#stupid solutions for stupid problems

[iamfuckingsorry]

So I've recently realized that murderbot's been translated into my native language and it's apparently a he in the translation (which admittedly makes sense, because it's a heavily gendered language and 1. gender-neutral language doesn't really exist in general and 2. "bot" and all the related words - I believe they use "droid" for mb in the translation - are grammatically masculine).

It made me curious how it's been handled in other translations though!

*e.g. being referred to by multiple gendered nouns/pronouns depending on the context, like both "bot" (masculine) and "machine" (feminine).

[logansbluetie]

batman and robin are stuck in a death trap amd the police can't get it open. their solution is to call the riddler

this is just so funny to me

[sassyminnesotan]

Love how in Sweeny Todd Mrs. Lovett and Sweeny Todd are both freaks but they're freaks on completely different wavelengths.

The only reason Todd is bothering to continue breathing is for revenge. The only interest he has in anything or anyone around him is how they might help or hinder his cause. The only relationship he's legitimately emotionally invested in is with his straight razor.

Meanwhile Mrs. Lovett thinks she's in a rom-com where her old crush has come back to help her get her struggling restaurant on its feet, but her crush's ex keeps coming around trying to ruin everything.

Both of them go the whole musical without fully realizing that their brainworms are mutually unintelligible.

Antony is there in the background oblivious to this entire dynamic because he's too caught up in his own gothic romance plot to notice that the castaway he rescued is murdering people.

[sosuigeneris]

why is being feminine seen as catering to patriarchy?

I enjoy putting on my make up, heels, I like looking good, I enjoy traditionally “feminine activities” like baking and cooking, I love a good gossip session with my girls, I’m empathetic and warm when I want to be, I can be very nurturing if I choose to be, I want kids someday and I want to be married. I can do all these things and still work my ass off in my business, close massive deals, be invited to speak for interviews, and conferences, be perceived as a leader without emulating alpha male behaviour.

By saying that doing feminine things caters to the male gaze and patriarchy, you’re putting women down. You’re inherently stating that being masculine is “correct” and “cool” and enjoying being feminine is “weak” and “vulnerable.”

oooooh buT YoUre doInG aLL tHiS fOr a MaN-

and even if I did, sometimes, do those things because I like a boy - what’s the issue?? If I’m invited on a date and I like him, and I want to look great, what’s the ISSUE? If he’s going to show up dressed well and groomed to look good for me, why won’t I? And if you’re going to choose to go out with a man who is an absolute dusty rat that doesn’t care about his appearance and hygiene, sorry but that’s on YOU. The first date might be a human error of judgement which happens, but going on a second date with said rat is unforgivable.

“meN aRe NeVeR subJecTed to tHesE stAndarDs”

by YOU. I sure hold men by the same standards that I hold myself. My standards are high. Just the way I hold myself to a certain standard, I hold men to the same. I’m not going to muck around with a guy who clearly does not meet my expectations. I’ve told off men for bad breath, bad manners, I ensure that my brothers and my closest guy friends are always looking good when needed, and I tell them when they do and don’t. I surround myself with good male friends I know I’d be ecstatic to marry my sister off to. Don’t pretend like your shitty low standards and mine are the same.

I don’t believe in blame game and low standards and it shows.

You guys really need to understand that it is alright to be multifaceted. Just because I enjoy baking doesn’t mean that I don’t like adventure sports, just because I enjoy doing my self care and meditation doesn’t mean I don’t understand politics and history and “Big Boy Subjects.” I may not enjoy F1 and sports but there are girls out there who do, and they also enjoy wearing dresses.

stop the unnecessary labelling and categorisation of people.

[aasshleyyyyyy]

I don't chase

I don't attract

I avoid, always.

[mokeonn]

Before I go to sleep I leave you all with this piece of advice: sometimes you don't actually have to answer big political questions, sometimes you can just say "I am not smart enough to know that, I just know the small things I do to help." Like you can often times completely avoid making a fool of yourself if you just say you don't know.

[streets-in-paradise]

Bad fanfict has a right to exist, we must protect bad fanfiction writers.

Bad fanfict writers I love you, fanfict doesn't need fucking measures of quality you are not published authors and shouldn't be subjected to a Goodreads logic.

You are doing amazing, keep creating.

[untitledgooseguy]

Forgetting your stuff at home

An ADHD thing I've always had problems with is forgetting half my important stuff (money, keys, phone, ect) at home because I had to remember to bring something else too or because I was late.

What I'll be talking about:

1. Why putting it in temporary places doesn't work for me.

2. How I got the idea and what the idea is.

3. What I keep in that bag

4. My solution, how I worked it and some more experiences I've had with it.

5. TLDR for people that dont wanna hear my ramble

1. Why putting it in temporary places doesn't work for me.

Having your wallet or other things in the pockets of your pants might be convenient but sadly I have more then one (1) pair of pants and to search for my stuff every morning that I decide to wear a different ones, is not something I will remember.

And so I've got an easy and actually pretty simple way to prevent that.

2. How I got the idea and what the idea is

It's a bit inspired by my mom, who has all her stuff in her bagpack that she takes everywhere and pretty much never uses a different one.

But because I still go to school (so i have a schoolbag) and I have to decide on the outfit what bag I wear, I had to do this a bit differently.

So I, too, got a bag that I would always wear when going out. It's not a bagpack tho, its is similar to a fannybag, and I wear it on my hip.

In that bag (I lovely call it my everything bag, because I have pretty much everything imaginable in it) is a bunch of stuff that I do need pretty much everytime I go out, just as stuff that maybe I could use sometimes.

3. What I keep in that bag

As an example;

things I need constantly in the bag: Wallet, Keys, Headphones (in ear), Phone (it's not constantly in the bag, but it has a designated place for if I need to put it away)

now, things I keep in my bag that i only need sometimes: brush and mirror combination, my meds and painkillers, eyeliner, pocketknife and multifunction tool, lipbalm, hand cream, one (1) fidget toy

And lastly things I keep in there that I pretty much never use but still wanna keep on hand: usb stick (for school just in case [I have one in my schoolbag too, dont ask]), five (5) lighters (I dont smoke [they were all gifts]), padlock (mostly for if I need a locker at school), magnet (I stole it for a dentist office and it is my treasure), allen key, wrench

4. My solution, how I worked it, and some more experiences I've had with it

So basically my tip to not forgetting your stuff at home is putting it in a bag to always take with you, but what I'd like to make more clear is, use a small bag so you can still wear a back- or shoulderbag when you have to bring more stuff with you.

Get a cool or pretty bag that could count as an accessory and doesn't look out of place. Mine as multiple pockets and places on the outside to which I could clip things when I need to. Some of those places have accessories on them, sometimes I use them for a small waterbottle to hang from and I've got a carabiner on one of the for possible bigger things and in case I need a carabiner. Basically, just have fun with it.

'Course, I still sometimes forget the bag, and then I dont have anything on me (very bad, thankfully doesn't happen often), but that happens a lot less frequently. Since I dont have to worry about forgetting my keys, wallet and stuff, i can use that brain capacity to remember other things (like to bring that school project with me or the birthday gift for the birthday party im going to [has definitely happend before and was very late cus I had to go back to get it])

Somethings that I can't forget, like my ticket or some stuff that i could need, should I forget my bag, I keep in my phone case because forgetting my half pretty much never happens.

5. TLDR:

Because I kept forgetting stuff like my wallet and keys at home, I got myself a small bag that I wear on my hip where all those things are in and stay in at all times. I still sometimes forget the bag, but it happens a lot less frequently.

[selfinflictedgunshotwound]

sorry for only saying this type of shit lately but i kinda wanna drive a car straight into a brick wall at the highest speed possible

[tokitooth]

the thing that sucks about spending so many years feeling lonely and then making an active effort to revamp your social life is that you’ll find people who will give you the attention you’ve been missing and then your brain will get unreasonably attached to them and there will inevitably come a time where they give you less attention than you’re used to or they go a day without answering your messages or whatever and you’ll immediately spiral back into “i’m unlovable and i’ll be alone forever” mentality but it hits even harder bc now there’s an actual person you can picture instead of just being upset with the general universe

[tocappuccinosintheclouds]

Fuck idk what to call myself when I want to go into people’s asks anymore. I would sign off as “-suburbon” before and people knew who I was. Who am I now????? Cappuccino?? 😂

[anarchonist]

That post about guilt and shame only being effective as deterrents but not in inspiring anyone to change their behavior in any meaningful way got me thinking about those other posts about progressive circles consisting way too much of people not with a desire to do something right but instead with a fear of doing something wrong, and...

Yeah. Those two are related. Guilt and shame are the weapons of the status quo, designed to instill in everyone with a conscience a fear of failure, of hurting others, of being a bad person. And it's pretty fucked up when people are being shamed for that, since, well, shame doesn't inspire any meaningful change. So the problem persists, deepens, even. Since by shaming someone for not getting over that shame, you've now discouraged them from thinking about that instilled shame and maybe finding a solution.

It's shame and guilt all the way down. Perhaps shame and guilt could be used against people who tend to shame and guilt others in order to shame and guilt them out of shaming and guilting others? I don't know. And that's a true shame.

[figofswords]

anybody remember the stephanie brown essay I was working on under a research grant fully last summer? yeah it’s not done yet it super needs to be done and I’ve been avoiding working on it for weeks. someone tell me to just do it already

[lowpolyshadow]

just need everyone to know despite my emo posts and wailings and being completely normal over sa2 that i think shadow should be an asshole. just a complete bastard. fuck that guy

[ferallantern]

I don’t care how good the books are, if the magic folk discriminate against non-magic people (and/or hide themselves from non-magic folk for NO reason) and that fact about society is never addressed I START TO THROW HANDS 😭

[vixvaporub]

Junji ito is writes horror but sometimes it just comes off as pure comedy