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[just-spacetrash]

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[gravityqueen]

i really dont know why re3r did this

[yonpote]

under cut cuz i talk too much lol

i am not blaming dan or anything (and obviously this has been a joke in lgbt spaces for forever) but i do think he unintentionally enabled the like "homophobia is a good thing actually" type jokes and like i definitely make them too, and im always seeing jokes on here like "god why are they Like This" etc. but i think some people just dont know the line or view them so much as friends that they don't think about how it could read differently from someone who is essentially a stranger. ive said smth similar before of like, dnp (ESP DAN...) used to be not great at drawing boundaries esp since youtube and social media culture were so different back then, but now even when they draw hard lines ppl either continue to step right over them, or dont understand exactly where the line goes. they dont care if u write smut or dead dove fics, they dont care if u make shippy fanart, but like maybe dont tag them in buttsecks? (or maybe do, idk theyre being so unhinged lately maybe we gotta start @'ing them in catboy porn (JOKING))

i was talking w a friend a little bit ago about the exact differences between the generally speaking philosophies between older fans and younger fans. it seems that older fans embrace creating transformative works and having their own interpretations on who dnp are, whereas younger fans want to know dnp on a personal level and want dnp to know Them and recognize them not just as fans but as people. and OFC there are older phannies who want the parasocial interaction and younger phannies who write fic and people who do neither, and people who do both! (hi :3) but then some people have a difficult time being able to marry the two ideas maybe?

heres the truth. dan and phil are real human beings who have made a career largely off their shared dynamic together, BOTH because they genuinely enjoy creating and being together AND because a lot of people really get invested in it and it makes them more money. they don't mind fic or art, you probably SHOULDNT tag them in the saucy stuff, but they know it's out there and generally have been respectful of fan spaces and knowing where OUR boundaries lie (altho maybe the line was toed w the roblox video but thats debatable.) they really do care about their audience both in order to please us and keep us coming back, AND because they see how much theyve affected us as people and have a deep *Sarapocial Relationship with us.

there are both parasocial AND tranformative ways to break boundaries, and oftentimes they can be one and the same. they aren't our friends they arent our dads and they arent objects with no feelings. they don't stalk our accounts but they are still able to see whatever we post publicly. theyve seen so many horrible things and have had many horrible things happen to them, and while no one can be certain something like that won't happen again, now that they have been able to be more honest with us about a lot of things they are able to trust us a little bit more.

anyway ramble over back to me talking abt how dan should embrace their transness

[matoitech]

it’s obviously important for ppl to criticize misogyny particularly transmisogyny in trans male communities since thats a trans community issue but if ur also tme and the only thing u ever exclusively talk about trans men for is talking abt us as bigoted misogynists (usually there’s a ‘binary’ slapped in front of it) i genuinely think you need to put the phone down go outside and remember that whatever insane misogynist guys online are saying is not a necessarily a reflection of like things adult men outside of a weird fringe group of freak transmisogynist dudes on tumblr who think the boys should get our own word JUST like the GIRLS or its NOT FAIR!! or whatever (and one coined by a fucking terf at that..) are saying, or justification for behaving weirdly about an entire diverse community of trans people.

again i do not say this to like dissuade ppl from discussing legitimate problems but like a couple points- 'binary' trans men r capable of talking about it ourselves, and we do, and we’re not the ones whose posts get shared about it. and second: if you’re only bringing us up to talk abt how shitty particularly TRANS men are you might have a problem you need to deal with? this is not a shocking statement. like at some point someone has to point it out to you and sit there and take the shit and patiently explain to you it’s that the problem comes when its literally the ONLY thing you bring us up for and act like we're not capable of talking abt this ourselves, and that its a problem how comfortable ppl r for letting ppl speak over/for us if the only similarity they share w trans men is.. an agab and not being cis (yikes!). or if theyre transmasc and male aligned in some capacity but dont have any interest in engaging with or considering themselves a part of like trans men, THEYRE the ones who need to talk abt it, bcuz the (usually 'binary') Trans Men wont (not saying those ppl cant or shouldnt but they may be treated differently for doing so)

first ppl liked using transmeds existing to throw up justification for treating us like a bigoted monolith you (uniquely) Just Dont Feel Safe Around and its normal to make assumptions abt us being transphobic especially if we don't identify by labels deemed 'safe' and Inherently More Radical, and now its pretending we all collectively cant recognize our privilege thru our intense blinding hatred of women and its up to you to save us from ourselves and beat some common sense into the inherently bigoted stupid about gender patriarchy dicksucker boys. like i dont know im tired of it when trans men being accused of only existing bcuz we want to be patriarchy bootlickers i guess is always what radfems have thrown at us, so its not like this negative perception of trans men filtered thru a supposedly progressive lense is new. a lot of adult trans men dont talk abt like particular hot shit thats discussed a lot on here rn (the 'trans misandry' shit for example) bcuz its was not a problem in the spaces we're in and we knew it was stupid as fuck right away and barely worth talking about to say 'yeah you know that thing we all know is stupid and bullshit? its stupid and bullshit'. bcuz we're not fifteen years old or weird misogynists. we have brains, don't hate women, and we dont all know and hang around the same people.

anyway dont take this post as a stand in for serious discussion and calling out misogyny (again especially transmisogyny) w other men, those posts do need to exist, i am not trying to say this stuff shouldnt be talked about. what i'm specifically pointing out is a frustrating pattern in the perception of and discussion of trans men that ppl probably dont realize theyre participating in. i do think it is very important to talk abt community issues and criticisms but if its literally the one thing you bring up trans men for i think being aware of that behavior has no NEGATIVES here. also do have to bring up i specified other tme ppl early on bcuz this isnt smth ive experienced or seen from transfems and their position as like the affected party of transmisogyny is automatically like .. if they have issues w trans men it is pretty inherently coming from a different place than like, a cis womans, or a tme nonbinary person, or a transmasc person with issues with trans men, or a cis mans, etc. tme ppl who are on a very different ground here, whose behavior is straight up different anyway

[leeyanyanyaaan]

told my parents abt the new one piece live action thats coming out (bc i introduce anime to my kdrama mom w live action anime adaptations) and we talked abt how its gonna go

obviously im gonna be biased bc one piece is my favorite of all time (+ i dont have high standards considering ive watched a lot of live action anime), but the trailer looked really promising, and even made me smile and laugh so much! especially during snippets where the crews dynamic was shown (much love to iñaki he makes a perfect luffy), so im really looking forward to the release :D

we mainly talked abt how the adaptations story is gonna go, since yknow this is a BIG big series and its impossible to actually recreate the WHOLE thing, so ofc theres likely to be lots of changes.

SO my take is that they stop at the end of east blue arc/the formation of the og 5 crew and conclude it there, nice and short. east blue/baroque works usually seem to be the make it or break it for ppl getting into one piece so theres that too.

BUT!! lets say that the live action was a huge success, in the same way alice in borderlands s1 was, and they decide to continue adapting it. i dont think its likely and even if they do its gonna be a lot of work considering how meticulous the production crew is with detail (eg building the actual sets like going merry and baratie), but lets say they do it; i actually think it could work up until the end of pretimeskip arc!

think about after sabaody arc they got seperated and originally planned to find each other asap, but then luffy announced they meet in two years after the paramount war arc, and then we get a nice monolgue thingy as the two years pass and we see post time skip luffy kinda thing ready to start the grand line journey, i think itd thatd be a nice way to end the live action!

but ofc, i know how much work all of pre time skip would be, so i know its not very realistic, but if they do decide on producing more seasons i dont really see any other point in between that would be a good stopping point, like its either you stay w the og 5 crew or get all of pretimeskip ot9. i know we have the nonhuman charas to worry about and powers and whatnot, but its not like netflix has to adapt the series frame by frame; on the contrary, they really shouldnt bc the comedic novelty just wont work onto live action, and u can see that they consider this by not giving sanji and usopp the curly eyebrows and long nose (buggy looks fine in the trailer imo, his scene actually gave off video game trailer vibes which i liked a lot). i really think it can work if they just toned down the series to make it more down to earth (this could mean cutting down some of luffys moves like gum gum balloon in place of more practical fighting moves, which is most likely going to be the case for zoro and sanji i think) and i guess simplifying the story in general?

anyways, those are just some headcanons of mine AHAHDVSKBS very excited for the one piece live action!!

[edgarallanpoestan]

the crazy thing about working with a lot of neurodivergent kids while my coworkers are neurotypical is that my coworkers dont understand why these kids behave a certain way beyond "they are autistic"

yesterday we were outside and one girl (who has autism and has a lot of needs associated w that) asked me to blow some bubbles for her. some other counselors did earlier, and i heard them tell her over and over not to try eating the bubbles. i agree but warn her not to eat the bubbles, and when she does, i warn her again. she tries again, so i ask her if she knows why im telling her not to do that, and she says no. so i explain that bubbles have soap and water and chemicals, and that theyre okay to touch, but if you put a bunch in your mouth you can get sick. she nods and she stops trying to eat bubbles

like i just. i assumed these ppl who have been here for years had explained the reasoning to this kid, especially since she obviously benefits from that explanation. so i was so shocked when she said no, she doesnt know why she shouldnt eat the bubbles. youre for real telling me none of u tried actually talking to her beyond just saying "no"?

it was just a moment where i realized how little nt adults try to actually understand nd kids (or kids in general or nd people in general). yall really gave me the methods u use to calm her down but not the methods to keep her from having a meltdown bc u cant fathon why someone would act that way. and like yeah sometimes its inevitable, but sometimes its not and its easy to prevrnt and easy to keep these kids comfortable and u just dont know why they cant listen to ur instructions without question

[skincareroutine]

sorry if this ask is inappropriate feel free to ignore. but i literally have only ever been attracted to women with broad shoulders i know liking ur body shouldnt depend on if other ppl have been attracted to ur body type i do know that but i hope u know broad shoulders in women are crazy fucking attractive. and when yall wear dresses that show ur back and shoulders i cant help but Look Disrespectfully i’m very sorry if this ask is weird . i just really wanna throw hands with whomever decided that the societal standard for attractiveness in women doesn’t include broad shoulders i really cannot wrap my head around it and it upsets me that beautiful broad shouldered queens are being gaslighted into thinking their shoulders are anything but gorgeous. obviously fuck societal standards for attractiveness in general yada yada but i genuinely dont understand them lol . again sorry for making this about attractiveness bc it shouldnt define how much u like urself either way FKSKFJD but i couldnt stop myself from typing this . sorry andgod bless you and ur broad shoulders

adore the memoir here’s a treat

[butchviking]

What does "feminism can and must be compatible with trans issues" mean to you? Ive been trying to be more inclusive, but trans issues often to seem to be incompatible with feminism.

hm well that was one line of the post that i did think 'i wouldnt phrase it quite that way'. i think besides the weird-ass conservative strains of feminism that dont reflect what i consider feminism at all, feminism IS compatible with trans issues. not that "it must be" like feminists have to change what they're doing to revolve more around trans issues or anything - feminism has no obligation to fight for trans issues just like the anti-racism movement has no obligation to fight sexism and the gay rights movement has no obligation to fight for disability rights - but that those causes simply ARE compatible. classic example: the public bathroom debate. right now that's often framed like feminism and trans activism are diametrically opposed and there can be no resolution for one that doesn't contradict the needs of the other. the trans activist movement wants all public toilets to be unisex and based on gender identity instead; the feminist movement wants sex-segregation regardless of gender identity. only, most feminists i know all agree by now that just. adding a unisex/gender-neutral option is literally the obvious and best way to keep people safe. and if there's no room for adding an extra, convert all the current spaces to single-stall unisex facilities. that way literally everyone is kept safe, no-one's rights are encroached on at all and anyone who takes issue is either a predator upset that they don't have the opportunities for abuse they wanted or a selfish weirdo who only cares about how they feel abt women or trans ppl or whatever ("but thats not good enough i want to use the WOMENS room!!"/"why should we have to give up OUR space just because of the transgenders!!") rather than about the actual safety & wellbeing of both of those groups. we're made to think feminism and trans rights activism are incompatible on this, its one of the biggest talking points in conservative media bc they KNOW it gets everyone at each others throats. but theyre literally compatible theyre literally so so compatible there is no reason on this earth anyone should still be having this stupid fucking debate its such a COLOSSAL waste of all our time.

there are certain things i think some feminists could do with not being so weird about. a lot of women are still super yucked out by male gender non-conformity and a lot of them for some reason still won't even admit it even though they bang on about it aallllll the time - but oh no, that's not bc they think it's creepy and fucked up for dudes to wear dresses and makeup, they're only saying these horrible things abt it because this one dude is transgender and that means they're evil and misogynistic by default so theyre fair game! (does anyone remember - haha kidding i know u remember i know i never shut up abt it - how many women on radblr were so so weirded out and for some reason ANGERED by gerard in his little dresses & skirts. he's not even trans. in fact suddenly everyone seemed to be saying "oh yeah he's definitely going to come out as trans sometime soon 🙄 he's obviously drunk all the gender kool-aid 🙄" like shut up you literally just made that up in your head to try and justify ur anger. shut upppp.) or sometimes it's like "men shouldnt wear makeup because its mocking our oppression it's wearing our chains for fun" - it really isnt and you need to get over yourself.

there are also certain things some trans activists could do with not being so weird about. if i see one more fucking transwoman act like its her god-given right to be included in lesbian dating pools, or transman that its his god-given right to be included in gay mens dating pools, i am going to start burning things i am going to start burning so many things and people too and i am going to squidge all the organs from inside these people until all the moisture is wrung out and i am going to set those on fire too. homosexuality is fucking natural innate sex-based and NORMAL and HEALTHY and GOOD. ive seen pro-trans lesbians turn into "terfs" based on this point alone btw - they were so fucking sick of all the homophobia they became vehemently opposed to the whole movement. they began to believe that feminism, gay rights activism, and trans rights activism AREN'T compatible. i still believe they are i just think some people need to throw out the bullshit that isnt actually relevant to either cause.

[wetslug]

Autism has a HUUUUGE range of presentations and with that, a huge range in how it impacts people's ability to do normal things.

I'm sure it's good that the language has evolved and people don't really use "high functioning" versus "low functioning" anymore, but it has bugged me how this super diverse diagnosis ends up with a really reductive singular label in the discourse.

Like, someone who is a little particular about what they eat and how they dress saying "autism is my superpower! I love being neurospicy :)" feels honestly kind of insulting and minimizing when I went to school with boys with such bad social skills and impulse control that they would just undress in the middle of class or attack classmates with whatever was at hand. That's to say nothing of people who are completely nonverbal or have more severe disabilities that stem from severe autism.

I think a weird drawback of some of the modern conversation around autism and its acceptance has actually made it harder for people to talk about the hard parts of it. I'm sorry if that's something you're going through.

YEEE its so goddamn frustrating like dont get me wrong obviously i have low-support needs compared to most ppl on the spectrum but with the current social openness of diagnosis i find myself comparing myself to nt people AND nd people now and still feeling shitty 😭😭 i know u shouldnt compare yourself to Anybody but hehhghhhh its hard

[bearsgrove]

petty/angry/useless rants below

are there seriously people on this site with "virtual photographer" in the description. like.. that means something… so u take screenshots in games and upload them to tumblr dot com and then beg for reblogs when it doesnt get over 1k notes..... ok...... u know come to think of it i shouldn't be surprised

ppl are so fucking embarrassing on this website i am continually surprised but also i shouldnt be i have been here for years

on a different note. i wouldnt rb someone's creation and hate on it in the tags obviously but i have to let out the steam somewhere. that is not paarthurnax. thats a dragon retexture from g*t. good god. the skyrim content ive been seeing is such a minor thing but it pisses me off so much i kinda want to blacklist the skyrim tag sometimes. the things ive been seeing….. thats not skyrim…… thats not my friend paarthurnax……….. its soulless......... think i talked about this before but every couple of months there is a new skyrim gifmaker or whatever that uploads a bunch of stuff that is Everywhere for months and then it disappears into the void and every single time without a fail its those least skyrim resembling gifsets that i see the most. again i know this is stupid and minor and blah blah river why do u care. i dont know!!! just annoys me. thats not skyrim. thats like some combination of tw3 or rdr2 or ghost of tsushima or idk. everything looks and feels the same lately. no variety. anywhere. just perfection and realism. ok im done now goodbye

[glitchbirds]

the more i think about it the more i think “dont hatewatch anything dont give (x) any attention” is a sentiment thats a bit misguided, though i understand completely where it comes from

because, like, in that ideal world where no one online Does hatewatch anything that looks like trash from the first preview.. should only official film/television critics hired on major publications and already established in the industry have the privilege to watch whatever studio slop is pumped out? or does that privilege extend to people who make, like, informal critical essays and videos online discussing media; but beyond them the average person should not watch these things because its Bad and Morally Wrong to do so, they have to achieve the Special Privilege of having an audience for them to be allowed to watch something for critical purposes? or are they ALL corporate shills and not even critics should be covering shows like velma because its all free publicity? because idk. i feel like the implication here is either “death to all discussion of things i personally think suck (that i havent watched myself yet and never will) we should all just ignore it until it goes away” OR you make allowances for official film critics and the like and we have a roger ebert-type situation where ppl trust the word of certain critics so thoroughly that they never watch media outside their bubble of immediate interest themselves and just parrot the opinions of critics they like. so media can live and die by the force of what the most popular film writers of our time have to say about it, regardless of their actual quality. (frankly, we’re kind of already nearing at that point in certain online circles with some popular video essayists/“video essayists”, but i digress.) also, like, as plenty of ppl have pointed out, hatewatching is Not the main source of engagement for most shows you and all your tumblr mutuals think sucks, because there are plenty of ppl earnestly watching these things because theyve been heavily advertised to/because theyre interested in the IP/because it Actually seems to align with their sense of humor/etc. so in the ideal no-hatewatching-ever society, only ppl who have no real reason to object to the media in question will watch it, making actual debate and critique of the media impossible. because if all you can really say to them in protest is something you read in a polygon article once, you cant pull genuine examples that you understand in full context and it gets increasingly difficult to argue your points with someone who actually Has seen the full thing, even if their conclusions are heavily flawed.

obviously this is all hypotheticals and extremes because its impossible for hatewatching and media critique to just cease. and i absolutely dont think theres like a moral issue with telling ppl to not watch the stupid scooby doo television show, let alone being annoyed at it all over your dash. but im starting to think that the refrain shouldnt be “dont hatewatch EVER” and should be “dont create a fandom out of hatewatching”. because really fandom IS the problem here- you can watch whatever the hell you want on your own time and i honestly have no issues with ppl constructively picking apart shows like velma on their own blogs but its another thing entirely to be making harry potter “fix it” aus in 2023, u know? or making countless posts of just out of context screencaps (of dialogue the creators of the show Knew you were going to make out of context screencaps of), w/ no further critique beyond “what were they thinking?!?”-type captions. idk. just hatewatch and engage critically.

and pirate whatever you’re watching. obviously.

[multifandombullshitbabes]

ok this is just a random post abt me musing abt my sexuality and my attraction to people that are not women?

like. im a lesbian. point blank period, thats me. but to me, that not only includes women, but also the non binary spectrum. i just dont want men; theyre not for me, there 0 attraction there

and ive been thinking abt the nuances of that, and how vast the non binary spectrum is, cuz its literally everything that is not binary (men and women). and thats crazy btw like i love it, i love being genderqueer, i love that i have a community that gets it and is so diverse and beautiful and im gonna stop or imma get emotional. anyways.

in the last few days ive been thinking. abt amab individuals who are on the nb spectrum. and i think, before, in my mind (and this is genuinely something that im glad im working on btw), me being attracted to nb ppl who were amab was wrong? because to a lot of ppl thats just men (which is transphobic btw; idk why its so much easier to see afab ppl as nb and thats that, but then amab ppl its another thing? like thats weird, why is it like that?? we need to work on that, seriously)

and ive come to the conclusion, which is the logical one btw, that: if theyre non binary, then theres a chance i will be attracted to them. ofc theres nuances here n there, n sexuality n gender is vast n complex, n if u dont want to, dont put urself in a box that doesnt fit u, but yh!! like. for example: a bigender individual, amab. i would so crush on them (depending on my type n shit like that yknow, its not every bigender person ever lmao, my mind does have certain things it likes more here n there, but i hope this makes sense still). an amab person who is a demiboy or goes by he/they or whatever else; like thats not A Man, thats a person who fucking went through a gender self discovery journey, probably still is there just discovering shit abt themselves and theyre queer and they get it!!!! they know what its like to not be binary!!! and i rly hope this isnt fucking mind blowing or god forbid problematic to yall, cuz it shouldnt!!!

im a lesbian, and that to me means im not attracted to men. anything else fucking goes OBVIOUSLY. i rly hope this is making sense, i rly hope im not saying anything stupid here. if u think i said anything wrong or hurtful or if i should put any trigger/content warnings pls do tell me!!! this is just a post abt me musing abt my sexuality and finally working on this weird issue i was having which shouldnt even fucking be there!! my brain was just being dumb!!

i feel like ppl will do ANYTHING to tell lesbians that they are not, in fact, lesbians, and i feel like this will break those ppls minds. but yh. im a lesbian bitches. thats what i am rn, thats what i think i'll be for a long long long long long time. and yh. rly hope this makes sense.

edit: n i didnt even touch on intersex ppl yknow like. its so complex but its also rly simple, i feel like ppl just like to poke at this and make The Big Issue that it is but rly isnt. yknow??

[horsedenial]

i do like what doja cat is doing trying to rip apart stanning culture cuz ofc She Doesnt Know U so Dont Apply Ur Expectations to a Stranger and thats well and good i think that its great she finally said smt cuz it is fucked up parasocialism. then theres the bigger thing shes going for where its like, her past 2 albums were “cash grabs”, and i do think they were on some level but not to the extent that she described. i think she does like rapping ab sex and her personal problems But shes using this as a means to get to the top, fitting perfectly within the box then making it and breaking it apart. shes not even rly breaking it apart lmao. her new music is good and im really excited to c where she goes with it bcuz most pop does have a distinct hollowness to it, playing to marketability, and obviously shes proven she’s incredibly talented so take away that hollow part andddd?!?! cover it in blood ig mommy. lmao. but there is something that i feel like is missing all the while, esp w her racist and previous pedo bf. and her ignoring ppl who came to her saying he groomed them??? like yes u shouldnt care what ppl esp total strangers think of ur personal life as a global popstar BUT when the fucking flags r red the flags r FUCKIN RED. esp gurls who he fucked with in the past like theyre tryint to Help her.. idk. a broken heart is blind 😫 but obviously idk her idk her life she might b just as bad as she says she is but i dont think so. i hope she really does have magical foresight and can learn 2 love herself and her own judgment. but hey. maybe i am projecting (i am)

[matoitech]

it also just annoys me in terms of ppl saying they want movies w gay people that arent like love simon and arent explicitely entirely a romance movie where the appeal is them saying the gay word, and then when those movies come out even years later ppl r still like what a fun movie where the characters werent rly gay bcuz it wasnt like love simon and they didnt say the word gay

[outragedslime]

im gonna ramble in the tags abt smth ive been thinking about SGDFH

[verytendou]

twitter is hm. Ppl make ship justification threads apparently now? Maybe that was always a thing but like never have i just seen a thread of someone going ‘here are all the parts that make my ship right and valid’ with a ship that has literally nothing wrong with it. With the purpose of showing it to ppl who tell u not to ship it. What is Up my dudes