#it makes me so so anxious and insecure
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I’m feeling quite sad about how much the active bts fandom on tumblr has shrunk and/ or how selective the community has become regarding content interaction. I’ve heard people pointing out a clique-building here lately, and while I’m well aware of closer mutual circles existing – and I can only speak on behalf of my friend group here – these pretty much develop naturally when there’s just no one else who reacts, reblogs from and talks to you anymore except for these handful of people. I don’t like that some people perceive these “cliques” as “exclusive”, for example to content creators only. that’s bullshit; it’s certainly not great to have only other cc’s support your work because they personally know how much time and effort it takes. also, knowing how lovely most of these people are, you’d get immediately followed back and showered with love too as soon as you’d even show a speckle of kindness on a regular basis, regardless of whether you make gifs yourself or not. ccs dedicating sets to each other isn’t a sign of exclusivity, but rather us holding onto and appreciating people who still give us at least some motivation to create and post in the first place anymore, because there’s quite literally no one else left by now.
#this is rather general so I’m putting more personal thoughts in the tags here#I really don’t feel like creating anymore :(#like I genuinely only post for birthdays or gifts cause I see no point in anything else anymore#at least that one person will care you know#I don’t post that much anymore but when I do I put so much love and effort into it#and it never feels good to click that post button anymore#also.#man it fucking stings to realise that people who follow you definitely scrolled past your own post#cause they reblogged sth from you that you posted before your self reblog#it makes me so so anxious and insecure#I’ve been pressuring myself to post so much only to be met with dismissiveness when I do#that doesn’t feel great in the slightest#I said a while ago that I don’t want to take a break and that I want to keep creating#but the disappointment lately was pretty drastic#I’ve been at this point several times before so it’ll probably pass again#but it’ll never not suck to see your days of work and creativity be ignored#it feels once again pointless to try to make original things#should just stick to 10 gifs of the same clip#or shirtless tannie gifs#it’ll get me the exact same recognition if not three to five times more#and takes so much less time
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It has been requested (@awfullybigwardrobe44 💛) that I provide an update on How Things Are Going With The Young Man, and there’s so much I could say that it all kind of cancels itself out (I’ve been journaling like a madwoman lately), but yes, I think things are going well. I still can't believe any of this is happening, I am not the kind of person that this kind of stuff is supposed to happen to 😆 We have gone on several more dates, one of them a day-long fishing trip, and it’s been lovely and I just think he's delightful and I really like being with him. I still have a lot of shyness to overcome, but considering how intensely terrified I used to be of him I think I’ve made excellent progress 😆 I’ve seen less of him lately because he’s extremely busy with work and especially school but we text a lot and this weekend we’re planning to go to dinner and then the symphony after that (I bought the tickets and I can tell it's driving him nuts that I finally paid for something myself but ahaha it's too late there's nothing he can do about it now) 😊
#if you could pray that he’s able to focus and get everything done that he needs to while still hopefully taking decent care of himself#and if you could pray for me#this is all bringing up or maybe just intensifying a staggering amount of sadness and insecurity for me#i always thought falling in love (if that’s what i’m doing and i suspect it might be) would be a light bouncy thing#but it’s not it’s so heavy#and maybe that’s mainly the anxiety i’m anxious about so many things most of them stupid#i’m so much less scared of heartbreak (although make no mistake i’m very scared of that) than i am of awkwardness and embarrassment 😆#also i think he's much better looking than me and it makes me legitimately sad sometimes#i would feel so much better if he was ugly darn it 😆#anyway i’ll end this tag monologue with some fun details:#we have this thing where i call him young man (because again he is somehow six years younger than me)#and he calls me little lady which i think i’d hate from anyone else but from him it’s cute#i finally beat him at cribbage once#and when i asked him suspiciously if he’d let me win he said emphatically that he would never let anyone win at cribbage#he can rant beautifully about the dumbest silliest things (xylophones and hang-gliders and chipotle being a few examples)#i’ve borrowed his coat twice and snuck a little note into a pocket each time but i want to get weirder with it if i ever borrow it again#so i got a worm on a string and a few weird little etsy trinkets#(ladybug magnets and a minuscule framed print of a horse and a figurine of a frog wearing a cowboy hat)#i am taking suggestions for other things i could sneak in there
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Zachariah torturing Dean:
5x03
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Zachariah torturing Jack:
13x14
(Script 13x14 via @spnscripthunt-inactive)
#jack and dean#zachariah's recruitment tactics#another little nugget of a parallel#zachariah can't break jack or dean#jack specifically picks up on the game immediately#spn 5x03#spn 13x14#spn the end#spn good intentions#jack's deepest insecurities were his earth dads burning to death in the bunker#and his authority figure aligning against humanity#but jack turned against his fake heaven father's fake authority :-)#just as dean in the end rejected what he saw and balked at zach's authority#this is deeply in parallel to dean's insecurities of losing his family 4x17 and then in the end 5x03 of becoming a nihilistic john#plus dean's fears of bobby's weakness/death and of cas becoming like dean while dean becomes like john and sam becomes like lucifer...#dean was also anxious that cas made a choice and got STUCK with them: we see zach!cas say wistful things about heaven being a *better club*#in some ways i feel like the rejection of cas-as-dean is a bit a rejection of his siren nick in 4x14 which is ALSO a dean-doppelganger#it's a growth of realizing what you think you want isn't actually what you want and as you grow up you look outside yourself#and learn to see people as they are and not simply as reflections of yourself or a mix of all things familiar in your life#ANYHOO#i just love that zach's mind games are connected to two introspective characters who are full of heart i/g#in both cases zach's worlds are drawn to get the characters to make a specific decision - dean to give his body over and jack to open a doo#UNRELATED/// the end was one of the reasons that i thought perhaps dean had fallen in love with cas subconsciously quite early#dean early ideas of love (1) familial (2) white picket fence (3) the siren which was a mix of all things safe/familiar john-dean-bobby-sam#on (3) dean thought perhaps that love meant being understood meant a coworker mean SOMEONE JUST LIKE ME#and cas confused him because cas is definitely not SOMEONE JUST LIKE ME#so when dean's brain tries that out? tries to label that? tries to make cas JUST LIKE ME... it balks because that's not what love feels lik#dean's brain then settles on accepting how DIFFERENT cas is from him#ergo he doesn't want cas to change to meet the idea in dean's head or to be LIKE dean himself (esp not a smoky hedonistic caricature)#instead dean embraces how weird and scary an unexpected cas is as an individual... cause that's what love actually is it's RISKY and SCARY
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this is ridiculous of me but the more I see posts like "if you don't fw early dapg then you should probably just kys" the harder it is for me to do my required reading and actively watch their entire back catalogue because then it's stressful because what if I don't Get It and I'm a fake fan oesksjdjekl 😔😔😔😔😔😔😔 every time I try to watch old videos and I feel myself getting slightly bored I'm like oh fuck they were right about me it makes me so anxious 😭
#i know this literally doesn't matter it's by far my weirdest insecurity and i have so many fucking insecurities#a lot of the time i put early dapg on in the background when I'm doing something else lmao i can't actively watch it#it makes me anxious 😭#because what if i find it boring and prove everyone right about me ESKSHXHSJSJSKAK#i also know it's not serious but this really is such a hard fandom to get into as a new fan it's true and i do often feel insecure about it#for mentally ill reasons#ok I'll log out now before i lose another 10 followers#i know i just shouldn't take it personally it's fine for me to just vibe with what i vibe with im just unhinged#and ppl really do use such strong language about this I'm like 😭 please don't hate me ESGJJYDSGJLL
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#watching fandom drama play out when you're still mostly lurking in said fandom is a surreal experience#part of me is sort of relieved that i haven't been more active#would i have joined that server? would i have been one of the people they bullied?#i'm a mess of contradictions: i crave community but am terrible at all the things you need to cultivate it#i'm anxious and awkward and overthink every little interaction#but i've lucked out and found some really stellar fandom besties over the years who make me feel loved and accepted anyway#it takes a certain kind of bravery to put yourself out there online. a certain level of trust.#so for a group of people to actively choose to betray that trust in order to. what?#gain some imaginary amount of social clout? promote a fic? feed their own insecurities?#it's honestly beyond comprehension for me#i'm a relative nobody in this fandom so i'm not sure how much weight this will carry#but for what it's worth#having lurked here since last september#the broader community feels like it's a safe space. a space built on acceptance and love.#i've recently chatted with a few different people who have been nothing but lovely and i'm hoping that those conversations continue#and even though putting myself out there on discord feels like a nigh impossible ask atm#(did anyone else not know that secret channels were a thing? what in the supervillain hell!)#i'm gonna try my damnedest#fandom is bigger than one person. correction: one bully. bc that's what she is. a bully.#and i'm heartened that most everyone has rallied to show her and her cohort the door#to anyone affected by her bullshit. i love you and i'm so sorry and i hope you find a true safe space#ANYWAY#pass the what a year huh/lemon it's january meme#good omens
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bro, does everything have to remind me of Stucky 😭
#i'm not as strong as i appear#i'm way more anxious than i seem#under the table squeeze my hand#i need to know you understand#you told me you felt insecure#and that makes you no less of a man#it only made me love you more#like be so fucking for real 😭#and it being only piano?! 😭#Spotify#AND YOU FORGOT YOURSELF AND THAT'S OKAY#OPEN THE DOOR AND LET ME SEE
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guess who thought she was unattractive and unlovable for 32 years but now has a partner who likes me even though he knows I run an instagram-account for my plushies and have asymmetrical boobs
#noone wants to hear about straight men so I won't gush too much about him#but I'm really happy. and I just feel like even if this doesn't work out even if we're only together for a few months#having told someone all the things I'm anxious and ashamed and insecure about#and them being like 'cool I still like you' is still gonna be like. idk it makes me a lot more confident.#I guess I'm not an unlikeable gross monster after all
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#tag talk#cute chubby lizard guy ghosted me but I started chatting with two pretty cool guys (two is my max I can't juggle more)#idk how people keep multiple dms going at once. I get that it's optimal to have multiple options in case of flakes but it's hard#also if more than one person turns out really cool then I have to tell one of them I'm picking someone else? that just feels mean#but one of them is So Nice. I know I'm afraid of long term committed relationships but he's so so so nice#it's literally the first night of chatting but he's such a good talker. we've got a date scheduled in a few days and I'm..#cautiously optimistic. he just seems so cool.#it makes me choice easy. one guy is an alright chatter but pretty anxious and distant. and the other guy is an 11/10 so far#now I just have to not get anxious and insecure and fuck things up. like. what if he freaks out about my scars?#what if I switch too soon and get all distant? but hey. calm tf down you've literally known him for less than twelve hours.#take things as they come. don't be afraid to commit in the moment.#and if it ends in fire then it ends in fire. you gotta ride that road to the end to find out.#I'm just glad I'm committing to the search this early. instead of waffling around for months wishing but not committing#anyway. things are cooking. and possibly a relationship and not just a one night stand.#we'll see.
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was just saying to my friend that since my period is due next weekend I probably won't be able to hang out bc it'll be difficult to walk from my room to the bathroom let alone like. to the station anyway just suddenly became aware that the continuous cramps I get in this stage of my cycle have been slowly increasing in intensity the last few hours so we may be on course for a week earlier start than usual. locking down all defenses rn......🚨🚨🚨🚨
#i always try and mentally prepare for how much its gonna suck dick and balls but every time it actually starts im caught off guard#i hate being in agonising pain i dont wanna have to do it!!!!!#not as if anyone likes being in agonising pain anyway but still..... i mean if it does start tn that would definitely explain a lot#like the insane insecurity ive been having. and other symptoms. but it should be too early i didnt even ovulate that long ago#whatever man theres no rhyme or reason to it i should know that by now. the worst part is gonna be feeling alone when im in pain#well no its not the worst part is the pain but emotionally the loneliness is gonna wreck me i can never prepare enough for it#my problem is that i get extremely needy in pain it makes me feel like a fucking toddler. but i cant allow myself to be around ppl for#comfort and reassurance bc it gets so overwhelming im not able to maintain the usual rules n boundaries i have to follow#i mean im needy anyway all the time but at least i work hard to keep myself in check so i dont cross other ppls boundaries#losing that inhibition is just bad for everyone involved and really embarrassing for me so its easier to just suck it up and feel shite#and i get soooo tearful and easily upset over the stupidest shit like even if i can keep a lid on it and not throw myself at everyone#i get so jealous over other ppl being able to express themselves or getting comfort that i get fucking nauseous i cant be in the room#it makes me want to dieeee its dumb as fuck. anyway my point is. well i dont know what my point is actually#it might be best for me to skip next weeks plans anyway bc ill work myself into a fucking tizzy abt it in my post period exhaustion#i cant third wheel my friends while im in a state like that its too much. its hard enough third wheeling on a regular day anyway#like ok i get it u guys are much closer n have different boundaries w each other than u do w me. thats cool. please dont make me watch#when im feeling wretched and want things worse than normal. ugh anyway sorry ruminating again. i tried#just really anxious abt the pain properly starting but i know theres no avoiding it. oh well. ill take some painkillers in advance#i have some leather repair to work on and then i might draw a bit. and then back to cooking i have brisket slow cooking rn#so fingers crossed thatll take my mind off spiralling. sniffs pathetically#wait i need to go blind bake my tart lets start w that okayyy bye#.vent
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flippin boobahs!
#weezer#rivers cuomo#brian bell#patrick wilson#scott shriner#OKAH HI CHAT#i’ve been thinking#this tag will be just a rant not really weezer related#yk laufey ?#i was listening to her song ‘letter to my 13 year old self’ and just started overthinking about myself when i was younger#i just think about my younger self and get so sad thinking about her; i wish i could’ve done more for her#i was a huge introvert and talking to anybody made me super super anxious; so much so that my teacher noticed and had me join a ‘social#emotional learning’ group where we spoke about low self esteem and how to raise it and everything like that#i only left it in 8th grade because i didn’t wanna keep missing class for it; but it made me so sad to think i thought so low of myself#i would wear hoodies all the time and jeans because i used to hate my body a lot#which is awful to do in socal heat!#i think it started because in my family i was always stereotyped as the fat one; yk how mexican families are? they called me gordita for#the longest time; which made me incredibly insecure and only in 10th grade did i start showing my arms 😭 IK ITS DUMB BUT ITS SO WEIRD#i still can’t do it entirely; i’ll wear shrugs and things like that because i still am insecure about my arms sometimes but ive been better#i only really had one friend but she had a different lunch; so i was alone for most of the time on the swings by myself or sitting at the#lunch tables alone waiting for lunch to end and this noon duty came to me a lot and would talk to me since she felt bad i was always alone#while everybody else played with each other ; and i don’t know why i just broke down thinking about how lonely i was at the time#i’d go to the school’s friendship room everyday after that because it was just a teacher who let kids come inside her room to play games if#they didn’t wanna be in the heat and soon i became friends w the teacher and she’d play uno with me everyday; mainly because the room was#relatively empty until they got loom bands! and i was an expert on loom bracelets so i would help others make them and that was a confidenc#e boost; i remember being proud of myself for socializing like that LOL#i just get sad thinking about that time; i like to think that if little Lyss saw me; she would be so proud because i have friends;#a boyfriend ; good grades ; and i’m well liked and regarded. i hope she’s proud of my progress socially because it was such a leap#i wish i could go back in time and tell her how much better things get and how she won’t be lonely forever#…and to not online date. definetly don’t do that one.
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I literally don’t give a fuck about anything that anyone has to say about me anymore that isn’t positive because I’ve already accepted myself and that is the biggest relief I could ever ask for in life
#I’m simultaneously insecure and confident because there’s no such thing as being perfect#if there’s something I don’t like I’ll just fucking change it or do my best to improve the circumstances because I have free will#everyone has their own issues and problems so other people’s perception of me is not my responsibility#all that matters is that I like myself and continue to be brave even I’m anxious or afraid#I’ll be damned if I let a random person strike fear in me or make me feel less of myself cus who even are you…#personal#mindset#thoughts
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I freaking love your au and your latest comic because MAN
I FELT THOSE LAST WORDS AND I WAS LIKE "OH FUCK"
First panel was already a bit unsettling itself - like you get it's just intimate manners as you do as a couple but he felt so possessive already and
Sunny's inner thoughts
I'm sure 100% his abandonment anxiety will increase drastically the more he stays with nick and honestly slay
I mean it's kinda obvious
But like I felt that
Yeah
Nick is unhinged
Nick is crazy
Y'all are gay for him
Good 😵💥
Sunny has soooo many issues. So many of them. He's so vulnerable and he makes himself vulnerable to Nick while still being intimidated by him, it's... Dude's got some problems.
#ive talked about mental illness and nick before but not sunny...#well. only a bit. ive said sunny's autistic#but he's also got other problems-- such as abandonment issues as you said#sunny's very insecure in relationships - partly because he has a very limited experience with them#and partly because he has self image issues.#when you grow up as an undiagnosed autistic kid you tend to be very aware you're different while not knowing how to change it#everyone thinks and says you're weird but you have no idea what's weird about you so you can't even try to fit in#a friend of mine told me once that she thought i was so brave for not being scared of being different in middle school#i wasn't. i wasn't brave. i just had no idea why people thought i was weird#sunny in this au knows how deeply different he is from other people but he doesn't know /what/ makes him different or how to change it#and as a result he just doesn't open up very much. he's very reserved and doesnt talk to many people. he has like two friends total#which also conviently makes him easy for nick to isolate#sunny also has bpd! and he gets deeply attached to people who show him any kind of affection very easily#as i mentioned before he also tends to fall for people who intimidate or scare him -- people he sees as mentally superior to him#his self image is constantly oscilliating between 'im the greatest person to have ever lived' and 'im the worst thing to have ever existed'#he's extremely unstable. he has mood swings. he gets obsessive easily. he seeks out relationships with mostly toxic or older people#he doesn't have a good support system. he's socially anxious and an introvert. he's openly trans. most people think he's weird.#he has no stable sense of self. he has panic attacks. he's both hypervigilant and oblivious to lies and attempts at manipulation#all of this makes him a very easy target for someone like nick.#at least- at /least/-- nick genuinely loves him.#ask#tosteur-gluteal#rant#arsenic#i start talking about psychology and i get lost. my apologies
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omg first time i socialized w someone on campus and didnt feel immensely uncomfortable constantly
#i am now feeling a little anxious but honestly its like . half as bad as it usually is!!#that is pretty big tbh#shes just SOOOO real#like well dressed ✅ well spoken ✅ kpop stan who hates skz and likes wayv rv and defends itzy w her life ✅ non white so she Gets It ✅#the way shes a hater in the same way as meeeeee#oh also shes bisexual like come onnnnnn ‼️#really really sweet person all around the only thing making me anxious is if it was too obvious that. i am so deeply insecure 💀#i try to act really self assured and never say self deprecating shit ever in front of ppl but it's hard to seem perfectly charming and also#not a people pleaser#like im performing so hard. almost constantly#w her it was pretty relaxed bc we talked about kpop 80% of the time and school/family the other 20% of the time#so most of the time i was just saying opinions. about stannie life. which is easy since that's my literal escape from facing my own life as#when we got to other topics i was like Ah Time To Act Put Together and Humble And Charming#z.post
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…it really feels like, as an adult member of a two-person household where the other person has earlier in the day communicated that they expect to be busy throughout much of the evening with work calls and the dinner plan is reheating leftovers, i ought to be able to leave the house for a grand total of four (4) hours (getting back after dark, yes—not hard these days!—but before 9 PM) without being greeted when i get back by being asked to ~be more communicative about what i’m up to~ :/
#like no a big thing was not made of it and yes i do get very prickly abt this#but it’s like. why are we SO stiflingly codependent!!! you can text me and ask if you’re so fussed!!#but his not doing that doesn’t count as being bad at communication somehow#anyway basically it’s a predictable combination of still not really seeing me as an adult bc i’m a Problem Child#and his own anxious insecurity that makes him really strongly inclined to codependence#and he’s much less overtly unpleasant about it than my mother was#but like. i’m an adult with whom you had no dinner plans and to whom you had communicated you’d be busy at home all evening!#i feel like i should be able to go out for‚ again‚ a grand total of four hours without having to report in!#blergh.#journaling#domesticities#a consistent family tag
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if you wonder are you really thinking about dd as much irl as you post about it or do you just post about it way more now because a niche set of followers you have the answer is unfortunately i got this small set of followers because i don't know how to not think about dd almost every hour of my life whenever my interest in it arises i hope this helps.
#unfortunately this is not fandom blogging this is in fact the personal of my personal side blog. sadly i am simply like this.#static.soundz#that is also why there are no crazy good posts about it either#this is my annoying personal blog we are unfortunately not here for anything good but rather you are here for me to be annoying.#also no no one's ever said anything to make me insecure/nervous or made me feel like im playing stuff up I Just Have An Anxiety Disorder#i am not actually disordered anxious about this in particular LOL i just often have a general nervous air about many things#realizing that last sentence is worded a bit weird. further clarifying this nervous isn't the same as my actual anxiety acting up#but still having it contributes to my general nervous personality so i just like to say it that way bc it is funnier.
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