#npd affirmations lol

[i-eat-worlds]

exercising the fine virtue of “shut the fuck up about it” tonight

[spop-romanticizes-abuse]

it is interesting how the spop fandom has just randomly decided that certain things are canon even though they’re not. “catra has BPD” being the most popular out of all of them, despite the creators not even mentioning BPD. you can’t diagnose a fictional character. you can have a headcanon, sure, but you can’t insist that it’s canon. in that case, i could just say that horde prime has NPD or something, and that y’all are ableist for hating him.

similarly, people seem to think that guided meditation is somehow.. therapy? it can be part of therapy, sure, but guided meditation alone isn’t going to do shit for you if you’re actually struggling with a mental illness, especially something like BPD, if you really believe that catra has BPD. personality disorders can’t be “cured” with just guided meditation lol. they can’t be cured, period, but if you want to learn how to deal with them better, you need proper therapy and medication. trauma from abuse also cannot be healed with just guided meditation. meditation is just a small exercise to help you relax and/or focus. that’s it. it does not replace proper therapy and healing. perfuma is NOT a therapist, and she is NOT qualified to be one, considering the way she treated entrapta. you can’t just look at one scene where perfuma offers to help catra open up and say “perfuma is catra’s therapist!”

there are also some others, like the whole “catra only hurt she-ra, not adora” but these two are the ones that piss me off the most because these people pretend to care about abuse and mental health, when they clearly don’t know shit about it. they talk about how much catra has suffered and how unstable her mental state is, and then act like she can be healed with the power of true love and a few sessions of meditation and positive affirmations.

[cardiac-arresting-sweetheart]

blood, love language, note, regret, vent :3

hehehehheheh.

ok i'm answering for u...

"What is the most extreme thing you think you’re capable of doing in real life for your darling? What’s the worst thing you have already done?"

Oh god. umm okay so to be honest in real life i'm suchhh a coward most of the time.. i think. well i might go crazy. but the worst i'd do is like yell at or GOD THIS IS SO BAD i think i could probably end up trying to like physically assault someone if i got really mad. idk the worst thing i've already done is probably just the Subliminals (tm) hehehehhee :3

"What are your giving and receiving love languages? How does this apply to your darling?"

giving is i think mostly words of affirmation and gifts giving... then receiving is . the same as well Lol . i'm kind of weird about money so i don't rlly buy anyone stuff super readily but i make him subliminals whenever i can yayyyy ^_^ and i made a bracelet with his name and wear it allll the timeeeee 24/7 . And words of affirmation i think i am nice enough to him . and i giggle and kick my feet any time he praises me yippee :3

"Imagine you’re sending a love letter or message to your darling. What would it say?"

OHDONTMAKEMEEMBARRASSMYSELF i'll go back to this. HAHAHAHA

"Do you ever feel guilty about being a yandere or loving differently from other people?"

no my fourness, npd, and delusions makes me immune to this ^_^ i am sooo special i am above everyone else i understand the world like no one else everyone else is not sentient i bring life to my darlings ! yay. i think those who are normal or love "normally" are SOO BORING. the things that make you special are the things that make you strange. - will wood

"Gush, rant, or vent about your darling or anything in general."

why did this make my brain immediately stop working Um. i need to write a poem about it actually... i haven't written any yet i've gotta think about that. maybe i'll do one with alll of dolls names I should do that for my other darling toooo. eheheheheh. he's soooo nice to meeee ^_^ he's toooo nice to me. i think it is funny that he likes me so much.. he keeps worrying me though.. like. Drugs and mental illness. sigh. this would all be solved if we lived together HAHA i need to shiftnap (reality shifting + kidnapping) my darlings so bad. aaahhh doll worries me so much. sigh. sigh. sigh

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i'm dming you this on discord . ^_^

[manie-sans-delire-x]

i've been diagnosed with ptsd, bpd, npd, and a few other irrelevant mental illnesses, and i basically feel pretty much no empathy for "normal"/well-off people but extreme empathy for people like me (abuse victims, the mentally ill, impoverished people etc.) i'm about to start work as a suicide line crisis worker and i was just wondering, do you happen to have any advice for not getting overwhelmed while listening to the horrible things people go through? i know suicide lines are not really that great and i have been made to feel even worse by calling lines before by some rude employees in the past, but i honestly desperately need this job and im hoping i might be able to make a tiny bit of difference by not being cruel to people calling in.

Hmm well working with traumatized people while being traumatized yourself is definitely never easy. I think its great that you're already thinking ahead though, both of potential issues for yourself and how you can work around them and how to better help your clients. That shows you really care and want to do well at this job.

I think the best thing you can do is ask your coworkers. They have direct experience and could prob give you better tips than I can. And hopefully you've been trained lol

But aside from that, I think most of the time ppl who call just want someone to listen to them and be nonjudgmental and compassionate. Dont try to fix all their problems or feel its your job to come up with solutions to all their issues, thats sadly impossible. Just let them rant, let them know you're still there listening. Practice active listening- saying occasional affirmations like "uh huh" "mm" while they talk, asking some prompting questions if they pause or dont know what to say, and rephrasing what they say back to you so they know you're paying attention and understanding- "So let me make sure I understand correctly..." "So to recap..." "So you feel x y z because x y z, do I have that right?"

You can learn online about active listening skills and interviewing techniques.

Remember that the WAY you say things matters just as much as WHAT you say. Half of it is just people wanting to hear a kind voice on the other end of the line.

If you feel yourself getting overwhelmed and starting to snap at people or be mean, ask to step away and take a breather outside for 5 minutes or something. I know your job might not allow that, but if you can. Maybe keep some calming hot tea or stress ball with you, if you're allowed to? Or keep a sticky note of some helpful quotes or a plushie or pictures or other comfort items on your desk? Please take care of your mental health too, and if it really starts to wear on you, consider different jobs- you cant pour to others from an empty cup. Working out after work can also help to get the stress and tension out, or maybe yoga or a hot bath. Whatever works for you and helps you leave work at work (not easy I know).

Good luck! Thanks for working in the mental health field. (If you get benefits, going to see a therapist is great extra support too, if youre not already)

[daddy-hotline]

i saw that there was stuff about dadsona having autism, why not same thing but with narcisstic personality disorder? just.. none of those abusive stereotypes, it's not exactly the most well-documented disorder. for example, ppl with npd can still have empathy and even extreme empathy for certain things (while none at all for other things) if you need some non-biased research theres always DSM-5, and personal accounts of it and accounts like @thatnpdfeel. thank you :) i really want to see this!!!

✨DADS REACT TO … dadsona with NPD✨［sorry for taking super duper long to reply, I honestly have no valid reason to excuse myself but here you go lol bringing back the old header, please tell me if I said anything wrong - mod rae］🎣Brian : He thought that you were just trying to compete with him. He was slightly surprised at how "eager" you were to gain any edge over him but didn't recognise it as a disorder. Brian was very hurt when one day you suddenly lashed out at him with vulgarities (something you had never done before) after he had only replied with a "mhmm…" when you excitedly showed him the fish you caught. 🏋Craig : He had to literally pry the weights from your hands after you tried to best him in bench pressing. You would break your back if you had carried on, but you ended up screaming at Craig in the middle of the gym, which of course made him storm off. He was sad, he was angry, but mostly a tangled mess of emotions. 🐶Damien : It was easy for him to compliment you all the time, whether it was your hair done just so that day or something trivial like the arrangement of patterns on your shirt. Slowly, however, he got uneasy with how much you were bragging to him and he felt super beneath you. He tried to distance himself slowly. 📚Hugo : He knew something was slightly off and Googled all your symptoms, he understood that you were similar to Brian in a way. Once he was able to grasp why you were acting in such a manner he tried his best to keep you satisfied.💒Joseph : He tried to act nice, but couldn't help but splutter out all your "flaws" one time and he knew he had screwed up. You were fuming then and had countered him with whatever you didn't think of before saying. It evolved into a huge fight, and it took a good week for Joseph to apologise. ☕Mat : He acted a little awkward around you and nodded in agreement. Sometimes he would notice that you seemed to be… Itching, in a sense, for some kind of affirmation after telling you about your job promotion. He gave you a half hearted "good job" before hurrying off back to work. 🔪Robert : He immediately gave you the side eye and said a snarly comment back in your face. He wasn't afraid to bite back when he felt like he was being shoved under someone else's foot and didn't bother interacting with you the rest of the barbeque.