#i will never understand

[jimpagne]

It’s funny because literally right after I posted this you have like five new photos leaked and being spread across Twitter like it’s nothing… Makes me feel like I’m going crazy ngl

How Not to be a Cultist: a 4-Step Guide

Following the discharge of both Jimin and Jungkook, I've noticed that a lot of people on both this platform and others have been exhibiting behavior akin to the 'cultists'. I've actually seen a lot of Jikookers point out this behavior as problematic, but other Jikookers get entirely defensive, saying that they could never be the degree of crazy that the 'cultists' are.

Well, they had to start from somewhere... and they probably didn't have anyone within their circles telling them to stop doing problematic behavior. So my only question is, why? Why push back against people within your community trying to stop you from crossing boundaries?

Don't share photos of private and/or non-scheduled moments. For those who may be confused, non-scheduled means events in which were not approved or disclosed for fans. Taking pictures of BTS at a concert or taking pics with them after asking permission to? Totally okay. Taking pictures of BTS when they're walking home at night or going to the airport for a private trip? Not okay. In order to know where they were going to be, most of these people would have had to have bought information regarding them, and by sharing these photos you're only telling these stalkers that you directly support what they're doing. Of course, not every person who accidentally stumbles across them is a stalker, but there are signs that they could be (aka bringing a professional camera, carrying merchandise like albums to be signed, or somehow coincidentally 'bumping' into these people a few too many times in densely populated areas). Some people might sit here and tell me that they missed them so bad... but you are still engaging in a form of stalking. I don't care if it's a way to 'prove your point', the only thing that you have proved to me is that you have 0 boundaries for two very real people and their overall safety. We shouldn't be using leaked photos of other human beings as a 'gotcha' moment to people we dislike. Also, stop looking for their relatives... it's fucking weird. Unless they themselves have a decent social media presence, do not go looking for them. These are people trying to live their lives, and I don't think they appreciate being stalked just for information about a 'ship' that their kin could be part of.

Take every speculation with a MASSIVE grain of salt. Every whisper or speculation should not be taken at face value, and should instead be treated as untrue until proven otherwise, usually by the boys themselves or from the company. For example, when people were talking about where Jikook was, I personally felt like it was a little ridiculous at times how easily people within this community believed the words of these faceless people. Unfortunately, people dropped both photos and videos of Jimin and Jungkook to prove what they said, but at the same time, you should be treating the words of the eye witnesses like their words are maybe... 20-30% possible. Don't take a narrative and run with it, that's what causes cult-like behavior and promoted delusions.

Think critically, make room for doubts. At the end of the day, the idea of Jimin and Jungkook being a couple is still speculative. Many people on here like to say that they personally think that they're real -- which isn't inherently a problem, but I think it's still important to remind ourselves that all of this is just a big guessing game, and nothing has been 100% confirmed. With that being said, another issue that recently came about was the analysis of the room in which Jimin and Jungkook shot their Killin' It Girl dance cover in, some people zeroing in on the exact location and speculating about the room that they might've stayed in. Not only is that incredibly dangerous, but people immediately began stating that it was a hotel specifically for couples or for weddings. I had this issue when it came to people making posts about the hotel they stayed at in GCF in Tokyo, and I would like to remind everyone that just because a hotel markets themselves as being good for couples does not necessarily make it a couple-exclusive space. For example, LOTTE WORLD in Korea is often promoted as a place for couples, but also it is heavily frequented by children and singles alike. Thinking critically about these kind of things can save you from completely jumping into the deep end and making speculations that can actually be more harmful to you, the community, and the boys at hand. Also important to note: Just because someone is Korean does not make them 100% right. Koreans might have a better cultural and linguistic understanding of certain events, but that does not immediately make everything that they say 100% credible. They're still people too, and we've seen stuff in the media pushed by K-netizens that are simply not true.

When you make theories, don't commit to them fully. This ties a little into what I said above... I think it's normal for humans to want to make connections -- after all, it's in our nature. However, some people make theories and then they immediately try to promote them as facts. You can make a theory post, but try to incorporate more language that could suggest doubt or uncertainty. After all, a theory is a theory, not a proven fact. When I made a theory post about Jungkook's tattoos, I made sure to repeat multiple times that I wasn't sure if any of this could hold actual meaning, and I also proposed certain details that poked holes in the theory entirely. This is important. I saw people just flat out state that Jungkook was the one who wrote the caption on Jimin's Instagram post just because he used the '~' in it. As someone who has a relatively high level in the Korean language, I can tell you that using '~' is very common and not just a quirk exclusive to Jungkook. Jimin has even used it in the past before. I think it would be better to maybe write it like: "Jungkook uses this a lot, and I don't think it's entirely crazy to maybe think that he could've wrote it, but again, it's a common writing trait in Korean, so I could be entirely wrong." This type of wording is better than putting ALL of your eggs into one basket and then immediately stating it as the truth.

But yes, these are things that I think you should be incredibly cautious about so this community doesn't delve straight into the deep end and end up like 'the cult'.

[thecoffeelorian]

i woke up and chose angst...

[eddiebuckley-diaz]

The cast when eggs was right:

[coldtortelloni]

working retail

[buddieroommatesera]

I am sorry (not sorry) but everyone who still wants B*ckTommy to happen genuine does not give a shit about this character and what they represents. Not only is it established that Buck is using him, and Tommy is aware, he also knows he’s a second choice. There’s no self respect there. How’s is that a character to root for? The ship is dead. There are no feelings there, but T*mmy was willing to go along with it because now Eddie was out of the way and Buck is lonely. A+ characterization.

[maple-seed]

*deep inhale*

fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuck

[thequeendomeffect-noah]

The WE alts are getting weekly scheduled shows again, the new UK Tour alts are getting alt costumes, nature is healing.

[ohnoitsthebat]

Why are people unnecessarily rude and cruel?

[rawliverandgoronspice]

me everytime anyone on youtube begins their take about totk saying it's "one of the best stories in the franchise"

[dollypopup]

i just. . .I just love everything about Colin Bridgerton and I can't stop. I love how heartfelt he is, I love how he makes others comfortable around him, I love how he fidgets, how he gestures, his quips and all his looks. How you can read an entire story just looking at his expressions and how he keeps so much under wraps. I love that he's buttoned up and everything proper on the surface whilst he breaks almost all the rules. I love how he told Penelope she doesn't count as someone he could give up because he cares about her, that she's his friend. How open his friendship with her is in an era where people insist that can't happen, when women aren't valued much at all (save for in a sexual sense) by most men. I love how he has a genuine friendship with her and cares about what she thinks, that he doesn't objectify her or pity her. I love how clearly he respects the women in his life. I love how he always listens to Penelope's insight and opinions, that he adores his mum and jokes around with her, that he played matchmaker for Anthony and Kate at Pall Mall, that he was clearly concerned for Edwina during the wedding. That he looks out for his littlest siblings and snarks with Eloise. That he's Daphne's favorite and how he always tried to ease Marina in S1. That the worst thing he's said about a woman in the entire series has been to call her 'cruel'. I love that he's lefthanded and that he's great with kids. I love that he loves love. I love that he's a flirt but also that he's not a fuckboi. I love that he's a hopeless romantic, that he talks about Leander going to see his love each night under the cover of darkness and has to be reminded that Leander drowned. I love that he doesn't often think ahead, that he runs in with his heart in his hands and a plan held together with a lick and promise and a bit of hope. I love that he loves yellow, that he's light and cheerful even when he knows heartache, even when he's sad. I love that he hides. I love that he says the wrong thing and I love that his charming demeanor hides so much beneath it. I love how he researches and dives into Greek mythology. I love that he's curious. I love his friendship with Will and Phillip, I love how he pushes back against Anthony's misogyny and that he hugs up on Benedict and encourages him. I love his integrity and nonsense. I love that he can't stop snacking and that he takes people at their word. I love how he trusts and how he loves others.

I love his mischief and his spontaneity, I love that he always wants to make things right. I love how he knows how to properly apologize and I love when he doesn't. I love all his triumphs and all his fuck ups. I love how he tries. I love that he never stops trying. I love that his character is one people need to dig into to truly understand and appreciate. I love rewatching his scenes and noticing something new each time. I love his hero complex and his cowardice, I love how he runs and when he stays. I love that he was shorter than all his brothers and sisters as a kid and that he's the tallest when he's grown. I love how he teases, I love how he uplifts, I love his passions and his insecurity, his concerns and his celebrations, when he's out of his depth and when he's at ease. I love how he changes depending on who he's around and how we have to read him to see where he's being most genuine. I love that he has facets. I love that those facets aren't obvious. I love the surface level of him and all the depths.

I love everything about Colin Bridgerton.

[silver-rings-and-rabbits]

Jeffrey clearly didn’t

[cowardlydcg]

It's been 3 years and I still don't understand why Henry was sent on the Passage ways retreat.

We know Raf got involved because of his girlfriend's fam and legal trouble. We can assume that Scotty and Bo also got involved with Passageways due to their own legal issues what with breaking and entering and vandalizing Scotty's old childhood home.

We know Josh's parents paid to send him on the trip so that he could learn some grit.

We know that Seth was sent because Gretchen posed as a therapist or whatever and recruited him directly for the project the same way she manipulated and recruited Nora.

One would think that Ivan and Kirin were recruited due to their expulsion, except for the fact that Kirin was wearing his sports uniform in his intro vid which suggests that the boys were chosen prior to the incidents with one another and the coach. Maybe they were suggested by a guidance counselor or something? Would've liked to learn more there too, but I can also just brush it off as a continuity error as the vids were only meant to give us a crash course into the boys personalities.

But then Henry is really truly an enigma to me. We're told via Seth that Henry's sad boy schtick is what landed him on the trip, we know his mom didn't approve of his septum piercing, and later in the season Seth mentions the things that Henry says and does scare her and that's why she sent him on the trip. But what Henry says and does on the island, and the short appearance we got of him in Seth's flashback is hardly, in my opinion, worrying enough behavior to warrant sending your kid on what is essentially pitched to various parents as "wilderness therapy" based on the scene in season 1 we get of Leah's parents and Gretchen discussing Leah's progress.

So like what happened to Henry? What did Henry do that scared his mom so bad she felt wilderness therapy would do the trick for him?

[thecoffeelorian]

Just made myself miserable again about Crosshair getting his mind messed with in the Bad Batch pilot...and literally nobody ever learns about it in the end, because they're too busy having fun outside of Kamino and telling him how rotten he is until the last minute.

*sigh*

Anyways, expect a meme about this tomorrow, because I'm too tired to go into any more details today. Coffee out.

[loveblindaddict]

[each-uisge-and-glashtyn]

I'm sorry, but if you're gonna put proship dni in your bio, I'm gonna need you to only have the most pure, non-questionable content on your profile.

Saying proship dni and then making dmmd and pmmm merch is like putting on clown makeup and then declaring circuses should be banned. Girl, you belong there too.

[sapphicsnzs]

why does my cat smell so good?