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theygender · 2 years

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I finally got up the nerve to ask my spanish professor if I could use the nonbinary pronoun elle in class and I was worried the answer would be no since it's not an official pronoun, but he said yes! I got to use the correct gendered words for myself on my test today, and I didn't know just how much gender euphoria writing out the phrase "cuando era niñe" and ending my adjectives with -e was gonna give me but I'm gonna be happy for the whole rest of the day now. I'm also glad bc like... now if any other nonbinary students want to use a pronoun that matches their gender in their spanish class it should be easier for them. I've already done the hard part of coming out to my professor at a community college in the bible belt, explaining the movement for a gender neutral spanish pronoun to him, and providing him with resources from a spanish LGBT organization. And I let my pride club know what he said so now if any other students ask the organizer about using nonbinary pronouns in their spanish class she'll be able to tell them that the prof is okay with it 💛

#rambling #i just keep repeating the phrase 'cuando era niñe' in my head #no era niña o niño. era niñe <3 #ive used the elle pronoun in online spaces already but like. for one thing im not involved in a lot of spanish spaces online #and for another thing theres a difference between referring to myself with a pronoun on the internet #and getting to refer to myself with a pronoun in real life in my class and have it recognized as correct by my professor #its very gender affirming #tbh the euphoria im getting from using elle for myself in spanish is making me consider using a neopronoun in english even more #like. they pronouns dont exactly give me gender euphoria. its more like the absence of dysphoria #i only ever really notice if someone gets it wrong. if they get it right my brain just interprets it as normal and glides right over it #and i think it may be bc they isnt specifically a nonbinary pronoun? its just gender neutral #same with all the words that describe me in english. kid/sibling/partner/etc. theyre all gender neutral #they dont tell you much about what my gender IS. they just avoid gendering me #which is correct! i generally do not want to be gendered #and i do notice and appreciate when my family uses gender neutral words to talk about me now #bc its a welcome change from the previous daughter/sister/etc and tbh gendered words give me more dysphoria than gendered pronouns #but when it comes to pronouns specifically... maybe i might. want? gendered pronouns?#ones that at least when theyre used in lgbt spaces would communicate not just 'this person has a vague gender'#but 'this person is specifically nonbinary'?#ive been eyeing e/em pronouns for a while and tbh i think it would be cool to use that pronoun set #bc it would match with the first letter of my name AND the pronoun i use in spanish #i think i might bring it up to my partner and friends to see if they can help me try it out #i dont think i would get rid of my they pronouns but maybe i would use they/them publicly and e/em privately #my business pronouns and my party pronouns

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