#i still love yall dont get me wrong

[mediocremelatonin235]

I feel like the only ppl who love Sam are me and 8 other bitches on my Timeline and half of them have English as their second language / exclusively JP

[soranker]

tomorrow :)

[noxious-fennec]

It's pomegranate season :)

A redraw of this piece from around a year ago

[cheemken]

Is it a skill issue on my part or is Isolde's boss fight really that hard it's been almost a month her banner is abt to end too and I still haven't beaten her even my friend is waiting for me to beat her and she doesn't even play this game😭

[marsneedstherapy]

yall I know how much we talk abt phoebe and silas now days, but I must admiT rosalind and orion r still my favorite secret shanghai couple.... 🤧😁

[birb--birb]

What kind of love are you?

Violet: Love as a Threshold

Your love does not ask for much. Your love does not take. Your love is free, and unquestioned, and here for wherever needs it. When you fall in love, it is as gentle as a breath in the night. It is quiet, and it is effortless. It is tender. If your love was a house, it would readily welcome all who come through. If your love was a hearth, it would warm the hands of whoever stopped by, whether for a day, a month, a year, or forever. When you fall for someone, it is without strings, without conditions, without need. You love for the sake of loving, for the sake of caring for those who need it. You love with a giver’s heart and a giver’s hands and are made so much stronger for it. Being loved by you is to always feel at home. Your love may not always be well-received by those unprepared to linger, but it is unforgettable all the same

The second I saw this answer for Violet I knew it was perfect. Their entire romance with Astarion was about patience. Waiting for him to realize that he's truly safe with them, that they doesn't expect anything from him, that he is in the lead here and they'll follow only when he's ready and okay. And waiting without judgement, Violet knows these things take time and they were more than willing to wait, to be there, to just sit and exist with him while he figures shit out. And when he truly let Violet in, I like to think it was like with a comforting sigh, the feeling of coming home, that feeling when all pressure is lifted and you can just *exist* without fear, without judgement.

Violet has seen violence and hatred and yet chooses to show up for those they love as a place of calm and stability, without judgement, without expectations. Violet's love is patient, it doesn't expect anything back but will give you everything just because we all deserve to feel warmth and safety. They feel so much warmth in their heart that they were able to help Astarion get to a place where he feels safe. I think even if they didn't fall in love or end up together, Violet would have still shown up for him in the same way. They know what suffering is like, they've gone through enough of it themselves and come out the other end alive. They know how much it hurts, but also how much easier it is with someone to lean on.

tagged by @cleric4vampire ty for enabling so many feelies about my bbys

Tagging: @justabiteofspite and @dragon--sage (I know yall were already tagged but doing so again for funzies cause I'd love to hear about your Tavs/Durges) and anyone who wants to join in, please do!!

[dream-sans-mogai]

Anyway, because I'm considered a bigger creator within the mogai community and I have a responsibility to address things given my bigger audience-

Please remember that Tumblr, especially LGBT Tumblr concerning discourse and intracommunity issues, is a hyper niche, reactive, violent, sensitive community with next to zero basis in reality at large and you should not take any of its opinions as absolute fact. Especially the mogai community's opinions.

A lot of people on mogai Tumblr talk big game with very clearly fake the-whole-bus-clapped stories about the real world concerning acceptance towards mspec monos, Neopronouns and Xenogenders and it's my job as an adult and guiding voice to remind people these experiences may happen but rarely do and you absolutely should not just tell random people you use purr/purrs pronouns or your a bi gaybian or you identify as Chronosian or other things like that because it's really fucking dangerous even in hyper progressive places like new york, cali and Detroit. It can be deadly in many many small towns, including ones in progressive states. Especially dangerous in non accepting states.

I don't say this to burst your bubble or ruin your hopeful world view but many stories of acceptance are fake, even if some are true, most of the community is underage and just cause your teacher may approve of your Soniccharic identity, doesn't mean they won't tell your transphobic parents. It's scary and dangerous out here for trans and gay people rn and I won't be one of the idiots who tell you to run and frolic with your Xenogender pins Infront of increasingly hostile transphobes. I want the younger gen z trans people to survive and I won't lie to you about the reality of the battle we all are staring down concerning project 2025.

Most of the people telling these stories live in progressive states and do not tell you about the failed times or exaggerate the acceptance they supposedly received. I'm telling you from the mouth of someone who grew up in a tiny town in South Ohio with less than 1,000 people, it's still just as dangerous as it was 10 years ago. I still get followed in my home town. I still get stares in my home town. My actual home town, a place I grew up in where people knew me as the gnc dyke for a good while in my last 2 years of school. Do not spread this shit around to everyone. Nex didn't think they would become a victim, Brianna didn't think she would be one of the unlucky ones, plenty of those we've lost did not think they would die in hate crimes. I almost died in two of the hate crimes I've experienced.

You need to be really fucking careful and although I love than Neopronouns and Xenogenders are becoming more accepted by the larger LGBT community, you need to be very very VERY careful about what you do, what you wear and who you tell what because word spreads fast in suburbia and hate spreads faster. You do not want to be wearing a pin the day some white cishet magat decides he's tired of the "pedophiles" and chooses you as the first victim because you were the first he saw. Don't hide who you are but Be. Fucking. Careful.

[zzz-sunflowr]

i'm tired of trying to make sense of riordanverse plot points, some just doesn't make sense because rick objectively isn't a good writer

[kulemii]

I've gotten mean on here lmao. im gonna put myself in time out.

[arrowpunk]

You know it kind of sucks to see discourse about whether or not me and people like me should exist. Like just the fact that it's even a question in the first place sucks.

[donghoonie-3]

I love sunghoon but damn not letting his gf have food with her guy friend </3

[florida3exclamationpoints]

Hello you know what time it is time for a work update no one cares about except maybe Catherine and Beth my beloveds

[devotedlystrangewizard]

the worst part about time isnt me aging its the fact that my siblings are aging. what do you mean youre turning 13 you should be 9

[toastandnoodles]

My roommates keep putting stoneware in the sink even though I've talked about it half a dozen times!!!! They genuinely don't have the life experience to know not to do that!!!! I just found a plate that was left IN WATER IN ANOTHER DISH in the sink!!!! Cmon now!!!!

[catsassortedocrefs]

(eyes dite postdumblrly)

[internalchickens]

I feel like a big part of maturing is realizing that things can upset you and make you feel bad or whatever emotion, but that doesn't mean you have to act on those feelings.

A major thing is taking into account that any trauma you have, big or small, has affected you in some way and affects how you act. What you think you've left behind could still be controlling a part of you.

Maybe a past friend hurt you. Maybe a family member did you wrong. Maybe someone you trusted betrayed you. That's traumatic and affects you to some degree, and that's okay. You don't have to pretend you're over it, and if you think you are, that's great! If you think you aren't, that's okay too!

It's really hard to let things go. It's hard to let things just pass and not do something, but more often than not, it's better to let things pass. This isn't saying you need to let people walk over you because you shouldn't act on negative emotions. Try your best to stand up for yourself (it's alright if you struggle with that. A lot of people do. You got this<3). You don't deserve to get steamrolled; don't take people hurting you, but if a negative situation is avoidable, try to avoid it.

Some people say things on purpose to try to provoke you, and those people don't deserve your time. It's okay to let upset at those people, but you don't have to feed them by responding with negativity.

Adding on to that, some people just don't realize what hurts you, whether that be because they don't understand or because they haven't been told what's okay, it's important to know when someone is trying to upset you, or if they don't realize they are.

I regularly struggle with jealousy and being away from my loved ones, and I recognize a big part of that is because of things that have happened in the past.

When I feel threatened or overwhelmed, I want to react a certain way, but I know I need to take a break from whatever it is that's making me feel that way to calm myself down and handle the situation in a better way. It's difficult, and I have to deal with the bad feelings in the moment, but I much rather take a moment to gather myself and realize what the problem really is instead of potentially hurting my loved ones, or make them feel bad for something they didn't intend.

More often than not, they're not trying to hurt me in any way. Recognizing that, along with the fact I've been hurt before and am responding to it through a lens that's been changed by trauma helps me remember to take a step back and think about what I'm doing and how it can impact the future.

I don't want my relationships to deteriorate because I acted without thinking. While it helps to have them know that I am affected by trauma and have them accommodate, the effort can't be one sided and I have to recognize when I'm in a situation that I cannot handle and need to take a step back to rethink.

It's really difficult sometimes, and I don't always respond in the best way, but since I've started taking more time to think about what I'm actually doing, I feel like I've started improving as a person, and that makes me happy.