#manchi

[foreverblondie23]

[moonknight-word]

Uomini che tornano.

[lediciassetteequattrominuti]

[amamiofacciouncasinoo]

Ho sognato mamma per la prima volta dopo un anno, ma era triste e ora sto malissimo

[tizianacerralovetrainer]

Vi auguro di sognare qualcuno che non c’è più. Qualcuno che vi dica che, tutte le cose che non gli avete detto, lui le sapeva lo stesso.

(Nicola Brunialti)

[sirius-lux]

Mi ricordo ancora l'ultimo giorno in cui ti ho visto, eri felice, facevi quel sorriso che mi ricorderò per sempre.

[eseildomanifosseieri]

Dopo la morte del mio gatto, sono stata un po ostile nei confri del gatto di mia sorella (in foto). Diciamo che ho evitato per tanto tempo di fargli delle coccole, o tutte quelle attenzioni che i gatti schifano (ma che nel profondo amano) eppure di notte ha sempre trovato il modo di venire accanto a me. Negli ultimi giorni ho dedicato un po più di tempo a questo micetto consapevole, ormai, che coccolare lui non sminuisce il bene che ho voluto al mio gatto. Ieri mattina si è messo su di me, ha fatto un po' la "pasta" e poi ho detto "ho sonno, bisognerebbe dormite un altro po'" e lui m'ha ascoltata ed è stato così per qualche ora. Con me.

Raggidiquotidianità.

-Eseildomanifosseieri.

[aburningsoulforlove]

Nothing kills like a love you didn’t live.

I miss u

[la-haine-x]

A un pezzo di cuore

[autevi]

on Man'chi in foreigner

Warning! Spoilers for Foreigner (book 1) and Defender (book 5).

Tabini places extremely valuable players (or pivotal moments) in extremely risky situations, expecting those who feel man’chi to him to fulfill their duty to the best of their abilities. It's the same thing when there’s a dangerous situation brewing and Bren says “I have every confidence in you, nadiin” to his staff.

When you feel man'chi, “not only do I trust your loyalty but I trust your understanding and your skills and that despite all the risks and dangers you will be able to rise above it and achieve what is necessary” just goes unsaid.

When Tabini or Ilisidi don't give him what he feels is crucial information, or take actions without informing or warning him, he interprets that as them not trusting him but it actually means they trust him more!

They trust him to operate independently of instruction (and in some cases trust him to know better than they do!), they trust him to intuit the needs of his aijin and carry out what is necessary.

This is why Tabini sends Bren to Malguri in Foreigner and essentially invites/challenges Ilisidi to test Bren, knowing or trusting that Bren will not break or do the wrong thing.

This is why in Defender Tabini sends Ilisidi and Cajeiri up to go on the ship to go on the mission Reunion, knowing how valuable they both are to him and the whole aishiditat, but trusting in Bren's man’chi to him and Ilisidi, and trusting that the man’chi of the ship captains and crew to each other, all will ensure a felicitous outcome. As long as there is the treaty, Tabini can trust that all parties adhering to the treaty will maintain their common interests.

Man’chi is basically a biological assurance of stability and trust that allows atevi to operate under high levels of risk, stress, and uncertainty. As long as man'chi is clear, they know more or less what the involved parties can or will do, and this allows them to take action easily. It comes back to this so often in the series - man'chi allows you to predict fairly well how someone will act under pressure.

Man'chi is not a choice for atevi, it's biological. If they fail at something, it's either because they lack the ability/skill to accomplish the intended goal, or there is a conflict of man'chi. So if an atevi folds under pressure, they lose their value to their lord because they are not reliable - either in terms of skill or man'chi.

And this is why, in the first trilogy, Bren’s staff is initially so perplexed by his constant need for information, because they see it as him lacking confidence in them - their skills and man’chi.

As Bren says to Yolanda in Defender: "Don’t back down from Tabini’s baiting you. If he thinks you'll fold rather than argue with him, you’ll be out of his confidence in a heartbeat.” To me, this is a way riskier cultural mixup than “friend” that Bren keeps harping on about.

[foreverblondie23]

[lediciassetteequattrominuti]

[nessunovuoleaspettarepersempre]

Perché mi hai lasciata andare?

[tizianacerralovetrainer]

[moonknight-word]

Mi dicevi “sei speciale” ora neanche ci parliamo.

-Mattia Ollerongis

[sirius-lux]

I film m'hanno mentito, facendomi sperare un futuro di una realtà che non esiste.