#i wanna see READS i wanna see DRAGS i wanna see CALLOUTS

[butchfaith]

BONUS POINTS AGAIN for putting their worst scene in the tags <3

[autistic-katara]

ok i might get blocked by a couple ppl for saying this but the Jackson’s Diary fandom is seriously making me wanna become a proshipper out of spite (read the post before blocking me or whatever please)

like idk if u guys have checked the fandom tag on ao3 recently but theres been a bit of drama surrounding the fact that someone posted a smut-fic of Exer (an 18yo) and David (an almost 18yo, who was aged up A FEW MONTHS for the fic) and they were harassed into taking it down and making a fucking apology post ON AO3, THE PROBLEMATIC FANWORKS WEBSITE.

and this fic was tagged 100% correctly like it was very explicitly tagged as smut n stuff yet there were still a bunch of comments being like “uhm what did i just read 🤨” and when i made a comment defending the authors right to yk, not be harassed for making not even rlly problematic content someone who clearly would suffer withdrawal symptoms if they turned twitter off for too long started arguing with me abt how “erm ackhtually we should be allowed to comment harassment under ppls harmless and explicitly tagged fics cause theres no smut in this fandom and it shocked us” and u could just rlly tell they felt they were more righteous than God in their opinions and yeah so cut to tonight when i’m scrolling through the tag and i see a post titled “i’m so sorry” in which the author made a post basically being like “i’m so sorry for posting that ik it was disgusting it has been permanently deleted” which in the comments a few ppl were telling them that what happened sucked n stuff (myself included // judging by their reply they only did this to stop the harassment which yk, completely fair) and i went back to scrolling since i wanted an actual fic not fandom drama but like 2 posts down there was another post titled “please stop” or smthn like that where someone else made a post basically being like “guyssss can we please not write smut of these characters this fandom is so wholesome i dont wanna ruin it 🥺 anyways sorry this isnt a fic this just needed to be said lol” and like dude, my guy, WHAT THE FUCK?!

this is AO3, this is a fanwork archive that as far as i know was created (at least partially) due to the fact that ppl kept getting their “problematic” works taken down from other sites and the creators wanted to yk archive all fanworks. this is NOT a social media site where u can make callout posts abt how what someone else posted disturbed ur pure wholesome chaste scrolling by daring to uploaded something with *gasp* consensual sex between 2 consenting adults?! (or canonically 1 consenting adult and 1 consenting gonna-be-an-adult-in-a-few-months-but-isnt-much-younger-than-the-first-guy but u get the idea)

like guys, ao3 is not twitter. it is not tiktok, it is not tumblr, its not youtube, its not even wattpad. it is not a social media platform, it is a fanwork archive, specifically one that lets u post whatever kinda content u want (yes, even smthn depicting 2 consenting adult/almost adult participates that are in no way related having sex, ik its crazy what they allow online these days).

and look honestly the callout post wouldn’tve annoyed me this much if it was posted on yk an actual social media. like if it was posted on twitter or tiktok or on youtube as a video essay or even on here, like sure if i saw it id be annoyed that this fandom cant handle the tiniest bit of non-puritanicalism and fuck, maybe if it was on here id even drag myself into a pointless days-long argument that causes me suicidal levels of stress but on archive of our fucking own itself?! for the millionth time, IT IS NOT A SOCIAL MEDIA! u dont make posts like that that u want the rest of the fandom to read or whatever on there because its not that kinda website!

anyways yeah i hope i explained the situation ok, u might be able to check it out urself if u feel like it and yeah idk this whole thing just kinda felt like a wake-up call for me like yes i find incest and pedophilia disgusting OBVIOUSLY and i dont like ppl romanticising it in fiction but idk i’ve seen ppl talk abt toxic antis before and show screenshots of conversations where theyve acted super shitty but idk seeing this all unfold in person and having to argue with these hardcore antis just- i dont wanna be associated with these ppl, if these are what alotta antis r like i dont want anyone to assume i agree with them like at all, whether its other antis, proshippers, or ppl like me who have a super complicated opinion on it. like they harassed a person into taking down their smut and made call-out posts on ARCHIVE OF OUR OWN abt how they dont want their wholesome pure fandom corrupted by gross dirty irredeemable sex. and just yeah hope no mutuals i seriously care abt unmoot or even block me over this since ik a few of u r antis but yeah srry for this i just kinda seriously hate this fandom right now :)

also incase anyone is typing out a “kill yourself pedo” reply/rb rn; i turn 15 on Friday, i am 2+ years younger than ur innocent bb minor boy David and his definitely not already a legal adult boyfriend Exer so yk

[mist-the-wannabe-linguist]

You probably weren't aware so I don't blame you but Birdsong-Warriors has been called out for doing some pretty awful shit. They're ignoring it and posting pages because they think they can get away with it. Search "Birdsong Warriors Talkingtalltales" here on Tumblr and you'll see it. (The callout OP is a proshipper but so is Birdsong. I guess they're eating their own)

I really don't have the time or energy to read 200+ page callout but unfollowing cause i really don't wanna be dragged into warrior cats discourse no. 427

[manianlittlecutie]

Getting sick of seeing it so wanna say something real quick.

It's okay to dislike shows/comics/books and also the creators of said media. I dislike JKR because of her conduct and reading into the hidden antisemitism and mysoginy that's present in her books has ruined my reading experience of them.

BUT

No matter how much you dislike something you cannot start spreading lies about it.

I've seen this happen with Steven Universe and Rebecca Sugar, to a point this woman was called a NAZI by people! SHE'S EFFIN JEWISH! (or at least she was raised that way) I have seen this with Villainous and KO Lets be Heros and a bunch of more shows. Lately it's been a lot of Vivziepop drama and honestly it is exhausting!

See, I am someone who looks into every allegation because I don't want to just believe everything I come across (A friend was lied about once and it ruined him for a few years so I know how shitty it can be)

But the amount of LIES I have seen lately and not just small lies or stuff that was personal and dragged up for no good goddamn reason, no, big lies, is staggering!

Sometimes it is something like; bad rumors about a show not treating their workers right, I look into it and find out there was personal beef between two of the staff members that had NOTHING to do with the show and is therefore just petty drama that should not have been mentioned but it was shown as a big thing over wich the show should be canceled. Or it's about someone making a mean comment about (insert group of people here)and therefore they are a horrible, terrible, no good person that should not be endorced and I look into it to see that the comment was made in a private chat as a JOKE with the one making it being PART OF THAT GROUP!

These two situations ACTUALLY happened. I will not mention the fandoms because I am not about to get into it with anyone. I am TIRED!

So just to be clear on what I am saying here;

If you dislike stuff, great, do that and then move on with your life. You wanna tell us why you dislike this stuff? Sure, go ahead, make yourself be heard. BUT If you make a callout post/thread/what-have-you and you say shit about people/shows it is on YOU to make DAMN SURE that what you are saying is FACTUAL! NOT FAKE!

It takes research and effort to make call-outs and warn others about someone/something dangerous. You have to look into EVERYTHING you heard because people, especially people who already dislike someone/something, will lie to you about that person/show, either because they themselves don't know any better or out of malice!

It is on YOU not to spread lies and give into subjective feelings when you are trying to give the FACTS on something/someone.

If you cannot do the research YOU SHOULDN'T MAKE THAT KINDA STUFF!

Also, if you reblog/retweet/ share anything that is handled as a call-out you also have to make sure that what is being said is factual and not just personal opinion or lies, otherwise you are being an idiotic, fearmongering ASSHOLE!

TLDR Stop just believing shit, look into allegations, especially if they are bad and use your brain before simply sharing things, otherwise you are taking part in spreading lies in an uncontrolled and unfair manner.

I am so so tired now but thank you for reading CU

[spinef0ryou]

ik i said this last night but this whole discourse is so fucking wild when you come online for escapism after writing an essay about a shitty event for uni like.

ive gone from writing about the arguably worst conflict in europe in the latter 20th century, to fanfic drama and it all just seems almost petty at this point esp in comparison to my work tbh

[elysianslove]

JSHDKAJ I KNOW I LIKE *JUST* SENT IN AN ASK ABOUT BOYF KAGS BUT PLEASE NDNS BF OSAMU AFTER TIME SKIP ugh love me a beefy man- like majority of timeskip osamu stuff i see is about like oh having him cook for u or spending time in his store n like so food/onigiri miya related but ugh like imagine going out with this man

osamu who takes you an amusement park and forces you to go on all of the big roller coasters with him bc he likes them and if you’re scared he claims he will “”protect you”” but he just thinks it’s cute how you’re scared of a perfectly safe ride n you’re whining about it- (yes this is a direct callout to myself and my fear of heights/roller coasters LMFAO) but like wouldn’t force you on if you genuinely didn’t want to we love a gentleman

nd nd osamu who just goes out shopping with you because you felt like it and dragged him along, making him rate everything you wanted to buy after trying it on- jokingly grabbing him a lil pastel pink sweater or sparkly glasses and him humoring you by trying them on with the most serious expression- love to see a big buy in such a soft color i cannot lie to you

alSO osamu taking you through a giant corn maze during halloween and almost getting lost but when you put your brain cells together manage to make it out in 3 hours- and you go through a haunted house also and he encourages the way you grip so tightly onto his arm/back bc he likes that you feel you can trust him to shield you from the paid actors and actresses and fake spiders that jump out from the walls- and you guys wander through the pumpkin patch trying to find the perfect 2 pumpkins to carve something really dumb and probably an inside joke into it that will just rot in a couple of weeks but the stupid pictures you took with the pumpkins continue to live on your fridge-

and like relaxing on a saturday afternoon at home just in bed together under a giant poofy blanket- some absurdly long tv show on but you’re not paying attention because his head is in your lap and you’re brushing his littol hairs around through your fingers and admiring his face and reactions to the show you’ve both decided to put on and you both end up falling asleep bc it’s so warm and cozy and homey and safe and and and-

anyways yeah osamu thoughts 😀 -🐰

BEFORE I ANSWER THE ASK ABOUT KAGS I HAVE TO ANSWER THIS FIRST. I AHVE TO HAVETOHAVE TO

but please consider the opposite: you’re not scared and osamu is. i fucking love rollercoasters like the higher the risk the more i’ll wanna ride it, and just imagine you manage to pull a slightly hesitant osamu into the line with you, and he’s trying his best not to seem jittery or nervous but oh my god he is and it’s so cute. and he can hear the people’s screams from nearby and he’s regretting it by the second and when you’re finally on and about to go he’s deathly quiet and worryingly pale but he’s trying to act so big and strong but the way he’s holding your hand SO TIGHTLY FKDJHF ,,,, and THE PICTURE THEY SNAP AT THE DROP IS SO FUNNY KDSHFS 

but omg shopping with samu! he just holds all your bags looped on his beefy arms and he spoils you so so much. anything you like no matter how expensive it is he buys it for you. you open your mouth to complain and he just shrugs you off and goes, “lemme sugar daddy ya.” 

and PLEASE BRA SHOPPING WITH SAMU ,,, he just cups the bras and goes, “yeah this one’s definitely your size.” oh my god. picks out the skimpiest lingerie like there’s one where’s there’s a hook at the crotch and he buys it for you. you ask ??????/ why????? and he goes “easy access,” with a shrug. 

also can you imagine going to the beach with him :( he’s the perfect balance of fun in the water and relaxing by the shore. he loves to just throw you over his shoulder just cause he can and slamming you into the water. but also he lets you wrestle him until his head is shoved under the water because victory looks so cute on you. or just the way he wraps his arms around your waist beneath the water and your arms are looped around his neck lazily and you’re just chatting and talking and it’s just. so much fun. and reading a book with him right next to you as you lounge after or putting sunscreen on samu or samu putting sunscreen on you. and please he’d look so fucking cute sunburnt and you’re both beat from spending all day in the water and out in the sun and just showering together after and then getting into bed with the ac on high and warming up cuddled underneath the blankets. 

im on the fucking edge 😁 pain 😁

[bbq-hawks-wings]

BBQ gripes about fanon Hawks

Not even gonna put this in the character tags aside from the spoiler one I use just for the anime-onlies on my blog. I'm salty. I just wanna vent. I want to keep the general character tags fun because it was awful when I went looking for new content and found so much Not Fun material a while back; and I don’t want to become what I hate. Basic point - my blog, my vent, and unless it’s reblogged (which you are welcome to if you like) this post dies here.

Please know this isn't a callout post or me claiming that others are being fans of Hawks "wrong" because they disagree with me. I am a huge proponent that (with very few exceptions) fiction and fandom should be free to be enjoyed, reinterpreted, or otherwise indulged in however the individual fan prefers; and if I don't like it, I let them have their space and go do my thing elsewhere and leave them alone (hence why this not going in character tags). I just have been annoyed with the rampant mangling of Hawks' canon  personality/characterization - that is, confusing common fanon interpretations of him with how he’s actually written/portrayed and then getting angry (like, actually-angry-spilling-into-publicly-dragging-real-people, not just disappointed) when he acts like canon Hawks in canon. Non-canon is open season and by and large has my blessing, it’s just frustrating when it gets dragged into discussions about the manga. 

This has been going on a long time, but I just want to get it out of my system in my personal space. All this is, is my "Overthinking Tumblr blogger Shakes Fist at Cloud" moment.

#1 Hawks is a sociopath/unempathetic.

I just... I... You can't be reading the same manga I am if you genuinely come to this conclusion about who he is in canon. A man with nothing to gain by looking like this when considering the depths of the suffering inflicted on others that he bears some amount of responsibility in...

...cannot be called unempathetic.

"But he killed Twice and Best Jeanist!"

Twofold counterargument to this one, starting with BJ - we don't actually know he's dead. There's a body, there's a disappearance, and we have no idea wtf happened, but we also don't know wtf happened. It's drastically ooc for Hawks to murder someone in cold blood. For someone who places emphasis on speed specifically "because when two sides keep fighting and won’t give up, someone eventually has to die" it makes no sense for him to not have had a plan and simply ambush a man in his own home - this goes doubly since he was in contact with the HSPC and had time to "premeditate" anyway.

And as for Twice: Hawks ran out of options. He wanted to detain Twice and keep him from escaping and helping the MLA. He was able to do so when alone, but the moment Dabi cornered him Hawks had a choice to make - probably die in the fight and let Jin go or make absolute certain he can’t and still probably end up dying because he's in bad shape and still probably won't make it out of this, regardless. I don't need to harp on this - it's been said a couple different times now by several people. Even in 266 when Dabi initially ambushes Hawks, Hawks thinks to himself that he’ll carry Jin out of the building to keep himself and Jin safe before Twice retaliated and Dabi literally forces Hawks into a corner.

Jin's loss was a blow, but the chips on the table being wagered are human lives, not feelings. Up until that point, Hawks did everything he could despite the weight of his decision. Human life is human life, and Jin’s life isn’t more important than the may more who will be saved by quashing the MLA’s revolution. Simply equating “could kill someone” with “unempathetic” is fundamentally flawed, and mistaking someone who is pushed to kill despite every attempt to avoid it as unempathetic and even sociopathic has missed the point to the extreme - the mere fact he avoided lethal force for so long alone proves he possesses empathy.

#2 Hawks is a compulsive liar.

He is a good liar, but he does not like lying. He does twist the truth, but always when forced to keep a secret. Even then, his lies are predominantly spun from truth and omitted details instead of outright fabrications. He doesn’t gaslight, and he doesn’t make up stories/details if he can help it.

When Hawks told Endeavor his dreams for the future, that was the truth. When he told him he thought he was cool at the hero billboards, that was the truth.  When he tells Tokoyami to focus on his strengths instead of merely covering his weaknesses to be a better hero, that was the truth. When Tokoyami asks Hawks for his weakness and even why he took him on as an intern in the beginning just to ignore him, he tells him the truth.  When he tells Jin he "doesn't belong in a cage" and that he considers him a good person, that was the truth. When he recognizes he’s profoundly wounded Jin for deceiving him for months, he tells Jin the truth. When confronted by Dabi and he doesn’t need to lie anymore in this fight to the death, he tells him the truth despite not actually needing to in hopes to learn the truth behind Dabi and Shigaraki.

I don't have a better segue, so I'll just mention that a lot of folks who believe this also believe the next point.

#3 Hawks is unapologetically emotionally manipulative.

The context makes a huge difference and we need to look at when and why he manipulates others as well as the fact that he does.

At the hero billboards, Hawks plays the heroes on stage as well as the crowd. He's trying to shift the mindset of, "oh yeah, just another hero ranking" to "wake up, mf's, things are changing and you better be ready to change, too!" Rocking the boat is a huge no-no in Japan. Despite being part of his “persona” there is still real social risk involved with this move but one that he deems necessary to turn heads and get gears turning. This is not just an elaborate ploy to get under Endeavor’s skin, but an effort to reach a wider audience while he has them captive.

He does use the public crowd around him and Endeavor before the Hood fight as an excuse for its appearance, but the original intent was to mentally prepare Endeavor for what was potentially (and proved to be) the fight of his life without outright telling him so he could maintain his undercover status. When he realizes he’s part of the reason for Endeavor’s permanent scar and life-threatening injuries, he feels remorse.

He lies to Jin to get information out of him, but linking back to #2, when calls Jin a good person and offers him a way out, he’s telling the truth. He does feel guilt for having to manipulate an otherwise well-meaning person and betraying them, especially given his long-running history of being used and the ongoing issues he suffers from because of it.

When he meets up again with Endeavor to drop his clues about the League’s movements, he squirms when he realizes the interns don’t know him well enough to know he’s blowing smoke because he does NOT want these kids to actually buy what he’s selling. This espionage mission is hard to navigate, and he has to tread carefully lest he setup the dominoes in the wrong places.

This is all to make the point that Hawks is more than capable of emotionally manipulating people, but it’s not in his nature or something he does to any and every person he comes across just because. We haven’t had much opportunity to see him operate outside of the HSPC’s orders which is where the bulk of the instances of his manipulation comes from - those orders requiring him to operate covertly and thus, by nature, necessitate lying, manipulation, and strategically withholding information. 

If anything, when he’s making an appeal to someone else as his own person - not as a hero on a mission- we actually see a level of vulnerability and transparency we don’t otherwise catch.

Though it’s technically canon-adjacent and not necessarily canon in and of itself, in My Hero Academia: Team Up Mission where he works with Bakugo and Midoriya he operates on a level of transparency with them we’re not used to seeing; and my theory is he took it as an opportunity to operate without ulterior motives and build report instead of bucking back against “training up the next generation of heroes” like he initially did with Tokoyami.

Which now actually segues better into the next point.

#4 Hawks never lets people get close to him.

There’s a surprising amount of evidence that Hawks wants the ability to be an open book. Back at Team Up Mission, the restaurant staff note he regularly takes people he likes to their establishment - so we’re basically told outright this is a special place to him reserved for enjoying himself and only people he likes get to share it with him - so we already know what that says about how he sees those two despite their sparse interactions. We already know he’s taken Endeavor there when Endeavor made no move to input as to where he wanted to have the lunch meeting.

Though he kept Tokoyami at arm’s length initially, we have at least three canon instances of him sharing personal interactions with him with other canon-adjacent indications he cares for and values his intern. We’ve readily established that while Endeavor may not consider himself close to Hawks, Hawks does hold Endeavor as near and dear to his heart. While his only mission regarding Twice was to get information out of him, he still made a genuine effort to help and save him because he wanted to and considered him a friend despite the circumstances.

We still don’t know very much of Hawk’s past, his personal relationships outside of work, etc.; but despite the HPSC’s extensive efforts to strip him of his identity he not only possesses a faceted, complicated personality but seems to want to share that with others readily when and in the ways he’s able. Getting into the truly squishy, vulnerable parts of him may take a while, but on a scale of closed to open, he seems to lean towards open.

#5 Hawks is hopelessly in love with Dabi and will abandon everything up to this point for him.

This isn't to throw general DabiHawks shippers under the bus. Most of them know VERY well at this point that canon has sunk that ship, and they're just having fun with it at this point - and you know what, power to you! They look great together! In another life, the character chemistry could have been incredible. There’s a lot of great DabiHawks shipping content I thoroughly enjoy despite not shipping it myself.

It just isn't canon. It never was and never came close. Even now, with the Endeavor reveal being very much imminent, Hawks' view of Dabi is one of a lying, malicious, callous, murderer. Though he’ll likely be crushed at the revelation of what Endeavor’s done, that doesn’t equate to him defecting (especially not immediately) and falling into Dabi’s arms.

And Dabi hates Hawks just as much.

Again, this is not anything against the ship or the shippers - just an annoyance I have with some who were so wrapped up in the ship they were genuinely mad when the ship sank and they dragged that frustration out into the real world against real people when canon didn’t align with fanon. 

Ships are some of the most stupid things to rail against creators and fans over, and the amount of harassment they receive now over shipping has me ripping my hair out when I know it’s a mere fraction of the total pool of shippers who are frothing at the mouth while the rest are super cool and happy doing their own thing and keeping to themselves.

Ship what you want, regardless of “validating evidence” and have fun. Don’t make it others’ problem when it isn’t canonically validated.

#6 Hawks is a dirty cop.

Only half upset with this one because it comes down to the nuance and lack of precise definition of this phrase I have a problem with. Lots of people hate cops for very real, legitimate reasons. Police forces - being a voluntary, government-employed force enforcing government rule - are notoriously prone to corruption of every kind.

It's implied the HPSC is itself corrupt, though to what extent we don't know. (Granted, buying a young child from his family to raise as your personal puppet is pretty high up there.) By continuing to follow orders from the HPSC and not vehemently fighting back, many see him as reinforcing a corrupt institution and at least partially liable for their continued hold on society. 

Fair enough, but... The issue I have with this is it reduces Hawks to his job.

I believe a huge chunk of this take comes from my experience as an armed service member spouse, but it's easy for me to empathize with a guy

Who was promised the moon for himself and his family in exchange for his service not realizing what was actually being asked of him

Is praised outside the organization for "being a hero" and "upholding this country's core values" while first-hand witnessing the corruption of it when inside

Is viewed as a cog valuable only in services rendered instead of being treated like a human by said organization and worked into the ground because of it

Is frustrated by the insistence to keep the status quo instead of improving procedure/infrastructure/environment because egos need to be padded over real, human problems being solved

Has his autonomy or otherwise ability to operate under his own judgement restricted in favor of maintaining organizational control at the cost of effective action

Has DEPENDENTS who rely on his continued work to provide for them and is thus unable to refuse an order, even when it's morally reprehensible and even outright illegal

Whose cries, both those calculated and desperate, to the organization (who have placed themselves as the sole resource he can turn to) for help (even for his own body/mind) fall on deaf ears until he breaks to the point of becoming unusable or dangerous - and even then minimal effort/responsibility is taken in favor of keeping him functioning in the organization as long as possible.

Hawks fights back against the HPSC constantly. He raised concerns over letting civilians suffer to get him in with the League of Villains and then still defied orders by reducing casualties to zero. Despite orders to keep his mission top secret, he's informed Endeavor of his motives/movements independently from the rest of the heroes. He had long refused to take an intern (read: fresh meat for the machine) to train until this year, and even then sought to minimize his encouragement of Tokoyami for as long as possible until he realized Tokoyami was made of the real mettle people needed in a hero and not just another youngster endangering himself on a pipe dream.

He even takes initiative to keep his personal to-do list from the HPSC to a minimum by squashing problems before they come knocking asking him to fix it for them. He knew of the League of Villains and anticipated the escalation of their movements immediately after the USJ incident as well as has a network of informants and connections with local police forces to stay in the know.

His methods for apprehension of criminals are, and continue to be, to react and detain them so quickly they can't retaliate or endanger others in the struggle, thus minimizing human loss and injury despite the insinuation the HPSC has told him that gloves are off in the current situation.

He might be "a cop" depending on the definition we go with, but he isn't a dirty cop. He doesn't plant evidence. He doesn't shoot first and ask questions later. He doesn't blindly take orders. He largely doesn't see "villains" as dirt under his shoe but as people pushed to extremes. He's a morally convicted individual trying to rebel within the system instead of tearing it down outright. He may be wrong in the assumption, but he genuinely believes he can do more on the inside of the system than outside.

#7 Hawks is a manwhore.

Ok, this one is not serious and actually just to end this all on a lighter note after ranting until I'm blue in the face. 

I'm 100% guilty of this myself. Something about that chicken makes me and many others salivate - either for themselves or to watch him with someone else. We love dressing him up slutty, portray him as flirting unashamedly, and placing him in as many overtly sexual scenarios possible.

The best part about all of it, though, is that it’s almost the exact opposite of how he dresses/conducts himself in canon. His clothes are loose fitting and high-coverage. He’s personable, but never gives any indication he’s romantically/sexually involved or interested in anyone. The asscourse is real only because we cannot confirm either way due to his baggy clothes. His overall figure/body shape has been hinted at, but only recently confirmed; and his jacket had to be literally be burned off to get a good look at the pattern of his shirt under it!

~~~~~~~

And with that, I release the frustration and move on. 

Enjoy fanon as much as you like - even I do! Just be aware of where canon and fanon diverge, and definitely don’t take the difference out on real people. Please also be aware of how others hold their favorite characters dear before flooding the general tags with negativity and creating a hostile environment for them. People latch onto their “comfort characters” for a plethora of reasons, and when they lose that character to the plot, the fandom, or otherwise, they should still be allowed to grieve and celebrate what they had in a safe environment. 

Retaliation in response to others coming against your favorite is also not acceptable behavior. It sucks, but the most mature thing to do is step away from the general fandom, stick to blogs/spaces you know are safe, and let the storm blow over. Comfort characters do not justify mistreating real people no matter how much they may mean to you.

When “canon gets it wrong” is where fanfiction and pockets of the fandom community comes into play. Leave those people alone and let them be. For those who aligned themselves with canon, they are not free game to take personal frustrations out on. Leave those people alone and let them be. Unfollow the people/tags you need to for your own sake and others’, and the fandom will be a better place all around over time. Venting belongs in controlled spaces away from the rest of the fandom and with enough warning for those who not only don’t want to endure it but who for their own safety shouldn’t.

Fandom is a community, and healthy communities do not endorse members lashing out when they don’t get their way.

[elvened]

I came on to say one thing and one thing only. Tw negative/ post beneath a read more for those wishing not to see it.

I’m just gonna make my stance on this front VERY crystal clear: I DO NOT CONDONE CALLOUT CULTURE. I feel very strongly that callouts are a form of cyberbullying and I do not want to take any part in them. I am a full grown adult with a full time professional job that is very emotionally draining at times. I don’t REALLY feel the need to disclose my profession because it is simply no ones business, but lately I have been coming online after working all day to a complete mess all over my dash. AND ITS NOT EVEN JUST HERE ! I have two other blogs and I’ve been seeing this everywhere across multiple fandoms. It’s really not my style to make posts like this but I’m just kind of feeling disheartened and disappointed in the behavior of the rpc lately. It does affect my motivation to want to be online and write which is truly a shame because I love writing with my whole entire heart.

Anyway, my point here isn’t to add flames to the fire. My point here is to reiterate the point that is already stated in my rules: I don’t want to be involved in drama. I don’t want to see it, I don’t wanna engage in it. If you come to me with the intention of giving me a heads up or just informing me about something going on for you PRIVATELY, thats all good. I will be unfollowing / blocking as necessary if I continue to see excessive posts about drama and callouts , ect. I have already done this on my other blogs. It really isn’t my style to go on a whole blocking spree but I’m just VERY EXHAUSTED with what I’ve been seeing on the dash lately. And it isn’t even a one time occurrence. Within the past week I have seen SEVERAL various instances And its . . . its just alot mentally. Please just , don’t drag your dirty laundry out on the dash. Take things up privately with people. If something someone is doing is truly so outrageous that it warrants a callout: report them to tumblr staff / call the police. Otherwise , handle that stuff privately. 

[rainecloud020604]

Just a quick callout post

my followers, every single one of you who sees this whether you like the post or not, I have one thing to ask of you.

FOLLOW THESE PEOPLE AND SUPPORT THEIR ART AND CREATIONS!!!

@ovalion - Alex, pretty much my child, my son, he is crazy talented, amazing art style, perfect and fabulous creations, FOLLOW HIM AND SUPPORT HIS ART DAMMIT!!! he has such a talent and he deserves such support, he’s really cool to talk to and has great tastes! sure he might not be a writer or have background on his characters posted, but go ask him shit and send him questions!!! LOVE AND SUPPORT HIM!!!! 

@flowerrose14 - yes, my waifu, my girlfriend, the woman who i love with EVERY DAMN PART OF ME!! she has been there for me, always has, always will be, SUPPORT HER AMAZING ART AND OCS!!! She has such a lovely talent for creating such adorable creations that will just RIP your damn heart out. She nice, kind, always there to give you a hug, perfect to talk to when ya wanna vent, ramble, or just discuss ideas with. She has so many ideas and they are all brilliant, the gal deserves support for em!!!

@elementalgod-aj - AJ, my first tumblr friend, a good pal of mine, talented artist, crazy ass skills, amazing and complicated ideas that never seem to end and only drag you into them! SUPPORT HIS ART AND CREATIONS!!!! His ideas are amazing, such thought is put into them and they are perfect to listen to and read over and over. He has some amazing ocs and such fascinating stories!!!

@justadeadlysinsblog - PRETTY MUCH MY DAUGHTER, SUPPORT HER!!!! Art style is perfect and unique, such talent, lovely backstories and ideas. REBLOG HER ART COWARDS!!! LET THE WORLD SEE HER TALENT! HER CHARACTER! PLEASE!!!

@wazzup-ie - ANOTHER PERSON WHO IS PRETTY MUCH MY DAUGHTER!!!! amazing art, amazing character, amazing ideas, amazing stories, amazing in general, SUPPORT HER!! She’s really cool to talk with as well! she deserves support!!!

ACK- this is all i have for today, just wanna let some of my mutuals know how much i love em <3 

and please

FOLLOW THEM!!! 

thank you

[sansloii-a]

coughs so am I allowed to request all of the “salty af munday meme” answers or—

oh my fucking god || @imbruedinfear​

strap in y’all ‘cause someone wants to hear me complain

What does someone have to do for an instant unfollow from you?

if you post excessive ooc in quick sucession, i will unfollow you faster than the speed of light. i’ve done it in the past. i will not hesitate to do it in the future. i don’t care if it’s tagged. if i’m on and i see it, you’re gone, my friend.

What’s the WORST thing that has happened to you rp wise?

uuuuuuuuuuhhhhh there was this one dude that legit tried to monopolize one of my old muses on another blog, got upset when i set a main ship for said muse, complained to me nonstop, was trying to use me to get back into rping with my friend group ( which he called “the popular group” for a reason I don’t understand to this day ), only wanted to ship, got pissy over a fucking pokemon au ( if you ever wanna hear about this, lemme know ), tried to insert a ship into every au we made automatically, tried to tell me how to write smut for no reason ( said he would read it and give me tips and everything ffs ), was an asshole to my sister ( who rped way back when but doesn’t anymore ), made several friends of mine uncomfortable to the point of leaving the rp scene for a bit, blamed other people for issues that he honestly had a part in causing, and a bunch of other things that i’m forgetting right now.

i figure that’s the worst because nothing has topped that. nothing. that happened years ago, though, so i’m good now. no one fucks with me like that anymore.

What was a mildly annoying thing that has happened to you rp wise?

i got about 10 asks from someone when i wanted to do other shit ( my asks that are in the double digits ) ‘cause they wanted me to send them an ask. annoyed me to hell and back and i promptly deleted those asks

 ¯\_(ツ)_/¯  tough shit. i was not in the mood for games and i’m still not.

 Has anyone ever tried to steal your blog? Your headcanons? Icons? All that jazz?

not that i know of??? i hope not ‘cause i worked real hard on all this and if you steal anything from me, i’m gonna throw a huge-ass heaping of karma your way.

 How many people don’t like you?

i dunno. i’d say none but i know not everyone is going to like me so if you’re out there and you don’t like me, you’re entitled to that. don’t tell me, though, ‘cause i don’t wanna know if you don’t like me.

How many people do you not like?

¯\_(ツ)_/¯ i don’t really care enough to actively not like anyone. you can annoy me but unless you piss me off and continue to piss me off, you get stuck on the “do not care” list. 

Have you managed to stay away from drama?

i give advice when needed on how to avoid whoever my convo partner is talking about and i avoid getting involved. unless it’s like… a close friend or involves a close friend, i refuse to get in the middle of whatever issue people have. i’m not about to have my ass dragged into problems that do not concern me.

i don’t cause drama either so that’s also how i stay away from it. 100% guaranteed to keep you out of drama.

Have you ever been in the middle of drama?

personal/friend drama? yes. rp drama? see above.

none of that was fun btw. it was a lot of me getting angry, being frustrated with certain behaviors, having to cut people out for doing shit/saying shit that they knew they shouldn’t have and refusing to recognize that they have fucked up and use that to change their behavior, etc. it’s draining and not fun and i’m pretty sure it shaved years off my life but y’know, it is what it is. the most i can do about it is look out for myself and keep out of relationships that will put me in those situations again.

Have you ever tried to bring peace to a situation?

no because i used to be friends with people that weren’t straightforward with shit and made excuses instead of changing their behavior. i don’t wanna go into it ‘cause and i can’t remember all the details but boy, peace was hard to come by and it didn’t last long. i wasn’t going to try to bring peace if people didn’t really seem to want it and level with each other.

How long do you stay mad?

depends on what you do, tbh, but it’s a couple hours at least. a couple days at most.

What’s your rp pet peeve? ( i have a lot of these )

playing “find the links” on someone’s blog. if i can’t find your links, i’ll try “/rules”, “/r.”, “/g.” and whatever else i can think of to get your rules and a couple more things to get your muse’s about. however, i shouldn’t have to and it takes little effort to make it so that your links are easily distinguishable from the background. if i don’t find them, i don’t find them. and i don’t follow/follow back

Have you ever forgiven a partner when you shouldn’t have?

nope. not now, not ever.

 Have you ever been forgiven when you knew you shouldn’t have been?

i’ve never been in a situation where i’ve had to be forgiven for stuff i’ve done so no.

What fads/trends are you so over?

the first thing i thought of was the fucking double ampersands thing that was everywhere at some point. those annoyed me so much and i’m so glad they’re gone. super small text needs to die too. i may not wear glasses but i sure as shit ain’t straining my eyes to see what you’ve written in 3px font. 

honestly, a lot of the excessive aesthetic shit that sacrifices accessibility for #aesthetic

Have you ever rp’d with someone you knew for a fact was abusive but tried to give them a chance/to make up your own opinion on the roleplayer? Did they change or did you understand what people were talking about?

nope, nope. nu-uh. if i knew for a fact that this person was abusive in that moment, i wouldn’t touch them with a ten foot pole. absolutely fucking not. 

Have you ever made a public call out post?

-loud snort- hell no.

What has made you completely lose your chill?

honestly? look at my worst experience and that about sums up shit that has made me lose my chill. you really gotta push my fucking buttons to make me mad ‘cause i’m usually pretty laid back.

What do you think about public call out posts?

answered here

A fandom that you feel isn't open and accepting? 

¯\_(ツ)_/¯ i dunno. i’ve only been in one before and that was f.ire e.mblem

 A fandom that you feel is open and accepting?

imma be real honest with y’all--the only fandom i’ve been in that i will acknowledge is f.ire e.mblem and i had a pretty sweet time there. i had some ups and downs but it was an overall good experience for me. it was pretty open and inviting in my opinion but i tended to stay away from the douchebags in the fandom ‘cause i just wanted to have a good time there.

Thoughts on duplicates following you?

 if i have duplicates of my oc following me, i’ll have a whole fucking cow 

Do you agree with reblog karma or is it forced interaction?

i don’t think it’s forced interaction most of the time ( with sentence starters, symbol memes, memes that take literally zero fucking effort to send in ) ‘cause... everyone likes getting stuff, y’know. if you wanna reblog it from someone, just take a moment to send something in if the interaction is feasible. that’s the key thing here. if it’s feasible, then i don’t see the issue with sending something in before you reblog it from someone ( especially if you’re mutuals ). if it isn’t and you just wanna reblog it, reblog it from the source. it’s not that serious.

if someone nitpicks you for rebloging the same meme they did but you reblogged it from the source, i wouldn’t feel too bad. you know what’s best for your muses and if you don’t feel like the meme is cohesive for interactions, then that’s your prerogative and the 

Has someone ever ruined an FC or character for you?

answered here

Has someone been jealous of you?

i’ve only been told that someone was jealous of me once and it was a long time ago. i have never heard that from anyone again ( not that i remember, at least )

Have you ever been jealous of anyone?

mhm! but it usually comes when i’m feeling super down about my blog and doubting my ocs ( which isn’t often ). when i do get jealous, it’s over interactions and the like and my big dumb galactic brain is like “wow, don’t you wish you had those interactions? don’t you wish you were rping with those people?” and makes me feel bad about the interactions i have, the speed at which i reply, my ocs, how many people are interesting in my ocs, etc. however, this shit doesn’t last long ‘cause i have a bunch of wonderful people that motivate me to get out of that funk and just... focus on what i have instead of what i’m seeing on my dash. i remind myself that i’m here to have fun and i shouldn’t try to match my experience to others’

How has Tumblr RP changed since you started?

more formatting, smaller icons, more focus on having a fancy ass theme, more formatting, more callout posts, less communication in some regard, more reminders for communication.more psa posts, more formatting--

honestly, i’ve been on tumblr since 2012 and most of it is a blur lmao. i probably don’t remember everything ‘cause i was.... 15 when i started rping on here. i’m 22 now. i’m sure a lot has changed in seven years but i definitely haven’t seen it all.

Thoughts on the fandom you're currently rping in?

i’m currently a fandomless blog and boy, is it a lot more fun XD i have a lot more creative liberty and i can shape the world my muses live in to my liking, as opposed to following or just adding onto what the fandom universe already is. it’s a lot of work and it takes a ton of time but it’s fun and i’m enjoying every second of it! 

How salty are you feeling right now?

answered here but i’ll just say it again: not salty. just tired and rambly because holy shit this took a while

[scatterpatter]

I'm real sorry to hear about all of that and how it's been effecting you, friend. I'm not gonna pressure you here or anything but, if you wanna talk we always can. I'm proud of you for getting help and kinda talking about it, that's a big step and I'd admit that it takes a lot. - Just wanna let you know I'm here for ya, Scatter, please take care. ♡ -(Scott/Anim)

Thank you, thank you so, so much. I’m not sure how much I’m willing to tell you guys about what happened, I’m on that fine line between “they said things to me that made me feel incredibly used and worthless as a person and you guys should interact with caution” and “this is personal beef not all of you have to be dragged into and callout culture sucks”. They said they blocked my tumblr, but i know that blocking someone doesnt stop you from compulsively checking their blog every hour to see if they said anything about you. So, I know they’re gonna read this at some point, and I’m afraid of what else they’re going to say to me. Might turn off anon asks for a short while. I’ll figure everything out after therapy, I’m probably gonna go right when they open their walk-in clinic at 10 since I couldn’t fall back asleep this morning. But yeah I’m just... Looking back on a lot of things with a very new perspective. I’m... horrified and feel so incredibly used, but thank God I have friends who’ve been validating me and reassuring I wasn’t selfish for putting my foot down with them.

But again, thank you so, so much, I’m incredibly grateful for you and everyone else who’s been helping me through this especially dark time. Big thanks to my one friend, she’s the one who suggested getting therapy and I’m thankful she did since, well, this is a big mess that needs professional help, haha- But truly, from the bottom of my heart, thank you.

[kingsmanne]

THE NEGATIVE YEAR REVIEW!

Woo! I wanted positive and negative in one post but the negative one is so extremely overwhelming and I wouldn’t want make anyone like it when it’s mostly me ranting. There’s a warning for extreme negativity and it’s under the cut so you can read it, but don’t have to and also won’t have to scroll through it. Extreme salt and problematic opinions, I guess.

This year has been one of the most shitty since I have internet access. First, I left behind Salzburg where I had found many friends and a second home, and even though it’s the best decision for my future life, it still saddens me greatly.  In June, one of my ‘clients’ was deported. I couldn’t do anything to stop it.  Two weeks ago, my grandmother died after her health took a rapid turn for the worse. I couldn’t say goodbye because I was too sick and I wasn’t allowed there. In fact, my mother asked me if I wanted to say goodbye the next day (finally), and in the evening she died. And I’m still too depressed to even mourn or realise it truly.  All of this took a heavy toll on my physical and mental health and with being really busy in real life, it also really impacted my creativity. I love Anne and Eleanor to bits and I won’t stop writing them, but it has become really difficult to even look at this site since I really don’t enjoy this RPC as much as I did in 2017 when I joined.

I still stand by my words saying that this RPC had become a drama-infested shitshow. Thankfully, this more or less has calmed down with some of the main culprits having left the fandom or having their own meltdown (karma’s a bitch), and blocking/blacklisting people is great. I won’t act like this RPC has always been sunshine and bubbles, there has always been drama, even though I’ve mostly been blissfully unaware of it. Plus, it was personal. Here people dragged their issues into this fandom with them from their other fandoms and act like it’s this fandom that’s super toxic. If your dog shits in the living room and you take that pile into the kitchen, you can’t just cry about how bad it smells in the kitchen and how it’s the fridge’s fault? (I expect one vague from this paragraph at least lol) 

The RPC, in general, has a huge issue with entitlement that has become suddenly really severe this year. People aren’t bullies or elitist because they don’t want to roleplay with people. People aren’t bullies or elitist if they say ‘you know, it’s great you’re here and I hope you’re having fun but I don’t see how our muses would interact since our interpretations of canon are too different’. People don’t owe you shit. You are responsible for your own entertainment and good online time. People don’t wanna play with you? Shit happens, they’re not worth your time anyway. Go find other people you wanna play with. But instead, people like to throw around things like ‘you’re racist/misogynistic/homophobic if you don’t play with my muse/this muse’. If they don’t play with your muse because of those reasons, they’re shitty and not worth your time anyway. But don’t shame people into playing with a muse they’re not interested in or aren’t compatible with because they’re afraid of callouts or anon hate or sabotage? Always fact-check, especially here. Even if it’s what you want to hear. Look if those claims are true. Don’t believe just anything, that shouldn’t be such a wild concept? Also: You shouldn’t have to put your own discomfort aside so that nobody gets their feelings hurt.

We’re roleplayers. We play a role. Not everything is super clean and PC (especially Kingsman, ESPECIALLY KINGSMAN). If we can’t make the difference between mun and muse and think that playing some problematic aspect of a muse means agreeing with it, we’re not better than fans threatening Lena Head/ey because she plays Cer/sei. (And no, I’m not talking about paedophilia or rape or anything like that. That’s a whole different matter that I won’t talk about.) This puts it best: You can round the edges off a character to make them more “relatable” or whatever, but you also run the risk of losing what defined them in the first place. The end result is bland and generic [and] a reflection of modern society’s rejection of real character flaws in the interest of being “unproblematic”.

Last thing I’m gonna say: You were all so very mad about tumblr’s upload filter. Now imagine it not only on tumblr, but on the entire internet. Haven’t seen so many people mad about that, I guess, but what does it matter if it impacts your ability to reblog a porn gif. More important than losing creativity and free speech, I guess. But hey, you do you. Just stop pretending you care about people’s livelihood.

[shikuchi-blog1]

oh boy i havent done one of these in a WHILE !  time to ramble & hope for the best.

blah blah hey its ya boi andy here with a whole bias list !!! DANG !! okay so like ??? im surprised that i hit 100 already honestly !! i admit, i'm used to hitting that Hundred(tm) mark pretty quick as i'm usually in bigger communities but in one that's as small as go.rillaz & with a character thats so common ?? i'm shook ! noodl.e has been one of my most productive & strongest muses yet. i'm surprised that ive been so on top of things lately when i've been busy with school & my usual muses die down within two to three weeks. but we're just about to hit that 1 month mark and she's still kicking which is absolutely fantastic. i've had a blast with the friends i joined this community with & with the people i've spoken to along the way. now that we're talking about them , let's start the part everybody actually cares about !!

M'HOMBOS  .  SHORT  /  people ive been talking to often OOC & who i consider friends ! check the bottom for the sappy shit because i RAMBLED abt these 4.

@bassled   /   @fractzure   /   @igninecari   /   @twodented

HEART EYES  .   /   ppl i've spoken to / thread with but i want to get to know better ! ( aka hmu whenever u want bleas ,,,, )

im also throwing m'boos in here that i didnt talk abt bc we dont interact as much on this blog or some other reasons

@nuorii  /  @reallyblah  /  @blackfiire  /  @russeld  /  @kaboooms  /  @wondcrkid  /  @appxssionato  /  @airfcil  /  @riffrcffed  /  @solhearts  /  @iimpious

EYES EMOJI x 100  .   /   people who i've hardly spoken to if at all but would like to eventually interact with more !

@leggystu  /  @bubberu  /  @littlebadger  /  @crackerpaula  /  @starwished  /  @endangcred  /   @cinderella-esque  /  @wargod  /  @teenghcst  /  @halfpact  /  @tankbitch  /  @dirvnitas  /  @gangguro  /  @kitanosuzume  /  @toriiel  /  @scaramouchc  /  @candieds

M'HOMBOS  .  LONG   /   under the cut because i wanna RAMBLE.

@bassled  .

I LOVE REN SM. she's literally my best friend i've known her for about 6-7 years & she's absolutely fantastic ok this entire fuckin bias list could be just her but im gonna try not to write an essay on how much i love her. she's been there for me for so long & the fact that she isnt tired of my petty ass yet deserves a damn award. i admire her a lot. this dude goes through so much shit irl and i'm amazed that she's still doing as well as she is, even if she doesnt realize it. if i was in her position i wouldn't even be writing let alone doing everything that she does. & boy her m.urdoc ?? is so good ?? i love him sm and its not me being biased BELIEVE ME WHEN I SAY her muds is so fuckin good. ren isnt the most active, sure, but whenever she is i always stop to read her posts because i just !!!! love her sm !!!! she makes murd.oc realistic & makes him more human. she doesnt just focus on him being abusive or an asshole or gross but she definitely doesn't dismiss it either. she's so good at analyzing every little movement he does and turning it into something more and i just !!!! if i keep going this gonna go on for years just know that i love ren a lot :^}

@fractzure  . 

squidy's ugly ok moving on

JK FJKH no but actually !! ive known squidy for a hot minute too. we've been friends for a good few years now ( met on a .... fucgkign minec.raft server................. ) and i love them sm !!! every call that we have inevitably turns into a shitfest where we're wheezing our asses off. i may get on their ass every second & try to roast them for every little thing but its mostly because i just love their reactions and i love talking to them in general ??? and im petty but we're not talking abt that rn LMAO. but yea squidys such a fun person to hang out with & i appreciate talking to them lots !! and even though theyre not the most active either, i love what they have of their 2.D so far and i cant wait to see more of him once summer starts because i really like squidy's writing and im suuuper excited for that. also theyre making a russ.el probably and im.... so gay...... our thread rn is cute af and we gotta talk more abt them Um Squidy Hmu Bit.

on a final note; Ooga My Booga Is A Social Construct.

@igninecari  . 

i love !!! bones !!!! i havent known them for long, only a few months maybe, but talking to them every day has been a blast and our convos are usually filled with Chaotic Plotting and us talking over each other and its just. Gr8. we originally met on our a.va's dem.on blogs and i remember loving her m.aggie so fuckin much dude everything she said abt her was so !!! dang !!! good !!!! and even now with her emb.er & her ecla.ir i can see how much care & thought she puts into all of her muses. dude even thinks into their family and develops those characters which makes everything SO MUCH MORE REALISTIC. her writing is a joy to read also ?? its so pretty i love how she describes everything and i love all of the little references she sticks into her descriptions that fit her characters perfectly. im glad i dragged them into g.orillaz hell w/ me because we've got such a good thing going on w/ em & noods it makes me so happy !! also callout for bones WE GOTTA THREAD SMTH ASAP OR IM SPAMMING ASKS

@twodented  .

KIT IS AN ANGEL. i've only actually spoken her for maybe ??? two ?? three weeks ??? but we hit it off super quick and shes such a nice & supportive person ! i believe we first followed each other on our a.vas d.emon blogs but, seeing as we were both the same character, we never really approached each other 'til joining g.orillaz. i am so glad we actually started talking bc BOI !!!! I LOVE HER !!! she's so fun to talk to & to plot with. we'll just throw lil concepts at each other every once in a while and its Gr8. and !! her 2.d is so fuckin spot on let me tell u she's one of the ppl that, when i see her on the dash, i stop and read her writing even if it isnt for me because im so gay for her writing style. its so descriptive and eloquent and i love the way she formats ! i feel like she does his dialogue perfectly every time because its never been hard to understand for me but it still reads in his voice in my head which is (ok emoji x20). her hcs are a joy to read & i just !!! dont get me started on what we've talked about for 2.d and noodle im SO FUCKIN HEART-EYES FOR REALLY CLOSE PLATONIC RELATIONSHIPS AND THEY GOT ME SO EXCITED TO REPLY TO EVERYTHING ?????? PLATONIC 2N.U IS MY SHIT.  tl;dr i love kit & i love kits 2.d sm,,,,,

[fair-fae]

You know, I'm not a drama person, I don't like it, but it came up on my dash so much that I kind of had to read it. All of that nonsense could've been avoided if you didn't even take it to the public. Judging people for THEIR characters that THEY made and can do WHATEVER the hell they want with them? Oh woo ho good job, you're so popular for taking the "barrage" of it. No. all it did was prove that you're a D-bag and I've got a nice, long list of people to block now and avoid contact with.

Okay, anon. I haven’t bothered setting the record straight with most of this shit, because I know folks like you will continue to believe what you want to believe and hear what you want to hear, just like you’re doing now. But I’ll bite. You’d think all of you getting onto your soapbox about how you shouldn’t judge or attack others wouldn’t keep talking shit about a situation you know nothing about and/or are terribly misinformed about. So I’ll enlighten you with what actually happened.

A while back, the person in question got into an argument with some people on the RPC, trying to tell them that their interpretation of the lore was wrong. Rather than leaving it at that, when he effectively got shut down there, he proceeded to take a screenshot of the conversation and post it on his tumblr, complete with a rant about the people who disagreed with him, their opinions are so wrong and awful, how dare they disagree with him, etc. essentially playing the victim when he was the one to try to badger them for their opinions in the first place. He also left their names, icons, signatures, etc. in full view.I responded and told him he probably shouldn’t be trying to harass any other people about the lore considering his own character concept (thus, you would think, making my opinion on his character pretty clear). Why? Because it’s fucking true.I don’t give a shit about the lore or whether anyone follows it. Probably every single one of my own characters at least bends the lore. But at least have the self-awareness and respect for your fellow role-players to say “yeah, my character breaks the lore” or not get your jimmies rustled every time someone says “oh, yeah, his character is lore breaking.” You wanna break the lore? Cool. Own up to it. And if you do break the lore, don’t try to force everyone else into following it–especially when you can’t even admit you break lore and instead stretch the lore to try so hard to justify your entirely lore-breaking character concept. Don’t try to heckle people for presumably doing what you do but won’t admit. Granted, these people weren’t even breaking lore anyway, which makes his insistence that they were even more ridiculous.So after some excuses about how he was trying to start some intellectual discussion or something and not just drag these people despite featuring their identities and primarily just complaining about them throughout the post, he admitted he should have at least edited out their names and apologized. Great! You’d think that should be the end of it. I didn’t have anything against him at that point, but also had no desire/reason to associate with him, so I didn’t. A couple months go by. Some post comes across my dash. A girl in the community is doxxing her online ex-boyfriend in a callout post about him for unexpectedly breaking up with her because she “thinks” he was lying to her about serious issues and “believes” he was cheating on her. Because I’m a loud and opinionated person, and because that’s some heinous thing to do, I spoke out against it (via a post on my own blog without naming names, mind you, because I’m not going to hijack someone else’s post with negativity or call them out by name). The girl found it, assumed it was about herself, flipped out, and then of course I was the bad guy for saying doxxing isn’t okay. And then the person in question joins in. Not even to discuss the topic at hand, but to dredge up the old drama about how I was so mean to him and he did nothing wrong, etc. A pretty crappy 180 turn for a person who apologized and made it seem like there were no hard feelings, but whatever. Someone saw that he obviously didn’t like me, and seized the chance to try to talk shit and spread rumors because they knew he’d give them the platform. They sent him some anon about how I hate women (lmao). And of course, he published it, with no skepticism or disagreement, only more commentary about how I’m mean and awful. I went to respond, only to find myself blocked. So I went on about my life because it’s not that big of a deal, but hey. The moment you talk shit about me, especially in a venue where I can’t respond, especially facilitating some lies and BS rumors, especially after leading me to believe we’d made amends–you aren’t off limits. You don’t get spared niceness and politeness. Is that mean and petty? Probably.¯\_(ツ)_/¯ I’ve never claimed to be a nice person.Now, to the horrible, awful thing I did to make this “public.” Fast forward to yesterday. I’d kept my mouth shut and left him alone. In a section of the RPC that doesn’t get a ton of traffic, largely because you have to make an account on the website and then manually opt in to this specific forum, several of us were discussing an absolutely awful person which is an unrelated story I won’t get into. Someone asked something along the lines of, “Are you guys talking about Underaged Looking Allagan Voidsent Chimera Demon Guy?” I responded with basically “No, we’re not talking about Underaged Looking Allagan Voidsent Chimera Demon Guy.” And that was it. We moved on with the conversation because he wasn’t who we’d been talking about. His name, tumblr, server info, in game race, class, etc. was all never given. No identifiable information beyond a very brief and tongue-in-cheek description of his RP character comprised of words taken directly from his own wiki, tumblr info, talk of his own character and RP posts.Someone saw the conversation, and based on our intentionally shitty description, was able to accurately guess who we were talking about and send him an anon to tell him about it. You’d think that would be pretty telling about his own RP, and this anon’s interpretation of it. He answered the anon in a long rant about me that featured both my in game name and my tumblr handle. In case you need me to spell this out for you, he went public with it first. I’ll also remind you that I was blocked, so I wasn’t/couldn’t be following him, and I was not properly @tagged in this rant, so I never would have seen it unless someone told/linked me, or someone I follow eventually reblogged it. And I honestly can’t imagine the level of narcissism it takes to write a long personal post full of wangst and victim-playing every time you hear a person had something negative to say about you or your RP character (not even by name–and by picking words from his own descriptions of his character), especially a person you have had issues with in the past and who you openly shit-talked yourself prior. Who does that? Lord knows my blog would be overflowing. Not everyone will like you, especially not people you jabbed at first. Especially not with an off the wall RP concept. Especially not with you trying to pass that concept is lore abiding and just “unusual.” Especially not with you trying to tell other people they’re “wrong” about the lore. Especially not with your character being a squicky, walking fetish and immortal jailbait. And that’s not even touching other things people have told me about this person that rubbed them the wrong way. Move on with your life.However, I found out about the post thanks to the OP himself when he unblocked me just to send me the link to the post and then before I could even read/respond to the post, sent me a barrage of IM’s still playing the innocent victim which is grating enough on its own but also included him straight up lying about ever posting/saying anything about me, insisting he’d done nothing to me, had nothing against me, this was so out of the blue and uncalled for, etc. When I pointed out this wasn’t the case, that I had seen and read the posts firsthand because blocking me doesn’t prevent me from seeing his posts, he began to lie instead about the contents of said posts and pulled some gaslighting bullshit about how I had just “misread” them, all the while either willfully or coincidentally not seeming to understand anything I said to him (I mentioned him publishing the anon about how I hate women at least twice and the response was always “I never said you hate women!!” Well no shit). He kept insisting that I had “gone behind his back” and that if I had a problem I should “say it to his face” despite the fact he’d had me blocked and that I’m not a douchey enough person to try to contact him despite that, and despite the fact that he had “gone behind my back” and not “said it to my face” twice now prior, and had done just that with his post about the folks from the RPC as well.He also insisted that the tumblr post was meant just to innocently “bring the issue to my attention to clear things up” despite me having no way to see it on my own unless by coincidence, and despite him proving to be willing and able to send me IM’s instead, which you’d think could render the need for a public post moot. When I pointed this out, he promptly deleted the post, lest anyone else see through his bullshit to what he was really trying to do.After my initial response to his wall of IM’s, he sent another wall this time with more insults and accusations, and promptly blocked me so I couldn’t respond. So yes, I made a vaguepost, I know, how awful, how dare I. A vague post vague enough that only someone who had seen his post, or who heard about it from him otherwise, would know who and what it was referencing. Until he responded to it himself, that is and unblocked me again to send me more angry messages to which I responded by permanently blocking him instead because this game of blocking and unblocking sure was getting old.Cue his charming friends sweeping in to tell me to eat a dick, making false accusations against my RP partner and I, sending me threats on Discord, telling people I flashed my breasts for money, etc. And the other person? The one who brought him up in the first place who I had only been responding to? Whose name he was given, was aired in the same public post on his blog as mine? As far as I know, she hasn’t gotten any hate, probably not a single message. And I’m glad, because she shouldn’t get any, she doesn’t deserve it. But at the same time, sure seems sketchy that the person who did the same exact thing as me–and who did it first–has not provoked anyone’s ire, not even been messaged. The public post in reply to the anon who named her, even, was aimed 100% at me. Now isn’t that funny. It’s almost like this was an excuse for people who already had beef with me to try to take shots at me and pretend it was justified. It’s almost like all you anon keyboard warriors don’t even know how this started or what actually happened.And now I’m going to talk about something else. You cannot do “whatever the hell you want” with your character. RP is a two-way (or more) street. There is a real person behind each and every character. These people are looking for fun just like you, and are every bit as deserving, and your fun shouldn’t impede on theirs. We are all allowed equal parts of fun.So when people play their weird ass lolicon/shotacon/pedobait characters, who is having fun? What if the other person in the RP was sexually abused as a child and you’re dredging up terrible old memories for them and making light of their pain? What if they’re a parent worried for their child, or worse, the parent of a child who’s already been abused? What if they’re an actual pedophile and seeing you RP this is tempting them, making them think they’re desires are normal and okay? Hell, what if they’re a goddamn ordinary person who finds it creepy and uncomfortable?What if the fetishized, futa ERP avatar is interacting with someone who is trans or nonbinary or intersex IRL? What if it’s triggering them (in the genuine, real sense of the word)? What if the walking affront against the lore character talking about being an Voidsent Half-Primal Garlean Spy in the middle of the Quicksand is ruining everyone’s immersion–particularly when they refuse to play along as others respond realistically IC and try to kill them or arrest them or kick them out? What if the OP af infinitely-stronger-than-everyone-else-around-him character is making the RP unfun for every other RPer involved because their characters can’t do anything but get beaten up or bow to his whims unless they stoop to godmodding or suddenly beefing up their own character?People can and will judge your character. Those judgments are usually best left kept themselves or quietly shared between trustworthy friends. But when your character trespasses on the OOC fun of the role-players around you? Sorry, my guy, people have every right to speak up. And all this nonsense? All this nonsense was a small handful of people who were already pretty nasty showing their true colors and getting told to pipe the fuck down. A pretty good outcome, if you ask me. So, please, block me, anon. My life will be better without idiots like you in it, and the same probably goes for anyone else you intend to block. Your nameless, ignorant, anonymous presence will not be missed–or noticed, for that matter.

[stolenbythegods]

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salty af munday meme | Accepting

☠ What does someone have to do for an instant unfollow from you?

Oh boy, this might get lengthier than intended.

1. Send hate. There’s no need for it, at all. Don’t be rude, don’t be a dick. Just block them and move tf on. 

2. In relation to above, don’t blog shit about somebody just because you dislike them. You have personal drama with them? Cool, okay, I get that. But i don’t wanna see posts like “I hate _____ they’re so shitty”. And really, unless they’ve been blatantly problematic, don’t get mad at other people for interacting with them either. Your personal drama isn’t going to dictate who I RP with, and unless you can give me hard evidence that this person is really shitty and it would be in my best interests that I don’t interact with them, I’m not gonna let your arguments affect my RP experience. 

3. Try to censor people in what they RP by means of slander, callout posts, sending hate etc. This is something I saw happen a couple of months ago where a callout post crossed my dash about this one blog because it had darker themes on it. Rape, abuse, incest, underage (and by underage, I mean 16 - 17. Which isn’t underage from my standpoint because I’m from the UK and the legal age of consent is 16 here. I know it’s gross to a lot of people but hey, cultural differences). Basically a blog that had a lot of horrible themes on it. BUT. I looked at this blog, and all the threads were tagged with the appropriate trigger warnings, the blogs rules STATED that this sort of content would be present on the blog, and that the mun did not support any of the themes explored on the blog. And yet there it was, some person took offence and fucking made a callout post saying the person was horrible and supported rape and pedophilia (which is wrong by definition, but semantics and all that). Really pissed me off tbh. Because with how much stuff was tagged and the warnings that were in place, victims of these things should’ve been able to easily avoid the content of that blog. In my opinion, that blog didn’t deserve that treatment. Just… if they don’t support it, tag the triggers and have warnings, leave them be. Let people write what they want to write ffs. 

4. Post too much politics. For me, roleplay is an escape. If I wanted to see posts about the shitty things going on in the world, I’d go on my personal blog. But I don’t. I understand the occasional bit of news, but if you’re posting shit daily, I’m gonna have to unfollow you. It stresses me out and is the best way to make me spiral down into despair. 

5. And finally, and sort of in relation to above… posting too much untagged negativity. I have posted negativity here, but I tag it. And if it’s a long rant, I’ll put it under a read more. But even then, if it’s really dark stuff, I don’t post it here, I post it to my diary blog. My reasons for that are because, like I said, this is an escape for me, and I know it is for others too. Reading negativity can drag me down, and I can get really, really bad. That’s why I tag it; so my followers can blacklist it if they want and avoid it. And i prefer the people i follow do it too, for the same reasons. 

This got long, i’m sorry, but I have a lotta salt lmao.