#self care with dieter & jett

[morallyinept]

Your primary audience is you.

No-one writes like you do. No-one draws like you do. No-one is creative like you are.

You are unique.

It's hard sometines, real hard, to not look at others and wish you were as a good as them. It's easy to give up. To shout "why bother" or "no-one cares".

You bother. You care.

That's why you sit at your keyboard, or pick up your paintbrush.

You are as good as they are. Some might argue you're better. It doesn't matter what they think. They don't define you.

Numbers are emotionless, they don't care.

Some do bother. Some do care. Some worship you silently. Some live for your next piece. Some are inspired by you.

Even if it's only one person you touch with your words or art, surely that's worth it?

You are unique.

No-one writes like you do. No-one draws like you do. No-one is creative like you are.

You are unique.

Do it for you. Do it because you love it. Do it because it excites you. Do it because it makes you happy.

Your primary audience is you.

The rest of them are an added bonus.

🖤

YOU. ARE. STRONGER. THAN. YOU. THINK. 🖤

Do you. Then do Dieter.

Self-Care with Dieter & Jett

[ladamedusoif]

I don’t know how I missed this!! How lovely to have a little Dieter & Jett mood boost in my inbox 💗 Thank you!

[rhoorl]

Week in Review | Oct. 1

Happy October! This month is a really special month for me personally (more on that later). It marks three months on Tumblr! I’m approaching a pretty significant follower milestone (for me) which is really cool. I try to not pay attention to numbers because that’s stressful and I'm trying to treat this as my fun space (and me time), but this milestone made me pause and think about the little community I’ve found here and how special it is to me. To anyone who has left a comment, reblog, like, ask, or message - thank you! You’ve brought some laughter and smiles to my days. My inbox is always open so if you want to say hi please do!

Anyway, here we go with the week in review… 

Fics I read this week:

Frankie Morales

The Pilot and His Girl by @avastrasposts - I don't want to spoil what happens in the latest chapter but ahhhh this series is just so so good. But seriously, pack some Kleenex for Chapter 33.

Grocery List by @frenchiereading - I love everything in the Mr. Morales and Miss universe. This is just such cute Frankie fluff.

Delta Palms Tropical Resort by @linzels-blog - You know I love a Triple Frontier AU and I’m so excited to see all of the goings on at the resort run by the boys!

Joel Miller

Body Language by @cupofjoel- Joel shows up at your place with a camcorder and some fun ensues…

Happy Birthday by @trulybetty - Needless to say Joel had a very good birthday this year based on some of the fics I added to my TBR list. However this fic right here?! I was a mess after the first freaking sentence - soft smut is your specialty friend!!

Another entry from @linzels-blog this time in the way of some cute Joel fluff when he attends a parent-teacher conference. 

Javier Peña

It's Never Too Late by @javierpena-inatacvest - I was seriously smiling the whole time I read this latest chapter. If you’re looking for a softer Javi (who is still spicy, can’t take that part out of him), then this is such a great read!

What Do We Have Here? by @secretelephanttattoo - We get a little more insight into what Javi’s relationship with Elisa could have been like. I loved all of the references to the show.

Drenched by @ramblers-lets-get-ramblin Javi comes home from work sweaty (hello sweaty curls sticking to the back of his neck) and he and reader both end up drenched. 😉

Marcus Pike

Headshots by @secretelephanttattoo - Reader is a photographer tasked with taking headshots at the FBI office.  Marcus is so freaking cute in this. 

Dieter Bravo 

Destiny & Deliverance by @mysterious-moonstruck-musings is a staple on this list and the only Dieter fic I’m consistently reading at the moment. Sounds like we may need to form a support group based on what may be happening in the upcoming chapters, but I am ready.

Fun Posts

Dieter and @morallyinept were back this week dishing out some self-care advice. I seriously love the way Jett puts these posts together, they make me laugh and think.

I shared some of my favorite things on this post, which also included some photos I've taken.

Feral corner:

Joel’s birthday coupled with photos of Pedro on the picket line kept the feral corner well occupied this week. I mean, look at him. I don't even care how he ties his shoes because he's adorable no matter what.

I found there’s a name for the affliction that I and many of us suffer from - Chronic Pascalitis. There are ways to lessen the symptoms, although do you really want that?

Also, the Pike Puddle is getting deeper thanks to posts like this and like this.

Can we also appreciate how beautiful this photo of Pedro is from earlier this year when we appeared on Seth Meyers' show?!

Things I watched:

I started watching this show on Max called Mosaic featuring Garrett Hedlund. It’s been interesting so far, I’m only about halfway through. There was an episode where looked like Benny and I about lost my damn mind.

Personal Update

This month is a really special month for me personally - my daughter was born in October, we rescued our dog in October, and we got married in October. Needless to say, there’s a lot to celebrate but it also has me in my feels as I sit back and reflect on a lot of things.

The past two years and the transition to becoming a mom has been hard and I’m a work in progress on that front every single day. But we've made it and I'm pretty lucky to have the independent, fearless, and hilarious little girl that I do.

My parents have been in town for the past couple of days to celebrate my daughter’s birthday. As a result, my husband and I get to take advantage of some free babysitting help and are doing a little overnight trip. It’s an early anniversary present for us to stay at one of the on-site hotels at Universal and go to Halloween Horror Nights for the night. Yay I get to see Joel and the TLOU house again!

Aside from that, we have some fun things planned this week. I’m excited for the weekend when I get to go see A Strange Way of Life in theaters! I’ll be sure to include a spoiler-free review here next week!

Fic updates:

I should have the next chapter of Working Title out soon. Thank you to those who have listened to me rant and ramble on about it. I’ve been struggling with the latest chapter. Once I get that out then I’ll work on Delta Landscaping - Will and Katie go on their date, but we also have Friday night plans for the others too. I also shared a little tease about a new neighbor coming to Mule Fall Court.

Thanks as always for reading my ramblings, I hope you have an awesome week!

[sin-djarin]

Hi Becca ! 💙 I have soft asks for you: 8, 10, 24 and 24

Because I love ya and miss ya: 🥰

I figured I’d top you off with two of your gentlemen or bottom you out. 🤭🧡🧡 Whichever is your preference. 😘

Love,

Nerdie ❤️❤️❤️

Nerdie, you are too kind dropping my favs in my inbox!

8. tag someone (or multiple people) who make you feel good. 

Can I tag most of this fandom? No, probably not. But to name a few YOU, of course! I’m forever in awe of your dedication to writing. But to name a few others:

@morallyinept has such a huge heart and endless talent. Self care with Dieter and Jett means so much to me and this entire fandom I’m sure!

@chronically-ghosted Taylor’s tags always give me a giggle!

@joelsgreenflannel the sweetest soul!

@secretelephanttattoo for letting me share custody of Det. Rockford.

@for-a-longlongtime for never letting me doubt myself and for telling me endlessly to WRITE THAT FIC. And I will. Eventually 😂

@rhoorl for checking in and writing one of the first fics I read on here. (Please check out Working Title if you haven’t already!)

(I’m absolutely forgetting to tag a BUNCH ( and anxious about it!) but if you follow me I’m blessed and I love you all very much!) 🤍🤍

10. what’s something you’re excited for?

More sun! I got some today but wow, it’s cool how much it heightens my mood. And Clint and Lucien amirite?

24. what’s something you do to de-stress?

I’ll stick my earbuds in and hit shuffle on a random playlist. I love striking gold on new music or something I haven’t heard before!

Love you, Nerdie. Have a fab weekend! 🤍

[trulybetty]

Sunday Week in Review XI

This week's header is dedicated to @legendary-pink-dot for the idea of Dieter being his own 80s sitcom 😝💕

Is everyone okay this morning? Have we all recovered from last night? Do we need to hydrate, grab a snack (not that kind of snack) and recoup? Any welfare checks we need to send out? Phew 🫠

It's been a slog to get through this week, and I didn't get to as much reading as I wanted, which you'll see below. These daily prompts have been taking up more time than I expected and work has picked up (rude). But I'm also realising as I read through people's weekly round-ups, that I've missed a lot this week that I haven't seen come across my dash.

So if you've posted something this week (fanfic, thots or anything else) and you'd like to share it - feel free to drop it in my DM's or as an Asks!

T R U L Y  U P D A T E S . . .

oct' x 15 - first wine (sequins!joel x reader)

oct' x 16 - flying kites (frankie x reader)

oct' x 17 - whispers (chiffon!dieter x bryony)

oct' x 18 - picking apples (sequins!joel x reader)

oct' x 19 - ghosts (dieter x f!reader)

oct' x 20 - sweater weather (chiffon!dieter x bryony)

oct' x 21 - acorns (tim rockford x f!reader)

birthdays, besties & bravos (celebrating the lovely @wildemaven)

W H A T  I  R E A D . . .

A Safe Haven | Chapter 9 (Joel) (Check TW’s) by @joelsgreys This was the update I've been so patiently waiting for and it did not disappoint! This is a fantastic series that I never thought I'd get so emotionally invested in - but that's how good Vee is! This is always one of my top recommendations when suggesting Joel fanfics to read!

Working Title | Chapter 14 (Dieter) by @rhoorl Another great update for Dieter and Belle - I'm rooting for these two from the sidelines and I'm exciting to see how things play out for them!

Delta Landscaping | Chapter 8 (Triple Frontier + Pedro Characters) by @rhoorl Okay, there's not one, but two Pedro Character appearances this week and I'm trying to figure out how I can move to Mule Falls Court like yesterday - because it's all going down over there and I highly recommend this be added to your reading if you haven't read it yet. A Month of Sundays (Various) by @gnpwdrnwhiskey I'm living for all of these prompts and I can't choose one or two because they've all been soooo good!

M E M O R A B L E  P O S T S . . .

I'm on edge as @for-a-longlongtime shares more of their WIP that is Peña x Rockford x Reader, with that line up you know it's going to be good!

Self Care with Dieter & Jett (@morallyinept) - this week it's emotions and highlights some important stuff!

More Dieter and his hippo table shenanigans delivered by @i-love-movies to @gnpwdrnwhiskey, this made my week 🤣

B R O U G H T  T H E  J O Y . . .

Bit of a personal one, but we got to do a little Halloween festive trip out yesterday with the little Truly's. Something you're not always able to do when you have a child with extra needs, as events such as these can be a bit overwhelming for a multitude of reasons. So when we're able to attend ones that are specially catered for families like ours, it's always a special occasion - even if it does make you realise how unfit you are wrangling two kids 🤣 Also, keeping on brand, Baby Truly adored all the Halloween decor and was waving and saying hello to her minions the props.

Watched the new Goosebumps on Disney+ not expecting much, and I actually enjoyed it. Little Betty would have been all over this as a kid.

Also, watched my annual viewing of Practical Magic, which thanks to the wonders of the digital age I own to stream to my heart's content regardless of the season.

T H I S  W E E K ' S  J A M . . .

Back in my Matchbox Twenty feels this week 💛 - this one has been in heavy rotation while writing!

Hope everyone has had a great week! Here's to a new week ahead! Hopefully, if Pedro makes another appearance we'll all be ready for it, or at least recovered by then! 😝🫠

Happy Sunday all! ☀️💛

[sp00kymulderr]

5th Nov.

This week has been fucking weird. I don't want to go in to detail but the mental health was not it. But then the last couple days have been ??? oddly good. Thanks a lot to this place, this community. Idk. I'm not much of a good at talking to people person but there's just something about people in this fandom that makes life feel alright. I'm obsessed w you guys honestly 💕

I didn't do much this week. I got ghosted. I went to a Rammstein tribute. I ran around the park with my nephew. I had a shit few days at work but what's that but normal right now?

I've read some good good stuff this week.

Who would I be without mentioning into the beat of the night chapter one - transmission by @perotovar - one chapter in and this fic is already everything to me ❤️

Every Colour Illuminates by @the-blind-assassin-12 was a beautiful way to start my week off, a gorgeous read.

Not a fic, but this Self Care with Dieter & Jett post really put me on a good track after some bad days. Thank you @morallyinept

And because I didn't post my recs last week I have have to mention two fics by @covetyou which changed me fundamentally: Send in the Clown

open hand or closed fist would be fine (I'm reading the rest of swat now and um wow 😮)

Lo, how can i convince you to write a bravo the clown fisting fic?!?!

I actually posted quite a lot this week??? somehow??? The notes are shockingly low and tbh I nearly deleted one of these the day after posting but I am resisting and trying to remain proud that I even wrote anything.

I finally posted Our House of Flames pt 3 - Afterburn which I my ongoing 4 part Joel series. Great if you like grief and misery and guilt lmao.

Put up chapter one of Lucida Sidera, my Ezra series featuring my first original character! This fic is an update of something I first plotted and posted in 2019 and has a special place in my heart.

And I also posted these Pedro boy gender and sexuality headcanons!

Tomorrow I have a job interview…I'm not sure how I feel about it yet, but I do need a new job and this one helps me stay in a similar position to what I'm in now. The rest of the week is lacking in any plans bc I’m boring, but I'll definitely be back at the gym and I'm starting a new program so maybe I'll get back into heavy deadlifts since I haven't done any in a few weeks!

Also writing, with hopes to publish a dirty Joel oneshot and possibly a Dieter thing if I can get my act together!

Love you guys. Thanks for the things you do. You're incredible 🩷✨🩷✨

[morallyinept]

For anyone who needs to hear this today...

Dieter and I are just weighing in on some of the conversations floating around where people are feeling like they're not wanted here, or who feel like they might want to leave...

You ARE absolutely wanted here.

Whether you're a creator, reader, silent lurker. It doesn't matter if you have 1 follower or 10k. Whether you write one chapter every few weeks, or churn out fics on the daily.

This is a fandom, not a competition.

You. Are. All. Wanted. Here.

Tumblr, for want of a better analogy, is a crap factory of a website. 😝 It's gone down the pan in the last decade massively, and it's the complete opposite of what other social media platforms do, (in terms of likes and algorithims etc... you have to re-blog everything - not like it - here to get any traction) you get out of Tumblr what you put in, effectively.

No-one here is better than anyone else, we're all part of that big Pedro table and continuously squish up to make room for everyone. And if anyone isn't doing that, then they should be the one's to leave, not you.

I get it. I feel it too. I've contemplated leaving several times. Yeah. It's a hard place sometimes to try and make a tiny space of it your own.

☝🏻But remember, even the biggest blogs on here started off with zero followers and had to build their niche from scratch. Rome wasn't built in a day.

It takes time and effort. It might look like it's easy for others, but it really isn't. And I'm in no way a "big blog" in the slightest.

But I stay here doing my own thing, because ultimately, I love writing and creating - it makes me happy, and I love the sense of community here.

I get immense joy out of making my silly banners and posts, and having a giggle with like-minded people when Pedro shaves his beard off (🫠). I ignore the drama and focus on having a positive time here.

But I get that doesn't work for everybody. Sometimes it's hard to tune all the fuzz out, right? It's massively overwhelming some days on here - I feel ya, bub.

The level of talent in this fandom is incredible, but it often leaves you feeling like "where do I begin?" Or "who do I talk to?" And "how do I talk to someone without coming across as weird?" And "how the hell do I re-blog everything and reply to comments and remember to answer DM's and Asks, whilst remembering to update my WIP and see what my fav blogs have posted, and catch up on that fic I like..? 🤯

In short, you can't.

You simply can't do everything.

And you shouldn't try to either as that's when you'll burn out and when things start feeling overwhelming. Then your enjoyment wanes and then that's when you feel like you want to give it all in.

Just breathe.

The best advice I can give (and I'm no expert!) is to curate your own experience here as best as you can.

Eliminate that overwhelming feeling to make your Tumblr time and space enjoyable.

Make it work for you and your needs.

Some easy things you can do that might help:

Update your notifications - I personally filter out the likes, otherwise I find I miss notifs like new followers or comments etc... Tumblr can be glitchy as hell too, so by removing the likes, you can see all the stuff you don't wanna miss. To turn them off, go into your activity (app version) and hit custom, scroll down to custom again and then untick likes:

There's a new option now to subscribe to specific blogs you like and adjust your home feed settings to that. You click on the blogs themselves and add them to get notifications and then they'll appear under Blog Subs on your feed. You can then switch through feeds to just see the blogs you've added, rather than everyone you follow. It's then easy to switch between feeds:

Limit your time here - if it starts to feel overwhelming, take a break! That's your brain telling you that you might need it. We'll all still be here when you come back. Don't compromise your peace of mind or happiness for the sake of scrolling for hours.

If you're a creator and have writer's block etc... again, take that break! Whether it's a day or a week, or a year. Take as long as you need. Those that are worth it will still be here and will wait patiently for you. Don't put unnecessary pressure on yourself. And if anyone does pressure you, block them.

Forget the numbers. I know, I know, it's easier said than done. Of course we want re-blogs and engagement, it's why we're here and putting our work out there. We wouldn't do it if we didn't want that engagement. But don't let the numbers be the main reason why you do it, otherwise your expectation can often be met with a harsh reality when it doesn't go how you think it will. Do it because it makes you happy, first and foremost. There will always be someone who looks forward to what you put out there.

If you want engagement, you need to engage back. This community survives and thrives on sharing. Re-blog everything you like. Re-blogging is the number one must on Tumblr. It's how the site works. Likes are lovely, but it's simply just a book marking feature here, which is essentially useless as your likes get pushed to the bottom of your like pile the more you like things. RE-BLOG EVERYTHING. By re-blogging you can also use tags so you can easily find things again. Liked that Frankie Morales fic you read last week? Re-blog it with the tag 'Frankie Morales' for example, and then you can search your own blog to find everything you've ever tagged with 'Frankie Morales'. You can even schedule re-blogs in advance too. You can't do any of that with likes. You'd have to scroll through every single like you've ever liked to find it again... and ain't no-one got time for that. If you're someone who is asking for engagement, you need to be prepared to give it back. I repeat, RE-BLOG EVERYTHING!

"Yeah, but if I re-blog everything, my aesthetic will be compromised, or my blog will be bulky and I might annoy everyone by appearing on their feed too much..." These are all valid concerns, but you can simply make a side blog specific for re-blogging things if you want. Whatever way you choose to do it, re-blog, re-blog, re-blog!

Be bold and reach out using DM's and ASK's. I don' think there's a single writer or artist out there who doesn't like getting a comment or a message complimenting their work. And we all love to chat about it, and that's an easy way in and to make friends too! It can be daunting, but I assure you if you're polite and kind, people will want to engage back with you. We all have one thing in common here at least - Pedro! 🥰

Sometimes, it can feel like everyone has their own friend groups or cliques and it can be hard to find your own community within a community. Almost everyone I engage with on a daily basis here, new and old users, are some of the nicest, kindest people I've spoken to. You really have nothing to be afraid of. They're just like you - they want to talk and make friends.

These are just some tips that I've found have worked for me on my own Tumblr journey with quelling that overwhelming feeling. And I hope they can help you in some way, especially if you're contemplating being here right now.

You might feel that what you put out there isn't appreciated because it doesn't get the notes or engagement you want, but I promise you, there is always someone who you have touched with your words and work.

Be kind to yourself and know that you really are a valued part of this fandom.

🖤

YOU. ARE. STRONGER. THAN. YOU. THINK. 🖤

Do you. Then do Dieter.

Self-Care With Dieter & Jett

[morallyinept]

Welcome to my Pedro Pascal Character Writing Masterlist.

©️ All my writing is protected by an officially registered copyright. I do not give you permission to copy, redistribute, translate, plagiarise, post elsewhere or feed my work into AI software.

Enjoy rummaging around here. I hope you find something you'll like! 🖤

Scoville Smut Ratings🌶️

MAIN MASTERLIST | PEDRO BOY RAMBLES | JETT'S DOODLES

Buy me a Ko-fi ☕️ If you like my work and enjoy what I put out there, you have the option of buying me a Ko-fi, if you'd like to. It's never expected, but always greatly appreciated. 🖤

See my specific Pedro Boy character lists below 👇🏻

Ezra Masterlist

Joel Miller Masterlist

Dieter Bravo Masterlist

Frankie Morales Masterlist

Javier Peña Masterlist

Marcus Pike Masterlist

Marcus Moreno Masterlist

Dave York Masterlist

Lucien Flores Masterlist

Max Phillips Masterlist

Agent Whiskey Masterlist

Javi Gutierrez Masterlist

Detective Tim Rockford Masterlist

Din Djarin Masterlist

Pero Tovar Masterlist

Fancy a small read? My GIFLETS™️ are 500 words or less, and feature a variety of the Pedro Boys, including smut, fluff & a mix of F! M! & GN! Readers.

Multi Series & Collections Masterlist A mixture of Pedro Boys in story collections.

My Pedro Boy Rambles Masterlist Includes themed cocktails, head canons & fun with the Pedro Boys.

[morallyinept]

Hey you.

Yes, you.

You, the perfect, beautiful creature reading this right now. You.

I just want to tell you something. Scooch closer. Take my hand.

You are more than enough. You are exactly where you are meant to be right now.

I know it's been a struggle.

I know that you've been hurting.

And I know that you're trying your best.

I've been exactly where you are right now, trust me, and let me tell you; you're doing so fucking well. Even if you don't feel like you are.

And that's okay. You're okay.

And no matter what, if there is no-one else in the world that can, or will, tell you this, I'll always tell you.

I'll always have your corner.

You are stronger than you think you are.

I love you.

You've got this, okay?

🖤

YOU. ARE. STRONGER. THAN. YOU. THINK. 🖤

Do you. Then do Dieter

More love with Dieter & Jett here

🖤

[morallyinept]

"It's a new dawn. It's a new day. It's a new life... For me. And I'm feeling good."

Well, actually no. I haven't been feeling good lately (long story, let's not go there. ✋🏻). And if you haven't felt too good either, that's okay.

Dieter, have you felt good lately?

Yeah, this year's been a little rough on you at times, hasn't it, bud?

But, 2024 is going to be my year. The year of Jett! And Dieter's year... yes, I can't forget you, bud.

And it can be yours too. Because no matter what kind of year you've had, it's never too late to start anew...

To make amends. To pick something back up again that you put down a long time ago. To fall back in love with yourself. To fall in love with someone else.

To not limit your love...

To find your people. To find yourself. To push yourself. To discover something new. To face your fears. To be emboldened. To take a leap of faith.

To make time for yourself. To say yes. To say no. To say, to hell with it all and go wild. To find new purpose. To find meaning. To find joy.

To ditch the guilt. To ditch the pressure. To do it for you and on your terms. To enjoy what you love. To be loud and proud. To own it.

To be who you are, not who others expect you to be.

To look up at the stars instead of looking down at your phone. To fuel your body with the things that nourish it instead of poisoning it. To climb a mountain. To dance in the rain, even if you end up dancing alone.

Dance like nobody is watching...

To chase your dreams. To giggle at your own jokes. To laugh like you've never laughed before. To trust yourself. To guide yourself. To try all the things you want.

To indulge on life and it's offerings...

To realising that material posessions are fleeting. That money isn't everything. And that love and friendship are worth more than currency or gold.

To realising your value, your worth.

To being a bit selfish and putting you first. To look after your brain, your heart. To trust them both. To have your own back.

(And for goodness sake, look after your back!)

I'm not making any resolutions this year. Instead, I'm making myself a promise. And that's to live, love, to be kind to myself and seize the day, because life, my friends, is hella short.

So, live your best life, unapologetically.

D is telling you to...

You're only here once; make it count.

Happy New Year from Dieter and myself! 🖤😘

YOU. ARE. STRONGER. THAN. YOU. THINK. 🖤

Do you. Then do Dieter.

Self-Care With Dieter & Jett

[morallyinept]

It's the end of another week, so you know what that means, right?

Self-Care with Dieter and Jett! 

Hang on, wait-wait a minute. Frankie?? What are you doing here, where's Dieter? 

Ah. Don't tell me; he's in rehab again. Yes? Well good for him. So you're here to what? I see. You're filling in for him this week. My, what a chivalrous man you are. And so handsome too.

Stop blushing. You know you're hot.

Well, I suppose we'd better get on with it, hadn't we?

It's the end of another week, so you know what that means, right?

Feel Good Friday with Dieter Frankie and Jett! 

Happy Frankie Friday, everyone! 💚

So, it's Friday. You made it through another week. You're doing amazing! Look at you go! Now's the time to kick back, relax and enjoy that Friday feeling, eh Frankie? 

That's the spirit. Wait, how many of those have you had?

As we enter the weekend, what are you doing to recharge your batteries? And, if you happen to be working because you don't get weekends off, that's okay. You can always save this for your day(s) off. When it comes to feeling good, there are no set days. No set routine. No rules. 

Frankie, do you have some ideas to share about what you do to feel good? 

Come on, don't be shy...

Great! Let's hear them, bud. 

Get out & go for a walk. 

Getting out in nature is a great way to unwind and destress from a hard week of labour, both physical and mental. Surround yourself in the beauty of nature. Visit your local beauty spot; this could be a lake, a park, the beach. Go for a hike in the woods.

Sweat it out stalking through the Colombian jungle… 

Either way, get out and inhale that fresh air deep into your lungs. Be brave and travel somewhere you've never been to before, especially if you have the means to. You might just find something wonderful.

☝🏻And can I just plant the seed for some solo travel? You don't need to go far, especially if you're anxious about being on your own, but it's definitely something I recommend, and often do myself. The feeling of being self-reliant and discovering somewhere new by yourself, is incredible. 

Catch up with friends.

Grab a beer (or several) with your buddies at the bar. Have a movie night together. Cook a meal for your chums; homemade tacos anyone? Have a go at making some fun, themed cocktails at home. Go dancing. Grab a speedboat and traverse the choppy waters after a high speed beach chase...

When you surround yourself with the people you love most and who have your back, you always feel good. And you can always count on them to make sure you make it down the Andes mountains in one piece. 

Unless your name is Tom... Then, you know, you won't. 😬

Engage in a hobby you love - or try a new one.

Woah! Is that a… oh right, sorry. You were in the forces. Silly me.

My, that's a pretty big gun you're packing there, Frankie. Mind if I, uh, hold it…? Wow, it's so big. So heavy. So... hard. Damn. 

Can I watch you, uh, shoot it? 

No? Ooookay, moving on. (I'm missing Dieter already. Sheesh. 🙄)

Your time off is a great time to indulge in your hobbies. Practise your craft. Or try a new one out. You might find a new passion in something you least expected. And that's always so fun. 

Helicopter lessons anyone? 

Uh, Frankie? Is it always supposed to shake like this? Oh shit, I'm gonna puke! 🤢

Laugh. Yes, even snort laughing counts.

Laughter releases feel good endorphins, and after a hard week, sometimes it's hard to find a reason to giggle, right? But did you know that laughter is actually really good for your health?

No? Well Frankie, take a look at this, my good man:

Laughter relaxes the whole body. A good, hearty laugh relieves physical tension and stress, leaving your muscles relaxed for up to 45 minutes after.

Laughter boosts the immune system. Laughter decreases stress hormones and increases immune cells and infection-fighting antibodies, thus improving your resistance to disease and illness.

Laughter triggers the release of endorphins, the body's natural feel-good chemicals. Endorphins promote an overall sense of well-being and can even temporarily relieve pain.

Laughter protects the heart. Laughter improves the function of blood vessels and increases blood flow, which can help protect you against a heart attack and other cardiovascular problems.

Laughter burns calories. Okay, so it's no replacement for going to the gym, but one study has found that laughing for 10 to 15 minutes a day can burn approximately 40 calories - which could be enough to lose three or four pounds over the course of a year.

Laughter lightens anger's heavy load. Nothing diffuses anger and conflict faster than a shared laugh. Looking at the funny side can put problems into perspective and enable you to move on from confrontations without holding onto bitterness or resentment.

Laughter may even help you to live longer. A study in Norway found that people with a strong sense of humour outlived those who don't laugh as much.

So, find something to laugh about today. Just like Frankie here. 

Hug it out.

When people hug for 20 seconds or more, the feel-good hormone oxytocin is released which creates a stronger bond and connection between the huggers. Oxytocin has been shown to boost the immune system and reduce stress.

Aww… Frankie. That's so cute of you.

Oof, you're kinda squeezing me a little tight there. No, I didn't say stop! Ooh, you smell good. Mmm…

Hug it out with your besties. Your significant other. Your family. Your pet. Even yourself.

Yes! Hug yourself. A self-hug is a beautiful way to show yourself some compassion and kindness. As you wrap your arms around yourself, you send a powerful message of love and support to your inner self. Feel that zen!

Phew! Are you all hugged out now Frankie? No? Okay. We can do it some more… We'll just stay like this for a bit. Nice.

What's that pressing into my thigh? Oh. Oh.

So, there we have it, lovelies. Frankie's Feel Good Friday. I hope Frankie and I were able to put a smile on your face and make you feel good today. Friday's are all about feeling good, but no matter the day of the week, I hope nothing but good vibes surround you.

☝🏻Don't worry, Dieter isn't going anywhere. He'll be back next time - as soon as his sixteenth stint in rehab is over... 😐

Hold strong, D. We love you.

YOU. ARE. STRONGER. THAN. YOU. THINK. 💚🖤

Do you. Then do Dieter. Frankie.

🖤

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There will be days when all you'll want to do is run and hide.

There will be days when you'll tell yourself you're a failure.

There will be days when you won't feel strong.

There will be days when everything will seem so difficult.

There will be days when you'll feel like giving up completely.

But...

You can only run for so far before you'll eventually have to stop. When you hide, you'll eventually be found.

Failure is a part of trying. If you don't try, fail and try again, you'll never succeed or grow.

You can't be strong all the time. Even the strongest man in the world needs to rest sometimes.

If it were easy, it would be boring.

It's okay to want to feel like giving up. And there might be days you will. But everything happens for a reason.

It's okay if today didn't go so well. There's always tomorrow.

Don't be so hard on yourself. You've got this.

🖤

YOU. ARE. STRONGER. THAN. YOU. THINK. 🖤

Do you. Then do Dieter.

Self-Care With Dieter & Jett

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Hey! I'm Jett & welcome to my lil' nook of the ol' internet 🖤 It's so wonderful that you're here! I'm here for Pedro, to spread kindness and positivity, and to share my writing. Don't hesitate to reach out and say hello! All are welcome here.

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[morallyinept]

Sometimes, you have to put yourself first.

It's okay to do that. Your own well-being needs it.

You can't absorb everyone else's problems constantly and not expect it to affect you - it will. You're only human.

And eventually, the baggage of that will weigh you down too.

It's in our nature to care. To want to support and shoulder some of that weight.

But who will shoulder yours when you need help carrying the load?

Sometimes, you have to put yourself first.

It's okay to do that. You're not selfish for caring about you.

It's okay to put yourself first.

🖤

YOU. ARE. STRONGER. THAN. YOU. THINK. 🖤

Do you. Then do Dieter.

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[morallyinept]

The hump.

It's what camels have 🐫 Here's a camel. His name is Wayne.

But also something you might have been feeling lately, the dreaded hump.

It can be hard getting over it. Feeling like you never will. Like it won't get better, that you won't surpass or overcome. Just you and the hump.

Like you may as well give up trying.

But humps shrink. 🐫 Just like they do on Wayne here, too.

They can become manageable. You can overcome them.

It just takes time.

Be kind to yourself. You'll get there.

🖤

YOU. ARE. STRONGER. THAN. YOU. THINK. 🖤

Do you. Then do Dieter.

Self-Care with Dieter & Jett

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Hey, D. Question for you, buddy.

Have you ever had anyone say something really hurtful to you?

I'm sorry. That's really mean of them. And how did it make you feel?

Aww. Sweetie. But, let me ask you this. Have you ever said something that wasn't very nice to someone else?

Tell the truth. ����

Oh dear. Let's ask some of the other boys too... Joel? Javi? Frankie?

Well boys. I'm very disappointed in you all. But, there is a way you can all redeem yourselves...

No Dieter. Not like that. Although, now you come to mention it, it's been a while since the five of us all, uh, hung out together... 😏

It's Friday. It's that time again. Time for more Self-Care With Dieter & Jett! 🖤

Okay, hands up. Let's have our Mean Girls moment.

Who here has ever said something hurtful, whether intentional or not, to someone else?

That's a lot of hands... And for anyone who didn't raise their hand, I'm sending you the stink eye, because I know you have.

Yeah, you too, huh D?

And there's a big difference between throwing someone a snippy comment on a whim when you're pissed off, to continuously saying hurtful things to them repeatedly, or deliberately.

We all have. I know I have in the past. But it doesn't make us bad people, no. Especially if we learn and grow from it.

At some point in our lives, we all will have experienced bullying in some form or another. Be it someone calling us names in the playground in kindergarten, to workplace harassment, to threats or nasty comments against us online from an anonymous source.

And it doesn't feel great when it happens, does it?

That's right, D. It's not very nice to experience. 😢

We're all human, and as such we all feel things on different levels of intensity, and deal with bullying differently.

Some people have thicker skin, and words and insults can roll right off of them with little to no effect. For others, it can really play on their minds and contribute to feeling low and self-conscious and is harder to shake off.

What is bullying exactly?

Bullying is repeated, aggressive behavior that involves a real, or perceived, power imbalance. Its purpose is to deliver physical or psychological harm to another person. There are three main types of bullying:

Verbal - name calling, threats, taunts.

Social - online, gossiping, exclusion.

Physical - assault, physical/sexual harassment.

What causes people to bully others?

Bullying stems from many roots. But usually it comes from feelings of jealously, low self-esteem, anger, low self-confidence and/or traumatic events that have contributed to the bully building up thicker walls to remain protected themselves.

Some people can be naturally pessimistic or narcissistic in their personality, but again, there is always a root cause for it.

People don't become hateful intentionally, no-one is born hateful or spiteful; it is a behaviour that is learned.

It could originate from their home environment growing up, that they were bullied themselves so feel this is normal behaviour, or they could have experienced something traumatic, and lashing out at others verbally or physically, is the only way they know how to cope.

And some people are just sadistic, but that's another story.

The important thing to remember is that you are not to blame.

How can you effectively deal with a bully?

You love getting out your big gun, don't you, D? 🔥 But there are other, probably more law-abiding, ways to deal with a bully, bud.

Don't feed them. The first thing to know when dealing with a bully is that your fear, anger or getting upset, is what feeds them. Ignorance is bliss, right? Well, sometimes. It's very difficult to ignore someone who says something that cuts deep, especially if it's personal, or if you're already feeling in a fragile space. But biting back will only encourage them to target you further.

If you ignore a bully, they will eventually tire and move on. The biggest 🖕🏻 you can give to a bully is to give them no voice, especially your own.

Report them. If you're being bullied physically at school/college, the workplace, by a friend/family member/spouse etc... report their behaviour to someone who can help.

A teacher/a parent/a trusted friend. Even a member of authority, such as the police, if you've been physically assaulted.

You do not have to live in fear.

You may feel scared to report it due to them threatening worse behaviour towards you if you do. However your safety and mental wellbeing is worth more than their fear of getting found out for being a coward.

Speak up. By doing so, you could also be helping others suffering at their hand too.

What about Online bullying?

Online bullying is now one of the most common forms of bullying and anti-social behaviour.

Why? Because people can easily be anonymous online, and when there is no face, there is no filter. If it were easy for people to be identified and outed for their online behaviour, I'm pretty sure they would think more carefully before typing on that keyboard. But seeing as many sites, including Tumblr, make it easy for bullies to remain inconspicuous, they can spread like parasites.

But, it is also very easy to block them out.

Use the block button. It's there for a reason. Use it if you feel you need to. And report them too.

Adjust your settings. Depending on the type of social media you use, you can change your settings to ensure you're not subjected to harmful behaviour. For example, you can turn off commenting on your posts, or turn off your Asks if you need/want to.

Be careful what you reveal. Be mindful of the information you give away about yourself online. You don't have to censor yourself completely, and why should you? But equally it's important to be self-aware. Like you would be of your surroundings in the real world, give your social media the once over to make sure nothing too personal is revealed about yourself. Your safety online is just as important.

Don't bite back. It's easy to expose the horrible Anon Ask you've had, or to take it personally by responding to a hurtful or hateful comment publically for everyone else to see and interact with. But in the end you're instigating and giving the bully exactly what they want - your attention.

"You just wipe, you flush and you move on," as Dieter would say... rather poetically.

Or, in non-Dieter speak, delete, block and move on. Bullies don't deserve any of your time or attention, so don't give it to them.

But what about when we inadvertently become a bully ourselves?

Look, we've all done it. We're quick to defend those we love/like/admire. We're territorial and don't like seeing those who we care about slighted.

It's human instinct to protect.

But sometimes, that protection can morph into a fire, and a fire quickly spreads and grows out of control, and we don't necessarily realise that we're becoming bullish with our own behaviour, and thus contributing back to the problem.

Sometimes, affiliating with the scorned party creates a "gang-like" mentality and sides are split with discourse, unhappiness, indignant anger and actually causes more of a wider issue as more parties are dragged in and involved. Soon the small argument has become an all out war.

Stay calm, stay level-headed. Don't stoop to their level. Don't get involved if you can help it.

Think on your own actions. You've heard that expression if you can't say something nice, then don't say anything at all, right? Sometimes staying quiet rather than rising to it has more of a powerful effect than a full on slanging match.

Hold your head high. Rise above it. You are not the problem, so don't allow yourself to become a problem.

If needs be, step away, do something else and think on a sensible reply and come back to it later. You might regret acting on impulse in the moment.

If you must engage, be firm, be clear. Don't resort to petty name calling or nastiness back. Make your point concise, clear and politely. Then walk away/log off etc... Don't linger and keep going around in circles.

Reflect and learn. Take a moment to think on a time when perhaps you weren't so nice to someone in the heat of the moment, and ponder on how next time you can address it differently. What could you say differently? Could you have been more empathetic? Kinder?

Remember, you are stronger than you think.

Debate positively. It's never acceptable to threaten, belittle or insult someone online for having different views or opinions to you. The same as it's not acceptable for them to do the same to you.

Difference of opinion is what makes us unique as individuals - if we were all the same, it'd be pretty boring.

You can certainly disagree with someone, but be respectful and use positive, uplifting language instead of derogatory terms or personal insults. Debate is healthy, being a bully isn't.

⚠️ Threats against life, or encouraging someone to do harm to themselves, is not only illegal, but also extremely harmful and toxic behaviour. Don't resort to being low, and don't accept that behaviour from anyone else towards you either.

☝🏻And remember, karma is most definitely a bitch, and will bite you in the ass one day. So be kind, always.

D, I think we deserve to snuggle up, share some ice-cream and watch a happy film for not rising to the hate.

What do you say, bud?

Alright, alright... you can be the little spoon. Again. 🙄

You owe me you know. I'm keeping count. Come on, get close and give us a smooch, handsome.

So, Dieter and I hope we've made you think today, not only about how to identify bullying and how to combat it with ease when it happens, but also that we've made you think about your own actions when it comes to remaining level-headed, instead of hot-headed, towards others.

Until next time lovelies, stay creamy and stay kind. 🖤

YOU. ARE. STRONGER. THAN. YOU. THINK. 🖤

Do you. Then do Dieter.

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ℹ️ Dieter and I always strive to bring you unbiased, fact-checked advice. We're not licensed therapists, so we do a lot of research to ensure we can provide helpful and informative posts. Well, I do. Dieter mostly sits around eating KitKats.