#but i just wanted to use my blog to talk abt it

[sexhaver]

In my niche kink/fetish community the "kink can be not sexual" people are using it to justify why they want to write about doing it with kids, or more disgustingly, talking abt it to kids. (bc theyre pedos). They make "nsfw dni!!" blogs where they use exact kink lingo and imagery, but somehow it's "sfw". (and minors are welcome to interact, if course). Also sometimes they want to post abt being into incest but not catch any heat from people weirded out by it. I don't really know why other people claim that tho.

tbh i feel like this specific flavor of "sfw kink" discourse that you're describing is mostly endemic to online communities centered around fantasies that aren't really possible to act out irl, like inflation and vore. since they're fantasies, they're also much harder to participate in non-hornily, since the only way to participate in the scene is to... fantasize about it, which, like, im not saying it's impossible to spend hours each day thinking about getting eaten or stepped on or blown up like a tire in a non-horny way, but i am saying it's happened maybe a dozen times ever in history. then you mix in the standard "inviting minors to discord to DM them about sexual stuff while telling them it's not sexual and they're so mature for their age" playbook and stuff ends predictably.

what's more interesting to me are the people making this claim about irl community spaces like the oft-bandied-about "nonsexual BDSM parties" or "platonic shibari" or what have you. setting aside for a moment the logistical issues with ensuring that everyone at these events is on the same page wrt the horniness (see that anon i got the other day about someone who gets aroused by BDSM tying up people who want it to be "nonsexual"), specifically referring to these meetups as "kinky" instead of "hobbyist" despite the nominal absence of sexual arousal gives me the exact same vibes as those pole-dancing fitness classes that try to separate themselves from the existence of strippers (NO I AM NOT SAYING POLE-DANCING IS A KINK). they want to have their cake (calling themselves "kinky"/having the allure of being Sexually Deviant) and eat it too (make sure everyone knows they aren't actually horny about it unlike those devious Sex Perverts who are just trying to get off)

[villainsidestep]

I am once again begging u to tell us abt ur ocs

[cannibalismyuri]

coming out as a passive jopper hater bc the insane level of capitalist pandering they did with s3 (with ERICA who is like. one of the worst, stereotyped portrayals of a black girl ive ever seen, bless her heart) was truly crazy. combine that with the copaganda and the general attitude of hopper in s3 which was played off as 'awkward loser guy doesnt know what to do with Feelings more at 8' was a bit .... Eh :/ to me. because it is so obviously a fictional character and show but like. disliking hopper/jopper bc of the ideals st is perpetuating and the fact that they arent compatible at All in s3 (to me, atleast) is valid. some ppl might just think that jopper is unhealthy and/or 'overrated'. because they do sort of pay a disproportionate amount of attention to jopper, compared to the other canon romantic ships (afaik, bc of the screen time counter) and that can be Weird, esp with the... how should i say this? balancer/savior role hopper takes in the relationship (we constantly see him placating joyce, sometimes even being slightly patronizing, and also they place a lot of importance on him saving joyce from a lot of stuff, which is cool and sick if it wasnt for the fact that it directly correlates with him being a cop, yk). and the general power imbalance bc he's a Cop and abuses his position of power constantly, and that is exactly Why anything that joyce does is seen as a #insane girlboss category 5 woman moment because she simply has the short stick in the power race and when she does manage to make an impact DESPITE her economic/social/'general uselessness in say in Major decision-making when it comes to authorities' shortcomings it is seen as an amazing win. hopper on his own is extremely fleshed out as well, because we get to see his arc play out with his relationships with his daughter and ex-wife and el and re-learning how to be a parent and how to not let love allude him, and that is lovely! it's so great to see the adults in the show being focused on! but joyce is absolutely disregarded and underdeveloped as a character of her own right outside of her relationships with hopper or her kids. we see that she is determined and a force to be reckoned with and that she cares very deeply for the people she loves and would go to insane lengths for them but all that doesn't Mean anything, because we never see a backstory for her. we never figure out who she is without her family or hopper, or what her motives and aspirations and emotional shortcomings and stumbles and mistakes are. for a character to be fully fleshed out, they need to be an interesting, refreshing and palatable character On Their Own without their relationships with other characters, and we just don't see that with joyce. like u have Thee winona ryder on ur show, and u forsake developing her character in favor of developing hopper's character with /not the best taste/ and causing her to be a blank slate of a mother, lover, woman and friend, but not a PERSON. all she's been reduced to is a Mother and Hopper's Girlfriend, and honestly, that's the worst decision they could've made in relation to her and her relationship with hopper.

anyway, all this to say; these are my thoughts on the matter, but i'm definitely not hating on people who enjoy jopper passively and DEFINITELY not any by/ler (the most predominant fandom im part of in the parent fandom of st) who enjoys them as a ship with their own dynamic separate from canon. because the by/ler fandom is NOT a monolith and nobody is obligated to agree with me or change their opinion if it doesn't align with mine or be forced to look at my opinion and feel bad for shipping anything. im not going to act Holier Than Thou for expressing my opinion and u should definitely continue shipping jopper if it makes u happy! as long everybody recognizes the copaganda and capitalist mindset grind propaganda shit in st (which is Pretty Obvious) and respects that while shipping what they want, i have no problem with it. all that is to say; peace and fucking love. can we (the by/ler fandom) stop fighting abt jopper we all have our own opinions this is bc we are Not a hivemind or a monolith and not obligated to have the same opinions relating to all aspects of st just because we happen to ship one thing. i am a hater and a lover

[henriiiii-1001]

There's a big difference between a missing person and a kidnapped person in this au

When a bird of any species goes missing, it means they flied or were dragged by the wind too far away from the main lands. Whenever there's particularly nasty weather, especially during winter, investigations always start the day the wind calms down enough, but on different cases, investigations only start two days after the person has failed to return back home, and the background information that their family and friends provide help to determine the situation, and they usually come down to two main categories: runaways or a possible sudden health issue while flying (like a heart attack or stroke) Birds of prey don't have a police system so it's usually the person's family who goes looking for them.

On the other hand, kidnapped people are always either songbirds or game birds, and the kidnappers are always birds of prey. Kidnappings are actually quite rare, since whenever raptors do hunt smaller birds they leave their cadavers behind after they've eaten or collected enough to feed their young. Much like murders, kidnappings also involve blood because of raptors' brutality, but it's just that, just evidence that a struggle occured that the smaller bird obviously lost.

The smaller birds have no idea of the reasons that could lead to a kidnapping, but even if they knew they'd still not bargain or anything similar to get the person back, they're too scared of angering the raptors for just one person. All the few songbirds and game birds who have lost a friend or family member because they were kidnapped think that this system of not trying is extremely unfair, but unfortunately there's nothing they can do.

Mark is pretty much miserable. He's stuck with someone who is incapable of moving on from a loss, and he can't leave them either, because his bird instincts have been forced into depending on this person, so the couple of times he did try to escape he got very sick physically. He's stuck on an unhealthy "friendship" and is too scared to try to reason with them.

Ruth is doing a bit better, kind of. She lost one of her wings to her kidnapper, but did and still does try to talk to them, and overtime their dynamic evolved from kidnapper and victim to a companionship. This person still hasn't gotten over their loss, even after all these years, but Ruth still tries to in some way give them a bit of therapy, not just for her own sake anymore but for theirs now too. She even got them to stop hunting smaller birds at some point! (They joke sometimes that they're gonna break their new diet when Ruth tell them of her past and all the people who were assholes to her)

damn what's the weather got against them man xddddd

also p interesting overall! also didn't think you'd make mark and ruth live! p cool idea :D i do have ideas on who mark and ruth's kidnappers are, but i wont say bc i could be completely wrong LOL

[ichigosoju]

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[dandyshucks]

i wish i could experience the unbridled joy of making overpowered super capable and charming mary sue OCs and self-inserts because that always looks so fun and I absolutely adore seeing other people's, but unfortunately I love lame characters way too much to ever do that fjdkdl, if I don't make a character somewhat goofy and (often painfully) mediocre then I will simply up and abandon them entirely because I find nothing interesting in them

[pepprs]

turned off automatic updates for this stupid app. i am protecting my peace ♥️

[mooodyblue]

tags again. ignore me 🥸

[hersunsettia]

ladies gender neutral i will not lie I DONT KNOW WHAT IM DOING!

[angelicxi]

also not to to make vague and whining posts...but to make vague and whining posts, since I am actively sick and so dizzy I can barely stand upright for five minutes at a time, ergo sorely lack the required brainpower needed to express this w any of like, grace and precision, much less eloquence.

man oh man I am so fucking done with the way people approach art and media. how all of it is now perceived as "content" and the only metric by which they judge whether or not it is good is how hashtag relatable it is to the consumer, how the point of it is, or should be, as far as these people are concerned, to be Nice and Inoffensive and Digestible and About Me, The Specialest And Most Importantest Little Princeling, actually. how they perceive themselves as a customer, essentially. shopper weighing you, the artist / creative, like a product in his hands and tutting. and more than anything I loathe the incredibly dangerous entitlement bred by this attitude.

also, people have gotten waaaaayyyyyy too comfortable with just wandering into the DMs / inboxes of strangers they encounter at random on the internet with increasingly bizarre grievances. main character syndrome is sosososo real, deranged and common. I want to scream!! I AM screaming!!!!

[barnabybrainrot]

hi!! this is not directed at anyone in particular so please do not take this personally but i have noticed this on several of my posts and it kind of bothers me;;

could we please not RP on my posts?? i’m not an RP blog and i would appreciate it if my posts were not treated as such :}

[rinhaler]

If you’re a blank blog you’re getting blocked

If you don’t have an age indicator you’re getting blocked

If you say ‘part two?’ You’re getting BLOCKT

[thefuturewithoutus]

made like 10 discreet changes to my blog last night when hopefully none of you were looking.

[kindnessoverperfection]

there was one person who knew all the most vulnerable parts of me, saw them all and loved me dearly and was so soft on me, knew what i needed and how i felt without me even having to tell her. she accepted me and she loved me. and now she's gone. (like we're out of each other's lives, she's physically fine lmao)

ig im still not quite over that because i dont know how to get that with anyone else

because i wasnt the one who chose to be vulnerable. to open up like that. she knew it all before i even arrived.

and i have no idea how to get that with anyone else. would anyone else even see me and love me, knowing all that?

i'm very sensitive, i'm attention-seeking, i'm a huge narcissist, i'm babey, and i seek admiration but rly i just need a hug

i'm self-centered and am probably thinking about myself, and in any given situation i'm probably focused on how to get what i want (usually affection)

i'm materialistic and silly and excitable, i'm cocky and brag a lot, and i get pissy when people slight me, i feel hurt when i'm ignored, and i always try to be the center of attention

that was endearing with her, i was endearing and lovable, even the unhealthy stuff that needed to be expressed healthier was lovable. it was understood. it was cared for. i was loved and cared for.

but it feels like anyone else would see.... everything about me as just. a burden. something to overlook. something that's Not Quite Right. something annoying. something they should be cautious about. something to be Hidden. not loved, not cared for, not understood, not endearing, not held and comforted, not connected with.

so i hide. and i don't know what else to do.

[rubberbandballqueen]

hgnnghh... college friend has been asking me questions abt adhd n how to get diagnosed n stuff recently, which i'm more than happy to help him with, but just now he sent a tik tok that was like "maybe i should ask abt this too?" n it was like "why do adhd people seem to crush so hard" n it was like.

now listen i haven't had a serious romantic feeling since i was in middle school, but the description in that tik tok literally dragged the memory of all that out of my chest n i just said to him "haha yep... that's accurate my dude" as though it hadn't just described what was easily one of my top ten "do not ever repeat this again" experiences of my life

[hua-fei-hua]

been seeing a lot of "kids these days" kind of posts bitching abt minors in fandom, and tbh i'm starting to feel a little bad for them.

like yeah, it can be exhausting to hear them complain about the stuff they see on ao3 that they don't like, but that's just the experience of curating one's own online experience for the first time. i remember taking countless aliquots of psychic damage by merely existing in the snk fandom back in the day!!! i have diary entries from that age where i talked about that discomfort and what i, at the time, thought should be done about it!!!

and like. spoiler alert, but it was pretty similar to those kinds of "this isn't right, and i think you're an icky person for being into it even though it's fiction" conclusions that you see a lot from people who are the same teenaged age as the characters involved.

there have been issues with calls to take down ao3 bc of this kind of thing, but that's not a position exclusive to people below the age of eighteen, and i don't think we're really going to actually get young fans to listen to us if we just keep calling them brats or snot-nosed children.

i've grown and changed a lot since i was their age, but something i have noticed is that it's easy to blame younger versions of yourself or others for not knowing the lessons you've learned since then. "i used to be that person; i know how they think, so why don't they see the obvious truth to my current viewpoint?" we fail so hard at giving kids the grace to be uneducated kids that we subsequently fail to educate them as intended.

being compassionate to kids is hard, i get it, especially when it feels like they're trying to actively dismantle the good you've worked hard to help create, and i don't think that bad behavior should go without consequences just because they're not adults yet. it's not our job as adults in fandom to parent them; hence the block button.

but like, idk. i think often about how easily we forget all the latent fear that existed within us growing up that slowly dissipated once we gradually assumed authority of our own lives. i think often about those posts that circulated tumblr about a decade ago promising to become the generation who wouldn't talk down on the generations below us, because we would remember how it felt to be talked down and dismissed at that age. and i just think that perhaps, generational warfare is not the answer here.