#misplaced blame

[mayapapaya33]

I had sort of hoped Keyleth would have matured and grown past her anger at the Matron over the past 33 years but I suppose it's in character that she hasn't fully dealt with her grief yet. And the Vorb probably isn't helping her issues either. It just sucks because I think a lot of the fandom take Vox Machina's grief fueled blame and fully accept it as fact when the reality is that Vax's situation is almost entirely his own responsibility. The only other person with any remote culpability is Percy. And even Percy is only really to blame for accidentally Killing Vex, not for Vax's choices. But even if you want to hold Percy accountable for Vax's choice in the tomb as well, that still doesn't make him responsible for Vax's death. Vax could have lived a long full life as the Matron's Champion, as shown by the Delightful Purvan Suul and his companion Galdric.

Vax was a borderline suicidal, self-sacrificing character from day one. He always threw himself into danger headfirst regardless of the cost to himself. Between Percy accidentally setting off the trap creating the circumstances for Vax trading himself to the matron during Vex's resurrection, all the way up to Vax CHOSING to come back as a revenant after being disintegrated in order to help defeat Vecna, the choices have always been his. Especially him, fate touched as he is. Ultimately, Vecna killed Vax and Vax killed Vax. I think it's easier to blame the Matron than to be angry with Vax for being who he was.

The Matron maintains the balance of life and death. She accepted Vax's offers both times, do you think she should have refused? The first refusal would have meant Vex's death, and the second refusal would have meant Vax possibly just staying dead after being disintegrated, and not being there to fight against Vecna, which was truly an all hands on deck situation. There was no time to fuck around with a resurrection ritual that might not even work, the whole world was in danger. One life, a life that was already lost, is a small price to pay to save the world. I'm pretty sure Vax would agree with me!

Frankly, Vox Machina were super lucky and privileged to have so many successful resurrections between them. I think they got a little spoilt and entitled about it honestly. Most people have never even met someone who's been resurrected before, they did it like 20 times! Vax was disintegrated, he chose to come back as a revenant to fight Vecna, protect the world, and help his family. An opportunity he was only given due to his allegiance to the Matron. She gave Vox Machina and Vax extra time together and a chance to help save the world.

For those of you shouting "what about true resurrection!?! I hear you, and Matt said it's complicated and didn't elaborate lol. Personally, I think the Matron has quite the special a barrier of entry to true resurrection, if the spell even works at all in Exandria. I think they touched on it briefly in Calamity but I've forgotten. I can only imagine what insane ritual Matt concocted years ago that he's had plenty of time to work on since. Part of the Matron's whole thing is that everyone must eventually go into death, sure they can avoid it for a while, so some resurrection is fine (the DC gets higher every time), but eventually enough is enough and it's time to go. Hence why necromancers and liches are her enemies.

At any rate, I'm really proud of Keyleth for going to therapy and I hope she goes back when all of this moon business is over because she still needs it and that turtle lady in the frog seemed great lol.

[flightyquinn]

America, your problem is not with third party voters. They are doing what they should be doing in a democratic system. Namely, voting for what they believe in.

Your problem is that you have a political system that punishes not being a part of the greatest majority, and a media that biases public perception to influence voting habits. Stop trying to fix the people doing what they were told they should, and start trying to fix the system that doesn't work as advertised.

[whatkindofnameisella]

you can speak his name. and yet do not perceive that he is why i take the stand i do? my lady queen, but for the wit, fitz would have learned the skill well. but for the wit, he could never have been thrown into regal's dungeons. but for the wit, he might even now be alive. the wit doomed him to die, and not even as a man. as a beast. (he dragged in a shuddering breath. his voice rasped but he held himself straight and retained command of himself.) every day i live, i live with my failure. my prince, prince chivalry, entrusted me with his only child, with the sole command that i raise him well. i failed my prince. i failed fitz and i failed myself. because i was weak. because i had not the strength of will to be harsh with the boy where harshness was needed. and so he fell into the way of that vile magic, and he practiced it, and it brought about his downfall. he paid the price for my misplaced tenderness. he died, horribly, and alone, and as a beast. my lady queen, i loved fitz first as my friend's son, and then as my friend. i loved him just as i love my own son now. and i will not lose another boy to that low magic. i will not. (only on the last words did his deep voice begin to shake. his hands knotted and unknotted and then clenched into fists at is side. he regarded them both through his misted eyes.)

[spivecream]

pearl haters just loveee to act like pearl fucked greaseball in front of dinah. like it’s not like she was stealing dinah’s wife of 10 years she just wanted to win a race. a train race. a toy train race. in a child’s dream.

[sarafangirlart]

Ok now I’m imagining Cassiopeia trying to shield and protect Andromeda from being taken away and sacrificed like how Andromache tried to protect Astyanax from the Achaeans in Euripides Trojan Women.

[wolfdeans]

I can see the show addressing the whole father and sons of it all with Ramon and Eddie and Chris especially after 8x04 and the convo he had with the cheerleaders father and that’s good that’s great if they address it well but I think the Helena of it all is going to haunt me forever if it’s not touched on with the comments “don’t drag him down with you” and the way she’s so happy to have Chris as a do-over and how she was the present parent and the role she plays in the Diaz family dynamic and just how both his parents have fucked him up and how Eddie only really sees his dad as the messed up one

[valiantothello]

Claiming it is Starfire of all characters that is getting "shoved down people's throats" anywhere is beyond ridiculous, when everything DC did is try to erase her and Bat writers continuously bad mouth her to boost up their ship. She just exists and minds her business and she has people hating on her. Because god forbid Kory has fans who love her and demand content with her. These people really need to stop speaking on her.

100%. I get not liking a ship, like whatever to each their own. But I dislike the idea that Starfire fans are shoving ANYTHING down anyone's throats. Is saying Kory had an enormous and irrefutable effect on Dick's character growth and development shoving her down everyone's throats? Is disputing all the shade thrown towards Kory and Dickkory both IN CANON and in fandom by Dickbabs writers and shippers shoving her down people's throats? Is calling out how certain writers prop up Barbara at the expense of Kory over a ship that hasnt been canon since the 90s out of some weird sort of insecurity shoving her down people's throats? If you think that, then your own bias needs to be checked before speaking on any other fanbases.

I get having an uncomfortable time in this fandom, I really do. I have countless problems with DC fandom myself. But let's call a spade a spade here. Kory isn't talked about ENOUGH in this fandom. She isn't given her flowers here or at DC headquarters. OP needs to just start blocking Dickkory accounts and call it a day.

[annemarieyeretzian]

ashton snarling “my first fucking memory is one of the worst things that ever happened to me. I fucking watched my parents get ripped to bits in a fucking maelstrom of god knows fucking what. I was dumped into a desert where I crawled until I nearly died only to be picked up by shitty people who then threw me in a fucking orphanage. …fell out of a window and lost everyone I cared about. woke up damaged and in pain that has never stopped since that fucking day. there were little sections of my life where I prayed and I begged for anything to all of them, to any of them. the only time they've ever spoken to me was the one who tried to fucking kill me less than a week ago. so, I'm here to save us. I'm here to save the people who live here. hell, I had one fucking word that I spoke to a giant pile of earth that was more responsive and made me feel better and connected me to something bigger than anything in my fucking life. just the ground itself did more. so yeah, you know what? I am all for faith, and I'm not going to pick a god. they can pick me. I'll wait. they can fucking beg. and I will listen, which is more than they ever fucking did.”

[lord-squiggletits]

Feel free to ignore this but I remember you mentioning a while back about how people use Optimus as like an accessory for Megop instead of an actual character. And I’m new to the fandom and I’ve noticed that something they rly like to do is have him apologise to megatron and beg for forgiveness for stuff and I’m like what? Megatron? Why should Op apologise to him megatron has hurt him so much for so long and the fandom never acknowledges it. It’s always copy pasted IDW backstory stuff most of the time on continuities where that isn’t canon or the decepticons were just bad guys with no positive intentions so it doesn’t even make sense. Plus in the IDW continuity megatron was so much worse Optimus should not be apologising for anything. And it just feels like they’re using Op to validate megatron and for like angst and comfort and stuff but it just seems so disingenuous to the characters 😭 like Op is not the one who should be apologising to and gaining back the trust of megatron. It feels like this fandom ignores the decepticons crimes, especially against the autobots, so much to the point where it’s ridiculous and just gets uncomfortable. They act like the decepticons were right about everything, the autobots were the ones who were actually evil and they have to beg for forgiveness for just… existing? And being hurt by the decepticons? And trying to stop them from committing genocide? It gets to the point where it’s almost abuse apologia and making it seem like op deserved it or that megatron doesn’t have to apologise. I love megatron and the deceptions but I know they’re bad people who have a lot to answer for. Sorry about the long ask 😅

Yeah literally all of this is 10000% how I've felt for most of my time being in this fandom idek what to say that wouldn't be just repeating what you say 😂 I just think it's funny esp when it happens in the MegOP fandom bc, my dudes if you ship them together doesn't that imply you like Megatron AND Optimus? Why are you gonna brag about shipping the #1 toxic yaoi couple of two old war general bastards but then completely defang the dynamic by going "akshully Megatron is good and right and worthy and OP should kiss his ass just for existing" like??? So do you ship MOP as enemy lovers who are each other's only equal and understand each other like no other or do you just like Megatron and want him to have a trophy husband who's an iconic character (Optimus)

Esp since you don't even have to look at Megatron's behavior towards OP/Autobots to find shit to criticize, the way he ruled the Decepticons was nightmarishly authoritarian and these are the people who he supposedly started the revolution on behalf of.

But no it's like I said in a previously answered ask on a similar topic, a lot of ppl in this fandom are just contrarians who dive into unironic Decepticon apologism with a black-and-white "they're right, Bots are wrong" attitude because they think it's revolutionary or something alksdljfkdsljk

It's a shame bc I kind of hoped TF One coming out would make this problem less bad (both the Decepticon apologism and the needless shitting on OP) but that really is too much to ask from people huh

[just-an-enby-lemon]

I was relistening to the "Carter in a pit with a spike in his leg" episode because I remember finding Carter deeply annoying at the time and wanted to see if he would annoy me the same way now that I have actual feelings towards him (he did not, less annoying than some of Wilde's antics actually) and Wilde just stoled a fancy pen for like no reason at all wich is extra funny to me because it means that Wilde got more loot than Howard in the "Howard Carter tries to comit a robbery" episode.

[anthromimicry]

jandy nelson, i'll give you the sun | jean anouilh tr, by lewis galantière | @soulinkpoetry | trista mateer, the dogs i have kissed | the bible

[pirunika]

New Blade interlude??? New Tallys interlude???????? Rip bye

[voidcharms]

i know it's hard to hold on to hope at times like these, but it's important to remember times of political unrest are often when community organizing is at its most vital and powerful than ever. there IS a path forward, it's never too early to think about future elections and plans for the midterms.

do not fall into despair in the next two years, the belief that there is nothing left to do only benefits the rise of fascism. learn from this election, do not allow establishment democrats to scapegoat their constituency. the blame for this cycle lands purely on their own shoulders, not on those of fellow marginalized people who are angry and feel they were forced into a lose/lose situation. it is the responsibility of a politician to motivate their constituency by giving them something to vote FOR, not against.

the next round of midterms will also be when third party candidates at the state level will be most viable, so if u see anyone running as a Green Party, Independent, or PSL candidate in your local races i beg you to not immediately hand wave them away in the coming years. the only way a third party will become viable on a national level is after MULTIPLE cycles where they succeed in state races, please do not listen to libdem reps that have a prerogative to kneecap that attempt early.

[oneechangoddess]

My job found out I was looking for a new job so they cut my hours from 30 to 9 for about a month. I found a new job and I was going to put in a two weeks before but I feel inclined to just not show up anymore. Am I wrong or would y'all just quit too?

[rivilu]

ok you know. the Ellu in dav crossover au is very fun but i am a little bit enchanted by the concept of him AND Rynn at once. Best of both worlds in a sense.

[smitten-sprigkitten]

I. Am going. To bite. Pancham and Shelmet.

Kismet came over and I thought they were gonna like. Yknow. Invite me on another adventure like the one to drilbur mines. But instead they were super serious and sad. They asked if they were annoying, because pancham and shelmet say they are. And… they wanted me to tell the truth, I know they did, but… I told them that they didn’t annoy ME but they sometimes did things without thinking about other people, like when they dragged me ahead and accidentally left a classmate behind in a mystery dungeon. Like… they do cause a lot of trouble. But…

I guess too many people have told them that sort of thing before, and it finally sunk in

They ran off after apologizing for being “too much” and now I just feel… bad.

Why are the adults in this town always just being angry towards them instead of correcting the situation. Like. Anger and punishment without explanation and correction is never gonna do anything.

… I don’t know why but this feels uncomfortably familiar. Whatever it was that I can’t remember, I don’t think the adults were much help then either.