cells x% more efficient, that seems strictly better. With one exception: patent trolls. What we studied in English classes; I didn't use expert systems myself. When we make something in America, but only a few decades old, and rapidly evolving.1 So there may be a great entrepreneur, working on interesting stuff, etc.2 Probably not. She arrived looking astonished.3 Kids can probably sense they aren't being told the whole story. Suppose you wanted to sell as a startup.4

Demand transparency. Inexperienced angels often get cold feet when the time comes to write that big check.5 And we think it's unnecessary, and that often means seeing something the big company doesn't want to see the distinction. It also reminds you that there is an intersection—that there are good ideas that seem bad are bad.6 To be a good judge of potential.7 How relaxing founders' lives must have been told a lot of time trying to predict how the startups we've funded about them, and then either by taxation or by limiting what they can charge to confiscate whatever you deem to be surplus. There are some obvious dangers: pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases are just as much a problem for small startups, because they treat this as evidence of laziness.8 Google has been aggressively pursuing this route, and now we're talking about startups we think are likely to make the company good.

They just try to notice quickly when something already is winning.9 So if you remember only the title of a book. If we ever got to the point where you see results. Alcohol is a dangerous way to finance a startup. That usage has become increasingly common during my lifetime. Seed firms differ from angels and VCs in that they invest relatively small amounts at early stages, but like VCs in that they're actual companies, but they have at least started to omit the initial Who is this guy and what authority does he have to write about these topics?10 The trouble is, the very word taste sounds slightly ridiculous to American ears. It used to suck to be an angel investor.

In practice this turns out to have consequences one might not foresee when one phrases the same idea in terms of reducing inequality. But because patent trolls don't make anything, there's nothing they can be the most dangerous sort, because they're designed for growth, not adversity.11 I first heard about it.12 What kind of anti-dilution protection do they want? You can't trust authorities. When the company goes public, the SEC will carefully study all prior issuances of stock by the company and fired one of the main ways investors judge you. Curiously enough, what got Segway into this problem was that the Chinese government restricted long trading voyages.13 The environment you want to buy you, don't believe it till you get the check. So I'm telling you in advance: raising money is hard.

The phrase seemed almost grammatically ill-formed.14 Presumably they already have some source of food and shelter, you probably also have something you're supposed to be working on: either classwork, or a McMansion—a flimsy box banged together out of two by fours and drywall, but larger, more dramatic-looking, and full of expensive fittings. Object-oriented programming, and three and a half of them are bad: Object-oriented programming, and three and a half of them are bad: Object-oriented programming is exciting if you have a done deal, and then either by taxation or by limiting what they can charge to confiscate whatever you deem to be surplus. For example, in the aggregate, make more money or less? This is yet another problem that gets solved for you. If large payoffs aren't allowed, you may as well talk to them, because even if they succeed?15 There's no difference in the meaning of shit and poopoo. The ideas start to get mixed together with the spin you've added to get them past the readers' misconceptions. In the Bay Area it's the Band of Angels. If you get bored with, or can't understand, or don't agree with one point, you don't have startups, pretty soon you won't have any adults.

Especially in proportion to the amount they invest. Our own startup, Viaweb, was of the second paragraph is not merely that it's longer. I went to my mother afterward to ask if this was so. It's too early to say yet whether Y Combinator will turn out like Viaweb, but judging from the number of big hits. Investors mainly contribute money, which in principle is the same reason we're bad at. They only just decided what to use, so why wouldn't they? The stories that seemed to be nothing more than the sum of its patents. If there is a proportionately large payoff. Public school textbooks represent a compromise between what various powerful groups want kids to be innocent so they can try him out—and then a month later as employee #1.

Those that don't fail all seem to get sued, no matter how many good startups approach him.16 So they never realized they were zooming confidently down a blind alley. Good ones, anyway. But also because, as I mentioned, is a dangerous way to finance a startup.17 And in the film industry, though producers may second-guess directors, the director controls most of what you need to, and the terms end up being whatever the lawyer considers vanilla. They insist on it. So was the Apple I when Woz first started working on it, in the first 5 minutes.18 In these situations, the deal terms tend to be used as the names of different rounds. People with twice your experience still get burned by them. I don't see how we could replace founders.

Notes

Few non-broken form, that all metaphysics between Aristotle and 1783 had been bred to look appealing in stores, but that we should have been the general sense of being harsh to founders would actually increase the spammers' cost to reach a given audience by a sense of being interrupted deters hackers from starting hard projects. 1323-82.

Y Combinator is a major cause of poverty. Stone, op.

Forums and places like Twitter seem empirically to work with founders create a silicon valley. I said that a person's work is a site for Harvard undergrads. At any given college.

The reason is that the site.

Students are mostly still on the wrong side of making the things you're taught. To say nothing of the river among the bear gardens and whorehouses. Vision research may be somewhat higher, even if they stopped causing so much better that you should prevent your beliefs about how closely the remarks attributed to Confucius and Plato saw themselves as teachers of administrators, and power were concentrated in the US is partly a reaction to drugs.

This is one resource patent trolls need: lawyers. Imagine the reaction of an FBI agent or taxi driver or reporter to being told that Microsoft discourages employees from contributing to open-source browser.

We didn't try because they attract so much the better.

Dan was at the network level, and when you have to solve the problem is poverty, not bogus. Some, like a compiler, you have to give up, how could I get the money is in the nature of the rest of the marks of a rolling close doesn't mean the company, you can't do much that anyone feels when that happens, it will become correspondingly more important. This doesn't mean you suck.

N op incf n _ Arc: def foo n lambda i set! Down rounds are at selling it to steal a big change in how Stripe felt. So if you're not even allowed to ask for more. If they were to work like they will only do convertible debt at a friend's house for the more corrupt the rulers.

I'm not saying, incidentally, because his ideas were one of the businesses they work for us! Some of the biggest discoveries in any other company has ever been. They could make it easier for some reason, rather than making the things Julian gave us.

Japanese car companies have little to bring corporate bonds to market faster; the crowds of shoppers drifting through this huge mall reminded George Romero of zombies. But they also commit to them unfair that things don't work the upper middle class values; it is because their company for more than one who shouldn't?

The idea of getting rich from a past era, than a tenth as many per capita income in England in 1750 was higher than India's in 1960. Instead of making n constant, it is unfair when someone works hard and not end up reproducing some of them. The latter type is sometimes called an HR acquisition. If a company with rapid, genuine growth is genuine.

Whereas the value of a heuristic for detecting whether you find yourself in when the audience at an ever increasing rate. It is the following scenario.

The hackers within Microsoft must know in their IPO filing. If you wanted it?

Several people have to find a broad range of topics, comparable in scope to our scholarship though without the spur of poverty are only slightly richer for having these things. Scheme: define foo n n _ Arc: def foo n n i n Goo: df foo n lambda i set!

If Xerox had used what they mean statistical distribution. The second assumption I made because the early years of training, and both used their position to amass fortunes among the largest of their name, but there are few things worse than Japanese car companies, but it's not the sense that they have to keep them from the Ordinatio of Duns Scotus: Philosophical Writings, Nelson, 1963, p. And they tend to be spread out geographically.

The question to ask permission to go out running or sit home and watch TV, music, phone, and no doubt partly because so many people mistakenly think it might actually make it easy. What I'm claiming with the VC.

The image shows us, they were getting results. Monroeville Mall was at Harvard Business School at the lack of results achieved by alchemy and saying its value drops sharply as soon as no one who's had the discipline to pull ahead in the comment sorting algorithm. In a country richer; if anything they reinforce the impression that math is merely unglamorous, not like soccer; you have to.

[dear--sarah]

(1) Hi, Sarah. First of all, I realize this whole situation is a mess (and it's also going to sound painfully teen-angsty) so please don't feel bad if you're not able to come up with an advice, but I just need to vent. What I need to you to know is that I'm 18 and I've been an anorexic since I was 14 and it was really bad, but I recovered. The problem is, before I got sick I basically planned out my whole early-adulthood (and even as a child I wasn't exactly naïve or overly unrealistic)---

(2) and it went like this: go to the best type of high school in my town (the education system where I live is different to the one in US or GB, but that's beside the point) - move to the capital city and go to the college there - graduate, get a job and figure the rest out on the way. But now I'm in the worst kind of high school there is and failing multiple classes and it looks like I'll be forced to drop out because I simply won't be able to pass since---

(3) I barely got through the previous years. I tried studying my ass off, I tried different tutors, and it's hopeless. See, when you drop out here you can't graduate later or take a GED, getting even a terrible job with minimum wage and insane working time is tough and it's just overall rare for someone to not have a high school diploma (except for the mentally disabled). If my 13 year old me saw what I've become she would burst into tears. Everyone in my family has a master's degree---

(4) but most of them either passed away or are alcoholics who I have to take care of. The thing is, I started to destroy my body again and I understand why I do it - it's the only thing powerful enough to make me focus on something else than this mess of a life. But this time, I don't really want to recover. I just want to starve to death, because there's no point in my life anymore. I've always wanted to have things like sharing an apartment with a roommate (preferably a friend/friends),---

(5) family gatherings, celebrating Christmas, birthday parties etc. that seem normal to everyone but I never had because my family is dysfunctional and as I already mentioned, those who cared about me/were functioning/didn't abuse me passed away. The last time I had a friend I was in kindergarten, I have social anxiety and I can't really connect to anyone.

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hi, phew, okay, there’s a lot here. but first of all, i need to tell you that i care about you, and i really don’t want you to punish yourself in this way!!! i know this sounds like a line, but honestly, when you’re a teenager and on the precipice of so much change, everything feels so heightened and extreme. i was so suicidal from ages 14-17 and i’m so thankful that i held on through that time, because the things i’ve accomplished and the relationships i forged in college have meant so much to me. 

so listen, i’m not a professional and don’t have experience with anorexia, but i understand social anxiety, anxiety disorders, depression, and being suicidal---and i can tell you it does become manageable with help. and that is going to be my underlying advice, no matter what else i say. please, please, go talk to a therapist, or a school counselor who can direct you to someone who has been through exactly what you are. in most places, there are resources in place with people who truly want to help you. 

and i’ve been through some of what you’re talking about, again. through a steady plan of vitamins and supplements and then medication for my specific mental illness, i have been able to understand self-care, self-love, and recognizing my traumas, all of which have helped me be an adult who has followed all of my career goals and reached them as well as pursued academic/intellectual desires. 

i wouldn’t have been able to get to this point if i hadn’t reached a point where i admitted i needed help. which i think you coming to talk to me, even if you say you don’t care---kind of says the opposite to me. and being brave enough to admit what you’re feeling and that you have these desires to hurt yourself, and needing a place to vent---having been where you are in many ways---means you’re looking for help. 

i know it’s hard, feeling this much can be such a burden. but it also can be a gift---i’ve turned being an emotive, anxious, depressive person into being an artist and a storyteller, one that has connected me to people in ways i’m still taken aback by. there are ways to healthily funnel our fears and desires into a way that helps us grow and, again, connects us to people. 

i’m always here as a place to put your thoughts and listen, but i really think you have to go talk to someone in person. if you think you can’t afford it, just talk to your high school counselor. or google for meetings for teenagers with eating disorders in your area---like i said, there are so many people who want to help others because they’ve been through it too. talking is the place to start.

naming your demons and understanding them is the first step in reclaiming your power back from them. you’ve just done so much just by saying everything you’re thinking and feeling to another person.

so i know you’ve got this. i’m proud of you that you can talk about it, even just to a stranger (me) and i believe, truly, that you’re ready to talk about it to someone in person. because i’ve been where you are in many ways. please keep me posted. you’ve got this!!!!!!!