#i shouldnt be sharing this kind of personal info on the internet but im really

[animentality]

My mom has cancer.

And I'm scared.

And I'm angry.

And I'm sad.

But I can't be any of those things because she needs someone to support her right now and it's not about how I feel, at all.

So I'm going to keep my crying to myself.

I'm going to get my shit together so she has nothing to worry about from me.

And she knows she's the one who's allowed to not be ok right now.

God.

I hate how people just...don't live forever and ever.

If anyone deserved to, it's her.

[ctrlemis]

art as one of the younger kids on sfw enhablr (i’m assuming you’re around 05’ - 08’) how do you feel abt the current content for the maknae line? like ik it’s not always super sexualized or anything but sometimes i see stuff that’s just the way it’s worded really rubs me the wrong way ☹️ esp bc some of the kids on here like you are so young it makes me feel like if they see stuff like that , they might start think it’s okay for others to treat them the same or vice verse … whenever i see edits of niki on tiktok , i have to avoid the comments bc there’s almost always like a “daddy” , “how is he 16” or “you don’t know what you do to me” like wtf he’s a literal child ?? it makes me so mad and honestly so uncomfortable :( and i saw an article on kboo today too that said niki apparently has around 200 explicit or mature fics written abt him on ao3 … sometimes even the fboi trope (usually when it’s written abt minors) bothers me bc i see minors writing abt it (like 13-15 y/o) and i don’t understand why they don’t just use the term player or smtg … bc they’ll go out of their way to mention how the character has sex a lot an whatnot , even that feels way too suggestive for me personally for a minor too write let aline abt a minor too , sorry for the rant,, i was just wondering how you felt … omg also though tbh i noticed that some of the minors on here / blogs in gen seem way too comfy on here like they’ll be sharing where they live , their actual names and sometimes like giving a lot of personal info … like did they not learn abt internet safety or do they just no care? as one of the older kids , i kind of worry abt them :( i really hope everybody stays safe on here <3 & some reminders: never be afraid to block anyone ! bc i’ve seen a lot of minors on here get sent stuff from the p*rn bots or just weird dms :( & u don’t need to force yourself to interact with someone , make sure ur comfy with them first !

hi anon!! firstly you're correct, i am in between 05 & 08, but as someone with basic common sense this rubs me the wrong way so much. back when i was a bigger anime fan, especially from 2020 going forword, i noticed alot of younger kids on apps like tiktok or w@ttp@d not only writing things about adults(like rengoku, toji, gojo, levi) but also minors (bakugo, itadori, megumi) and nobody really said anything? as far as tiktok, i used to see alot of younger anime fans talking about getting railed by thesw characters and so on so forth, and again, most werent talking about it, and if they did they would get attacked. and now, im seeing the same thing happening with younger idols, especially enhypen's maknae line and its so wrong.

number one, there is a difference between sexualizing and sex shaming. alot of the time when these kids get called out there respond is "lets not act like teens dont have sex" and this a response that makes no sense. regardless of whether they do or dont, as a minor you shouldnt be talking about it, especially because it puts you at risks for older people in general to pret on you. this doesnt mean i think we shouldn't educate teens on sex and etc, but talking about railing someone you dont know, older then you or not, is both dehumanizing and just disgusting. there is no way or response to justify sexualizing a minor.

the current content for the enha maknae is 50/50. alot of times ill see people writing scenarios like yandere enha and they include the maknae line and it doesnt feel right. the fboy troupe feels wrong but i see it so much for them and its like 😐😐 why are talking about how a MINOR gets around? or when they age them up purrply to do that but its not sexual😐even with smaus and series, alot if the ways things are put do not feel right. for example, using someone older then the love interest for a faceclaim? especially when the person is a minor, it doesnt feel right. even if its not your intention really think about that shit for a moment. this is a callout woth me naming names cuz this isnt shade or nothing but its basic critical thinking

i have seen the article kboo did, and its just disgusting that the article had to be made. society today is so focused on setting us back and its not setting up these kids for the future. as for the GROWN ASS ADULTS out there writing these fics about the maknaes...... get some help. that is a MINOR and you are a predator.

and youre right, alot of the younger blogs on enhablr are too okay with sharing social medias and info about them and its both shocking and worrying. even things like revealing your age seems unnecessary to me if you're a minir, especially because majority f the time these predators are waiting on that, looking for younger kids. at one point i did have my age in my pinned post and i took it down. at the wnd of the day i am a minor and thats all that is needed to be said. and a response i hear alot to going out of your way to protect yourself is "but why do i have to do this? people should know better." people should also know not to sexualize minors, but they dont. so yeah, dont give out your personal info, what you look like, social medias, etc, and if you do, be careful about that shit.

so heres the bottom line: ni-ki is 16. jungwon is 18. wonyoung is 17. leeseo is 14. eunchae is 15. jongseob is 16. bahiyyih is 17. sunoo just turned 19. all of them are minors minus sunoo, but yall were writing smut or "suggestive" stuff for sunoo before that. stop it. whether you are grown as hell or fresh off the tit yall need to have BASIC COMMON SENSE and realize that shit is fucked up.

and whats worse is thise same 'fans' go and sexualize everything, to the point where you could be 20 and bias and stan an idol whos 19 and you'll be called a predator. get it together, cuz truly, im sick of having this conversation, and ill start beating the color off/into yall if we keep coming back to this.

[liquidstar]

i kinda hate that we have a culture here on tumblr where people, especially minors, are pushed to have entire pages listing their trauma, mental/physical disabilities, and deeply personal information. like why do you care? why do you need detailed personal information about a persons private life? why do you need them to “prove” theyre mentally ill?

listen, i know it seems safe but there are people out there that are happy to use that sort of stuff against you. youre not obligated to share these things with anyone, no one online is entitled to know weather youre pro or self dx’d or why certain things trigger you. 

an about should be a short little list that tells people things on a need-to-know basis. they need to know your name, your age (or at least that youre a minor/adult), what pronouns to call you, and maybe some other things about your blog + fun facts. 

its not supposed to be an in-depth look into your psyche, you shouldnt be listing all your mental/psychical illnesses (again, ESPECIALLY if youre a minor) because its dangerous. you can totally still say youre disabled or mentally ill, and if you wanna tell people you have adhd or chronic pain or anything else because YOU feel its important theres nothing wrong with that!t

you dont NEED to say anything more than that, youre not OBLIGATED to provide any more details. You CAN if theres something you feel is important to note (ex. “i struggle with executive dysfunction so getting back to you may take a while”) but you dont owe anyone information about yourself. 

but dont feel obligated to tell people everything about you, strangers on the internet are not supposed to have this comprehensively detailed summary of your private life and mental state.

you never know who may be looking, what their intents may be, ESPECIALLY IF YOURE A MINOR, please just be careful with how much you put in your about. theres a difference between “hi, my name is jenny, im 16, and im autistic! please tag pictures of blood!” and “im kyle, im 15, and *long detailed list of triggers/mental illnesses and a backstory for all of them for complete strangers to read*” 

that info can EASILY be used against you! its ok to be vague!!! your about isnt a biography, its just there so your followers know what to expect and your mutuals know how to interact with you. yes, there are people out there who may feel entitled to this information but theyre irrelevant in the long run, no stranger who feels entitled to your personal info is a safe person. 

and im not shaming people who do this at all! its become kind of the norm, but it really really shouldnt be because of the potential risks of strangers online knowing all this deeply personal information they can use to get to you (ESPECIALLY IF YOURE A MINOR!!!). please dont overshare any type of personal info like that on your about. even if youre an adult you should be aware that youre setting an example here, and youre not invincible either. be careful with what you do and dont share, you dont need to share it all. 

keep things on a need-to-know basis!!!

[robitherat]

“fake fans”

can i just say im sick of seeing these posts that are all like “when ppl claim theyre a fan of a band/show/whatever but they only know *insert popular song/character/whatever*” bc like???? thats so dumb my dudes. so what if they only know a handful of info about it????? thats okay!! theyre probs just a new fan!!!! or they dont invest every living breathing moment reading about super obscure knowledge thats super hard to come by unless you know like everything about the band or show or whatever. seriously my dudes, some people ACTUALLY HAVE A LIFE OUTSIDE OF HOBBIES OR PERSONAL  INTERESTS!!! shocking i know, but really.

i get that it can be annoying, but they probably entered that fandom or call themself a fan because they wan to have fun instead of have their interests and hobbies policed by some rando on the internet that chose to invest their lifes work into some fandom. Which is also totally fine!!! i mean, i wouldnt advise choosing a band or show or book series over your own personal needs or other interests or, yknow, the entire rest of your life, but im also not in control of you.

basically, let people be entertained by things that are meant to be entertainment. They probably didnt enter the fandom thinking “wowie!! i cant wait to get yelled at by a twenty three year old on the internet because i dont know all the band members names!!!” or whatever. and there are a LOT of really toxic fandoms out there, when there really shouldnt be. 

youre all passionate about the same thing. you all want to create something for your favorite band or show or movie or book or youtuber or whatever. and we allllll know how freaking hard it is to find another fan in the outside world. so why are you guys letting something as simple a lack of shared knowledge about something deprive you of having fun? why do yall have wars over shipping two fictional characters together? why go through all that when you could actually be having fun talking to other people in your fandom, even making some really awesome and supportive and kind friends?

I love being in fandoms. I love interacting with the people in them and sharing theories and talking about ships and easter eggs. but sometimes, i see crap like “X character is supposed to be shipped with Y character!! Why did you make a fan fiction with a ship that is different than my own personal opinion!!!! youre the worst kind of person and i hope you die!!!!” when we should all just be respectful of each other and remember that we’re all humans and this is all just for fun and honestly is that one fic that had that one ship that you personally didnt like matter in like, five years? one year? a month? No!! so why does it matter so much right now?

and i know, sometimes its about bigger things, like someone shipping a legitimately abusive relationship, or someone spreading damaging and hurtful lies about a creator and still saying they deserve to be a part of the fandom. but a lot, and i mean a LOT of the time, its just little stuff. 

This is really long and rambly, but i still think its important. There really isnt any such thing as a “fake fan”. honestly. it might be annoying that someone only knows that one super popular mainstream song, or they really only care about that one super popular character bc they have a #edgy #relatable personality or a sad past. but that is okay. It is a fandom. youre supposed to have fun. let others do the same.

[jimgandolfini]

i know i shouldnt be sharing this but i figure since no one here knows them personally and all.. idk but i just need to get it out somewhere, talking about the couple people i have or would irl isn’t the same because theres this whole big, major component/caveat to it that i can’t tell anyone else, two actually and that make it totally different info for me than it is for them/more important and idk.. but my friend was talking to her friend/a coworker on break and hl’s wfe came up and started talking to the coworker and they, right in front of my friend, went into detail about their d*pression, su*cide attempts and psych wards and i already knew just a hint of this from his wfe’s friend that doesn’t know how to keep secrets, but i guess this super personal stuff isnt so secret since she was just sharing it all in front of my friend (who she doesnt talk to and actually doesn’t like her) and i dont know i can’t stop thinking about it or him.

and as bad as i am, she seems much worse. like ive never attempted and im not sure i was ever at the point where i actually wouldve but ive been casually ‘whens it gonna end/how’m i gonna do it’ like my whole life and i realistically don’t see getting to the point where ill just die in 50, 60+ years of old age. and im not looking for anything here, not a comment not sympathy nothing its literally just my realistic assessment. like right now in this period of time, im good im not in that state but..6 decades is a long time ya know. anyway i dont enjoy sharing these things on the internet u know but i can’t tell these couple people about the hl thing (like im not even really thinking of it as ___feels this way/has done this but more as his wfe’s felt/done this kind of thing) and im not telling (them obviously or) my therapist about the su*cde thing lmao so…… but idk everything just seems very fcked up right now and also something happened saturday that was ~~~ and i just think or care or whatever about him too much and ive never done anythign with him u know and i actually ignored him for like three weeks and am doing that again but idk things are just so weird

and i should delete this l……….ol…………