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IM FUCKING SAT. ILL DO WHATEVER YOU WANT, HOT TITS, JUST KEEP BEING MEAN TO MEEEEE
#sephiroth my love#Sephiroth istfg i will do anything to you if you just ASK PLEASE#I will peg this silver haired idiot#this doesnt reflect me irl unfortunately
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thinking about kab and the thing about her i think is she knows just enough to keep herself safe Generally but not enough to really predict what would happen should something more... complicated??? unforeseen??? idk whats the right word to use but something not covered by someones reputation and/or vids happen, believe it or not this also affects her view of clownpierce (we'll get to that)
for example, mapicc has a reputation for being an violent, angry, & impulsive guy and nothing else which makes sense but is incredibly surface level and something that only really works if you dont have a lot of experience working with him
another is reddoons, his betrayal after the base incident while shocking is not unforeseen but his reputation as being a guy whos seen as being a reasonable person whos fairly loyal to his team made it seem like something he wouldnt do even tho it absolutely is
regarding how it affects her view of clown, since he isnt perfectly aligned with his reputation she instead pivots in the complete opposite direction and forgiving basically every crime he does even tho hes something much more mild and complicated than either his reputation or her view of him will ever be (think madonna-whore complex which is especially obvious when it comes to kabs vs woogies view of him)
another side effect of this Just Enough amount of knowledge aside from being blinded by her own expectations is that it frustrates ppl who think shes oversimplificating things (like me and seemingly several other tumblr users as well) especially when she claims that shes objectively correct and the smartest in the room at any given moment
how this roughness in her analysis affects her in the server still has yet to be fully seen but we do still have at least a couple months until the end but 'til then shes just gonna keep stumbling as more and more complicated situations pop up as is typical in lifesteal to happen and eventually shes gonna have to learn to adapt or else she'll be suffering the consequences one way or another
#mine.txt#analysis#ig. this is very rough tho and is more just thoughts than anything#but i wanted a tag so i can get back to this later to see how right or wrong i am#another thing that affects this is the cc/c divide which is something she likes to take control of#one of the ways it manifests is that she likes to go in and out of it frequently which can be incredibly distracting#esp if youre someone like me who wants the lsers to just. be themselves and get immersed in whats happening around them#and it doesnt help that her and her character can have Very different feelings on a situation#basically the cc/c divide or at least how kab likes to use it affects the way she acts because shes got an idea in her head already#of what to think of the other ppl in the server which makes her inflexible when unexpected things come up#as opposed to when shes just being herself reacting to things#which is unfortunate but i think reflects on how outsiders vs insiders view lifesteal#the reality vs expectations of the audience are so incredibly different esp if you only watch the vids#so much so that while watching kabs vid my initial reaction was that she wasnt as big a ls fan as i originally thought#then realized no this seems like the exact sort of thing id expect from someone whos only seen the vids; particularly of the pvpers#(specified pvpers cause only watching the pvpers vs other kinds of players on the server are Very different experiences)#tho the thing about kab is she Does have insider knowledge!#.... mainly from ppl who dont log on a lot (ash and clown and maybe squiddo)#so naturally thats gonna give her a biased view of how the server works one way or another#the exception to this would be zam telling her about eclipse federation but i think either she doesnt know or severely underestimated#just how much lying; manipulation; keeping secrets; and yap sessions built on incompatible motives and morals happened#that made s4 the way it is not only in game but outside of it as well#''we're at our best when we hate each other irl'' - reddoons according to zam
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coming from an enby whos tme (tho i myself am not transmasc), i feel like a lot of transmasc people are doing this "have their cake and eat it too" thing where they want to be perceived as men or men adjacent, in our society a part of the oppressor class, while also still wanting to benefit from structures meant to protect against said class. specifically ones that have been set up in queer spaces. ive met quite a few trans men who were just as vehemently misogynysitic as your average dude bro. and (this is speculation based on convos ive had with trans men im not in every transmascs head) a lot of transmascs have a lot of internalized misogyny that they project onto trans women. ive had an irl ex friend of mine say something that i think encapsulates this particular issue fairly well. this was like 8 years ago, we were talking about trans rep in media (specifically orange is the new black iirc) so im paraphrasing; 'its messed up that we (afabs in this context) are sidelined for people who used to be men, we cant escape the patriarchy.' that was horribly transmisogynistic, so lets unpack it.
it assumes that trans women are just men
it assumes sex essentialism, that they and i were just women. that we were just poor Females having 'our space' encroached on by mean 'former men.'
im not saying that all transmascs think like this ofc. #notallmen. im saying that some do, and enough transmascs have internalized misogyny and not enough self reflection.
just because you are trans doesnt mean you are immune to bigotry and recouping oppressive structures. none of us are free of Sin™️. you as an individual have to make an effort to reflect on your thoughts and actions and how they might affect yourself and others, so that you are not a willing participant of our communities oppression.
for example, ive talked a lot privately about my journey to being a better person, (and pobodies nerfect, its always a learning process, you always will have things you can improve on. and thats okay, were all just human) i initially hated it/its pronouns. 'it' gave me the ick. i was called 'it' as a kid incessantly to make fun of my gender presentation, i couldnt fathom someone else finding peace and even euphoria in using it/its. i bought into the conservative talking points about neopronouns and it/its being detrimental to the trans community. they were "the bad transes" and me? well i use they/them but shakespeare used the singular they so im fine :), im one of the good ones. then one day, i was listening to some video essay idr what or who, but something they said stuck with me, "if it/its makes me happy, why do you care? how does 'it' hurt you really?" my trauma is not everyones trauma, people will find comfort in things that i wont, and thats okay. 'it' hurt me when i was young, by cruel kids and uncaring adults. why am i hurting my community, my fellow transes, by continuing to deny them their autonomy to identify how they like? so i got over 'it.' i saw the real harm was the fucking wedge being driven between us by conservative grifters trying to pick off the weakest in the herd before they go in for the rest of us.
visibility isnt necessarily a good thing for marginalized people. transfemmes are the biggest target of hate in our community atm. they unfortunately serve as the canary. global fascism is on the rise and to be frank, a targeted hate campaign against a trans woman is asking for her to be killed. outed, paraded as a freak, doxxed, swatted, killed. protect trans women, fascism doesnt stop with one group nor will you be saved by being "one of the good ones." trans solidarity, even the people you dont like, even if you think theyre icky or gross or whatever the fuck else you do Not give up trans solidarity. you dont make callout posts, you dont send death threats, you dont send hate mail, if you dont like someone Block Them and move on.
we stand together or we will be eradicated.
#sorry this turned into a rant about impending fascism#but its all connected#rach rants#real cut a liberal a fascist bleeds vibes here recently#also im not proof reading this so sorry for typos#trans
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bah fuck it im rambling here. im doing alright, im just having thoughts and reflections rn and yknow what, fuck it, why not overshare on tumblr
so Dark Shar Lore recap, two years ago i was in an abusive situation with someone (i called him c) who was romantically and most likely sexually attracted to me, which i didnt reciprocate (this was before i knew i was aroace and, unfortunately, is how i found out im aro). it was traumatic, to say the least. hes out of my life now and most likely never coming back, thank god.
i decided to write a definition essay on usernames, prompted in large part by the changes discord is making about usernames. while im uncomfortable people i know irl calling me shar, the name shar has a lot of importance to me so the topic of usernames has been on my mind a fair bit. when i get to my conclusion paragraph, i remember something about what happened with c.
something he did to get power over me is refer to me with my irl name. he knew me by shar but would use my irl name to “speak to the real me”, basically implying that under shar i wasnt being myself and that shar is a persona (enough of a persona to warrant being distinguished from my real name). my gut feeling was i disagreed, but i went along with him on that “speaking to the real me” shit.
i try to be the same person online and irl. i think theres a time and place to not be the person you are irl, you can play a character or have a separate online persona and not have it be a bad thing (it can even be a good or releasing thing! notably when you can express part of yourself online that you cant irl) though theres times where it can also be very toxic and unhealthy. but i want to be authentic and im not the type of person to play a persona for my online identity. what c said to me was harmful because he was telling me, whether he meant the positive or negative connotation of this, that the person i was under the name shar wasn’t actually me, that i’m not who i say i am.
c got back into my mind because the point of my essay is that usernames can be important and empowering to people, and that a name used online can hold genuine significance as a part of someone’s identity. makes sense that a moment where i was told that my identity and my username were separate beings would come into my mind, being that what he told me about myself is the antithesis of what i wrote about. and, with both the extra thoughts in my mind about usernames from my writing and the gift of hindsight, i had a thought.
was c projecting onto me that he doesnt act as himself under his username? part of the reason for his technique was an attempt to control me and my self image but genuinely, was the thing he told me a projection? and if so, i wonder if that projection falls under the more toxic side of the aforementioned spectrum, considering the context behind everything that happened was abuse. its a question ill never have a true answer to beyond my own theories, but… its an interesting possibility.
#abuse tw#manipulation tw#i dunno how i feel about this#its weird to self reflect on my abuse and realize new stuff about it#uncomfortable yet important i think#this is an actual writing at late hours of the night moment though#shar rambles for way too long
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(icon and header and art in this post r by @/cupiidzbow !)
my carrd dedicated to kiri can be found here!
my names isa and this is my selfship blog! i barely use this blog and it needs revamping, my main is ousama!
IF YOU @ OR TAG ME IN A POST PLEASE @/TAG OUSAMA, MY URL IS AN OBSCURE CHARACTER AND I DONT WANT TO FILL HIS TAG WITH UNRELATED STUFF
im selfship tumblrs most hated thats how you know im a good blog baby yeah!!!!
if you rb from misogynists ill probably block you its not my job to tell you when you follow one use that little brain in there
sharing f/os is awesome! be nice about it
F/O LIST AND SELF INSERTS UNDER CUT
MAIN GUYS
Kirinda (Eto Ranger) tag: 📸
Trafalgar Law (One Piece) tag: 🫀*note: I ship with all of the heart pirates and use the same tag for them. Only Law is a major F/O amongst them.
Masked Deuce (One Piece) tag: ♠️
SECONDARY
Banban (Garten of Banban) tag: 🥳
Kaito Kumon (Kamen Rider) tag: 🍌
Rowena MacLeod (Supernatural) tag: 😈
Shelda (Bugsnax) tag: ☮️
BOe (Магазинчик БО) tag: 🐰
Biznella (Super Sentai) tag: 🃏
Nellie Lovett (Sweeney Todd) tag:🥧
Chuck Keith (Gundam) tag:🌌
Olympia (Pokemon) tag: 🔮
Marcus Kane (Twisted Metal) tag: 🚧 *Only the Head-On and Black continuity
Lard Nar (Invader Zim) tag: 🛸
Misasagi (Rune Factory) tag: ⛩️
Makoto Edamura (Great Pretender) tag: 🐱
The Director/Hubert (Interliminality) tag: 📺
Selmers (Night in The Woods) tag: ✍️
Ivo "Eggman" Robotnik (Sonic the Hedgehog) tag: 🥚
Self Inserts
All of my inserts use any pronouns while i usually default to he/they for them
My Eto Ranger self insert is Cabbage! He's shipped with Kirinda/Lydia. he's a...janitor i suppose? its his job to keep the ship and common area clean. he's super antisocial but enjoys speaking to kirinda while cleaning because it's less stressful than talking face to face with a living person. He falls HARD for that robot and their relationship begins before kirinda gets his physical body back but cabbage certainly enjoys the goofball regardless of form
My One Piece self insert is Karma! He's shipped with Law and sometimes the heart pirates in general as a polyship. Hes the user of the ryu ryu no mi model chameleon. He joined the crew a little after Sabaody after stowing away. He's kind of a menace but hes their menace. hes really bad at his job because he doesn't have the skills to utilize his fruits powers correctly. Law unfortunately sympathizes with them having childhoods that parallel at points. I do not have a self insert that i ship with Deuce. I have delusions about being Ace and we were partners
My GoBB self insert is named Eddie! Theyre an anteater who was made to work with disabled children and theyre shipped with Banban! I hope that doesnt sound weird I was in and out of sped classes as a kid so I wanted to reflect that.
My Kamen Rider self insert is Jules! They're shipped with Kaito and are a member of team baron. They dont really have any lore yet except for hardcore yearning lol. Might make them a rider too?
My Supernatural self insert is Voltaire!!! Hes shipped with Rowena hes a nachzehrer and certified menace. His ass should be dead but free will keep him alive bc hes Rowenas little play thang and keeps her slightly in line. Not by much. His heads so empty only thoughts of his pack and beautiful older women
My Bugsnax self insert is Sunnie Cuteloop theyre a magician! They heart Shelda we love faking magic. Two dif kinds of magic but you know.
My Pokemon self insert is currently unnamed and shipped with Olympia! They're also a magician I swear im not unoriginal I just do magic irl. They're the child of Hocus from the Oblivia region but moved to Kalos to pursue their career. They want to separate from their father and aim to be a better magician than he ever was.
My Invader Zim self insert is Tiere Ley a vortian scientist. They've been with Lard Nar since before the war but didn't officially get together till the Resisty was formed.
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weird and rude questions i've been wanting your opinion on; sorry in advance
1) what is comphet actually? before hearing how people used the term i would have thought (two examples from lesbians i know irl) either a) 100% attracted to women and literally ends a friendship if a guy makes a move yet feels the need to go on about how male celebrities or even men we know are hot or b) uses strap on won't let me drive even when we travelled overnight and it would have been easier to switch uh i'm failing for examples but basically her personality is extremely male; granted she's mostly converting women who have until her dated men; most of it is natural but sometimes she's just going out of her way to not be too lesbian or be more like a guy for women she's attracted to, for instance taking over and managing every single thing (granted most people are stupid and perform badly but still, you don't always need to point out when people are idiots bc they will feel bad and start blubbering and it's unsightly, plus unfortunately in this world 90% of things don't need to be done well). it's not like she's unrealistic in any way, she's even far too smart to be deeply self-loathing but, i mean i'm not too sensitive to people but i can tell when people are twisting themselves around yk? so if she makes additional effort it's painful for me too; actual men are already pathetic crybabies next to her so she doesn't need to do anything extra (and there are plenty of people who would still hang out w her even if she went 'feral', only taking care of her own needs and doing whatever she wanted)
that was very rambling but do you see what i mean? gender roles can be an amusing reflection but can't they also become a prison if the person running things isn't attuned to their own desires? like you've probably pointed out before, it's female training to be overly concerned with how things look
or perhaps i'm just extravagantly egoistic and not house-trained enouhg to make time w other people
2) do you think life is marginally easier for straight women or is being female just uniformly crap
compulsory heterosexuality in its original conception describes the political lesbian mindset that all women regardless of sexual orientation will feel compelled to be in heterosexual relationships due to societal pressure. the extension of this perspective is that women should choose to be with other women regardless of this. for those you keeping score at home this is dumb as shit for several reasons including 1) gay people (yes, including women) have always lived lives separate from heterosexuality. not all gay people everywhere ever but no matter the time period, no matter the region, there will ALWAYS be gay people who never marry, never have straight sex, never have kids; bc ultimately no amount of societal pressure (even of the extreme variety) will ever make a gay person want to be in a straight relationship. 2) we have a phrase for what causes gay men and women to remain closeted in an unhappy straight relationship: internalized homophobia. (combined with external danger in some cases) but this phrase doesnt allow people to handwave away their bisexuality or convince other people to do the same so its unpopular.
as for your friend i dont see why you assume shes got some sort of masculine affectation instead of just being sort of overbearing lol but i dont know her. i do think the sort of behavior policing that goes along with Gender Identity is pretty inherently feminine
as for your last question i frankly do think it probably sucks more to be a straight woman. being female is sort of a state of looming humiliation anyway i sincerely cant imagine what its like for women attracted to men.
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Do you think bullying people bc they’re weird is ok or... a lot of people perceived as “weird” and “awkward” are ND which makes it worse. so I’m not exactly sure how funny that post* was.
No hate I originally thought it was funny and then I realized it was kinda messed up. Bc a lot of “cringe” things are ND things. And normally ur cool so ye ❤️ - Ki
*post you reblogged a bit a go
hey! thank you for being chill. just a heads up my brain is pretty soupy so if anything doesnt make sense feel free to ask for clarification!
I know exactly what post you're talking about and i even had a moment of "🤔 hmm this might sound bad" when reblogging so like.. i get it.
I think something to note and like part of reason i felt okay reblogging it was because i Know what uquiz its from and its like a "what character are you in a highschool flick (think mean girls/heathers/clueless/the craft/grease)" so i think its important to note that answer was kind of like the regina george or heather chandler response and i IMAGINE was supposed to be satirical or like. the people who get called slurs irl are gunna pick that answer as a joke.
I didn't take it too serious considering the uquiz theme, but making light of slurs is definitely not something good i wont defend that. Im also lgbt and ND so racial slurs werent exactly at the forefront of my mind which is very much bad as well. my first thought was like... slurs that I got called in high school so i can laugh about it now yk?
The main chunk of your ask also focuses on being ND and idk if you follow my sideblog but that Is where most people know me from? but i am uhh very severely mentally ill and nuerodivergent and it absolutely impacted my HS/grade school experience and how i am perceived and like.. i was the weird kid in school man. I (maybe unfortunately?) did learn how to act a little bit more, idk, mainstream in my junior and senior years of highschool specifically to avoid getting shit for being visibly lgbt and ND (very redneck school, i was fr scared of getting my shit rocked for being trans) so maybe my most recent experiences dont perfectly reflect that but like.. i promise you i was ostracised in elementary school for being clearly nuerodivergent lol
So basically my response is i DO get where you're coming from. In reblogging that i was basically making fun of MYSELF for being the weird kid who got called lgbt slurs in grade school and was ostracised for being visibly mentally ill and i primarily hung out with kids who experienced the same as me in grade school. So in reblogging that im not trying to condone anything im just laughing at myself and the treatment i experienced in school and i find it satirical.
So i think my final response is while i do see where you're coming from i dont neccessarily agree with the final conclusion and i do hope that it isnt a bad enough situation to really offend you (i feel like that sounds sarcastic or dismissive im really not trying to be, i do legitimately want to avoid hurting peoples feelings or being mean even in this situation ya kno?) so uhh with that?? much love Ki, i do i appreciate this ask and you taking the time to send it and if there's anything else i can clear up im perfectly fine doing so!!! 💚💚
#btw when i put stuff in all caps think of it as like bolding words im not yelling at you i promise!!!#i understand there's many things i have been wrong about throughout the years so maybe next year I'll be disagreeing with myself#im willing to adjust my way of thinking but in this situation i think i already overthought it and came to my current answer????#idk if that last tag made sense....
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ok idk anybody else to talk to abt this but seeing as you are a mcelesbian, ive id’d as bi for as long as i realized i was gay but it doesnt....? feel right? im def more attracted to women so ive tried id’ing as lesbian bc i felt it represented me more but i was scared people would call me out or smth bc i talk exclusively about how much i love rob and like ???? idk im losing it kinda. dmksnd kinda dumb but im hhhh
hi im sorry its taken me a couple days to get back to you but ive been trying to collect my thoughts and have some time to sit down and answer. unfortunately sexuality is a deeply personal thing that only you can answer for yourself (sucks, i know. if an older el gee bee tee could just assign me a nametag with my info on it, that’d be great) and it just takes lots and lots of time & introspection & figuring out where your priorities lie
i can only go on what you’ve said here but, i think if you’re more attracted to women & you know this, then the next step is to decide what youre going to do. think about your future. do you want to continue to date men, be with men, could you see yourself someday marrying one? i dont mean to ask, “could you do all of those things” because of course you can, i mean to ask, do you want all of those things? or, when you think about your future, do you see yourself much happier doing those things with women?
i guess what i’m saying is that the difference seems to be that bisexuality doesn’t “feel right” which is more…internal, that’s something that you’ve reflected on and personally doesn’t feel right for you. meanwhile you tried lesbian, and it felt more right, but you were more afraid of outside disapproval. but it’s not about how others will react (theyre always going to react negatively, unfortunately. the price u pay for being a woman and sga) it’s about finding what feels comfortable and right for yourself & learning to be proud of that! self-fulfillment with these types of things has to come from within. i’d check out this post too
irt the rob stuff: i wouldn’t worry about it. i’m gay but i have eyes, and anyway feeling a complicated mixture of love and attraction to a grown adult man that i’ll never meet but who has repeatedly shown himself to be an outstanding ghgs3+ ally is common & probably originates from appreciation and respect, and then he just happens to be gorgeous so feelings get stirred up. anyway, things you may or may not feel for a celebrity you’ll never meet and who doesn’t know who you are has no bearing on identity if irl you’re exclusively dating women & not attracted to everyday men you meet 🤷🏼♀️ my rob love isn’t even comp het, it’s flat out attraction but who cares. unless rob personally calls me to ask me out, i’m not dating men so it doesn’t matter
ultimately i can’t tell you how to identify, and i can’t decide what’s best for you label-wise. all i can say is that you should only consider YOUR feelings on the matter, and nobody else’s. good luck ❤️���
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Why do “problematic” ships and characters appeal to us?
I really wanted to write up a long post on this subject, seeing the ever growing hate and even IRL bullying that occurs because someone likes a character or ship that is deemed “bad”. A lot of these people say they are abuse survivors and invalidate the feelings of OTHER abuse survivors and it’s really starting to get on my last nerve. A lot of people in fandoms commonly say things like “That doesn’t make sense to me” or “I dont understand it” or “they hate each other (as if we didnt know that already in canon)” .
Another popular thing to do is to claim we crave unhealthy relationships and glorify them to the point where mock posts and comments have been made about those of us that hate/rival ship characters. Or, if we like an individual character that is a “bad person”.
Coming from the stance of a physically and emotionally abused person - and from what I have seen in my own fandoms and other people who support characters and ships for the same reasons I do, this is an explanation as to WHY we like these characters and their dynamics. I only speak from my own POV and am in no way trying to paint a picture of everyone who can speak for themselves.
1) Rival ships :
Why do people LIKE rivals together? Typically they are seen consistently competing and trying to show each other up. Sometimes it’s questioned if they even “like” each other, or if the rivalry ends the relationship ends. There’s several things people like about rivalry. There’s something really attracting about two people getting passionate about each other. At some point it becomes a routine - their routine. Often times the bickering starts out as legit teasing, that turns into friendly banter. There are a lot of people that love the idea of friendly bickering, teasing, and the dramatics of being someones rival.
Sometimes this doesnt happen in canon. Sometimes we decide on a ship based on their character personalities and how we *think* they would act in a fanon reality. Others can perceive this TOTALLY different which is where the “not understanding” comes from. It’s kinda wilde but different chemistry appeals to different people. Unlike hateships however, rival ships tend to be really friendly. Not always, but usually. Rivals that turn to friends BUT STILL keep their antics is one of the most appealing things about their relationship(s).
2) Hateshipping:
Unlike rivalry (which can exist in hateshipping as well) these characters have made it clear in canon they DO NOT like each other, or have blatantly stated that they hate each other or even that they want to kill each other. The terrible misconception about those of us that ship these (personally, one of my favorite dynamics) is that we support abuse and we “get off” to bruised and beat up characters and we’re twisted. Now while I don’t think there’s anything WRONG with being attracted to that dynamic, for myself and many others I’ve seen in different fandoms, Hateships are NOT about abuse - and they are hardly ever based on canon events unless grabbed to use in fanon + AUs. Hateships tend to branch off from canon and form into fanon AUs where we see this chemistry working if x thing happened, or if x thing developed this way instead, etc.
Hateships aren’t all the same - sometimes we get clue-ins that the two characters are able to respect one another to a certain degree, sometimes characters start out hating each other and that changes, or sometimes they save the other’s life unprompted. Little things like that create more initiative for us to think “huh... this could work if circumstances were different���
A lot of time with hate ships, we see how the two characters personalities mesh together SO WELL even though sometimes they appear as total opposites. Like rivalshipping (which it grabs some similarities from) they have grown into a routine of needing each other in some strange way. And we LOVE to explore that.
Another big thing about ships involving hate, is that they are often written and drawn by fans as a couple that HEALS not a couple that ABUSES one another. It’s usually about healing and forgiveness - confused feelings, and really digging into how these characters really dont actually hate each other at all. The fun part is exploring their complicated relationship.
3) Problematic Characters:
*Characters that experience abuse, but have done unforgiveable things:
People tend to assume that liking a character like this means we glorify them, support what they have done (ex: murder, emotionally damaged others, acted out, caused physical harm to others) and fully support them to the point where we want them to be forgiven for the bad things that they’ve done. It varies for every character, but in most instances that is NOT the case. In fact it’s only a handful that call these types of characters “precious characters that did no wrong” and MEAN it. ( a lot of us joke abt it but arent serious )
Like I said at the start of this, as someone who’s been abused in both ways I feel like these characters deserve BETTER. Sometimes abused characters are unfairly treated in canon - they arent given help, their help is taken away from them, their abuse turns them into the awful person they are. We want them to have redemption - we want them to have a fair development. We want abused characters to have some understanding, some respect. We are not saying it’s OK that they physically or emotionally hurt others. We are saying we understand them -- sometimes their actions can reflect an abused persons *impulses* that arent acted on. Abuse pain and the inner turmoil goes deep. Abused characters usually end up with a terrible hand, shitty development, and usually die or never get a chance to be understood.
*Characters that are mentally ill:
Similar to an abused character (sometimes characters fit BOTH) people think we are saying “theyre mentally ill so we should forgive them and support what theyve done” no . no . no. much like the abused character, we SEE how their illness has effected them and again -- how theyve received no help in canon. Thats why ships involving these characters often revolve around rehab, redemption, healing. Typically with both these types of characters we see glimpses of how they were a good person before their trauma effected them. And we want to see more of that person. We want that person to come to life. Because we almost NEVER see abused or mentally ill characters come out alive or with understanding.
*Villains:
I know a lot of people don’t grasp this still, but you can like an evil character just because they are just so GOOD at being bad. It doesn’t make YOU a bad person for liking them. It’s fictional and their actions effect no one in real life. Yes, bad content can cause a trigger or a bad feeling - it can hurt. But liking a bad character does NOT MEAN we support bad feelings // things that happen to REAL people.
Villains tap into dark fiction and it’s PERFECTLY okay to love horror and twisted things in fiction. Not all villains are 100 percent terrible either. Some start as a villain and become a hero. Sometimes, the other way around (a favorite of mine). Nothing about liking a bad character means that you are a bad person.
What’s relateable about a villain? They aren’t perfect. They have interesting character development and back stories. Usually very dark things have happened in their lives. Sometimes, villains can draw out sympathy whether you see it personally or not.
People need to respect the fact that not all minds think the same. Abused and mentally ill people, do not exist in some bubble where you personally get to decide what content is right and wrong for them to consume.
People joke about “coping” but it’s true - we DO use fiction to cope sometimes and there’s nothing wrong abt it. We DO enjoy the darker side of things sometimes and want to explore it in fiction. There’s nothing wrong with it, and it hurts NO ONE at all.
If anyone tells you that you are hurting them for liking a fictional character or ship, they’re full of shit, plain and simple. You CAN NOT hurt someone by liking fictional pairings and characters.
It is not your fault if content you like triggers someone. It is not your fault if someone doesnt agree with your personal taste. It’s not THEIR fault either. It’s no one’s fault for triggers (unless we intentionally are trying to hurt someone which is shitty dont do that) and uncomfortable feelings arising for simply enjoying something.
It’s an unfortunate thing - we all handle these things differently. But what we have to realize is that all content is consumed differently and we need to respect that. We need to kindly deal with what makes us hurt (and what makes us not hurt) in a respectful manner.
It does no good to claim people are “rapists” “pedophiles” or “support murderers” for simply liking a character or a ship. You can be disgusted. You can rant. You can vent. You can express yourself no one’s stopping you.
But lines are totally CROSSED when you personally attack a person (who probably experienced some abuse of their own - its ,more likely than you think) or even physically attack a REAL LIFE person over content that they like.
People have been bullied at cons for liking characters like Goro Akechi or Nathan Prescott . People have been called horrible things for liking characters that are deemed “bad” by others.
I’m not saying pedophilic or legit horrible content doesnt EXIST nor do I condone it (lines to be crossed here too tbh), but it takes a bit of common sense... a common sense a lot of attackers against “problematic” content do not have.
To end this I want to say the most mind-blowing thing to me is a person claiming to be an abuse survivor and then emotionally or physically attacking ANOTHER ABUSE SURVIVOR (or any other type of person really) over what characters they happen to like. That IS abuse. That IS harassment. And you ARE a part of the problem.
You are not protecting us by hurting us (ABUSE SURVIVORS AND THE MENTALLY ILL) & others .
#long post#abuse#fandom#idk what else to tag this as#hateships#rivalships#problematic characters#idk???? lol
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