#violent hypervisibility

[silverlovesmadi]

I am in full support of Black American women resting and enjoying ease. The placing of this statue in the middle of Times Square clearly violates and disrespects this much needed rest era and therefore harbors on tone deaf.

Anybody who is in support of this image of a black woman (and other statues like it outside of the US) not being used as a public square target by a biracial male with a white mother / black father (and allegedly white wife) in the middle of an incredibly dangerous unsafe hostile scary political climate, please sign the petition and help create a safer environment for your black little girls.

Safety, rest and protection for black women and girls is all that matters.

[puppygirldick]

Sorry you're a manlet or whatever💖 I hope you grow out of that

This smells tme

we need to bodyshame tall people

[genderoutlaws]

i'm actually going to be just outside pittsburgh in a couple weeks here and my therapist just yesterday was assuring me that as long as we stay near pittsburgh (me and my partner, we are pretty hypervisibly a lesbian couple when together) we should be fine and i was having a hard time articulating that i expect discrimination and harassment anywhere i go, not in a pessimistic way but just that it is a very real possibility at all times, especially in our worsening climate for trans and gender nonconforming people. it doesn't really matter if loud transphobes are few and far between, because if one of them starts being violent all the Good Americans turns their heads and choose not to get involved. there were cisgender women who saw the truck full of cis men attempting to run me over last year and looked at me like i was the aggressor when i shouted Kill Yourselves Homophobic Assholes back at them, and hurried to put distance between themselves and me as i hid inside a Sally's beauty so I wouldn't be run over. idk i'm kinda just processing out loud here. i should send my therapist the article about the bar raid in pittsburgh

[busket]

trans men i say this with love: we NEED to stop acknowledging comments from transphobes saying stuff like "you'll never be a real woman" and acting like it's sooo funny that transphobes can't tell that we aren't trans women, and being like "omg they tried to insult me but they were accidentally gender affirming!! like thank you!! 🤣"

we can laugh at transphobes for saying "we can always tell" despite being dumb as shit and never being able to tell. and I recognize that humor is a kneejerk response to someone attempting to insult you and failing horribly. but the joke is at the expense of trans women, they get caught in the crossfire. you're telling our trans sisters "omfg this person was incredibly VIOLENT to me because they thought I was YOU! isnt that funny? they tried to insult ME with the insult that is meant for YOU!" that's not funny. that's not kind.

and you know that transphobe is copypasting that hateful comment to everyone they read as trans, including trans women, and they're looking for a reaction. because that is what bullies want! you block and you move on. tell your friends if you really need to vent. you don't need to remind trans women that they are under fire for being hypervisible in our community. solidarity is not hard.

[transfemme-shelterdog]

https://www.tumblr.com/transfemme-shelterdog/779807526315245568/to-transfems-who-post-hateful-rhetoric-about-trans?source=share

Talking about killing your fellow trans women? That's messed up sis. The self hate is real

You done emptying your bladder on the poor there girl?

I said that fascists will give you, and every other trans person that you attack, a bullet. Because they will. Either that, or put you in a camp with the rest of the untermenschen.

Do yourself a favour and look up how transvestit and transvestitin individuals were treated under paragraphs 175 and 183 of the Strafgesetzbuch. Additionally, look into the Reichszentrale zur Bekämpfung der Homosexualität und der Abtreibung, which is quite relevant in our current times.

Oh, and if that still isn't enough, look into the libel case of Marie-Luise Vollbrecht in 2022, where the Cologne court ruled that denying that transgender people were victims of the Nazis qualifies as "a denial of Nazi crimes", which in Germany may be prosecuted as a crime.

Do you really think that the fascists of today won't be like the fascists of then?

Maybe they'll be nicer this time, right Anon? Maybe this time they won't target trans women who enable them! As we both know, the Nazis have no problem sparing their enablers!

Like the Verband nationaldeutscher Juden who... ended up in camps.

Ok, well how about Ernst Röhm, the gay friend of Hitler who helped him seize power, yeah he was treated we- oh wait, no, he was killed in the Nacht der langen Messer.

Well, nevermind, it'll be different this time, they promise! Trans women who help spread misinformation about trans men, and rally their siblings against their trans brothers will definitely be spared from being forcibly detransitioned, and/or put in a camp or killed, once Conservatives (fascists) reach that stage of their plan. Right now it's just the kids, but soon, it'll be adults too, and I'm sure that they'll skip right over the most hypervisible group that they paint as these violent predators who rape women in washrooms, and focus on those pesky theyfabs and trans men, who definitely have privilege /s

[gor3sigil]

Highkey even with hypervisibility I feel like transwomen have it far better than trans men and trans mascs in every way that matters. They get their voices heard, they are catered to in trans specific events and communities, they are universally loved and privileged in trans friendly spaces, erasing or degrading the existince of trans men & mascs in the process. It feels like the hypervisibility excuse is just a platitude, a way a saying "oh pwease pwease dont hate the trans fems who constantly attack you and oppress you they have it just as bad as you see? uwu 🥺🥺" I'm not saying that transwomen arent persecuted in any way, as trans people they are marginalized by default and do face violence and hate in cisheteronormative society, but they are also more likely to be respected, and in queer spaces they are in a place of privilige with their transandrophobic attack dogs ready at the smallest sign of dissent. I've seen this bullshit pattern happen everywhere online and offline in queer spaces. Transwomen are delicate little pure wombyn babies to be catered to while transmascs are horrible ugly man-ogres for abandoning femininity. I have never seen transmisogyny occur except in plsces where transphobia in general is expected. Not to say that all transfems are like this either, but this is a major fucking problem, and transfems need to wake up and be aware of their position of power and privilige when interacting with their transmasc brothers. Transmascs ahould be allowed a little bit of transmisogyny. As a treat. Because holy fuck you men need to band together and fight like hell against this bullshit where everyone is out to get you.

Hey, I'm going to be as articulate as I can when answering this. Trans women and transfems, in this society, with cis people, don't have it easier. Our struggles are both the same and different. Hypervisibility makes them far more prone to receive targeted violence, while we tend to be erased or to detransition because of social pressure (NOT WILLINGLY) (I don't have the exact numbers but detransition is a lot more common in FTMs and transmascs people than transfems and trans women).

Regarding queer spaces, I agree to an extend that there seem to be a weird "divine femininity" vibe, and a lot of spaces have implemented radfem ideologies that are very damaging to transmascs and trans men, especially when some start to pass and end up having to perform some type of femininity and/or be very visibly queer if they don't want to be questioned or side-eyed. That being said, transfems are absolutely not in a position of "power" over transmascs nor are they oppressing us. Them being more exposed means that they are more likely to be the target of violent transphobia, put their livelihood, housing, careers etc in jeopardy to be on the front of our fight for trans rights and this is a fact you can't conveniently brush off nor belittle. There is issues in our communty when it comes to balance for SURE, but it doesn't come from trans women only. Your slipping in a very dangerous pipeline when you start to project shit and say that transmascs should be allowed "a little transmisogyny"' like, what the hell. We're responsible adults, if we don't agree on things we talk it out. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. But if anything, my issues is way more with CIS queers who are exploiting trans activists while getting all the recognition for it and glazing their events with fake inclusivity, rather than our sisters who are working and fighting their asses off. If we start to zoom in and take infighting this far we'll just end up destroying each other while our rights are being slowly, but surely, taken away from us.

Be very careful about the TERFy shit. Transfems/transmascs imbalance is absolutely not our main issue right now. And if you think it is, get your head out of your ass because you'll be very sorry in a few years when you have no community, no rights, nothing else but your sorry eyes to cry.

[velvetvexations]

I want to mention that one of the reasons transfems end up as the "face of the community" is that transphobes have a very strong vested interest in preventing people from realizing trans men exist: they always talk about us as "lost lesbians" and "confused girls" because if people realised those lesbians and girls were trans men, they would recognize that the way transphobes treat us is conversion therapy. But as long as the public doesn't know we exist, or doesn't connect happy/out/passing/etc trans men to the "confused girls" they used to be, then transphobes can keep getting away with outright announcing that they want to do conversion therapy on us. I'm not denying the harm that being hypervisible does to transfems, I just want to kind of push back on the idea that trans men aren't frequently talked about; we are, just in ways that obscure they're talking about us, in order to get the public to agree with conversion therapy.

That's a very good point anon. <3 I've often said that it just means the enemy is invisible for you guys, which can be harder in some ways. Neither transfems nor transmascs have an easy time of it and it is truly, one hundred percent pointless to argue about who gets it worse from cis people.

Like? I saw those posts that are like "all transmascs talk about are violent hate crimes so that's the only oppression they have". Which is fucking stupid and obviously just goes to show they don't listen, but also, like, what? Why do you even care about that? It's always "we just want to say transmascs aren't immune to transmisogyny" until suddenly they're trying to quantify everyone's oppression to definitively declare we're the most hated. That shit doesn't have anything to do with transmascs sometimes being transmisogynystic, they just want to go for transmasc throats at all times.

[pomegrnteseed]

I've never related to Hermione and Harry more than in the post-war stories where they realise Kingsley is not the leader they hoped he'd be for them. How his dependence on the Wizengamot forces him to play the game. How he slowly turns more towards the political narratives he fought so staunchly against for decades, caving to the pressures of hypervisibility, unending criticism, and a power-wielding far right so overbearing and loud their viciousness can't be ignored as it erodes at the principles he once held so dear. The small concessions become big u-turns, and the younger generations watch on in abject horror as the promises of equity and safety become the butt of political jibes and media headlines stoking the very same fires that other those most precariously placed in society, those with the least power to enact change and relied upon most heavily to share their stories and knowledge and trauma without compensation or acknowledgement of their humanity.

I look at British politics and I see the same cycles. I see the parallels between our world and theirs. I see the painful irony of Rowling becoming Umbridge, an advisor to the new Prime Minister, forcing her violent agenda and Starmer being ever so Fudge-like in his ever-moldable foundations, churning up new people to blame, new reasons to fear, new restrictions on human rights to implement.

It's fucking galling to sit and watch this happening before us, as it is playing out across the world, and not see people open their eyes to the inhumane nature of it all. Wilful ignorance is baked in to this hell island and I am grieving already. I think I have been grieving for years.

Tomorrow I'll find the fire within me to rally round and act. Today I mourn in anticipation of the painful fight ahead. It's exhausting being able to imagine a more equitable present, to realise the potential we share, and have so many easily distracted neighbours ready to blame anyone but ourselves for the rise in fascism.

I'm so tired of it all. The wins don't feel monumental enough today. Perhaps tomorrow will seem brighter, as the efforts to build communities of care and solidarity on the ground continue.

[madecanary]

(  NICHOLAS  GALITZINE  |  CIS  MALE  |  HE  +  HIM  |  TWENTY  -  ONE  )  — — —  it's  just  been  another  long  week  in  boring  -  ass  hawkins.  isn't  that  right,  WILLIAM  BYERS?  shit,  i  guess  they  can't  hear  me  over  WHY  CAN'T  I  TOUCH  IT?  by  BUZZCOCKS  playing  through  the  headphones  of  their  walkman.  it  looks  like  they're  gonna  be  late  for  WORK  as  a  SALES  ASSOCIATE  at  FAMILY  VIDEO.  did  you  know  WILL  has  been  in  hawkins  for  HIS  ENTIRE  LIFE?  yeah,  their  family  and  friends  describe  them  as  GENTLE,  but  i've  seen  them  be  RESERVED  too  !  i  would  also  say  they  remind  me  of  a  wound  in  the  shape  of  a  boy, raw-bitten  lips  as  sweet  as  they  are  sour,  an  intolerable  tenderness  nestled  in  a  center  that  cannot  hold,  splotches  of  ink  littered  haphazardly  across  flushed  skin,  eyes  rife  with  mischief  and  melancholy  in  equal  amounts,  but  is  that  weird  ?  i  guess  nothing's  too  weird  for  this  little  town,  huh  ?  — — —  (  dev,  any,  25,  est  )

usually found trying his best to not visibly judge family video's patrons and their taste in film, doodling on scrap paper, bobbing his head to whichever mix he's listening to now, with his head in a book, getting away with being a little shit in the background, and being soooo normal 😁👍 (lies) prominent traits empathetic, coy, pragmatic, anxious, sweet, sensitive, pixyish, prone to keeping things in & then exploding, self-sacrificing, frank mini anachronistic playlist climbing up the walls (radiohead), i'm just a kid (simple plan), prey (the neighborhood), i wanna be adored (the stone roses), basket case (green day), good feeling (violent femmes), unloveable (the smiths), my love mine all mine (mitski)

bridging the gap

whatever dreams will had of going to college were momentarily completely and totally squandered by The Horrors and Their Consequences. he went through a lot, year after year, and leaving the nest to venture out into the great unknown by himself right after just... wasn't in the cards for him yet. he wasn't quite ready, didn't know how to reconcile what he felt with the life he was living and the one he wanted to live. so, he stuck around.

got a job at family video because if the abysmal reviews in the local paper were anything to go by, then clearly this town was in great need of at least one person with good taste to guide them, and who else could it be but him, your resident movie buff? he's been there for a minute—probably over a year now—and he likes it. he likes it a lot, actually, and probably abuses his employee discounts lmao.

a lot can happen in two years, especially two years of peace, so i'd like to think will continued his self-realization journey he was on in canon and is in a better place than he was. he's in this unique position of simultaneously being both hypervisible (widespread gay rumors & bullying have existed since forever, and his family dropped hints throughout the years lol) and invisible (it doesn't stop girls from barking up the wrong tree; some doubt still exists), and he'd use that to his advantage. it isn't safe to be fully out, but i think... that if you need to know, you'd know. ...you know? so, not out-out, but not making a concerted effort to appear otherwise. you either notice his flags and put two and two together, or you don't. does that make sense? his family absolutely knows, and i do imagine he'd want his chosen family to know and love the real him, too.

considering his unfathomably shitty luck in life, he probably spent most of that first year of peace waiting for the other shoe to drop, and only finally exhaled when november came and went without any issues. still doesn't know what he wants to do with his life (does he go the practical route and do something with computer science? or does he chase after his pipe dream and pursue art?), but he did enroll in some gen ed classes at the local community college with intentions to transfer someday, so that's progress. he still feels so behind, like he should have moved on by now, but baby steps are still steps.

so, y'know. he was living that small town life. getting by, shooting the shit, trying to not shit his pants thinking about The Future. everything was fine! so great, so normal. until. :)))))))) he started not being able to sleep as well as he used to. started feeling anxious, not entirely alone. he thought it was just... him, y'know? he knows he has ptsd, he knows that life isn't always as easy for him as it is for others — he made peace with that. but... he thought he was getting better, that things were finally starting to look up for him. and now this?

he hasn't told anyone. his options are both shitty: either he's so scared of growing up that he's getting bad again (and then he has to be the mentally ill one, ugh!) or it's not just him and they really are in danger (and now they have to fight for their lives again, great!). nightmare scenario no matter what. but it's probably fine. it's just his brain turning his fear of the unknown and unfamiliar into something that he does know and is intimately familiar with. it's — no, yeah. that's probably it. right...?

so, basically, old habits die hard and will has fallen back into the routine of pretending that everything is fine and soooo very normal, unaware that he looks and acts like a prey animal to anyone with eyes. if he has bags under his eyes, no he doesn't. if he's been listening to should i stay or should i go? again, no he hasn't. if he's extra quiet, extra jumpy, and a little more sensitive than usual, well. what happened to minding our own business, huh? 🤨 can't a man be a freak in peace? could someone going through it do this? (cue will giving himself a choppy wolf cut in shitty midnight bathroom lighting). it's literally so fine!!!!!!! (<- lying again)

he may... have to start opening up a little bit, though, given the latest murders. maybe. but only if you promise to not get mad... 🙄👉👈

extra tidbits

it's very important to me that will has a little gay hoop earring that someone gave him at like three am during a sleepover on a random whim. sometimes he wants to buy a pearl and serve full on girl with a pearl earring realness, but he also doesn't want to get hatecrimed, so. little innocuous hoop it is 💛

joining the war on smoking on the side of smoking by following in s1's historical accuracy footsteps and making will an occasional smoker. and yes, he does still bum cigarettes knowing full well he has a pack of his own on him (we love a scammer) + it's been a lil bit more than occasional ever since the return of The Horrors :(

i'll still be writing will as a sweetheart of course, but bitchy will is so near and dear to me. his season three WHO CARESSSSSS 🙄 & cracking up at the boys getting dumped & you weren't with her? 🤨😒 & general #imwithher vibes and season four sighing and rolling his eyes and calling others out etc mean Everything to me. get their ass, william!!! sigh and bitch and moan and complain, as is your right!!!

will had that hair you see in the second gif, but he cut it recently and now it looks like the first and third gif. is this because i'm indecisive? perhaps....

he still loves dnd + still the same old geek + still loves [video] games + please hang out with him he wants to hang out can he come over to hang out or do you want to come over to hang out when are y'all gonna hang out bc he just told me he wants to hang out. btw

[caffeineandsociety]

Annoying trend I keep seeing in queer intracommunity discussions is that...okay.

I see transfems talking about particular ways non-transfem trans people often still hold transmisogynistic beliefs, such as the idea that open transfem sexuality is predatory and/or fetishistic, and/or that "support" means sexually objectifying trans women and reducing their value to "passability" and "cuteness/hotness" and not even TRYING to unpack the subconscious bias inflicted on everyone that someone who fails to live up to that standard is "imposing" and "scary" and "taking up too much space".

I see transmascs talking about how non-transmascs frequently still hold transandrophobic beliefs, such as the idea that transmasculinity is somehow Less Trans and thus transandrophobia is less important and somehow not violent and NEVER deadly because maleness and masculinity are some kind of default and unpoliticized state and/or AFAB people are just inherently Less Serious, or that male periods and pregnancy are a fanfic joke and not something that actually happens and often KILLS people for medical neglect and ignorance as well as direct hate.

These are EXTREMELY true statements and it's VERY important for people to address the spot checks they've failed and unpack the biases that affect OTHER trans people more directly than they affect themselves (but also important NOT to excessively fight over it to the point of focusing primarily to exclusively on each other and giving the people and societal structures that invented these types of ideas a free pass, thank you very much) if we're going to come together and coalition-build instead of falling for divide-and-conquer tactics from the right that wants us all dead-

But then I see some of the SAME people turning around and trying to REFUTE the other side because something something the Dynamic of hypervisibility vs. erasure makes the idea that open transfem sexuality IS dangerous because it Makes Us All Look Bad/that transmasculinity IS in fact a Lesser and Less Important form of transness that could NEVER understand what it's like to be the REAL target or whatever other thing...true, actually.

Which is such a horrific load of bullshit I barely even know where to start, but I want to address it with one question:

If you acknowledge that trans subgroups other than your own can still hold transphobic bias...then what makes yours, and you individually, so special that you think you're an exception?

[lavelled]

Something happened on the front page news. This week was especially dire and sad about a beloved chef. What the hell is going on. I hope it has nothing to do with this blog.

I revealed that my toddler life was stolen by a much older man who had a special soft spot for young Tom Cruise, and it was the boy attraction that was the motive for the crime.

The 23andMe Princess connection has been revealed, in a green football jacket and other references.

Prince Harry writes “ur my mum” everywhere on the darknet and on mugs and tee-shirts, thus, it’s not a secret.

TOM. Tom. I’m writing a wrap-up blog, even though I don’t wish to be a part of anything that may contribute to the citation erasure of this high-profile and revered woman.

I’ll write a closing whodunit blog full of mystery that's been solved with a clear admission and photographic evidence because as the chosen fetus scribe, who is now a middle-aged adult without the love and life I feel I’ve deserved all along, I have to fight the kingdom that wears a bloodstained crown when I really just want to see my faraway folks and not be in a computer.

Also, I’m not totally convinced Charles even likes Harry. Does he? Do they?

I read that little Prince Louis sat on the lap of grandpa Charles in a touching moment during Trooping the Colour on Saturday. I winced, until I read the sentence that followed:

“Aside from the obvious use of Charles as a middle name, the name Louis is thought to be a tribute to the King's beloved uncle, Louis Mountbatten, who was assassinated by the IRA in 1979.”

A news outlet actually printed that pedophile assassination fact — and the world didn’t end. My smile for the week. Such conventional British respectability where an identityless Rachel Meghan fits in perfectly.

K

A few screengrabs and Getty.

Deleted Instagram...

Is her throat sore? Teacup Duchess and the A to Z Aquarium Zebra Puzzle, this was before she married into the rapist pedophile family.

You can google this or continue with your daily lives, which is the smarter choice, but Harry confirmed their relationship publicly in November 2016. This is timestamped November 2016 and her data entry computer work is still the Tom methodology, she’s using pedo code, and is single.

Prince Harry re-uploaded it because making their marital fabrications hypervisible and permanent on the internet is evergreen business.

Elephant infant teapot because pedophilia…

A math maze of violent rosebud threats and suicidal encouragement for Tom and others.

This is from a few days ago.

His firsty threats. Still.

On Reddit, from the humanitarian and calm philosopher…

Royal staffers: Can his public encoded Internet threats get any more direct and blatant?

Why yes.

This is what your kids look at.

This is freshly created for Tom Cruise…

After publishing a blog containing the self-harm of a beloved fashion pioneer, The Meghan Markle Team displayed their client holding a handbag front-and-center accompanied with verse. Which I took to mean the helpful editorial code of The Blonde Princess And Me.

But I also deemed it a bit insensitive, given the macabre material I had just breathed into the world, which is stressful for me week after week.

So with that in mind, here is a Philip Phlop bag as a reminder that you’re on the payroll of an entrenched pedophile family notorious for voyeuristic pleasures as caught by Getty and her underage Belfast Charlotte Elizabeth purse taken from one of their suicide tours…

Picture below:

Adrienne. The Calling. Song.

I put whatever song from the musical world I want next to the picture palette because I may be sending hidden messages to certain folks, or I really like the cool song.

I was too young to be the bedroom inspiration for the elder Telegram Mountbatten-Windsor men. To be The Princess in the 1990s would be uncouth; in the 1980s it would be criminally actionable; and younger would be intercourse fucking an ultrasound baby photo.

I was 8 when your parents got married, Harry.

I loved her, but the motherliness is about a young and protective Tom towards me.

Notice the Mercury marine engine that encompasses a triad of main players, walkie talkies, elbows, star-print swimsuit, bodyguard with a watch and that dude way over there, see him, behind the boulder.

That’s not my red dot…

I’ll write soon.

Attention Duke Sussex charities: Archewell Foundation, Archewell Productions, Archetypes podcast, Sentebale, The Invictus Games, Travalyst, BetterUp, The Earthshot Prize, The Royal Collection Trust, The King's Trust.

[cascadianights]

"Even hypervisible nonbinary people aren't visible as nonbinary people but as broken women" Fucking real.

Its all the same hatred applied in whichever way hurts and silences you the most.

"Femmes and thems" allowed but not if you're a trans woman who isn't fully medically transitioned/a nonbinary or dual gendered or intersex person presenting masc at all/a trans man who was welcome ten minutes ago but now is a Definite Predator here to Take Up Space.

Transfemmes are 'violent predators' bc they used to be men (big assumption) and transmascs are 'violent predators' bc they are becoming men and nonbinary people are 'violent predators' bc they are either moving away or towards (again big assumptions) masculinity that Stains you for life.

Transmascs "have it better" bc theyre turned away from most resources and queer spaces thus invisible - and arent they really just a broken woman - until the moment they exist near you and are instead a dangerous loudmouth man talking over women. Transfemmes "have it better" bc everyone turns the wild oversexualization they are no longer allowed to dog whistle & holler at other women for towards them and they're Too visible, until the moment they exist near you and are a dangerous man taking up women's spaces.

Everyone is facing the same shit from the same TERF stew of "all masculinity is poison/all women are victims." Nonbinary/intersex/dual or more gendered people are caught in the crossfire of all of it, but it's all the SAME SHIT. You're whoever I can dismiss and paint with a brush of danger. You're whoever I can disregard and paint with a brush of broken confused victim. You're whoever I can WRITE OFF and LOOK DOWN ON and BELITTLE.

Its TERF logic all the way down. The people perpetuating it and BARRING US FROM SPACES and LABELING US CONFUSED MONSTERS will always be the enemy. Not the fellow trans people they try to get you to target bc "isn't the grass greener over there, where all the same toxic rules apply but we can erase it in the narrative?"

Op's pronouns: he/him, they/them

[aterabyte]

We need to rid ourselves of the idea that every community must have one sub-demographic that is the most oppressed and is actively oppressed by all others in that community as a result, and therefore their voices must always be prioritized over the rest of the community regardless of context, because doing otherwise would be oppressing autistic people/trans women/lesbians/bi people/insert-hypervisible-marginalized-demographic-here.

And before anyone starts, no I am not saying that members of the hypervisible demographics in question are privileged-tee-em. This prioritization within a given community does not confer any benefits in society at large and does not lessen oppression. Not only that, but I'd argue it doesn't even actually protect members of that hypervisible demographic from intracommunity violence—i.e. "trans women are the most oppressed" has never done a single fucking thing to protect us from disposability and being tossed aside once we're no longer politically convenient, "autistic people are the most oppressed" doesn't protect us from being framed as violent or infantilized as incompetent, etc.

The only thing that this viewpoint does is provide fodder to attack less visible members of a given community. That's it. That's all. It benefits no one except a select few abusive individuals and it harms damn near everyone. Cut it out.

[aemiron-main]

also don’t think about how Will has a safe place outside of the house (castle byers) because he Can’t be in the house (not safe with Lonnie around/scary with him around) whereas mike has a safe place inside his house (his blanket fort in the basement) because he Has to be in the house.

don’t think about the implications of el taking over mike’s safe space. dont think about how castle byers wasn’t destroyed for the first time in s3 because it was destroyed in s1 first, the UD version at least, don’t think about the implications of Will’s childhood/safe space being destroyed by somebody else (Henry/the demogorgon) before he could even destroy it himself versus mike destroying his blanket fort himself and how that ties into Will being a representation of hypervisible gay men who die by murder vs mike being a representation of invisible gay men who die by suicide/their own hand. don’t think about the implications it has for how Mike tried to kill his own childhood whereas Will’s had already been killed and he was trying to revive it, don’t think about the implications of the part of himself that will is trying to revive also being the part of mike that mike is trying to kill. don’t think about how will’s focus on dnd makes it harder for mike to kill that part of himself and how Will’s care for him makes it harder for Mike to go through with any passing thoughts of ending himself at all and how for awhile mike resents will for this because he wishes that Will would just let him suffocate that part of himself, would stop saving him. stop giving him false hope about the idea that he doesn’t have to kill that part of himself.

yet again don’t think of how Will has been robbed of choice and agency and how that’s what almost killed him whereas mike has almost died by his own choice and agency (choosing to step off at the quarry) but was pushed towards that choice even though it was still a choice in the end. don’t think of how Will’s loss of choice and agency goes so deep to the point where he doesn’t even have full agency over the expression of his trauma and his anger and his heartbreak because the UD castle byers was already violently demolished before Will could even lift the bat to land the first blow on the real one.

don’t think of how mike destroying the blanket fort was an act of choice but was a choice, just like the quarry, that he was pushed towards by external forces (el’s death) and how Will and Mike were both upset with themselves when they destroyed their respective safe places (Will saying “stupid,” and ripping the picture) but how Will was also upset with Mike whereas mike didn’t have that external person to be upset with because he can’t even be upset at El because she died to save HIM and Lucas and Dustin and so he internalizes that blame and that upset and places it on himself and Will does similar with his “stupid” comment but they’re both doing it in diff ways bc Will is internalizing it BECAUSE of that external upset w someone else whereas mike is internalizing it because of that LACK of somebody external to be upset with.

don’t think about Will being revived by hopper and how even that was something that robbed him of agency because while YES he wanted to be revived it still wasn’t a choice, he still had to be brought back to life, the newspaper headings are wrong, zombie boy didn’t just come back to life, he was brought back to life just as he was forced towards death and sure it was a good thing but being good doesn’t mean it was a choice. don’t think about will byers being robbed of agency at every fucking turn and it almost destroying him whereas mike wheeler has too much agency to the point where he begins to use it to destroy himself. don’t think about people like Troy who take advantage of mike’s agency and choice to push him towards making horrible fucking choices at his own hand so that Troy doesn’t have to take accountability for it, so that Mike stepped off the ledge instead of being pushed, so that there’s no metaphorical bloodsoaked hands to haunt Troy in a Lady Macbeth fashion because technically mike’s blood is on his own hands. and don’t think about how Will’s blood is on Henry’s hands but how Will doesn’t want any of his fucking blood on henry’s hands anymore, not in a “he’s forgiven Henry/doesn’t want him to feel guilt”, way but in a “it’s his fucking blood and yet Henry still has it, still has part of him,” way, in a “maybe he can fucking be absolved of his guilt if it means that my blood can finally be off of his hands, if it means that he doesn’t have part of me anymore, maybe I can cope with never getting that resolution, that justice, cope with knowing that Henry has been absolved of his guilt if it means that I get to have all of myself again, if him being absolved of his guilt means he is also absolved of every other part of me maybe I can cope with that no matter how much it kills me, even if the wounds never close at least none of that blood belongs to him anymore, even if I bleed out from never getting closure, at least not a drop of that blood belongs to him, I would rather waste all of that blood, all of my life, than let him have another drop or moment of it” way (this can all be solved so that will gets closure and Henry doesn’t get to have any more of him by fucking Killing Henry)

don’t think about Will being robbed of agency in life and death and even in the space between the two. don’t think about how Mike robs himself of choice and agency by making choices like stepping off the quarry (which would’ve permanently ended his ability to make any choices if El hadn’t stepped in and how Mike is saved by moments that lack agency because he Is so self-destructive and so the moments of lacking agency are what kills Will but saves mike) and don’t think about how Will is robbed of agency before he even gets the chance to steal it from himself, how will is robbed even of his own headstone, of his own funeral, a body buried that isn’t even his, how will is robbed of agency and closure whereas mike has too much, too much agency so he uses it to destroy himself and too much closure in the sense that he closes everyone off, ends things too quickly, almost ended his life too quickly at the quarry.

don’t think about the fact that Will didn’t even get to land the first blow on Henry, didn’t get to be the first one to take him down, was robbed of that agency again, of that closure again, but he WILL be the one to land the last blow. he WILL get that agency and closure.

don’t think about the fact that Will’s attempts to exert agency are constantly stolen from him and stomped on. don’t think about how he never stopped being himself despite this loss of agency, never gave up on the things he loves because his love is one of his few only forms of agency. being gay isn’t a choice but Will’s love for mike and for dnd etc and the way he embraces it IS a choice, it IS a choice to spit in the face of a society that hates him, the irony of being gay not being a choice but Will’s gay love for mike is one of the elements of his life where he gets the most agency, where even though his agency is still limited in many regards, he still gets to make the CHOICE to embrace it. he didn’t choose to love mike but it’s the one loss of agency that isn’t fucking horrifying for him. he didn’t choose to love mike but he DID choose to embrace it.

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I think people would be more inclined to listen to you wrt transandrophobia if you didn't on every other post downplay the oppression of trans women by claiming our issues are "more visible" as if we were taking space from trans men when the reality is that we're all at each other's throats while cis people get away with treating us like shit. Like when you claimed being transphobic towards trans women was generally seen as worse than towards trans men by cis people but that is just so completely disconnected from the reality of how we're treated and how little accountability there is. Hypervisibility is not a privilege and all that. I feel like maybe this approach where we're all throwing each other under the bus to get a leg up is counterproductive.

Please, anon, show me where I've said that transmisogyny is "less of an issue". Show me where I've said that hypservisibility is a privilege. Show me where I've said that trans women are taking space from trans men.

No, really. I want links. If I have ever said any of these things, I legitimately want to know. I would love the opportunity to formally apologize for that.

The problem, of course, is that I haven't said any of that.

I have consistently said that the issue here is just that transmascs also face oppression, and that this oppression comes in the form of invisbility. Hypervisibility and invisibility are just two different ways to experience oppression, with their own complex issues and impacts, and my only stance on how "bad" they are is that both need much more attention, urgently.

The closest accusation to anything true here is that I have in fact said that in spaces that care about transphobia, transmisogyny is more recognized as transphobia than trandandrophobia is- which is, of course, a result of hypervisibility. This does not result in any form of privilege, and that recognition is generally performative regardless. I have said, over and over again, that transmisogyny is used as a bludgeon to silence trans people; the concern people pretend to have for it is generally performative and tokenized.

And I say this in the same way that I say invisibility appears to have "benefits" along the same lines: we are ostensibly less overtly and violently targeted, and this appears to be a positive aspect of invisibility. But it's not. We are still targeted, just in different ways, and invisibility means those ways go unacknowledged.

Likewise, the "benefit" of transmisogyny being more understood and recognized due to hypervisibility is not really a benefit either- it just means that transfems are dehumanized and tokenized in different ways within these circles, and their issues weaponized both against other trans people, and against transfems themselves should they step out of line (one good example being the transfem who was accused of transmisogyny by an AFAB nonbinary woman when she defended a trans man).

Anyways.

I don't know where you're getting these ideas about me from, but if you want to send some real links with direct, sourced quotes, I welcome it. My DMs are open, too. Talk to me like a real human being. You seem to understand that all of our issues are important and necessitate recognition, and if that means you legitimately care (or are open to caring) about transmasc issues as well, I'm more than happy to chat.

But bear in mind, if you just intend to throw around baseless accusations and "quote" things I have legitimately never said, I am going to block you.