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captain-sili · 6 years

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Starla and Antichrist!Starla

OK so I finally decided to quit being a lazy ass and make this post.

Basically Starla and Antichrist!Starla are the same person but from different universes. They look similar but act very differently.

STARLA

Starla is both my first and most recent oc. Very confusing, but what I mean is when I was younger, I imagined a character that I wanted to be and it was her. I never got around to actually developing her, and I came across her not too long ago and decided to fully make her an oc.

Starla is the only oc I have that is entirely in my own universe (not in a fandom or anything). She is in her own universe with its own God, Lucifer, etc. She is what is called a Starborn Angel meaning they were born human but have an angels soul. They are very rare, and when they die, they turn into an angel. They're a special type of angel though. They are what humans would call a guardian angel. They find a kid (or three in her case) to watch over and protect. Something special about them is since they are around humans the most, they can show more of their celestial form (wings and eyes are able to be seen by humans, but Starla can show her halo and people can see the powers she does). Since she protects over kids (and was the first starborn in like... Many centuries) , God gave her the ability to use her grace and powers to morph into a different shape. She chose a cat since kids love cats and it can help cheer them up. Because of this she can also have cat ears and a tail which also makes the kids laugh. She's also very special for another reason (haven't quite gotten that far into her yet though).

She's kind of the really close friend (and the only friend ATM) of Lucifer. Some of the other angels weren't too happy about that, but honestly God is pretty chill with it since Lucifer actually has a friend now.

Note: I have a series running that I haven't actually posted anything yet (all in word documents that I've never gotten around to posting lol) that will be called "Starla's Journal" and is basically one shots that are formatted as journal entries that she wrote telling of what its like to be an angel and different things that go on.

ALRIGHT. THIS IS WHERE IS GETS DIFFICULT AND CONFUSING.

A little bit of info first. Since Starla is in a universe that has God and Lucifer and shit, some of my friends and even a few people on here (whenever I'd do those develop your oc posts) would ask if she was in either the Supernatural fandom, or the Lucifer fandom. She's in neither but I am a fan of both. That got me thinking though. I loved both shows and wouldn't mind making another oc. Well Lucifer isn't really a show I'd make an oc with so I decided on Supernatural. I liked the idea of making a crossover character (not the strangest I've done for an oc. I've literally got an oc that can break the fourth wall). I decided to do a crossover between my Starla oc and the Supernatural fandom. This created Antichrist!Starla (the one I rp as for Supernatural)

The normal Starla wouldn't fit well into this universe (too difficult to explain using it) so I decided to change her for it. I didn't just want another angel or demon (cause I love having special ocs OK). I realized they never really did much on the Antichrist. They had one episode with a little boy who ran off and was never seen from again and they never even really got into how a demons child made that or anything. So I decided to do my own thing.

None of this is honestly in the slightest bit cannon since they never really covered it. This is just my take on the Antichrist and how I want her to have been created!

Antichrist!Starla (gonna just call her Starla since that's her name)

She was supposed to be an archangel and kind of the partner (not like lover partner but like working together partner) of Lucifer. She was going to be made to NOT be related to them at all (in other words God isnt her father and the other archangels are her siblings) God made a mistake (le gasp) and ended up leaving her soul too open when creating it and it ended up getting corrupted from his sisters presence (I hope you get what I mean its hard to explain. Basically she has grace corrupted by darkness). God didn't want her to be treated differently since she was a failed archangel and was going to destroy the soul. Lucifer and Michael were already around (she was the third created) and Michael didn't really care, but Lucifer (who was prolly like 16 in relation to human ages) didn't want his father to destroy her and said he'd take care of her. God agreed since he didn't really want to destroy her. So she was raised by Lucifer. She met with God a few times when she was younger but mostly avoided it if she could since she didn't like she was different. Michael didn't like it either. They never got a long at all.

Anyway fast forward a bit (or else we'd be here all day).

Long story short she became enraged when Lucifer fell and the archangels were annoyed that God wouldn't do anything to take care of her. He was given a choice (a bunch o' archangels are a force to be reckoned with even by God) to either destroy her or to make her fall. He wouldn't admit it but he was rather attached to the girl and didn't want to destroy her. So she fell.

She was locked away in purgatory (kind of like how Lucifer was locked in a cage in hell sorta way) for a looooooong time up until about three or four centuries before Sam and Dean were born. She managed to escape into the normal world, but being she didn't have a physical human body, she had to be in one. Because her soul was different, she couldn't just possess a human (be is consensual or not) and had to be born into a human body. This caused her soul and physical body to be bound together. She can still possess people now that she has a physical body (and because of the darkness she could even do it without getting permission but she chooses to to force it). Basically she is the only celestial being to have a human body of their own instead of a vessel (so it doesn't get obliterated if she gets hurt).

God didn't want her to live a life of hatred and tried to make things better for her when she was born into a body. He wiped her memories so she'd grow up and have a semi normal life. Of course taking memories is never a good solution, and she soon realized (and her parents too with much horror) she wasn't normal. Ya know, the whole glowing eyes if she got mad, the occasional accidentally flinging someone against a tree (keep in mind this is like centuries before our time maybe 1700's at the earliest). She'd try to keep everything in check but being she had no clue what she was, she didn't know how to control.

Fast forward a few years when she was an adult.

This is where things started to go a bit wrong. Because of knowing she has these abilities, she tried to figure out what she was. She kept feeling like she was forgetting a huge chunk of her life despite having remembered her growing up. She could never figure out what she was forgetting. That is until she met someone. Someone she felt was so familiar yet. It was more of a presence than someone being there physically (hint hint its our pal Lucifer). He stayed with her for several weeks (they never really got into when or why Lucifer was shoved into a cage so I go with when the princes rebelled and threw him in then Crowley taking over and shit). The longer he stayed around, talking, helping, the more she felt like she was forgetting her life and that this one wasn't the first.

It would be an understatement to say all hell broke loose when she remembered. She had been getting dreams and nightmares that she concluded to be memories for a while, but it was like a switch had been flipped one night. Everything came back at once. Lucifer left after that (the princes started rebelling at this point) and she felt so angry. Angry that she fell, angry that Lucifer fell, but was the most angry about how God took the memories of it all.

Another jump cause I'm hungry and I've been writing this for an hour on my phone.

Its now the time where the show takes place and all that shit and the Winchesters and Chuck along with a few others (Crowley, Castiel, whoever decides to join this time) and they need to find her. All they know is she owns a club, but they don't know what she looks like. Chuck gives the advice that she'd, being the Antichrist, would have the mark of the beast on either her right hand or forehead (which for her is the number three with a slash through it since she's the third born and fell). The best way to find her would to be to look for someone with gloves or a bandana on. They find a person standing against the back wall, staring at them, who was wearing a singular glove on the right hand, and a smirk on her face.

Yes I know that Crowley is dead and Chuck is not here ATM and Dean is in a shitty situation but guess what? I ain't going by technical times and I refuse to accept that Crowley is dead OK (and Gabriel pls bring back my precious angel). My stories and rps (like all others) run at a different time than where the show is. This also means that Lucifer isn't actually dead in my stories. (I kind of rp with Crowley and Lucifer so it would not make sense that theyd be dead too)

Also I forgot to mention but since her soul is bound to her body, the soul can't leave the body. This means that the only way to kill her is the kill her soul. This would likely kill her permanently (ya know how angels and demons go to the empty when they die? There'd be nothing left of her to go to the empty) since even I can't weasel my way out of that kind of scenario. There is only one blade that can kill her. Its called the Soul Killer (cause I'm cliche and can't think of a better name ATM) and it is locked away by Chuck. She still can be hurt. Like damn you stab her in the chest with an archangel blade she's gonna be in a lot of pain and very weak in powers and you could take her grace like any other angel and make her practically mortal (you just can't actually finish her off unless you have the blade)

I plan on making a one shot that goes into more detail on her back story in Heaven before she fell from an actual story point of view.

@crowleydowley feel free to tag anyone you'd think would like to ready about my ocs (if there is any lol)

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viralhottopics · 8 years

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We’re very close. We couldn’t not be: the secret to a friendly divorce

This month sees a spike in couples filing for divorce, many of them vowing to stay friends. But is it really possible or worth the pain?

A few weeks ago, a man came to stay at my house and he and I made so much noise at 1am that we feared we might wake the children. The next morning at breakfast, we had to explain ourselves and apologise.

The man was my ex-husband, and he was telling me an anecdote in the early hours that had us both in fits of laughter. We separated in January 2009, and divorced a year later. He has since remarried, and lives in another city, but often comes to visit our three teenage sons. We have spent several Christmases, Easters and birthdays together.

If liking and being nice to your former partner is the essence of Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martins conscious uncoupling, it could be said that my ex-husband and I are living that dream. In the three years since they announced their much-ridiculed approach to family life and relations post-marriage, the idea of the friendly divorce has become increasingly mainstream. As Helena Bonham Carter said of Tim Burton, her former husband of 13 years, I think well have something very precious still. Actor Kate Beckinsale is so friendly with her ex Michael Sheen (the father of their daughter) that shes often seen hanging out with him and his girlfriend, Sarah Silverman.

And then theres the rise of the divorce selfie, taken outside the courtroom, showing smug ex-marrieds beaming away together in the spirit of a bright future ahead of them (with a caption such as We smile not because its over but because it happened). January traditionally sees a spike in calls to family lawyers from couples wishing to uncouple. The first question for many is: can you really have a happy split?

Divorce coach Carol Sullivan thinks so. She runs Divorce Negotiator, which operates throughout England and Wales. Unlike solicitors who represent the separate parties, Sullivan assists both husband and wife and, to stop the escalation, maintains transparency between them. She claims to save a typical couple 80% of the cost of going to a solicitor, and 50% of their time. So far, she has helped more than 1,000 couples, many of whom apologise to each other and go out for drinks despite their decree nisi.

People are doing divorce differently that is, better, Sullivan says. They are more aware that the only winners are the lawyers, and bitterness and vengeance dont get anybody anywhere.

Of course, most people would say theyd like to divorce well, at least in theory, usually for the sake of any children involved. But, in practice, anger and hurt usually muddy the waters.

I am insufferably smug about what my ex-husband and I have managed to pull off, but I wont pretend it was instant. The parting of the ways was painful beyond anything I had ever experienced, but we managed to sort out our financial affairs and living arrangements ourselves. A lawyer friend kindly did the essential paperwork for both of us. We never went to court, and our whole divorce cost 90. Eight years have since passed, and time has done its cliched but excellent bit in terms of healing. Rancour has been and gone, leaving all the things we liked about each other in the first place: enjoyment of each others company, great communication, affection and respect. Plus all the things we have together accumulated over the years, namely three great boys, an important shared history and the recognition that prolonged bitterness eats away at people and benefits nobody.

Its difficult, but this approach is becoming more common. I have a friend whose husband went off with another woman. After her shock and anger subsided, she had him to stay with his new girlfriend several times, and even took coffee up to them in the morning. (Talk about forgiveness.) It was nice for the kids to see I was accepting of her with him, she tells me. I liked him. I liked her. She says she didnt indulge in any power play, at least not consciously.

The prevailing view is that good relations benefit the children, if you have them. Phyllis Maguire-Harrington, 33, is a carer and nursery manager. She sees many families who arent amicable, which has only compounded her belief that friendly divorce is vital even when she found out, three years into their marriage, that her husband had been unfaithful.

It hurt massively, she says now, but our daughter is my world. Even though I ended the marriage there and then, and never once wavered, I always spoke to him and let him see her. My daughter deserves both parents.

There was no court case. The same lawyer represented them both. It was all their own terms; he just did the paperwork. Her ex-husband has exactly the same parental rights as she does.

The couple, both from Wokingham, met at a bowling alley in their early 20s. Kieran Harrington, 35, remembers that she started dancing and I thought, wow! He found her generous, with a lot of time for others. Phyllis says she is very energetic, while Kieran was very chilled and happy to go along with anything she threw at him. They married in 2008 and separated in 2011, when their daughter was a year old.

To be brutally honest, I cheated on her, Kieran says. Its one of those things I cant explain. It was nothing she ever did or didnt do. When she found out, she went ballistic. Id never seen her like that. I deserved it. I tried to get her back, but eventually knew it was hopeless.

It was complicated, Phyllis says, because in September 2007 he had a brain haemorrhage and that altered him. Kieran says that, although he doesnt remember being tempted before the brain haemorrhage, it is nonetheless too easy an excuse. Either way, he says, the two flings with colleagues were a huge mistake. Initially, he says, there was some nastiness from Phyllis, but then it went away.

For a long time I wanted him to be my Kieran, Phyllis says, but he had changed. After the brain haemorrhage, I became more like a carer. I knew he was no longer fully in control of himself, and a psychologist told us he was never going to change. I had a baby and couldnt live like that any more, the suspicious wife.

The divorce came through in December 2014 and Kieran, a prison custody officer, now lives with his father and sister. He and Phyllis still see each other most days, and go on holiday together. They took Erin, now five, to Disneyland Paris for new year and glamping in Cornwall. Neither has another partner.

I did for a while, Phyllis says, and he and Kieran accepted each other, but he wanted to get married and I didnt. I think Kieran put me off for life, she laughs.

These days, Kieran confides in Phyllis about dates and she gives him advice. He admits hed like to get back together with her, but knows thats never going to happen; he also knows that it could all have been very different had Phyllis not been so forgiving. I could have lost a lot more, he says. As it is, the friendship we have having a laugh, watching movies together, sharing a bottle of wine when the little one is asleep is the best I can hope for, given Id still like to be married to her. Ill be a little bit jealous when shes with someone else, but I messed up, so I havent a leg to stand on. Im grateful Ive got this much and know we will be friends for life.

Phyllis agrees: Were very close. We couldnt not be, after all weve been through. But the divorce was the right decision. Would I get back with him? Never. Hes not the man I fell in love with.

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Specialist family lawyer Peter Martin has been practising at London firm OGR Stock Denton for 40 years, and has worked with thousands of couples. In his experience, roughly 25-30% of couples are able to be friends afterwards, and its not always to protect the children. In some ways, it is easier for couples without children to stay friends, Martin says. Once the finances are sorted out, they are able to get on with their lives. They can become friends again, because they no longer have any pressures on them.

On the other hand, Martin says, couples without children have less reason to stay in touch. Those with children have to continue to communicate, and they are more likely, because of that, to rebuild a friendship. A forced friendship, because of having children, often develops in time into the real thing. Its the sort of thing I see a lot Im thinking of the first dance of a divorced couple as parents at their childs wedding.

Barry Rutter, 69, an actor, is founder and artistic director of Northern Broadsides, a touring company. He credits his ex-wife, Carol, 65, a professor of Shakespeare and performance studies at the University of Warwick, with their excellent relationship after nearly 20 years of marriage and 20 years of divorce. She credits him with not forcing her and their girls out of their home. You can be vengeful and angry and selfish and do all that stuff, Carol says. All those ugly emotions you can keep up for years, but thats just destructive.

The couple met while Barry was on tour in America in 1976. She, with her Californian chutzpah, came backstage to congratulate me, he says.

He had the tight curls of a Raphael angel and a boxers nose, she says. He was bolshie, challenging: a Yorkshireman. Everything around him was different and new.

She moved to England a year later, and they soon married. Their shared passion meant they always had things to talk about. Briony was born in 1982; their son, Harry, two years later, but he died from cot death aged just 98 days. Barrys support in the aftermath made Carol feel an overwhelming sense that our marriage could survive; how amazing it was that he could love me that much.

When he set up his own company, Barry was working so hard, Carol says, I think he started kind of shifting. Rowan, their younger daughter, was four. Carol had a full-time job at the university and Barry came home wanting shiny faces. There was a gap. It was, Barry says, a build-up of events, which I took to be a diminution between us. And my own restlessness. The cliche: the grass is always greener. The official divorce says adultery, but it is never as simple as that. I didnt fall in love, but I was distracted.

Barry says it was raw. I remember we met in the garden shed and she asked what I wanted, and I said all of my freedom to roam, and yet the home and family. It was a stupid, macho, dumb attitude to have. It was my folly. You make choices, and choices can bite.

How did I come back from that? Carol says. I went to see a divorce person who said dont fight, its not worth it; work it out between you. I was able to keep the man separate from the actor and, little by little, the birth of our three children, the death of our son, those things you shared, count. They represent the real core values of you two as people, as against the accidents of making bad decisions.

Barry says it was entirely Carols leading that set them on the footing they are on today. Its got to be about the future: I remember her saying that. I myself didnt have it in me to come up with anything like that. Its a testament to her. Id hope she is my best friend. Shes kept the name [Rutter]. Ive always been rather pleased about that.

These days, their daughters are both married, and they still see each other at least once a month and speak often. Carol goes to watch her ex-husband perform. She says he is perhaps better at expressing his emotions on stage, but he always made her laugh off it, and always will.

Tara Saglio has been a couples and individual psychotherapist for two decades. She believes that most divorced couples have to experience a period of proper separation before they can actively be friends again. As a generalisation, I think it takes five years for people to settle post-divorce, she says. It helps if both parties have reached a point where they can feel equally content, instead of one being miserable and the other blissfully loved-up with a new partner or even of one being blissfully alone and the other in a less than ideal rebound relationship. The chance of friendship depends on the emotional maturity of both parties. In my experience, Saglio adds, it is usually the couples for whom the passion has dwindled or gone, and who dont feel so betrayed or rejected, who can be friends. Sexual rejection or broken trust can skewer things.

Facebook, Instagram and so on can make it harder for couples to move on. Of course, social media always presents a happy if not idealised picture of everyones lives, Saglio says. It is hard to separate fully while having ones nose rubbed in the exs new life. On the upside, technology can be a force for good, depending on how it is used. It makes continued contact quicker and easier. A text or email is more emotionally distant than a face-to-face or phone conversation. A bit of a barrier can be a good thing.

Resolution is an organisation of family law professionals that promotes nonconfrontational divorce settlements. Nigel Shepherd, its national chair, says that avoiding unnecessary argument demands a shift of perspective: By nonconfrontational, we mean focusing on what is required for the future, as opposed to getting stuck in what happened in the past. A Resolution survey found that 90% of cases settle without a judge.

Current divorce law doesnt exactly help people to remain friendly: unless former couples are prepared to wait for two years once they have separated, they have no option but to cite adultery, unreasonable behaviour or (admittedly rarely) desertion on the paperwork. Resolution believes that a couple should be allowed to divorce simply if they think the marriage has broken down, a so-called no-fault divorce, and are lobbying for change. The current process, which pushes the majority into blame, often against their will, can really put the spanner in the works, Shepherd says.

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Businesswoman Sarah Bevan never lost sight of the fact that she wanted to retain her friendship with her husband, Tim, despite her deep sadness when their marriage came to an end. We were originally friends, and I wanted very strongly to maintain that for the greater good of our family, she says. We always had a lot of fun and we managed to retain that.

Sarah, who is now single and in her 40s, lives in south London, and is setting up her own company. Tim, 50, the MD of a packaging and design company, lives in Hove. The pair met at work in London and married in 1994. They have three teenage children. The friendship was overriding in the relationship, Tim says. Any other issues were put to one side. Thats what carried us. But then I started to do better in my career, which made me more confident and, when other possibilities presented themselves, I was weak enough to succumb.

It was 2004. He admitted he was having an affair (not his first); they finally parted in 2005 and divorced in 2011. Tim says he walked away with two pictures, a stereo and a pink tea towel.

There were no lawyers, and nothing on paper; money was divided according to their own agreement. The divorce cost 560. Rather than argue in court, he wanted Sarah and the children to have a home and security. He credits their friendship today to his ex-wifes openness and strength, and thinks they have both pulled off something pretty extraordinary. According to Tim, both realise they are not going to be jumping into bed with each other again, but hopes theyll be best friends for life.

Shes currently offering me advice on cholesterol, he laughs. Shes still got my back! It helped that neither of them slagged each other off to the children. The family has a group chat online most days and he visits them every Tuesday for a curry evening.

There were phases of extreme anger and massive hurt, Sarah says, but even though hes certainly a difficult character, I love him and we hug and say we love each other. He remains an important part of her life, all the more so because her parents died recently in tragic circumstances. As Tim says, that focused everyone on whats important.

Despite everything weve put each other through, Tim says, weve come out of it. We will be sitting in our deckchairs in 30 years time with our mint tea, looking at the children, and thinking, Weve done good.

How to divorce well

1. Slow down. Reactive decisions are usually bad ones; if you are feeling hurt, or have just discovered your partner with someone else, dont take any legal action until the red mist has gone.

2. Try to be rational. Going through a separation is highly emotional, but try to put that to one side and sit down with a neutral party with the aim of making sensible decisions. Remember that you loved the other person once.

3. Decide on your priorities. More often than not one of the biggest goals is to move on with your life with your dignity intact. The more amicable the divorce, the quicker it will be over, leaving you to get on with the next chapter of your life. It is also a lot cheaper.

4. Go to a good family lawyer. Find a family specialist committed to working out solutions as amicably as possible and in a way that will preserve your relationship with your spouse.

5. Expect a big change in your lifestyle. Your life is going to change dramatically; being shocked by this can often lead to resentment and breed conflict. Your partners life will be changing, too, and they will have the same problems adjusting as you are. Yes, really.

6. Dont do it the celebrity way. You dont have to fight dirty to get the best result in fact, judges will frown upon it when making their settlement.

7. Dont listen to your friends. Turn to them for emotional support but remember that every marriage is different and every divorce is different. Just because friends think it is a good idea, doesnt mean it is.

8. Be the bigger person. Even if your nearly ex is trying to play dirty, dont rise to the bait. It is easier said than done, but I often hear from people who, years later, regret that they allowed themselves to be brought down to that level.

9. Think about divorce before you get married. What will your situation be if things dont work out? Consider how your partner is likely to behave in those circumstances as well. Think about a prenuptial agreement realism does not have to be anti-romantic.

10. If you have children, be nice for their sake. It is only in the most exceptional circumstances that it is not in the childrens interests for their parents to remain friendly.

Peter Martin, family lawyer, OGR Stock Denton