#how to improve communication in relationships

[veneskaa]

complaining about cassian's characterization again. s1 did an excellent job of showing how his traumatic experiences still controlled his life after decades: how he failed to hold a steady, respectable job and fully integrate himself into the ferrixian community, how he was incapable of maintaining long-term romantic, familial, and platonic relationships, & also how his rebel awakening helped him recontextualize those experiences through the lens of imperial oppression. he was parentified, kidnapped, and trafficked as a child and struggled to regulate his emotions as an adult - the rebellion provides a sense of purpose and a channel for his rage, grief, and love. but then s2 says don't worry about that. he worked through it, he can manage his emotions, he can be a good & supportive if mildly overprotective partner, and it's actually getting in the way of his work in the rebellion. as if (checks notes) joining the fucking military actually improves emotional regulation & diffuses traumatic memories rather than exacerbating them. really revolutionary stuff.

[beneathsilverstars]

how do you balance having multiple wives btw? :O

Tbh I'm worse at balancing having only one! While I love spending time with my wives, I need a lot of alone time too. I'm aromantic (and autistic?) enough that my relationships tend to be like... we're friends, and we kiss, and we're deeply committed life partners, and I love them, but I'm not very lovey. My wife who I've been with longer is very social, so after we broke up with our ex I really struggled to fill their emotional needs on my own. (Of course, we were also just kinda going through it in general what with the divorce and the baby.)

When we started dating our now-other-wife, our relationship improved a lot again! She does things for the two of us that we couldn't do for each other, and we do different things for her, too! Polyamory is so awesome like that. Plus, in this economy, it's only helpful to have three people working together instead of just two, lol.

Of course we have our struggles, especially since we're all more or less mentally ill, and some of our problems are related to the polyamory (like jealousy, differing bedtimes, etc.). But the core issues and solutions there are the same as they'd be in a two-person relationship: misunderstandings solved by communication, conflicting opinions solved by compromise. And most of our problems would actually be so much worse without all three of us there supporting each other through them! I'll take the difficulty of coordinating three people over the difficulty of having to be everything one person needs all by myself, any day.

[lullabyalikpoptarot]

Jungwon as a Boyfriend

Disclaimer: No facts, all alleged. This is my interpretation of the cards and energy I work with.

Okay, finally getting to my ult bias here. Took me longer to get to him, because I pretty much know a lot about his energy as a boyfriend, so was more interested in getting to others first, but now I will get to him for the people who have been asking. I will do four sections, their light traits, their shadow traits, their sexual energy and any final messages and improvements they may need as a boyfriend or girlfriend.

Light traits:

Interesting cards here, so he starts with the rebel card, so he doesn't really conform to standards of how relationships or traditions go is what I see here. He kind of goes against what is standard, which is nice to see. So, whatever traditions and ways of doing things in Korea, he may be someone who prefers to go against it and do things differently, so he probably won't be your traditional Korean conservative man. I just keep getting whatever they have set in place for how relationships go. He won't go by that standard.

I like this energy. He will be a mentor to his partner. Help them and give them advice whenever they need it. He will be their steady rock and comfort them when they need it. He will protect them and guide them and help them out of a difficult situation and help talk things through and work through the situation they are in.

He would push his partner to speak up and stand up for themselves. He may prefer someone fiesty, confident and someone who isn't afraid to speak up. He wouldn't want someone too soft or vulnerable. He would want his partner to communicate their needs and stand confident in what they want and be bold in speaking their mind. He would not want a partner who cowers and stays silent. He would encourage them to be communicative and speak their mind with passion.

This card is another one where I see him liking a passionate and fiesty person. Who seeks justice and fairness for themselves and others. He may like someone who gets back at others and doesn't back down from a fight. Overall, he is giving me he would stand by and love a partner who stands for what they believe in and has good morals, someone who would help others and doesn't let others walk all over them.

This is funny seeing the gossip card, surprised he gave me this. But he would want someone he can shit talk with and share whatever is on his mind and have no fear they will spill it to others. Also, he is someone who has tea on a lot of people, so he may want someone he can gossip with about them, and the other person do the same. He would want someone he can feel comfortable with sharing things with. I can also see him being a good listener and just listen to the rambling of his partner with little judgment.

Shadow traits:

Honestly, wasn't expecting these shadow traits, not sure what to make of these or how to explain these, but not too bad here. He could be overly giving, coddling, overbearing and tends to the needs of his person too much. This surprises me as he gives a more detached energy when it comes to love, but if he dates someone and opens himself to it. I guess he can exude this energy of doing too much for them and tending to their needs a bit too much. I also got he can be overprotective of them. I can see that actually. He might struggle to let them do their own thing and feels he needs to protect them and keep them safe.

So, these other cards are hard to pinpoint as to why these would be shadow, but I got two cards that talk about personal gain, so he will do things in a relationship for his own personal gain. So, he may support his significant other for personal gain, rather than just supporting them too just do it. This boy really hates talking or addressing his flaws, because it is so hard for me to understand what these cards mean for him. He isn't giving me a lot of information here. It is like he can talk my ear off about mostly everything, except when it comes to his flaws.

So, that could also be a shadow energy for him. He will not address his flaws and if you point that out to him. He may disregard it, or he may not see his problems in the connection and may think the person is more the problem. Or if there are problems in the connection. He may not see his fault in it. Or won't want to address his problem in it.

He might share information with you that isn't true. Maybe he straight up lies. Or he also wants to be in constant communication to keep tabs on his person. He may want to know the whereabouts of his partner when he isn't around. I just heard, he might share things with his partner that may invoke fear, why though? He is also pretty mysterious and likes to keep things private. He may not want to reveal too much to his partner, so there are things he may not want to share and keeps to himself.

It may be hard for him to open up and share his vulnerabilities with his partner. He can kind of remain a mystery to his partner. He might take things from his partner that he feels he lacks. Or they help fill some void in him, so he may latch on to them to fill that void. Which can be problematic. So, he may use them to fill some sort of purpose for himself.

Okay, I am done, that was so hard, and I don't have patience to decipher more, but I feel I got enough there. The main thing is he it is hard for him to open up and reveal vulnerable parts of himself, and his person may struggle to get information from him. Remember for the light trait we got gossip, that is a shallow card, so deep conversations may be a struggle for him. Or sharing his deepest thoughts and secrets with his person may not happen or come easy. It seems he will shut down if you dig too deep or try to inquire too much about him. He has a strong boundary there.

Sexual energy:

I just heard, rough and fast, so there that is lol I didn't need that information, but I got it, so you are getting it too. Anyway, he seems he will be a very passionate lover as a boyfriend. He will kind of have a playful approach, joking and humor may be a thing. He seems to like to have fun when it comes to sex, he may like banter as well.

It seems he would try to help his partner and have their back. I say, maybe when they are feeling down. He may try to comfort them with sex. I also don't see him being all that judgmental of the person he is with in bed as a boyfriend. It is more like I got you and I can help you vibe here. Kind of cute.

He would be pretty clingy and attached to the person he sleeps with and want to be close to them during sex. It seems he would want that passionate, hot sex with his partner as a boyfriend. For both to blend well together and just be as one. Completely intertwined and linked to another.

I see him being into cuddling and wanting to be close to them after the act. And just being there with them and chilling. Having this sense of comfort and peace with his partner as a boyfriend. So, things being hot, heavy and passionate during sex, but then calm, chill and relaxing after the fact.

Final messages:

Well, I am seeing. He may have this cold appearance towards relationships at the moment. He may prefer someone more intellectual and logical. Someone who isn't overly emotional. Maybe that is what they are pushing him towards someone with that energy. He seems not to like to be too vulnerable. He would always have this defensive shield up and it would be hard for him to open up as a boyfriend.

It seems he has this defensive shield and boundary, and it is hard for someone to break through that. To him love may be a battlefield and a struggle for him. I see a battle in his mind and internal struggle. This combative energy he may exude with his partner, or he just has this energy of stay away from me right now.

He seems to have his guard up and doesn't want to open up to a connection at this moment. He may very well push away potential partners or just come off aggressive to keep people at bay. His energy towards relationships and how he approaches it now, is more of a back off energy. It seems he will need to find that right person to ease this tension and to allow himself to open up to someone, but now he doesn't see that person.

S, there is it, some parts, the shadow parts was hard, but overall, I am not seeing that much toxicity, but he does have some issues he may need to address, but that is all of us, so he is no different. It is just interesting once I talked about the shadow parts is where the resistance from his energy came through.

[humayrakeya]

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[realesttalks]

Why Love Languages Matter (And How Yours Might Be Changing Without You Knowing)

I made a new friend during my master’s, and we were having an interesting conversation about relationships and love languages. She said something I didn’t quite expect her to say. She said, “For me, I’ll make it my burden to teach my man about all my love languages. And when I do, I expect him to show me some real love.” Now, this particular statement is interesting to me because it’s not every…

[shipping-receiving]

It’s interesting how Love Scout has been fleshing out the communication styles of the two leads. In the earlier episodes, Jiyun has a tendency to be quite avoidant until her emotions reach a breaking point – ignoring a situation or setting one-sided boundaries up till she feels compelled to articulate her position very clearly. For example, her confession was refreshing in its decisiveness, but it was also on some level ‘selfish’ and unfair to Eunho, who was silent in the face of her speech. Granted, they weren’t yet together, so it didn’t have to be a mutual decision. Yet it did concern him, and she chose to defend herself in that moment by making it something she could define and control regardless of his feelings.

This also highlights how Eunho tends to take a more circuitous, ‘frictionless’ path to communication. This makes him a good observer/listener and allows him to gently steer someone in the right direction, as he might do as a father. However, by withholding information, it can remove not just his agency but also that of the other party. As Kang-seok pointed out, that person might want not his “warm consideration” but his “honest feelings”. (It’s also particularly poignant that in the flashback scene with his ex-wife, he remained silent, letting her make the decision to end their marriage.)

Now that their feelings are out in the open, they’ve shown themselves to be capable of open communication, probably because there’s a certain degree of certainty/stability (i.e. it’s safe for them to be vulnerable with each other). Since it’s likely that we will have to suffer the ‘childhood connection’ trope in such a traumatic way, the expected outcome is for them to default to their original patterns/comfort zones – and I wouldn’t fault them for doing so at the start, considering how much grief and resentment Jiyun has towards her father. But on top of Jiyun finally confronting this trauma she has otherwise buried so deeply – she has condemned her father for his abandonment, in spite of how well he raised her – I really hope we are able to see them work through this, combining Jiyun’s straightforwardness with Eunho’s care to solidify their relationship in the home stretch.

[age-of-moonknight]

“Shame,” Moon Knight: Fist of Khonshu, (Vol. 2/2024), #6.

Writer: Jed MacKay; Penciler and Inker: Domenico Carbone; Colorist: Rachelle Rosenberg; Letterer: Cory Petit

[hadesknockedupintheunderworld]

Hey, I don't normally make my own posts about this, but.

Do not argue with an anti on their own terms.

Don't get me wrong, I get it. You see the hypocrisy. You see the way they take aim at your favorite ships or characters or tropes while enjoying something similar. And you think "if I can point out to them just how hypocritical and idiotic they look right now, everyone will see our argument, they'll see that the anti is wrong and a hypocrite, and then maybe more people will stop harassing the people who like my thing. Maybe the anti will see the light and stop being a hypocrite."

But it will not work. It will not work.

There is an extremely high chance one of two things will occur:

They will double down on their argument, and ignore what you've said. (Ex. They might say "This relationship has an age gap. That's p3dophi1ia. That's dangerous." And you might say "well you ship something with the same age gap. Is it not p3dophi1ia and dangerous when you do it?" And they will just double down and say "This ship is dangerous. The shippers are grasping at straws to make their p3d0 ship normal.")

They will agree with you, but in the worst way possible. (Ex. Someone says "Ew your ship are basically siblings because they're childhood friends and grew up together. 1nc3st apologist." And you might respond "And yet we allow our most popular ship in this fandom to be popular? They grew up together as childhood friends and were inseparable. Why is that not inc3st?" because you think they'll gain a sense of perspective here. But then that person responds "People who ship that popular ship are freaks too then." Maybe they believed that before the convo or maybe they didn't, but the point now is that (while not your intention or fault by any means) some people have gone on to harass shippers of a ship that aren't doing anything wrong. What you think will bring clarity ends up raising tensions between shippers instead)

Do not meet them where they're at on their preconceived notions. You will not make them believe that they are wrong or hypocrites. Do not concede to their heavy assertions of abuse, p3dophi1ia, 1nc3st, etc levied against the thing you like for the sake of arguing that they are a hypocrite, or with intent to make them feel dumb for inadvertently labeling 80% of a fandom with said labels. They will not "see the light". The best thing you can do, if you have to say anything, is double down with "I'm not hurting anyone and it's fiction. I can do whatever I want" or "I don't give a shit what harmless things people like as long as it's tagged and I can filter out what I dislike" (especially if this is your stance). Then block and move on.

Antis, like trolls, thrive on engagement. They want you to argue so they can continue to point at you or lie about you or make you look bad.

It is in your best interest to pick your battles, and to try to sus out the difference between a friendly argument or standing up for yourself versus feeding the trolls. You won't make the right choice every time, all of us are human after all, but I promise you that ignoring and blocking bad faith actors, deleting their hate anons, etc, is not the coward's way out. Sometimes you don't need to fight. Sometimes keeping yourself from platforming bad faith actors and giving them nothing to go on will do the job (because there are more antis that are just small blogs with little power to do anything than you think, the kinds of people whose inflammatory posts will die if no one touches them).

Thank you for coming to my TED Talk.

[jeanpatrice]

Listening closely is one of the most valuable gifts we can give to another human being.

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