#what kind of dynamic do they have?? do they get along and act super close??

[stabbystiletto]

I know it's a shitty wip lol 😅 but I just saw the trailer for season 2 and had to literally drop what i was doing to grab my tablet and start a new fanart lololol 🤣🤣🤣🤣

This one⬇️⬇️⬇️ is older lol but holy shit I just got the motivation to work on it again 😆😆😆

Also it's nowhere near done lol but I'm posting this anyway cause I like I said I just saw the trailer for season 2 and HOLY SHIT I was like "okay, okay, this is good, I dig it, murders in a religious school, very nice, angry Nica, I dig it" but then.

The pink car, I'm like okay Tiffany got herself a cute car, nice but then I read the license plate

YOU SEE THIS SHIT I WAS LIKE CAN IT BE AND THEN AND THEN AND THEN

GLEN AND GLENDA THEY REALLY DID IT THEY BROUGHT THEM BACK THEY BROUGHT THE TWINS BACK I WAS A LITTLE NERVOUS THAT THEY WOULD BRING THEM BACK AS JUST ONE PERSON BUT THEY KEPT THE TWINS AND THEY'RE NON BINARY BOTH THE TWINS ARE NONBINARY I CAN'T EVEN PROCESS THIS PROPERLY LOLOLOLOLOL 😆😆😆🥰🥰🥰🥰😍😍😍😍😆😆😆😆😃😃😃😃🤯🤯🤯🤯🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤

(yeeeeea, the tags are long as hell sorry lololol but i had a lot of feelings about this lolololol 😅😅😅😅😅 who knew tumblr had a limit on the number of tags lololol learn something new everyday lolololol 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣)

[alex-travaganza]

if doofenshmirtz was apart of the flynn fletcher family dynamic whether that’s a human perry au where they get married (obv my favorite cause i’m biased) or some other thing, the dynamics would be PEAK and you need to listen to me about doofenshmirtz and candace specifically right now

candace and doof r the same character in different fonts, and for this reason i think they would end up being super close. like one of candace’s main character struggles is feeling inferior to her younger brothers, doof grew up with the same problem of feeling inferior to his younger brother, if she were to ever bring that up to him or open up about it doof would immediately understand and feel horrible for her

and i think “oh that’s good that candace has support from him” but then i realized that because it’s doof, what he’d probably end up doing is starting to make inators to guarantee a bust for her brothers to make her happy, probably radicalize her into “REVENGE” and they’d totally enable each other. which is also fantastic and i’d wanna see it. especially since both candace and doof now have TWICE the mysterious force power acting against them they would never ever ever be able to prove anything to linda that shit would neverrr work could you imagine the endless potential for Comedic Shenanigans!!

it is a little sad imagining them both enabling each other and keeping up a cycle but tbh, i feel like they’d do so much better as people if they had someone to work together with. like they’d spend forever detailing long drawn out plans to bust phineas and ferb only to fail spectacularly but they had fun yk. The Real Bust Was The Friends We Made Along The Way. It doesn’t matter if we don’t succeed because we have Eachother kind of kids show moral yk. they’d be such a good family pls make it happen please please

[queenofthursday6599-blog]

I am sad that Back to the Rock decided to just give Mokey rod-hands full time

In the original puppet show, Mokey had two sets of hand that would be used depending on what was needed for a scene.

A set of rod-hands like the rest of the main Fraggle characters, and a set of live-hands (which are like a pair of gloves that a puppeteer wears to act as the character's hands).

Something easily facilitated by her large billowing robe. Though there's various Muppets who do a similar thing even with tight clothing such as Ernie.

Anyways the live-hands is how it was so easy to do scenes of Mokey doing stuff like painting, writing, throwing things, and other stuff in the original series.

If there's an object that either can't be easily attached to a rod-hand, or that needs to be immediately thrown, there's a pretty good chance Mokey is going to be the one to pick it up.

Such as the "hideous round thing" that she picks up and throws to distract Sprocket in episode 1 of the original series. It's too large and smooth to easily (and realistically) have a rod-handed puppet hold, but a live-handed puppet could pick it up and throw it quiet easily.

It could just be because rod-hands have advanced since the original series, and the hands now have greater pose ability than the kind in the 80s, so live-handed puppets have become redundant when not necessary.

Like Mokey doesn't play the piano or anything super intricate that requires extreme finger dexterity that couldn't just be added in post or something.

Though I do think Mokey's live-hands gave her an expressiveness and groundedness in her movements that the rod-handed puppets didn't have in the original series.

Live-hands are more fluid, dynamic and nimble compared to rod-hands just by default.

When she did something, like paint, or touch something, or even touch her friends, with her live-hands it was always more grounded and believable than when any of the characters with rod-hands did something similar.

Like when Mokey pulls out a poem and is holding it, she's literally holding it with real hands, but if Gobo pulls out a postcard from Uncle Matt that same episode it can look kind of funny, because it just doesn't look as realistic. Sometimes they didn't manage to get the fingers on his rod-hand to close all the way, so the letter is just awkwardly stuck to his hand.

Same with the other rod-hand Fraggles whenever they hold a piece of paper.

Human hand in a glove will always be more 'realistic' (believable) feeling in movement and action compared to a fake hand being controlled by a stick.

And I think that is something missing from the new version of Mokey.

Original Mokey was always an artistic dreamer who could sometimes feel like she had her head in the clouds, but also had these moments of being very grounded and insightful, and was very down to earth in general.

Mokey was the most physically affectionate of her friends in the original, and I feel like that was due to, at least in part, her being a live-hand puppet a lot of the time.

Like there are just scenes where she'll just be holding one of her friends hands while she guides them along, or she'll cradle their heads when she hugs them, and there's just an extra layer of depth that comes with it being done by live-hand puppetry.

There were actions that Mokey as a live-handed puppet could do that the rest of the main cast couldn't do due to her status as a live-handed puppet, and the old show took advantage of that, and I feel like that's where at least a bit of her characterization came from.

Because for a lot of those scenes weren't of Mokey doing something complicated that made live-hands neccessary, no, in a lot of them she's just talking with her friends and gesturing with her hands, or being physically affectionate, and what she's doing with her hands aren't even the focus of what's going on in the scene.

In the episode where Wembley is looking for his job, when Mokey is walking him up to the Gorg's garden to get radishes. She's holding hands with him as she leads him up there, but that's barely in frame at all.

To the point that their hands are bobbing in and out of frame as they walk, and it only lasts a few seconds.

The hand holding was completely unnecessary, it barely makes it into the scene at all, but it was still something the puppeteers decided to do, because Mokey holding her friends hand while leading them somewhere was a Mokey kind of thing to do.

And it's the tiny moments like that, that I think is missing from Mokey in Back to the Rock.

[ladynightlark]

Ask game!! Any demon slayer character, 20, 21 & 22!

Hi! Thank you for asking!

In honor of it being her birthday today, I’ll do Nezuko!

20. Which other character is the ideal best friend for this character, the amount of screentime they share doesn't matter?

Okay, I know this is going to sound SUPER obvious for those who’ve read my fic, but I 100% stand by the fact that Nezuko and Senjuro would totally be best friends if given the chance in canon. And if I’m being honest, Genya too.

I just love the potential of their interactions and friendship, especially given the many similarities they share (all three of them being the second oldest of their families, having protective older brothers, having “non-traditional” roles in the story/Corps, etc.). I feel like maybe after getting to know them a bit and being in a relaxing environment, all three of them would get along well (or at least have a lot to talk about).

Plus, I feel like the dynamics between them would feed into supporting each other. I don’t know, I just love the idea of them having fun and then it eventually escalating into chaos (because something about them makes me feel like they’ll either be in a quiet, productive study group/chilling in one of their bedrooms doing homework and listening to music kind of vibe or ready to rain absolute chaos and pandemonium once Nezuko and Kenya convince Senjuro to join their anarchy lol).

21. If you're a fic writer and have written for this character, what's your favorite thing to do when you're writing for this character? What's something you don't like?

I think if I had to pick one thing, it would be writing Nezuko trying to figure out the right way to interact with people. It’s fun getting to write through such a different character’s POV from canon Tanjiro, and the one thing that always seems to come up when I write her is her tendency to linger on the little details of the people she meets. I just see her as a very introspective person who, once she decides to get close to the person, wants to understand them better to be as supportive of them as she could be.

As for what I don’t like, I suppose as obvious as it may be, I would have to go with making sure I’m not writing Nezuko as another perfect copy of Tanjiro. I know that, given there are some similarities in how they were raised and their shared values in being kind/good, there are bound to be moments when they would ultimately react in a very similar fashion. However, it’s not all the time, and as easy as it would be to lean into giving Nezuko the same actions/decisions canon Tanjiro would, it wouldn’t do her character justice. So sometimes I have to go back and play around with a scene or two until it feels right and like the moment is a distinctively “Nezuko” moment.

22. If you're a fic reader, what's something you like in fics when it comes to this character? Something you don't like?

I LOVE when writers show Nezuko and Tanjiro having cute sibling moments. Even if it’s small, like them having an inside joke only they would know about or them being attuned to a change in their mood and acting in a way they typically would have when they were younger, that never fails to put a smile on my face.

Something I don’t like is when fics don’t really give Nezuko a lot of personality. I understand that, given Nezuko’s condition as a demon, she lost some of her old self and may have some trouble remembering the past or the people she’s met. However, I think sometimes fic writers forget that she does have her moments where her personality comes out, and she chooses to act on the instincts she had when she was human. I just like seeing her be more involved with fights and being connected with Tanjiro and the rest of the group (even if it’s not to the level it normally would have been).

Thank you, and have an awesome day!

[starkjoy]

Watching Greg be so good at swooping in and looking ridiculous to make tom look good this ep, and how their double act is Tom then shitting on him to make himself look better, I had a cool thought, what if that’s what we are seeing all the time. We have only seen Tom and Greg in public situations, where they obviously plan out their moves beforehand and aren’t afraid to look stupid to get what they want. We don’t know what’s going on behind closed doors with them right now, and with Tom being so handsy, it could be more than anyone around them realises… If you watch their walk up to the plane, Greg launches into a ladykiller act, but when Tom cuts him off he actually had just said ‘get some Norwegian wood’ while looking at Tom, idk about you but that’s a dick joke imo lol. Tom wouldn’t want anyone to catch onto how close he and Greg are if it means a lot, and their play may be for Greg to talk about girls/dance with girls/bring girls back to keep people off the scent. I would love if the audience finds out the same time as the sibs, or has to guess from little moments that don’t add up you know? Maybe we don’t get to see the whole story because that’s private? Idk it would be kind of a cool way to do it and feel true to life where people don’t necessarily broadcast their relationship in public and you just kind of realise one day, oh they’re totally together, and by then their like basically married. As a viewer I feel like that would actually be a really comfy and less intrusive way to see queer rep, your just like oh I’m glad they have each other, phew haha.

hmm, in theory i'd be happy with that, but i'm skeptical the writers are playing 4D chess in that way. if the episode one bridget randomfuck plotline never happened, i'd be a bit more open to the thought. when greg was chatting with tom in "private" at the event, he was crude about his pursuit of her and tried to impress him with the rummaging tale...why would he do that to someone he's sleeping with or in a relationship with? and he only told logan after tom fucked with him about it. unless they coordinated a whole homoerotic private performance in the hopes someone would overhear their horny whispers, i doubt that plot was fabricated to hide their affair.

i mean, they could be sleeping together and not exclusive, and greg did that to make tom jealous, or they get off on telling each other about their other conquests. but that feels so wildly out of character for tom given he never wanted an open relationship with shiv.

sadly, i think "they were fucking all along" will only live in fanon. the ONLY thing i think could work is a) they had a threesome during their disgusting brothers era, it was weird and changed their dynamic and they're avoiding it by being super bro no homo, even if they do long for each other or b) they fucked 1:1 with the same result. i could see that being revealed in a fight between them, explaining some of the tension or lack thereof we've seen so far. but still think that's pretty far-fetched at this rate :/

edit: i DO want to add that i fully agree tomgreg have been in cahoots and we haven't been privy to that—but i don't see that extending beyond their business scheming. not clear whether we'll see their inner machinations either. maybe it's all been left on the cutting room floor.

[ursafootprints]

What draws you to the starker pairing? I was browsing the tag the other day and encountered drama about others thinking it’s romanticizing a wholesome father/son relationship… I’ve never seen it that way but maybe it’s my fatherless eyes that skew it. LOL! I know pairings don’t have to be canon to be enjoyed so I’m curious what you like about starker and what made that switch flip for you.

Oooh, so many reasons! (To… the point that I'm putting up a read-more because it got very long, haha.)

Some of them only minimally have to do with Tony and Peter themselves-- I enjoy age-gap ships and mentor-mentee ships in general, so that was already a built-in appeal.

For age-gap ships, there's a special kind of Spicy that comes from "forbidden love" narratives where the "forbidden" part is actually warranted-- it's not just based on societal prejudices like forbidden love based around homophobia/racism/classism; there are some pretty legitimate reasons why major age gaps tend to be a bad idea! Characters being put in a situation where they've found someone that they love deeply, but acting on those feelings means potentially alienating their other loved ones over very real concerns (instead of just bigotry or w/e), but they want/love each other so much they can't resist going for it anyway even though they understand it's a bad idea? Delicious, feed it to me slowly like grapes.

For the mentor-mentee thing, I really love the process of relationships changing from one category into another category, where the boundaries of the relationship blur and shift and the characters have to grapple with what it feels like to suddenly redefine their view of the other person/their relationship/their interactions. I love this even for platonic relationships (any scene where a teacher/mentor realizes that they're actually on equal footing with their student/mentee, or even being surpassed by them, is chef's kiss) but especially for romantic ones! And obvs that pairs super well with the age-gap thing, since the shift from viewing the younger partner as "a kid I have to protect/keep an eye on/put up with/mentor/whatever" to "someone I could have an adult relationship with" goes right along with that and is the perfect set-up for my favorite ship seasoning: g u i l t.

(I also enjoy incest ships for all of these reasons, so the fact that Tony and Peter's relationship in canon can be read as a kinda-sorta parental surrogate thing is not actually a neutral factor for me, lmao.)

So Starker is partially just a perfect platform for themes that I'm already inherently attracted to, but then you add in the specifics of their actual dynamic/characters and mmmm.

Peter being a superhuman/superhero and what that does to their dynamic when Peter's already grown up too fast in so many ways? (And what the fact that Peter is actually at an utter physical advantage compared to Tony does to the Vibes, whether you're using it to balance out the emotional power imbalance in softer Starker or showcasing just how strong that emotional imbalance is when Tony doesn't need to actually be "stronger" than Peter to take advantage of him in dark Starker?)

The parallels in their experiences (orphans, superheroes) and personalities (sass, scientific genius, being huge fuckin' goofballs despite the scientific genius, guilt/responsibility complexes a mile wide)? The way that affects Tony, seeing this person so much like himself but without all of the parts that he uses to keep people from getting too close? The way it allows them to understand each other so deeply, and to have to go easier on themselves, when they can see their own habits reflected back at them in the person they love?

The fact that Tony literally canonically invented time travel to get Peter (and Peter specifically) back, and died to do it?!?!??!?!

Well, fuck! You've got the recipe for a ship that I'm still actively writing for over a year after first getting into it, I guess.

(Though this is also why I'm generally not into no-powers and other full-canon-replacement AUs for Starker-- every facet of their canon dynamic makes the ship even better for me, so mundane AUs or same-age AUs or outright villain/SIM Tony etc. etc. rub off some of the polish from what I like about them! I do genuinely love that Starker fandom has so many different flavors of Starker to sample, though, even if a lot of those flavors aren't ones that I'm gonna try.)

tl;dr: it's a good ship brent.

Thank you for the ask 💖💖💖

[lighthouseborn]

⭐️⭐️ i am super late to this but yes pls 🙏

There is no such thing as late when I am this distractable. Every ⭐️ exchanges for a headcanon about our characters' (potential or existing) dynamic.

Being subtle or secretive or even just not blurting out whatever's in mind didn't come naturally to Henry, but I do think he has that ability a little bit, because it would simply be very dangerous for him not to. And I think, as a learned skillset, a bunch of it came from Jack. Maybe even that Elizabeth asked Jack to teach it? the same way she found a someone to teach Henry how to protect himself in a style that suited him better than what she knew. In other words I think Henry has always been mischievous, but that Jack has taught him a lot about how to get away with being mischievous. Like, Henry's naturally attentive, but I think Jack helped him to understand all the things that he notices, the way people move and plan things; see the way the web forms and how to cross it without getting stuck. And Henry's always been good at finding -and making- openings and chances to act, so Jack taught him to pick from the crazy openings he envisions, instead of running right at the first one that takes shape (unless you need to run for the first thing that takes shape, which is also a valuable thing to know.) All in all just ... help temper him away from too-rash, and to play his cards a little less openly, even though he'll never be the same kind of plotter. Mostly this came in a sort of watch-me-and-try-to-keep-up style moments, Henry tagging along closely and maybe occasionally getting quizzed "so what do you think they'll do now?" style. Things to plant that "think about what other people know, think, and do" school of thought.

I think Henry also picked up (pun intended) the ability to oh so quietly pocket little items nobody is paying attention to from Jack, but it may have been less intentional and more of a monkey-see, monkey-do Jack wasn't anticipating. (And led to, maybe, a little phase of Henry getting a little too comfortable with doing it, and Jack having to hit him with a "if you become known for this in a loud and blatant way it'll never work again because they'll always expect you to have taken what went missing" styled conversation.)

[marshmallowprotection]

hi!! do you have any headcanons for seven after his route?? since the prime minister thing doesn’t really get solved i just don’t know how the relationship with saeran and mc would work out(since i, particularly, would be super paranoid 24/7 nonetheless 😭😭)

Your dynamic and friendship with SE Saeran is going to hinge on you. There’s never a clear and specific answer for this because nobody is going to act in the same way. I can say this for everyone, however. Saeran will not hurt you. He has no intention of hurting you or making you feel bad. He’s not going to go out of his way to make you scared or uncomfortable. It’s understandable that you might be afraid of him because of the apartment incident and the fact that you saw what... what happened to V.

If you're not comfortable with him, you don't have to interact with him. You don't have to have a relationship with him. Saeyoung isn’t going to force you to talk to Saeran. He understands that you have a specific fear and he's not going to ask you to do things that you aren't comfortable with. Just the same as the fact that he wouldn't ask his brother to do something that he wasn't comfortable with. If it's not going to make you feel comfortable, you don't have to do it.

Sure, there's no way that you can avoid him one hundred percent, but that doesn't mean that you have to be buddy buddy.

He's not going to hold it against you if you don't care for him. He understands entirely. He gets why someone like you wouldn't like him. If he was in your position, he's certain that he would go out of his way to avoid himself too. It's not like he's the most friendly person in the world. He has put you through things because he saw you as a tool to get revenge, and he regrets it now.

There's nothing he can do to change that fact and he understands it. So, if you show that you are afraid of him he's going to avoid you.

He's not going to bother being around you because he knows that you want nothing to do with him. It's easier for him because he doesn't really want a relationship with anybody. He doesn't want a friendship with the people that are close to his brother. It feels like they're pitying him because they care about his brother. He doesn't need friends that are with him because they're close to his brother. Also, he just doesn't want to be around the RFA.

I've said this before and I'll say it again, he doesn't want to be around the RFA because they remind him of things that he's done that he's not proud of and some of them can inadvertently be triggers. Jumin and Yoosung aren’t bad to him but when he looks at them... he sees Rika and V. He cannot handle that and he wants nothing to do with that. He refuses to touch the Rika subject and in my opinion, he gets night terrors about what happened with V.

He doesn't go out of his way to avoid them but he definitely doesn't interact with them by choice. He would prefer to simply not have to deal with that. So, if you don't want to interact with him, that makes it a lot easier for him to avoid these things. Again, it's nothing personal. It's not like he hates you or anything like that. He gets why you want nothing to do with him and he supposes it's better to keep it that way. 

If you want to be friends with him, you can make a friendship with him. It's definitely going to depend on what kind of person you are to see how that goes. He can get along with pretty much anybody as long as you respect his boundaries. He has the same attitude with everybody so he might be a little bit standoffish when it comes down to it.

He's very blunt and clear with what he says. He doesn't talk very much so anything that he has to say is dealt with in a couple of words. He's the kind of person that you can enjoy doing different things by yourself in the same room with. You can be reading and he could be watching TV. That's the kind of dynamic it would be.

Saeyoung, though... you asked about him. So, I should talk about how you and Saeyoung are! 

It isn't sunshine and daisies with him. What I mean is that all of these problems don't get magically fixed at the end of the day. He is still a complicated person with complex trauma that needs to be worked on. In my opinion, I feel as though he is able to falsify documents for him and Saeran to exist without worrying about the worst happening. They have pseudonyms that they go by and these names are what help them get through society. Jumin helps verify everything.

This means that they can more or less leave the house to get things that they need. That is to say, like therapy. 

The twins really need to go to therapy. They need to have a safe space to work on their problems as much as they need a safe space at home and a support system. So, he's going to be doing that at the same time as his brother. He's going to be working to unpack decades of trauma and you're going to be there to support him. It's going to be difficult at first, and that has to do with the fact that he has to learn how to take care of himself. He's taking care of everybody else and he doesn't think about what he needs all the time.

That's going to be a challenge. It's going to be a balance of allowing himself to be taken care of and allowing himself to take care of his needs. It’s as small as letting you coddle him or cuddle with him when he’s overwhelmed... he needs to let himself have the little things. He loves you, he adores you, he wants to put you high above everything else, but make sure that he takes care of himself, too.

You support each other. He helps you and you help him. You work together to make things right. It’s not always easy but you love each other enough to put in the work... sometimes that means he drags you away from studying or whatever you have to do after long hours... and sometimes that means you drag him away from the robot he’s building to guard something. Yeah, he still copes by doing that, sorry.

Since his father isn't taken care of, I don't know if people understand how deep the paranoia is going to be in the bunker. Saeyoung is the definition of paranoia. He is the kind of person that has made a billion contingency plans. He is prepared for a nuclear war if it happens. He knows what to do and he's prepared for it. He thinks about it quite a bit.

It's kind of unhealthy how much he thinks about it but at the same time, it's easy to understand why he thinks that way since his life has always been at risk. It's hard to tell him not to be paranoid because you understand why he is. This is definitely a balancing act because it makes sense why he has to put himself out there and be afraid, but sometimes he lets himself get so caught up in it that he doesn't even realize that he's not living properly.

There's no perfect answer to this situation. His father is eventually going to come around and there's no getting out of that. There's no telling how it's going to play out in this situation but I can say that it's going to happen eventually. That man is going to come looking for the boys. It's only a matter of time. It may not be as pretty or neatly taken care of as Saeran’s AE did. It's going to be a mess and his paranoia might just be the thing that makes everybody safe at the end of the day. So, it's important just to rein him in on a leash if he goes too far with his fears.

[yellowhollyhock]

Leo and Donnie

I recently got an ask about Leo and Raph and it was very fun to write about their dynamic. So I decided to do it with all of them. Here's Leo and Donnie

Part of why I headcanon 2003 Leo as a middle child is the way he and Donnie act with each other. These two are peers in a way that the other guys aren't. They both show more awareness and concern about the general familiy dynamics and their personal position than Raph or Mikey ever do. Donnie will fall in line because Leo is the leader and the best ninja (or at least takes ninjitsu the most seriously), but Leo also defers to Donnie's judgment when the problem is tech-related. This is fun to watch and probably something they appreciate about each other, but it's also heartbreaking that almost all of their close interactions are either all business, or when one of them is badly hurt or absent.

Like when Leo leaves for training, and in his return episode Donnie gets the intro narration, so we hear about how worried he's been, and as the episode starts it's clear he misses him a lot. Then they see each other, shake hands, and get right back to business. And yeah this might just be that they aren't huggers, they were raised by a literal rat, but Donnie is always putting a hand on someone's shoulder, he hugs Raph and Mikey when he sees them again after SAINW, we even see him go for a hug with Raph later in this exact episode. It just seems like these two don't express affection with each other the way they do with the other guys.

It's super interesting to me how competitive Donnie is with Leo. Leo is a competitive guy, it's a very positive thing for him. We see this a lot with Raph and in some of his most positive moments with Mikey and April. Donnie doesn't generally do that. When April comes along and also has tech skills he just rolls his chair aside to make room, coaches her when she needs it and encourages her as much as he can. The most competitive we ever see him is with Leo, like when he complains during training that Leo always makes the rest of them look bad. Which isn't exactly a "let's bring out the best in each other" kind of competitive spirit.

On a more positive note, they have so much confidence in each other. When Donnie's trying to figure out how to help their friends from deeper underground that he made a promise to, Leo says he's got one of those "no matter what it takes looks." They all see it, but Leo seems to understand it best. And Donnie's trust in Leo as a leader is so inherent in every interaction I don't even know how to talk about it. They also understand each other's total focus when they get into something. I can imagine them staying up late getting into debates about everything from 'is cereal a soup' to 'is enlightenment truly a detachment from the world or a well-balanced connection to it'.

Anyway basically I care them a lot, here are a couple of quick favorite moments from the show

Donnie (about a train): Can I keep it, Leo?

Leo: Uh... sure. If you can find a way to bring it home.

the little story Donnie tells while Leo's hurt about him saving Donnie's life when they were like six... but not saving the remote control car XD

[freshlybakedspiderbread]

Im here because ive had Reimu thoughts and been wanting to make a post about since a few days ago. By some psychic chance, that ship tierlist happened and gave me further excuse to brain on it.

(Speaking of, on twitter i had fun doing that ship tierlist purely for reimu ships and tweeted that. And then i did it for every pairing on the list but im hesitant to reveal what ships im eh on so if anyone cares to know they can just ask me personally...!)

Anyway, heres me writing out a lot (But Not All) possible reimu character dynamics, be it romantic, platonic, or something else, going roughly by game order or by 'factions' because this is just the kind of thing i think about on the regular

So first among sdm, i like reimu/sakuya, thats a ship ! There's a Lot of reimu pairings where its the grumpy/begruding reimu with another who is unflappable and shady (yukari The biggest example but i'll get to her) so sakuya is just one of many that fill that role. So while its a 'common' dynamic among reimu pairs, what makes this unique is what it offers for sakuya. She's an odd person, the most youkai-like among a group of youkai despite being the only human, and even now can throw them off guard with her quirks. And i think while the likes of patchouli and remilia have long since come to find that charming about sakuya, and the likes of marisa and youmu would be put off even if they otherwise like her, reimu would be the only one who like, doesnt care or think sakuya 'strange' at all. The shrine maiden treats humans and youkai equally after all, and she's hardly a 'normal' human herself, so she doesnt see anything sakuya does or the way she acts as 'strange' for humans. Just a pair of normal women n_n

Speaking of remilia, i dont ship but i do think she and reimu have a funny longstanding relationship as frenemies. Remilia was one of, if not The very first to start regularly visiting the shrine after causing a headache-inducing incident after all. And reimu best represents the wonderful parts that gensokyo has to offer remilia and her whole crew (Marisa too but the witch regularly visits the mansion anyway)

Also while its on my mind, i know there are a few out there who like reimu being a sort of surrogate sister to flandre. The only reason i dont really think much of that myself is because i already completely assign that role to marisa (and uh, i guess okina now too?!)

I'm kinda only mentioning Youmu now because i will be mentioning every other playable character and itd feel weird to exclude her, but its a pretty straightforward friendship in my mind. Both youmu and reimu are (usually, at least on surface) dutiful and semi-serious about thier jobs, and get along decently. I think youmu's always looking to improve herself and sees reimu in particular as a standard to surpass, despite being very aware of all the shine maiden's many faults. 🤔

Also i think it'd just be fun if reimu gets along fine with yuyuko and doesnt ever get irritated with her antics the same way she would with yukari.

Wait back up, i totally forgot to mention Marisa at the start of all this. Uuuuummm!!! Maybe controversial but reimari isnt a romantic ship that excites me much, if at all? 😅 i mean its fine! They've known each other forever! They see each other almost every other day! They're the best of friends who consult one another for almost anything! They're rivals and compete every incident! But its like... they're so close and solid and understanding that i feel it really limits the kind of interactions or stories you can do with them. No hate but 99% of reimari fanwork is like super basic stuff where they enjoy each others cozy company. Not saying its impossible to introduce spice or conflict into it, but it can be hard to not make it ooc, at least in my perspective. 😅😅 so i acknowledge it as a ship but im not looking to get on board or anything.

Fellow magician Alice is a fun pairing too for Reimu. Now mariali takes 'priority' to me, but i do also like reiali. Theres a lot of similar beats, like theyve known each other forever (even though Reimu forgot because shes bad with names and faces of those who dont regularly visit 😅), and alice also sees reimu (alongside her fellow magicians) as someone to challenge. the difference i think is that reimu's apathy towards any sort of 'rivalry' genuinely irritates Alice who already has insecurities about her abilities as a youkai magician. So kinda similar to reimari and even mariali, except alice is a little more... neurotic when it comes to reimu, maybe? Might need to cook this one in the brain a bit more but i do like it! (And then reimariali has plenty of potential just as ship in of itself but also for messy complicated and unrequited different feelings across all three of them... 🤔)so...

okay really quick regarding the yakumo crew as a whole. Reimu thinks Chen is cute enough, like a niece. And Ran... There's a lot i could imagine under the layers where Ran is on the surface a lot more straight-to-business about the barrier duties compared to Yukari, and Reimu can appreciate that straightforward approach and respects it. I dont think i have it in me right this moment to come up with more on the spot, but there's Something there if i ever dig deeper.... ⛏️❓️

and oh my god finally yukari. 👁 Classic ship for me... Now let me just get one thing out of the way, one common idea among fans is that yukari played an active part in reimu's upbrining and training as a shrine maiden, basically playing a mentor/guardian role since she was young. I'm not against this idea in a vacuum, but for reasons which I hope are obvious, i dont subscribe to that headcanon. Now instead of trying to summarise yukarei, how about i just spin a tale...

You're the great youkai sage, Yakumo Yukari, trying to maintain gensokyo for the sake of all youkai. You've got lots of youkai allies ( some of whom you are in love with and some of whom you are divorced with but lets not get into that right now...). You also 'work' with humans on occasion but being a youkai means you gotta make sure to be exceptionally mysterious around em and keep em guessing 😎

Other than the child of miare, the most important human is the hakurei shrine maiden, who maintains the barrier among other duties. You're always aware of generally how the shrine maiden is doing through hearing about it from others, but otherwise theres no reason to actually get involved or meet them personally. Would be weird if youkai were seen interacting with the shrine maiden after all!

One day you hear about the latest shrine maiden, named reimu, helping to put together some kind of 'spell card' system? You go along with the idea, signing it off with the other sages, though it sounds like a fanciful idea and you have doubts if it'll truly change anything in the longrun. The nature of humans and youkai is pretty set in stone after all, so you have to wonder about the shrine maiden's mindset behind such a thing? And later, apparently she solved an incident with these rules too? Maybe you'll wait like another decade or so before you'll find out more about this reimu yourself.

You dont need to wait though because soon after yuyuko's big incident calms down and you think theres nothing more to worry about. That shrine maiden (and two other humans) have crashed into your home, harassed your shikigami, and picking a fight with you just as you woke up from a nap. And then after a chaotic fight, she yells at you to do your job.

So all around, a really striking first impression is left on yukari, who comes to realise, maybe not right away all at once, but gradually, that reimu is not only special, but she can be trusted for any kind of trouble that befalls gensokyo.

Tangent but i wish i could have been there with others during uLiL's release when reimu's urban legend is the gap woman and i could have been like 👀. And that was nothing compared to later acof where the classic barrier team end up being the ones to resolve the incident. The strongest pair?!?! Reimu actually said that!!?!

Anyway this post is too long i'll have to get into Reimu and Literally The Entire Rest Of Gensokyo in other posts later... if i feel like it 🫠

[zackmartin]

@neshabeingchildish  anyway, about the parents... It just felt easier to make a whole new post than make our followers scroll forever (or make you scroll forever in your inbox), especially since we’re talking about parents now and the original conversation was about coffee 😅😅 (the post in question, in case anyone is curious about why the hell I’m randomly talking about all this for)

(Also, about me maybe misunderstanding your question, it’s not entirely you, my brain fog is so bad right now 😭 I read it right the first time, though. It just wasn’t until I reread it the other night that I realized it could maybe be interpreted differently and didn’t want to look like an idiot by giving you four paragraphs about how the dynamic between the parents is when you actually meant Zack himself and Henry’s parents. 😭😂)

Before I get into it, I do want to say something else real quick because I know you’ll let me; I always have Henry’s parents divorcing in the near future. I absolutely despised that shit they tried to pull with heavily implying that Siren was cheating on an unsuspecting Jake, so I always had them realizing that their kids are grown and they don’t need to use them as an “excuse” to stay together anymore, so they decide to just bite the bullet and go for the divorce. I don’t have an exact time frame for when this happens, but I know Henry was at least graduated from high school, and I would say Piper was AT LEAST a senior in high school, if not already graduated herself. 

But, anyway, the parents get along for the most part! Like, they’re all okay with Zack and Hen hosting the holidays at their place so the grandkids can see all their grandparents for Christmas, and things like that. But, I do think the moms get along just a smidge more because 1) they make a concentrated effort for the sake of their kids (and then eventually the grandkids) and 2) I can’t think of a single thing Jake and Kurt (Zack’s Dad) have in common lmao Like, the dads might ask each other about work or something, but once that short convo runs its course, there’s just awkward silence 😅😅 (and in the case of Zack’s mom, Carey, whether she means to or not, I think she kinda latches on to any potential female friends because she’s surrounded by boys a lot of the time) So, the moms will go to lunch with each other when they’re in the same city, and when Izzy comes along, they’ll plan girls days with her (and sometimes Piper, if Piper also happens to be in town at that time), they’ll send each other birthday cards, and I think if Siren happened to be in Boston for whatever reason, she’d plan a night to see one of Carey’s shows and have dinner with her or something, etc etc But, the dads basically just see each other when they “have” to lol 

Since I’m gonna talk about Zack’s relationship with Hen’s parents, I feel like I might as well talk about Hen’s relationship with Zack’s parents 😅🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️ I think Hen is a bit closer to Zack’s parents than Zack is to Henry’s parents. And it’s not like Zack hates Hen’s parents, or they hate him it’s just… I mean, it’s no secret that I despise the way adults act in Swellview, but it is what it is, and I don’t think it’s entirely unfair of me to say that Hen’s parents kind of “clocked out” when he was around, idk 17ish?? (and unfortunately it would be even easier to do that in this universe considering their kids live on a boat several months out of the year) Like, I don’t think they completely stopped being involved in Henry’s life but like, I don’t think they really learned about Zack until Henry was really serious about him and things like that 

So, Zack gets along with them, but it’s basically because “these are Henry’s parents and I want them to like me because I love Henry” but he isn’t close with them. It’s just, they’re basically “the in-laws” ya know? The people that act as a babysitter for their kids when they need it and who visit every once in a while but that’s about it (he was SUPER nervous when he first met them, though) (it’s funny that i keep saying that, because he’s the least nervous person on the planet. he’s chill like, 99% of the time, we just happen to talk about the three times in is entire life where he was nervous) (but adults in general tend not to like him, and normally he wouldn’t care, but with Henry’s parents it was different, so he was just kinda anxious meeting them for the first time)

Okay, sorry to keep going off on tangents that feel unrelated to your question (although, I promise this one sort of circles back into it) but unfortunately you’ve made the mistake of letting me in the past but 😅😅 I do think Carey would both know Zack isn’t straight and that Henry is something other than a friend to him before Zack ever figures those things out himself, either from little “hints” she gets from her weekly calls with Cody (where he just makes an offhand comment that Zack’s spending ALL his time with that new kid, Henry) or from her monthly calls with Zack himself where the conversations slowly start to revolve around  his new friend, Henry 🤣

So, it is not exactly breaking news to her when Zack eventually tells her that his relationship with Henry has kinda turned romantic lol and I say all that, to say that I think Carey would honestly like Henry before she ever even meets him because she can just tell how happy he makes Zack, and as crazy as it may sound, Hen’s a good influence on him (maybe not with the grades and school cause they’re both bad about that, but in other aspects of his life lmao) and ya know, once he gets past the whole “hating him” thing, he treats him well 🤣 so, there’s not really much more she could ask for when it comes to a partner for her son. Not only that, but even if it wasn’t obvious to her over the phone, she would see it when she actually saw them interacting together, because, even though Zack likes to pretend like he’s too “cool” for emotions (a persona that only exists in his own mind, btw) his feelings for Henry are written all over his face

(there is a conversation to be had about the fact that Carey’s personality in the original show was sort of “Mom first, person second” but like. Obviously her role was going to be Mom to Zack and Cody since they were twelve when the show first started and she’s literally their mother lmao but even in the case of London and Maddie, they would often turn to her for comfort or advice when they needed it, because she often acted as an older sister/motherly figure to them as well, so that was sort of the “energy” she gave off) So while Hen’s parents started pulling back when he’s at an age where he’s becoming independent and he’s about to start on his own life journey, I do think, at least subconsciously, he would notice that “absence” of a parental figure, so she eventually ends up filling that role whenever he’s comfortable enough around her. (she honestly is the type of mom that really wouldn't hesitate to take him in if he needed it; like if the roles were reversed, and it was Henry that ended up coming out to his parents by mentioning that he’s dating zack and they decided to be truly shitty and kick him out or whatever, she would make sure he had somewhere else to live because that’s just who she is) And I’ve honestly had it in my head that Henry started calling her Mom before he and Zack were ever engaged (but after they’ve been together for a few years and they’re living together, and it’s clear to basically everyone that this is a long haul thing lol) Like, it just slips out one day and he’s a little embarrassed by it and apologizing profusely but she thinks it’s sweet and she tells him he can call her that if he wants to. He doesn’t really jump into using it all the time right away, but over time it kinda happens more and more until that’s just,,, what he calls her.

And Henry gets along with Zack’s dad because Zack basically takes after his dad. Like, when he first met him, it just kinda clicked in his head that this is why Zack is the way that he is (not necessarily in a bad way). But like, in chapter 8 of DoD, there’s that scene where Jasper and Henry are going through Zack’s room, and Jasper finds all those CDs; it was always my HC that those CDs were given to him by his Dad because they share a similar taste, and there was an episode of the original show where his Dad gave him a vintage guitar (that I always assume belonged to Kurt first but idk for sure) and Zack was so excited and he knew the exact model, and I said this in Lizzie’s ask about her mechanic AU, but I always had an HC that Kurt gave Zack his old motorcycle as like, a christmas present one year when he was like, 19, that he was THRILLED about; so my long-winded point, is that they’re A LOT alike, so it just stands to reason (to me, anyway) that Henry gets along well with him.

Anyway, sorry for taking nine paragraphs to answer your very simple questions but 🤷🏻‍♀️

[cannibalisticskittles]

amity tries really really really hard to be both good and nice as much as possible. she prioritizes good, in situations that force her to choose between one or the others and she's willing to forego niceness entirely when dealing with someone that's causing a certain level of harm and jump straight towards problem-solving, IE, eliminating the threat. but she still tries to be nice whenever possible... even if niceness isn't exactly deserved. she will accept a lot of shit being thrown at her without complaint that she Really Should Not Let Slide.

and she doesn't have a lot of experience with friendship. with polite relationships, sure, but nothing close. she stumbled into her friendships with the other members of the order of the burning tent by accident; she did not anticipate that they would enjoy her company and value her and openly and frequently call her friend. which is what convinced her that she is Capable Of Making Friends. that she is Worthy Of Receiving that sort of love. she... didn't think that was really a possibility for her previously. so there are many aspects of interpersonal relationships that she's extremely inexperienced in.

and she wants to be on good terms with all of the companions; if she can be friends with them all, that's the dream. (amity would be friends with every person who ever lived and who ever will live if it was physically, temporally, and ethically possible.) but... even so... there's something different about astarion.

and to be clear, that thing is The Fact That He Is An Asshole.

he's selfish and shortsighted and petulant. he said shitty things to her and about her and he poked at one of her deepest insecurities in an intensely uncomfortable way and he tried to turn it back on her and make it her fault (and she still doesn't even know why he was MAD about it, why does he CARE).

so i think... she's going to test things out with astarion. friendship-wise. feeling out boundaries (and dynamics) that she either hadn't been in a position to use, or hadn't felt comfortable asserting. trying out saying no. saying "that's a shitty thing to say and you should apologize and never say that again." being nosy! doing things that make her feel like she's probably being annoying and then not apologizing for that or spiraling into panic about how to make up for it and not feel like a burden to him.

and if it makes things between them sour, well... look, she DOES want things between them to at least be cordial; if you're fighting alongside someone you're on bad terms with, you're out of sync, and that's dangerous for you, for them, and for everyone else you're traveling with. cordial is good, cordial is safe, cordial is wise. if they can be genuine friends on top of that, that sure is swell.

however.

he's already acted like a dickhead when she wasn't slacking on being Purposefully Polite to him. what's she going to do now; walk on eggshells and be Extra Specially Super Duper Polite to him just to keep him happy? he probably wouldn't even be happy, he'd probably still be just as petulant as ever.

and he's not nice. he doesn't seem to have even a semi-decent code of ethics. and he seems happy to continue on like that. amity doesn't wish him ill, but what are the odds they'll bond or get along well enough that either of them will want to spend time in the other's company when the business with their tadpoles is taken care of? so. if she's a little incautious and does something too rude that pisses him off and he doesn't want to be around her... no great loss? any camaraderie they forge now is likely to be temporary.

like, she really likes wyll. she thinks everything he's doing is great. the goals, the drive, the dramatic flair, the kindness towards children, all of that is wonderful. it would be an honor if she had the opportunity to continue to travel with him once they figure out what to do about their parasites -- two magical friends defending the sword coast together :) they had both care a lot about doing the right thing and helping people and this feels like a bond that can last, if forged correctly.

keyword: correctly. she knows that she is capable of making friends. she does not know what she happened to do right with the other members of the order that she failed at for so many years with everyone else. and she does not want to overstep with wyll. she does not want to make a mistake or come on too strong in a way that makes him find her annoying and not want to be around her. (wyll would never, but even though she's made progress on those insecurities, they still run deep.)

but astarion? ...eh. he's funny, when he's not being a huge bitch about something that she has a very personal interest in. or when he's not suggesting they let other people come to harm because he just doesn't want to do anything. but she suspects that even if she stays on his good side, he will probably only tolerate her at best in the long run. so, with him, she does not have this same sense of caution that she has with the others.

but it is also important to note that the extent to which she realizes that she's doing any of this is... pretty low. she is Not self-aware. it's likely just at a level of 'huh, wonder what he's alluding to. rude to ask, tho. ...wait, astarion is perpetually rude, can't i be rude to him? isn't that fair? what'll he do, be mad at me? he gets mad about some very silly things, that doesn't automatically mean it's wrong with me to ask. i'll try it.'

there's no conscious testing. astarion is just the biggest asshole she's been around for such a sustain period of time who she doesn't need or want to stab (mostly. you should be thanking her on her his knees for not turning him into a smoking crater back in the woods. truly, her restraint is saintlike). there's a certain fascination there. a desire to see why he is the way he is -- to study him and find that out. she would honestly be horrified if she realized that she was doing this. at least at first. she needs to get more comfortable with the idea of being a bitch sometimes, it would be good for her lmao

anyway, that's my thoughts on the pic. not sure how much this will come across in it, tbh, but i wanted to muse about it for a while

[noctechoro]

@peachiiihearts​ sent: 🎰 // romantic or platonic !

1. Jocelyn & Emil - Awwww wait this could actually be super adorable, they both love to invent things for one and for two Emil’s more eccentric personality would balance out Jocelyn’s more quiet and reserved self. I could easily see these two getting along be it as friends or more even. The only hurdle I figure is if they do get close enough is seeing how Emil would react to the fact that Jocelyn isn’t exactly human....oh and of course Emil dealing with Odell as well but that’s a given considering siblings and all~

2. Lal & Samir - Why do I get the feeling that Samir would be a horrible influence on an already very impulsive sunshine bean? But also the sunshine bean being a good influence on him in turn? I am here for this no matter which way the dynamic goes!

3. Jinan & Yuu - Hmmm, I’m not sure on exact dynamic for this one but I can say that I do think that these two would at the very least get along!

4. Elias & Ace - Oh geez, I could easily see these two getting on one another’s nerves constantly. Ace due to the way he is and Elias since he tends to have the ‘you wanna act that way with me I can act that way too then’ attitude. Meaning that this could honestly be so amusing to see what unfolds out of it.

5. Zavier & Jack - JOCK AND NERD, JOCK AND NERD, JOCK AN- In other words friends or more I am here for it and honestly I do think that they would get along!

Bonus!

6. Zuberi & Trey - I am....curious as to just how this could work but weirdly enough I’m here for it. It would take some time for any kind of proper relation dynamic to form there be no question there, but yeah. Mainly I think cause of the contrast of one having grown up with a full life while the other was forced to just survive every day.

Shuffle: Always Accepting!

[dapper-shipping-forever]

⭐⭐ :> Dapper ship content time!!

Doing two for the two stars 🌸

Maybe minor spoilers ahead?

Azul Ashengrotto

Hes just a funky lil dude. Fucking, just a little shit but like he tries to act like a hard, suave mafia boss kind of guy, but it's easy to get him flustered at little things and the whole facade just immediately erodes away. I have two s/i's that I ship with him, but both have similar enough dynamics.

One ship is with my s/i who's basically the Mc of the game and follows that plot with my spin on it. Their relationship after the main crew knocks some sense into Azul and his crew starts just with friendship. They're talking in the museum and like, she can tell he's kinda conflicted after what happened during his overblot (basically stress and overuse of magic made him go a little bat shit, that's an overblot), and she's just casually talking to him and reassuring him, and she knows he hasn't got a ton of genuine friends. His, like, entire thing is deals and contracts and his catchphrase is basically "do we have a deal?" and she just says to him like "your worth isn't related to the power you gather. It's alright to rely on other people when you feel alone. I'm not exactly used to this world yet, and I was scared and alone at first, but my friends have helped me and because of them this world is now a home to me. If you want, we could be friends. I think you've got a lot to admire about you, Azul, and I'd be glad to get to know you better, and maybe be someone who can help you too. In return, all you have to do is just be yourself, and not worry as much about how others see you. What do you say; do we have a deal?" and she held out her hand during that sentence, and their relationship started with a simple handshake. She became one of his first genuine friends in a long time. Their relationship is just supportive and it's both of their's first real romantic relationship and they learn together what it means to be a couple and they're super adorable.

My other s/i is a student from a dorm I created full of other ocs and they're the theater geeks. This relationship starts slowly, it's less explicit when they actually become friends, it's more just a compiling of days where she visits the Mostro Lounge and seeing each other in class and then more around campus, little interactions becoming real full conversations and they become close without noticing, they just did. Both relationships have a lot of pining and mutual crushing. Azul is just a soft man.

Leona Kingscholar

LEONA, my Boy I love him. Fuck I adore him. He's just had such a bad opinion of himself and has gotten used to hiding that behind layers of bad attitude and laziness. He is always the second pick, the one no one believes in or positively encourages to be better. Then along comes my s/i, who sees someone who's worth being believed in, who chooses to stick around him. Again, there's two s/i's who are shipped with him, but they're similar enough in the dynamic with Leona. She starts sticking by him, and he acts annoyed but it's obvious how he seeks out her company just as much as she seeks his. He starts to crave her warmth, her praise and attention, and she sees new sides of him, softer parts he had forgotten about, the caring side of him not many people see despite him trying to help people when he can in subtle ways. She encourages him to be his best self, and he listens. It's not blatantly obvious to everyone, but his grades start improving, he comes to more spelldrive practices and is actually often on time to them when he does come. The source of that effort can be seen when she praises his efforts, the first person to genuinely praise him for trying, and anybody looking closely can see the motivation light his eyes as he gets a small smile watching her. He loves her and it scares him because he's not sure if she's going to stay, because, despite her encouragement, few people do and he is afraid to get excited if he thinks she might. But she stays, she always stays. She's become incredibly important to him. He encourages her in turn to be strong, to have confidence and be her best. He protects her and cares about her; they love each other completely. They accept each other and they're fucking great together.

[mydissociativediaries]

10/10/2022: Family

Second entry for 10/10/2022.

My parents went to school with a man who's well known in our community. He has three kids that are around my age. He's super nice, humble and down-to-earth. Everyone loves him. I know his son and one of his daughters, and they're good people as well (his other daughter is shy and doesn't have social media.)

One of my friends is engaged to his son, so if that goes through, she'll have him as her father-in-law. I'm a little jealous of her. I've often wished he was my dad. I don't know what kind of father he is (he seems like he's a good one, but OK, I don't KNOW that.) Maybe he would've been just like my dad if he had me. I mean, my dad thought he was doing the right thing ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

But...I like to think that he would've been different. I don't think he has the same "tough guy" mentality that my dad does. He seems like such a gentle, loving person. I think that having him as a father-in-law or a father figure in general would heal some of the bullshit that I'm dealing with.

From my understanding, their shy daughter is a little like me in that her siblings are the loud, extroverted ones while she's timid and avoids people to the point that she doesn't even have Facebook. A lot of people don't even know that she exists, including me until someone mentioned her.

And they goodnaturedly joke about it. "Yeah, she's so shy and quiet that people don't even know she exists, haha! But it's OK. We love her just as she is."

With my parents and POS sister, it's more like "Yeah, she's so shy and miserable that she's a creepy weirdo that never talks to anyone, including us. Her sister's the normal one." I actually forget that there are families that don't act like that. What a concept.

I often think about her and my former teacher's autistic daughter, who turned eighteen this year. I wonder if her dynamic with her siblings is similar to mine with my POS sister. I'm sure it's nowhere near as toxic--from the little I've seen, they seem to get along OK, although I get the impression that none of those kids are particularly close (could be wrong, though.)

But her older sister and younger brother--her older sister in particular--are undeniably the "normal" ones. Her sister's an adult who went to college out of state. Meanwhile, [name]'s apparently skipping college--don't know if it's temporary or permanent--to focus on her "small business," as her mom puts it.

Her "small business" is going to the same craft fair every week and selling art that's...not good, to be honest. I'm not trying to be an asshole--it's just the truth. I get the impression that her customers are mostly her parents' friends and relatives, plus people who want to support the cute little blonde girl at the booth (not in a creepy sense.)

I mean, it's great that she can have fun and make money off her hobby, but is this going to be her entire life? Does she look at her happy, successful, and--I hate to say it, but it's true--"normal" sister and think about how different their lives are? She's never going to be like her. As much as her mother gushes about how she's an artist, she's a small business owner, she's successful, she's got so many customers, etc. etc., she's not going to make a living selling mediocre (sorry) crafts on the weekends and getting part-time summer jobs at Goodwill.

I realize that this is all projection on my part. I'm not her, and I have no idea what she actually thinks or what her family dynamic is like outside of social media.

Still...people know when they're not "normal." They know when they're not like the others. And in my case, my parents didn't even try to pretend otherwise.

Thanks for reading,

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[erwinsvow]

𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩𝐬 | 𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐚𝐜𝐤 𝐨𝐧 𝐭𝐢𝐭𝐚𝐧

author's note: sorry i just cannot stop writing headcanons! it's my favorite thing to write. i really hope everyone enjoys these, they include things from these two works of mine as well :) -shea

𝐣𝐞𝐚𝐧 𝐤𝐢𝐫𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐢𝐧

very much the involved boyfriend

once you guys finally start dating, he just immediately wants you guys to merge lives and share friends, even though that’s not a simple process

but it’s really because he cares about you so deeply he doesn’t want there to be a part of his life that you’re just not involved in

therefore; very involved

you guys manage your schedules together and plan out dinners and dates in advance

he mostly really likes having something to look forward too, like time with you

the kind of boyfriend that remembers little stuff you say here and there

like if you mention your mom’s birthday is coming up, he’ll ask later what you’re getting her and suggest some ideas. probably would send your mom flowers too to earn brownie points

or if you have a stressful week with exams and papers, he’ll stop by randomly with coffee and a snack and a hug

i honestly don’t see jean as the kind of boyfriend to start/carry on a fight, because he would hate knowing that you two are upset with each other. so i think any fights would be resolved pretty quickly

if one did happen to go over night or last a few days, he would definitely apologize first and bring you flowers, even if you were the one who started it

honestly though, with a guy like jean, what is there to fight about

overall, just a super caring boyfriend that makes the little stuff the memorable stuff

𝐚𝐫𝐦𝐢𝐧 𝐚𝐫𝐥𝐞𝐫𝐭

the! best! boyfriend! ever!

i see armin as the ideal caring boyfriend

he just really likes to have someone to take care of, and he is also really touched that someone trusts him enough to ensure their heart to him

so he takes every measure to make sure he’s being the best partner he can be

a lot of emotional sharing, and i feel like would happen pretty early on as well

only because he is so trustworthy and you know you can tell him everything on your mind, even stuff that you maybe haven’t told anyone else

this just makes your relationship progress even further. you two are the couple that has been dating for a month but knows they are going to be together for a long time

speaking of, you are the mom and the dad of the friend group, which is so adorable but calls for a lot of teasing from your friends

but armin knows he’s going to marry you one day, so he just laughs when eren cracks another joke about it

𝐫𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐫 𝐛𝐫𝐚𝐮𝐧

i’ll be real, this relationship is definitely not the easiest

reiner definitely loves you, don’t get me wrong, but a big part of him probably thinks he doesn’t deserve someone like you to care about him

which isn’t easy in a relationship because i feel like he would try and distance himself from getting too attached in the beginning

maybe he just thinks you’re going to see through him and realize you don’t want this anymore (which is not true at all, but just his intrusive thoughts)

i think you would try to reassure him about your feelings and how much you want this relationship, but then he feels like you shouldn’t have to reassure him, and that you shouldn’t be in the kind of relationship where you have to reassure the person. basically he thinks you deserve someone better, and you know that there is no one better for you

eventually i think this reaches a breaking point. through a lot of angst and honesty and tears, you two finally work it out

i think after clearing things up, things take a huge turn for the better

he definitely learns that there’s nothing wrong with being a relationship where you have to take care of each other, and he’s definitely thankful that you continued to stand by him

so sorry about this angst, but on the bright side, this man would be such a devoted boyfriend

his friends definitely make fun of him for looking at you like you hung the stars and moon in the sky

i also think all this angst would lead to you two being really open and vulnerable with each other, which is really important to him

also definitely a mama’s boy and can’t wait to introduce you to her

just like armin, he knows you’re gonna be his wife someday

𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐧 𝐲𝐞𝐚𝐠𝐞𝐫

even though i think it would take eren a long time to settle down and commit to a healthy, long-term relationship, once he does, he would be a great boyfriend

he is a really caring guy, and i feel like part of his hesitance is about opening up to someone if they’re just gonna leave

but i think he can tell early on that this would be different

i have a feeling his love language is quality time, and so you two are always planning little things together

he especially loves last-minute, impromptu dates that arise from a random thought

like he’ll grab two sandwiches and take you to the beach at sunset, even if you just got home or had something to get done

or knock on your door at midnight and take you to the nearest roof to stargaze together

i feel like eren is the boyfriend who becomes your closest friend over time

you guys go to each other first when you need to rant or talk or babble endlessly

it’s an interesting dynamic but it works well for you guys

the kind of bf that people assume he’s a single bachelor and will stay that way forever, or people don’t believe that he’s settled down, and then when they see you two together they’re shocked

𝐦𝐚𝐫𝐜𝐨 𝐛𝐨𝐭𝐭

you and marco have the most wholesome relationship

if i had to picture anyone whose relationship feels like the honeymoon phase even after a whole year, it is marco

he has a habit of making every small date, every meeting or interaction just feel so special, like every day is a special occasion

the kind of boyfriend who gets you a promise ring early on with every intention of replacing it with an engagement ring and wedding band one day

a big moment for him is introducing you to his friends! he knows they’ll love you, and he just wants you to meet the other most important people in his life

especially you and jean, this boy would be on cloud nine seeing you two get along so well. makes him super happy and teary-eyed

the responsible bf who takes care of everything for you, even little, everyday things so you don’t have to worry about it

like making sure there’s a cup of water on the nightstand when you go to bed, or setting an extra alarm to make sure you don’t oversleep, or reminding you about a deadline

overall just <3 boyfriend marco

𝐥𝐞𝐯𝐢 𝐚𝐜𝐤𝐞𝐫𝐦𝐚𝐧

the nonchalant, cool boyfriend who has to hide how sappy he actually is

pretends like he’s not nervous as all hell on your first date. acts like you leaning into him on the walk back home, or kissing his cheek at your doorstep before you say good night isn’t giving him heart palpitations.

also majorly touch-starved. after you two really open up to each other, which happens way sooner than he expected, it’s hard for him to keep his hands away from you.

he’s reserved in public, a simple arm around you waist or hands interlaced while you guys are out

but when you’re in the privacy of your home, it’s almost instinctual for him to pull you close

he loves when you lay your head on his chest, but nothing compares to when you let him lay his head on yours.

you stroke his hair and sit in silence, appreciating the quiet mumble of the television and the sound of each other breathing

always falls asleep like this, and he’s never been much of a nap guy, but ever since he met you, he’s reformed

not to mention your skin is always so warm and soft, and his is always on the colder side, so he’s just drawn to you

also i see him as the kind of guy who proposes out of nowhere, like you aren’t expecting it at all after a quiet dinner together at home, you’re getting up to grab dessert and he pulls out a ring

“how about dessert and naps for as long as we both shall live?”

𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐜𝐨 𝐠𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐚𝐫𝐝

once again, pock tries to put on a tough facade but we all know he’s just a softie on the inside

in fact, it’s a little while into your relationship that you notice him softening up with you, trying less hard to seem like someone else and getting more comfortable around you

you definitely don’t mention it, because you don’t want him to realize how you’ve been noticing it lately, but it definitely makes your chest feel warm and fuzzy at the thought of him being more himself

it’s not long at all before you can’t even see any semblance of that tough guy you met for the first time

the kind of whipped boyfriend that carries your bags when you go shopping, grabs your coffee order on the way to visit you, and likes to have quiet nights in more than going out

your favorite memories with him include watching rom-coms and munching on popcorn in his apartment, everyone else out and about on a saturday night

the leftover pizza is sitting on the counter, and you turn to go put it away when you notice pock teary-eyed at the movie!

yes, this boy cries at sappy romantic movies and you regret ever putting on the notebook that one night because you wanted to get laid after and that just did not happen because he was crying too much

but also just treats you so right and has every intention of being the best boyfriend he can, doesn’t ever want to do anything to hurt you and is highkey very glad he met you and has someone to be so open and comfortable with!

𝐛𝐞𝐫𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐥𝐝𝐭 𝐡𝐨𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫

can you spell boyfriend material.

the most comforting, wholesome boyfriend in the world. you actually can’t believe he’s single when you guys meet for the first time, because there’s just no way.

this is the take him home to meet your parents guy, introduce him to your friends right away guy because you know it’s serious

i talked about how bertholdt is the bf who just listens to your talks and rambles for as long as you need to, and always offers advice and sweet words, but he really does take it to the next level

lets you cry it out when you need to, rubbing your back and hair softly and not minding when his shirt is covered in tears

or alternatively lets you rant about your annoying professor or a terribly rude stranger or whatever else is plaguing your mind today

texts you every day asking how you’re doing, always calls you before bed if you guys aren’t together

he just has the ability to make you feel so heard and seen

and of course you never forget to take care of him, as well. it makes for a really comfortable dynamic.

very easy to imagine spending the rest of your life with him despite the fact that he has kicked you off the bed multiple times in his sleep

𝐞𝐫𝐰𝐢𝐧 𝐬𝐦𝐢𝐭𝐡

alternatively, husband material

takes all of five minutes into having a conversation with him to realize this is a responsible, mature guy

which are usually far and few between

i’d like to think he’s similar to marco in the way that he likes to make sure things are taken care for you, he likes to get things off of your shoulders even though you feel like you should be doing it for him instead

this translates to a lot of checking in phone calls, making sure you’ve eaten dinner and haven’t skipped meals because of your busy schedule

always makes time for you and especially loves having date nights every saturday, it’s wonderful when you haven’t been able to see him all week

anyways, you get engaged and married so fast bc you just had to snatch him up