#first all nighter ^_^ I am experiencing so much in uni ^_^

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[yup-no-way]

Astro Observations pt. 4

Ayyyyy! How is everyone! I am almost done with all my uni work for the semester and I am rapidly approaching my first exam. But it’s alright cause at least I got one of my projects to work. I had to make a wireless power transfer using copper wires and I spend a whole day going back-and-forth between the floors of my department in search for some copper (someone pls say sike rn). Now tell me why me and my team spent a whole day just to create the simplest of circuits, all because our transistors kept burning up. The stench in that room from burned electrical components was insane (these r your future engineers btw). We probably went through 10 different transistors (rip to our lab resources).

Well I hope everyone is doing good and everyone is safe and healthy! I wish all of you to reach your full potential and live your best life!

These observations are based on my personal experiences so don’t take it as full facts. These placements can also be influenced by other things in someone’s chart like degrees, houses and aspects. Also if u have any suggestions for what content you’d like to see feel free to let me know. English is not my first language lads so don’t drag me for grammatical errors. xoxo

Cancer moon: you guys r cutie patooties that just want emotional closeness from the people around you. Generally if evolved you guys r so beautiful. You are caring, giving, emotionally mature and are able to express yourself in a healthy manner. they r the type to pay attention to the little details. I’ve noticed a pattern with cancer moons that their love language is words of affirmation. Buuuut and there is a big but here, if you guys are not evolved, y’all r hell on earth. Imagine a sensitive, emotionally constipated, demanding ticking bomb. Cancers r truly crash outs if not evolved. They will want the world from you and give nothing in return. You will have to pull through emotionally in the relationship and you will have to walk on eggshells around them.

Chiron 12h: these people most likely dealt with a lot of religious/spiritual trauma. They never felt truly connected to the divine or they have an unhealthy relationship with the divine. A lot of the people I’ve met have been struggling with accepting themselves and the divine at the same time. It is a hard placement. I love you guys so much and I just want to say that it’s alright to take your time and figure yourself out. Sometimes this is a lifelong journey and instead of running away from your scars, it’s better you face them. Whether you decide to connect with religion/spirituality or not, make sure that is your choice. You are the only one in charge of that. There is no shame in either choice so don’t let people tell you otherwise. Lots of love to you xoxo

Libra moon: for these natives, having balance in their life is very important. It’s extremely common for these people to get overwhelmed if they work too much without proper rest. Like balance is rllyyy that serious to them. I’ve seen these people get extremely stressed when something feels off in their life. I have a friend that crashes out (bless her soul) whenever she has too many assignments. She’s a demon during exam season if she needs to pull all nighters. They also crave a sense of stability in their relationships with people and they rlly don’t like to argue w people. Sometimes this urge to keep peace with people leads to them not vocalising their problems making them stay in relationships for way longer than they should. They also have a strong sense of justice!!! I love learning ab my friend’s placements so I can know how to make em feel safe and happy. Muaw xoxo

Lilith Taurus: these people often tend to get insecure of their financial status. They deeply cared about how they r perceived financially by people. They might even get to the point where they might want to appear richer than they are. They might have experienced loss of stability and monetary assets through their life that led them to these traits. BUUUUT, if they move on from placing their whole value as a human being on their assets, they have a great potential for actually achieving that financial status they so deeply yearn for. These people need to learn how to balance their confidence and self worth and accept themselves for who they are. Also they might have a tendency to get greedy, so be aware of that as well darlings.

Lilith 9h: these people often feel the need to move from place to place. They might want to change their country of residence quite often . You guys never feel truly fulfilled with where u r at. Maybe travelling is a good alternative if you don’t have the financial means to constantly move. These natives just get that stimulus from changing their environment. As long as you balance your life, you should be good, but be aware of overindulging in the need to cross every boundary. Just make sure the choices you are making are actually good and not just a temporary solution for a bigger underlining issue.

So guys this is all for today! I hope you guys liked this blog as well. I won’t be very active due to the exam season but I will try my absolute best to post as many things as possible! If you guys r interested is seeing a certain type of content let me know!

Stay healthy and glowing xoxo

[inkykeiji]

uhm hi,, i wanted to ask how you deal with pressure, stress and lack of inspiration...... i ask because i have to write a history essay and i feel like i spend more time crying than actually writing this... it’s just so hard and the effects suck it looks like shit,, i really appreciate you as a writer and i just you know wanted to ask for help.. i dont know what to do and how to do that and i want to know if you sometimes also feel like this and if you do how you overcome this. i am sorry for this ask and if that makes u uncomfy in any way you dont have to answer it... also happy egg:)

aaah hello sweetpea!! <33 oh no bb okay okay i’m gonna try and help as best i can!! warning: VERY long post beneath the cut!! <33

aaaaaaah bb okay first of all, i’m so sorry you’re feeling this way :( ‘i feel like i spend more time crying than actually writing this’ oh my precious i know this feeling and i have definitely had my fair share of breakdowns over assignments during my time at university!!

it absolutely is so hard to get your work done when you’re feeling so yucky. it turns into a very vicious cycle where you’re upset/anxious because you have no motivation, which in turn makes you upset/anxious with the work, upset/anxious at the fact that you ARE upset/anxious, etc etc etc. it all feeds into each other and makes everything that much more chaotic.

first, let’s calm down, okay?

the first thing i want you to do is take some very big, very deep breaths—even better if you can a very short little video you can follow or try out some of the exercises in articles such as this and this (some of the exercises in those articles overlap but it’ll give you a general idea!!). but if you feel too anxious to even do those, just take some biiiiiig big big deep, breaths for me. if you’re crying, try to calm your sobs through your breathing. this doesn’t have to be for long, i just want you to breathe a little!! just for a minute or two!!

now i want you to remind yourself that it is okay to feel stressed out over this, your feelings are VERY valid and very normal. i also want you to remind yourself that, while your grade may be important to you (mine were very very important and special to me!!) it still does not dictate your worth or your intelligence, and it is not a life or death situation. i’m not sure if this applies to you as well, but i personally have an issue with ‘catastrophizing’ when stuff like this happens to me, so it always helps just to keep these things in mind. if you do bad, it isn’t the end of the world, i absolutely promise you. it may feel like it’s a massive deal right now, but in the grand scheme of your life this is just a lil history paper!! just a tiny little blip in the masterpiece of your life!! it’s okay if you don’t do as well as you hoped; you are trying and that is the most important thing. you are doing your best under these current circumstances, and this will serve as a learning experience either way!! 

now, let’s figure out a strategy to get it done!!

as for how i dealt with this in uni, i liked to (and still do, with big tasks!!) break everything down into easier-to-manage pieces. if you haven’t, make a bare bones outline for your essay; just your paragraphs and general arguments for each; nothing crazy or extensive. if you’ve already done this, do it again; write it out physically on one piece of paper so you can see/’visualize’ the entire thing from a birds eye POV. don’t worry about it being shit, just organize the general structure of your outline at this stage. push through those thoughts that are telling you it isn’t good!!!

for me, i usually break this outline into pieces after i’ve made it. we’ll use the example of an essay since that’s what you’re dealing with right now. having outlines for everything is what works the best for me, so i would take each body paragraph and break it down into my main arguments and evidence supporting them. so for example (and don’t laugh at my hypothetical essay here hehehe):

thesis: dabi and tomura are the best bnha characters because x, y, z.

paragraph one:

✰ ARGUMENT: dabi is the best bnha character

✰ EVIDENCE: x, y, and z

paragraph two:

✰ ARGUMENT: tomura is the best bnha villain

✰ EVIDENCE: x, y, and z

and so on. i don’t know how much time you have left until the essay is due, but if you’re really in crunch mode only spend an hour or so on this. for me, making these little outlines of the entire essay/piece and then of each paragraph itself helped me feel a lot more organized and in control, and it also enabled me to see how much i had left to do. i like to physically write these out, because for whatever reason i find it easier to comprehend if its on a sheet of paper/in a notebook.

the other thing i do is TAKE BREAKS. even if i was pulling an all-nighter to get an essay done, i would still promise myself a 10-15 minute break after completing a paragraph or two. it helped me stay motivated, knowing that i’d get to eat a quick snack, or watch a quick video (or fan edits!!) or listen to a song or two just to relax for a moment before diving back in. try and stay AWAY from social media during these breaks unless you have very good self-discipline. i had to be very strict with myself, though: any time i would start to tear up, or get distracted, or get caught up in my thoughts, i’d sternly tell myself that i can stress about it later/this time right now is dedicated to my essay and essay ONLY, so i must use all of my focus and brainpower on my essay until the next paragraph is done. does that make sense??? it requires a certain level of self-discipline, but you CAN develop this, and the best way to develop it is through practice!!

if you aren’t pulling an all-nighter (finger’s crossed that you aren’t!!) your breaks can be even longer. sometimes, though, we even get in the flow and *in the zone* once we begin writing, and sometimes you don’t even want/need those breaks because your brain is flowing well, and then you can just power through it until you DO need a break. it all heavily depends on your situation!! make these decisions at your own discretion <3 whatever works for you, works for you!

motivation for work you really, really don’t want to do, or work that makes you extremely anxious, can be very hard to find, but i promise you that you are very capable!! dig deep inside of yourself and find the strength to push through it, because you CAN. it IS possible!! you will get this essay done, and then it’ll be over and you can move on with your life!!

there is absolutely no reason to apologize bb don’t even worry about it <33 happy egg my sweet anon!!! i hope this helps you out at least a little <3 these are just the strategies that work for me personally—everyone is different especially when it comes to work flow, but i hope these provide you with at least some guidance <3 either way please know that you are absolutely not alone in this feeling; everyone i know has experienced a similar situation in college/university. school can be so fucking stressful it’s ridiculous. keep in mind that this essay does not in any way define you or your worth, and that you CAN do it <3 i believe in you and i am cheering you on!! HAPPY EGG BABIE!!!!

[closer-stars]

STARS!!! I love it when you braindump about writing—I have so much I would love to follow up talk abt, but first! I hope you sleep really well and wake feeling refreshed! // I really admire how passionate you are about writing! The fact that you stay up doing it, while maybe not the MOST healthy, is really heartwarming to see? and it SHOWS! // And the power trip feeling you mentioned? That's why I love writers like you more than I can express—education is priceless, so those little details? YES

I'm going back to sleep in a bit. I got sidetracked (Once again) by something. Short attention spans are a blessing and a curse. So if i dont reply shortly, i'm sleeping.... again.

Staying up doing all nighters is a habit i picked up from uni so now im a night owl..

Liz i love you but i also hope you know i had those phases as a child where certain interests shaped me. And to see a lack of those stuff in fics kinda made me sad so here i am combining two of my interests into this damned (hah) fic.

Idk like...education is one way to put it. LMAO thank you ig??? For liking what i write. I forgot to add that experiencing certain things can affect the writing greatly. So Good Thing... had a lot of inspiration from the dance teams i worked with. Also didnt realize there would be uni rivalry in sk but i suppose every country has that.

[jawnkeets]

Have you made any less glamorous experiences at Oxford, maybe some that have discouraged you? I love what I'm studying and most of the time I am successful, but sometimes I fall short of what was expected and I am really bad at dealing with those feelings (when it comes to academia). Do you have any pieces of advice for me, going forward? 😔

hey anon! i have, and know exactly how you feel. i’ve always been a bit black and white when it comes to academia; if something goes even slightly wrong or i slip up i feel i’m stupid, i’ll never understand anything, i don’t deserve to be where i am, my past successes are invalidated, etc. i’ve also always had a habit of comparing myself to others, which worsens these feelings. however, i’ve worked hard at dealing with this over the year, and i feel that i’ve improved tenfold at coping. so advice-wise i’ll split my general process of responding to disappointment in academia into two. it’s not as logical and stark as this obviously but this is the clearest way i can think to explain it:

i) reflection

this is the most important part, as without it ii) can’t happen. it requires both being kind on yourself and being strict with yourself - don’t beat yourself up about what’s happened, but also keep enough of a firm hand over your emotions to prevent yourself from spiralling. it’s about being realistic, too, which is hard, but also freeing. from being realistic comes the comforting thought that EVERYONE slips up - even the smartest people i know at oxford don’t deliver perfect essays every week, or even very good essays. it also gives you space to move and grow (hence bleeding into ii)) - if you don’t restrict yourself to absolute perfection all the time and allow yourself to make mistakes then your mind can end up more flexible. the teacher or tutor may say to you (or you may realise during the process of, e.g., writing an essay, something similar yourself) ‘so x isn’t quite there, but it could lead to a very interesting exploration of y’, thus taking you in a new direction a ‘perfect’ (paradoxically limited by virtue of being ‘perfect’) essay would never have expanded out into.

you haven’t directly said that you have an issue comparing yourself to others (so feel free to ignore this if you don’t!) but since this is often linked to intense feelings of dissapointment in academia i thought i’d mention it here just in case. it’s helpful for me to internally repeat growth mindset to myself, almost like a mantra. i keep reminding myself that i’m extremely privileged to be in an environment full of such extraordinarily intelligent people, and that some of these people will be smarter than me - great! that means i still have things to learn, both from them and more generally. the most boring thing in the world would be to run out of things to learn - there’d be no progression.

the only other thing here is to ask whose expectations you are falling short of. are you inventing the disapproval of teachers, parents, etc when really it’s only you who’s so harsh on yourself? is a teacher who knows what you’re capable of really going to change their opinion based on one bad piece of work? if teachers and/ or parents are that harsh, then shame on them, but it’s your expectations of yourself you should be working on - that’s what matters, and that’s what you can control.

ii) action

embarrassment and shame can make moving forward hard. there’s always the fear that you’ll slip up again, or the suspicion that people (tutors, peers) are judging you. panic and/ or dread can affect the next essay, problem sheet, exam, etc. it’s often thought that the solution is to work harder, and maybe it is. but usually those who deal with the feelings you are experiencing already work extremely hard, so ‘working harder’ can actually just lead to burnout. instead, be honest with yourself and ask which of these is needed to improve:

• taking a step back: e.g. giving yourself much needed rest, putting things into perspective, relaxing a little more, recognising that it’s a marathon and not a sprint and acting accordingly, taking baby steps.

• taking a different angle of approach: e.g. do you have shaky foundations and need to restart completely, working from the ground up? would slightly adjusting the way you study and/ or write help? reading more criticism/ watching online lectures can really help to open up new avenues to you.

• working smarter, not harder: e.g. making useful but difficult adjustments to study patterns and/ or specific pieces of work, working 5 hours a day without procrastination rather than a tiring 8 hour day without focusing properly, not listening to music if you know you work better without it, not taking loads of time doing the easy stuff and not the hard stuff because it makes you feel good.

if you’re asking for a specific example: when i started old english at the beginning of the year i was terrible at it, which i struggled to deal with as i was doing well with the victorian paper also being taught during that term. i was the only one in my class who’d never studied a case language before and i didn’t even know what cases were, i’d fail all the grammar tests and struggle through all the translations (my modern english renderings were totally incomprehensible). i thought the solution was just to work harder (i.e. more) and would try to do way too much, churning out 10,000 word essay plans and pulling an all-nighter before each essay deadline without ever finishing the essay, having to ask for many many extensions. i’d read all the articles on the reading list when we’d only been told to read 2, and didn’t really take them in as i was skimming to try to get them all read. with prelims (first year exams) approaching, i figured something had to change. i took a step back to breathe, figured out exactly what i had to do and worked on that (success is just as much about knowing what’s superfluous and what you don’t have to do as much as what you do have to do), didn’t procrastinate, went to the appropriate lectures (which i’d skipped the terms before to work more on my essays for little payoff!) tackled the hard bits, stopped before the point of exhaustion. when it came to it i went into the exam feeling calm and not trying to do too much. i got my results back a few days ago and old english was my best paper! throughout the year it got me down a lot and made me question my place at uni, but i forced myself to be optimistic (with a dose of realism - you do have to make it happen). i tried to look at things long-term, and the only way was up.

i hope this helps! 💕 you’ve got this, just be as optimistic and honest with yourself as possible.