#dink lifestyle

[risingpersephone]

[megggriffin]

as anyone considered that nature is just producing more queer people like

Didn't we cross 8 billion I'd be trying to stop us too

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besties help we just bought a parking pass for nashville night 1 even though we don’t have tickets yet 😬

[lesbianalanwake]

I love ur user sm,, lesbian Alan so tru !!

couple who has no kids and looks like this. what more is there to say

[hindinewsmanch]

क्या है यह DINK : DINK आजकल सोशल मीडिया पर काफी ट्रेंड कर रहा है। इस फ्रेज का मतलब है Dual Income No Kids यानी दोहरी आय, कोई संतान नहीं । आजकल कई जोड़े दोहरी आय और कोई बच्चा नहीं का विकल्प को चुन रहे हैं।

यह शादी के लिए एक ऐसी शर्त या समझौता है जिसमें यह जोड़े बच्चे मुक्त जीवन चाहते हैं, जिसमें यह बच्चों के लालन पालन की जिम्मेदारियां से मुक्त होकर अपना समय और पैसा अपनी खुद के लग्जरी लाइफ, घूमने फिरने और जीवन के हर ऐशो आराम को भोगने में लगाना चाहते हैं। सोशल मीडिया पर अब DINK प्लेटफार्म भी उपलब्ध है जहां इस तरह की सोच रखने वाले लोग एक दूसरे को तलाश रहे हैं।

[phulge]

got my calendar and no context with the hq photos this looks like a self printed calendar that your gay uncles would send you for christmas to remind you that their dink lifestyle makes them happier than you

[mandsleanan]

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Elizabeth Johnson and her husband hit the vacation circuit hard over the past couple of years.

They went boating in Florida, hiking in the Swiss Alps, snorkeling in Hawaii, waterfall exploring in Oregon, and leaf peeping in Canada. They saw moose and orcas in Alaska, manatees in the Dominican Republic, and sheep in the Irish countryside.

"We also volunteer at a local food bank each month, go to comedy shows at Mall of America, routinely go to concerts," she said.

Neither Johnson nor her husband grew up wealthy, and the couple never expected to have such an indulgent lifestyle. Johnson's husband, in particular, faced "a very bleak outlook" for his career when he graduated from college in 2008 at the height of the Great Recession.

But now, 16 years later, the 30-something couple make a generous joint income of just under $300,000. That income, their hard work, and a dash of savvy investing are largely responsible for the lifestyle they lead — but there's another big factor. The Johnsons are DINKS, a dual-income couple with no kids.

The costs of rearing a child have skyrocketed in recent years, especially as parents get less help from their families and communities. Raising a kid could cost parents upward of $26,000 this year. Being a DINK has always been a way to save money, but as the stigma around the choice to be child-free has faded, more and more Americans see being a DINK as the key to a new American dream of financial stability, freedom of choice, and a comfortable retirement. DINKs are proudly emerging as an aspirational class for young people — and they're ready to live it up.

Lifestyles of the DINKs and the child-free

Johnson's Tinder profile set her on her path to DINKhood. In early adulthood, she never felt the desire to have children but wanted to keep an open mind. As the years went on, even as she saw her peers having kids, she said her "beliefs just never changed and completely solidified." So when she set up her dating profile, Johnson included in her bio that she didn't want to have kids of her own.

"I just wanted to weed out the ones I wouldn't be compatible with," she said. It worked. Johnson recalled that on their second or third date, she and her now-husband discussed the topic to make sure they were on the same page. The pair married in 2022, and Johnson said their decision to live as DINKs had been enriching.

"It makes my life more meaningful," the occupational therapist said of her choice to be child-free. "I feel like I can give more to my patients at work. I have more time to see my loved ones and family."

Beyond the emotional value Johnson ascribes to her DINK status, there are the dollars-and-cents benefits to the lifestyle. Her husband, who works in banking, is "a very big spreadsheet guy," Johnson said, and the couple track their finances "religiously." Part of that maniacal focus is tracking their net worth. The latest tally? About $1.1 million, a combination of the equity they've been able to accumulate in their new-build, suburban Minneapolis townhome and their retirement accounts.

It makes my life more meaningful. I feel like I can give more to my patients at work. I have more time to see my loved ones and family.

As an occupational therapist who works with older people, Johnson said, she sees "one of the biggest downsides to being a DINK is not having your children there to support you and help you age in place as you get older." So in addition to enjoying travel now, it's important for the couple to have "the financial resources in place to support safe living when we're old," she said.

For many adults, having children holds a massive amount of intrinsic value, but there's no denying that those who choose to forgo parenthood gain a serious financial edge. In fact, the net-worth data from the Federal Reserve's most recent Survey of Consumer Finances showed there's never been a better time to be a DINK. Child-free couples' median net worth of $399,000 in 2022 was the highest of all types of family structures studied by the survey and almost $150,000 more than couples with kids. The median net worth of DINKs was also more than $100,000 higher than it was in 2019, and the gap between child-free couples and couples with kids has only widened as prices on items and services parents need most, such as childcare and food, have spiked.

Amy Blackstone, the author of the 2019 book "Childfree by Choice," said that the financial gap between DINKs and couples with kids wasn't solely because of the choice about children. In many cases, it's also a bit of selection bias.

"It's the people who already have higher incomes, higher education, and are generally more privileged who opt out of parenthood," she said.

Still, DINKs like the Johnsons demonstrate that as the American dream of homeownership and putting kids through college gets further out of reach, forgoing children is one way to achieve the upward economic mobility that many parents find more difficult to reach. Child-free couples have more free cash flow that can be invested in real estate or stocks. And while the pandemic's fiscal stimulus left pretty much everyone with more cash, DINKs seemed to emerge victorious in the battle to grow wealth. After a few years of saving, the Johnsons are free of student debt and said they're in a financial position to start planning for an early retirement in their 50s.

"I am from a middle-class family, and my husband from a lower-class upbringing," Johnson said. "He experienced paycheck-to-paycheck living, started his first job at age 11 delivering newspapers. We feel very fortunate for our current economic stability."

Of course, not all DINKs are raking in six-figure incomes and investing in real estate. Alex Killingsworth is a 25-year-old entrepreneur building a content-writing business, and his wife is a full-time graduate student. She makes $14,000 a year as a teaching assistant, while his business earned them $84,000 in 2023. Not having kids has allowed them to invest in his startup and her higher education, both of which they believe will pay off.

"I'm 'investing' in the work I'm doing," Killingsworth said. "Likewise for my wife, almost all of her income is going into research, so our actual take-home pay is quite a bit lower."

If they had kids, paying the bills could be tougher for them. Instead, they're buying wine and whiskey, maxing out a retirement account, and taking advantage of the freedom to spend Thanksgiving in Alaska, visit family in Texas, or go to Broadway shows in New York.

"I don't know if we have any hacks or tricks here, but I have been told all of the extra income has a tendency to dry up when you have kids," Killingsworth said. "I don't know if that's true, but it's better to overprepare than under, right?"

Growing acceptance

The financial upsides of being a DINK used to come with a cost: In 1974, a substitute teacher named Marcia Drut-Davis was fired from her job and received death threats after discussing her choice to be child-free on"60 Minutes."When another school asked her to give a speech on her decision, angry parents carrying signs calling her "the devil's sister" crowded the entrance, and the teacher who provided closing remarks after the speech denounced her in front of the auditorium.

In her 2013 book, "Confessions of a Childfree Woman," Drut-Davis recalls the teacher saying: "How will you feel when you're old and alone with no one to take care of you?How will you feel without a grandchild to give you chocolate kisses? You're a sad excuse for a woman."

For decades, the social stigma around choosing not to have children has been substantial, but Blackstone said that she'd noticed a major shift in acceptance since she began research for her book in 2008.

"I would say that it's millennials and Gen Z who have really done the heavy lifting in terms of bringing this conversation out into the open," she said.

That's not to say Gen X didn't contribute to the conversation — Blackstone is a child-free Xer — but she said the younger generations' experiences with the 2008 financial crisis, accelerated climate crisis, and increasingly divisive politics made the choice to forgo kids more acceptable to a wider group.

One 2022 Nature paper from the researchers Zachary P. Neal and Jennifer Watling Neal found that nearly half the adults they studied were parents and 22% were child-free by choice. The rest were ambivalent, undecided, unable to have kids, or planning to have them. In the 2020 US census, 87 million Americans were between the ages of 20 and 46. If you apply the findings from the Neals' study, that means roughly 19 million millennial and Gen Z adults of childbearing age were child-free by choice. That same research, which polled 1,500 Michigan adults, found that while parents felt warmer toward fellow parents, "both parents and child-free people feel about the same toward child-free people." The report concluded: "Although parents really like other parents, they don't dislike child-free people."

Sentiment actually seems to be shifting in the opposite direction: In a summer 2022 Harris Poll of 1,054 American adults, 20% of all adults — and 27% of millennials — agreed "that people should stop having children because of the harm it causes," specifically the harm to the environment, animals, and even other people. Similarly, about one-third of all adults — and over 40% of millennials — said that they agreed "people should stop having children because their children's quality of life will be poor."

And then there's social media and our identity-obsessed culture. Child-free people now have more and more platforms to connect with each other and flaunt their no-kids lifestyles of extensive travel, impeccable homes, and spoiled pets. The communities devoted to a child-free lifestyle are booming: The subreddit r/childfree, focused on "topics and links of interest to childfree individuals," boasts 1.5 million members. TikTok videos about DINKs rack up millions of views and hundreds of thousands of likes. DINKs, GINKs, "rich aunties," and DINKWADs — DINKs with a dog — have become aspirational identities for younger generations.

We hang out with other people's kids every once in a while, but then we happily just give them back to their parents.

Stigma against DINKS certainly remains — just look at the comments of "selfish" and "missing out" on child-free TikTok videos. But they're overshadowed by comments of support. As Blackstone, who wrote the 2021 book on the topic, said, what happened to Drut-Davis wouldn't happen today.

"I've gotten the random email telling me that I'm miserable and going to die alone or that I'm right, I shouldn't have kids anyway," she said. "But nothing like what Marcia got in the 1970s."

With the rise in childcare costs, education, and other parenting expenses that have outpaced inflation, it's hard to deny that a two-track economy has emerged. There are the DINKs who can seize the American dream and the parents who are struggling to stay afloat in a country without guaranteed paid leave or affordable childcare. It's no wonder that so many people are suddenly interested in becoming a DINK.

Johnson said that her DINK lifestyle kept her plenty busy. She invests time in her hobby of landscape photography, and though she's questioned whether it's a selfish choice, she overall feels more "well rounded and healthier" than she would if she had kids, she said.

"We hang out with other people's kids every once in a while," she said, "but then we happily just give them back to their parents."

[sparkagrace]

Ohmygod both of my favorite series from you show up multiple times in your wip list 😭😭😭 how am i supposed to chooooose???

If you're up for it, I would love to hear more about dial u 👀

Hope your week's off to a good start, tej!

Bri, my sweet! 🌻 I'm well, thank you. It's been a rough and busy couple of weeks and I'm looking forward to some time away soon. I hope you're having a good week so far 💞✨

Thanks so much for asking! I am more than happy to provide you with a sneak peek into dial 'u' for uncles.

It's a weekend of Bucky (and a reluctant Steve) babysitting Becca's son which goes a little bit haywire and disrupts Steve's aspiring DINK-lifestyle.

Steve’s head is pounding. The minute he gets back to his apartment, he wants to grab a beer and hide out in the bathroom. He has Matty’s backpack, a plastic bag of wet clothes and a headache as he holds the door open for Bucky and a screaming Matty to enter the apartment. Matty’s cries are piercing and he hasn’t stopped sobbing since they left the zoo. Apparently Matty did not want to leave the zoo, even though it was closing time and he practically goes there monthly. He didn’t cry when he fell into the fountain and Steve fished him out. Bucky had to buy an entire new outfit for Matty so he looks like a walking advertisement for Brooklyn Zoo. Plus, Steve bought Matty an ice cream to be nice, but which evidently unlocked a dairy demon who subsequently kept demanding ice cream every time they passed by a cart. But the moment that Bucky told Matty to say goodnight to all the animals, all hell broke loose. The entire thirty minute subway ride home, Matty was inconsolable, clutching onto the stuffed giraffe that he refused to leave the gift store without as if his life depended on it. Steve was useless. He could barely do much more than just give people apologetic looks (and he’s ashamed to admit for five minutes he did try to pretend that he didn’t know Matty). Bucky snapped at him, he snapped back, all the while Matty cried the entire time, oblivious to their turmoil.

[ask me about my wips]

[darkficsyouneveraskedfor]

Little Lies:

Do Loki and Reader have children?

Nope. The enjoy the DINK lifestyle

[sataniccapitalist]

Conservatives now HATE People for NOT Having Kids (and Enjoying Life)

The recent rise of people showing off their DINK lifestyle (Dual income no kids) has enraged conservatives. Young couples free of the responsibility of looking after young children have extra income, and apparently spending this on enjoyable things is angering alot of conservatives.

[honeyjars-sims]

Thanks for tagging me @superflare and @hause-of-pancakes!

are you named after anyone? Nope, and I rarely meet people with the same first name as me, which I like.

when was the last time you cried? Sometime last week? idk, I tear up about stuff easily.

do you have kids? No, I'm living that DINK lifestyle and loving it.

do you use sarcasm a lot? Not a whole lot.

what sports do you play/have you played? I both hate and am not good at sports so the only time I played was when the neighborhood kids played and I wanted to be social.

what’s the first thing you notice about other people? Their hair or clothes.

eye colour? Blue

scary movies or happy endings? I went through a phase where I was super into horror but I think it was messing with me a bit. So happy endings for me

any special talents? I can draw better than the average person. Also I can bend the top joint in some of my fingers which freaks people out.

where were you born? O'l Kentuck. But I didn't live there very long

what are your hobbies? I'm very single minded so the Sims 4 and anything surrounding it. Sometimes I like doing arts and crafts

do you have any pets? 3 cats who my wife and I refer to as our babies (because they are babies)

how tall are you? 5'0

fave subject in school? Art and English

dream job? man, i don't know. Something with a good work/life balance where I'm appropriately compensated for the amount and quality of work I put it.

I will tag whoever wants to do this 😁 (sorry, I'm lazy today)

[insanityclause]

I know it's a meme but what's this weird trend of hating babies? Babies are are more hygienic than dogs. Not to mention some people are allergic to dog fur. It's so weird you could make absolute disgusting comment about babies but if someone says they don't like dogs they're evil.

The meme also seems made up by one of those antis who prefers bobby over Oakley. We know why...

And this is coming from a childless person.

It’s from a pro-child free/DINK lifestyle account.

Nothing sinister or anti-Baby/pro-Bobby about it. They probably don’t even know anything about Tom beyond these pictures.

[dmsr-art]

Also I think you'd be one cool ass wine aunt

OK YEAH THIS IS SO TRUE... i do nawt want children.... living that DINK lifestyle baybeee

[classpecting-pokemon]

!!!! exciting!!!! first up could i request dragalge?

Changing the formula a little bit, these won't be for the aspect only analysis. Shoutout to Mod Doublade for sucking literal ass at remembering shit. Also oh my god I'm so sorry this is so late.

-- Dex Entries. --

So, fun fact, I had to get help for this one. I knew right away of a potential aspect, but the class was bothering me, so I asked Mod Dink of sburbanalysis to help me, and they did.

-- Judgement. --

My first initial thought right the fuck away was Doom. Maybe it's the mass murder factor with the dex entries in Y, Alpha Sapphire, and Sword, but it really drove a point of "Man, this guy's a little fucked in the head." across to me. As I said earlier, class is where I struggled, so I asked Mod Dork Strudel themself to help me.

Overall, we agreed on Knight of Doom or Knight of Life.

-- Personality meaning. --

Knights of Doom, as summed up in the Mimikyu request, have issues with masking themselves, saying everything is okay, when things could be falling apart at the seams, which, given the Knight, it usually is.

Knights of Life are... Interesting. They want to act like a good friend, and they usually are, but their mask is that of a very self-sacrificial one. They don't value the worth in themselves, and believe everything is fucked to all hell, despite all they do to help people's lives and their lifestyle. They're the type to work themselves dry to help others, and so they don't exactly see how happy everyone is.

Overall, this was a very fun pokemon to get back into the swing of things. Challenging, but fun.

[iwasneverth3re]

Do you think Gun would be into flower arranging? Cause he has this vibe that he's a very talented artist. (Liker Mfer is too talented.)

Never thought of combining Gun with flower arrangements but I think the idea is very cute! Aside from counting money, spending money with Goo (you can't tell me that these two don't go shopping together), and ruining people's lives, I could see that possibly being a hobby of his. Or even something that he just happens to be good at because he is one talented mfer (he's so hot for that).

Being born into one of the most notorious and powerful yakuza clans, Gun was born into a life of crime and a lavish lifestyle. Back when he lived in Japan during his early teen years, Gun was always used to seeing each room having an intricately-made flower arrangement dead-center on every table. There weren't many things that Gun cared for in this world but he always appreciated floral arrangements and the thought and effort that go into it. And like the talented individual Gun is, it's no surprise that Gun was also gifted in arranging flowers.

It's not something that Gun gets to do often as he is already too busy with other things to prioritize. But whenever he does get the chance to do the aforementioned activity, he enjoys it. He'll even take classes if it means improving his skills and learning different techniques. Which is why Goo was surprised one day when Gun randomly brought a vase full of flowers into their apartment one day. Goo teased the overly serious man about it and jokes about how Gun is in love or his lover bought him flowers but the raven-haired man tuned out his blond coworker. Gun just wanted to put something nice to spruce up their rinky-dink apartment that they're currently staying in.

Or whenever Gun and Goo were on a vacation on an island, Gun would pick flowers from across the island and of course, arrange it into however he wanted after going through the trouble of finding all the flowers he wanted until he was satisfied.

Even Goo is surprised over how artistically inclined Gun is.

[vandopo]

i do enjoy the DINK lifestyle i have to admit 😔