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Get To Know The Blogger Tag

I was tagged by @astrid-aesthetic which is perfect because I can’t sleep so doing this from my bed on mobile in between doggie cuddles.

Rules: Answer the questions & tag 20 blogs you want to get to know better!

Nicknames: Jackie (I hate this one, only my family gets to use this one because they refuse to stop), Jax, Jay-Kwellin (Key & Peele reference), Last Call (my playa name, i.e. Burning Man) Star Sign: Cancer

Height: 5′ 8″ (68")

Time right now: 7:08am

Last thing I Googled: “spongebobs ass"…so I looked at my partners tiny little white boy booty and was like positive I had seen it in cartoon form but couldn’t remember wear. First I tried ‘American dad butt" then “Peter Griffin butt” then “white boy booty cartoon”. Spongebob was my last guess and that wasn’t it and it’s STILL bugging me. If anyone maybe knows what I’m talking about HALP! I’m looking for a but that looks like someone drew a sideways number 3 in some brackets.

Favorite music artist: well ‘music artist’ is rather non specific, so I’m listing a mix of musicians and bands (no I don’t wanna pick just one and you can’t make me): Richard Hell/The Voidoids, Tom Verlaine/Television, Pete Shelley/Buzzcocks, Iggy Pop, David Bowie, The Jam, The Gun Glub, Depeche Mode, The Smiths, The Cure, Joy Division/New Order, Nirvana

Song stuck in my head: nothing right now…

Last movie I watched: A 2016 documentary titled Zero Days about the malware worm Stuxnet

Last TV show I watched: Ummm Shartk Tank I think?

What am I wearing right now: I’m nude. Oh wait I have Kill Bill socks on.

When I created this blog: uhh I wanna say 2015. Mayyybe 2014

The kind of stuff I post: art, fashion, architecture, spooky/macabre stuff, horror genre stuff, sci fi and fantasy stuff, comic related stuff, lingerie, pin up/burlesque/sexy stuff, beautiful people and things, my own jibber jabber etc

Why I chose my url: i chose partyondarth as a handle on all my other social media because of my love of both Star Wars and Wayne’s World. Very annoyed that I had to change it to Party0ndarth for Tumblr especially since the blog that stole my proper spelling is inactive with zero posts. 😤

Gender: cis-female

Hogwarts House: Slytherin

Pokémon team: Valor

Favorite Color: Black, purple, teal and other blue/green shades

Average hours of sleep: Between 4-7

Lucky number: don’t have one but fave numbers are 33 and 66 (also 666 because amusement)

Favorite characters: Darth Vader, Erik Lehnsherr/Magneto, Ororo Munroe/Storm, Xorn, Fantomex, Deadpool, Harley Quinn, the 10th Doctor, Donna Noble, Fox Mulder, Elvira, Freddy Krueger Dream Job: Gallery owner/art dealer

Number of blankets I sleep with: top sheet and one blanket

Dream fictional character that you would want to be: Magneto or Ororo because they’re powers are dope and they’re dramatic af

One interesting fact about you: I’m not allergic to poison ivy. In middle school we had to make these terrariums for whatever science class I was taking at the time. Mine was like 90% poison ivy and I did a sort of casual Poison Ivy cosplay with it draped all around me. I thought I was fly af but immediately got in trouble, had to throw everything out and was sent home. Whoops. I tag no one because 20 is too fucking much how dare you Besides mobile is being an all around sack attack right now and not letting me

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23. A song that punches you in the gut every single time

Oooo  I like this one. And I refuse to pick just one, because songs that punch me in the gut are my favorite. So here’s a few (in no particular order, just what’s coming to mind at the moment):

Please, Please, Please Let Me Get What I Want  - The Smiths

Heaven Knows I’m Miserable Now - The Smiths

Serve The Servants - Nirvana

A Lack of Color - Death Cab For Cutie

Your Ex-Lover Is Dead - Stars

I’d Rather Go Blind - Etta James

All I Could Do Was Cry - Etta James

Creep - Radiohead

Back to Black - Amy Winehouse

Paper Bag - Fiona Apple

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Coming Out Day

So it's National (International?) Coming Out Day. And I can't stop thinking about how I've never had a "real" coming out. I did once try officially coming out to one of my best friends from college. My friend who used me as a beard for years. My friend who I helped finally find the courage to come out to his dad. Yeah that friend. Well he laughed at me and said "oh shut up, you love dick, and that's it." It made me feel like shit and totally invalid. So I never had that "let me reveal this thing" moment again. Many of my friends know I'm queer, but many don't as well. Mostly newer friends know. Because one day I decided to stop saying "straight" when people asked. But people rarely ask, making their own assumptions when they find out I have a boyfriend. So for the record. Yes, I'm in a long term relationship with a cis-man. But that doesn't make me any less bisexual. Anyway, I've talked about my sexuality on here before. If you've been following me awhile you likely already know this. But I'm considering this my unofficial official coming out. I'm here. IM QUEER. I could use a beer.

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does you SO ever let you date women

Date? No. Sleep with? Yes.

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Found out this morning that I got the job! I start tomorrow! Officially an art gallery manager! Ecstatic! Just got finished buying myself a new outfit, as is my tradition with starting new jobs.

This also means I’ll officially be moving in with my boyfriend in the next week or so. All the excite! Things are going my way!!!

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@toxipop tagged me in this several days ago and I'm only just getting around to it. Rules: tag nine people that you want to get to know better Relationship Status: in a relationship Pets: my handsome newly adopted Chinese Crested Powderpuff named Rockstar is the only one living with me at the moment. My mom is taking care of my two precious Pitbulls and tabby cat who I miss like crazy and don't get to see often enough. Favorite Colors: Black, teal/turquoise, purple, and holographic/sparkly (it's a fucking color if I say it is) Wake Up Time: usually about 5 or 6hrs from whenever I go to sleep, which varies. Most days now though I wake up at 6am to get ready for work. Which takes a solid 2hrs. Cats or Dogs: Both! Dogs are better of course, but I love them both. Coke or Pepsi: GINGER FUCKING ALE. Or "gingy" as I call it. It's the only soda I drink basically. Call or Text: Don't you dare call me. Even if I really like you. Because even if I pick up and sound happy to hear from you, there's always AT LEAST a small part of me wishing you had just texted. I hate being interrupted. I feel like everyone always calls me when I'm in the middle of something or not in the mood. It just requires too much of my attention both mentally and physically. I like being able to multi-task. And even if I'm not doing shit, I don't like long phone calls. Except from like two, maybe three people. All my friends who call me spend the entire time talking about themselves. Even if I casually mention I'm going through some shit, they're like oh really that's cool but let me spend the next hour talking about some nonsense drama. Because "you're such a great listener, Jacqueline, and you always keep it real." Le sigh. Chapstick or Lipstick: Both? I mean I usually put Chapstick under my lipstick. Last Song I Listened To: Sex Beat by The Gun Club Tagging:: @scparrisofficial @zannchris @spoiledlush @tightlaced-pinup @sapphicmoonwitch @blackfemalemetalhead @theconsofbeingawallweed

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20 23 & 28

20. what is your favourite song at the moment?  Ooo this is tough. All the music I listen to is my favorite. And I rarely listen to new stuff. Probably a Depeche Mode song. Really any and every song of theirs is “my jam”, but special mention to Policy of Truth cause I’m about to take a break from work just so I can jam out to that song and uplift my less than stellar mood.

23. fear(s) I’ve outgrown all of my phobias for the most part. I suppose I’m still moderately afraid of dark confined spaces. And when bugs (or things that look like bugs but later turn out to be a leaf or my own hair) suddenly fall from the sky in the vicinity of my face. Those sort of typical jump-y frights always get me.

28. i’ll love you if… you’re an adorable four legged aminal. bonus points if a lot of people don’t get your cuteness.

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is your boyfriend secretly from Asgard bc that is a mighty beard.

YOU SHOULD SEE HIS HAMMER 😏😏😏

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What are your favorite OTR corset brands?

orchardcorset is actually the only OTR corset company I've tried and been happy with! The very very first steel boned corset I got was from some random online lingerie store I don't even remember the name of and the corset was of very low quality and had an OK shape but nothing special and honestly although it was advertised as such I realized it was not ideal for waist training. Next I went to OC and i've been incredibly happy with both corsets I got from them (cs411 in cotton and cs426 satin longline) and always recommend them to beginners. I was going to get a corset from Isabella Corsetry but decided to go custom instead. Now I'm hooked and will probably only ever do custom again, although there are two more Orchard Corsets I really want to try out (the mesh 411 and 426 short) and those will probably be the only OTR I ever buy again.

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what do you sexually identify as?

I generally prefer the umbrella term queer, but for all intents and purposes I’m bisexual.

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How long have you been corset training? I just started myself. Any tips?

I’ve been waist training for one and a half years. I think the most important tip is to really listen to your body. The most common misconception about wearing corsets is that it is uncomfortable or painful and it should NEVER be either of those things. So it’s really important that you listen to your own comfort levels. A lot of people ask things like…

“how long do you wear it?”

“When is the right time to size down?”

“Is it ok to sleep in?”

“How far should i lace down?”

Etc etc.

The answer to all of these questions is the same, DO WHAT FEELS COMFORTABLE FOR YOU! Good ol fashioned trial and error. Because everyone’s different. And you know your body better than anyone.

If you feel uncomfortable, loosen your corset. Any aches or pains? Take it off immediately. Constantly feeling discomfort or pain? Especially around the hips or ribs? Then your corset is either too small or the wrong shape for your body, stop wearing it ASAP and have someone measure you properly (go to a tailor/seamstress or you can find vids online about how to properly measure for a corset).

And keep on researching! The Internet is a marvelous place and you can find sooo many helpful blogs and YouTube videos. Instructional vids on different ways to lace your corset, tips for hiding your laces or stealthing, brand and corset reviews, silhouette comparisons and lots more. And of course feel free to reach out to me personally as questions pop up along your journey. Happy corseting!

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What do the dots mean on your face

No meaning, I just use them to draw the eye toward what I believe are my most prominent features: eyes and cheekbones. It's purely aesthetic. I love dots and symmetry.

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How long did you wear a corset until you saw results?

I saw results after a few months of wearing a corset at least 8 hours a day five days a week. I started waist training right after the holidays which I had spent eating like crap, so getting back to eating better helped me shed some pounds and I was able to lace down pretty quickly. I’d say I really started to see changes in my shape and natural waist-hip ratio about 4 months in.

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Hey! So I'm curious.... I've never smoked weed. I have bad, frequent cases of anxiety and depression though and am wondering how much weed helps you with those (I THINK you suffer from both as well). Thanks love bug 😘

Hi! Yes I struggle with clinical depression and general anxiety. I also have severe insomnia related to nighttime anxiety attacks -muscles tightening, clenching and grinding my teeth. Its awful and I used to be on a lot of medication I DIDNT like. Klonopin made me feel like a zombie, lexapro and zoloft fucked with my sleeping and made me nauseous, although zoloft was a little better. Trazodone made me loopy and sluggish. But the worst drug i was on was ambien. Night terrors and sleep walking galore. And my doc had me on that crap long term/indefinitely. Anyway I hated my meds and was really sick of my doc pushing all these pills on me. I'd smoked weed occasionally since i was 16, but never very regularly. I knew weed always calmed me out, then id snack and have an amazing nap. When I stopped taking my ambien I started smoking nightly instead and it worked like a dream with no shitty side effects. Then i started smoking a little here and there throughout the day whenever I started to get anxious, it worked worlds better and faster than klonopin, and eventually I also learned which strains wouldnt make me sleepy so I could still function throughout the day. Everyone reacts differently to weed though and the strain of weed matters a lot (lower THC levels are ideal if you're prone to anxiety attacks or paranoia) which of course is hard to be aware of unless you're buying from a dispensary or incredibly knowledgeable street dealer. I personally prefer high THC levels just in smaller doses. Its been an excellent solution for my short term anxiety. WARNING despite helping with my anxiety my short-term memory is shot to shit.

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Hey! You don't have to answer this if you don't want due to weirdos out there, but where do you work? I have tattoos and piercings too and am finding it really hard to find a job with them. Any advice?

I work for a privately owned event decorating company. Im the only one with piercings or tattoos or unnaturally colored hair, but most of the people I work with are also artists or actors, and my boss is...eccentric to the say the least. He's told me he loves "surrounding himself with weird people" so I guess I got lucky. Working in creative fields generally makes looking alternative easier. But I have a rule before interviews: make sure you're dressed INCREDIBLY put together. Look professional and stylish, head to toe. Because there's literally nothing inherently "trashy" about tattoos other than the assumption people with them are unprofessional and seedy. So show them a classy tattooed person and prove them wrong. And be the one to bring up tattoos/piercings. I always rock mine in an interview because I want them to know the real me but I let them know what can be covered or hidden if necessary and what im WILLING to cover up. Most of my tattoos are hide-able under pants and a long tee but like, I'm definitely not willing to wear pants and long sleeves when its 100 degrees out, ya know? Ill wear basic or nude plugs in my ears, and although tedious I'll take my lip ring out, but I absolutely HATE flipping up my septum (I will if I reeeeally want the gig but its gotta have a really good payoff) and it's actually quite painful because of where I was pierced and the shape of my nose. So I let them know that. Its surprising how many people admire that kind of self awareness and appreciate both your openness to changing but ALSO the conviction to stay true to yourself. I've been going on interviews lately because I think its time for me to move on from my current job, and I've taken this approach at each of my interviews. I went on two where I thought man they're gonna take one look at me and write me off but they actually loved my style and confidence. I didn't get either of those jobs but they were ling-shots in terms of qualifications and it was comforting to know my appearance had nothing to do with it. The field you're looking to work in matters a lot of course. And the more expendable the position the more likely you are to be discriminated against because of tattoos and what not. But my advice will always be to be yourself. Because I find in the long run, working somewhere I cant be myself and have to put up pretenses is just miserable. I worked for the Ralph Lauren company for four years, starting when I was 18. I wasn't nearly as modified as I am now, due to respecting my incredibly religious families wishes, and I was fresh out of prep school so I was used to putting on a more conservative look. But as I made my way through art school and found the courage to express myself the way I wanted, I got a LOT of flack from my supervisors. Sometimes I would even dress in head to toe RL attire (admittedly mostly from the men's collection) and I would still get pulled aside daily for looking to "casual" or not feminine enough, or my favorite - not "happy" enough. One day I literally just stopped showing up because I couldnt handle the bullshit anymore. Anyway, sorry for the Illiad-lengthed response. It was a great question and definitely a reality I've begun to dread once more as I look for a new job. A task i've been admittedly lazy with because its so hard giving up a job where I can literally look and dress however the fuck I want. Hope it was at least vaguely helpful. And good luck with the job search!

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Penis

.......oh wow totes forgot I reblogged that post to put random words in my ask so I can give a related fact about myself. I was about to GO OFF on you, anon, but I checked myself. (Although seriously? That's the word you choose? Welp, alright.)I lost my virginity at Wesleyan when I was 17 while smoking weed and watching Monty Python The Holy Grail with a really good friend who i've never been in a relationship with and am still good friends with to this day. It was incredibly fun, not at all awkward or painful, lasted four rounds, and was my idea of the perfect first time.