#how to do kegel exercises

[nhrepon]

How to Do Reverse Kegels: A Comprehensive Guide in 2023

Reverse Kegels are a popular opposite form of kegel exercise that can make your pelvic floor muscles more relaxed and flexible. We will explain reverse kegels and show you How to do Reverse Kegels in this comprehensive instruction. We will also examine the advantages, comprehensive instructions, typical blunders to avoid, and more complex versions. Whether you are a beginner or have experience…

[lvmimis]

cw: minors dni. smut but softcore. unedited. food mention.

your teeth sink into something sweet - a strawberry, ripe and succulent from the spring harvest, its juices dribbling gently down the corner of your mouth. senku’s thumb gently swipes the drop away and while you can’t see it from your forward facing position in his lap, his commentary makes it evident where his finger has ended up.

“these are pretty good this year,” he muses, his voice a slow tickle in your ear.

“mmm, agree,” shifting slightly in positioning, as you scribble another note in the crossword before you. he’s supposed to be helping you, but instead you can tell he’s thinking about a million other things at once, possibly another invention to ameliorate your lives together even further, although by now this village is as close to modernity as the pre-petrification farmlands you were acquainted with growing up. how else can you explain this moment of leisure, pressed this intimately close together while you exercise your brain and he exercises his ability to stay focused with his cock, warm and erect inside you.

with every unintentional (or intentional) movement, even just the happy wiggle of good fruit, one of his multiple trains of thoughts peters to nothing, and he should be frustrated but that’s the entire purpose of this exercise. testing his limits.

“seven letter word starting with i,” you start, moving again slightly with a slow breath, indulging yourself in the drag of his cock against the front wall of your vagina. you’re allowed to have fun with this. your hand reaches for another strawberry while he bites his lower lip. “a strip of land connecting two larger masses or part of the thyroid gland.”

“isthmus,” he replies immediately, trying to hide the strain in his voice. you giggle to yourself, moving his hand to press onto your left breast as you scribble the word in. it fits perfectly, just like the two of you.

“correct.”

senku tries to distract himself from the sensation of your nipples pebbling under his fingers, and the soft curve of your breast in his palm with a complaint.

“this is like the fifth medical clue, your friend needs to do a better job with these.”

your hand holds senku’s still on your body as you raise yourself off his shaft and don’t slam but slip yourself down brisker than usual.

“be nice, it’s hard to make good crosswords.”

you tap your pencil on your cheek as he loses another concurrent train of thought. you can feel his thighs tense under the backs of yours and you smile to yourself.

“don’t cum just yet.”

you can tell he’s getting annoyed now when he quickly hisses, “what’s the next clue?”

“i thought you were only going to help sometimes.”

“can you not-“

you interrupt him quickly but don’t move this time. “7 letters again. starts with an l, i on the first letter. clue: uses few words.”

“something i wish you would do right now,” he quips.

it’s a good time to do a kegel, you decide.

“jesus christ, woman,” he groans, his chin digging into your shoulder. “laconic.”

“what?”

“the word is laconic,” he ekes out.

“ah!” you scribble the word down, gleefully, then let your back rest your back against his chest, setting the crossword down.

“i didn’t peg you for a religious man, senku.”

you can feel him glaring at you, but he gives up quickly in favor of a playful act of aggression, letting his top teeth graze onto the skin of your shoulder.

“when demons like you exist…”

“demon?” you repeat, mock offended. his hands shift to wrap around your belly.

“angel if we give this up for a bit and do something different for a moment.”

“like what?” you reply, letting your hand find his cheek behind you.

“guess.”

your grin is wide, triumphant.

[butts-bouncing-on-the-beltway]

hey, so like. I'm a vaguely sex-indifferent asexual who's only had sex a handful of times but like. I had sex with someone who wanted me to ride them once and I could not for the life of me work out how the fuck you're supposed to move to make that both pleasurable and to not accidentally slip off your partner's dick and just.

"bounces on dick like I'm riding him to half canter."

my dude you have no idea how much this has clicked into my head as oh of course that's how that'd work. thank you??? idk when I'll ever ride someone's dick again but now I know how to make it way more enjoyable.

LMAOOOOOOOOOO there's a reason horse girls are all fucking sluuuuuuuuuuts (i say as a former horsehirl and current, proud slut)

People will sell you all manner of workouts to "make you better in bed" but fundamentally the best workout for sexual stamina I've ever had was daily horseback riding back when i worked as a stable hand. That shit will make you ride dick/strap like a motherfucking god

Also: it's a cheap and dirty trick for almost everything sex related, but yall, I'm begging my fellow three-holed sex havers to start doing kegel exercises with weighted aids until you can literally just orgasm command because I've had to do pelvic floor exercises my entire life and one time I rode dick so hard,so long, and so good, that the dick came dry on the last round and this was in no small part because I am capable of massaging the dick on purpose from the inside out baybeeeeeee. You know that trick people do with blowjobs where they put the condom on with their mouth? I can do that with my pussy folks, and trust me, they fuckin NOTICE the quality.

Not to mention, once your pelvic floor is in real good shape, basically anything can feel pleasurable because it's less about WHAT IS HAPPENING IN YOUR VAG and more about you physically inducing orgasm via muscle manipulation. It's the great equalizer of sex and orgasms. I have a lot of neuroses that mean I struggle with orgasm broadly, and especially on my own, but kegels have made it so that I am "sensitive" enough to orgasm real fast as soon as a partner whose movement I am not personally responsible for gets involved.

If anyone has seen that post about "none of your deserve to joke about pillow princesses until you respect the skill", this is kinda what that's talking about. Not that it's MY preference (I am not a pillow princess but I've fucked some and 😍😍😍😍) but I am very capable of laying back and making my top cum **no matter what they're doing** or if it should actually work out that way, because I understand how to perform kegels during sex to A) prevent dick/strap from fully popping out when things get a lil too wet and wild, B) "stroke" the dick/strap in an intentional grip and movement like with a handjob but in my pussy, my anus, or my mouth/throat as well, C) make sure I'm not getting so tight the dick can't keep doing its thing (less of an issue for straps but you fuck a glass strap for 3hrs and tell me how you feel about the idea that you can't get too tight on one for it to work right), and D) how to rotate my hips to adjust depths of thrusts to a top's preference for reaching or holding off from orgasm. That takes skill motherfucker, don't tell me a pillow princess doesn't work hard, that hole is premium grade have some respect and eat it out like it deserves.

.....I've gotten off topic here.

Anyway, I always HATED riding dick/strap because it's just not my thing you know, and like even now it is the worst of the positions for my personal pleasure. But you just can't beat the look on a power bottom's face when you pillow princess them from above like a goddamn succubus, and it turns out that horseback riding will teach you how to do just that while absolutely never once acknowledging that half the point of a morning ride for the horses is rubbing a few out in the saddle where no one can judge you but you and your god

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

Hello sex batman witch

Kinda a general sex ed question i guess, but what are some exercises you can do to be better at sex? Obviously i dont expect this will be able to make me last longer or anything but sex is a skill and honestly i just like training that skill lol

Im mostly just curious, as ive been working out for a while now and have noticed i have much more stamina and range of motion in the bed room (which makes sense cus a good workout regiment does train your body to just do that)

I know that lunges hip trusts and squats probably all help cus those are muscles you uae during sex the most. But what else is there if any? Keagles Can make sex better right?

I have a penis, but honestly if there is a diffrence in exercise per genitals id love to hear both!

Thanks also, your knowledge is appreciated

this is simply not how this works; there is no 1:1 exercise that makes you better at fucking. you can identify parts of your body you've like to strengthen and increase endurance in and exercise them accordingly, as you would for any other activity, but there's no workout regime that's guaranteed to make you "good at sex", not least of all because "good at sex" is a term that means different things to everyone.

my only note is that kegels are primarily intended to help people with urinary incontinence strengthen their bladder muscles, and the amount of kegels a person with a healthy bladder would need to do to feel a meaningful difference is extremely high.

[butchpeace]

Pelvic Floor Health for Detrans Women

A disclaimer before we start: I am not a doctor, a PT, or an expert of any kind, I just noticed there was a lack of information about pelvic floor health in the detrans (and trans) communities and I wanted to compile the information that I’ve gained. If there are any issues or you have any wisdom to share, please DM me! I plan to add to this post and edit it over time as I learn more.

95% of females who have been on testosterone report pelvic health issues, which can include urinary leakage or retention, bladder pain, difficulty emptying the bladder, general pelvic pain, pain with sex, vaginal dryness, vaginal atrophy, vaginismus, anal issues, and more. (Source)

Here’s a discussion with a pelvic floor expert on the issues faced by females who have been on testosterone.

If you’ve experienced any of these problems, you’re not alone, and there are things you can do!

Vaginal Atrophy

The vast majority of detransitioning women (and females who are transitioning) have vaginal atrophy, which is a thinning and weakening of the tissues that line the vaginal wall. Atrophy can lead to pain during sex, or with regular movement, bleeding due to small tears in the vaginal lining, narrowing of the vaginal canal, urinary issues, and more.

Because testosterone affects our ovaries, we can think of this issue as something similar to GSM (Genitourinary Syndrome of Menopause). Many of our symptoms mirror what happens to women as they age and their estrogen production decreases.

Treatments for Atrophy

1. Vaginal estrogen comes in the form of creams, suppositories, and insertable rings.

2. Vitamin E suppositories have been found to be as effective as vaginal estrogen in some studies. (Source)

3. Sea Buckthorn oil capsules have been shown to be effective in vaginal health. (Source)

4. Regular sexual activity can help by filling the vaginal wall tissues with blood, which can help to revitalize those tissues.

There are also many options for dryness, including vaginal moisturizers, aloe, coconut oil, and more. Sometimes the simplest natural options can be the most effective! Always talk to your gynecologist and do your own research on products you’re considering buying and make sure the ingredients are safe. Some people may experience yeast infections and other issues when using certain products.

Vaginal atrophy itself is to blame in many cases for the urinary symptoms that many of us report, and treating the atrophy may be all that’s needed in order to improve the urinary symptoms.

In other cases, we also need to look at overall pelvic floor health. I would argue that taking care of your pelvic floor is essential for any woman at any stage of life, since it can help with so many things!

Pelvic Floor Muscle Issues

Pelvic floor health issues can be divided into 2 types - Hypotonicity and Hypertonicity. Both types can lead to bladder issues, among other things.

Hypotonicity is the classic type many women experience after having children or during menopause. It’s also described as having a weak pelvic floor, and kegels are often the best treatment. The YouTube playlist at the end of this post includes videos for beginner and advanced kegel exercise methods and yoga.

Hypertonicity is the opposite type, where the pelvic muscles are chronically tight. For this, the treatment is to use muscle release methods to relax the pelvic floor. Remember - Relaxed muscles are the best at doing their job.

Anxiety can also be a factor in hypertonicity! If you’re often anxious, get used to checking how that feels in your pelvic floor. Many young women experience bladder leakage or discomfort, feeling like you have to go when you don’t, or pain with sexual activity, due to anxiety which causes overly tight muscles.

You wouldn’t think at first that Hypertonicity could lead to urinary symptoms like leakage, but when your muscles are overly tight, they just don’t work the way they should.

Sitting a lot and generally not getting much exercise also causes muscles in the pelvic floor, hips, and hamstrings to tighten and become shorter, so stretching these areas is very helpful.

And when you have a urinary issue, or you’re dealing with the aftermath of childbirth, surgery, or any other medical trauma to the pelvic floor, there can be a tendency to reflexively tighten your muscles all the time, for fear of what might happen if you don’t. Some people with hypertonicity also experience their symptoms getting worse if they do a lot of kegel exercise. In these situations, kegels can become counterintuitive.

That said, using methods to address both types can be the best option for some people. As long as you listen to your body, keep track of how each method makes you feel, and talk with a doctor or pelvic floor PT if you have serious concerns or don’t understand how to do something, you should be able to figure out something that will help!

Vaginismus is also a very common condition that’s connected to hypertonicity and potential mental causes. You’ll know you have Vaginismus if you’ve always had trouble inserting things into your vagina, or if your partner has had trouble with it. Many women describe it as a sensation of the vagina closing up when faced with something trying to get in. You may find that at certain times or with certain objects, you have no problem, and at other times or with other objects, you do. Stretches and massages for hypertonicity can often help with Vaginismus.

Prolapse is a relatively common issue in women who have had kids and older women in menopause. This can also cause urinary symptoms. The incidence of pelvic floor prolapse in females on testosterone is not known, but due to atrophy weakening the walls of the vagina, it’s possible that testosterone will increase your risk. It’s also more common in people who have had a hysterectomy.

Tools

1. Vaginal dilators can be helpful for people who have trouble with Vaginismus or feel like their vagina is small. These are also helpful for people who have difficulty inserting fingers

2. A pelvic wand or vibrator can help you with massage to loosen muscles, if needed

4. Kegel trainers come in various types and can help you perform kegels more effectively if you know that your issue is hypotoniticy

5. Pessaries can help in cases where atrophy has led to pelvic floor prolapse. Make sure you get diagnosed before using one!

6. Your hands! Don’t underestimate the power of using your hands for external or internal massage

The biggest thing to take away from this post is this - Don’t be afraid of your vagina or pelvic floor! Don’t be afraid to try things that may help you improve whatever issues you’re having.

Your vagina is a normal part of your body, and especially when you’re experiencing issues, that’s when it’s time to really learn about it and understand what’s going on. If you’re anything like me, you’ve gone your whole life being too afraid or too uninformed to do certain things or explore your body in certain ways. We need to reduce the fear, stigma, and awkwardness of vaginal and pelvic floor issues, and the first step is to get to know your body. 💪

Exercises

I’ve put together a playlist of YouTube videos that have helped me in this process, which I will continue to add to. I hope they help you too!

And again, please DM me with any information you think is helpful or stories about what worked for you.

And if you’re a medical professional, I would love for you to review this post and suggest edits or additions.

Please share this with all your friends! My intention is for this to be a community resource we can use to spread awareness✌🏼

[moonsglare]

excuse me 🔊 excuse me lady with a breeding kink coming through 🔊 excuse me

arlecchino isn't only an extremely responsible father but also a responsible and caring husband. she might look quite dull and cold but once her child is born she lets a tiny bit of her feelings slip through the mental cracks your childbirth left on her mind even in public.

she's tough and rough but she absolutely adores your daughter and – the powerful and intimidating woman she is – arle's definitely ready to play dress up or tea partying with her baby girl when she grows up a bit. but arlecchino is a busy woman as well... and her little bundle of joy will need someone to play with, right? so, after a few months from the childbirth arlecchino suggests making a nice cute sibling for your little one. she's aware that your body needs time to recover and she does her best to speed up the healing process.

your pelvic muscles are now flabby, of course, it was your first child ever! and that's no good if you want to make another baby. so, arlecchino insists on you performing kegel exercises. but instead of a toy she gives you... her dick! it's nice and thick and she doesn't shove it all the way in, so it doesn't hurt your still aching womb, but this way she can control the amount of effort you put into these exercises!

it feels hot and overwhelming, you're trying not to make much noise as your baby's sleeping right behind the wall in her cradle (she has all the best nannies in the world to take care of her at night, so you can rest). you are nowhere close to your climax, arle simply won't let you cum until you complete your exercises properly.

«the last set was hideous. come on, doll, do not upset me», she squeezes the meat of your legs and plunges a tiny bit deeper, growling into your ear. «try one more time, do it better». your walls squeeze her, then relax, squeeze and relax... her tip rubs so deliciously against your spongy spot, it's almost unbearable. she presses her palm to your lower belly – gently not to hurt your still soft tummy but firmly to feel your muscles.

«give me ten more and then i will probably make up my mind and let you cum», she whispers and sighs as she feels another particularly strong squeeze around her cock. «good girl, now nine more. do it properly»

you were never really into sports but these exercises... they were definitely better than any gym you could've attended in your life.

– with love, milk anon🥛

MILK YOU’RE KILLING ME IM LIKE. MENTALLY FACE DOWN IN A POOL RN /pos AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA [more nsft utc—]

this is so…… i have no words. im. blushing at my phone rn. milk anon you are so crazy for this… THE GOOD GIRL AND THE HAVING TO KEEP QUIET……. this is hitting all the spots im going insane at 0027 hours rn 😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫 im so WEAK for cockwarming and this is functionally cockwarming with a twist didhdkdksldjdkd

brainrotting about what would happen when the sets r done…….. she’d be gentler and not as intense as she usually is but archons does she know how to use that fucking dick of hers to make me absolutely brainless without even needing to expend that much effort LSHDHDJ i need her so bad 😭😭😭 she makes me feel like i’m in HEAT i SWEAR

on my knees for more of your breeding kink thoughts my dear milk… 🧎‍♀️🧎‍♀️🧎‍♀️

[lobotomy-lady]

I fell asleep looking up pelvic floor therapy exercises & then had a dream that kegels were banned bc bill clinton had accidentally said "Hillary is away bc shes doing her kegels" in an actual presidential address & the nation was so disgusted that they just banned them from being done in US government buildings. Then when I woke up I was still really groggy & for some reason I didn't realize it was a dream & not just smth I'd read in my research so I was like damn mom did the clintons really get kegels banned in govt buildings ...how will they even enforce it . & she was like siobhan what the fuck. why do you keep dreaming about the clinton presidency

[chocolatecoveredfanfics]

Cockwarming Ezreal and Vash HCs

This is kinda half-assed but meh 🤷‍♀️

Ezreal:

First of all, you really want him to suffer huh?

You usually cockwarm him when you’re watching a movie or tv series together

Or when you want him to suffer. It’s a form of revenge (affectionate)

He holds onto you hips in a vice grip and buries his face into your shoulder to muffle his whines

Ezreal knows if he tries to move, his punishment will be severe To be honest it’s not much of a punishment…

Does he want to be edged until tears are streaming down his face (punishment)? Or does he want to be milked dry until he’s overstimulated (reward)?

Either way he’s going to end up in tears

Ezreal can get really loud and whiny

Every time you adjust yourself his cock grinds against your tight walls, not enough friction to be satisfying but enough to send sparks

He’ll whine about you not being fair. But if you remind him of all the times he’s been unfair during sex he’ll shut up

Now, if you’re feeling devious, you’ll make him suffer the whole time

A good example of making him suffer; you’ve started to integrate Kegel exercises into your yoga. The results are worth it:

“Hnnn… Fah-” Ezreal slurred into your shoulder, biting down on the sensitive spot where your neck and shoulder meet. You let out a breathy laugh, his bite sending sparks of pleasure. You reward him, your core clenched around him again and he lets out a moan in response, his hips twitching at the sensation. You tapped on his thigh, “Don’t move.” He let out a whine at your warning. “When… Ah! How did you do that? Are you trying to kill me?” He hiccupped dramatically.

You giggled and squeezed him again, making him jump and softly moan, his head plopping backwards onto the couch. “Just some yoga. I read about kegel exercises. Pretty useful in bed. Plus it's beneficial to your health." You mocked, throwing the same words he had said to you when he participated in that dumb challenge

Vash:

Cockwarming Vash is practically impossible

Why?

Well… His cock isn’t exactly human

It’s hard for him to control it, especially when your walls are squeezing him so nicely

He’ll have you both shivering and whining in pleasure without even moving

Things can get sticky and messy real quick

Especially since his withering tentacle secretes its own lube

Vash doesn’t last very long, he tries but his cock is just too sensitive

He’ll overstimulate himself just to help you reach your own peak

If you try to go for multiple rounds of cockwarming, expect a fucked out plant slurring and unable to form coherent words

You felt his cock lash and squirm against your walls, making you shove your face into his shoulder with a cry. Vash responded with a groan, hips twitching and his arms wrapping around you to hold you closer, tighter. Your hips were flushed together and the tip of his squirming tentacles brushed against that spongy spot inside of you that made you clamp down on him while your teeth sank into his shoulder to muffle your moan. Vash let out a choked cry, his hands gripping your waist to desperately grind you against him. You felt warmth flood your womb yet his hips refused to still, grinding up into yours with heaving breaths.

“C'mon Mayfly… Cum for me, please…” He whines sweetly, his face flushed and sweat beading at his forehead from overstimulation.

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[issysh3ll]

this is kindaaa specific but how do you like… hold it? like when im getting close i’ve been told in the past to hold it and i never know how

This is a good question!

There’s sort of a few ways to ‘hold it’.

First is easiest, you just stop whatever you’re doing for a bit. Try to keep that good feeling while you’re stopped and then when it starts to fade you can start again.

Or you can pull in, like a kegel exercise and try to literally hold it in. This can be pretty tricky bc squeezing those muscles can often trigger an orgasm so it’s about timing and takes a bit of practice.

Also when you’re cumming your muscles will all tighten and spasm so to hold off you can try to keep your muscles relaxed for a bit longer. Breathe through it, hold your body how it is and see if you can keep that up

And then there’s also a mental aspect. You can kinda use thought power to hold off an orgasm for a little bit but that’s really hard and easier to do in conjunction with one of the physical ways.

It is all about timing and your own body so just pay attention to how you’re feeling and try to do what feels right to you

[limeade-l3sbian]

I’ve got such a big fear lately. I wanted to talk about it since I saw your uterus love reblog. It isn’t to disagree with it at all, rather it’s just severe health anxiety/OCD. Lately I stress SO much about the possibility of a uterine/pelvic floor prolapse. I’m scared of peeing too fast, because “what if it just slips down”, I keep checking with fingers every time i’m on the toilet how far down the cervix is, I make constant kegel exercises till i’m sore, I’m scared of farting/generally using those muscles because I see them as a risk to fuck up my uterus. I’ve never given birth. I know it’s highly unusual for a woman to experience a prolapse without her body having birthed at least once. And yet I can’t stop the anxiety. I sometimes start hyperventilating and crying if the cervix is very far down. I feel constantly paranoid about my own body. Last week I had an absolutely horrific thought “If I just sewed myself shut, at least I’d never have a place it could prolapse out of”. Of course I rationally don’t want such a thing done to me, but the fear is greater in those moments than the idea of saying goodbye to my vagina forever.

I don't think anything I'll say can penetrate such a unique paranoia (not an insult) but I'll do my best.

Girl, it's just not gonna happen. Unless your doctor has recently told you that you need to be super careful about it, it's just not going to happen. Like, I feel very confident saying that without knowing your medical history. Because I think if it was a real possibility, you would have mentioned the doctor saying something or how it almost actually fell out one time. But all you've said is that you are deeply concerned and given me a list of ways you think it could happen.

I am really sorry that such an anxiety is even gripping you this hard, and I don't write any of this to dismiss what sounds like medical/health anxiety. I don't think you're between the ages of 50-75, which is when (based on what I looked up) it can actually occur. And even then, minor ones can occur which can pretty much sort themselves out when they occur.

I wouldn't say to necessarily do them until you're sore, but if Kegel exercises make you feel a little more secure? I say do them. On their own, they're good for you. Nothing wrong with buffing up the old pelvis floor muscles, you know? I just don't want you crying and terrified about it, you know? Going to the bathroom should be a relaxing experience, where you can just let it all out without worrying about that.

TL;DR: It's all gravy, anon. Keep doing Kegel if it makes you feel a little calmer.

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

Hi! I have a Kegel question. All the research I’ve done talks about the pelvic floor like I’m…just supposed to know what/where that is? “Tense and relax your pelvic floor!” WHERE. WHICH MUSCLE.

I’ve tried doing the “pause while you’re peeing” exercise but that just feels like I’m clenching my vagina? Is that what I’m supposed feel? Is there a muscle I simply can’t find? And if I’m doing it wrong, how do I do it right?

Thanks Sex Witch,

- 💛

if you're successfully pausing your urine stream mid-pee, then you're doing a kegel. congrats! you found it.

if you're not able to do that then I'm sorry to inform you that your pelvic floor is in fucking shambles; you may want to consult with a urologist about that, especially if you're experiencing any incontinence issues.

[truetransmale]

cw: power play, misgendering kink, detrans kink

Would love to train a ftm girltoy.

Start her off with some simple mundane exercises to get used to following my commands. Breathe in and out when i tell her to. Open and close her fists when i tell her to. Smile or pout when i tell her to. All to get her used to my authority. My control over her. We'd do this for awhile. Multiple times a day. It seems silly but slowly it becomes second nature for her to listen to me. She doesn't need to think about my commands she just does without hesitation.

Then i start adding more exercises that are more sexual in nature. She has to do multiple reps of kegels. She must wear whatever i pick out for her, no matter how revealing. She needs to play with whatever toys i give her. She needs to come when i want her to and edge when i deny her. She needs to spread her legs in front of me (and sometimes others) and be able to point out and name every part of her female anatomy without fail. If she shows the slightest bit of hesitation or fails any of my exercises, we start all the way back from the beginning. It doesn't matter how long it takes. What I'm looking for is complete obedience. What I'm looking for is no hesitation. What I'm looking for is for her to be my fully dependent, disciplined girltoy.

She can't live without me and my commands. She can't think for herself. Everything she does is without hesitation and with only how to please me in mind. My perfect girltoy.

[omo-queer]

hey V, I don't want to be invasive so forgive me for asking. how are you edging/ruining/ theoretically able to cum, all without touching? asking as someone who has only ever been able to finish with a specific toy and no other method lol im curious and also a little jealous!

thanks for the ask! this isn't too invasive, so no need to worry!

it bears noting that i am able to get myself off pretty easily with my own hands but i also have a right hand like a vibrator (and that's not really an exaggeration... people have alleged my hands are magic. i blame rhythm games and a body that hasn't always been the most interested in going over the edge by hand.)

the key components (for me) to being able to go over the edge without any genital contact are audiovisual stimulation, pressure, and tension. here's a summary of what works for me on these:

audiovisual stimulation—this one's simple. my brain really enjoys seeing and hearing people being penetrated, especially if they're getting off, and i feel almost a sympathetic response. i think this is related to the way some people can get off just from topping someone with a strap, although the strap does absolutely give some pressure with each thrust so that might be considered an "easier" variant of what i'm talking about doing (easier in quotes bc none of this is particularly easy to do the first time.) normally i don't watch that much vanilla porn (or really too much video pornography at all if i'm honest) but the easiest source of this kind of stimulation for me is watching simple amateur videos of people riding dildos. sound really helps. them having a real orgasm really helps.

pressure—this one is a little trickier, but it's got a few contributors. the more i need to come, the more "pressure" there is in that sense. (thank you, denial kink.) the fuller my bladder is, the more pressure there is from that side. (thank you, piss kink.) if i'm wearing tight pants and/or underwear or i'm under a blanket that comes into contact with my genitals that's another way to make the barrier to entry easier, although to get a perfect ruin i make sure to remove anything that was in contact as i pass the point of no return. that said, clothes and a full bladder both make the process easier, but i can get over the edge without either.

tension—this is the most difficult one to get right, i think. what i do, as i get more aroused, is roughly equivalent to kegel exercises, although i also tense certain muscles in my abdomen that i don't believe are part of the pelvic floor. this should work somewhat with any type of anatomy (and i'm aware of people who have hands-free orgasms with the two most common genital configurations,) as most people have some partially or fully internal erogenous tissue full of nerve endings that, when pushed on from the inside, is sexually pleasurable. this won't feel anywhere near as intense as direct stimulation, and i find it takes a while (and particularly good audiovisual material) to even reach the point where it feels like i could go over the edge. it also bears noting that the first few times i did this, even though i have damn strong pelvic floor muscles, i still ended up sore the next day like i was working out. don't hurt yourself, but figure out what muscles you can tense and release over and over that your body feels some slight pressure from. sometimes i find little thrusting motions with my hips help, though i try not to use these in combination with a blanket or anything because i think that would count as humping.

so basically, you're trying to get your brain so worked up that the idea of real stimulation is enough to get it to go over the edge, and at the same time do everything you can to go over the edge without touching your genitals (or, if you're a weirdo purist like me about the idea, doing things you consider "cheating." for example i avoid grinding my thighs together, humping things, anything that gives direct stimulation to my genitals.) of course, every body is different—and considering that the most important of this is about tricking the brain, every brain is also different—and so your mileage may vary. there's (of course) nothing wrong with you if you can't get this to work, and the first couple times i tried for it i couldn't manage it myself.

for the easiest setup and again this isn't easy the first time you do it, find the audiovisual material that works best for you, bring yourself right up near the edge in the way you would normally masturbate but not to the point of no return, and remove stimulation. then try your hardest to come by flexing and tensing muscles. if you get too far from the edge, bring yourself back up and try again. if you have other parts of your body that are sensitive to touch, you can lean on that a little (e.g. neck, nipples, thighs but not too close to the genitals) you can put your hands to work on those, although in my experience none of those are fully necessary either.

feel free to ask any questions this raises! i'm amenable to DMs, or if you're asking from a blog you don't want known (or just don't like DMs) you can also pick an emoji to send anon asks with! i have a list of taken emoji in my pinned, so you can pick anything that isn't listed there. i would love to hear any experiences you have using this info, and would be glad to give more details if they would help.

[taradiddled]

Ada: So I've been reading up on how to build a person's confidence, and it says that repeating mantras and shit is helpful. But you're a stubborn fucker, and won't do that so easy, so I thought of a solution to the problem.

Ada: I'm going to praise you, and you're going to repeat those praises aloud, and if you don't, then I will just keep sitting like this, on your dick, doing NOTHING but kegel exercises, until you BREAK.

Lucifer: ...orrrrrrrr I could move you up and down myself.

Ada: You could, but that would be going against what I explicitly want, and seeing as you are so eager to please me when we fuck, do you really think that you'll be able to deny me what I want?

Lucifer: ...are we sure that you don't have a bit of devil in you besides the banshee bit?

Ada: I've got a big bit of devil in me right now. And unless you tell yourself that you're a fucking amazing father right fucking now, I'm going to strangle your dick between my legs.

Lucifer: That is so fucking hot. I -- FUCK.

Ada: I'm waaaaaaiiiiiiiting.