#feministrant

[infosisraelnews]

Viols et torture des femmes juives par le Hamas : Laurence Ferrari a recu Yael Mellul qui a condamné la censure en France

Yael Mellul de l’association “Paroles de Femmes” a été invitée sur le plateau de Laurence Ferrari à propos des féminicides de masse commis par le Hamas barbare ce 7 octobre en Israel . Elle a remercié la journaliste pour son invitation déplorant une silence total en France des associations des feministres qui sont plus inspirées par leur opinion que l’interet de la femme en général. Elle a…

[antrauma]

wow endfield just killed all my enthusiasm not just for itself but also for the arknights storyline, like, fuck the whole distant future with everyone long dead stories, I don't even like babies ever after endings most of the time

at least IS2 endings were self-contained delusions as much as the seaborn threat fucks the main story stakes

not to mention the endministrator, as much as I like the feministrator design, like, if they are somehow doctor in some way, then why should I be invested in AK doctor's story since I'd already know where everything leads, and if they aren't doctor, well fuck you you're just destroying everything that makes your original player character unique

[mygifcollection]

[queerbreadcrumbs]

On ‘mansplaining’

Okay so I was just surfing the web and saw some shit posting about mansplaining and these buthurt dudes in the comments like “it doesn’t matter if your dumb or an expert if What you’re saying is right hur hur hur” And ngl it put into focus the thoughts I’ve had on the matter for a while. My response turned out to be way too long for that thread so I thought I’d post it here.

I once literally had a dude sit across the room from me, knowing that I was studying feminism and actively advocating against these sorts of unconscious biases- while he was studying chemistry. He proceeds to patronisingly explain to me what the glass ceiling is. That’d be like me trying to tell him what titration is. He has assumed, despite my own research and study that he knows and I do not. That someone who has dedicated years of their life to social justice does not know the topic as well as he does. Yes his speech was technically correct, but he would have done much better directing that to the other men in the room than to me. He assumed that I didn’t know. Even though he knew I was an expert. That’s why it’s a problem. Whether it’s true or not doesn’t matter. Assuming that they don’t know creates a power imbalance, whether you’re intending to or not. If you don’t know whether or not they know- ask before diving into an explanation that you may well not need to give?

My problem will never be dudes explaining things to me. I’ve had wonderful male teachers. My partner is male, and he explains shit to me daily. He’s a clever guy, he knows a lot of cool things. But he never just assumes I don’t know. He says things like “oh did you hear about ...?” Before just letting rip. He tries his hardest to make sure I feel respected and his equal in conversation. He respects where my expertise are. He doesn’t just assume he knows better because he’s a dude.

My problem is, where dudes see “woman” when they ought to see “person”. I’m actually sure that most men don’t see us as fully human, at least subconsciously. I’ve actively had to remind male friends that women are people. They ask me stuff like “why do women do...?” Because I’m chill. I’m one of the guys right? I always say that the issue is that you’re holding all women responsible for the actions of a few. If I did that, I’d never speak to another man again. They see us as a hive mind, a collective, a separate entity from them. These sorts of questions remind me of the kind of questions children ask. “Why do dogs wag their tails?” “Why do birds fly?” Ect. A lot of men never look deeper. They see one woman acting strangely and go “uh, women” not “I wonder what happened to make her this way.” We don’t get our own individual thoughts and feelings to men like this, and as such are robbed of our personhood. They see us as just a woman, rather than a person with individual thoughts, unique experiences and skill sets, like they are. That is why they mansplain. That is why they assume that I don’t know, because they aren’t seeing that I have my own thoughts, feelings and experiences that relate to theirs, that can be called human. Instead of considering the ways I am like them, my own humanity, they focus on the ways I am not. My sex and gender presentation. Which apparently means that I don’t know.

This is why it’s still a problem if your explanation is correct. It can still well be patronising, insensitive and unwanted. My go to, is to assume intelligence and knowledge first. Even in children. Assume they know, assume they’re capable. People will surprise you. Explanation is a wonderful and powerful tool. Why not Use it to help others, not to exercise dominance over them?

[beauti4soul]

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@Regran_ed from @clair_huxtableappreciation - To all the Alpha Queens out there. When a Alpha queen speaks, you better listen. The Original Queen of Clapbacks. I love this so much. Could watch it all day. Never gets old. One of my all time favorite scenes of the Cosby Show. Ladies and Gentleman give it up for Clair Huxtable/Phylicia Rashad. "The Feminist rant" what people call that scene. Elvin had no chance. Who remembers this? "SERVE WHOM?" 🤣😂😆 50/50. The read took under a minute to straighten him out. #feminist #clairhuxtable #tvmom #thecosbyshow #cosbyshow #sitcom #tuesdaythrowback #throwback #thoughtsofawoman #alphaqueen #goat #phyliciarashad #clapback #theoriginal #backintheday #80s #nostalgia #feministrant #sideeyes #queenofshade #boss #marriage #relationshipgoals #favorites #IAm_MsJohnson 💞 https://www.instagram.com/p/BreGvKuhxig/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=hiiha37700z5

[theteddyblaze]

We need more #StrongWomen like this Regrann from @phylicia_rashadfanpage - To all the Alpha Queens out there. When a Alpha queen speaks, you better listen. The Original Queen of Clapbacks. I love this so much. Could watch it all day. Never gets old. I have shared that scene of the Cosby Show before. But that was when you could just post 15sec videos on IG. One of my all time favorite scenes of the Cosby Show. Ladies and Gentleman give it up for queen Clair Huxtable/Phylicia Rashad. "The Feminist rant" what people call that scene. Elvin had no chance. Who remembers this? "SERVE WHOM?" 🤣😂😆 50/50. The read took under a minute to straighten him out. #feminist #clairhuxtable #goddess #queen #tvmom #thecosbyshow #cosbyshow #sitcom #fbf #finewomenfriday #flashback #flashbackfriday #Aka1908 #akasorority #alphaqueen #goat #phyliciarashad #clapback #theoriginal #backintheday #80s #nostalgia #feministrant #sideeyes #queenofshade #boss #marriage #machoattitude #relationshipgoals #favorits (Regrann from @king_smiles_ ) (at Brooklyn, New York)

[ethosj-blog]

#ICYMI: I Wore Red Lipstick Every Day for a Week - You'll NEVER Believe What Happened! *** Short answer: Nothing. Nothing happened. Zip. Zero. Zilch. Nada. Because it's just lipstick and I am a professional. I suppose you probably do believe that. But there are so many of these posts where women explain in excruciating detail the different looks they received, or the different kind of attention they garnered, or the occasional comment, or even compliment, they were given - all based on a shade of lipstick. My personal favorite is the analysis of whether certain red lipsticks are "appropriate" for a particular office setting/business meeting/random corporate event. The writers of these respective posts are all intelligent, beautiful, successful women - OF COURSE it is appropriate! You earned your seat at that table because you are a professional - you are brilliant, competent, and resourceful. If you want to wear red lipstick to the office, just wear it. YOU get to define appropriate... To read thr rest - and for other great articles, head over to my blog (link in bio) and #subscribe so I can send you blog posts and updates on the Have-It-All Bag ♡♡♡ #flashbackfriday #friyay #workingmama #workingmom #momlife #mommylife #ethosj #everydayj #haveitall #haveitallbag #workingmoms #feminist #feministrant #followme #feminism #professionalwomen #redlipstick #kyliejennermaryjok #maryjok #lipstick #kyliejennerlipkit (at Victoria, Texas)

[katofdiamonds]

I started noticing catcalls from drivers when I walked the dog in my neighborhood around age 10/11. I was socialized to take it as a compliment. So I did.

At my first job, a local radio station DJ said I looked straight out of Baywatch on the air when I walked over to their poolside broadcasting van celebrating the start of Summer around age 15. I was socialized to take it as a compliment. So I did.

Also around age 15, I was harassed at my school for being a slut due to all of my boyfriends. At the time, I was still heteronormatively a virgin and they didn’t believe me. Then when I actually did have sex with my boyfriend for the first time and decided to confess that “secret,” the same harassers called me a liar who was just seeking attention.

I was socialized to think that after the first time having sex with a boyfriend, it wasn’t my place or right to stop if I had said yes before. That my automy to say no ended when I loved them. I usually did and most of my exes all were the types who listened but I still felt guilty or like a bad girlfriend when I spoke up.

This status is for every “freak dance” and phone number and kiss I gave or slap on the butt or sleazy comment on my attire I ignored because it was safer to.

Earlier I commented: I am numb to it. If I don’t see the words, I just assume that friend of mine is choosing not to participate. Literally every female or femme person I know has a “me too” story. And yes, I have cis guy friends and masculine trans friends who have stories.

We are being socialized that it’s “just a part of life” and it’s not okay. Let’s be the era that literally says No to this.

💗✊🏻✊🏼✊🏽✊🏾✊🏿 #neverthelessshepersisted #feministrant (at Denver, Colorado)

[alovetoread16]

F E M I N I S M. when did a word so steeped in innocence become curdled with patriarchal rage? did it boil over on the stove for so long that all the goodness evaporated until we were left with nothing?

alovetoread16

[the-rants-of-a-feminist]

Ok, First: Schools

I'm starting with school because it is the first step of our education. Before working, going to college, we go to school. Before unfair pay, rape, assault girls experience discrimination in school. So let's start from there.

The schools of today are messed up in multiple ways. The early wakeups when it is scientifically proven that kids need more sleep. But that's not what this is about.

Anyone reading this blog most probably knows about the dress codes of school. A boy could show up shirtless but god-forbid if my bra-strap is showing. People make memes about this but it is actually quite serious.

You see, when a school sends a girl home because of her clothing being "immodest" you are telling that girl that what she wears is more important than her education. When you say that "boys will get easily distracted" you tell her that (in a way) boys are more entitled to education than she is.

What is the above, if not prejudice dating back to the 15th century? Instead of telling male students to treat the girls around them with respect, instead of telling them that they shouldn't be staring at a girl like that in the first place, you tell them that it's ok to stare at a girl; this belief will carry them through their entire adult life and may lead to rape.

By not teaching boys to show girls some respect, and by telling girls that their body is something to be ashamed of, Schools aren't really promoting gender equality, and are in a way adding to the struggle. And if students are too afraid to speak out, then their parents (or adults responsible for them) should.

In conclusion, No one should tell you to cover up your body. You're beautiful, own it.

[tis-but-a-moment]

Why change my last name? . #feministrant #thisisntobligatory #dowhatsrightforyou #progressivecouples #modernromance #weddingwoes #identity . http://tisbutamoment.com/keeping-last-name/ https://www.instagram.com/p/BsY7VlpjYQb/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=ddbwglybsm9d

[lovetashi]

Male privilege is...

Male privilege is when a guy says “hey be honest, be real, I’m open to that” because they haven’t been conditioned to believe that anything they say is inherently irrational because of their gender; vagina, hormones, PMS. As womxn what we say & do is not only scrutinized by all of society but also the voices it has implanted in our heads, we self police & doubt ourselves so regularly it becomes a part of everything we do. Male privilege is not realizing that I hold back because I’ve always been told I’m too much or I’m not enough…

[menalez]

feministrealism(.)substack(.)com/p/why-female-separatism-is-a-losing?s=r - i didn't even know that fds cofounder/podcast host wrote this, but lo & behold she literally wrote an article about how female separatism is bad and how she advises against it. @ FDS fans, y'all said fds doesn't advise against separatism yet here's more proof that they do

she says "the best defense is a good offense" yet provided no offense whatsoever?

[maroonisle]

It was such a pleasure and gift, working with the talented @vidushiy on our #FeministRealities toolkit 💕 Posted @withrepost • @vidushiy Sometimes it's simply about saying we gloriously exist says artivist Shilo Shiv Suleman and it really spoke to me while working on it. @shiloshivsuleman 's @fearlesscollective is one of the case studies discussed in our toolkit with @awidwomensrights The toolkit is now live on AWID's website and it's completely free to download and use to start creative conversations on creating Feminist realities. Here's one of my illustrations from the toolkit 🍁 . . . #awid #thejealouscurator #thefearlesscollective #illustration #illustratorsoninstagram #illustrateddoris #womenempoweringwomen #womenwhodraw #womenorganisation #womenempowerment #lgbtq #bodypositivemovement #bodypositive #fatandfabulous #womenofcolor #browngirls #transwomenarewomen #disabilityjustice #feminisms #ourpowerinaction #powerinaction https://www.instagram.com/p/BxxvSZzHxID/?igshid=kb31auetntpr

[girlsatdhabas]

Dismantling the patriarchy takes time. Meanwhile, here's episode 2 of our Behenchara Diaries podcast (collab with the amaze Patari!) where we talk about why we are so obsessed fighting for public spaces, what's the big deal about biking around the city after all, why older feminists often dislike us, what's political about the STREETS. heavy shiz but promise we are fun... and there's also some sexxz tunes in this episode for your ears. Also tagging Lahore Music Meet caus we give those awesome wimmen a shoutout. WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR! apnay bhaiyon aur boyfriendon ko sunao.... Behenchara Diaries Episode 2 - The Stillness Of Subsequence http://patari.pk/home/song/Girls-At-Dhabas-Episode-2-The-Stillness-Of-Subsequence #BehencharaDiaries #Patari #FeministRants #FeministMusic #Behenchara #DesiFeminism

[beauti4soul]

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👏👏👏 Regrann from @phylicia_rashadfanpage - To all the #AlphaQueens out there. When a Alpha queen speaks, you better listen. The Original Queen of Clapbacks. I love this so much. Could watch it all day. Never gets old. I have shared that scene of the Cosby Show before. But that was when you could just post 15sec videos on IG. One of my all time favorite scenes of the Cosby Show. Ladies and Gentleman give it up for queen Clair Huxtable/Phylicia Rashad. "The Feminist rant" what people call that scene. Elvin had no chance. Who remembers this? "SERVE WHOM?" 🤣😂😆 50/50. The read took under a minute to straighten him out. #feminist #clairhuxtable #goddess #queen #tvmom #thecosbyshow #cosbyshow #sitcom #fbf #finewomenfriday #flashback #flashbackfriday #Aka1908 #akasorority #alphaqueen #goat #phyliciarashad #clapback #theoriginal #backintheday #80s #nostalgia #feministrant #sideeyes #queenofshade #boss #marriage #machoattitude #relationshipgoals #favorits (Regrann from @king_smiles_ )