#this is only like partly serious because most perfumes and colognes smell the same to me

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which cologne will make me smell most like a creature of the woods. which smell will make people think "wow there is like a wolf in here (but in a good way)"

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Jotaro Relationship Head Canons SFW

Because I’m a self indulgent little shit and just love to ignore all of the work I have to do, have some Jotaro head canons. I am but a humble simp, and love this man. So much.

Update as of writing this. Somehow, it got very angsty, so... yeah. Sad man vibes. Also rambly. I just kinda kept going.

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WARNINGS: None, just angst, but nothing too serious.

Word Count: 2,985

Jotaro’s type is... I mean, it depends, like most people. I don’t think he’s super picky over appearances or things like that, it’s more whether or not he gets along with you and how long he can put up with you.  He’s polite (well, as polite as he can be) and courteous, but probably a little more apathetic when you’ve first met. Once you’ve been around for a while he’s more relaxed and almost a little more critical. Mostly because you’re his friend now and he expects more from his friends.

While I was writing this I sort of realized that he could be aromantic. Maybe it’s just my own aro tendencies coming through, but I thought it sort of lined up with his personality. Or at least from my experience with romantic attraction.

Eventually, though, he’ll admit he cares about you a little more than he cares about others. It comes through in little almost compliments. “You did good. Keep it up” or “good job, dealing with this” are common phrases that sound nice on the surface, but it almost feels like he’s trying to pressure you to do more, which is far from the truth.  

If it’s not awkward compliments like that, it’s awkward gifts. Always something you had briefly mentioned wanting or stared at a minute longer than you usually do, wrapped in a paper that’s your favourite colour or pattern. Sometimes, though, it’s something you’ve never mentioned that he somehow guessed would be something you wanted.

At the same time, though, he’s oblivious or at least acts like he is. There may be times when he goes home after you said something exceptionally sweet to him or that just means so much and he’ll just take a moment sitting at his desk to mull over what you said.

    With a grunt, Jotaro rolled back into the armchair with a cup of tea in one hand and today’s newspaper in the other, since he didn’t get to read it this morning. It’s late with the sun almost completely set, giving his room an orange hue. He tries reading the first column, something about a cat being saved from a sewer grate, but after about a minute, he catches himself drifting away, sort of staring blankly at the paper.

    He blinks hard, taking a long sip from his coffee. He must be tired. Another attempt is made at reading, this time the comics. They’re not his favourite thing, but short enough that he can focus on them. Or so he thought.

    He zones out again, face suddenly feeling very hot.

    He was thinking about you. Or, rather what you said.

    It was something so simple, so mundane.

    You had been talking about family together, exchanging drama, if you will, and he had brought up how his father had left his mother when he was very young. It didn’t bother him, he had said, after all, it was years ago and if he was being honest, he didn’t really need a father. Then, you gave him this look. It wasn’t pity or something like that. You put your hand on his knee, staring deep into his eyes.

    “Jotaro,” you said, voice soft and sweet. You struggled to say the next words, opening your mouth, sighing, then finally: “I’m not leaving you.”

    “Why would you be leaving?” He said, confused, taking it literally. Or, he pretended to be confused. It had made his heart warm with affection.

    What Jotaro hadn’t noticed at that moment was that his eyes seemed to gloss over with wet tears while talking about his father. He wasn’t over it, you understood that. How could he be? He was so young then, he probably didn’t understand what was happening or why and now that he’s a father himself, there had to be so much guilt about being the same way. It was only now that he was realizing how much you had an effect on him.

    It didn’t make him sad, by any means but... loved. He’ll say thank you tomorrow with a gift or some flowers. He hadn’t planned on meeting you for the rest of the week because he was busy, but work could wait, right? Yeah. Tomorrow.

God, it would take so long for him to get you to move in together. He’s so used to living on his own that I think he’s a little self-conscious about it. He’s not a slob by any means, but certainly a bachelor. I mean, he lived (assumedly) on his own from probably around or earlier than DiU right up until Stone Free, so it’s been a while and he’s certainly comfortable with his mess of clothes lying on the floor in the corner, but you won’t be. He cleans up before people come over, obviously, but how many times did he actually invite someone in?

When you start staying around more, he starts cleaning more, which makes him a little frustrated both coming to terms with liking someone enough that he’s actively cleaning for them once a week and also discovering that he’s a lot more gross than he thought. You would not believe how stained the counter was from coffee or how gross the filter was on the coffee maker. He takes his coffee very seriously. You begin to notice how clean everything is, well, how consistently clean everything is and it even starts to smell nicer, more floral and fresh. He bought a lavender air freshener. “It’s supposed to be calming,” he’ll say with a hint of annoyance. It’s not a bad smell to him, better than vanilla air fresheners, but it does give him a headache when he first sprays his place. You seem to like it though, so he’s willing to put up with it.

I honestly believe this man can cook, but nervous when cooking for other people. His food when he was a bachelor was good enough for him and I’m sure Holly would have shown him a lot too, but it’s not the best food. He definitely steps up his game when you’re over and even more so when you move in. He’s better with dishes that have pasta or noodles because it’s easy, but he’s not too bad behind the grill either.

When you guys finally live together, he tries to keep the cooking even, with you cooking some days and him doing the rest, but I honestly feel like unless you are a hazard in the kitchen, you would do most of it.

Jotaro would be like that with most things around the house partly because he doesn’t want you to do all the work if you don’t want to but he enjoys having a little more time to himself to either do work or... yeah, it’s just work. There are a few things that he’ll never make you do because it’s either too hard or he’s built up a routine of doing that thing a certain way and he’s convinced no one else will do it right. Like his laundry. He won’t let anyone else clean his clothes. He tried once and nothing dried right, he swears that his jacket is still damp to this day. You can fold his stuff or hang it up, but he’s running the washing machine and dryer. Also picky about how his office is cleaned.

If you asked and gave a legitimate reason for not doing a certain chore, he’ll do it, but be prepared with an excuse as to why you can’t wash the dishes or fold the laundry. He’s especially resistant if he’s working whether that be gathering information for the Speedwagon Foundation or editing his latest Marine Biology book.

Actually, can we just talk about how much this man hates folding laundry? It’s so pointless to him. Why fold it and put it into neat little piles when you’re just gonna rummage through the drawer and mess everything up? Sure, it looks nice, I guess, but not for long. He was for sure a floordrobe kind of guy, especially in his early years. He knows which ones are clean, it’s fine, just leave it. Of course, he would get better the longer you’re at his place, but still. It’s not that he’s lazy, he’s just busy and putting clothes away takes way too fucking long. (which, honestly, agreed.)

Date nights with Jotaro are... rare. I mean, you live with him, why would he want to go out and pay for something when he could do the same thing at home? They’re nice, of course, but it’s more common for him to take you out to dinner while you guys are on vacation or in a location other than home, because he doesn’t feel like cooking and it’s more special when you’re supposed to go out. Eventually, it clicks in that you are supposed to make each other feel special and will surprise you with an expensive dinner or a short cruise. If you suggest the aquarium he’ll think you’re just saying that because he’s into aquatic wildlife, but honestly doesn’t put up much of a fight and will answer any questions you or anyone else has about the fish.

He does enjoy a good relaxing movie (or documentary) night at home, though. It’s so nice to finally be finished work, settle into your super comfy couch and just chill until he gets tired. Even better when you’re lying on top of him with your head just under his chin. There’s something so soothing about smelling your perfume, shampoo, conditioner, cologne, etc. To just smell you so close to him and feel your weight. Aaah. So nice.

    The microwave beeps faintly from the kitchen signalling that popcorn was done. You trailed out soon after, tossing the bowl to mix around the butter. You smile sweetly at him, leaning down to plant a gentle kiss on Jotaro’s lips before settling into his lap, nestling your head just under his while stretching out your legs. His arm instinctively moves from the back of the couch to drape over your back, rubbing circles into it with his thumb.

    He sighs; relaxed, finally. He allows himself to kiss your forehead, closing his eyes for a moment, just basking in your comfort. When he opens his eyes, he pulls you closer to him, feeling your heart beat almost in time with his. It was moments like these that eased his panic of losing you. You were here in his arms, safe and sound and vice versa. He was safe in yours.

Yeah, he’s a little angsty. But, can you blame him? He’s getting better, though. With help, of course. With you being around so often (and being very adamant that you’re not going anywhere) he’s able to let go a little. He’s not perfect, by a long shot and progress is slow, but it’s the little things like these that makes you proud of how far he’s come.

PDA is common, but a little restricted. When you’re out together, Jotaro’ll always have his hand on your back or shoulder. Hand-holding isn’t really a thing for him, but he will make sure you know he’s there. He’ll kiss you in public, but it’s not nearly as intimate or special as when you’re at home. Still, it’s a sweet reminder that he loves you, seeing as words of affection aren’t really his thing.

I mean, he can express himself just fine, but he still gets a little nervous saying things like ‘I love you.’ It’s more along the lines of ‘I care about you.’ Or, well. “of course, I care about you. You wouldn’t be here if I didn’t.” Which... thanks. I think.

Kissing him is so nice, so you’re not too mad about him doing that instead of words. When Jotaro kisses you it’s full of a mix of emotions. Mostly caring, but on his rough days, there’s something else there. It could be worry or whatever the emotional equivalent of never letting you go is. You can always tell that he wants it to last a little bit longer. There’s something in the sad look in his eyes when he or you has to pull away. Sometimes he’s overly gentle like he’ll break you somehow, especially if you’re not a stand user or fighting-inclined (whether physical or otherwise). It’s not patronizing, or at least he tries not to be patronizing, he just prefers you safe.

    It started out simple enough. You and Jotaro were just sitting at the table, eating dinner when he got this... sinking sort of feeling. There was something in the silence between you that just sent his mind spiralling. Thoughts of you someday dying too soon for whatever reason or leaving him because he’s not there enough, stand users, car crashes, divorce. They all started to flood into his mind, fabricating that you would somehow be taken away from him.

    “Jotaro? Are you okay?” Your voice rings through; a bright light breaking the storm. He’s been staring at his plate for a while now, his eyes are dry and itchy. He looks at you and tries to say something, but the words don’t come. Is he okay?

    You stand up and walk over to him, cupping his face gently. You rub the dark circles under his eyes while kissing his forehead. Jotaro slowly wraps his arms around you, letting his face fall into your hands. You’re pulled into his lap after a few minutes, running your fingers through his hair next. Finally, he sighs, burying his face in the crook of your neck.

    “Thank you,” he mumbles and though you’re not quite sure why, you still say a quiet you’re welcome, silently soothing him through whatever happened.

If you couldn’t tell, he needs a lot of reassurance. Not so much words, but actions like the snippet above. I mean, he can be as strong as he wants but we all know he’s got some baggage and while he’s able to put it aside, for the most part, I think when you’re at home he’s just a little more vulnerable.

Now, onto happier things! If you like coffee or tea, he will always make you a cup in the morning. Jotaro is a very early riser except on the weekends, so he usually gets that done while reading or watching the news and when you come down, he’ll ask if you want breakfast then make it for you seeing as he’s more awake.

He loves coffee. So much. He might have a caffeine addiction, honestly. At all times of every day, you can see him with a black coffee in hand and a book or phone in the other. He will switch to decaf at some point, but you might have to switch it for him. He’s forgetful when he gets busy.

Sleeping in on the weekends is like heaven for him. The two nights (or more on holidays) that he gets a full nights rest, breakfast in bed and a warm soul to cuddle into. He’s usually big spoon with a hand just resting on your side, but please, for the love of god make him the little spoon once a week. Will never admit it or vocalize wanting it. He just grabs your hand and drapes it over him with a “good night” and then promptly passes out.

He’s a heavy sleeper but doesn’t sleep often. Once he’s out, there is nothing that could wake him up except the fire alarm or something like that. It just takes a while. Not because of trauma, but more just internal clock is delayed.

Not a bath guy, strictly showers ‘cause they’re quicker. Most of the time he’s in and out before you can invite him into yours. When you do he’s “reluctant” but showers with you are a favourite of his. He gets his hair washed for him (if he bends down), he can wash you. It’s great.

I don’t think he would want more kids. He’s getting older, busier and just doesn’t think he has the time to care for a baby, even with help. Plus, if they were anything like Joylne or god forbid him when he was younger, he might start greying sooner than he thought. Joylne is a great kid, but... she’s definitely got some of his defiance in him. One kid is fine.

He doesn’t really like pets either, hates when there’s fur on all the furniture. But, if you came home with a stray cat or two, he’s not gonna put up a fight if you say they’re not going to the pound. “Just as long as you take care of them yourself.”

You got him a betta fish once because Jotaro. Fish. Makes sense. He thought it was a little pointless at first. You can’t pet them or play fetch (not like he does those things anyway). All a fish does is sit there and look pretty. You were a little disappointed, but whatever, you’ll take care of it. Then he comes home one day with a 30-gallon tank, freshwater plants and fancy lighting to help them grow which he quietly sets up in the living room. He spent at least a half-hour deciding on where to put it.

A week later, after he’s pleased with how it looks and the tank has been cycled he puts in an order for more fish then lets your betta acclimate to the tank. “There, he’ll be happier in here. The idea of bettas not enjoying or panicking in larger tanks is a myth. He won’t be alone for long anyway. He also won’t kill everything in the tank.” Well, he hopes he won’t, each fish is different. Thankfully, the small school of tetras get along with your betta just fine. From then on, he’s in there once a week, cleaning everything, trimming the overgrowth. It is officially his tank.

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GAD (Generalized Anxiety Disorder) Tips and Tricks

If you have or experience GAD or another anxiety disorder, this is the post for you if you’re seeking help with your disorder. Remember first things first: if you think you have a disorder, or other serious mental problem, see a therapist. Do not try to self-diagnose yourself, especially if you have an anxiety disorder. I am only giving tips on dealing with anxiety disorders based on my own experience. I do not expect others to have the same experience; I just hope that some of these tips might help some people deal with anxiety. 

I’ve had GAD ever since I can remember. I was/still am constantly worrying. I would worry so much, I’d have migraines. I was shy, and refused to trust anyone. I constantly thought up make-believe scenarios in my head, because I was so worried I would say or do the wrong thing. Since then, I have it under control, and yes, it is partly due to medication. If you have GAD or another anxiety disorder, here are some unique tips that may help you.

Tip #1: Location/Environment

If you are experiencing anxiety, there is a good chance that location is the issue. One of the best things that a person with GAD can do is restart in a different area. It sounds strange, but if you have lived in your hometown for your entire life and your GAD is getting worse, it’s time to move. Your anxiety is going to continue to build, because it is due to a factor that you are most likely unable to control. I lived in a high-crime area in New York. In my old high school, 3 kids died last summer, 2 due to gangs, 1 to suicide. Sometimes restarting is necessary. Ask your parents, and try to explain to them the dangers of staying in one place. If they refuse or if you are unable to, try to find the factor beyond your control and try to find a way to have some sort of control over it, whether it’s pepper spray, or carrying a stress ball for frustration, or ignoring people or objects involved. 

Tip #2: Obsessions

With GAD, it is very easy to become obsessed with things. Whether it’s grades, video games, or even bands, you may find yourself thinking about a single thing all the time. Music is a popular obsession, I’ve found, because it allows you to forget about your worries without doing drugs. However, obsession becomes addiction, and you may find yourself raving about a few bands. Bands like One Direction, All Time Low, and 5 Seconds of Summer, can actually produce endorphins in your brain, producing pleasure. Becoming obsessed with these bands is actually dangerous for a person with GAD. This does NOT mean you should stop listening to them, but branch out. Listen to a different genre of music. I’ve found that acoustic pop and chill indie rock is more relaxing than anything else. Don’t just listen to sad songs, throw a couple happy ones in there as well. I can’t tell you how much this small step helped, and this goes for anything- video games, tv shows, etc.

Tip #3: Fashion

Oftentimes, untreated GAD leads to depression (I’ve been unfortunate to have this), and depression can lead to much worse. One of the ways I’ve been able to rebound is surprisingly through fashion. I’m not talking about conforming to peers, but find a style that relaxes you. Put effort into how you look. Plan out outfits. Stay away from dark colors like black, red, and dark blue. Dark colors help you hide in the shadows, and worsen anxiety and depression. A little bit of color can really make you feel good, and can give you some confidence. Basically, you’ll look good and feel good. It is also a good way to find friends. People who say “I like your shirt” or “Nice outfit” are showing interest in you. Work up your courage to mumble “Hey” one day, or compliment them back. Friends are always good support groups. 

Tip #4: Perfume

I told you these tips were unique and a little weird, but yes, perfume or cologne is a great way to make you feel better about yourself. Putting effort into yourself, your body, and your interests, will honestly make you feel 1000x’s better. Perfume or cologne is also comforting to smell in stressful situations- especially warm smells like cinnamon or vanilla. 

Tip #5: The talkative kid

We all know about that one kid in school or work that will talk to anyone, anytime. All you need to do is show some interest, and boom, you have a conversation started. Work up your nerve for a few hours, and choose a time where you talk to him/her. If you say “hey”, they’ll most likely jump into a discussion. Even if they aren’t your type of friend, they most likely have connections to people with your interests/ hobbies. A lot of people with GAD and depression have the tendency to push friends and people away when it gets rough. The more friends you have, the more people to push away, and the more noticeable it is. Your friends may notice how uncomfortable you are, and bring it up.

Tip #6: Periods

This is for the ladies with GAD: Periods are your worst enemy. I’m on medication and my anxiety is under control, but every time I get that time of month, my anxiety goes off like a bomb. Even I haven’t been able to control it, and I don’t think I’ll ever be able to. The best thing to do, if you are in a safe environment, is distance yourself a bit. Don’t push your friends away, but keep it on the down low until those anxious thoughts leave. Up your use of stress balls and activities during that week. If you do sports, don’t let yourself avoid practice. Keeping track of your period is a good way to prepare yourself. 

Tip #7: Your room

If your room is dark, and dingy, and smells, then you need to remodel. Panic attacks literally grow in that environment. Make your room comfy and welcoming. Make your bed everyday- don’t do it for your parents, do it for you. Paint it a bright color like yellow, white, light blue, salmon, etc. If you have a dark room, and can’t change the color, use white decor. Use storage bins, and keep your room spotless. Your room is your safe space- you need to show it some love. Decorate it with inspirational quotes that help you wake up in the morning. Take televisions out- I know, I know, but seriously, it helps. You shouldn’t be stuck in your room all day- your anxiety will cloud over and explode. 

Tip #8: Make goals

This is also very important for people with depression. Most people think goals means far into the future, but it really doesn’t. If your room is dirty, make it a goal to clean it. Need exercise? Make a goal of a quarter of a mile of running or walking and increase it little by little. Have a dog? Make it your goal to walk him/ her or teach him/her a new trick. Spoil yourself. When you finish your goal, give yourself some italian ice, or buy yourself something nice. Make it a goal to wake up on time without an alarm. Make it a goal to hang out with your grandparents. Any small thing that can take your mind off of worrying is good. 

Tip #9: Exercise

I hate exercise, but everyone does. But it is a necessary evil. If you aren’t a fan of long runs or walks, get a gym membership. Sign up for a yoga class, or buy an exercise dvd, or they have helpful videos on youtube for free. Having exercise goals is very helpful for everyone. Having a dog or a cat who is miraculously okay with a leash is awesome, because they practically force you to give them exercise, and exercise is much better with a buddy. Or, if you don’t have a dog, ask a friend to come with you one day. 

Tip #10: No permanent solution

Accept that you can’t completely destroy your anxiety, but you can make it easier to deal with. None of these tips are long term, and none of them alone can beat anxiety, but if you put three or four of these tips into your daily routine or life goals, then your anxiety might just let up a bit. The main thing is, get help, help yourself, and live life with a smile.